Trump Asks “Why Didn’t They Call The FBI 36 Years Ago?” Gets Shut Down With #WhyIDidntReport Tweets
President Trump has once again sparked controversy with poorly worded and insensitive Tweets. This time, he took to the social media network to cast doubt on the credibility of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, who has made allegations of sexual abuse against Donald Trump's Supreme Court nominee, Brett Kavanaugh.
In a series of tweets regarding this controversial topic, he suggested that if Dr. Ford's allegations were 'as bad as she says,' she would have reported it at the time, back in the 1980s. This simplistic take on a sexual assault experience that is deeply painful, personal, and ridden with feelings of fear, shame, and guilt, is sadly typical of a President who is chronically lacking in both empathy and self-awareness.
In response to President Trump's dismissive attitude to the struggles of a rape victim, the hashtag #WhyIDidn'tReport has been spreading like wildfire on Twitter. People are opening up about their experiences in raw and emotional ways, and it makes for heartbreaking, yet important reading. The response proves that there is no set procedure for reporting sexual abuse, the complex emotions that it provokes and the time it can take to process the trauma are subjective and unique to each individual. Attacking a survivor's credibility and integrity can only strengthen the stigma around reporting these crimes, and further encourage others to stay silent. Scroll down below to check out the best comebacks to Trump's tweets for yourself, and let us know what you think in the comments.
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Jesus. This is horrible to happen to anyone let alone a four year old.
Its remind me of my neighbour. She was 12 0r 13 and she killed the demon with a riffle. Her mother said absolutely nothing and the girl wasnt arrested at all. Brave little girl. Whole town was very proud of her. Unfortunately there are little bit brave girls like her. Depend of the country the girl can be prosecuted and killed by their stupid laws.
Such a sad story, zen. I can't imagine the trauma she still struggles with.
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One of the reasons why I despise religion and religious beliefs is this s**t right here. "Demons my a*s".
So i said the same s**t in a post below but i got downvoted.LOL
Load More Replies... I am so so sorry you lived this. I know religion often is used as an excuse or twisted to make the abuser unaccountable. I hope you one day find out that the "religion" they were preaching was bullsh*t and that there really IS a God who loves you. And that God has vengeance for those who hurt his children.
HAHAH!! Your sky daddy, if the bible were real, killed far more babies, kids, and adults, than ANYONE who has EVER lived!!! He's a sick misogynistic f**k!! if your fairytale is to be believed.
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I was 9. He's my stepdad and I loved him so much! He's also a pastor. My mom just let it passed like nothing has happened. I'm in so much pain thinking how can my mom just let it happen. Now I'm scared of every man I deal with
That is hard for me to comprehend. If it had been my child, I would have believed them, no matter how painful the betrayal (of the abuser) might be.
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Because she was the pastor's adopted daughter and he and his wife's pride and joy. Proof of their charity and godliness.... and my babysitter. I didn't understand why we always had to play her games, which always ended with no clothes and me being 'punished'. Because a girl would never do that to another girl. Because according to my step father I was the product of tainted blood from my bio father's evil family and therefore a whore and a liar. They held a service to pray over me to drive out the demons of deceit and wantoness. I was 7.
The last time I stopped by the house of a friend's acquaintance to pick up a TV he was giving her. It was on the way home from picking my son up at his daycare. He invited me in and said he'd get the TV from a back room. He came back out with a gun and held it to my son's head the entire time he was raping me. When he let me go I went across the street to the police station and reported it. They told me I was lying, that I admitted that I had consented to sex with him. They walked over and came out of his house slapping him on the back and joking with him. He told them I was obviously easy and wanted it because I had a kid. They asked him if he wanted to press charges against me for making a false complaint. He generously let me off the hook, saying I was just desperate for attention. We don't report because the hell you are put through from family, friends, the church, and the police is often as bad or worse than the actual rape itself.
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When pastors, or priests who claim to work for God, make me sick, they are the most EVIL !!!
Demons in the bed. That's not how demons work. I believe there were demons and their name was "My Stepfather" plus shame on your Mom and the pastor for their accusations. All of them were to blame.
I am a Christian and it makes me sick how many so called Christians behave this way. The only demon in her bed was her sicko stepfather. Her mother is a godless b***h.
She acused the victime of having sex with an adult man.... People that blame the victime are trash.
It was not your fault. Not only were you a child, but rape is never, under any circumstances, allowed.
Indeed, they should come forward much more. This isn't about genders. This is about the violation of human's right.
Yes, so many predators use their positions to bully victims. It was not your fault
I was sexually abused, they said I have weird fantasies and that I was makingit up lol
Wow, I read her entire tweet thread (its about 40 something tweets long) and it is so powerful and heartbreaking and infuriating.
Hope that made you feel a little better.....I applaude your courage <3
I have a similar story and feel the same way. He only touched my thighs inappropriately on several occasions and didn't respond to me saying no (a friend saved me later on, I confided in him and he talked to the assaulter). I'm trying to be thankful. Because I have friends who have been raped. Only recently and much thanks to the whole "Me too" movement I made myself tell people. Even the ones who know him. Maybe he won't do it again but maybe he will. And I shouldn't be the one who bears the responsibility of not telling anyone. If people think less of him because of it - they should. He should have listened to me saying no.
