When we're traveling abroad, we often get away with things locals simply wouldn't. "I'm just a tourist. I didn't know!" we say after we get caught for something we (knowingly) did wrong. But sometimes it's not enough.
So in an attempt to figure out when this seemingly ultimate excuse is worthless in the United States, Reddit user u/firebullmonkey made a post on the platform, asking: "People from the US, what's a no-go in American culture?" And their question was answered.
From dealing with authorities to tipping servers, here are some of the most popular answers!
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Do NOT get out of the car to greet the officer if you're pulled over by a cop!!! Stay in the car and let the officer come to you. If you need to reach for something like your license, tell the cop you are doing so before you do it.
Unless it is a clear and DIRE emergency, you ask someone if they need an ambulance before you call for one. It’s the most expensive taxi you will ever take and it can ruin most people financially for years.
Be careful not to trespass on private property, in a lot countries just walking through is fine but that can get you shot in the US.
When passing a funeral procession on the road you pull over and wait for them to pass out respect.
We don't have funeral processions on the streets (Hungary). Maybe in little villages. They usually begin at the gate of the cemetery then they go to the grave. I drive for almos 30 years but don't remember if I ever saw a funeral procession on the streets.
Don't ask black people about their hair. I saw a german kid asking a black girl if he could pet her hair. Just don't.
Conversations about religion, politics, or other personal beliefs. It will most likely devolve into one person trying to convince another that their viewpoint is correct and that the listener is wrong.
In the South, being called 'hun' or 'honey' is a great compliment. Conversely, if they yell your name across the house you f**ked up bad.
Never cut in line. I saw that a lot in Europe. Here, you might get shizzled.
A hug or a one of the cheek touch greetings are a big no no. Physical touch is VERY personal to us Americans. If you introduce yourself like that, especially to a man, you might get laid out. Shake hands or nod an acknowledgment and say hello.
This is true!! Americans take personal space very seriously. Don't touch people without their permission
Picking up after yourself. Cleaning your table off at a fast food restaurant is the one that comes to mind. My personal stance on it is if they brought the food to your table then they clear it, if you brought the food to your own table you clear it and yet people still leave mountains of trash when they leave. This also applies to litter and not cleaning up after dog poop and such. Just clean up your own messes or you’ll get a lot of dirty looks.
Americans may be friendly in passing, but that doesn't mean we want to take you home and be best friends. We tend to be called fake a lot, we make an effort to be nice (especially while working at customer service jobs)....but many don't have time, or money, to devote to friendships.
So if you press too much you might get blanked/ghosted over time.
Don’t ever dress up as a clown at 2am and try to scare people in a parking lot, sidewalk, neighborhood etc…. You will get shot or worse! And just Don’t dress up as a clown anywhere, ever! Not funny!
When someone asks you how you are the answer is "good", "great" or any variation thereof. It doesn't matter if your husband just left you, your dog died and you have been diagnosed with cancer, nobody wants to actually know how you are. If you expect to die in the next couple of days you can say something like "hanging in there". If you slip up and say something like "not too great" quickly catch yourself and add "but it's getting better" so that the questioner can reply with something positive like "glad to hear that" and move on. The whole exchange is just an elaborate way of saying "Hi". In other countries people ask this to find out how someone is doing and the person answering is giving an assessment of how they are. If they don't want to know they don't ask. It's often meant as the opening to a longer conversation. Not so in America.
Don't use any bad words, because some that are used casually in other countries are unforgivable insults here - fighting words that will make you an enemy for life.
I've learned from reading BP that the c**t word in Australia is not a big deal. In the US, that word is way worse than saying F**k or calling someone a B***h.
Talking about your salary. Talking about someone’s weight. Driving too slow in the left hand lane. Not tipping. In Chicago, putting ketchup on a hot dog.
I talk about my salary because it finally became clear to me that ít is a way for corporations to underpay employees since most don't know how much their colleagues actually makes.
Reusing the same plate when you go up for a second round at the buffet. You've got to get a new one.
Don’t call someone’s house “Homely” in America. Out here it’s an insult.
Homely means drab and unattractive: homey means cosy and comfortable: homie is a friend, usually from where you grew up.
Only in *American* English. Just like the word 'quite', 'homely' has different meanings in different forms of English.
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What would have even better were if the OP not only told us how NOT to call it, but what to say instead.
Try, you have a lovely home, or find a feature you can genuinely compliment them on.
