People Are Sharing The Things Those “Without Siblings Will Never Understand” And Here’re 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones
There’s an abundance of scientific research made on how having siblings affects our lives. Sometimes best friends, sometimes rivals, they are a quintessential part of our lives and there’s not much we can do about them.
No wonder, after many years without contact, people feel an urge to reconnect with their brothers and sisters as no matter what, they’re still the closest people they have.
So when someone posed a question “What’s something that people without siblings will never understand?” it surely hit a soft spot for many. Thousands of people started sharing their experiences and it clearly seems like life with siblings is full of weirdly particular quirks that they feel like only they can get.
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You don't apologize after a fight, you just start talking to them again
To find out more about the complex workings of sibling relationships and in what ways they influence our lives, Bored Panda reached out to Helen Marlo, a licensed clinical psychologist and Jungian Psychoanalyst, certified through the C.G. Jung Institute of San Francisco. Helen is also a tenured Professor of Clinical Psychology at Notre Dame de Namur University where she is the Department Chair.
“Research, as well as my professional and personal experience, confirms that sibling relationships exert a powerful influence on one’s life and development,” Helen told us. “So, the presence or absence of siblings is significant in shaping one’s experience although one is not necessarily better or worse. They are different.”
Helen explained that while we know siblings are influential, the effect of growing up with a sibling is not linear because the sibling relationship is complex. “Some siblings become best friends while others are arch enemies. Some people are fulfilled by having siblings while others find fulfillment as only children. Their life experiences, however, are different,” the clinical psychologist explained.
Why it's a bad idea to put a light switch OUTSIDE the bathroom door
They'll add the "OoooOoooooooOoo" sounds and you have trauma for lifetime
"Please don't tell mum! Look, you can hit me back!"
And the amount of fear, anxiety, dread, waiting for them to accept the offer before mom hears the cries 😭
The fact that as the oldest sibling you may give the younger siblings s**t. But nobody else is allowed to give them s**t.
You also love them more than they could ever know.
Moreover, Helen argues that findings that generalize about siblings can be misleading. “For example, findings on the influence of birth order or recent research asserting that sibling relationships are more important than parent relationships. Often, these findings do not also acknowledge the influence of other important variables, including psychological, family, systemic, developmental, environmental, and cultural factors that mediate the influence of the sibling relationship,” she said.
Helen continued by saying that this explains why such findings do not fit for many people. “Take sibling conflict. It is not necessarily negative. Parental warmth during sibling conflict, for example, influences if the sibling conflict leads to healthy rather than divisive sibling relationships. It can help prepare one to develop problem solving and negotiation skills.”
“Dude come here”
“Why?”
“I wanna show you something”
“No, you’re gonna hit me”
B- "QUICK! QUICK! COME HERE YOU HAVE TO SEE THIS!! YOU'RE GOING TO MISS IT!! QUIIICK, YOU PIG" Me (running at a speed I've never known myself to achieve): WHAT!? WHERE!!? B- (holding a mirror infront of my face) "Oh lookie, a real life DUMBASS"
Hating someone who is literally just sitting in the same room as you and isn't doing anything, just their presence is annoying
It's funny when you're in third person, watching two siblings fight. I've seen my cousins throw slippers, and utensils at each other for a KitKat piece. That was the highlight of my day!
The clinical psychologist also noted that “while generalizations do not fit for many sibling relationships, growing up with siblings generally is accompanied by having a stronger sense of being part of a family and with feeling less alienated and alone.”
Helen argues that siblings have a daily influence in our lives. “Therefore, [siblings] can be associated with many strong emotional memories including sharing together in the traditions, joys, secrets, and challenges in family life,” she explained. What’s interesting is that although siblings encounter the same experiences, they experience them in their own unique way and these can be sources of challenge and connection.
The soul crushing grief when one passes away.
Also the connection to another human being that can validate your experiences. Having someone who can say, "yes, that really happened.".
