Woman Gets Called A “Psycho” For Uninviting Her SIL From Her Wedding As She Tried On Her Wedding Dress And Accidentally Ruined It
Wedding stories are a separate kind of folklore, and one could collect them and shoot an absolutely amazing action-packed TV show like American Crime Story. Just imagine: American Wedding Story with a selection of the most incredible plots – and, what is most interesting, the writers do not even have to invent them, just come and take from real life.
In fact, a wedding, of course, is one of the most important days in any person’s life, but the very preparation for it is often very nerve-wracking and restless. Of course, the newlyweds want everything to go perfectly, without the slightest issues, and very few people get through all the stages of this process completely calmly.
For example, a similar story happened to user u/Both_Ad8736, whose post on the AITA Reddit community has already gained 8.2K upvotes and about 1.8K different comments. The heroine of this story is a bride-to-be, and this plot would be perfect as a pilot episode of our possible American Wedding Story show. So let’s talk about everything in order…
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The author of the post has a SIL “Kate” whom she actually never got along with
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The author of the post is about to get married, and one of the guests at her upcoming wedding was supposed to be her SIL, “Kate”. The Original Poster honestly admits that she and Kate never got along with one another, and explains this, for instance, by the fact that Kate is really possessive of her mother, kind of competitive. Moreover, sometimes it seems to the woman that her mother even loves Kate more than her own daughter.
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The bride’s mother promised to give her her own bridal gown in which she herself got married many years ago
Leading up to the wedding, the OP agreed with her mother that she would give her her bridal gown, in which she herself got married many years ago. The woman says that the dress is very beautiful, custom made, with openwork beaded embroidery, and she looks incredibly impressive in it. The OP was looking forward to her appearance at the ceremony in this beautiful gown, and therefore the news from her mom upset her incredibly.
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It turned out that one day, mom asked Kate to try the dress on and then the SIL accidentally spilled her smoothie on it
The mother said that Kate had come over one day, and she asked the daughter-in-law to try on that very dress. Kate agreed, put it on – and at that moment, she had a sudden seizure (Kate has epilepsy), so she spilled her smoothie on the dress and damaged it heavily.
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To say that the OP was grossed out would be an understatement. Despite the fact that her mother swore to her that she would take the gown to the tailor and have it cleaned and restored before the wedding, the bride’s mood deteriorated irrevocably. Mom explained that it was sentimental as it was her dress first, so she just wanted to see Kate in it and she asked the SIL to try it on to take some photos, but that didn’t calm the OP at all.
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The bride-to-be was so indignant that she banned Kate from coming to her wedding though all the relatives criticized her for doing so
The woman was outraged to such an extent that she canceled Kate’s invitation to the upcoming wedding – even though she understood that she could not blame Kate for having a medical condition. And yet the resentment remained, and the bride-to-be refused to change her mind, even though Kate herself eventually called her “psycho”, her brother was upset and decided she’s being cruel, and mom once again reminded her it was initially her own dress, and she herself had asked Kate to try it on.
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It could be that the woman just has some problems in the relationship with her mom – probably going back to her childhood
“I think in this situation, the problem is not the dress at all – rather, the gown became a kind of trigger in the relationship between the daughter, mother and Kate,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, who was asked by Bored Panda to comment on this story. “Probably, this woman has some kind of psychological trauma about her relationship with her mother – for example, going back to childhood.”
“This happens, for example, if in childhood or adolescence the girl lacked maternal attention – or her brother got it more. Accordingly, now she is unconsciously jealous of her mother’s relationship with another woman and takes out these psychological problems on her. In my opinion, the author of this story would be helped by an appeal to a psychoanalyst in order to make her attitude towards mom a bit healthier. And just talking to mother would also not hurt,” says Irina Matveeva.
Commenters’ opinions on this particular case divided and a massive discussion started
Many people in the comments actually agree with an expert. For example, commenters just don’t understand why the Original Poster blames Kate at all when it was her mother who asked the woman to try on the dress. Moreover, according to some people in the comments, it sounds like the problem is more with the OP’s mom than Kate.
Other commenters do believe that since the dress was promised to the bride-to-be, it was simply unfair for the mom to ask Kate to try it on. And the SIL herself could have politely but adamantly declined the request as well. And now it turns out that the relationship with the sister-in-law has finally deteriorated, and the bride’s brother will not come to her wedding either. In any case, commenters strongly recommend that the OP buy herself a new wedding gown.
As we have already said, there are a lot of incredible wedding stories out there, and if you’re interested, you can also check out this post of ours about the wedding guest who was the only one not allowed to have a +1 by the newlyweds, or about the groom who kicked his mother out of the wedding because she came with his former in-laws. We also look forward to your comments on this story, because it’s always interesting and exciting to have lots of people’s opinions.
