People Reveal What Things Are Socially Acceptable Only If You’re Hot, And It Might Surprise You

Ugly+quiet=seriously mad at everything

Being attractive and reserved = Stuck up / Snob.

Do people really think I'm creepy and have no life? Wow...

I'm ulgy

well, life is not fair. some are beautiful, some smart, some talented, some good at making money. rather have peace of mind and happiness.

I wouldn't trust anyone that treated you badly at first, and then being nice to you the second week.

It 100% matters. People have never been afraid to let me know they think I'm ugly. I've watched friends get out of parking tickets, get waited on first in bars, etc.. all my life. It doesn't bother me much anymore but back in the day, it was tough.

I would only believe someone saying 'looks don't matter' if they are completely blind.

people who say beauty isn't important are liars. it's bad but it's the reality

That could also have been because of the energy you were putting out yourself. You probably felt better about yourself when you were dressed cute with your hair done. That confidence is attractive and magnetic

I had a friend like that at school. Her name was Selena, she had greasy hair, strange glasses and was a very skinny girl. Everyone hated her. I went to talk to her one day and found out that she was an awesome person. She was fun to talk to and we had lots of things in common. We became best friends. Never judge a person by their looks. You can never know what lies beneath the surface, I had no idea.

It is sad that no one at work can get past their own prejudices/issues and go talk to Sean or visit his desk. Are they all really so much better than Sean? Highly doubt it. I have seen that at my office and I make it a point to be inclusive of those who seem left out. It is just the decent thing to do.

I think it's ridiculous that they started out by saying "he's a redhead" as a list of what makes someone ugly. What the hell?! Hair color does not make someone physically attractive. It's what their face and body look like.

This is so said. 😞

edit: poster # 12. I hope you can talk to someone about this. ..if not yet. Try the emergency phone lines ( listed in the front of the phone book - in Australia LifeLine 13 11 14 ) You don't have to answer questions, and you CAN ask them questions. perhaps about a support group or therapist in your area. It might take a few phone calls, until you find the person that is comfortable for you to talk to. It is worth it. Hoping things are going better for you now.

Not to make light or redirect but men actually couldn't be raped at one point legally speaking. Up until 2012 federal law did not allow for a rape charge for a male victim. The charges were forced sodomy, sexual assault stuff like that but legally speaking by definition only women could be raped. As female rape survivor I understand the misery of dealing with the after effects of the violation. It infuriates me to no end to think of how many of my brothers in this misery have had the added violation of being diminished and dismissed. To be treated like what happened wasn't a big deal. We forget that the body responds to cues. Having an erection in your presence is not consent. I fully believe that should be preached as often as the "No means NO" message and in sex education. That's not going to happen if we don't force the matter. We must protect our sons and brothers better. This subject is one where their voice is seldom heard. We have to do better.

This is the post that should be at top! It's real and it's happening and it's all over the world

Actually, in this situation, men have it much harder and female victim wouldn't have to face such extreme reactions just because her attacker was good looking. The problem is that while our society is slowly getting educated about consent, it's still very tricky when we try to apply it to men. Probably because we rarely do. We are brainwashed into believing that as long as the partner is attractive enough men are ALWAYS willing to have sex and they will always enjoy being jumped and if there's violence, well, that's even better, sexier and stuff. We can eventually accept the idea that a man can refuse sex because of some moral principles, for instance, if he's in a relationship or he understands it would be irresponsible of him to just let it happen, but that's just his integrity triumphing over his physiology, because no doubt the desire is there. Plenty of people don't understand that men can just be unwilling.

this story is good for 1 reason, it shows that this does happen frighteningly

I know! When you're ugly and say this, people think you are trying to 'excuse' yourself for being ugly.

what about burn victims

Pretty much.

Yep. Also, when you're ugly, people feel surprisingly free to tell you about it. I have down turned eyes and the right one is slightly crossed. It's not so noticeable when I wear my glasses but as a younger woman people had no qualms about telling me my eyes were "funny", calling me "slant eye" or asking what was wrong with them.

almost everything*

I had this happen to me a lot at my old job, I got asked out all the time and when I said I was married they asked why I was flirting? as if saying hello and smiling were an invitation, not just basic courtesy. on the other hand, the inmates (worked in a jail) would always tell me I was the only one who was nice to them. now I'm chunkier and work with nearly zero men, so no longer have this issue.

Be aware that a part of them keep considering politness as "hints". I'm a little confused about this because I've been rise with those principles (being polite and nice to people unless their acts make them lose this benefice). But the fact is, there is a lot of people that seems to take this normal behavior for an invitation, signal.

YES

This is the most unfortunate thing. Men let women linger in loneliness and self-loathing. If they know a woman has nobody in her life they won't even be a friend. But men? Women come to the rescue all of the time, and men rescue men.

Omg this happens to me all the time in a way. Like all ill do is say hi and ill tell em something nice or ask em how theyre doing and these women will immediately become all snippy and say s**t like "im not interested, f**k off" 😒😒

I'm overweight and if I'm eating junk food , people are like "try to eat healthy at least now" And if I eat anything remotely healthy "oh you're dieting now ? Don't worry , you can't become thin " I'm so tired of these a******s .

I can confirm this is true, I am ridiculously skinny but I eat a lot. I have eaten an entire pizza and people say "Oh wow, I can't believe you ate that much and you're still skinny!" Or "Wow I can't believe that much food fits in your stomach!!" And things like that, but they're always neutral or affectionate. But my friend who is a little on the chubbier side could eat the same amount of food and people will say "Are you sure you should be eating all that?" Or "Are you seriously eating a whole pizza? That's kind of gross"

Yeah. My tiny friend once went to McDonald's and ate a salad. People thought she was anorexic. But I bet if she had eaten a burger, people would have thought she was bulimic or something like that. A lot of people judge before even thinking.

There's a flip side when you're skinny, sometimes a girl just wats to eat some fruit or a salad but when I do the other women in my office screech and point and make anorexia jokes. If I did the same thing when they ate a donut I'd be explaining myself to HR. They also feel the need to tell me at least once a day that "men don't like skin and bones" and that "real women have curves" - if I sound bitter about it it's because I am and I really hate those bitches.

also wearing clothes with pictures or jokes about food. When I was skinny (in like high school) I had a t shirt that had a slice of pizza on it, it was always loose and baggy on me so I was still able to wear it when I gained some weight. No one ever said anything when I was skinny wearing it but even though it fit fine I wore it once when I gained weight and my boyfriend said something rude about how was a walking dominos billboard, and that if I wore it out I might end up one the next news segment about Americans not understanding obesity.

That's Barney Stinson's hot crazy scale....