My younger sister passes suddenly about three years ago. I have a younger brother as well and we were all able to call each other when we had nightmares to figure out if it was a memory or a dream. We were each other's PTSD support group.
My brother is currently living with and caring for our elderly father who was our tormentor for decades. I could not love or appreciate him more. I tried. I couldn't do it. He is still abusive and aggressive. When my brother gets overwhelmed, I am only a phone call away, to listen, validate and support him. We are all each other has and I know that I will always have his back and vice versa. Siblings are as big a blessing later in life as they are imagined a curse when growing up.
You may give your kidney but you will never give that tv remote
well the tv remote is a matter of life or death, but kidney not so much
According to Helen, another way having siblings may influence you is that starting one’s own family and having a child can feel more familiar, known and natural when one has siblings.
The clinical psychologist who grew up in a large family herself also said that there are a lot of things her fellow siblings fostered in her. “Personally, having siblings has fostered in me a sense of connection and security; empathy; acceptance; compromise; tolerance; an appreciation of diversity; and having a greater focus on and understanding of others,” she explained.
Making your sibling laugh so their cries are not credible
Having to hide your snacks because they'll be gone in seconds
The amount of blackmail you have on each other that creates a Cold War scenario
When asked what’s unique about sibling relationships, Helen said that they’re unique because “they share together, with one another, in one of life’s most important relationships, the parent relationship, for better and for worse.” It turns out that “sharing in this relationship can readily elicit complex, myriad feelings such as competition, jealousy, intimacy, inferiority, superiority, and resentment. Siblings face issues related to the sharing and division of parental resources both material and psychological.”
There are many more ways in which sibling relationships are unique, Helen argues. “Sibling relationships are unique because they occupy a distinct and different role relative to parents and other family members, even in cases when the sibling serves as a parent figure. Sibling relationships are unique because sibling roles are more fluid than the parental role and can include elements of being both family and friend.”
When your younger sibling is allowed to do things at his young age that you were not allowed to do.
For example :
He could go to bed whenever he wanted at the age of 12 when I was forbidden to go to bed past 10 PM at his age.
He got in trouble for worse s**t than me, but got punished less. (Wayyy less)
He got his phone earlier than me.
When he got bad grades at school, my parents scolded him for a few minutes then forgot about it. When I had bad grades, I would be punished (no computer/video games for a week, grounded for a week, etc..)
That was pretty infuriating.
(For instance, I'm 23 and he's 15)
Yesssss. I'm the oldest of 3 sisters and i'm still pissed and will never let it go. -.-
Specifically for older siblings:
The wave of fear that shudders through you at the moment that your younger sibling breaks into tears within earshot of your parents because of something you did.
Getting offered something by your parents, saying no, and then when you see them ask your sibling, you're like, 'Wait a minute, I want that.'
There's a part missing from this, it is only when the sibling says y- that you scream and say BUT I WANTED THAT! Then proceed to throw a big tantrum in public, then when you get the thing, not even use it because the satisfaction of stealing something is way better than the atual object you threw a tantrum for.
Ultimately, siblings have a different function in the family than the parents. “For example, siblings support separation and independence from the parents and family; they share in a lived, joint history and experience of their family life, even if their experiences differ; they directly shape the experience of daily family life; they are uniquely able to help their siblings understand dimensions of their family life; and siblings help socialize their siblings in ways that parents cannot,” Helen concluded.
Having someone to complain about your parents to. I love my parents very much, but they are crazy sometimes
This hits home, now that our parents are mid 80s. It doesn't feel disloyal to rant with someone who you know cares and loves them as much as you do
Having a completely different perspective on your childhood is interesting. I have a brother and a sister and their memory of the household when we were kids is completely different than mine.
Older sibling here. Getting in trouble for EVERYTHING.
*smiles mischevously* i may or may not be the infamous youngest sibling
He literally HIT me and I got in trouble because my mum thought I was overexaggerating how painful it was.
