Growing up is hard. Ask my fellow millennials who time and again dwell on childhood nostalgia by rewatching Harry Potter too many times to be considered appropriate for an adult, and flushing away the anxiety of the grown-up world with iced mochas.
Gen Z’ers are also resistant to becoming adults, and you may wonder why. While people tend to put blame on the way these generations are, researchers point out that it’s not a developmental stage; it’s the economy.
There’s even a corner of Reddit titled “Adulting,” dedicated to those who’re “actively trying to be more of an adult.” Created back in 2015, the community is sharing anything from tips, victories and questions related to the complex world of adulthood and trust me, it sometimes feels like a work of art.
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this is not a "painfully hilarious meme to sum up adulthood" it's a wholesome post about a kind dad
I wish all fathers were patient like this. My own father expected perfection from the beginning. His attitude seemed to be "I can do it, so you should be able to." F*****g awful teacher, and coach.
I always love seeing this posted in things. It's such a sweet and very meaningful thing to do. I mean instruction videos are cool but I feel he probably talks to you like he's your dad which makes it more appealing; plus his reason for doing it touches even my black heart
He does. He is so positive and supportive. I love this guy!
Load More Replies...Ohmygosh, this is actually a fantastic idea! Gives the elders an expressive outlet, teaches the rest of us and an opportunity to share those bomb-a*s recipes! 😀
And we can repay them with videos of how to program their cell phones!
Load More Replies...Yeah and then we could start one for the 25-65 y/o whos always super busy and with no time to relax. Onlyplans
Especially shoeboxes. I have to go thru my "stash" every once in a while and take them out to the recycling bin. They always seem to be good to have to store misc stuff in, but I rarely do.
We have 2 4-drawer filing cabinets. Where do things get filed? Shoeboxes
Load More Replies...Or the cat claims it anyway. There are empty boxes in my house that have been there years because the cat once sat in it.
I had a box with parts for a pinball machine I wanted to repair. But my adorable old cat was always laying on it. After six months she found a new favourite spot and I found out the shipment was missing a few expensive pieces.
Load More Replies...Amen amen we could be related ,why throw it out when I could let it clutter my house ,take ,space and then throw it out and think I could have used it for something
It ALWAYS happens that whatever you throw away/give away/ or whatever, it is only after it's gone that you immediately find a solid use for it.
Load More Replies...I have a lot of really good boxes. Some make sense. My cameras and their lenses, for instance. But the bulk toilet paper I get from Amazon every month have nice boxes, too.
Or a young child. My box-lover is almost 8 and still asks "can I live in this?" any time a big enough box graces our door.
Load More Replies...I get all my dog and cat food delivered in 3 massive boxes each month, I have this dilemma every time, I usually go on my FB and ask if anyone needs any boxes rather than put them in the recycling, I feel this.
I do that. I have a bunch of boxes that I have saved for stuff like, if I have to move, shipping something back or donating to charities that come around and pick stuff up. I always debate if I should save it or not because I have enough but, it's a really good box. Having boxes of all sizes comes in handy.
There are plenty of reasons why some people don't want to grow up. For some, it's the fear of responsibility and the unknown. For others, it might be the comfort of childhood and the simplicity of life. And then there are those who just don't want to let go of the carefree days of youth.
No matter the reason, it's perfectly understandable why someone would want to hold on to their childhood for a little while longer. After all, growing up is hard work. And who can blame someone for wanting to take a break from all the adulting?
Same with vacations, toys and clothes. It's NEVER been as much fun since I've grown up!
I've been a mom for 21 years now and this one hit me right in the heart. I adore my kids but miss my mom!
Absolutely. We had paper and foil decorations that were drapped across the ceiling. The aroma of those decorations, freshly-baked royal icing fruit cake and the ham... That was and will always be Christmas. It's a cherished memory and if there was a genie granting wishes, one would be to have a bottle of that fragrance so that I could spray it on Christmas Eve and enjoy all the best memories of my Christmases 🥰
Load More Replies...Let me tell you, as a child, remembering coming down on Christmas morning just knowing Santa had come the night before was the most magical experience in my life. But then I became a mom, and it is SO much better. So much more magical knowing you created that sense sense of wonder and magic in your own kids.
In my 40's and my dad still puts from Santa on a gift here and there.
For me my sweet poppy, who pulled 3 all nighters (including Christmas Eve) in a row to build me a Sears wish book doll house. He hadn’t realized ALL assembly was required. Lol
You're so right! All holidays were at grams big ol house in an adorable Norman Rockwell painting of a town. No place I would rather be. Now that gram is gone, we still have holidays at the house, but I realize it was gram, not the house that made the holiday....Now it's just a house, now it's just a holiday. Grammies are some of the best things ever!
Load More Replies...I left with 4 kids, 4 twin mattresses and a vcr. Being safe and having a quiet home was priceless. And it went dramatically uphill from there.
Good for you. Making a decision for your own betterment always pays out its dividends.
Load More Replies...This looks cozy :) the sock in the middle of the floor completes it. Home!
I slept on worse matresses than this one in my 20s without any issues. Now, in my 40s, I would be bent for a week after sleeping on that for one night only...
...one of the greatest pleasures- starting anew- finding a place- building it up from scratch and having freedom.
This takes me back to the time me and my mom fled her abusive ex-boyfriend, I was able to get ahold of an apartment through a friends father the day before. We had one air mattress that we shared, a kitchen table and two chairs that we bought for about 16 dollars, we had nothing more than two bags of clothes that we managed to get before we ran, over the following weeks we had the fortune of having good friends that gave us some furnitures. Over the following year we made it a home, we got most of our things from thrift stores. But the first night in that apartment, on an air mattress with sheets as blankets and towels as pillows, I found real peace.
Sadly accurate. Some of the same kids who were like this in high school are going down the insane Facebook conspiracy route.
I try to tell people that the point wasn't too remember *all* of it, just to get the jist. You never know what you're going to need in life.
"I'll never use any of this stuff-" Yes, you will. You may not use those details exactly, but you will use the skills you gained in learning about it. You won't solve algebraic equations, but you will learn to problem-solve with a set of steps to take you to an answer you can check. You won't write the great novel, you won't read poetry for fun, but you will understand how to recognize and read a variety of genres, how to concentrate even if you don't "like" it and glean information, how to analyze a text and its resources, and how to ask critical questions. You won't necessarily become a theorist or historical researcher, but you will learn to recognize tropes, patterns, lies, shifts. You won't play clarinet professionally, but the hours you spent practicing and learning musical scales helped your brain develop more complicated thinking. The brain's second-biggest growth happens during ages 12-25ish. Yes, you need to learn "this stuff" b/c you need to learn how to LEARN.
