Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors
Being a human is hard. There are so many physiological, psychological, social and cultural things that are in play all the time, there's bound to be hiccups every once in a while, if not more often.
And it's even more so a problem when a very complicated you have to pass on your worldly knowledge and skill on to your kids so that they won't make the same mistakes. But they're as complicated as everyone else!
And the vicious cycle keeps on perpetuating itself because of this, leading some to wonder about it. And much of today's wondering is done on Reddit, among other places, where, incidentally, we have one user asking folks what’s a sign that somebody wasn’t raised right?
Bored Panda collected the top answers to the now-viral thread, and has glued together the macaroni-art piece you can see below. So, upvote, comment, and discuss these and other signs someone wasn't raised right in the comment section below!
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If you go to someone's house, and they cook for you, you eat it with a big smile and lots of thanks, even if it was garbage.
My wife brought her friend over for lunch, I made pierogies, she goes "that's not a meal, that's a side" and goes to get Quiznos. Blew me away.
Someone's hospitality is the deepest respect they can show you. You have to give it back. How conscientious you are of that scenario is a good sign on how you were raised
Yes, if you don't like the food, keep it to yourself. Act gracious. Act kind.
They always portray themselves as a victim. Nothing is ever their fault and somebody is always out to get them.
I’m a victim minded person. Each time something happens, I blame the other person and hold a grudge against them. Now I’m doing much better and have started owning up to my mistakes without unfairly blaming someone
If they make messes in public areas and just wander off (leaving trash in the theater, not flushing, leaving the cart in a parking space).
Edit: forgot the theater thing is the norm in Britain! I meant in general, leaving a mess where it's not supposed to be.
They act like mental illness is something you can just get over.
How they treat people from whom they have nothing to gain.
How they act as a boss when their employee messes up.
Yelling and belittling shouldn’t be your first option.
Someone that does things to intentionally hurt another persons feelings after they’ve expressed that, that certain thing hurts their feelings.
Not respecting personal boundaries.
If you're wondering why someone has these sorts of issues, take a look at their parents.
I love my fur baby, but why why why must his comfy spot be 1 inch from my face? We've established your ownership of me 8,364 times already. get-off-me...c4e626.jpg 
They whistle, snap their fingers, or make that "pspsps" sound to get their server's attention in a restaurant.
We lost a beloved pet today, one of our friends said "time to get another". This happened today! I'm not sure if he's stupid, insensitive or just an a*s know we're not friends anymore.
I've learned over the years that as much as the people I care about love their pets, it's wrong for me to assume they even want another pet after having to put one down. I've had to put 3 pets down in the past 15 years sooner than I had hoped due to undiagnosed medical issues. I now have an almost 14 year old beagle mix girl (Ziggy). When she goes, I will likely be unconsolable and if anyone tells me (that doesn't understand the bond between a pet and owner) to "just get another one", I will likely remove said person from my life. I don't even know if I would WANT another pet after Ziggy goes, and my husband may not want another one either. It's just simply insensitive and uncalled for to a grieving pet parent.
A pet is a member of the family, and unless you've either got zero emotions or zero empathy for animals (in which case, you shouldn't have a pet, or be around animals), then it's a devastating loss. Sometimes, having another pet can help heal the hurt; However, it's completely up to the individual whether or not they do so. I feel your pain with the premature loss of pets; you keep wondering what more you could have done. I hope your sweet doggo lives a lot longer by your side, healthy.
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Not the same, but when my son died, people said the most horrible things. My boss said "It's been 2 weeks. Get over it."
Honestly, I'd report them and sue for emotional distress. That is beyond the pale. I'm sorry for your loss, and your inhumane (hopefully former) boss. 😥
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It is a sad several months to get out of the depression of your pet's loss however another loving pet helps you get out of it. I lost my dog and stumbled along untill Christmas and suddenly the loss was too much and I just needed another cudly warmth to go through the day and adopted the first puppy available. It needed not be a puppy just something alive in the room. Maybe your friends meant this kind of thing. To tell the truth I kept comparing the puppy with my deceased dog and it took me time to feel the same level of love for her. But now I am able to remember my lost dog with warm feelings instead of tears.
I tend to get new pets rather quickly after loss too. To me though, I understand that I'm not replacing them, I just have a lot of love to still give. Some people feel like they're being disloyal and they just need more time. So, I would never tell anyone to "just get another one" like they could be swapped. I'm glad you've bonded with your pupper now and can remember the happy times with your good boi, too.
