Woman Is In Disbelief After Sister Asks Her To Chip In For The Cake That Her Daughter Ate 2 Pieces Of
Nothing hurts more than unreciprocated effort. In your mind, you probably go out of your way to make life easier for this individual; they are your person, after all. Your goal is to make them happy and comfortable whenever possible. But what happens when these good gestures are met with pushback? This is exactly what this Redditor had to deal with when her sister demanded she refund her for a slice of cake eaten by her teenage daughter who volunteers to babysit her cousin on the weekends.
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As beautiful and tasty as cake is, it can be the cause of so much drama
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The poster shared how her sister wanted a refund for cake slices that were eaten by her teenage daughter
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Apparently when she went babysitting, the author’s daughter ate 2 slices of leftover cake from the kitchen
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The sister demanded a refund, which the OP refused
The original poster (OP) is a single mother with a teenage daughter who lives near her sister’s family. The OP’s daughter, Carly, babysits her cousins on weekends while the OP’s sister and brother-in-law (BIL) are out. Carly volunteers to babysit, without pressure from her mom or aunt, because she likes the extra money without the hassle of getting a part-time job in retail, and the kids enjoy having her around.
Trouble arose when, after babysitting, the OP’s sister called her to say that a custom-made leftover cake from the OP’s niece’s birthday party was missing. Apparently, Carly had eaten two slices while babysitting.
The OP’s sister said Carly should have asked before eating the cake because it was expensive. The OP apologized, but her sister insisted on being compensated for it and was completely serious about it. The OP tried to lighten the mood by mentioning the cake might have gone bad if it wasn’t already stale, but clarified that she wouldn’t be giving her money for it. This didn’t amuse her sister, who claimed the OP was being inconsiderate.
Commenters had various viewpoints, with some suggesting the OP pay her sister back and tell Carly she won’t be babysitting without full and comparable compensation. Others argued that the cake wasn’t worth much, especially considering it was a two-week-old leftover.
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The sting of unreciprocated effort is a major source of the OP’s frustration. “As a family, you’re each other’s backbones; you rely on one another for support through the good times and the bad. So, when one of your family members comes to you, asking for a favor, you feel obligated to perform whatever it is,” Thriveworks explains. “That being said, it is crucial that when doing a favor becomes a reoccurring instance, boundaries are set—preferably before things get out of hand.”
HelpGuide.org highlights the value of conflict resolution skills in dealing with family challenges. “Conflict resolution skills can come in handy anytime you’re dealing with family drama. These skills involve managing stress in the moment, being aware of both your own emotions and the other person’s, and prioritizing resolution over winning the argument.”
But while at it, make peace with the fact that some people have viewpoints or priorities that may never match your own. Your adult children, siblings, or parents will do what they feel is right for them, and you can’t control their behavior. Try to treasure the relationship for what it is, or focus on other relationships that bring you joy.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Be sure to leave your takes and stories in the comment section below!
Readers called out the sister, claiming she was being petty
Maybe that's why the babysitter's aunt was upset - that poor cake didn't have a chance to hike around the world.
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You do not buy a lemon cake, let alone a lemon CURD cake (curd adds to the price tag) for a child unless lemon is their favorite flavour. If you're buying that kind of cake without a care for what the birthday kid likes, then it's purely posturing, and the birthday party was not actually meant to be enjoyed by the birthday kid.
She clearly bought the cake for herself, kids don't go for lemon curd. The aunt is selfish and caught the consequences of being selfish via the niece eating her personal stash. As an aunt, I would never deny my nieces and nephew anything when they were with me. Being a bit old fashioned, I would go without so a kid could eat anyway of the week, no exception. This is a ludicrous behaviour from this aunt and not what a niece who believes she is with family would expect.
