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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are – Sexist
Society has normalized a lot of things that are blatantly sexist—that’s what the ‘Power To Her’ channel shared in a viral TikTok video that caught the attention of many women on the platform. According to the ‘Power to Her’ project’s video, one of the most mind-blowingly sexist things that are still prevalent in modern society is the fact that women are pressured to change their last names once they get married.
Meanwhile, other TikTokers pitched in with their own examples of what kinds of sexist behaviors have been normalized. From brides wearing white dresses that symbolize purity, innocence, and virginity, and fathers ‘giving away’ their daughters after they walk them down the aisle to other sexist behaviors that you can find in everyday life. Have a look at some of the most insightful responses to ‘Power To Her’s’ video and upvote the ones that you’ve noticed in society, too, dear Pandas.
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#1
I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I don't want to have children, nor does my husband. They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband, they tell me I'll probably change my mind, that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child. Even though I don't want any. But my husband can make a phone call and set up an appointment, just like that.
Eslamala 4 years ago
THIS. Even if the laws are on your side, most doctors won't do it and give you all kinds of illegal and irrelevant excuses, and there's nothing you can do about it, except for going from doctor to doctor until you luck out. Had a huge fight with my former OBG/YN because he wouldn't tie my tubes because "I was too young (23) and eventually *my husband* could want kids. I literally kicked him in the nuts while cursing at him. Would do it again.
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#2
School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.
#3
The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.
The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.
The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.
#4
Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".
Tobin Kern 4 years ago
Depends on the mortgage company. Some do it based on income, some do it based on who is top of the application, some do it by age. Its not a sexist thing. Ours is based on income so my wife is primary even though I handled the process start to finish. Who gives a s**t?
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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
If you got the new mortgage together, you're co-borrowers, and his name came first on the application. ---- source: the mortgage guy I married. You are equal owners and equally liable regardless of the phrasing.
ThePracticalSarcastic 4 years ago
not sure where this is located, but every time we've bought property, the lender asks us which of us would like to be primary/secondary
Gemma Bear 4 years ago
UK. Highest salary is what the mortgage is calculated on and so is first on the paperwork.
Yvette Desmarais 4 years ago
You could have put your name first but regardless, it doesn't matter as you are co-owners and co-borrowers.
Jazzy Mc. Jaz 4 years ago
My bosses business was somehow put under her husbands name and neither one of them did that
William Teach 4 years ago
Well, she could have demanded to be the primary person on the loan. The mortgage company, insurance, home warranty are doing nothing wrong, they're just going by what's on the paperwork (PS: when husband and wife are buying the car I usually put wife as buyer if she is the primary driver)
Roxie 4 years ago
When we were closing on our home, the seller's representative said to my husband "I see that the mortgage is on your name, so you have to do all the work" and then turned to me and said "oh and all YOU have to do is to sit and look pretty ". I really wanted to punch her in the face.
Les Morrow 4 years ago
Yes! I make way more money and yet I'm listed as co-borrower on the mortgage and "spouse" on the taxes. It has always bothered me.
AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
That's strange because my fiancé and I bought our home as well and I was the main owner I believe it goes off of credit score tbh so if OP is "co borrower" it is most likely because she had less credit OR less time at a job than her partner. (at least in the US this is how it is) I could be wrong.
Lola 4 years ago
I don’t know what country you live in, but in the U.S this is not the case. It all depends on credit score and money.
Ria C. 4 years ago
Normally that would be true, but not in my case. My husband and I financed a car in March and even though my score was better they still ended up listing his name and info first on everything, even the title and that was after they knew I was the primary driver as well.
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Eglė Bukauskaitė 4 years ago
Pretty sure bank is supposed to ASK whom to name the owner. So you have something to ask your partner ;)
An Ambitious Lemon 4 years ago
Something similar happened to me! I put a security system in my house (I bought this , as a single woman) and the rep kept talking to my boyfriend and addressing him as the "home owner" and wanted to verify his "home ownership", he laughed and pointed to me as says "this is all hers, I just help maintain it". The look on that guy's face...priceless. I didn't buy a security system from them.
Seonie 4 years ago
If she's the one who put all the money in for the deposit, then surely she should be the owner on the paperwork, not him? Fair enough, they are living together, so add *him* as a co-owner/borrower, but if he didn't put anything into the deposit, it doesn't make sense that his name is "at the top", so to speak. idk
Anne Mitchell 4 years ago
Big Mistake! Regardless of anything else, if/when you two are no longer a couple you will only reap back half of the money you laid down.