To be fair, a few years ago had to use the Pythagorean Theorem to measure my parents' dining room for two corner hutches. I was grateful to have aced Trigonometry that day.
Load More Replies...On that note, can we mostly teach things that are useful? In one of the required-to-graduate math classes at my school, we had to learn a type of equation that's pretty much only used in the field of light science, so unless you plan to become a light scientist, it's practically useless. But would be useful is like, idk, a sewing class. Do they have that? Ofc not. (Granted, with this generations obsession with fast fashion, we'd probably just throw stuff away and buy new :/ )
On that note, in the USA at least, our country is a mess, in part because no one seems to even realize that we have a constitution. Trumpers I'm talking to you.
Load More Replies...What's really sad is the people I knew in HS that aced these classes are the ones that don't believe in global warming and were posting all the crazy c**p about vaccines and screaming about wearing masks. Their idea of "research" is googling.
I've mentioned before how much I love the "I did the research!" idiots. If your butt did not move from your chair/bed and laptop, you did not "do research." Research involves methodology and a rubric, a hypothesis to test, control groups, lit reviews, funding, writing up multiple reports, presenting at conferences, and publishing in peer-reviewed journals. Not a single anti-vaxxer did real research, and that includes the granddaddy of them all, Andrew Wakefield. They did a bit of looking around for a few things that fit their existing world view, and claimed that was "research." It's not. Real research means you will always alter your thinking about a thing in some way.
Load More Replies...But trigonometry?? Algebra? I've still yet to find any purpose for those in life.
It's about HOW to think/problem solve. It teaches your brain certain problem-solving steps.
Load More Replies..."did my research online" by watching YouTube, listening to one-sided podcasts, etc. pfft! GTFO
Others are doing the exact opposite and trying to find ways to grow up sooner and embrace their adulthood. The truth is it takes a lot to be a responsible, independent adult. It’s a good idea to start by accepting that adulthood is not perfect and that there will be ups and downs along the way.
Another way to embrace your adult self is to not wait for someone else to make you happy – focus on finding joy in your own life. Taking responsibility for your own happiness is quintessential. At the same time, learning to manage your finances, the earlier the better, is very important.
The last tip may sound pretty boring, but you’ll thank us later. Being proactive about your health is a must. Try to improve your diet, add exercise in your life, and get regular checkups. Adulthood is the time when you realize that there’s nothing more important than your health and wellbeing.
Pretty sure it was an extrovert masquerading as an introvert.
Yeah, I know too many people who identify themselves as introvers, 'cause they "also like to be alone sometimes".
Load More Replies...For an extended period of time? They didn't mention the three days in a row I need to recuperate from one evening of socialising.
Funny how nobody ever tells extroverts to push themselves to be less social and stop butting in other people's business.
That'd a really good point! Like it's normal to be an extrovert, but there's something terribly wrong with us introverts. That a total load,!
Load More Replies...That's only if you accept society's message that introverted behavior is broken. If I did this to myself, I'd have to spend a week in bed.
He must be related to Linus from Peanuts, who once proclaimed "I love mankind; it's people I can't stand."
He hated people who loved Christmas so much it became part of their identity. Which... Fair...
Was it the people? I thought it was all the noise they made with their celebrations that got under his skin.
The Grinch hated Christmas, the whole Christmas season. Don't ask why. No one quite knows the reason
Then you have Rose and Jack on a piece of floating wreckage.... there was room for both of you!!!!
But there wasn't enough bouyancy. They'd both have been half in the water and died.
Load More Replies...Unfortunately... the people on the yachts keep stealing life preservers from those with canoes.
Load More Replies...Having said that, researchers have noted that youth these days seem to delay their transition to adulthood. According to Nancy E. Hill, a developmental psychologist at Harvard University, it has more to do with being able to transition to the workforce than the perceived apathy of youth.
“Young people reach adult milestones later when jobs that lead to financial independence are scarce or require additional training. The well-paying manufacturing jobs that were abundant in the 1950s did not exist in the 1890s. In the early 1900s, the U.S. transitioned from a largely agrarian economy to an industrialized one, and many young adults moved from rural to urban areas in search of modern industrial jobs,” she explained in The Atlantic.
This! I like some time just for me, between work, kids and chores! I'd rather sleep less just to have a couple of hours that's just mine
I stay up late cuz its fun. I regret it in the morning buuuut i still do it
I grew up in a family of takers, and not learning and enforcing healthy boundaries nearly killed me. Somehow, I needed to believe that because I worked hard and was prosperous in some areas of life, I was obligated to give, repeatedly, even when it felt wrong. Survivor's guilt. I learned they were emotional and financial black holes, and no matter how much I gave, they'd always expect more. Glad to say I learned better.
As a wise crustacean once said, “give them an inch, they swim all over.”
Good. There’s no reason for this anymore in 2022. (And don’t come at me with “oh yeah but men are more _____ and ____ than women, and women will probably be on their periods or something and women can’t pick up heavy boxes while pregnant so let’s not pay them properly) or whatever the current argument is. Just no 😊)
We got a shock when we discussed them at a past company. Several women and gay men were paid way less. We descended on mass to that HR department like a ton of bricks and it took a while but we got our pay rises. Being a united front works!
Seems gender is not the best determining factor about skills and drive. Hehe, gee who knew?
Why is it that in some companies discussing your salary is a reason for termination?
Having said that, Hill argues that young adults are not less mature today than in the past. “Neither are they necessarily more self-centered. A new developmental stage is not necessary to account for the extended time that many youth need to make the transition to adulthood,” she argues.
“Our findings tell us something important: When young adults take longer to achieve the markers of adulthood, it is not that something has changed about them; it is that the world has changed,” Hill concluded.
Lol my dog gets so excited to go for a walk I don't even get a chance to hook her up. she just grabs her leash and starts walking down the driveway, dragging it behind her.
Best caption I saw to this was something like “independent dog don’t need no owner” and that’s what I always think when I see this ace photo
I very occasionally read essays I wrote in high school and think, who tf wrote this?! That person is a genius and uses words I have to look up!