Load More Replies... In the UK referring to someone's house as "homely" would be a nice complement- it means unpretentious, comfortable, cosy, and welcoming. I have even seen the smaller, private rooms of even the grandest country houses described as "more homely rooms" (compared to the lavish "state rooms" for formal entertaining.)
I think it's on the same level as an American using the word "quaint" to describe your house in the UK when "homely" is adequate.
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My understanding of the word is that if a place is 'homely' it's home-like and comfortable. If a person is homely they are a little portly, but generally nice and caring (think Mrs Weasley).
I think it varies. Homey in the US is homely in the UK.
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I lived in California for 9 years, never heard of this. On the other hand, I have never heard anyone actually use the word in conversation either.
I live in California too, never heard of this either but a house that is “homely?” Well, it is my home after all. I’d take it as a compliment!
Load More Replies... Well, I once announced I spoke a kiss of German, so, y'know, I get how you can mess up if it's not yoru native language. No, I'll never live it down, so now you German pandas can have at me, too :-)
Yes! On the British show Escape to the Country they often call lovely rooms homely. It confused us at first.
Homely is the original word. And cosy. Learn to spell, Colonial peasant. 🇬🇧
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I consider my house "homely" and probably would agree with them and move on.
That's weird, never heard of that before (British English speaker here)
Yep, homely has a different meaning in the U.S., although it being taken as an insult is variable - some people are touchy about their decor being insta-worthy & would be insulted. I'd probably just say "huh? what do you mean?" and let it go. And I prefer to use the word "cozy".
I can’t think of anyone who would get offended by a non native english speaker.
I always smile when I am watching a show in the UK and someone describes a place as "homely". There, it means what "homey" does in the US.
Pretty sure that "homely" means a person is so ugly they should just stay home and not show their face in public. Can't even remember that last time I heard it used though.
'Homely' means unattractive. Whether it directed to a place where someone lives or the face of your acquaintance, it is insulting.
Merriam-Webster has four definitions for the word "homely," as does dictionary.com. Collins dictionary has two. Sometimes words have multiple, even conflicting, meanings.
Load More Replies...Well when you live in the stix, you wave at people while driving on the back road (usually one or two finger wave) or they think you’re from the city/up to no good
Unless your both driving a Jeep then it is expected to wave.. it's a Jeep thing.
Americans like personal space. Leave room between you and the person you're speaking to or lining up behind.
Only true, when compared to Southern Europe, for example. When compared to Northern Europe, yeah right 😂 😂 😂 You guys like the personal space of Middle Europe...
Sleeping during your lunch break. Alcohol at your desk or during lunch (besides work parties). Being touchy (as in hugging people, touching their arms, etc).
Ironically, I've done all of these, but my point is don't do them unless you know your company's culture and the people around you, else you may get a warning from management or HR.
Alcohol at your desk seems like it would be a bad idea everywhere though?
Putting cash or cards on the counter, instead of handing them to the staff, is often considered rude in America but polite in other places. Especially throwing them down on the counter - super rude.
Many Americans aren't afraid of confrontation. A lot of them will be nice as a formality, just to get to know you and be a good neighbor but they won't shy away from talking s**t if it comes down to it.
Might be a NYC thing MIND YOUR BUSINESS AND WHAT EVER YOU DO DONT STARE. Unless you want the " waddaya lookin at? mind ya f**king business!"
This is true. Don't stare! Very rude. No matter what the person is wearing or looks like.
Walking on the left side of a hallway or passage instead of the right side.
You mean like traffic? Is everywhere else one big mosh pit the second you get out of your car?
In the elevator with multiple people, everyone faces the door and doesn't talk to anyone. It's an awkward silence, especially if you're a big guy around smaller women. the worst thing you could do is ask your elevator-mates how their day is
Learning accurate history about our nation and others, apparently.
I'm sure about all americans will do so prior to visit countries in Europe ...
In Alaska, you’re better off to assume that every local has no sense of humor. They’re still friendly but none of us ever smile or laugh.
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Many of these are applicable everywhere because they are common sense, common etiquette. Many others are oddly specific or too absurd to believe. I think the only one I read without knotting my brows is the Keanu Reeves, spot on.
Well, this was uhm ... lemme think ... very very uninspired and uninteresting.
About half of these were made up and wrong. The other half are common sense. If you want to bash America, BP, try harder.
The hard thing about this post is that the US is very large, with very different cultures depending on location. Not everything in this applies everywhere, though a lot of it applies somewhere.
The overwhelming majority of these are not universally true. Don't hate on Keanu, though.