Melvin Dragvelk 4 years ago
It doesn't matter who put down the money, in a polite society a couple is addressed by the male first. And if you have a loan, it depends on who makes the most money and who is first responsible for the payments. You are getting upset over such a trivial matter.
Zoltán Almási 4 years ago
Ask your partner who informed the third parties about the ownership.
Bechmeka 4 years ago
Wait what? I'm confused, how does it work in america? In my country the one buying it and the one doing the paper work gets the house, basically the person who sings the papers and gives the name for filling them in. You can also choose or add more owners as well by going with them and adding them.
Laura Nelson 4 years ago
Yes this happened to me too. As well as every refinance after even tho I was the one who called for a quote and did all the paperwork.
Leila Orozco Francis 4 years ago
Having worked finance before, it usually depends whose name is on the title first. In a car dealership we call the second person the cosigner. It may not have anything to do with sex unless her name is first on the title and loan applications.
Patty Mosher 4 years ago
It's better now than in the 1950's when a married woman had to have her husband's permission to open a savings account! But you're right, this does stink!
Ladyvischuss 4 years ago
Illinois here. I bought my grandmothers house with my fiancé in the 1980s. On the mortgage he was listed as a bachelor and I was a spinster.
Calypso poet 4 years ago
Ehh, sometimes it's the finances and paperwork. It happened with 2 of the vehicles we bought, I ended up first on title and he is secondary. Everything comes in my name only except registration and insurance. He co-signed on my car because he got the gm discount. Next one I got the gm discount but he co-signed for me, I had better credit but he made more money.
J Adams 4 years ago
Had the same happen to me and my husband, ended up writing a letter to the top boss of the bank the reply was to the effect off “you and your husband will receive better rates if he is the main name on applications as when underwriters build a policy they will assume that a woman will have time away from working to care for children whereas your husband will possibly remain at the same income level or go up”! Kind of makes sense but is a very primitive way of looking at things
Persp Gold 4 years ago
my dad cosigned on my home, and thats all he did. it was solely to push my budget up a notch, Im paying everything and own everything. Well: throughout the whole process he got all the calls and first contact. He was exasperated and finally unleashed on me at one point "ITS NOT MY HOUSE! I live in _______, she is buying a house in ______. No where have we ever said it will be my house!" I was like, "ugh, sorry." I had no clue he was getting so many calls. And yet I was apologizing to him on behalf of all the people who assumed we must have gotten the name order wrong.
Persp Gold 4 years ago (edited)
Addendum: My mom as a cosign would have equally pushed my budget into the range I wanted. I can only imagine heads would have exploded seeing two very girly names on the paperwork.
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Mangoes'nRum 4 years ago
I have questions. Who is taking the loan from the bank? The woman or her partner? If the loan is being taken by the partner, would the house not be listed under his name by the bank? Where I live, if I take the loan, I own the house. Doesn't matter who makes the actual payment. That way, if payments on the loan stop, the bank can legally repossess the 'name on the loan contract' borrowers property.
Niffler_13 4 years ago
Based on the way they worded it, they co-borrowed a loan, but the husband is seen as the principle owner.
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riley_is_not_your_friend 4 years ago
I disagree. It's very sexist. What's plain wrong is sexism
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Dillon Hughes 4 years ago
Then you messed up on the paper work. My lady and I did the same thing and no such problem came up.
#5
A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.
#6
When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.
lunar eclipse 4 years ago (edited)
Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.
“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.
Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.
#7
Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.
Celeste Grant 4 years ago
That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.
#8
How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.
#9
It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?
If I could I would live under water 4 years ago
I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.
‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”
The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.
#10
Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".
#11
It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.
#12
When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.
Liset Vossen 4 years ago
In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king
#13
Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.
Random Panda 4 years ago (edited)
This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.
#14
Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.
Kelli from Fitness Blender 4 years ago
I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.
#15
Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.
#16
The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.
If I could I would live under water 4 years ago
I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.
#17
I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.
#18
Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?
If I could I would live under water 4 years ago
Works both ways, "crying like a girl" and "being a pussy"
#19
If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.
troufaki13 4 years ago
I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move
#20
It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.
#21
Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?
#22
I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.
Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.
#23
Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.
#24
Organizing parties. Not only do women take care of the food, they also clean everything up afterwards. Men are just standing there unbothered.
#25
Men playing video games all day. If I were to play video games all day then I'd be neglecting my kid, but when a man does it, it's a good thing that he's home and not out there cheating.
#26
Girls are raised to be wives and told what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like. You have to keep your "purity" because your future husband might like that, you can't wear that, you can't look this way, you can't post those videos, you have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive. But "boys will be boys" and are allowed to do whatever they want.