YES! My sister gets in trouble for missing school or being annoying while I get in trouble for not shaving, reading Wattpad, being rude to my sister, the list goes on. My sister has literally kicked me in the gut. HOW DOES SHE NOT GET IN TROUBLE?!
OMG older sibling here… soooo f*****g true! i got yelled at cuz my BROTHER forgot to take out the trash
She got her finger caught in the car door once. Not sure why I got in trouble for this considering I had left the car and made it to the house before she even opened her own door.
I was 25, my brother was 18. He got his first tattoo. My mother's calls me at work and asks me to stop by afterward. I walk in she hits me! I got one first, but still I had nothing to do with his choice!!!
Hand-me-down clothes:
Knowing that I would "inherit" my older brother's clothes, he'd take me shopping with him so we could together choose things he'd like and that I'd eventually enjoy wearing once they became mine.
Idk if its just my siblings but they would come up to my door and just stand there. "What do you want", nothing just dead silence. And then they walk away with your door wide open
Literally dehydrating yourself so you don't lose the prime seat that if you get up from, will be stolen within seconds
or risking a UTI because you didn't dehydrate yourself and you really need to pee but can't give up the spot
That’s it’s possible to love someone who you usually hate
Siblings are the only people (mostly) around the same age you spent your entire childhood with, if you complain about the annoying habits of your parents, they will understand. And I can still call my brother "little brother" even though we're both in our late thirties and he's taller than I am
Haha yes! My brother is 28 and so much bigger than I am but he will always be my little brother.
How to love someone who's a total pain in the arse
Love? What love? I will tear him limb to limb next time he tries to touch my hair
It's so satisfying finally being player one when you were player 2 for years
my brother banned me from being player one on the WiiU after i accidentally deleted everything we had done on Rayman
Oldest gets the front seat. I am the eldest of 4 and had a monopoly on that front seat until we were all old enough to have our own cars
we also did this in my family, and the youngest had to sit in the middle of the three seats in the backseat
"Mom said it's my turn to play the Xbox"
The invisible line down the exact middle of the back seat of the car.
There's also one down the middle of the shared bed...inch your toe over the line and fights ensue
Having to sprint to the bathroom after saying something mean or throwing the last punch because it's the only room in the house that locks.
And then struggling to get the door closed behind you as they start beating and kicking it down like you are in some kind of psycho killer horror movie.
At that moment all care for anyone's safety goes out the window. But the relief you feel when you finally get that door closed is immense... until you inevitably have to open it...
The best part is how you have a lot of anger towards them for something they did, yet the next minute you are still willing to drop everything for them and carry on as nothing happened.
This is one younger siblings might not understand.
The moment you realize that your little brother or sister is their own person, and that they no longer idolize you as everything that they want to be.
He used to look up to me as the coolest guy in the world. I knew things he didn't, I could do things he couldn't, he would do any favor I asked him, he would even talk about me positively when I wasn't around. I played with him sometimes, but I also feel like I dismissed him, yelled at him, and fought with him too much. It wasn't abusive, but I know I've badly hurt him before, emotionally and physically.
Now I'm out of the house, and he's got his own high school life to deal with, and I'm rarely on his mind. Soon we'll both be adults, and he's essentially gonna become a peer akin to an "old buddy".
If you’re the oldest sibling: seeing how much more lenient your parents become and how much more your younger siblings can get away with than you did.
how come my sister can eat a tub of ice cream but i can't drink coke
From a social perspective, I'm essentially an acquaintance of my sister but I'd still perish to save her life
my sister is 8 years younger than me so we didn't really grow up together. we have none of the same interests, either. but i would absolutely die for her.
Having someone to talk to that 100% understands you as a person. Has the same humor, emotional responses. Someone you can be totally vulnerable and real with and never worry about judgment or their love flickering. My brother is my best friend, we've served as anchors for each other for decades and I love him unlike anyone else.
The sense of humour is important- my siblings and I never win Cards against humanity when we are playing with others because no one else finds the things we do funny.