Yes! My vocabulary was so good and now it's just not so good. See?
Load More Replies...Adults kept telling me it was nothing compared to working... I'm still not convinced at 36.
I'm wondering this too. At school I had 10 classes and 5 activities, and now it takes me 6 months to learn 1 sentence in a foreign language.
I have no idea how I survived being in a building w/ 20 something other people in close range each day by 8am and stay focused on one/two topics for over an hour straight, eat random foods mixed with milk at 11:20am, and get to do more work when I get home at 3:30.
Idk man, school was a pretty s**t time for me and that was a big reason.
I did this too! ….but not because I was excited about live, I was just overly scared to be unprepared for a special event.
Same. And I always slept like s**t because anxiety. Still do, AaMoF.
Load More Replies...I miss being this excited about life too lol. Remember being so excited for something happening tomorrow that you couldn’t sleep? Hasn’t happened to me since i was like 12 lol. I miss that rush and joy 😝
The only time my school ever went on a trip, it was a day trip to an antique trolley museum organized by the band teacher. Not only did I sleep well before the trip, I slept well during.
Oh man I would have been the most annoying student on the trip due to the nonstop, trolley-induced Judy Garland impression. Might have even cosplayed for that $hit.
Load More Replies...I was always this excited before our trip to Cedar Point (amusement park). I think I still get a bit excited when I know I’m going. I also get really excited when going to Comic-Cons and I am getting a photo with a celebrity. I was especially excited when I went to the big con in San Diego.
This is really beautiful. Plus I'm high so I'm having a Keanu moment over how profound it is.
I love the oatmeal, it has help me to understand myself and understand people. Their cartoons are so wholesome.
The Oatmeal is awesome! Inappropriate and hilarious at times, but always awesome!
Keanu moment. Absolutely fing love it. That is one truly special and admirable man. Him, I wish I could meet.
I overdrew 22 dollars last month and fees put me $200 in the hole. I get paid once a month and despite desperately trying to get some funds in there I just ended up watching those fees rack up. So now I'm behind and will be playing who doesn't get paid this month until I can figure something out. It's ridiculous.
I just saw a tv piece about this and it is ridiculous. Why do banks keep letting you spend if there is nothing in the account? To get the fees. They also rearrange your purchases so that instead of only one charge, you end up having to pay two or more. They are out of control and I think the government is getting ready to pass legislation against the banks to protect consumers.
It's about time. The banks I've used when I lived in Europe, simply declined the transaction. There's no reason US banks can't be similar.
Load More Replies...Why do they get to charge you the same regardless of their action? If they pay the charge, they charge you $35. If they decline the charge, they still charge you $35; and then you get another $35 charge from where you used the check/card.
At one time you could set up your account to not allow overdrafts. I don't know if this is still possible or not, I'm an old fart.
Mine let's you, but it's a credit union so it might be different.
Load More Replies...Unfortunately they will remain a fact as long as our lawmakers are bought and paid for.
A poverty tax going to the bank's shareholders, not the government, who at least spend (or mis-spend) it on the country.
I was just thinking earlier today how I'd talk to my friends on the phone for hours when I was a kid. What in the world did we talk about for so long? Now I only answer the phone if it's my boss or a call I'm expecting.
What happened in what class, boys, music, boys, more music (favorite bands), plans for the weekend, boys.
Load More Replies...I hate that since cellphones, people expect you to answer your phone immediately...to the point that, if you don't, another call/text will follow almost immediately. I'm just not that fond of talking on the phone.
I recently ignored a call on my mobile as it was from a number I didn't recognise. The same caller tried my partner's mobile, then the landline. They were clearly trying hard to get hold of me so I answered the phone. Turns out it was my poor doctor trying to get hold of me. I had just logged my Covid infection on the government website and a couple of the symptoms I ticked (fever and severe headache) triggered an emergency alert for the doctor. Wouldn't have ticked them if I realised it would cause that much fuss as compared to other people I had a pretty mild case.
This tip has saved me a lot of trouble and enabled me to report scammers to the FTC easily!!
A one floor cottage with sloping roofs, flowering plants on the outside walls. Quiet village with a general Store where you get everything you need. A nice old lady as your neighbour. The inside of the cottage is cost, painted in pastel colours. There's a faded couch next to the fireplace with soft cushions and a downy blanket. A room with lots of books and comfy chairs. The bedroom with a wrought iron bed, big windows with pretty curtains. A small kitchen with enough space for two people to sit and eat together. A small yard where you can plant a couple of things or just let the weeds grow. Ok I'm dreaming
I realized that this was my dream when I was a junior in college. I worked like a demon and bought my cottage when I was 45. Since then, I've done enough work to keep life comfortable. Who wants a career?
In my house it's the water bottles or cups of water. I have yet to catch the person named Noone that keeps leaving them everywhere.
They must be related to that kid "Notme" living in my house!
Load More Replies...Adulting sucks... man, oh man, we had it is easy as a kid... wtf did we all rush to grow up? Lol
Load More Replies...Dust and hair seem to reproduce and gather again as soon as the vacuum is off. Everything starts to wear, or odd things I never thought about cleaning need it. I don't remember my parents powerwashing the house. Baseboards? Who cleans those? Walls, the wall to the basement across from the railing is gross. Why is that my job?
It's never my trash can filling up too fast, it's the recycling bin. Mainly because I'm too lazy to break down boxes.
I googled it for a laugh and according to a variety of 'experts' (chefs I guess) it is the back right. On a more serious note, people with small children and pets tend to use those at the back for safety reasons. My favourite is the middle back (5 burners, not four).
Load More Replies...I thought I was the only one getting excited over this...my SO keeps telling me I am lol
I think this may be the secret to the whole thing..find joy in all life's small goals
My "adult yippee" moment was I needed a new cooking spoon. The one I found (and bought of course) was this all black spoon that has a wedge on it so that when you set it down, it rests on the wedge lifting the spoon part off the countertop. I was like "OMG, this. Is. AWESOME!!
And always doing laundry, annoyed that the clothes you’re wearing will have to washed later.
When you're an adult you can decide how clean you want your house to be. I have low standards. I won't be cleaning my kitchen all the time.
Doing laundry is what gets me. I can have a clean kitchen, just clean it and don't use it. But unless I choose the nude life, it is impossible to have ALL my clothes clean and put away at the same time. And for some reason this fact is very demoralizing to me.