#27
Engagement rings. We have a "symbol" on our hand saying we belong to someone else, while men get to go around and do whatever they want, no one knows if they're taken.
#28
When a woman decides to propose to a man, she is looked down by society. It's so normalized for only men to propose.
Random Panda 4 years ago (edited)
It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.
#29
Why are ships and cars referred to with the pronouns she/her? The English language doesn't really refer to things as "masculine" or "feminine". The fact that we personify these inanimate objects as women and give them female names, doesn't sit right with me. Research says that this has a variety of reasons, ranging from viewing a vessel as a motherly, womb-like, life sustaining figure, to jokingly likening a ship to a woman who is "expensive" to keep and needs a man to guide her, and a lick of paint to look good.
What do you think ?
Eslamala 4 years ago
Unpopular as usual, but most of these are enforced, allowed, encouraged and even justified by other women. If you married a useless slob and keep doing everything for him, it's not society forcing you to do it, it's just you being dumb. If it bothers you, stop putting up with it. It's really simple. Also, anyone can say crap to you, but it's you who give importance to their opinions.. this kind of posts piss me off, because it's just women complaining about crap they willingly put up with. Grow a pair of tits and ovaries, ffs!
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
I understand that some of these posts piss you off fir those reasons, but please consider that you are talking like someone who is in a position of power, not all women are being born into societies where that's the norm. Maybe try to see things from different angles before you're blaming the victim. Try to empower, not put down, feels better.
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𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂 4 years ago
I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.
Jill 4 years ago
I especially hate it when male teachers say this about predominantly male classes. I try to explain to them that they are giving the boys excuses that will backfire later and arent teaching them anything other than it is ok to be pains in the a**.
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M Calad 4 years ago
I would add that there are many indirect sexist conditionings given by society. For instance, how were single independent women usually portraited? The evil ones, the witches, etc. That getting marriage is the ultimate milestone and the biggest success in a woman's life. And many others like that, some also being addressed to men. It is changing thought, but most of us grew up with those wrong messages.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
I will be downvoted for agreeing. Motherhood and marriage are still shown on TV, in movies, as the end-all be-all. Crying men are bad, crying women are okay but only if they stop crying after they're told to.... It's changed over my lifetime, but too slowly, IMO.
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Lav Oravaf 4 years ago
It is merely the results of thousand of years of mind conditioning. but let's not forget also men too don't have it easy. To give a couple of examples: they cannot cry otherwise they are pussies, they cannot have certain jobs (like being a nanny i.e.) cause it would be considered either "gay" or "inappropriate" and we could go on forever with examples for both women and men. let's stop sexism from both sides machismo and feminism altogether ! and bring some nice balance to our lives for once !
Penny Kemper 4 years ago
Most of these are only traditional and honestly don't know mean people that still think that way. I feel like some people are way more old fashioned than I know of and I live in the Bible Belt in a small town (pop. 900) and next biggest town is (pop. 80,000). So.... who's still that old fashioned?
Patti Vance 4 years ago
#6: married 'old world italian' who thought it was odd i wanted to keep my name. finally asked him if tradition was reversed, would he ever look in the mirror and say 'i'm mike [insert my last name}? he said, 'no, i'm mike [his last name]. exactly! then, made a deal. if we made it to 20 yrs i would change it. well, we did; and i did. then 10 yrs later divorced. took back my name but his still haunts me on insurance & other official docs. #8: gave my son my name. caused all sorts of issues when he went into military service. ended up having to hyphenate my & his dad's name to satisfy the air force.
Parmeisan 4 years ago
Just a friendly FYI - the numbers change as the posts get up/downvoted. What was #6 when you commented is #7 now, it could be changed again in a few more hours. You are probably better off putting these comments under the posts themselves as they will stay connected to it that way. :)
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Leslie Burleson 4 years ago
This is an odd article . Empowering females is great . Equality is great. The things posted here are based on opinion and honestly it seems like another type of complaining post rather than an empowering and educating post
Leodavinci 4 years ago
Ever heard the expression "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Almost all of these pithy observations have not been "social norms" for over half a century at least. Whatever personal experiences to the contrary there may be.
Cosmetica Solist 4 years ago
I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.
The Dave 4 years ago (edited)
Dude, some of y'all really need to get over yourselves. Yes, women deserved to be treated equally - thats obvious. I think 100% of people under 50 agree, and that gender inequality will mostly end with the Baby Boomers. Stop looking for every opportunity to be "offended". At some point we all just have to be adults and let things roll off our back. It makes us stronger as individuals.
