We aren't trees. We're allowed to move. And many people do... Some much further than others.
A travel blogger thought she had it all figured out when she decided to move across the world to Germany. For some reason, the American thought it would be a piece of kuchen. But boy, was she wrong!
In a series of entertaining and eye-opening videos, Helene Sula has spoken of the massive culture shocks she's faced since arriving in Europe. The "Helene in Between" blog founder touched down in Heidelberg, Germany with just two suitcases, her husband and their two dogs. But she had to jump through rigid hoops to get there. Here's what she wants us all to know about the German way of life and thinking...
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Very much the same in France. It's delightful, and their independence soars, which is why I guess some helicopter parents don't like it. When I am at cafés and marchés and such I notice that everyone keeps an eye out for any children in the area to make sure they don't wander off too far, etc. "It takes a village" - and you don't see French parents screaming at strangers who correct their children if they need it.
Use to be like that in the US not all that long ago.
Load More Replies...There's a Japanese show that follows *toddlers* running errands, including crossing roads and sometimes taking public transport. It's amazing what kids can do when you don't treat them like babies...
Only until they run into my grandma and get traumatized
Load More Replies...Rubbish. It's no less safe now then it has ever been, the difference is rolling 24 hour news. Decades ago you didn't know about every little incident that might have happened; now it's all over the internet and social media. The moors murders were in the 1960s, don't forget.
Load More Replies...Helene Sula started her travel blog, Helene in Between, in 2011. At the time, she wasn't sure if it would bring in any money. But after experimenting, and a few hits and misses, Sula finally found a way to monetize the blog. This allowed her the freedom to live out her dream of moving abroad.
The Dallas-born American had previously spent time traveling Europe with her husband, and she wanted to see more of the continent. The couple felt the best way to do this was to relocate to Europe. In 2016, just five years after she started her blog, Sula and her husband moved to Heidelberg, Germany - a city and country they'd never set foot in before.
I'm an expat living in Germany. You can in fact vacuum on Sundays! However, it's basic common courtesy to keep noise to a minimum: no one plays loud music, does landscaping and renovations etc. More than likely neighbours will come knocking at your door to complain.
While most things being closed on Sunday was odd for this tourist, I think it's very civilized. I'm not religious, but everyone taking a specific day off and detaching from the grind is great for the psyche and personal perspective. Ezra Klein's podcast episode "Sabbath and the Art of Rest" had a great discussion on the topic. The cynic in me thinks there are those in our society (American) that really don't want people to gain this perspective.
Load More Replies...Same sunday law applies in Belgium, but noone cares about vacuuming or whatever you do inside of your home. It's all about what can be heard outside, like lawnmowing, clipping hedges, powerwashing your car...
You can... you just should keep the noice down (windows closed for example)...and it depends a lot on your neighbourhood. I always do it on sundays
Similar in France, can't take out the mower on Sundays or public holidays.
Not in Finland though. Also we have 24h buf stores.
Load More Replies...Arrived when? If it's anything like France quite a few are upon until about noon.
Used to be like this where I lived in US as a kid. "Blue laws" based off religious assumptions. It's all BS, no good reason for stuff to be arbitrarily closed one day of the week. I also have an issue with "banker's" hours. If you service the general public, but open when they are generally available. That's all.
That quite a rough assumption (IMO). What is wrong for most people having a day off every week? I know, we have all the essentials workers, like hospital staff, firemen, police, energy and chemical plant workers and restaurant staff who obviously have to work on a Sunday... but what's wrong to take a one-day break every week. Nobody needs to shop on a Sunday once you've adjusted to the principle. Even more, not treating every day of the week the same (while many people still hold the concept of the weekend/Sunday as time to relax from work) undermine, IMO, workers' rights!
Load More Replies...More and more stores open on sundays in Belgium. in a 10 min. car ride radius I know at least 7 that are open at least till noon on sunday
It's been about 50 years since the Blue Laws changed in my state in the US. Much of the laws had to do with closing on Sundays, closing before a certain hour, etc. Now it's 7 days a week of businesses being open. The remnant of those laws is that alcohol cannot be purchased from 2am to 6am, even in bars. And there are no closed signs on major holidays for a lot of things, including restaurants and movie theaters. Used to be kind of boring on days everything is closed, but you learn to amuse yourself.
