A while ago I posed the question, "What Makes You Really Angry?" here on Bored Panda. To be honest, I braced myself for a deluge of personal grievances... What I received, however, was a rather good outlook on our modern society. To me, it became clear that our anger, varied as it is, intertwines to form a map of societal concerns that are often topics of great importance.
As I said before, I wasn't quite prepared for the overwhelming surge of responses that poured into the thread. I would love to thank everyone for their answers and opinions!
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Men thinking they have any right to decide what a woman can and can't do with her own body.
Bored Panda reached out to Leonardo M. Jones, an expert on emotional intelligence and the psychology of emotions, for insights on the misunderstood emotion of anger. Here's what he shared:
"Society often labels anger as a destructive emotion due to its potential outcomes—things like hostility, violence, and aggression. This perspective might come from various sources, such as cultural, religious, or societal norms. Yet, several researchers and psychologists argue that anger can be quite constructive."
People hurting children or animals!
And sadly, people look the other way… someday we’ll see the fire of hell that we are living in.
Cruelty to animals.
I don't understand people who get a dog and chain them outside to never let them off it or let them inside but also never go out and spend time with it. Why the heck did you even want one if they're to be tied/chained 24/7???
"Anger is a tool, really. When harnessed correctly, it offers vital insights that allow us to interact effectively with our environment. It's like a feedback system—alerting us to internal and external cues and guiding our reactions to them."
When people hate groups of people they have never actually tried speaking to.
Yes! I wish people would stop hating others just for their beliefs. It isn’t worth it; your judgement could mislead you. Even political opponents have sh*it in common.
Many things:
1. People torturing animals
2. People causing riots over something they don’t like.
3. People being abusive to others
4. Karens, Kyles, etc.
5. People who litter and think they are too good for rules
6. Bullies
7. People being hypocrites
8. The treatment of homeless people.
"At its core, anger serves as a shield. It equips us to fend off perceived threats. Those who recognize and express their anger judiciously often navigate their paths more effectively. Think of anger as a push towards our aspirations. Surprisingly, anger can cultivate hope. Recognizing what fuels our anger can spotlight areas of personal growth." He told Bored Panda.
Roe vs Wade being overturned!!
I just heard that Canada welcomes women from the US to come there when an abortion is needed. Free of charge. I don't know how true this is but I'm hopeful.
Bullying. Only those who have been bullied know the full extent of psychological damage it does.
I was bullied at my previous school, this year I changed schools and the people their are really nice to me but my old school still haunts me, so I can really relate to this. I told some of my classmates about it and they were really supportive about telling me how they ( the bullies) were super stupid and jealous of me. With bullying, you kinda have to go through it to really understand how bad it really is.
I’ve been bullied. It’s very difficult. People’s sympathy, I feel, won’t go towards someone if they just don’t understand. Sympathy is fine and all, but it’s little difficult to give. I’ve been through a lot of shiz. I hope you do better. I’m still fighting some of my demons in my head. Bullies are dopehead pieces of f*cking shiz, and they need a taste of their own medicine. Have you read the count of Monte cristo? It’sa story of cold revenge. I’ve read it and it makes me feel better. I’m sorry to hear about you being bullied; there are many bored pandas who can relate and agree: bullying is for f*cking shizheads.
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I was constantly bullied from first grade all the way through high school. The worst part is, when the bullying first started, the teachers witnessed it and did nothing. When I went home and told my dad, all I ever got from him was, "Why don't you quit being such a baby? Why don't you grow up and be a man? Fight your own battles." I was a kid and my dad already expected me to be an adult. By the time I was in third grade, I stopped telling my dad anything because it was obvious he was never going to help me.
Teachers and parents made it even worse for me. 1974 to 1981 were my dark bullying years. Glad I now have a wife as a social interaction proxy because I stopped social interactions with the fear of being bullied again.
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Me, too. *Big breath* meee, toooooo.. *sigh* I can't wait to get some awesome tattoos to cover myself with. Maybe then, people will stop asking "why?". There is no straight answer when it comes down to it, and reminding someone of it, essentially 'calling them out' for it, is just rude.