And when visiting the American South, do not EVER, EVER EVER EVER, mention the Civil War. Some people are still mad and very sensitive about that. It is also wildly inappropriate in restaurants to ask where the segregated section is. And don't say s**t about the rebel flag if you see one. Just keep going and find you some boiled peanuts. Seriously though, there's still a lot of feelings about certain things and stereotypes down there, and with reason. I'll be the first to tell you though, that our southern Folks are among the best, and most hospitable people that you'll ever meet. I worked down south a lot over the years, and it was great.
Who in their SANE MIND would ask where the segregated section is?!?!?!! I can attest with absolute certainty that if this question came up ANYWHERE in our country, your ass better RUN!! You will 100% have major consequences from literally every person within earshot regardless of race or ethnicity.
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I used to have a roommate from Russia and our biggest miscommunication and reason we couldn't understand each other was personal space and inviting yourself into people's homes without invitation. She would bring her laundry to my grandparents house without asking first, expected me to open up personally to her, and was very invasive. I was young and offended easily. Looking back I should've realized the difference in our perspectives but there was such a culture shock between us that our relationship was doomed from the beginning.
1. Americans don't like discourtesy. So don't blast your music driving in small neighborhoods. Or make huge amounts of any noise that bothers people around you. 2. Wear deodorant. I don't care what your personal feelings, religious beliefs, or allergy says otherwise....WEAR DEODORANT. If you have an allergy, find an alternative. Being smelly is never going to be okay. I worked with a guy who refused to wear deodorant as a religious thing and it's like...okay but then you can't work in close environments with other people. That's your choice. 3, don't compare our country to yours in front of us. It's like hating your sibling; you may hate them and pick on them all the time, but if someone else does it you immediately go into protection mode. Other people aren't allowed to be rude to my family- that's my job.
I used to work high end private security. Not mallcops but state license and armed security with some powers. Ideltwith a lot of people from other countries at the hotels the company was contracted with. A lot pretty much refused to believe that security can tell you to keep it down or completely kick you off a property. Got into many "well in my country" arguments
Many of these are applicable everywhere because they are common sense, common etiquette. Many others are oddly specific or too absurd to believe. I think the only one I read without knotting my brows is the Keanu Reeves, spot on.
Well, this was uhm ... lemme think ... very very uninspired and uninteresting.
About half of these were made up and wrong. The other half are common sense. If you want to bash America, BP, try harder.
The hard thing about this post is that the US is very large, with very different cultures depending on location. Not everything in this applies everywhere, though a lot of it applies somewhere.
The overwhelming majority of these are not universally true. Don't hate on Keanu, though.
And when visiting the American South, do not EVER, EVER EVER EVER, mention the Civil War. Some people are still mad and very sensitive about that. It is also wildly inappropriate in restaurants to ask where the segregated section is. And don't say s**t about the rebel flag if you see one. Just keep going and find you some boiled peanuts. Seriously though, there's still a lot of feelings about certain things and stereotypes down there, and with reason. I'll be the first to tell you though, that our southern Folks are among the best, and most hospitable people that you'll ever meet. I worked down south a lot over the years, and it was great.
Who in their SANE MIND would ask where the segregated section is?!?!?!! I can attest with absolute certainty that if this question came up ANYWHERE in our country, your ass better RUN!! You will 100% have major consequences from literally every person within earshot regardless of race or ethnicity.
Load More Replies... I used to have a roommate from Russia and our biggest miscommunication and reason we couldn't understand each other was personal space and inviting yourself into people's homes without invitation. She would bring her laundry to my grandparents house without asking first, expected me to open up personally to her, and was very invasive. I was young and offended easily. Looking back I should've realized the difference in our perspectives but there was such a culture shock between us that our relationship was doomed from the beginning.
1. Americans don't like discourtesy. So don't blast your music driving in small neighborhoods. Or make huge amounts of any noise that bothers people around you. 2. Wear deodorant. I don't care what your personal feelings, religious beliefs, or allergy says otherwise....WEAR DEODORANT. If you have an allergy, find an alternative. Being smelly is never going to be okay. I worked with a guy who refused to wear deodorant as a religious thing and it's like...okay but then you can't work in close environments with other people. That's your choice. 3, don't compare our country to yours in front of us. It's like hating your sibling; you may hate them and pick on them all the time, but if someone else does it you immediately go into protection mode. Other people aren't allowed to be rude to my family- that's my job.
I used to work high end private security. Not mallcops but state license and armed security with some powers. Ideltwith a lot of people from other countries at the hotels the company was contracted with. A lot pretty much refused to believe that security can tell you to keep it down or completely kick you off a property. Got into many "well in my country" arguments
