Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

Monday
Community Member
1 month ago

MIL clearly doesn't like the bride....

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Cori
Community Member
1 month ago

I found out I was pregnant right before my brother's wedding, but I didn't want to tell anyone and take away from their day. So I spent the entire reception inventing reasons for not drinking champagne.

A Random Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

You are a good person.

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Dippin Dot
Community Member
1 month ago

I moved my wedding date up a week because my aunt had originally said (very seriously) that my wedding could double as her birthday party. She still used my wedding as her family Christmas Card photo shoot, and followed us to the brewery where we had our photos taken. For her to make the day about her was just on-par as to why I never liked her (she did this at my HS graduation party 5 years earlier too).

NMN
Community Member
1 month ago

crazy person! @-@

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Binxyminxem
Community Member
1 month ago

I'd have thought that the day would be special for her because her son was getting married?!? Some people are so selfish.

Rita Shapiro
Community Member
1 month ago

A friend's mom did the exact same thing, only not BEFORE her daughter's wedding, but AT THE SAME TIME. Minister would recite crap and turn from one couple to another for a response. So afterwards, when she STOOD IN THE RECEPTION LINE FIRST, I asked her how long it took for her previous vows to expire, and how long she expected this "do over" to last. Her look of outrage made me smile.

Molly Shields
Community Member
1 month ago

Nice one

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Paula Swanson
Community Member
1 month ago

At that point you say screw that...ELOPE! Take all the money you would spend on a wedding and elope...use that money to start your new life together.

Analyn Lahr
Community Member
1 month ago

And the father in law agreed?

deanna woods
Community Member
1 month ago

I can't stand it when people want the attention on them on someone else's special day.

WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
1 month ago

So you cancel your wedding and refuse to attend the "renewal of vows". That's what I would have done if I was the groom and my mother would have tried this.

KT
Community Member
1 month ago

what a bitch. So her son getting married just wasn't special enough?

Mama Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

My lovely sister and her bf at the time went to my cousin's wedding. They had the audacity to get married the same day, a couple of hours prior to the event and then talk about it to anyone who would listen at my cousin's reception. They even had the DJ make a special toast to them and asked for gifts from the guests because it would have been the same crowd if they had done a normal separate wedding.

deanna woods
Community Member
1 month ago

That is terrible what your sister did.

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Marcellus the Third
Community Member
1 month ago

Wait it's his mother? Then his parents can pay for it all.

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

Good thinking.

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Inquiring Mind Wants To Know
Community Member
1 month ago

If your fiancé doesn’t tell his mother no, don’t marry him.

MCathenaE
Community Member
1 month ago

and I'd uninvited her.

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
1 month ago

Jeez - I'd grab my groom and head to Vegas, just to virtual slap MIL

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
1 month ago

I dont understand the need for people to be SO cheap and tacky they are PRE-USING THEIR WEDDING VENUE so they dont hafta pay for one!! THATS WHY!! #HumanTrash

Sent From The Slytherin House
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

w.o.w. is mom upside down. in other words, that mom is upside down

Faith Hurst-Bilinski
Community Member
1 month ago

I hear this all of the time. My son and my daughter are both engaged. I do not want to be the focus at either of their weddings. I didn't want to be the focus at my own.

Blackheart
Community Member
1 month ago

My friend's sister asked the bride to move the date to a date more convenient for the sister. The bride accommodated. The happy couple is happily divorced now.

Kat Hoth
Community Member
1 month ago

She should be ashamed of herself!

Bette Noire
Community Member
3 weeks ago

And the MIL is not going to be any better once they're married. She sounds *exactly* like mine. Mine didn't want me to take my baby ( her grandchild ) to any family occasions because then ( and I swear she said this ) nobody would pay any attention to her! My FIL had to sneak over my house to see his grand-daughter because she was "jealous of her". I've been married 37 years now and trust me, I know from experience, she's never going to change. My advice: move far, far, far away and never expect her to be anything but needy, competitive and a legitimate threat to your marriage.

K Miller
Community Member
1 month ago

Somewhat unrelated but this reminds me of the time a friend of mine had a baby, and a so called friend of hers on Facebook decided to announce it on my friends wall before they did the official announcement. They hadn't even told most of their family yet. And when my friend deleted it from her wall, this other person re-posted it ffs. The nerve of some people.

Sonika Schroeder
Community Member
1 month ago

Holy F!!! Get out of that family, PRONTO!!!

Anna roberts
Community Member
1 month ago

Narcissistic personality disorder

Flavia Slag
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh boy that's going to be a fun marriage with all three of them living happy-ever-after.

Lyone Fein
Community Member
1 month ago

It isn't special that her son is getting married.

elfin
Community Member
1 month ago

Tacky, but probably best to just go along and not make this ego trip more memorable than it is.

Michael Dworkin-Robertson
Community Member
1 month ago

at least she didn't insist on doing it AT TH SAME TIME as you

Wanna-be Vegetarian
Community Member
1 month ago

That is a whole different level of crazy.

NWB
Community Member
1 month ago

ugh no!!!!

Dorothy Cloud
Community Member
20 hours ago

I would really think twice about marrying into that family. OR move far away!

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

She's not going on the honeymoon trip is she?

Steve
Community Member
1 month ago

Easily fixed with an un-invite to your wedding

Jessica Jeffery
Community Member
1 month ago

Man, I'm glad I don't have any in-laws

Pippa Runs
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh man, I hope they live as far from her as possible.

Lynn Greene
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, laugh. Borrow her decorations.

Jo Ellen Washburn
Community Member
1 month ago

I think that was my previous mother-in-law. Good luck!

Michelle C
Community Member
1 month ago

WTF?!!

Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

My parents almost did this... luckily theyre not that horrible

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
Community Member
1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
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1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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