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My heart goes out to you !!! 4th grade, 8 years old. 1946, School playground in Omaha, NE, minding my own business when some other 4th graders were bullying a beautiful girl with long black hair. I am small person 5' 8 " and asked what is the problem ? " She's a Jew and does not belong here ". Adrenaline kicked in and so did the other 6 bullies. Got my licks in but they kicked my butt. I am Catholic and attend any church you will invite me to. She and I were good friends until we graduated from high school. When we parted ways, her to U of Nebraska and me to the USN 1959. One tiny little bitty kiss was our farewell. She became a doctor and I retired as a Naval Officer ( submarines, demolition diver, deep sea diving officer . Be yourself because you are one of a kind and that is God's intent for all of us. Peace be with you always. mr h
Went to about 8 schools. Each school, except in Pre-K, had groups of kids ganging up on me, trying to find my vulnerable aspects and just targeting because... I dunno. My appearance, my hair, my voice, my clothes, my name (which is a VERY common name), my interests, the way I drew, the gap in my teeth, my skin disorder, the bike I rode, and have few friends. Every good friend I happen to meet lived across the street but would go to a different school, or ended up moving a year later. I spent a lot of time on my own among kids, just listening, observing. Became a really good listener and vigilant. To this day, as I'm nearing 40, I'm wary of anyone's attention and hyper fixate on subtleties and micro-expressions, always second guessing intentions and I don't believe anyone at work is capable of being a friend.
i’ve been bullied many times, the worst of it being the past few years and the worst part about it was that i didn’t even realize. changing districts now and i’m so glad to never have to see those jerks again.
I was bullied when I was at school student. bullied for 12 years. My parents refused to make a transfer, given the good reputation & status of the school. I graduated almost 20 years ago. certain things still trigger me, statement is 100% true.
its awful. it made me want to leave school forever. please do not bully people.
I never realised until recently but I was constantly "bullied" by my so-called "friends" And they wonder why I never kept contact with any of them
I got bullied quite a lot when I was in high school. Since I was a shy and introverted person, it definitely didn't help in building self esteem. Of course, all bullies are jerks and they should not be tolerated anywhere. I eventually grew out of it but it took time. I believe in resilience, in what Nietzche said, that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
I was bullied all through school. I didn't know it was bullying, I just had to keep alert and out of people's way.
"Highly emotionally intelligent individuals harness anger's wisdom. Before diving into deeper emotional wounds, anger acts as a buffer. It's a surface emotion that hints at concealed facets of our persona. To genuinely liberate ourselves from its potential negative grip, it's pivotal to uncover and address its root causes."
People thinking you can "just don't feel that way" about mental illness. Like you can choose to not have depression. I don't see anyone out here telling diabetics to just make their own insulin.
Nothing makes me angry anymore. I can't do anything with anger. I'm over it. I'm just incredibly disappointed, saddened, disgusted, and ashamed of most people. I'm sick of it all. People are just sad saps. I refuse to let anyone dictate to me about how I should feel. So, having said that, I'm going to go outside and tiptoe through the tulips. When I come back in, I'm going to bake some cookies. I hope everyone has the nicest day possible.
Awesome my dearest friend, As Mr Rogers used to say " Won't You be My Friend "
"When approached with awareness and intent, anger can be transformative." Leonardo highlighted. "Beyond its guarding nature, it stirs proactive endeavors, catalyzes change, and promotes self-enhancement. It's all about harnessing it right."
People that feel the need to divide other people into groups just so they know who to hate.
I have no problem with vegans. Eat what you want. But if you make your pets agree with your beliefs, that's just messed up. Fido is meant to eat meat, and making him eat a head of lettuce for breakfast, lunch and dinner is not healthy.
The fact that half the population goes through a period every month, and it’s still ‘embarrassing’ or ‘inappropriate’ to talk about.
People who are inconsiderate, offensive, or intolerant.
They are EVERYWHERE!
Racists, bigots, and misogynists are three good examples to get the ball rolling. People who let their feral offspring run riot through restaurants, cafes, pubs, and supermarkets, whose only parenting 'skill' is to shout 'stop it!' at the top of their voices. People who think that their religion gives them the right to look down on others, zealots who shout at you or blow you up, churches and preachers that hoard money as if it's going out of fashion. People who demonize or criticize others because of their race, gender, or lifestyle choices.
In a nutshell, anyone who intentionally says or does something that hurts another person, whether physically, emotionally, or otherwise.
Tim says, 'Always consider how your actions or words will affect someone before you say, write, or do them.' Tim seems like a nice guy. Be like Tim.
(I don't know who Tim is, but he was polite, so I let him have his say.)
Came here to write exactly this. It's definitely got worse over the last couple of decades (well, since the 90s at least).
People who do not use turn signals. People who think stop signs and red lights are yield signs.
Littering.
I dont care how far from a bin you are, carry it till you reach one. It's not hard!
We don't have a cost of living crisis, we have a greed crisis driven by a need for companies to always show higher profits. Stop letting them get away with the lie and start taxing excess profit.
Also no person should earn more than 100 times the average pay of the rest of the staff. If they want to earn more pay everyone more.
Anyone that can harm or abandon any animal that is reliant on us for care, love or sustenance.