Whatevers not taken, religion is not b******t. You know what? There's no point even trying to defend my beliefs because this world is so full of hate, no one will pull their heads out of their asses long enough to hear anyone but themselves. Stop judging people that you don't even know.
AMEN. The phenomenon of inaccurate detail memory is found in car accident victims, too, for the record.
He is a*****e to think that if she didn't report it then so she might be a liar. He is insensitive prick like you are. Not a inch of empathy or humanity.
What´s wrong with you @Whatevers not taken? People like you makes this problem worse and worse.
Earned my PTSD diagnosis. What was said about "you forget ti so it doesn't affect you until later"... is why it's called POST-trauma. And is, in fact, part of PTSD.
This is honestly so sad, that this seems normal. Our country is broken, and not just ours. This happens all over the world, and nobody tells, because people don't belive them, or because the person who did it was a "kind person", "they would never do that", or they "didn't have evidence". Why would you need evidence and not trust the word of the person it actually happened to? I know sometimes people lie about this happening to them, and that is just abominable. But every case, and I mean EVERY, should be treated as real. I understand this is a post about why people didn't report, but some should learn from this and always tell, no matter what your family or friends say.
No one deserves being raped for acting like a teenager. It was his fault never yours.
@Whatevers not taken your taking this trolling way to far. Like gtfo already. You should realize you just look like an idiot and what you say has no effect on anyone other than pissing people off. Got way to much time on your hands obviously.
A lot of rapists have started wearing condoms so that it is more difficult to identify them through DNA evidence.
can you please stop whatevers not taken cause that's just rude and mean i mean it could have taken a lot of strength to post this even though they have been laughed at before so your just making your grave cause people think your mean and rude and think that this abuse is cool and nice not wrong and messed up soo can you just stop
Reading these with Whatevers Not Taken's troll comments has made me physically sick.
WhateversNotTaken is WHY people don't report... Guess the troll wants to make sure we all shut up and go away so the world fits into a nice tidy bumper sticker slogan.... UGH.
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Anyone else feels the voting system is inappropriate here? Like are some victims better or worse because they were 4 at the time? Can we petition BP to create topics with comments but without voting?
I had to stop reading and stop commenting because they are all so horrible
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My rapist was female, in this country if you lack a penis then you cannot rape by law. I tried to report it but was told that forced sex without consent is not rape without a penis, and that I should have just enjoyed it. Nevr mind that we are both girls.
To put it in simple words, assault and rape victims don't report because it's like self-reporting. You're attacked by these very authorities that are supposed to protect you. It's absurd that the victims become suspects by default. And don't go telling me about fake claims. Sure, there are, but they're not a good excuse to treat victims the way to make them give up at all. And it happens for either genders too. So don't go telling me women always play the victims and demonise men.
The stupid thing about it is that there are virtually NO "fake claims". Why? Who chooses to put themselves through all of the abuse that comes with reporting? Virtually no one.
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I did tell after being sexually assaulted twice by 2 different men in my neighborhood. They were friends fathers. I was 8. The cops showed up but nothing happened. Whats the point of telling again?
I told two guidance counsellors and a priest about the beatings my father was giving me. All three were on the phone before I'd even left their buildings telling him about my "lies". All three damned near got me killed because I told. ...///... That's what reporting a rape is like.
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My experience: He was my pediatrician, I was 12-13 yrs old. I didn't say anything at first because I wasn't sure that what he was doing was wrong, I just knew it made me feel awful. Now that I am adult, of course I know that feeling up a pubescent girl under the pretext of examining her is definitely wrong! I told my mother I didn't want to go to him anymore, didn't say why. She thought it was because I didn't want to go to a "kid's" doctor anymore, so I let her think that. Four years later I heard that the mother of one of his patients reported him for trying to molest her (the mother) and I finally felt that I should speak up. This was really embarrassing and difficult for me. As far as I know, he never faced any consequences. I hate to think how many other young girls he probably did this to over the course of his career. Makes me so angry.
I told two friends. They didn't believe me. They told others who then mocked me for being an "attention seeker" I never told anyone else and it took 7 years of marriage to tell me husband.
Wow, as if people use a rape story to get attention. These friends need a reality check.
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I would like to share my story. This is something I'm speaking about for the first time, so I would appreciate no negative comments, thank you. I was about 10 or so. I was playing with a few kids my age at a party, and one of them (an 11 year old boy) was bothering me. I told him to please stop, because I didn't like it. He proceeds to grope me and stick his hand under my crotch, all while maintaining eye contact with me. It took me a long time to understand why it wasn't my fault. I thought that I was being annoying. I didn't report because I didn't want to be a snitch. I understand my story isn't as extreme as some of the others that I have read on here, but I feel like it should be heard. I encourage all women to share their stories (anonymously or not, I don't care), so we can grow stronger together. There is no place for rape and sexual assault in the world.
You were harmed, he was wrong. Thank you for your courage.
Load More Replies... I've made an account just to share my story. I want to apologize if I make any mistakes, english is my second language. I was molested by my cousin. (He was 19 years old, I was 10). I played with his sister (my cousin, also 10 years old) and she didn't notice anything strange. I couldn't tell her because I was ashamed. He was laying on me and I couldn't do anything (I tried to push him, but it didn't help.) He touched me, I cried. We were outside and he told his sister to go in the house to bring him something and she did that. When she left, he put his body on mine and started to rub. She caught us and later, when I was in the same room with her and her mom, she told (in front of her) that her brother and I had sex! Again, I felt very ashamed. Her mom didn't tell anything, she just shook her hand like it wasn't a big deal. I couldn't believe it someone that age could act like that. I am now 23 and still didn't tell anyone about what happened.