And when you have kids you'll be cleaning the whole damn house everyday, all day... it never ends lol
I’m starting to like cleaning the kitchen. I’ve move into that stage of existence.
Knees. Knees didn't use to make those noises just before the stabbing pain like a hot ice pick.
Five minutes after the warranty expires on a body part or system, it starts to hurt.
I had the same issue; back and knees were always painful. Problem was that I was 275 lbs. Dropped 100 lbs. Took care of 90% of the problem.
I don't remember the exact date and time when I went from "OH, BOY! The PHONE!" to "Damn, what now?" Haven't been excited about the phone for years now . . .
It's the same with getting a letter in the mail, sigh. "Oh great, another bill/dental appointment reminder/political flyer". The most interesting letter I've had in the last three years was some idiot's handwritten religious ramblings which he'd apparently mailed to the whole suburb.
Load More Replies...When the phone rings; when you can't find your keys; when you change channels and it's more adverts; when it takes too long to get hot water from the tap; when you've run out of something in the fridge; when the washing machine is taking hours; when you find a stain on a shirt you're ironing; when post is delivered (unless it's something you ordered); when you have to unpack the dishwasher; when you need fuel in your car; when you can't be arsed to cook but will starve otherwise. Basically, I spend my life saying FFS!
RIGHT! Like it'd better be an emergency if you're calling past 8pm lol
Load More Replies...With me, it's paying close enough attention to my phone to make sure I swipe the red phone icon instead of the green one.
Or trying to figure out where the ringing is coming from. Call ends before you find your phone and now you are going to spend the next 45 minutes tearing apart ever piece of furniture you own searching for it. Maybe in the kitchen, maybe in the bathroom, maybe under the clean clothes needing folding pile!! Life is just one big adventure after another.
When You Have A Big Project At Work But Choose To Reorganize Your Desk, Clean-Up Your Email, And Perfect Your Voicemail Greeting Instead
Lol. Like, during the weekend, I start doing something I've been meaning to do. But I get side-tracked on so many tangents that at the end of the day, I find I never finished what I originally started out to do.
The gutters are blocked, the storm water forms a lake around the house, and I'm cleaning my mobile phone screen for the third time today
Oh I just did that the last 3 hours (side quests, avoiding the main story) .. in video games AND real life.. still feld good, this lazy fluffy sunday.
It’s like trying to play a game with tired/thirst/hunger meters. You get so into those you can’t do the actual story! (Also why I play my RPGs with mods. I wanna escape reality)
i always felt so bad for him when watching spongebob.
Conversation With My Twin, Apparently We're Only The Same Age On Paper...
I remember in high school I would babysit for $6 an hour. I distinctly remember how rich I felt when they would have a special night out and would come back late and give me my $36 plus tip. I wouldn’t spend it for a while and just enjoy my exorbitant wealth 😂
An extra $1500 in my bank account would have me jumping up and down like that teenager.
I'd jump up and down now if I had that sort of loot leftover!
Load More Replies...Shoot, I get excited now if I have $100 in my bank account at the end of the month, the bills are paid and I'm middled-aged. I can't wait to be a burden to my kids when they're older. 😁😜
Adulthood is realising $5000 is a lot of money to owe, but not a lot of money to have.
Lol. Yep. Granddad gave a $100 when I was 15. Parh-Ty! Bought two jeans, three tops (one for my neighbor) and 3 scarves she and I shared…….uh, I think I I might be old. Mom gave me the same for a wedding present and it was 3 outfits. Gonna crawl in a corner now…no one needs me at work…..
I haven’t raw dogged some shuteye in way too long, I relate to this :(
I have had insomnia my whole life. Wasnt til i was an adult that i could get sleep aid help... even then it doesnt always work. Plus VA doc wont give me actual sleep meds like ambien or lunesta or whatever just glorified allergy meds
Hate those allergy meds - I might get a few hours sleep but the nightmares are horrendous.
Load More Replies...A lot of sleep disorders don't develop until adulthood. Don't be afraid to talk to your dog and get a sleep study. You're never going to sleep like you did when you were 5 again(kids spend a lot more time in deep sleep than adults. This is that stage when you can sling a kid over your shoulder and carry them to bed without waking them) but you can get restful restorative sleep
Dogging has a different meaning Britain... But if you tried dogging Brit style at least it would tire you out enough to sleep soundly...
It means the same thing in the US. The term was used here to be funny. Nothing extra was used.
Load More Replies...Let's not forget having to get up to pee several times during the night
Sleeping is the only thing I have to look forward to right now, so usually I have no trouble.
I think the correct sentence structure here is: "Mutual the feeling is."
Load More Replies...as a 30 year old I agree. I went out with two of my aunts yesterday, and I felt like Baby Yoda around them. One of them even went to ask to the clerk why my pizza was taking so long lol Then I go to the park during Pokémon Go Community Days and I feel like the right picture
Yup. Grew up with a friend that became a 2nd grade teacher at age 27 and she parties HARD, I’ve personally dragged her home at 2am like “you have to hang out with a bunch of 8 year olds tomorrow, you need your wits about you ” hahaha (before some of you start picking this apart, she’s fantastic honestly, definitely handles her business at all times and is very professional but just likes to live her life on the wild side)
There wouldn’t be enough booze in the world for me if I had her job, so kudos to her.
Load More Replies...When I was student teaching, my supervisor was a very prepared alcoholic. I say "prepared," because she had a whole folder full of exercises for the kids to do when she was hungover.
I had a migraine once, didn't want to drive 20min to go get excedrin. My mom had chronic pain, gave me a vicodin. Figured I should just have half. It worked! A few hours later, went to the bar with my sister. Had a beer and a neck of a second, felt like 6. Gave it to my sis. My dad laughed, popped another Xanax with his beer. I finally understood how he could afford to go to the bar every night
Be a good person and give blood before you drink for the same reason
Learn to play an instrument. Learn to sew. Learn to garden. Learn to dance.
This one reminds me of a Family Circus comic. The little boy is sitting on his bed in his underwear and shirt, holding his pants on and he says, "You mean I have to get dressed every day for the rest of my life?"