I love that this isn't limited to pets, but covers all animals in human care. I hate how that often is limited to pets, to cute animals or to rare animals, as if the single individual would know or care if they're meant to end up in a stomach, or how many of them exist. They don't care, neither should we, as there's no sound reason to.
Prejudices—whether religious, national, or political—encourage the worst in people.
Belittling older people. Thinking older people ruined your life, personally or societally. Failing to acknowledge the incredible challenges older people have faced and dealt with, even if they didn't succeed too well. Making older people the bucket for your grievances. Treating older people badly in service industries, especially humiliating them on social media, which should be Elder Abuse IMO since it is done knowing they don't know what is being villified against them.
Fruit and vegetables wrapped in plastic. We survived fine with them being sold loose upto the last few years. Now it's suddenly a health risk to not have everything covered in shrink wrap?
When someone tries to gaslight me and then acts like I’m the problem for not falling for it.
Canada still sanctioning the clubbing of baby seals. Don't you guys always brag about how progressive you are?
I'd love to complain about things but honestly, I'm not 100% educated in some of the things I want to vent about, and there's already so many depressing things pointed out in here.
So instead, I'm just going to remind everyone to stop scrolling for a few minutes, get a glass of water, and don't dwell too much on these things.
The world is an awful place, but one person isn't going to be able to fix it all overnight! Just remember to do your part, and try your best to (kindly) educate others; even though everyone here wants to change the world, and work together, we need to keep in mind that sometimes we need to focus on our mental health, too.
You're important, and amazing, and even if you don't have the time, resources, or energy to lead a protest or fight back every single moment, even the little things like picking up trash and being kind to strangers can stack up and make a huge difference!
When someone scolds you for something and then goes and does the exact same thing they told you not to do.
War, racism, bullying, hate, people who are homophobic, hurting animals, men thinking they are better than women...
And women thinking they are better than men… I know I might get downvoted for this but we shouldn’t create a culture where all men are immediately assumed to be misogynistic
Inflation.
Especially, like has happened in the USA recently, when the inflation is driven in very large part, by GREED. Pil companies posting record earnings. Banks posting record earnings, etc. Amazon posting record earnings. Inflation is being pushed by companies for whom it is not enough to post good profits enough to keep your investors happy, but instead keep raising prices (and thus inflation) that results in record earnings. Because the type of unfettered capitalism practice in the US is based ENTIRELY on greed with no consideration for anyone else who lives on the earth. Because GREED.
Having to repeat myself. It infuriates me.
When the ziplock feature on resealable plastic bags stops working.
Queue barging.
As a Brit, I was at the airport, trying to pay for some stuff, and joined what I thought was the end of the queue. I woman tapped me on the shoulder and said something along the lines of the crazy queue up the middle of the shop. I raised my eyebrows and shrugged. It was chaos and I was feeling very discombobulated (wow I can't believe I got that into a sentence!). She tried again and said I had joined in the middle of the queue. I was mortified. 50 years of social conditioning. Don't queue jump folks, this is the 11th commandment.
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This is more of a pet peeve but still gets me mad. WHEN SOMEONE CHEWS WITH THERE MOUTH OPEN.
The mistreatment of furries. People automatically assume that the community has a bunch of people doing bad stuff to animals. That's not true because some of us are really nice and want to make people feel better about themselves.
Yes! And assuming furries are zoophiles. Sure, there might be some bad furries, but guess what? Every religion, country, club, anything like that, has some bad people in it. Doesn't mean there all bad
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What really gets me mad is the people of one minority, going against the community and actively harming it, like when they come for us, who will they come for after? You. You're not doing any favors by being on the hateful side. (LGB without the T, I'm looking at you.
I missed adding to this. Mine is: Rich and powerful people (Politicians mainly) not being held accountable for lying, cheating, fraud and misrepresenting themselves (plus heaps of others things, but these will do for starters).
When I go to the "Show More" tab at the bottom of the BP post I'm reading and it refuses to load more. It seems to happen with posts I'm most interested in reading.
Having to listen to other people's music when driving or at the beach. I hate it when someone pulls up beside me with their music blaring or when I'm trying to relax and listen to the waves at the beach and they are blaring their music.
Or when in a public place and people are using their speaker to have their conversation.
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Other things that get me really upset, while attending music concerts: People who can't shut up and stop talking when the performers are on stage. Before, during intermission or after, no probem. But when the band is onstage, SHUT UP!!! Annoying fans who shout song titles, over an over, to the artists, in the hope that they will play them. Is that the only reason why you came to see the band? Just to hear that one song? And what if they don't feel playing it? I can recall Radiohead touring in 1997, after the success of OK Computer. After each song, the crowd kept shouting: «Creep! Creep!» but they didn't feel like playing it, at the time, and they didn't. After a few encores, the crowd kept asking: «Creep! Creep!» Untill an angry Thom Yorke came back on stage to yell at the mike: «F**k you! We're not gonna play it!» and walked off.