When me and my brother were kids everything had to be equally shared. Especially food.
To the point where we put the glasses side by side to get exactly the same amount of juice for each one. I recall one time we counted the amount of Pringles chips and split them into two equal amounts. The crumbles and broken chips went to parents of course.
I (eldest of two) went out for dinner with two friends, one an only child and the other one of six. When a tray of bite size items was put in front of us, the has-siblings friend and I immediately said "Oh, that's three each of those ones, two each of those and those". The only child asked in amazement "How did you work that out so quickly?". A lifetime of sharing equally, my dear ...
The Little Brother Screech. It occurs when the inferior brother has realized that he has committed an impulsive, grave offense against the superior one...an offense that has crossed a line. And he realizes this just slightly too late, beyond the point at which anything can be changed. Having seen the flash of fury in your eyes, he now sees his life flash before his own. He knows he is about to suffer, deservedly so, and all he can do is scream in existential terror, because he is powerless in the face of the inevitable, and nothing--not even Mom--can save him.
That regularly insulting each other and flipping each other off is a sign of love. It's when we don't do that that something is wrong!
Sharing. It's simple, but I've never met an only child who truly understands how to share.
E: I know there are plenty of people without siblings who are capable of sharing, but it's learned in a different way. Growing up, my friends and I had the constant threat of "it's your sister's turn with x" looming over us, even if the object, food, activity, etc., was entirely ours. Even now that I'm 25 I am still prepared daily for my sister to knock on my door and ask if there's a laptop charger she can borrow.
Feel that your mom loves your sibling more than you even if she's denying it
In my case, I realized that the favorite child deserved it. Now I'm the one my parents are the most focused on, since I'm both severely depressed and heading into college.
no one:
not even a single soul:
my brother: u wanna fight huh let's fight
my little brother does this still, even tho he can't beat me, i just trip him and win XD
Having your parents call you your siblings name.
and their old teachers, and your cousins, aunts, uncles, everyone calls me by my sisters names
If your mother doesn't have enough money to buy one for each one no one gets anything.
A yes, in a household with a set of twins, having 1 pudding is worse than having none.
All siblings have their own weird language and ways of communicating that no one else can possibly understand
Me and my brother had a convesation that went like this: "Hm?" "Hm." "Hmmm!" "HM!" "hm" *leaves*
Eating things you don’t actually want at that moment because if you don’t have them now they’ll be gone and you’ll never get them. I call it defensive snacking
The unfairness of waiting until you're old enough to get something you've wanted forever only to have your younger sibling also get one at 4 years younger.
I'm still not over getting a computer at 11 after asking for three years only to hear my parents say "you're not old enough," then my younger sister gets one not a week later at 7 years old.
My little brother got his first phone in like second grade or something, i didn't have one until fifth grade, the pc came three years earlier for him than me.
Having to give stuff up to your younger sibling
Food tax.
Older sibling nice enough to warm up leftover pizza for you, but it comes with a HUGE bite taken out of it.
not necessarily food as tax tho. 21F cooks herself and 17ftM pasta? 17ftM does the dishes. but it works both ways. 17ftM walks the dogs? 21F is picking up the sh!t
The ever-changing alliances, is my brother on my side or my sister's side today?
Having your sister, and her friends, dress you up in their clothes, put on makeup, and make you prance around the house to Britney Spears. That happened to everyone else, right?
Absolutely, my brother was Lady Davina. And we have photographic evidence
That it is like a game of Survivor. Alliances, games, someone wins, someone is voted off the island
As an older brother, you become overprotective of your siblings in certain situations. If I get a bad vibe on the guy my sister is interested in, I will put the fear of god in said person.
My cousin (female) got married to an argentinian. He and I stepped out for a smoke together. I opened up my jacket to reach for my pack, making sure he got a clear view of everything. As we lit up, my gaze never left him. There won't be any problems in your marriage? His face went white, no sir. Good. Congrats on your marriage. 10 years later, she flew in to visit. She demanded to know what I said to her husband because he is terrified of me. I told her I didn't say anything. We went out for a smoke. I then opened up my jacket to reach for a pack of smokes and she saw my side piece. She rolled her eyes and started laughing.