Start doing some stuff..read, travel locally, walk, raise plants, learn a language, volunteer, go to garage sales..it helps
No Darling you wait for it .....your knees go out ,your back ,you fart and poop with ease , your feet grow ,your earlobes have more hair than the top of your head you cough and have to run for the bathroom, thank God your still alive while father time starts picking off your friends other than that you pray that you remember where you put your teeth ,as well as remember you DONT have a cat , stay tuned for bol. 2,3,4,5,6,
Watch St Elmo's Fire. It's about burnt out 20-something's trying to manage adulthood. It won't help or fix you, but the cast is full of beautiful people royally messing up their lives and putting the pieces back together-ish.
Oh mate, major sympathies. I’ve had three of those and the pain is unbelievable.
Load More Replies...Oh yeah, this is me all over. "Ow something I can't identify is aching! Welp, time to sit down and write up my last will and testament."
All the time... But so far it's been ok except for the gall bladder, that one will let you know real fast. As far as spontaneous body breaking down any way.
I don’t game anymore but I’m a huge advocate. GO PLAY AND ENJOY YOUR DAMN LIVES! :)
I think it’s saying the only time you could ever feel awake and well rested is in a video game because it’s impossible to have that in real life. Which I agree with. I never feel that no matter how much sleep I get!
This is Animal Crossing and owning a house with the mortgage paid in full...
Yeah, I feel Well Rested enough! Now, Alduin awaits...! Victory or Sovngarde!!!
Not, if you are a werewolf (those who know the game this pic is from also know what I talk about)
But that one guy had it worse and would change spontaneously because he stole that ring
Load More Replies...I can't imagine living in a country where this is the norm... The one thing I learned during my working years, is that I'm replaceable until I get back and resume my job again. No one is indispensable.... However, I guess I was fortunate enough to have lived in a country with acceptable rules for people when getting sick on the job. Doesn't matter if you're sick for a week, months... You get paid.
Was bored last night and instead of finishing off Love, death and robots I went and cleaned the heck out of my car..and then quickly yelled at the sky that all I do is work!
I saw this like 5-8 years ago and it was hilarious. I see it now and it’s a different kind of hilarious. (See middle bottom image.)
Clean the kitchen. No, really, it needs cleaning. Did you just clean the kitchen? Too bad, Kitchen needs cleaning.
Having a healthy attitude just means thinking to yourself "At least this'll make a good story later" when something goes wrong.
Truth. Last week trees were out to get me and my dog. Stepped on a massively long thorn from a hawthorn tree and skewered my foot (yes, I was wearing shoes, it was THAT long) and tiny dog got clobbered by a large acorn and she turned and glared at me!!
Load More Replies...I’ve got a reputation at work for being incredibly funny. Truth is, I just make jokes about all the stuff that’s happened to me.
Chronic illness with depression and mobility problems, I get stuck in one position or end up on the floor and start giggling because it's so ridiculous. Then I laugh so much I wet myself, so laugh more because it's even sillier. I also threaten to make certain people laugh til their shoes squelch. It's laugh or cry time.
White boomers went to college for the price of an orange and were given a house for the price of a pineapple.
now McDonald's and walmart START at almost $20/hr where I live. they literally pay more than most jobs in my field. and walmart isn't dead end, you can make up to $30 if u become a manager or take a night shift. this is my plan b, I told my family and they literally cried on the couch. but the money is there and not in teaching. and you don't have to wrack up 100k in grad school debt to work there.
Wouldn't raising the minimum wage be bad for small businesses? I'm not trying to sound mean, I'm genuinely asking.
Yes, definitely. And by harming small businesses you are harming the very low-wage workers you try to help. If a low-wage worker's labor is only worth 10$ an hour but government mandates they be paid 20$, the business loses 10$ every hour they keep the worker. He'll get fired within seconds. So now you've ended up with businesses forced to raise prices and lots of unemployed workers who cannot be employed. You just removed the bottom rungs of a ladder, hoping that'll help people on the bottom climb up, but what actually happens is they fall off.
Load More Replies...Been there, done that. Now I’m mad at myself for throwing away perfectly good Tupperware.
I've done that with mystery Tupperware in the back of the fridge that no one knows what is in it
Load More Replies...I saw a life hack for this! Fill it with soap and water AND a sheet of paper towel and let it sit overnight. The next day, give it a good shake before opening to clean. Works on stubborn oil/tomato sauce/peanut butter/mayo. Doesn't work if you don't want to do the washing bit at all.
I did this exact thing 5 minutes ago! When I read the name of this thread before opening it I thought I'll get a few laughs from these irresponsible adults. Dang, all these are way to relatable
Remember when we bought our original Tupperware we were told that Tupperware came with a lifetime warranty?? Jokes on you, just try to find a flippin Tupperware lady to get a replacement!
A "what the heck" moment ! It was probably stained by something tomaroe-y anyway ?
OMG I did the thing with my Armada. Showed everyone.
Load More Replies...Saw one on here yesterday where a mechanic was sooo delighted a car he was working on reached 12345 mileage. I totally get it. But, it must be really hard to press that accelerator again. Lol.
Park reverse neutral drive. It's an automatic, you know, the kind people who can't handle a stick shift may drive with a limited drivers license in Europe.
Load More Replies...I recommend building a blanket fort and ignoring reality.
Load More Replies...I think the best years of my life might very well have been ages 5 through 8.
I do not want to adult. I want to Goat. I want to jump around randomly, eat what I want, and headbutt anyone who annoys me. My Capricorn heart in a small nutshell.
I don't know how my parents did it . . . 3 kids and no where near as many appliances as today. Yard work, cooking and laundry must have been continuous!
I wonder how my mother did it. I'm 57 now so I'm talking 40+ years ago. Mom & dad had there own business. Mom ran the office. Came home, cooked from scratch. Never bought a box of prepared food in her entire life. Did laundry. House was always clean. I'm twice divorced, have 3 dogs, no kids, and can't find the time to dust. Okay, if I wasn't online like I am now, yes I would have the time. But you know what I mean.
Load More Replies...It's just me and my rats and I don't even work full time and there STILL aren't enough hours in the day. It's a damn mystery is what it is. ...well, time for another hour long nap! And then it's back to browsing around YouTube.
I finally realised that I simply don't like cleaning up ... I'd rather do anything else.
Load More Replies...I once accused my mom of having kids to get her dishes done. I was shocked when she burst out laughing.