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No one is even mentioning whether the little cousins told Carly she could have as much of that cake as she wanted (or even the size of the slices she ate—-they could’ve practically been slivers, ffs). I mean, they’re probably sick and tired of seeing it still in the kitchen two weeks after the birthday party, when it was made very very clear that every single kid at the party, especially the birthday girl, absolutely hates lemon curd cake. However, their mom has been continuously harping about how expensive it was, and how no one’s eaten any it—-for the past TWO WEEKS—-so I wouldn’t blame the kids for offering it to Carly, who clearly liked it, because in the kids’ opinion (and mine, as I’m not a fan of that flavor either), the sooner the damned thing is gone, the better.
Maybe they begged her to eat it so mum would stop trying to make them eat it.
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She had to pay for the entire cake for the bd party. She should be glad that someone got to enjoy some of it before it's garbage (At two weeks old it was already garbage, IMHO). The bakery likely wouldn't have sold her 1/3 of a cake. She wasted money on something foolish, and that's on her.
I would be petty AF, buy a fresh lemon curd cake, eat most of it, except for two slices. Those I would leave on the counter for two weeks, and then give them to the sister. That way she gets EXACTLY what her niece took.
I love this level of pettiness in this situation. Brava!
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Two week old lemon curd, niece is lucky she didn't get sick. I can't imagine being upset at any child, let alone a family member, eating random leftovers at my house. Yeah I guess she should have asked, but the aunt saying, "hey next time you want something from the fridge, could you check with me first?" Would be a fair reaction and a lesson learned.
Except it wasn’t even in the fridge! It was on the counter. Totally ridiculous behavior from the aunt.
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I would have a word with my daughter about eating a cake this old and not refrigerated. That is just nasty and could have given her food poisoning. Also I would pay my sister the current value of two slices of week-old-cake and tell her to find another babysitter in the future.
They're cooked though, so it should be fine for a few days at least. At two weeks I'd fall back on "if it smells OK and tastes OK it probably is OK". But certainly well past its best even if were still edible.
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Yeah... for a cake that stale/old - definitely not worth compensation. On another note, it's my husband's birthday next week. Birthday cake recipes welcome! :D
Banana cake from the NZ Edmonds Cook Book! With lemon icing
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If you want someone to tell your sister to "F*ck Off", I'm free on Thursday.
The whole point of birthday cake is to share it and expect it to be entirely eaten at the party…otherwise, properly freeze and store it to save it and make it known that it’s being saved. Ridiculous to ask for compensation (nearly a third of the cost!) for 2 week old cake from your sister for Christ’s sake!
2 werk old cake is a hazard. I propably would have turned the discussion around completly and repriminded the aunt for having a 2 week old cake open in her house where kids could just eat it, even if she had refrigerated it, it's a wonder the cake hasn't turned into "lime" custard cake at that point. This is so unsanitary. But the daughter shouldn't have taken the cake without asking, that's definitly a talk that needs to happen. But the 20 for two slices of food hazard cake is insane. As the cake was 70 on the day it was baked on the same day (assuming it's a round 12 piece cake) 11,6 would be appropriate as compensation if one want to be petty. Bakeries sometimes sell cake a day later still, mostly at 50% off, so if she had eaten it a day after 5,8 would be okay and potentially could be used as a way to teach her to not just eat without asking. Every day after that the cake in this storage condition becomes a hazard and I as the aunt would panic about potentially poisoning my niece.
What has this economy come to where you don't let your baby-sitter eat? Having a meal and snacks with the kids, leaving pizza money. That used to be norm in the baby-sitting biz. Pssst..good luck finding someone else to trust your kids with.
It's really good to burn bridges with both your family and babysitter over someone eating two week old stale cake.
Hand over the $20. And remove your child as their babysitter. It will suck for the daughter and the kids not seeing her as much. She could go back after a while but unless they plan to leave her food she can have if hungry then forget it. Not worth sisters drama over a cake.
Your sister is being stupid af! That camke has been sitting in a bread box for 2 damn weeks, lmao, no one was eating it, yet she wants money? Hell no.. I would also tell her that my daughter won't no longer be baby sitting for her....
Maybe that's why the babysitter's aunt was upset - that poor cake didn't have a chance to hike around the world.