I hope one day this cousin will pay for what he has done.
Load More Replies... These stories explain why rape exists in our society--because it is allowed to exist. When people blame the victims, the predators escape justice and rape is allowed to continue. Survivors of trauma recover more quickly when they are listened to, treated with dignity, made to feel safe and when justice is provided--there are entire studies that prove this.
Women need to support other women. I was 12 & he was 18. Lucky my brother came looking for me. Just in time. I put my clothes back on & never told anyone until a few years ago. Every asked me why i never said anything. It was because i didn't know what he was trying to do. I thought he wanted to see me naked. Women need to stand up for other women. We don't even tell our female friends. I wonder why we all feel ashamed like it was our fault. That needs to be answered.
#WhyIDidntReport I was 6... and 7... and 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16. He was my cousin. When I finally had the guts to tell my Mother about it 2 years ago (I'm 41 now) she treated it like it was no big deal and I could tell by the look on her face that she didn't believe me. She completely swept it under the carpet and treats him exactly the way she always did. These experiences scarred me for life, but, I guess to her it's no big deal. Now I know to never share anything of importance with her, and I know my "place" in our family.
My story: I reported it as soon as he took me home. I knew what he did was wrong. I was 15, he was 67.
As heartbreaking and very sad all these reports are it won't affect the Dotard in any way. The idiot lacks any feeling of empathy towards people that became victims of any crime. He himself commits crimes against women and children without a blink of an eye, and he'll do and say anything to protect his henchmen. Even if they are frauds, racists or rapists. Birds of a feather flock together.
Same here. Some of them really need to have their penises amputated.
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I was 5 and the other kid was 14-15? I am not even sure. But I never told anyone because I had a crush on him so I thought it was my fault. Still have never told my parents. I just remember them saying if anyone ever touches you it is bad, so I just assumed I was bad because I had a crush on the "cool" teenage boy who played with me.
That man is a horrible, not even a man, not even human. You were a child--I know you know that now, but I hope you're surrounded by people who tell you it was not your fault and who love and support you, and I hope you know that in your heart. He is the criminal, the predator.
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OMG this is so terrible! I feel so bad for these people that had to endure all that suffering! Just makes me want to burst into tears, I couldn't read all of them!!
I remember being in a chat room once when someone made a rape joke. A bunch of us told him to knock it off because rape isn't a joke. He asked how we knew and I blurted out "Been raped. Duh." Was suddenly flooded with messages from women. At least 10 told me I was the first person they ever told. And no, I never reported. The 2nd one actually went around telling the college guys I put out and I informed them if they thought rape was putting out more power to them, and *he* was dumb enough to complain to the college about what I said. So basically he reported himself. And yes, was molested by a female in my neighborhood, same age, when I was 8 and then raped by 3 men later in life. (over a span of many years) Was always too ashamed to say anything. 2 I thought were good friends. But I remind myself I survived. And one was murdered 3 weeks later and it had nothing to do with me so ...
Oh Heather, Yes you did survive--I'm so sorry you were raped and molested. You did survive.
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Best friend (while we were in the Army) was acquaintance raped by another soldier. (He drugged her water). She asked me not to tell. Even in 2000, the stigma of reporting (were you drinking? were you drunk? what were you wearing? why did you put yourself in that type of situation?) still created victim shaming. While "justice" was "handled" by a few of our male colleagues, she didn't want to "make waves" or cause a scene in the unit. I wish I had gone against her wishes and told our 1SG. I found out much later (after I had retired) that it wasn't the first time he had done this. I am so sorry to those who may have gone through the same.
I used to know those 3 girls who were raped as children. The first one at age 9 was so badly s**t shamed the whole family left the city bc the parents themselves were saying she is at fault of shaming them. The other two girls, age 13, were also so badly s**t shamed, so all boys were sure if a girl is once raped that makes her available for sex on demand and were freely wolf packing on them even in public. When my friend was gang raped at age 12, the police gathered all guilty (college boys age over 20 ) in the station to explain them it's not a nice thing. This is ALL that happened to them. My other friend took the blame for being out for a beer with her bf and his friends. I took the blame for doing the same thing
It is not the boy fault for being a sharing friend. And so on and so on I could tell storries all day long. I also accidentally pressed the post button. Truth is - I know many girls and have lots of gf and I never met a single one who wasn't at least one time raped, shamed, blamed and led to believe "it's just boys would be boys", they simply were "a little too unpatient and pushing", "Boys' desires are too strong to be ignored", "It is all part of growing up and understand what to become a woman really is"
Load More Replies... I didn't want to vote for any of the individual posts here because every victim's story is equally valid, and equally shocking, and the all deserve to be equally heard.
That's why I up voted every single one of them. To me, that all deserve to be in the top spot since they are all equally heartbreaking.
Load More Replies... These rapers ruined so many lifes for one minute satisfaction. Shame for them. Sometimes I think the world would be a better place if the human race cannot enjoy sex.