Here in the crony capitalist society of the USA, this would hamper profits-
Sula says many people had told her things about Germany before she moved there but not all of it was true. For one, the travel blogger was led to believe that German food was bad. “It's just potatoes and Sauerkraut,” is how they described it. Sula says while Germany does have that on the traditional menu, it's definitely not the only dish on offer.
"Germany food is divine. Some of the best meals I've ever had," she once wrote. "When we go out to eat we try to eat at the traditional German restaurants. Every single time I've had phenomenal food."
I mostly stopped doing that, but sometimes I have to because a customers accent is so thick that I do not understand them. I always explain the problem (I have problems understanding accents and dialects for some reason) and most often than not, they understand. We each want something from the other and communication is key. I understand its frustrating though if you wanna learn and speak the language.
OTOH... We were browsing a little boutique in Universitat (Munich) and I asked a question in my atrocious pidgen German. The owner answered in English and confessed that if I hadn't made some attempt to speak in German that he would have pretended not to speak English 🤣 We ended up chatting for 20 minutes and he gave us a lot of great tips for our visit.
Load More Replies...English comes from German, and Viking Norse, and French, but is mostly Germaniv
You walk into a German bakery and you want one roll? Honey, those bakeries are solid gold for pastries. I never had time or even knew they sold rolls. The pastries, the pastries, never looked at anything else.
You're missing out if you never tried the rolls in a German bakery! When I lived there it become a Saturday ritual to head to the bakery and ask for '20 bröchen, bitte' (who buys just one??) , and then we'd (me and husband) eat *all* of them with cheese.
Load More Replies...Quite a few Frenchies understand English, but they don't speak it either because they're too shy or too militant. My mother and I used to talk to each other like a comedy double act and you could often see the checkout girl trying to keep a straight face - so you know she was following the conversation. It's a shame about the shy ones, as English with a French accent is *CUTE*!
Youre young enough that you dont know that in the late 90s the French passed a law to preserve French, and reject Anglo-American verbal hegemony
Load More Replies...Only a few motorways are still unlimited. We had one in Australia until a few years back, too. Not a freeway, though!
Could do either the noise restrictions on cars etc in our uk villages ,pfft ,PLEASE 👍
There's a stretch of interstate freeway in Montana I think, the regular speed limit during daylight hours and weather is clear, is 80 mph. But this is on a long, flat road. And you still gotta drive watching out for others.
It's only 130km/h, like limits in many European countries (some have even 140 km/h).
Load More Replies...Much easier to see one price on an item and not have to work out how much extra you'll have to add on for tax.
Load More Replies...Nothing about this is correct. In Austria (very similar) people obviously smile. They aren't pointlessly effusive, though.
and we're not confused if someone else is smiling or ask them about it. It's just not a forced smile all the time even if I'm not feeling like smiling. (German here)
Load More Replies...I have a theory. The American smile, has evolved so people don't read any sort of aggression and start with their right to arms. The lovely manners in Texas is an extension of that.
Loud and smiling all the time? Must be drunk, deranged or American. I recall reading an account of Americans sitting in a train compartment with a local (was either German or Dutch, don't recall). Another American couple comes in and all the Americans started doing what Americans do - talking about where they're from, "do you know so and so?," family, what they do for fun and work, sports, exchanging contact info, etc.) After one group disembarked, the local admitted to being kind of envious of the dynamics and quick bonding.
Sula adds that the best potatoes she's ever had in her life have been in Germany. This includes fries, potato salad, mashed potatoes, and any dish containing a potato.
"Some typical German dishes are Bratkartoffeln which is fried potato slices, usually with dried bacon," explains Sula. "Currywurst is sliced sausage, heavily seasoned, with fries. They serve a lot of hearty meals with meat and potatoes and a salad SWIMMING in dressing. That is one thing that I find hilarious, the salads have half a bottle of dressing."