One moment you guys are cool but then the next you are beating each other up
Parents trying to extract info about the others from you.
About grades yes. Oh! You got a 95 out of a hundred! Did you top the class? No! Who did them? How much did they score? See, they could do better than you which means that you could also have done better if you tried! Don't study! You're never gonna change! You'll be a failure in life.
Trying to wrestle your older sibling
The differences in how each sibling is raised or treated by the parents
Having an older sibling come into your room without asking but you can't tell them to get out because they're several years older and won't listen to you, so you have to deal with them being in your room for no reason.
The exhilarating rush of that first time you call shotgun before your older sibling
Getting REALLY good at ganging up on Mom to piss her off
I and my sibling will do this, even if we are in the biggest fight. We always know what buttons to push so we can get our way.
Looking up to your big brother who's five years older. Especially when he was 16 and I was 11 I genuinely thought he was the coolest person on earth, Pretty sure he thought I was really annoying. I would always hang out in his room when I was bored. It was when I was around 16, 17ish and he was about 22 that we started to get along really well. Sort of the way we did before he hit puberty. We are mostly known as the crazy Scheibler brothers. Even our older sister always remarks on how kuku we sometimes behave. He is one of maybe two people I know with whom I can talk about everything while eating some sushi and downing some vodka.
In our household, everyone knows my older borther is the coolest person on earth, and he is! I got sick at school once, and he drove to pick me up, gave me a bottle of Coca Cola, and drove me home, he even got me chocolate! And none of the others in the house can ever beat him in any videogame, except Gang Beasts, me and my little brother are the only ones who can win that game.
Resenting your sibling who lives in the same city as your parent but isn't doing anything to help your ailing mother making you drive 3 hours each way weekly to make sure she doesn't starve or be mistreated.
Going to watch them play sports. Why does it seem that a 1-hour game takes a lifetime?
Never had to watch sibling sports. Dad insisted that we watch him play football when we were very young. All complained that we were cold, hungry and bored. Mum agreed with us and was suddenly "too busy" to take us along and look after us there. She was too busy to start with, but dad used to sulk and throw tantrums until he got his own way.
closing that TV thing with your hands so your sibling can't change the channel you are currently watching
We had a hallway with a light switch on each end for the single light in the middle. Ours was leaving the hallway at night and putting the switch balanced perfectly in the middle so the light couldn't be turned on from the dark end.
That if you don’t get enough food with your first serving, you probably won’t get seconds! Or you have to literally inhale your food.
On a random (lol) side note, I eat my food really quickly now and get very upset when people eat “my” food, even if there’s plenty of it.
Clearly you do not have a Jewish/Italian/Korean mom! 🤣 NO ONE STARVES IN MY HOUSE! 🤣 Even with limited means, I don’t know how to cook small amounts!
Spending an hour looking for that one shirt, pants whatever that would match your outfit PERFECTLY! Going to school with something else on
Only to come home to find your brother wearing that very shirt/pants you've been looking for.
And trying your ABSOLUTE best not to go after him
Getting your a** beat by an older sibling and then offering each other tater tots to make it up
getting hit with various game console remotes. the worst one for me was a Wii remote with the Mario kart wheel attachment
Realizing you were probably the "plan A that didn't work out"
I found out at 14 that my parents weren't yet married when I was conceived. And I found out earlier this year that I was the only reason they got married, since their families didn't like them being together. And now they have 9 other kids and are very happy together XD.
Basing your career choices on your big siblings out of competitiveness for your parent's love, approval, and the power hierarchy
My main goal is to go through college, since my big brother dropped out during his first year. He's doing well for himself, though.
When I was little, the door on my room locked from the OUTSIDE. My little brother would lock me in always and it was the worst feeling ever. I got my revenge on him though eventually.