I HATE that there is a statute of limitations on reporting/prosecuting this crime. The hurt, the shame and the victims go on. The felons should be responsible for the crime. ANYTIME. EVERY TIME.
If i told my christian mother that her Christian husband did anything to me she would never believe it and without him she would be in a home. I said nothing and still say nothing because mom needs him and trusts him
Wow I know this is an old post but I felt like I should share. I was maybe 10 or 11 and was sent to the shops by my mother to buy something, I don't remember what. I was just becoming of age, my breasts were starting to pop out. This Somalian guy came to my side of the counter, started rubbing my breasts and rubbing himself against me. I was so scared and I just froze. A woman who knew my mother walked into the shop and saw what happened. Instead of attacking this sick man she asked me what was I doing with an old man. Told me she would tell my mother. Made me feel so dirty and like I asked this man to do this to me. I even believed that it was my fault somehow and I prayed that she does not tell my mother as I was afraid of getting into trouble. As I got older I hated that woman for making me feel scared and dirty and like it was my fault. I never told my mother what happened and avoided that shop. There are many reasons why people don't report.
Ntosh--you are right to hate that woman. You were not at fault. He is a sick man, and she should have protected you.
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Anybody else here also thinking that 'whatevers' is a perpetrator desperately trying to convince himself that he/she isn't?
OMG, so many bad parents here. If my daughter will ever get raped, they 'll have to stop us from killing the one who did it. Maybe that makes us bad people, but it's still better than betraying your daughter by blaming or ignoring her.
I agree with your feelings, but take a look at the posts once again. It's this "violent" attitude that stopped some of the victims to report. Because they were too young to understand it was figurative, not literal speech and didn't want for their loving parents to end up in jail.
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So many people talk about how their reports were not taken seriously or how they were blamed for what has happened. This is sad and scary. I'd like to share some positive memories. I lived with an abusive husband for 5 years, reported him to police many times and he got arrested and spent time in jail for assaulting me. It still took me years and birth of our daughter to realize I was in mortal danger. But I've met some great people along the way, people who did care. The Brooklyn DA strongly encouraged me not to lift the protective order I filed against my husband. The cops were sympathetic and helped and also encouraged me to leave and tried to explain the dangers of the situation. I'd like to tell all victims of domestic abuse and/or rape - there are good people in the world, people who do care. Please report the abusers & if you encounter someone who blames you or someone who laughs at you, flip them off & don't despair - those are only a few, there are so many more people who care
A couple of years ago I got a call from my daughter while I was at a birthday party, saying that she had gotten out of the shower and found our neighbors son in our house with his pants off. She was freaking out, i was freaking out because i couldnt get to her fast enough. We called the police, and she had to go through two hours of the same questions with different officers. Most questions implied they had had a relationship in the past and she had welcomed him in our home. I was so angry and just as worried that my daughters boyfriends anger would get the best of him and he would do something to the guy. Nothing further was done by the police even after calling them numerous times after he was seen going into his mothers house across the street. My daughters friend happened to be there with her that day which i am grateful for because my granddaughter was home also and who knows what he would have done to her.
Good lord. Horrible! The cops' behaviour enables rape, and I bet that man has done that to other girls and women
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I was 5 or 6 years old, he was about 14 or 15. He carefully groomed me and changed the way I looked at myself. It was 59 or 60 years ago and I only figured out in the past year (with the help of a therapist who normally treats abused children) how it had been at the base of so many years of failed relationships. This the first time I have discussed it outside of the therapist's office.
Because it was an alcohol fueled date with a military officer that went way wrong. #whyIdidntreport
I had to stop reading. These stories made me so angry and sad. And then that mf of an orange idiot - wtf ...
How can Trump be so naive and thick??? How is it humanly possible???? Can't he really figure out why a lot of people don't tell????
What I find truly horrific and fills me with rage towards society is how common these are. Three out of five people I know have had such an experience, and in all of those cases it was never reported and nothing was done.
Man this is depressing, I could not even read them all, It should be common knowlege by know that people that are raped do not simply dust themselves off and head to the police station, that would be the ideal way to deal with being raped but, hey in an ideal world it would not happen in the first place.
Absolutely heartbreaking. All the stories. And all of those I heard from close friends, "coming out" as adults. It's very, very interesting how often the parents, friends and family members are not supportive. Maybe you don't want/can't have a trial, but to give your kid/the abused person some peace, therapy and all the help he/she needs.... seems obvious. I hope more and more people can get their emotional and mental freedom.
I have a better hashtag than this one... #chophisdickoff Anyone rapes my daughter gets abducted and buried alive in the desert with cameras in the tomb, along with enough oxygen to get the guy to confess....
I had to stop reading these because they were breaking my heart. There was literally no where to turn for most of these people. I cannot imagine the helplessness or loneliness.
I just feel so sad for everyone affected. These stories are heart wrenching
Wow...this is very powerful. Why did they not report? LOTS and LOTS of reasons! If the perpetrators think it is no big thing, why do they not just admit it? Because they KNOW it is a serious matter...they KNOW!!! They know they committed an evil, illegal act. They KNOW!!