I wonder why anyone trying on a wedding dress has a smoothie in their hand. It was deliberate. No one holds a drink of any kind near a pure while dress. SIL knew what she was doing. Stick to your plan, keep her uninvited
I know. I don't buy that "accidentally spilled" story for an instant. SIL is a spiteful brat, out to ruin OP's special day, with MIL's blessing. It's bad enough having to deal with an annoying in-law. When your own parents not only won't back you up, but aid and abet the offender, that REALLY sucks. OP is right about uninviting SIL; everyone who supports her pettiness can also uninvite themselves. OP should definitely give her mother her wedding dress back and buy her own, WITHOUT her mother present. If Mother Dearest complains, OP should ignore her and carry on, and not let her or SIL anywhere near her new dress, before or after the wedding. Spite is like a rattlesnake; you can put it in a cage and treat it like a beloved pet. But the very first time you drop your guard and turn your back on it, you automatically become its next victim.
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Honestly, I think the biggest problem (that many seem to be overlooking or ignoring) is that: Kate was holding a drink while trying on a wedding dress that wasn't hers, knowing full well that she had a history of seizures. Even if she hadn't had a history of seizures, she shouldn't have been holding a drink while trying on a wedding dress that wasn't hers. Anything that can potentially stain a dress shouldn't ever be anywhere near a wedding dress (especially if it isn't yours); food, drink, paint, etc. It's weird that the mom wanted Kate to try on the dress; why not ask her own daughter to try on the dress? I understand that the OP has hard feelings against Kate and feels like she's being pushed aside, and this incident has spoiled her feelings towards the dress. She wanted something special just between her and her mother... and that was ruined. I think her calling it 'creepy' was just her struggling to find the words to express her feelings about it.
Disease aside it sure sounds like Kate had an agenda!! She just happen to have the seizure at the right time. Not implying she has control over that but how do we know she had one and didn't spill it on purpose and faked the rest?? Plus I wouldn't put it past the Mom to lie and cover for Kate! Kate was jealous she didn't get to wear mommy's dress. No other explanation.
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I don't get why she would want to try it on when she's already married and why would you have a smoothie in your hand when trying it on? Sounds deliberate to me but I'm Pretty cynical. I never had any type of drink in my hand while trying on my wedding dress and spilled punch on it the day I got married so I think you are in the right here. Mom should be ashamed of how she's acting and SIL should get over herself.
I wonder why anyone trying on a wedding dress has a smoothie in their hand. It was deliberate. No one holds a drink of any kind near a pure while dress. SIL knew what she was doing. Stick to your plan, keep her uninvited
I know. I don't buy that "accidentally spilled" story for an instant. SIL is a spiteful brat, out to ruin OP's special day, with MIL's blessing. It's bad enough having to deal with an annoying in-law. When your own parents not only won't back you up, but aid and abet the offender, that REALLY sucks. OP is right about uninviting SIL; everyone who supports her pettiness can also uninvite themselves. OP should definitely give her mother her wedding dress back and buy her own, WITHOUT her mother present. If Mother Dearest complains, OP should ignore her and carry on, and not let her or SIL anywhere near her new dress, before or after the wedding. Spite is like a rattlesnake; you can put it in a cage and treat it like a beloved pet. But the very first time you drop your guard and turn your back on it, you automatically become its next victim.
Load More Replies... Honestly, I think the biggest problem (that many seem to be overlooking or ignoring) is that: Kate was holding a drink while trying on a wedding dress that wasn't hers, knowing full well that she had a history of seizures. Even if she hadn't had a history of seizures, she shouldn't have been holding a drink while trying on a wedding dress that wasn't hers. Anything that can potentially stain a dress shouldn't ever be anywhere near a wedding dress (especially if it isn't yours); food, drink, paint, etc. It's weird that the mom wanted Kate to try on the dress; why not ask her own daughter to try on the dress? I understand that the OP has hard feelings against Kate and feels like she's being pushed aside, and this incident has spoiled her feelings towards the dress. She wanted something special just between her and her mother... and that was ruined. I think her calling it 'creepy' was just her struggling to find the words to express her feelings about it.
Disease aside it sure sounds like Kate had an agenda!! She just happen to have the seizure at the right time. Not implying she has control over that but how do we know she had one and didn't spill it on purpose and faked the rest?? Plus I wouldn't put it past the Mom to lie and cover for Kate! Kate was jealous she didn't get to wear mommy's dress. No other explanation.
Load More Replies... I don't get why she would want to try it on when she's already married and why would you have a smoothie in your hand when trying it on? Sounds deliberate to me but I'm Pretty cynical. I never had any type of drink in my hand while trying on my wedding dress and spilled punch on it the day I got married so I think you are in the right here. Mom should be ashamed of how she's acting and SIL should get over herself.
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