I am an older sibling of 2 people and this is the most relatable most ever.
I love my brother. Yes we had a lot of these posts growing up, but we also had each other's backs. Mother clearly favored him. We both knew it too. He did what he could to help. I knew then, and I still know now, that it wasn't his fault or doing. Our mother wanted boys only. I was treated like a leper. My brother took care of me, took me under his wing. I learned all kinds of cool stuff with him. To anyone out there who has a sibling like mine, Thank You, for being there.
My mother does tend to listen more to my brother, but we get our heads together and decide what needs to be said, and he does the saying. Here's to good brothers!
Load More Replies... What about that thing where you're dividing a drink between each other and you spend too long staring at the water level to make sure your siblings never got a single millimetre more than you?
The other day I taped a knife to my Kirby plush and left it on my brother's computer before he came home from school. The scream followed by hysterical laugher could be heard from the other side of the house.
When I was little my brother looked up to me always. But because of my anger issues he was always scared. We could never mess around or have the kind of relationship that other kids do because my parents were scared that I would hurt him. I love him so much and I just wish we were closer.
I am the eldest and i hate the way my brother breathes and how he exists but once every few somethings we have so much fun together that we forget we are sworn enemies
Me and my Twin will always help the other out, but you want the last pudding, yogurt or the TV remote, things won't be pretty.
My brother had a little cubby under his bed and he used to stick he in there and stuff pillows in after me until I cried that I couldn't breathe, also used to tie me to a chair and leave me there until I could wiggle myself out when he didn't want to play...I must have been a really annoying little sister
As an only child currently raising 3 children of my own, I've got to say sometimes sibling relationships are just baffling. They do seem to like each other far more often than they seem to hate each other so hopefully we are doing something right.
fck, i didn't have any of these. ,y brother was part of the satanist plan with the family, they kept talking together about me but never told me why, maybe the securitate knows, where they passed it, and all relatives, friends, neighbors, colleagues etc.
Mum only had me as a carer for her pfb male, spoilt handicapped brat with learning difficulties and he he bullied me right from birth. I hated my family which was a good Christian family. My schoolwork suffered badly because of and no one noticed or cared about my welfare
As the second oldest of 11, I am once more left to wonder about how weird other people are XD.
This is super relatable as being 2nd oldest of 5 kids. Like since I'm not the oldest I'm not always that "free babysitter" or the one to take all the responsibility. But that's a double edge sword as you're not always looked up too. Also I'm surprised they didn't mention about theft of clothes in this thread. Seriously that's a common crime among sibs.
They did. They mentioned trying to put together the perfect outfit, giving up, and coming home from school to find your sibling wearing the item you were looking for.
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I don't have any siblings so I really appreciate these posts that give me an insight into what it's like and I must say, while I absolutely love my alone time I do sometimes wish I had a sibling. It might have helped with my social anxiety or you know, having someone to relate too.
When I went to the arcade when I was little with my grandma, she always made us split the tickets. It really pissed me off becuase I usually won more than my brother. I love my grandma but yea, she was a ticket communist.
As a parent, can I just say - treating younger ones favourably only happens in the older ones' heads. My eldest complains that he got a phone before she did, he was allowed out longer, etc. Nope. Didn't happen. She just has a skewed memory and wants to think that she is being treated unfairly, so she 'remembers' not having a phone until she was 15. She was actually 13 and in her first year of secondary school (high school in the US) - same as her brother. So all you who complain that they got bigger, better things earlier than you did - re-examine that memory. You WANT that to be the case, but 9 times out of 10, it isn't.
That's a strong claim you make there. I believe it's pretty normal for parents to not want to admit to favoring the youngest. At least in my experience. Strange of you to make it out to be something that really doesn't happen. Yes we misremember but saying that parents basically are always right is just wrong. I have seen the youngest be treated very mildly very often.