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We are on currently cats #5 and #6, adopted together in December 2021. Over the years, as each of our previous furry family members have gotten older, ill, and eventually passed, we’ve grieved those losses heavily. Last December, when the 4th fellow died, something shifted for us and though we grieved the loss, we also saw it as an opportunity to give yet another rescue cat a home, so we adopted fairly quickly this time. This time it was younger cats, one with a significant trauma history and one who is more happy-go-lucky and has helped a lot with stabilizing the trauma history cat. We’re getting older, so I don’t know if these are our last cats, but it’s been a wonderful journey living with and getting to know all these individuals. Each death is so difficult, but it balances out when we get to give a home to someone new who needs it.
my past ex "husband" kept all his female parts when he me and "our donor" {since my lil guys be stupids} tried for kids or they did it ... it turned out he had problems, and we have had at least...7 miscarriages, after the 5th one.... he just sat down and started playing a game and I asked if he was ok, he said yeah he just had a another misscarage but it will be a while till he can go get cleaned and everything so might as well hang out on a game with me, ..... it was the saddest thing, we had been through it so much that.... he just had no emotion to losing it, yeah it was sad but at that point it was like... a pet.... "just need to try again/Get a new one" I'm glad we did it cause we now have a lovely lil son that's now 7, So its not Insensitive just to go " oh need a new pet cause the other died" it might have happened so much, them losing someone in there life so much that it just give no emotion to it
Sorry for ur loss, our 2 yo dog is like my son, we have a daughter who is 11 but my baby cuddles me, my pre teen is like, ewww do i have to give u a hug 🙈 love our dog ❤
Honestly, some people don't know comfort words so they say the first thing that comes into their heads.
When I was younger my sweet little hedgehog died and I was heartbroken. Because my brother had allergies we couldn't have things like cats and dogs so he was my extra special little friend. When I went with my boyfriend to his house it was obvious I had been crying buckets that day and when he told his mom she says right to my face. "Well it's not like it was a dog or something!" Honestly I never liked her from that moment on and never tried to be close to her over the 9 years I was with her son.
My dog had to be euthanized because his kidneys were failing. That was in 2007. I still miss him, and occasionally cry.
If they think pets are this replaceable then they likely think people are too, sadly.
As someone who tends to want to quickly fill the hole when a pet has died, I can understand the sentiment. So, it's more a case of HOW you express it (to others in the situation) rather than THAT you express it.
My sister decided Christmas Eve was the right time to talk to my mum about having her 2 aging dogs put down. My sister is 53, not a child, but has no compassion for pets whatsoever. I was gobsmacked, my mum (76) understandably burst into tears.
This has nothing at sll to do with upbringing. There are actually 3 sides to this whole thing. The non-pet person doesn't understand the attachment or need for greiving. Secong is the person that needs to greive before potentially getting another. Lastly are people that try to get over it by filling the void. There technically is a 4th group who get another pet before to avoid having the void.
To some people a pet is like a tampon. You have it, you use it, you throw it away and get another.
But if it's the kids and may be a fish, hamster, bird, turtle, hermit crab, etc.. I can see it. As an adult. As a child (into high school) i held funerals for them all. With head"stones."
Even if I agreed with them, I certainly wouldn't voice that out loud, especially within earshot of ANYONE I call friend.
Because they have no empathy! That’s what’s wrong with the world and people!!!
No empathy. That's a sure sign of a serious human deficiency. Without empathy they will treat people like appliances
He just said “Get another?” HE JUST SAID “GET ANOTHER!?!” Excuse me, no matter how many you get, they’ll never be like your past fur-babies, and you have a right to mourn! Getting a new one may fill the empty dog, or cat bed, but it can’t replace the sad little depression that has been pressed into ones mind. No not heart, the heart pumps blood. And I am terribly sorry for your loss, and I’m terribly sorry that your friend said what he said! >:(
Had someone say something similar when my sister died. Her boyfriends friend said to me, "What do you think of Bobs new girlfriend? It was time he got a new one, way past time". My sister was in a coma for 3 months and he said this to me FOUR MONTHS after we let her go so ya, 7 months was just sooo long to wait to move on. D*** head.
Aaugh! This was my father’s attitude towards life! He thought it was a good substitute for paternal love. It ended in me experiencing over 100 losses and separations! I can NEVER replace each one that found a special place in my heart. Now my heart weighs more than a million tons.
I knew someone who lost a child and was told "at least you have two others at home"
When we had a pet pass growing up, my family and I went and got a new pet that day. My parents thought it helped with grieving.
You give them a lift and they leave rubbish in your car.
Yep but I rather they leave the trash in the car than throw it out the window...that's an absolute no-no.
Who are the guys who spit out their chewing gum into urinals? I see this all the time at work and I work in a high end corporate place. Do they think it disolves and goes down the pipe? The janitor has to pick that out.
The word "no" just means throw a fit and be as obnoxious as you can be until you get your way. "No" does not mean that rules are rules or someone's job might be on the line, they're the important one, not anyone else.
They one-up you *all the time*.