Lidl's comes to mind. I just shove it all into the cart and bag it at the car.
You’re supposed to shove it back in the trolley or basket, get out the way, and then bag up at the shelf under the window at the front of the shop.
Load More Replies...You should've seen Aldi cashiers before the scanner checkouts. They knew all prices by heart and they were typing them in in top speed.
I remember that. They could touch-type, too, so they didn't need to look at the keyboard while moving the articles past with the other hand. I never caught any of them making a mistake, and it was so quick.
Load More Replies...Lidl cashiers win this imo! As if the sound barrier isnt an obstacle but a goal xD
Yes, yes, and yes. If you can't keep up, throw everything in the basket and sort it out later else everybody will glare. The exact same everybody that does *nothing* when a granny chats with the checkout person for several *minutes*. 🤷
@GA If you don't know what you're talking about, you should probably refrain from making such comments. In most German supermarkets, you don't have a minute to bag your groceries at the checkout, otherwise you'll disrupt the flow of the checkout.
? In France it's often the other way around. You have *money*? What's that for? Several supermarkets, including Lidl, now have card-only checkouts. So if you want to faff with coins or, god help us all, cheques then go over there. This is the pay-by-bonk aisle.
If it's backwards to have a solid, reliable way of paying that can't be tracked by banks, corporations or governments and that can't be hacked then long live backwards.
Load More Replies...A lot of places actually started accepting cards for the first time during Covid or stopped placing a limit on what you can pay for by card (for instance, anything below 10€ used to be cash only at many shops).
Load More Replies...Tough it's funny how the rest if the world sometimes don't get it how everyone following orders aka traffic rules brings the improvement! Everyone sticks to the rules so you can, most of the time, anticipate how other traffic participants will react. There's a reason why there is, partially, no speed limit on the German Autobahn (aka highway) without having a larger traffic death-toll than other European countries, let alone other countries all over the world. (Unfortunately the capability to follow such rules is in decline since around 2015... Nowadays rarely 50% of the participants pass their diriver license test, cheating reached a bew high and pedestrians, e-scooter drivers, bikers and motorcycles have adopted to more leisure standards.)
Load More Replies...I walked over red three times in the city I moved to. Three times, police saw me and fined me. So, nope. It wasnt much money but I could still use it so I wait. Doesnt take that long anyway normally.
Ampelmännchen is a Berlin thing (although it has popped up elsewhere, too).
I was told off for doing that in Switzerland. There was no traffic for at least half a mile in either direction.
Can't do that in France. At numerous crossroads with four way crossing, the pedestrian lights are red when that road is going, but green when the other roads are going. The cars are supposed to stop for you, but if your light is actually red it's a bit dicey. [by comparison in the UK a similar arrangement would completely stop all traffic for the pedestrians]
I was a strict no jaywalking, no walking until the light changed to green. It is a characteristic of Seattle folks, in general, to do this, and if driving late at night, to wait for the light to turn green on a deserted road at 3am
Sula also says she was told that Germans are cold and unfriendly. "Even when we moved to Heidelberg, many people asked us if we were getting accustomed the rudeness," she reveals. "I have to say, I disagree emphatically with this. Germans are kind, genuine, and helpful."
However, the blogger says the service industry in Germany leaves much to be desired... "They do not really care about helping you, getting a tip (if service at a restaurant is truly exception you can leave a couple euros), or making sure you are satisfied. Not a thing here," she reveals.
Rename 'influencer' as a real job name..... First response is valid!
This really gets old. There is no beverage consumed more than water in Germany. You get in everywhere, but you usually have to pay for it (some restaurants may offer free tap water, though, which is safe to drink everywhere because of the extreme high regulation).
In the UK it is a requirement to provide tap water free of charge when it’s asked for. More and more establishments putting jugs of water and stacked glasses on the side so customers can just help themselves.
Load More Replies...If you order a soft drink you will get a small glass too. No free refills!
you get what you order, mostly it's 0,2 or 0,4 for softdrinks and if it's empty you need to reorder if you want more. The difference is, that you're very welcome to stay a long time, enjoy your meal, have a few drinks and just stay there and keep talking. In the US you're expected to leave when you're done eating - because you're blocking the table for the next customer.