Ash 3 years ago
Some things yes but others no. Men and boys still think its appropriate to cat call woman. I cant walk my dog in own neighborhood without being harrassed and even have had men on two separate occasions harass me at a carwash. People to raise their boys to be more respectful or this will never change
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.
Janie 4 years ago
#4 it's literally the way YOU and your so filled out the application. The initial app has a borrower and co-borrower section. You're both referred to by those terms for the length of the agreement. If you wanted to have yourself listed as borrower and your so as the co-borrower, you should have filled out the appropriate sections... also, if you're so concerned with who paid the down payment, you probably should have had the deed titled 20% (if that's what you put down) in your name with 80% held JWROS or TBE (depending on your state or even JTIC if you're so concerned about who's property is who's).
ZooMom 4 years ago
I am most appalled at the post that implied female birth control was some suppression conspiracy as opposed to a step towards female independence. I cannot believe a movement that put women in a position of personal responsibility was a NEGATIVE.
Huddo's sister 4 years ago
It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.
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Shelby Jackson 4 years ago
The thing I don't like about posts like this is that no one, literally no one, is forcing a woman to do any of this. If you don't want dad giving you away, don't. If you want to keep your last name/give your last name to your kid, do it. Some like these traditions. Others don't. Just do what makes you happy and leave others to do the same.
Ross Keim 4 years ago (edited)
Just ugh, women don’t want equality they want superiority, they are already equal, only a weak person can be forced to do anything they don’t want to, it’s not all men’s fault or society’s fault, stop expecting men to give all of these things to you and just demand them if you want them but don’t force other women to do things they want or accept to do because you think it makes them weak they have just as much of a right to choose as you do, that’s why your already equal, your complaining about things that you already have the power of choice for, in most civilized countries, your not forced to register for a draft at 18 in a free country and know at anytime your country can call you to war to die with no choice what so ever, you want true equality start there, your life can be as equally worthless as a mans then
Aliquid A 4 years ago
Clearly you didn't read the article, it isn't about men. It is about society and western culture. "Ms Mrs and Miss" is not about men. School dress codes isn't about men. It is about our culture, which is created by men and women. You seem to have an issue where you insist everything is somehow directly about you.
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qwerty 4 years ago
Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!
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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
1. Titanic was over 100 years ago and 2. women have awnted to fight on frontlines but weren't allowed, so WTF? Also, women are in the military, not sitting home knitting, where have you been? 3. my mom is a veteran. Please, tell her she was "home cooking" as an Army nurse in the Vietnam era. Please. I'll make popcorn to watch the result!
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Aliquid A 4 years ago
I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.
Load More Replies... Eslamala 4 years ago
Unpopular as usual, but most of these are enforced, allowed, encouraged and even justified by other women. If you married a useless slob and keep doing everything for him, it's not society forcing you to do it, it's just you being dumb. If it bothers you, stop putting up with it. It's really simple. Also, anyone can say crap to you, but it's you who give importance to their opinions.. this kind of posts piss me off, because it's just women complaining about crap they willingly put up with. Grow a pair of tits and ovaries, ffs!
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
I understand that some of these posts piss you off fir those reasons, but please consider that you are talking like someone who is in a position of power, not all women are being born into societies where that's the norm. Maybe try to see things from different angles before you're blaming the victim. Try to empower, not put down, feels better.
Load More Replies... 𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂 4 years ago
I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.
Jill 4 years ago
I especially hate it when male teachers say this about predominantly male classes. I try to explain to them that they are giving the boys excuses that will backfire later and arent teaching them anything other than it is ok to be pains in the a**.
Load More Replies... M Calad 4 years ago
I would add that there are many indirect sexist conditionings given by society. For instance, how were single independent women usually portraited? The evil ones, the witches, etc. That getting marriage is the ultimate milestone and the biggest success in a woman's life. And many others like that, some also being addressed to men. It is changing thought, but most of us grew up with those wrong messages.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
I will be downvoted for agreeing. Motherhood and marriage are still shown on TV, in movies, as the end-all be-all. Crying men are bad, crying women are okay but only if they stop crying after they're told to.... It's changed over my lifetime, but too slowly, IMO.
Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf 4 years ago
It is merely the results of thousand of years of mind conditioning. but let's not forget also men too don't have it easy. To give a couple of examples: they cannot cry otherwise they are pussies, they cannot have certain jobs (like being a nanny i.e.) cause it would be considered either "gay" or "inappropriate" and we could go on forever with examples for both women and men. let's stop sexism from both sides machismo and feminism altogether ! and bring some nice balance to our lives for once !