Pfft! Those trophies are weaksauce compared to my collection. Why, did you know I was the 1977 world pickleball champion? All of these new players need to know who’s boss.
I know a few of these types of people, and they tend to have one or more of the following traits:
* They are disrespectful to everyone, not just authority figures. Watch how they treat customer service or retail staff.
* They have no manners in general, or only use manners when they absolutely have to in order to preserve their own interests.
* They are cruel to people and/or animals, and laugh at the suffering of others.
* They are selfish.
* They destroy things, steal, and cheat. Some also commit more serious crime.
* They expect handouts from everyone.
* They shirk hard work and responsibility whenever they can.
* They complain a lot, and constantly act like they are a victim.
* They are terrible parents to their own children.
Treatment of servers, retail workers, etc - that's the key. If they pick on someone that can't fight back, that is beyond a red flag. You are officially a complete b a s t a r d.
They gossip about others and will be vindictive behinds people’s backs, but pretend to be sweet to their face.
Not putting the cart back at the grocery store.
So piling them up on your truck and driving away is cool? TIL
Turning conversation back to themselves at all cost.
Being a good listener is a sign of a person raised well.
Edit: to clarify, I don’t mean quiet or a doormat. I mean generous, empathetic, supportive and curious. Good follow-up questions without making it about oneself, etc.
This one usually doesn't go alone. Such people are also narcissistic and emotionally abusive, extracting validation from humiliating and belittling others. They know everything, they give unsolicited lessons and advice, the world revolves around them. If you lost somebody for example, your grief is nothing as compared to what they had suffered in a similar situation. If you're planning to do something, they've already done it ahead of you. If you wish to visit a place, they've already been there before you. I had such a "friend". Avoid them like plague.
People who don’t offer to help you clean up when they are visiting you.
Like having friends over and them leaving you with all the beer bottles, bowls and glasses on the table. I don’t mind cleaning up, but I always offer when at someone else house. You make the mess together.
I'm never sure if the protocol on this. I would always offer, but it does depend on how well you know people and some people seem genuinely offended if you try to help out, like they want to act as the hosts and treat you like guests.
They don't know how to do normal household stuff. I've seen people that don't even know how to make their own coffee or clean a toilet.
Edit: I only mentioned making coffee as an example. If you don't know how to make coffee because you don't drink it, that's fine.
I don't know how to clean a house very well, because my mother did all of it. Her reasoning.....me, my sister, and my dad won't do it right. It's not like I don't do my best to keep a clean home, but it's not a very good job.
They apologize for every little thing. Probably a sign that they grew up with abusive parents that got mad over anything and everything.
They will never try to defend something they believe using logical reasons.
How be be a good neighbor: never bring up religion or politics when talking with neighbors.
I'm gonna answer this literally.
As a teacher, I see there's a lot of different values that go into parenting styles, some that aren't my values but still raise a productive, responsible, and successful child. But there is evidence of bad parenting from a child development point-of-view.
-Is extra clingy and implies or outright states your their sole custodian for their well-being.
-Is incredibly aggressive about getting their way or being correct all the time.
-Responds to slights or inconveniences violently.
-Is extremely withdrawn and doesn't care for self.
-On the flip side, is very self-sufficient from a very young age and also has anxiety and/or depression.
-Seeks attention constantly. Not just a lot, but *constantly.*
Obviously, the child abuse signs are indicators of not being raise right, and only apply here to actual children, but it never hurts to remind people of them:
-Has suspicious bruising/injuries on body where it's not normal to have injuries (ex. bruised forehead and skinned knees are normal on toddlers, black eyes are not)
-Carefully covers parts of the body that would not normally be covered (Ex. Won't roll up sleeves even a little on hot days which, bonus, is also a sign of self-harm)
-Is inappropriately sexual and/or knowledgable about sexuality for age group
-Is weirdly afraid to be alone with another person. Not just, I dont want to go home because my dad's gonna give me a whuppin for starting a fight at school, but something like finding a lot of excuses to not hang out with an older cousin ever
-Is often dirty, stinky, soiled
-Is often underfed
-Tells you they are being abused
I took this way too seriously, but there you go!
EDIT: People are commenting with personal situations that involve the warning signs of child abuse I mentioned, but aren't child abuse in their case. This is what makes it so hard to detect. Kids are always bruised, stinky, and secretive. What's important is to keep an open mind, and sort of observe a pattern of signs and behaviors. If alarm bells go off, our first impulse is to explain it away, but making an anonymous tip is not as harmful as people believe. In my experience, nothing is even investigated until the reports pile up unless you physically witness the abuse.
EDIT 2: Just to be clear, the first list just means the parents or household should be better to optimally encourage the wellness of a child. The second is of warning signs of abuse.
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No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
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When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
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Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
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Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
Load More Replies... When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
Load More Replies... Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
Load More Replies... Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