Load More Replies...Maybe she spent hours ostentatiously perusing the wine menu only to keep ordering water...
Load More Replies...I've lived in Germany for 41 yrs. Never once have I heard this term. And I would say it's the opposite: we don't stare at people. It's considered impolite, even rude. And that is something we teach our kids.
I've heard people here in Switzerland suggest that as foreigners they're often stared at, particularly by older people. But like you I've never encountered it myself. Maybe it's just people that look obviously foreign?
Load More Replies...People just have differences in facial expression. She might be extremely happy!
Staring is a thing in smaller towns but I've never heard of this term.
Sula also praises the Germans for their fitness. "In general, Europeans are much thinner than Americans," she explains. "But Germans seems to really love the outdoors and being active. On Sundays, the stores all close (all of them), and they are seen riding, skating, and running the various paths."
Another difference she noticed after moving to Heidelberg was the culture of recycling. "They are NUTS about it here," she wrote on her blog. "We have 5 different trash cans for our apartment. It's insane. I do not agree with it because it's so confusing and ends up being such a hassle. I love the environment, but come on… 5 different trash cans?"
Elaborating on the 5 different trash cans, Sula explains that one is restmüll (trash), the others are for plastic and metal, paper, glass, bioabfall. "Oh, and you take in your plastic bottles (my Coca Cola Light bottles) in to the grocery store for a pfand (a refund)," she adds.
I'll use that on my friend tomorrow, he has celiac (a very good friend)
Load More Replies...She's happy. Look closer. She's not grimacing, so she's actually being very friendly!
I've never seen a German supermarket have roach poison in the same aisle as any type of food, let alone right next to it.
first of all supermarkets don't sell roach poison, you need to go to a garden center (nursery) or a hardware store and then you need to ask someone to get it for you. 2nd if supermarkets would offer poison it would be separated from groceries and under lock and key as in the garden centers.
Lived in Germany and visited countless times, I don't recognize half of these situations.
Bad list. Looks like a list a tourist "living" there for 3 weeks would do.
Another country has different customs than America - whoda thunkit? Americans, please take note. I was soooooooo grateful to go on-line and learn about France and many of its customs before I moved from the US - it made the transition SO much easier. I still make the occasional slips, but I just say, "Nous sommes anglais" in a pitiful voice and they excuse me because I pretend to be English, as the French generally can't tell the difference between American and English accents. Sorry about that, Brits.
Well, given the general feeling towards the British, especially after brexit, we say we're Australian. Everyone loves Australians!
Load More Replies...I see a lot of these, and people having very different experiences than mine in Europe. Perhaps Americans behave differently?
It's incredible. This women appears to have lived in Germany and yet still doesn't understand it.
So far I've had nothing but fascinating experiences in other countries. Germany was where I remained the longest (a long time ago) and got to know an old gasthaus owner who was a veteran of the Leibstandarte SS. He had a humorously cynical view of everything back in 1977.
Lived in Germany and visited countless times, I don't recognize half of these situations.
Bad list. Looks like a list a tourist "living" there for 3 weeks would do.
Another country has different customs than America - whoda thunkit? Americans, please take note. I was soooooooo grateful to go on-line and learn about France and many of its customs before I moved from the US - it made the transition SO much easier. I still make the occasional slips, but I just say, "Nous sommes anglais" in a pitiful voice and they excuse me because I pretend to be English, as the French generally can't tell the difference between American and English accents. Sorry about that, Brits.
Well, given the general feeling towards the British, especially after brexit, we say we're Australian. Everyone loves Australians!
Load More Replies...I see a lot of these, and people having very different experiences than mine in Europe. Perhaps Americans behave differently?
It's incredible. This women appears to have lived in Germany and yet still doesn't understand it.
So far I've had nothing but fascinating experiences in other countries. Germany was where I remained the longest (a long time ago) and got to know an old gasthaus owner who was a veteran of the Leibstandarte SS. He had a humorously cynical view of everything back in 1977.