This is why I can’t have kids. I’m busy enough taking care of myself and two kitty boys, I don’t even want a boyfriend at this rate
That's the question. It doesn't add up. And you constantly feel bad about needing to attend meetings at school, pick up your kid early when pre-school calls you or stay home when your kids are sick. (And the laundry and dishes (even with a dishwasher) are endless.) My husband works 50% to make it work-ish but I still get that mom-responsibility as being the one they call first even though I work 100%. I honestly don't know how single parents or two parents working 100% solve the puzzle!
Imagine the busiest day of your year, when you’re up before dawn and keep going nonstop until after midnight. Now do this for years/decades on end, no days off, while the rest of society criticizes your every decision. When mine were little, being at work was the most relaxing part of my day by far. The payoff is magnificent, but it’s indescribably hard work.
I'm Gen X and child-free, but I can't help but notice that there seems to be some sort of Competitive Parenting trend going on. All of the parents I know are crazy stressed about things like missing their child's soccer practice. Soccer PRACTICE! Not even a game, but a *practice*. WTAF?? It also seems like parents are scrutinized and criticized for every minute decision. Also, if your kid has a play date, then you have to go too and sit there the whole time discussing and comparing milestones for your 68-month old, or whatever? I don't know who changed the rules, but that's some BS right there. Hats off to all you parents - you're very brave.
Load More Replies...I have fond memories of not being tired. Or in pain. Oh, those were the the days!
Yes. Especially with the god-damned American school system. I know the meme's not about America specifically, but since I'm American and don't know what it's like elsewhere, I can only speak for myself. But the schools here just teach you how to make someone else richer, to conform, to work in a factory, and not to collaborate with others. I mean, there's hardly any other time in life outside of school that you'll be in a situation where you can't collaborate with others, so why not encourage it in school? They don't want you to succeed, they want you to conform. Anyways, fun rant :(
They claimed group projects were to prepare us for collaborative projects. Lol, no. Clubs on the other hand and other activities.
Load More Replies...A parents job is to get a child ready to live on their own in every way. Never do something for a child that they can do for themself. The schools are not failing children, inadequate parenting is
My old work (a cable company i left because the owners publicly supported the... incident at the white house, and one of them were caught posting pictures they photoshopped pictures that made it look like muslims were responsible for Notre Dame) acquired a company in another state and said we were going to take over their customers too. We asked for training on their vastly different policies and products and they said what do you need training on. They looked at us like we were crazy when we said we wanted the new employee training for that company. Also I won't protect her identity, it's Susan Block and she is a terrible person. Most of this stuff has been scrubbed except for the news articles
School definitely doesn't teach you how to be an adult. Had to learn how to balance a check book, pay bills by my self. I still don't understand how to get the most out of my 401k or how to invest in anything. Everyone tells me you got time you're young. Well, I don't want to wait until I'm too old to enjoy my money.
It's unfortunate that so many parents are raising their children in such a way that they have no experience to fall back on when they reach adulthood. I guess the parents can take consolation in having a childhood's worth of blue ribbons and participation trophies though.
Are.participation trophies even real though or is that just a right wing trope? Gen X here, no such thing at our school, my cousins, millennials, no such thing at their schools, my kids, Gen Z, no participation trophies there either. Standard gold , silver and bronze in sports and 1st/2nd in academic competition and the rest get nowt. Zero,.zilch, nothing.
Load More Replies...I know where mine is, it expired 10 years ago though and I know I got the form to renew it…but I can’t find it!
Load More Replies...I don't have one. Hell, I don't even know how old I am, where or when I was born. The country I was "born in" doesn't even exist anymore. The UN refugee agency simply gave me the US holiday of Thanksgiving. Bday for you! And you! And you! And you all get US holidays for Bdays! (As long as your final destination is US.) This happened to everyone I knew. Pretty sure my bro was supposed to be Easter but it got lost in translation somewhere so his is April Fool's. 😏 Oh, AND then they proceeded to terminally, legally f*** us all up by Anglicizing his and my family name so it no longer matched my parent's.😬
Y'all know that to get the new driver's license, Real ID or something, you need your original birth certificate or a certified copy
B*the, I don't even remember if I ate breakfast, you think I remember where the hell my birth certificate is! Lol
Load More Replies...A document you effing need to get married... like "Dude, I'm alive, standing right in front of you, I was born at some point, why do you need that?"
Haven't seen mine for a long while, must be hiding under spider's web somewhere with foreign currency !! The trip we COULDN'T take ! Wonder how much is actually there ??
it's a good habit. You use every drop and recycle a clean container
Load More Replies...I threw away the last sliver of a bar of soap the other day. Just threw it away like I’m made of money. V proud adulting moment!
Adding water to things to extend their use. (Because you can’t afford to buy more)
Load More Replies...Rinsing the empty container to squeeze another wash out of it
Load More Replies...It Feels Good When You Start Working As A Team With Yourself
Unless it is a different brand with different pricing all together, chicken is one of those sold by weight items. At least here in the usa (and not counting frozen). Getting it from the meat/deli section, going for the cheaper one would mean less food
True, but if you don't actually weigh out your food portions to ensure you're getting a specific amount of calories/nutrients, a slightly smaller piece is fine, and therefore better on the wallet (especially kosher chicken, that stuff is *expensive*).
Load More Replies...Some of us had a close caregiver say this to us at 10. And being an adult isn’t so bad because we broke out
Just one close caregiver? Try all of them, plus the other kids at school and in the neighborhood. They are slowly stopping saying s**t like this as they are all dying out
Load More Replies...If you’ve experienced any kind of abuse, you’ve definitely internalized the former. I made sure to print this and hang it somewhere so then I’ll never forget exactly how God meant for me to be- for all of us to be. I’m grateful that I don’t have to deal with the abusive members of my family anymore and God showed me that he always intended better. My dad and his family knew better- they just didn’t care to listen to Him and do what Scripture says!
I would say this to my ten year old self. No hesitation. Ten year old me was stupid
Hey, it was 10 years ago, when I was 47, when I finally found my dream job. I absolutely love what I do now. Don't give up. If you keep trying, it can happen.
You don't have to know at 25 or 30 what you want to do "for the rest of your life". That's a myth that could stop you from living. Yes, sure it's good to have some foundation to fall back on, education for example, but life changes paths so many times it's unrealistic that even if you find your "dream" at 25 it will last. At 25-30 you could have 2/3 of your life left. And even if you don't- things will always be changing. I actually find a lot of peace in that mindset.