Another worst part is that not only the parents are blaming their child, they also choose to ignore all symptoms. F.e. my brother was a drug & alcohol addict with 15. They saw ot when ot was too late and he had to go to a clinic. I was suicidal with 15 and they never saw it. Only after i told them, 7 years after, they fcking blamed me for not telling. I mean if you child always got some fresh scars and always have bruises, isnt that something you would be suspicious of?. So its not only the blaming thing. (Btw. Broke the contact with my mom up bc she is a narcisst. Felt never better before. My brother did it 1 yr later too)
All these stories are heartbreaking.. I can’t even imagine the pain n sufferings the victims have to bare..
Well, we ALL know that Trump is a predator, right? And that apologizing is not in his vocabulary. Of course, the bastard will say stuff like that. His character-- or the lack thereof--oozes through every pore of this creep.
These posts from women as well as men show how their abusers had used their physical power, their authority or status to abuse and destroy another person's life. These are all heartbreaking stories. Unfortunately, unless we have procedural changes in our legal system we will continue to have victims of this system. Reading these left a gaping black hole in my very soul.
On the topic of the TROLLS: Sadly, all trolls want is attention. Positive or negative, attention is attention. All we can do is try to ignore them and redirect ourselves in a more positive direction. These posts are fodder for trolls. This is a highly-charged topic, so these morons are offered a perfect audience. We can only hope that these cretins get the help that they are crying out for so desperately.
I know it's not that important but I still can't get over the title so here it is: "Trump Asks “Why Didn’t They Call The FBI 36 Years Ago?” Gets Shut Down With #WhyIDidntReport Tweets" I really doubt he got shot down, I doubt anyone can shut him down. He just keeps spewing nonsense and hatred and doesn't stop, maybe he can't stop. Maybe he read one or too responses of those that are here but I doubt it. And if he did I don't think it changed anything for him or in him or that he cares.
All of these situations are very sad and what makes them sad the most is how often the victims got blamed for the rapists' actions.
I dated a girl in High School who was on probation BECAUSE she reported her rape. When she was 15 she had a bicycle accident that put her in a coma for two weeks. After that she was on prescribed medication. That's when her mom's boyfriends would mix alcohol with her medication and rape her. She was not unconscious, nor was she able to defend herself. When she gathered her courage and reported the rapes, the court punished her with 2 years probation. They claimed that she was lying and that her medication must have been messing with her head.
I'm sorry. Why is this absolute PIECE OF S**T still walking the planet? Would someone please put a bullet in TRUMP's head?
why doesn't BP run a bill cosby article, plenty of twitter memes to post. biased cowards.
This is going tick some people off but not reporting it in a timely manner just allows the abuse to happen to someone else.
Apparently, reporting it in a timely manner has the same effect. Still, reporting crime is important, so stay strong and stay brave
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I just wrote in rage and sadness, in reaction to those who ask "Why didn't you report it?" to end the conversation. Ask that question in order to hear what the other person has to say and gain some understanding of their situation.
Load More Replies... and then there's one other probability here.. as we know people in politics are often dishonest, as it's proven recently mainly on the defeated party's side these last 3 years, perhaps money or position was offered to these women to stonewall a nominee. especially a vulnerable male target. just putting that out there.
That's a lie...actually a whole string of lies. Her story is corroborated by MALE WITNESSES who were there and saw the attack. Are you saying she deserved to be attacked? Because that makes you one sick little puppy and makes me wonder how many rapes YOU and your friends have committed. ...///... Now go play in the traffic, little boy.
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That kind of attitude is exactly why criminals face no consequences. (I know you just copy-paste your usual thing, but this time it needed to be said)
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Reading these with Whatevers Not Taken's troll comments has made me physically sick.
WhateversNotTaken is WHY people don't report... Guess the troll wants to make sure we all shut up and go away so the world fits into a nice tidy bumper sticker slogan.... UGH.
Load More Replies... Anyone else feels the voting system is inappropriate here? Like are some victims better or worse because they were 4 at the time? Can we petition BP to create topics with comments but without voting?
I had to stop reading and stop commenting because they are all so horrible
Load More Replies... My rapist was female, in this country if you lack a penis then you cannot rape by law. I tried to report it but was told that forced sex without consent is not rape without a penis, and that I should have just enjoyed it. Nevr mind that we are both girls.
To put it in simple words, assault and rape victims don't report because it's like self-reporting. You're attacked by these very authorities that are supposed to protect you. It's absurd that the victims become suspects by default. And don't go telling me about fake claims. Sure, there are, but they're not a good excuse to treat victims the way to make them give up at all. And it happens for either genders too. So don't go telling me women always play the victims and demonise men.
The stupid thing about it is that there are virtually NO "fake claims". Why? Who chooses to put themselves through all of the abuse that comes with reporting? Virtually no one.
Load More Replies... I did tell after being sexually assaulted twice by 2 different men in my neighborhood. They were friends fathers. I was 8. The cops showed up but nothing happened. Whats the point of telling again?
I told two guidance counsellors and a priest about the beatings my father was giving me. All three were on the phone before I'd even left their buildings telling him about my "lies". All three damned near got me killed because I told. ...///... That's what reporting a rape is like.
Load More Replies... My experience: He was my pediatrician, I was 12-13 yrs old. I didn't say anything at first because I wasn't sure that what he was doing was wrong, I just knew it made me feel awful. Now that I am adult, of course I know that feeling up a pubescent girl under the pretext of examining her is definitely wrong! I told my mother I didn't want to go to him anymore, didn't say why. She thought it was because I didn't want to go to a "kid's" doctor anymore, so I let her think that. Four years later I heard that the mother of one of his patients reported him for trying to molest her (the mother) and I finally felt that I should speak up. This was really embarrassing and difficult for me. As far as I know, he never faced any consequences. I hate to think how many other young girls he probably did this to over the course of his career. Makes me so angry.
