People have a lot more in common than you might think. Sure, we’re all unique in our own small special ways, but many of the things that we do aren’t exclusive to us. You might be surprised how similar you are to the strangers you pass on the street every single day.
That’s where redditor u/Miguenzo comes in. They asked anonymous internet users to share the things that most (possibly even all) guys do but that they’d never admit to. From indulging in power fantasies to crying when sad, you’ll find these men’s honest thoughts as you scroll down.
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We love being cuddled. I look like a stereotypical tough guy and know some martial arts but damn, a cuddle from my girlfriend is just the best. Personally, I don't mind revealing that I love cuddles but I know a lot of dudes don't wanna admit that
Debating ending it all often, but not doing it because of how badly it affects those around us
Aly I'm here for you and I'm sure countless pandas are as well. You mean everything to us and if you need to talk, contact us :)
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The suicide rate among men is MUCH higher that with women, as much as 3.5 times higher in the US.
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Repeating what others have said, this isn't unique to men and it's certainly not common to all men. If you experience suicidal ideation on a regular basis, please seek help from a mental health professional.
Me too, Frog. It's a way to feel like you're in control of one thing (our exit plan) when everything else is out of our control. Don't feel guilt about this. I'm glad you have ppl you love and that love you back. 🥰🥰🥰
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Please don't, for your loved ones, your pets, and your better days stay alive
This might sound controversial but I find this tends to be worse in some ways for guys. There's less support because of toxic masculinity issues that are still not talked about nearly enough. It's probably different based on where in the world you live though. But ever since I've met my boyfriend I've realized how lucky I am to be a girl in many scenarios. People tend to treat me a lot kinder than him even though we both treat everyone around us with the same kindness and respect we'd want ourselves. I could list endless examples... not trying to put down womens issues either, but just to any guys specifically going through this, just want you to know, I see you.
Kudos to BP for resisting the temptation to bowdlerise "ending" as "[ending]"
This is really sad, it is OK for men to have emotions. I promise no matter what relationship you are in, emotions are important.
I feel this one. I love the people around me too much to cause them this kind of hurt.
Went through this really bad in 2020. On top of quarantine, my fiancé at the time, broke up with me after a 5 year relationship. Thinking about my family and friends is all that really kept me here 😅
I think about this very often, there have been times were the only reason I didn't try was beacuse of how it would hurt my family
The dark s**t I thought about during my younger days is depressing as FOCK
Sometimes, morbid curiosity about what else would have ended you is enough to keep you going.
I don't so much have this, as much as i do tje morbid curiosity of what it'd be like to be completely on mu own. Leaving everything behind and living off of scrounged items like a rogue if That makes sense, its a weird fantasy i don't have anymore but when i was stressed as heck it came to me alot
If I was gone, my wife would get more for my sorry a*s than I'm worth.
I have gone through that you are awesome just know someone is in your corner
I was so glad to read about not doing it because how it affects those around you, because it takes years to get over a suicide among your acquaintances. You keep going back to what you should/could have done to avert it, even though you don't really believe there was anything you could have done.
I take antidepressants. Years ago I felt like you but the meds help. It may take a few tries to get the right one. Don't give up
In Aotearoa/NZ we have terrible suicide stats for suicide in young men. I lost one friend to it. It's heartbreaking.
ok but ending it all is not solely something men do, its a mental problem that you need to talk about, regardless of gender.
And now thanks to corporate greed discussing capitalism was forcing the working class deeper to poverty thanks to them more suicides on the rise
Calling someone a "coward" or saying they took the "easy way out" is so unkind. Imagine the amount of insurmountable pain and sheer hopelessness one must feel to do such a thing. Don't add insult to injury.
That little knee bend/stretch to get your balls unstuck from whatever position they magically aligned themselves
Its not for our legs/knees/hips its 100% just for the balls to reposition
"Balls stuck to thigh" is legitimately one of the most uncomfortable situations ever.
If nothing else, the r/AskReddit thread is bound to give you a sense of relatability. Even if someone seems like a complete stranger to you, you can be pretty certain that they behave similarly to you in their daily life.
Even if you have different lifestyles and habits, some behaviors are simply extremely human and it’s hard to avoid them. Whether that’s sinking into your daydreams, crying when you’re upset, or singing along to a song that you adore. It’s these little behaviors that unite us.
Daydream about insane scenarios that will never happen where you're the main hero that swoops in to save the day.
Common examples include things like thinking you could figure out how to land an entire airplane in an emergency, thinking about "What happens if there's a robbery and I stop the bad guy", thinking about saving someone from a burning building, thinking you could save someone's life if there's a random medical emergency, etc.
I've done this since I was a little girl, I absolutely have a savior complex. Why would anyone be afraid to admit they'd like to be a hero?