All I wanted to do with my life was be a mum. Now they are all at school I don’t know what to do during the day. I asked the kids for their opinion as to what kind of job I should do and after much hemming and hawing they said I should just have more babies.
My mom was in the exact same situation when all four of her kids went to school, so my parents decided to become foster parents. They cared for 50+ medically challenged babies (drug/alcohol addicted, cerebral palsy, a 1 lb 10 oz preemie, etc.) over their approximately 15 years as foster parents, and we ended up adopting my sister who we got when she was 6 weeks old. Also, many people don't know this, but you can volunteer to go cuddle and feed the newborns in hospital nurseries or NICU. Nurses need the extra help with the drug/alcohol addicted babies who are suffering through withdrawal symptoms.
Load More Replies...My teacher asked me what I want to do I said I want to become a teacher. He said never become a teacher it's the most boring job😶
When I was a kid (with sensory issues) I cried because they were SO uncomfortable. At 37 I cry for obvious different reasons 😂 (How do you fit your waist, butt, thighs and phone all in the same jeans? WTF 😭 )
Load More Replies...There is literally NO rule that says you have to HAVE a New Year resolution at all. Why are you people punishing yourselves?
Uuuunless you have ADHD and ADHD paralysis. Then it doesn't quite work that way...
I did this for the first time recently- just for a shot, but I was a bit nervous still. But I did well!!
Proud of u :) that’s a sign of officially Adulting!
Load More Replies.....there’s no rule that says you HAVE to go to the drs alone when you’re an adult. If you need the support you absolutely can have someone come along, I know of a trans couple that always go together, they are able to be there for for the other when it’s the others’ turn (and need the support when it’s their own turn).
Why? Would you not still love me? If I was a lamp? Why are you asking that 😠 /s haha
Load More Replies...Haha. I can so relate to when I got my first job after graduation. I got my own office and my name at the door and I felt so much like a little kid visiting a parent at work and also childishly proud. Very mixed feelings. "Do they really trust me to make decisions myself? They must have hired the wrong person". But yeah, then I realized no one actually feel like an adult- we just keep doing whatever we are doing and hope for the best.
Look, what I'm trying to say is, you're just a kid. And to be a manager, you have to be a man! Otherwise they'd call it "kidager!" You understandager- I mean, you understand?
I do this and say "f**k it" and go buy takeout every time. Spirit willing, flesh weak, and all that.
Almost every day. "I'm tired, had a bad day, it's hot outside. " It's 50/50 on succeeding.
Load More Replies...I only have 5 days of shore leave this rotation, damn rights I'm eating nothing but takeout. Dishes? Nope!
And it has to be the right plunger. That sink plunger she has won't work on a toilet.
I can get a sink plunger to work AND sometimes I can get it to finally flush when clogged without any intervention. These are my secret super powers.
Load More Replies...I thought I didn’t own a plunger. Went and bought a plunger. Then realized landlord supplied me a plunger, just put it in a weird spot. Then, while unpacking, realized I for some reason packed the plunger from my last apartment. I have never used any of them. Am I 3x extra adult or just a weirdo?
The trick to not clogging up the loo is to avoid matzo. It makes for at least 14 couric sized turds.
Tonight my husband realised that we are paying over $6K in health insurance each year.
Based On The True Story Of My Adult Life
The doormat in front of my house says ‘Introverted Lap Cactus Hedgehog, Not Welcome to Strangers or Nosy Neighbors. P.S. My Cats Are Not Rabid Just Sassy.’
Lol, bought 1 for my BF that says "Dont stop, be leaving "... you have to sing it like Journey tho!
It means there's something you forgot. And you won't remember it until the most inconvenient moment. 😳
Let’s All Add These To Our Lexicon
Scrunch it up in a big ball, jam it into the basket, spend 40 minutes getting it onto the mattress, iron it with your body. FlatSheetCommando
There are many MANY adult things I cannot and do not and will not do. But I can fold the HELL out of a fitted sheet. It is my one superpower.
Fold like regular sheets just tuck the corners into each other while you're doing it. Easy peasy. Now... How to be an adult?
Just roll it up. It’s not important to have everything folded in specific ways, I don’t know why people get so fixated on stuff like this. Recently I had a friend ask me if I could send her a photo of my laundry cupboard so she could see how I fold and store my fitted sheets. I just don’t know why people spend time on this kind of stuff!
I read an article once where people answered the question "when did you realise you were now an adult". One of them was a guy who said he was on the subway and some creepy homeless dude was harassing a group of women and children. The victims kept glancing at him and he suddenly realised that he was the grown man in this situation and they were hoping he would step in and help.
I realised when a teenager called me "sir" instead of "dude"
Load More Replies...OMG! I know! He's so cute!! Do you think his smile is photoshopped or real?
Load More Replies...I don’t remember when someone younger than me or another adult first called me “ma’am,” but I do remember that happening once when I was 25 and I thought “ I’m only 25! Oh, wait, I am an adult….”
The first day after bringing my firstborn baby home from the hospital. I was absolutely sure they had made a big mistake letting her come home with me. Like, without adult supervision. I just barely knew which end to diaper!
I usually go to the actual place to make the appt. just to avoid calling on the phone to do it.
Someone Made A Hard Decision Today
Hopefully, they had enough money left over for half that many cervezas!
Just for the reaction take both up to the till, act like you don't have enough money for both and put the nappies back.
Why? They're nice colors, but ig he doesn't look like he's enjoying it
Load More Replies...I have a house key on my car key ring, on my purse, on my work Lanyard as well as on my house key fob.
when your unconscious you don't have to think about things, or listen/talk to people.
Cannot take that stuff. Makes me feel very exactly where my kidneys are, and their disapproval of use of it, so I'd have to take another, this time stronger, painkiller to get rid of this. The entire class of agents, forgot their name, does this. I have no other kidney issues whatsoever, got that checked.
Not just NSAIDs, ibuprofen in particular is bad for kidneys and cause kidney failure if over used.
Load More Replies...Please pray for my liver. Not for alcohol but for all the painkillers.
Looking for a new job and realising i’m going to most likely have to start all over again for the third time at nearly 30. Found an admin assistant job listing, full time and minimum wage, experience 3+ years required, qualifications? BATCHELORS degree. What the fudge
Apply for it anyway! If you have even a little experience you should apply. A ton of jobs say they require a 4 year degree, but most places will happily take experience over a degree any day. You don't have to match the ad exactly - if you have say half of the desired qualifications you should apply. Good luck!