I told two friends. They didn't believe me. They told others who then mocked me for being an "attention seeker" I never told anyone else and it took 7 years of marriage to tell me husband.
Wow, as if people use a rape story to get attention. These friends need a reality check.
Load More Replies... I would like to share my story. This is something I'm speaking about for the first time, so I would appreciate no negative comments, thank you. I was about 10 or so. I was playing with a few kids my age at a party, and one of them (an 11 year old boy) was bothering me. I told him to please stop, because I didn't like it. He proceeds to grope me and stick his hand under my crotch, all while maintaining eye contact with me. It took me a long time to understand why it wasn't my fault. I thought that I was being annoying. I didn't report because I didn't want to be a snitch. I understand my story isn't as extreme as some of the others that I have read on here, but I feel like it should be heard. I encourage all women to share their stories (anonymously or not, I don't care), so we can grow stronger together. There is no place for rape and sexual assault in the world.
You were harmed, he was wrong. Thank you for your courage.
Load More Replies... I've made an account just to share my story. I want to apologize if I make any mistakes, english is my second language. I was molested by my cousin. (He was 19 years old, I was 10). I played with his sister (my cousin, also 10 years old) and she didn't notice anything strange. I couldn't tell her because I was ashamed. He was laying on me and I couldn't do anything (I tried to push him, but it didn't help.) He touched me, I cried. We were outside and he told his sister to go in the house to bring him something and she did that. When she left, he put his body on mine and started to rub. She caught us and later, when I was in the same room with her and her mom, she told (in front of her) that her brother and I had sex! Again, I felt very ashamed. Her mom didn't tell anything, she just shook her hand like it wasn't a big deal. I couldn't believe it someone that age could act like that. I am now 23 and still didn't tell anyone about what happened.
I hope one day this cousin will pay for what he has done.
Load More Replies... These stories explain why rape exists in our society--because it is allowed to exist. When people blame the victims, the predators escape justice and rape is allowed to continue. Survivors of trauma recover more quickly when they are listened to, treated with dignity, made to feel safe and when justice is provided--there are entire studies that prove this.
Women need to support other women. I was 12 & he was 18. Lucky my brother came looking for me. Just in time. I put my clothes back on & never told anyone until a few years ago. Every asked me why i never said anything. It was because i didn't know what he was trying to do. I thought he wanted to see me naked. Women need to stand up for other women. We don't even tell our female friends. I wonder why we all feel ashamed like it was our fault. That needs to be answered.
#WhyIDidntReport I was 6... and 7... and 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16. He was my cousin. When I finally had the guts to tell my Mother about it 2 years ago (I'm 41 now) she treated it like it was no big deal and I could tell by the look on her face that she didn't believe me. She completely swept it under the carpet and treats him exactly the way she always did. These experiences scarred me for life, but, I guess to her it's no big deal. Now I know to never share anything of importance with her, and I know my "place" in our family.
My story: I reported it as soon as he took me home. I knew what he did was wrong. I was 15, he was 67.
As heartbreaking and very sad all these reports are it won't affect the Dotard in any way. The idiot lacks any feeling of empathy towards people that became victims of any crime. He himself commits crimes against women and children without a blink of an eye, and he'll do and say anything to protect his henchmen. Even if they are frauds, racists or rapists. Birds of a feather flock together.
Same here. Some of them really need to have their penises amputated.
Load More Replies... I was 5 and the other kid was 14-15? I am not even sure. But I never told anyone because I had a crush on him so I thought it was my fault. Still have never told my parents. I just remember them saying if anyone ever touches you it is bad, so I just assumed I was bad because I had a crush on the "cool" teenage boy who played with me.
That man is a horrible, not even a man, not even human. You were a child--I know you know that now, but I hope you're surrounded by people who tell you it was not your fault and who love and support you, and I hope you know that in your heart. He is the criminal, the predator.
Load More Replies... OMG this is so terrible! I feel so bad for these people that had to endure all that suffering! Just makes me want to burst into tears, I couldn't read all of them!!
I remember being in a chat room once when someone made a rape joke. A bunch of us told him to knock it off because rape isn't a joke. He asked how we knew and I blurted out "Been raped. Duh." Was suddenly flooded with messages from women. At least 10 told me I was the first person they ever told. And no, I never reported. The 2nd one actually went around telling the college guys I put out and I informed them if they thought rape was putting out more power to them, and *he* was dumb enough to complain to the college about what I said. So basically he reported himself. And yes, was molested by a female in my neighborhood, same age, when I was 8 and then raped by 3 men later in life. (over a span of many years) Was always too ashamed to say anything. 2 I thought were good friends. But I remind myself I survived. And one was murdered 3 weeks later and it had nothing to do with me so ...
Oh Heather, Yes you did survive--I'm so sorry you were raped and molested. You did survive.