Load More Replies... When I was little, the door on my room locked from the OUTSIDE. My little brother would lock me in always and it was the worst feeling ever. I got my revenge on him though eventually.
I am an older sibling of 2 people and this is the most relatable most ever.
I love my brother. Yes we had a lot of these posts growing up, but we also had each other's backs. Mother clearly favored him. We both knew it too. He did what he could to help. I knew then, and I still know now, that it wasn't his fault or doing. Our mother wanted boys only. I was treated like a leper. My brother took care of me, took me under his wing. I learned all kinds of cool stuff with him. To anyone out there who has a sibling like mine, Thank You, for being there.
My mother does tend to listen more to my brother, but we get our heads together and decide what needs to be said, and he does the saying. Here's to good brothers!
Load More Replies... What about that thing where you're dividing a drink between each other and you spend too long staring at the water level to make sure your siblings never got a single millimetre more than you?
The other day I taped a knife to my Kirby plush and left it on my brother's computer before he came home from school. The scream followed by hysterical laugher could be heard from the other side of the house.
When I was little my brother looked up to me always. But because of my anger issues he was always scared. We could never mess around or have the kind of relationship that other kids do because my parents were scared that I would hurt him. I love him so much and I just wish we were closer.
I am the eldest and i hate the way my brother breathes and how he exists but once every few somethings we have so much fun together that we forget we are sworn enemies
Me and my Twin will always help the other out, but you want the last pudding, yogurt or the TV remote, things won't be pretty.
My brother had a little cubby under his bed and he used to stick he in there and stuff pillows in after me until I cried that I couldn't breathe, also used to tie me to a chair and leave me there until I could wiggle myself out when he didn't want to play...I must have been a really annoying little sister
As an only child currently raising 3 children of my own, I've got to say sometimes sibling relationships are just baffling. They do seem to like each other far more often than they seem to hate each other so hopefully we are doing something right.
fck, i didn't have any of these. ,y brother was part of the satanist plan with the family, they kept talking together about me but never told me why, maybe the securitate knows, where they passed it, and all relatives, friends, neighbors, colleagues etc.
Mum only had me as a carer for her pfb male, spoilt handicapped brat with learning difficulties and he he bullied me right from birth. I hated my family which was a good Christian family. My schoolwork suffered badly because of and no one noticed or cared about my welfare
As the second oldest of 11, I am once more left to wonder about how weird other people are XD.
This is super relatable as being 2nd oldest of 5 kids. Like since I'm not the oldest I'm not always that "free babysitter" or the one to take all the responsibility. But that's a double edge sword as you're not always looked up too. Also I'm surprised they didn't mention about theft of clothes in this thread. Seriously that's a common crime among sibs.
They did. They mentioned trying to put together the perfect outfit, giving up, and coming home from school to find your sibling wearing the item you were looking for.
Load More Replies... I don't have any siblings so I really appreciate these posts that give me an insight into what it's like and I must say, while I absolutely love my alone time I do sometimes wish I had a sibling. It might have helped with my social anxiety or you know, having someone to relate too.
When I went to the arcade when I was little with my grandma, she always made us split the tickets. It really pissed me off becuase I usually won more than my brother. I love my grandma but yea, she was a ticket communist.
As a parent, can I just say - treating younger ones favourably only happens in the older ones' heads. My eldest complains that he got a phone before she did, he was allowed out longer, etc. Nope. Didn't happen. She just has a skewed memory and wants to think that she is being treated unfairly, so she 'remembers' not having a phone until she was 15. She was actually 13 and in her first year of secondary school (high school in the US) - same as her brother. So all you who complain that they got bigger, better things earlier than you did - re-examine that memory. You WANT that to be the case, but 9 times out of 10, it isn't.
That's a strong claim you make there. I believe it's pretty normal for parents to not want to admit to favoring the youngest. At least in my experience. Strange of you to make it out to be something that really doesn't happen. Yes we misremember but saying that parents basically are always right is just wrong. I have seen the youngest be treated very mildly very often.
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