Load More Replies...Strange . . . I get the men are just talking to themselves about themselves and I just happen to be there . . .
Do you have to refuse too many people entry into heaven?
Load More Replies...And as soon as you do, they turn your room into a storeroom or crafts room.
Didn't that mean the wish came true . . . we are bad at being adults!
Omfg this. Last month's electric bill was bigger than the family food budget. I'm still not sure why.
French here and more than half of my bill is subscription and taxes... 🤦♀️
Load More Replies...Especially since ConEd increased their rate. My husband and I got a good quality window fan. It works out well since our bed is right next to a window. It's saved us a lot of money on electricity.
my brother works at Chick-fil-A. if you prove that you are at least trying, you get some benefits. My brother is just a people person, so he fits well there. He also got a scholarship from them
Load More Replies...hmm ... work as a slave... or work as a slave for a theocratic corporation. hmm.
I Think I Hit Peak Adult Today!!
She uses "GeneticsTM". Ask your doctor if "GeneticsTM" is right for you.
I have a cat just so I can see what peaceful sleep looks like, since I won't be getting any myself probably for the rest of my life . . .
It's called back pain and it normally comes at 3am because you slept wrong.
nah dude, just buy unhealthy c**p and use it to end yourself, that's what I do. If you're going to die poor and miserable you may as well enjoy it.
Never threaten something you cannot fulfill. Never punish with something that is mean. They won't learn to behave better they just learn resentment.
I went to the store last Friday morning and bought too much frozen food, so I had Orange Sherbet for breakfast. I'm 72-11/12. Was good.
I can NEVER have all 3. I can only achieve 2 of these at one time. As soon as I get all 3, something changes and it's 2 again, or only 1 and I have start all over . . . OUCH!
I must be post-adult then. I want a caravan/winabago and about $ 1m.
I only adult when it's necessary. The rest of the time I can be myself and blow raspberries at grumpy Karens
Sometimes You Have To Act Like A Kid To Be An Adult
it's because independence only comes from financial independence which only comes from being a f*****g oligarch.
Made a big decision on who has access to my life. My anxiety has lessened a lot.
Teenager too. Freshman year of highschool is hard, especially since I just moved and don't have my normal friends
nah, this must be a cultural weirdness. I only know one person like this and she suffers from BPD.
In this case, if you are too afraid to ask anyone, you should probably check #1 (or maybe #2 in the mean time) on this list!
place a bowl of water (not a plastic bowl) in the oven, turn to a medium heat for 1 hour, then switch off. once oen cools down it should be easy/easier to clean
better still, avoid credit cards and put that money into a savings account, then buy.
Actually, put your wage into a high-interest or offset account - know your budget and pay for everything via credit card - pay credit card off in full each and every month - your money is earning and you use the bank's for free and build a good credit rating.
yep, lots of people are ranting/scared of the credit rating thing. If you know how to manage it, it works.
Wow, what a great idea! I'm sure nobody thought about it before, are you Adam Smith??!!
Adam Smith thought of stuff that wasn't thought of before.
Load More Replies...Yeah, it's not phrased in the best way. I THINK it is saying that to budget properly you shouldn't focus on saving money and watching a mythical account balance grow. Just focus on how you are spending money so you can control your money better (the savings will follow). But I could be wrong :-)
Load More Replies...Me at 45: 20 years more before retirement. I can at last get paid to rest and stay at home! Canadian Government: Gen X, your retirement age is at 70.
I thought it was 67....or is that just for us "late boomers" ? Never mind it's still the stuff of poverty unless you're pensioned at work or married to someone who is.
Load More Replies...I guess adulting is a bit like any other skill - no-one is perfect at it. I've been with my partner for nearly 36 years, we own our own home (well, the bank still owns a chunk of it), we have an 18 year old heading off to uni next year, I'm reasonably expert in my specialist area and have been in my current job for 12 years. Tick, tick, tick, tick, tick. BUT... I'm still too scared to learn to drive so don't have a license. BTW I'm not saying doing all these things defines you as an adult - just that at face value it makes me look quite grown up (once I even got the yukky bits out of the plughole with my BARE HANDS).
hey, you make me feel good about learning to drive at 20. here in USA, most people are learning at 14/15. if you can live without it, don't judge yourself. :)
Load More Replies...I'm officially scared to grow up. I already was but yeah.
Oh, adulting isn't quite that bad. Of course, I'm on the far side of it now---70 y.o.---but I did work for 52 years, have been driving for 58 years (parents taught me at the age of 12), have had, and lost, two children. Was married, but been happily divorced for over 40 years, and don't plan to go that route again. There's been a ton of stuff over the years, some of it really awful, like when my children died. But for the most part, it's been a good life, and I look forward to more of it, no matter how little might be left.
Me at 45: 20 years more before retirement. I can at last get paid to rest and stay at home! Canadian Government: Gen X, your retirement age is at 70.
I thought it was 67....or is that just for us "late boomers" ? Never mind it's still the stuff of poverty unless you're pensioned at work or married to someone who is.
Load More Replies...I guess adulting is a bit like any other skill - no-one is perfect at it. I've been with my partner for nearly 36 years, we own our own home (well, the bank still owns a chunk of it), we have an 18 year old heading off to uni next year, I'm reasonably expert in my specialist area and have been in my current job for 12 years. Tick, tick, tick, tick, tick. BUT... I'm still too scared to learn to drive so don't have a license. BTW I'm not saying doing all these things defines you as an adult - just that at face value it makes me look quite grown up (once I even got the yukky bits out of the plughole with my BARE HANDS).
hey, you make me feel good about learning to drive at 20. here in USA, most people are learning at 14/15. if you can live without it, don't judge yourself. :)
Load More Replies...I'm officially scared to grow up. I already was but yeah.
Oh, adulting isn't quite that bad. Of course, I'm on the far side of it now---70 y.o.---but I did work for 52 years, have been driving for 58 years (parents taught me at the age of 12), have had, and lost, two children. Was married, but been happily divorced for over 40 years, and don't plan to go that route again. There's been a ton of stuff over the years, some of it really awful, like when my children died. But for the most part, it's been a good life, and I look forward to more of it, no matter how little might be left.