Load More Replies... Best friend (while we were in the Army) was acquaintance raped by another soldier. (He drugged her water). She asked me not to tell. Even in 2000, the stigma of reporting (were you drinking? were you drunk? what were you wearing? why did you put yourself in that type of situation?) still created victim shaming. While "justice" was "handled" by a few of our male colleagues, she didn't want to "make waves" or cause a scene in the unit. I wish I had gone against her wishes and told our 1SG. I found out much later (after I had retired) that it wasn't the first time he had done this. I am so sorry to those who may have gone through the same.
I used to know those 3 girls who were raped as children. The first one at age 9 was so badly s**t shamed the whole family left the city bc the parents themselves were saying she is at fault of shaming them. The other two girls, age 13, were also so badly s**t shamed, so all boys were sure if a girl is once raped that makes her available for sex on demand and were freely wolf packing on them even in public. When my friend was gang raped at age 12, the police gathered all guilty (college boys age over 20 ) in the station to explain them it's not a nice thing. This is ALL that happened to them. My other friend took the blame for being out for a beer with her bf and his friends. I took the blame for doing the same thing
It is not the boy fault for being a sharing friend. And so on and so on I could tell storries all day long. I also accidentally pressed the post button. Truth is - I know many girls and have lots of gf and I never met a single one who wasn't at least one time raped, shamed, blamed and led to believe "it's just boys would be boys", they simply were "a little too unpatient and pushing", "Boys' desires are too strong to be ignored", "It is all part of growing up and understand what to become a woman really is"
Load More Replies... I didn't want to vote for any of the individual posts here because every victim's story is equally valid, and equally shocking, and the all deserve to be equally heard.
That's why I up voted every single one of them. To me, that all deserve to be in the top spot since they are all equally heartbreaking.
Load More Replies... These rapers ruined so many lifes for one minute satisfaction. Shame for them. Sometimes I think the world would be a better place if the human race cannot enjoy sex.
I HATE that there is a statute of limitations on reporting/prosecuting this crime. The hurt, the shame and the victims go on. The felons should be responsible for the crime. ANYTIME. EVERY TIME.
If i told my christian mother that her Christian husband did anything to me she would never believe it and without him she would be in a home. I said nothing and still say nothing because mom needs him and trusts him
Wow I know this is an old post but I felt like I should share. I was maybe 10 or 11 and was sent to the shops by my mother to buy something, I don't remember what. I was just becoming of age, my breasts were starting to pop out. This Somalian guy came to my side of the counter, started rubbing my breasts and rubbing himself against me. I was so scared and I just froze. A woman who knew my mother walked into the shop and saw what happened. Instead of attacking this sick man she asked me what was I doing with an old man. Told me she would tell my mother. Made me feel so dirty and like I asked this man to do this to me. I even believed that it was my fault somehow and I prayed that she does not tell my mother as I was afraid of getting into trouble. As I got older I hated that woman for making me feel scared and dirty and like it was my fault. I never told my mother what happened and avoided that shop. There are many reasons why people don't report.
Ntosh--you are right to hate that woman. You were not at fault. He is a sick man, and she should have protected you.
Load More Replies... Anybody else here also thinking that 'whatevers' is a perpetrator desperately trying to convince himself that he/she isn't?
OMG, so many bad parents here. If my daughter will ever get raped, they 'll have to stop us from killing the one who did it. Maybe that makes us bad people, but it's still better than betraying your daughter by blaming or ignoring her.
I agree with your feelings, but take a look at the posts once again. It's this "violent" attitude that stopped some of the victims to report. Because they were too young to understand it was figurative, not literal speech and didn't want for their loving parents to end up in jail.
Load More Replies... So many people talk about how their reports were not taken seriously or how they were blamed for what has happened. This is sad and scary. I'd like to share some positive memories. I lived with an abusive husband for 5 years, reported him to police many times and he got arrested and spent time in jail for assaulting me. It still took me years and birth of our daughter to realize I was in mortal danger. But I've met some great people along the way, people who did care. The Brooklyn DA strongly encouraged me not to lift the protective order I filed against my husband. The cops were sympathetic and helped and also encouraged me to leave and tried to explain the dangers of the situation. I'd like to tell all victims of domestic abuse and/or rape - there are good people in the world, people who do care. Please report the abusers & if you encounter someone who blames you or someone who laughs at you, flip them off & don't despair - those are only a few, there are so many more people who care
A couple of years ago I got a call from my daughter while I was at a birthday party, saying that she had gotten out of the shower and found our neighbors son in our house with his pants off. She was freaking out, i was freaking out because i couldnt get to her fast enough. We called the police, and she had to go through two hours of the same questions with different officers. Most questions implied they had had a relationship in the past and she had welcomed him in our home. I was so angry and just as worried that my daughters boyfriends anger would get the best of him and he would do something to the guy. Nothing further was done by the police even after calling them numerous times after he was seen going into his mothers house across the street. My daughters friend happened to be there with her that day which i am grateful for because my granddaughter was home also and who knows what he would have done to her.
Good lord. Horrible! The cops' behaviour enables rape, and I bet that man has done that to other girls and women
Load More Replies... I was 5 or 6 years old, he was about 14 or 15. He carefully groomed me and changed the way I looked at myself. It was 59 or 60 years ago and I only figured out in the past year (with the help of a therapist who normally treats abused children) how it had been at the base of so many years of failed relationships. This the first time I have discussed it outside of the therapist's office.