Careless drivers who cause injury and death
Wether driving too fast or under the influence of alcool, irresponsible drivers can cause huge damage among families and communities. News are full of tragic accidents that were caused by people who had too much to drink or were way over the speed limit. Driving a motor vehicle involves responsibility and sustained attention, if you find yourself unable to respect those, take a taxi. 64909495_2...c9a050.jpg 
Not at all in the same league as the other comments, but why does cereal still come in that stupid, non resealable bag inside the box? We can get a rover to Mars, but breakfast still has to be a complete PITA. I think it's time to stop reading BP and go to bed now as I'm ranting about cereal... Goodnight Pandas!
Reminder: most anti-abortionists probably do actually think it's murder. Not evil, just wrong
There are many people who need a person to hate. If that person goes away they will choose someone else to hate, and so on. There are at least three separate ways to defuse your own hatred, learn these ways and use them.
Hysterical much? I don't think anyone is proposing hysterectomies. But yes, I agree that the father should be responsible for his procreation and also have a say in whether baby is aborted.
when a man SA a child the news headlines rightly say so and so SA a child but when its a woman the headline usually says so and so sleeps with pupil like they had a affair rather assaulted a child and the people that will inevitably comment on this post to try and explain that one is more serious than the other
This is more of a pet peeve but still gets me mad. WHEN SOMEONE CHEWS WITH THERE MOUTH OPEN.
The mistreatment of furries. People automatically assume that the community has a bunch of people doing bad stuff to animals. That's not true because some of us are really nice and want to make people feel better about themselves.
Yes! And assuming furries are zoophiles. Sure, there might be some bad furries, but guess what? Every religion, country, club, anything like that, has some bad people in it. Doesn't mean there all bad
Load More Replies... What really gets me mad is the people of one minority, going against the community and actively harming it, like when they come for us, who will they come for after? You. You're not doing any favors by being on the hateful side. (LGB without the T, I'm looking at you.
I missed adding to this. Mine is: Rich and powerful people (Politicians mainly) not being held accountable for lying, cheating, fraud and misrepresenting themselves (plus heaps of others things, but these will do for starters).
When I go to the "Show More" tab at the bottom of the BP post I'm reading and it refuses to load more. It seems to happen with posts I'm most interested in reading.
Having to listen to other people's music when driving or at the beach. I hate it when someone pulls up beside me with their music blaring or when I'm trying to relax and listen to the waves at the beach and they are blaring their music.
Or when in a public place and people are using their speaker to have their conversation.
Load More Replies... Other things that get me really upset, while attending music concerts: People who can't shut up and stop talking when the performers are on stage. Before, during intermission or after, no probem. But when the band is onstage, SHUT UP!!! Annoying fans who shout song titles, over an over, to the artists, in the hope that they will play them. Is that the only reason why you came to see the band? Just to hear that one song? And what if they don't feel playing it? I can recall Radiohead touring in 1997, after the success of OK Computer. After each song, the crowd kept shouting: «Creep! Creep!» but they didn't feel like playing it, at the time, and they didn't. After a few encores, the crowd kept asking: «Creep! Creep!» Untill an angry Thom Yorke came back on stage to yell at the mike: «F**k you! We're not gonna play it!» and walked off.
Careless drivers who cause injury and death
Wether driving too fast or under the influence of alcool, irresponsible drivers can cause huge damage among families and communities. News are full of tragic accidents that were caused by people who had too much to drink or were way over the speed limit. Driving a motor vehicle involves responsibility and sustained attention, if you find yourself unable to respect those, take a taxi. 64909495_2...c9a050.jpg
Not at all in the same league as the other comments, but why does cereal still come in that stupid, non resealable bag inside the box? We can get a rover to Mars, but breakfast still has to be a complete PITA. I think it's time to stop reading BP and go to bed now as I'm ranting about cereal... Goodnight Pandas!
Reminder: most anti-abortionists probably do actually think it's murder. Not evil, just wrong
There are many people who need a person to hate. If that person goes away they will choose someone else to hate, and so on. There are at least three separate ways to defuse your own hatred, learn these ways and use them.
Hysterical much? I don't think anyone is proposing hysterectomies. But yes, I agree that the father should be responsible for his procreation and also have a say in whether baby is aborted.
when a man SA a child the news headlines rightly say so and so SA a child but when its a woman the headline usually says so and so sleeps with pupil like they had a affair rather assaulted a child and the people that will inevitably comment on this post to try and explain that one is more serious than the other