Penny Kemper 4 years ago
Most of these are only traditional and honestly don't know mean people that still think that way. I feel like some people are way more old fashioned than I know of and I live in the Bible Belt in a small town (pop. 900) and next biggest town is (pop. 80,000). So.... who's still that old fashioned?
Patti Vance 4 years ago
#6: married 'old world italian' who thought it was odd i wanted to keep my name. finally asked him if tradition was reversed, would he ever look in the mirror and say 'i'm mike [insert my last name}? he said, 'no, i'm mike [his last name]. exactly! then, made a deal. if we made it to 20 yrs i would change it. well, we did; and i did. then 10 yrs later divorced. took back my name but his still haunts me on insurance & other official docs. #8: gave my son my name. caused all sorts of issues when he went into military service. ended up having to hyphenate my & his dad's name to satisfy the air force.
Parmeisan 4 years ago
Just a friendly FYI - the numbers change as the posts get up/downvoted. What was #6 when you commented is #7 now, it could be changed again in a few more hours. You are probably better off putting these comments under the posts themselves as they will stay connected to it that way. :)
Load More Replies... Leslie Burleson 4 years ago
This is an odd article . Empowering females is great . Equality is great. The things posted here are based on opinion and honestly it seems like another type of complaining post rather than an empowering and educating post
Leodavinci 4 years ago
Ever heard the expression "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Almost all of these pithy observations have not been "social norms" for over half a century at least. Whatever personal experiences to the contrary there may be.
Cosmetica Solist 4 years ago
I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.
The Dave 4 years ago (edited)
Dude, some of y'all really need to get over yourselves. Yes, women deserved to be treated equally - thats obvious. I think 100% of people under 50 agree, and that gender inequality will mostly end with the Baby Boomers. Stop looking for every opportunity to be "offended". At some point we all just have to be adults and let things roll off our back. It makes us stronger as individuals.
Ash 3 years ago
Some things yes but others no. Men and boys still think its appropriate to cat call woman. I cant walk my dog in own neighborhood without being harrassed and even have had men on two separate occasions harass me at a carwash. People to raise their boys to be more respectful or this will never change
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.
Janie 4 years ago
#4 it's literally the way YOU and your so filled out the application. The initial app has a borrower and co-borrower section. You're both referred to by those terms for the length of the agreement. If you wanted to have yourself listed as borrower and your so as the co-borrower, you should have filled out the appropriate sections... also, if you're so concerned with who paid the down payment, you probably should have had the deed titled 20% (if that's what you put down) in your name with 80% held JWROS or TBE (depending on your state or even JTIC if you're so concerned about who's property is who's).
ZooMom 4 years ago
I am most appalled at the post that implied female birth control was some suppression conspiracy as opposed to a step towards female independence. I cannot believe a movement that put women in a position of personal responsibility was a NEGATIVE.
Huddo's sister 4 years ago
It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.
Load More Replies... Shelby Jackson 4 years ago
The thing I don't like about posts like this is that no one, literally no one, is forcing a woman to do any of this. If you don't want dad giving you away, don't. If you want to keep your last name/give your last name to your kid, do it. Some like these traditions. Others don't. Just do what makes you happy and leave others to do the same.
Ross Keim 4 years ago (edited)
Just ugh, women don’t want equality they want superiority, they are already equal, only a weak person can be forced to do anything they don’t want to, it’s not all men’s fault or society’s fault, stop expecting men to give all of these things to you and just demand them if you want them but don’t force other women to do things they want or accept to do because you think it makes them weak they have just as much of a right to choose as you do, that’s why your already equal, your complaining about things that you already have the power of choice for, in most civilized countries, your not forced to register for a draft at 18 in a free country and know at anytime your country can call you to war to die with no choice what so ever, you want true equality start there, your life can be as equally worthless as a mans then
Aliquid A 4 years ago
Clearly you didn't read the article, it isn't about men. It is about society and western culture. "Ms Mrs and Miss" is not about men. School dress codes isn't about men. It is about our culture, which is created by men and women. You seem to have an issue where you insist everything is somehow directly about you.
Load More Replies... qwerty 4 years ago
Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
1. Titanic was over 100 years ago and 2. women have awnted to fight on frontlines but weren't allowed, so WTF? Also, women are in the military, not sitting home knitting, where have you been? 3. my mom is a veteran. Please, tell her she was "home cooking" as an Army nurse in the Vietnam era. Please. I'll make popcorn to watch the result!
Load More Replies... Aliquid A 4 years ago
I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.
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