Because it was an alcohol fueled date with a military officer that went way wrong. #whyIdidntreport
I had to stop reading. These stories made me so angry and sad. And then that mf of an orange idiot - wtf ...
How can Trump be so naive and thick??? How is it humanly possible???? Can't he really figure out why a lot of people don't tell????
What I find truly horrific and fills me with rage towards society is how common these are. Three out of five people I know have had such an experience, and in all of those cases it was never reported and nothing was done.
Man this is depressing, I could not even read them all, It should be common knowlege by know that people that are raped do not simply dust themselves off and head to the police station, that would be the ideal way to deal with being raped but, hey in an ideal world it would not happen in the first place.
Absolutely heartbreaking. All the stories. And all of those I heard from close friends, "coming out" as adults. It's very, very interesting how often the parents, friends and family members are not supportive. Maybe you don't want/can't have a trial, but to give your kid/the abused person some peace, therapy and all the help he/she needs.... seems obvious. I hope more and more people can get their emotional and mental freedom.
I have a better hashtag than this one... #chophisdickoff Anyone rapes my daughter gets abducted and buried alive in the desert with cameras in the tomb, along with enough oxygen to get the guy to confess....
I had to stop reading these because they were breaking my heart. There was literally no where to turn for most of these people. I cannot imagine the helplessness or loneliness.
I just feel so sad for everyone affected. These stories are heart wrenching
Wow...this is very powerful. Why did they not report? LOTS and LOTS of reasons! If the perpetrators think it is no big thing, why do they not just admit it? Because they KNOW it is a serious matter...they KNOW!!! They know they committed an evil, illegal act. They KNOW!!
Another worst part is that not only the parents are blaming their child, they also choose to ignore all symptoms. F.e. my brother was a drug & alcohol addict with 15. They saw ot when ot was too late and he had to go to a clinic. I was suicidal with 15 and they never saw it. Only after i told them, 7 years after, they fcking blamed me for not telling. I mean if you child always got some fresh scars and always have bruises, isnt that something you would be suspicious of?. So its not only the blaming thing. (Btw. Broke the contact with my mom up bc she is a narcisst. Felt never better before. My brother did it 1 yr later too)
All these stories are heartbreaking.. I can’t even imagine the pain n sufferings the victims have to bare..
Well, we ALL know that Trump is a predator, right? And that apologizing is not in his vocabulary. Of course, the bastard will say stuff like that. His character-- or the lack thereof--oozes through every pore of this creep.
These posts from women as well as men show how their abusers had used their physical power, their authority or status to abuse and destroy another person's life. These are all heartbreaking stories. Unfortunately, unless we have procedural changes in our legal system we will continue to have victims of this system. Reading these left a gaping black hole in my very soul.
On the topic of the TROLLS: Sadly, all trolls want is attention. Positive or negative, attention is attention. All we can do is try to ignore them and redirect ourselves in a more positive direction. These posts are fodder for trolls. This is a highly-charged topic, so these morons are offered a perfect audience. We can only hope that these cretins get the help that they are crying out for so desperately.
I know it's not that important but I still can't get over the title so here it is: "Trump Asks “Why Didn’t They Call The FBI 36 Years Ago?” Gets Shut Down With #WhyIDidntReport Tweets" I really doubt he got shot down, I doubt anyone can shut him down. He just keeps spewing nonsense and hatred and doesn't stop, maybe he can't stop. Maybe he read one or too responses of those that are here but I doubt it. And if he did I don't think it changed anything for him or in him or that he cares.
All of these situations are very sad and what makes them sad the most is how often the victims got blamed for the rapists' actions.
I dated a girl in High School who was on probation BECAUSE she reported her rape. When she was 15 she had a bicycle accident that put her in a coma for two weeks. After that she was on prescribed medication. That's when her mom's boyfriends would mix alcohol with her medication and rape her. She was not unconscious, nor was she able to defend herself. When she gathered her courage and reported the rapes, the court punished her with 2 years probation. They claimed that she was lying and that her medication must have been messing with her head.
I'm sorry. Why is this absolute PIECE OF S**T still walking the planet? Would someone please put a bullet in TRUMP's head?
why doesn't BP run a bill cosby article, plenty of twitter memes to post. biased cowards.
This is going tick some people off but not reporting it in a timely manner just allows the abuse to happen to someone else.
Apparently, reporting it in a timely manner has the same effect. Still, reporting crime is important, so stay strong and stay brave
Load More Replies... I just wrote in rage and sadness, in reaction to those who ask "Why didn't you report it?" to end the conversation. Ask that question in order to hear what the other person has to say and gain some understanding of their situation.
Load More Replies... and then there's one other probability here.. as we know people in politics are often dishonest, as it's proven recently mainly on the defeated party's side these last 3 years, perhaps money or position was offered to these women to stonewall a nominee. especially a vulnerable male target. just putting that out there.
That's a lie...actually a whole string of lies. Her story is corroborated by MALE WITNESSES who were there and saw the attack. Are you saying she deserved to be attacked? Because that makes you one sick little puppy and makes me wonder how many rapes YOU and your friends have committed. ...///... Now go play in the traffic, little boy.
Load More Replies... Are you being sarcastic? Because only sarcasm would put some sense into what you're saying.
Load More Replies... That kind of attitude is exactly why criminals face no consequences. (I know you just copy-paste your usual thing, but this time it needed to be said)
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