Pee in the shower. I could pee right before the shower in the toilet, but the second the hot water hits me, my bladder says “It’s pee time.”
It’s not just certain behaviors that people have in common. Many men have very similar fears and insecurities. For example, ‘Fatherly’ points out that many men are insecure about developing large breasts. Others are embarrassed about losing their hair or being too thin or too short. On the flip side, men who are taller than their peers might have issues with their height, too.
For others, it’s their situation at home and in the office that haunts them. Guys are worried about the kinds of husbands and dads they’ll turn out to be. Others are scared that they’re not where they ‘should’ be in terms of their career just yet.
Try to use the force. It hasn’t worked yet but maybe one day..
Nose picking is more common than anyone will admit
The nose picking is no secret. The secret is what some men do with the buggers afterwards.
Another common insecurity among guys is the fear that they might not be adequate enough in the bedroom, both in terms of performance and size. Meanwhile, many men who have an older understanding of masculinity might avoid showing any emotions or weaknesses at all. In their mind, any sort of vulnerability is ‘wrong.’
This desire to appear extremely macho at all times can have some negative effects on them and the people around them, however. For example, men who avoid talking about their mental health struggles or seeking the help of a professional when they need to can only worsen the situation.
Be straight but able to recognize when another guy is a good looking guy and say it out loud.
Ya know, it's funny. I've had a bunch of straight guy friends be like "I know you're gay and all, but that girl is HOT". I always try to explain- dude, I can recognize a beautiful woman when I see her, even if I don't find her sexually attractive. A landscape painting can be beautiful to me, doesn't mean I wanna put my d*ck inside of it. Beauty is both subjective and universal at the same time. Anyone who can't appreciate beauty due to societal norms is lying to themselves.
If you're single; Having feelings/Attraction to almost every female friend you've got.
Doesn't gotta be strong feelings. Doesn't have to be romantic.
But you've thought about it. At least once. Maybe three times.
Many men are also wary of getting in touch with a doctor when they have health issues. There’s a certain deeply-rooted stigma that men ‘should’ be strong enough to handle everything on their own and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. While having a stoic mindset is definitely helpful in life, health issues aren’t something you should be playing around with.
Many men are unwilling to see a professional if they have issues that are particularly embarrassing. Others are scared of getting bad news, so they choose to live in denial, hoping that the problems will go away on their own.
To put it bluntly, have the courage to be humble—see a doctor not just when you have health issues, but also for regular checkups. You’re not less of a man because you take care of your health. Quite the opposite!
Sneaking a peak at some cleavage. We don't even have to be attracted to the women but we still gon look
Hehehe I'm gay as the day is long, and even I find it hard not to notice cleavage when it's like... really out there. I don't get any sort of charge out of it, but c'mon, it's like... right friggin' there. Hard not to see when it literally jumps out like that. I've heard lesbians say the same thing about guys wearing speedos- like "woah! you're uhh... well, there you are" lmao
Sniff our armpits to be sure it don't stink or we enjoy the smell.
When I was in college, a guy on my dorm floor swore he had never masturbated. He was 19. I'm sorry, but I refuse to believe that.
Could be religious thing. Most religious people don't really know about sexual stuff until they're married. It's possible he doesn't even know what masturbation is, just knows it's something sexual. It's really easy to keep away from things that you're not taught about or see as taboo.
Morning pee's sometimes goes sideways and there's annoying cleaning up to do
Honestly, if I'm half asleep (or drank enough beers), I'm sitting down. F*ck what anyone says.
Struggle severely with existential levels of mental health
My doctor asks if I ever considered suicide and I tell him, doesn't everyone?
Looking at houses and cars I can’t afford everyday
Every man has tucked his d**k back between his legs and gazed upon his mangina in the bathroom mirror.
Check out women (or men if they prefer) they find attractive in public when with their partner
We both appreciate beauty in many forms. My husband and I point out good looking people to each other especially if they're "your type", I like bald men, my husband makes sure I see them all. He likes tall women, I make sure he sees them.
The truth is drinking too much. It is common for men to lie about how much they drink to their doctors and when taking surveys.
Singing along to a song that they shouldn't like, but do.
Why should anyone feel like they "shouldn't" like a song? This is just bizarre. There's plenty of songs I don't like... but to like one and feel like doing so is somehow taboo just seems... I dunno. Not healthy.
Sometimes when we shave we try and see how we’d look with the moustache of a certain Austrian painter
But if I wanted to look like Gustav Klimt I wouldn't be shaving in the first place!
not sure if this is for all guys, but my bf will never ever admit that he prefers to be little spoon 😭
I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
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So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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Load More Replies... So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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