Load More Replies... You do not buy a lemon cake, let alone a lemon CURD cake (curd adds to the price tag) for a child unless lemon is their favorite flavour. If you're buying that kind of cake without a care for what the birthday kid likes, then it's purely posturing, and the birthday party was not actually meant to be enjoyed by the birthday kid.
She clearly bought the cake for herself, kids don't go for lemon curd. The aunt is selfish and caught the consequences of being selfish via the niece eating her personal stash. As an aunt, I would never deny my nieces and nephew anything when they were with me. Being a bit old fashioned, I would go without so a kid could eat anyway of the week, no exception. This is a ludicrous behaviour from this aunt and not what a niece who believes she is with family would expect.
Load More Replies... No one is even mentioning whether the little cousins told Carly she could have as much of that cake as she wanted (or even the size of the slices she ate—-they could’ve practically been slivers, ffs). I mean, they’re probably sick and tired of seeing it still in the kitchen two weeks after the birthday party, when it was made very very clear that every single kid at the party, especially the birthday girl, absolutely hates lemon curd cake. However, their mom has been continuously harping about how expensive it was, and how no one’s eaten any it—-for the past TWO WEEKS—-so I wouldn’t blame the kids for offering it to Carly, who clearly liked it, because in the kids’ opinion (and mine, as I’m not a fan of that flavor either), the sooner the damned thing is gone, the better.
Maybe they begged her to eat it so mum would stop trying to make them eat it.
Load More Replies... She had to pay for the entire cake for the bd party. She should be glad that someone got to enjoy some of it before it's garbage (At two weeks old it was already garbage, IMHO). The bakery likely wouldn't have sold her 1/3 of a cake. She wasted money on something foolish, and that's on her.
I would be petty AF, buy a fresh lemon curd cake, eat most of it, except for two slices. Those I would leave on the counter for two weeks, and then give them to the sister. That way she gets EXACTLY what her niece took.
I love this level of pettiness in this situation. Brava!
Load More Replies... Two week old lemon curd, niece is lucky she didn't get sick. I can't imagine being upset at any child, let alone a family member, eating random leftovers at my house. Yeah I guess she should have asked, but the aunt saying, "hey next time you want something from the fridge, could you check with me first?" Would be a fair reaction and a lesson learned.
Except it wasn’t even in the fridge! It was on the counter. Totally ridiculous behavior from the aunt.
Load More Replies... I would have a word with my daughter about eating a cake this old and not refrigerated. That is just nasty and could have given her food poisoning. Also I would pay my sister the current value of two slices of week-old-cake and tell her to find another babysitter in the future.
They're cooked though, so it should be fine for a few days at least. At two weeks I'd fall back on "if it smells OK and tastes OK it probably is OK". But certainly well past its best even if were still edible.
Load More Replies... Yeah... for a cake that stale/old - definitely not worth compensation. On another note, it's my husband's birthday next week. Birthday cake recipes welcome! :D
Banana cake from the NZ Edmonds Cook Book! With lemon icing
Load More Replies... If you want someone to tell your sister to "F*ck Off", I'm free on Thursday.
The whole point of birthday cake is to share it and expect it to be entirely eaten at the party…otherwise, properly freeze and store it to save it and make it known that it’s being saved. Ridiculous to ask for compensation (nearly a third of the cost!) for 2 week old cake from your sister for Christ’s sake!
2 werk old cake is a hazard. I propably would have turned the discussion around completly and repriminded the aunt for having a 2 week old cake open in her house where kids could just eat it, even if she had refrigerated it, it's a wonder the cake hasn't turned into "lime" custard cake at that point. This is so unsanitary. But the daughter shouldn't have taken the cake without asking, that's definitly a talk that needs to happen. But the 20 for two slices of food hazard cake is insane. As the cake was 70 on the day it was baked on the same day (assuming it's a round 12 piece cake) 11,6 would be appropriate as compensation if one want to be petty. Bakeries sometimes sell cake a day later still, mostly at 50% off, so if she had eaten it a day after 5,8 would be okay and potentially could be used as a way to teach her to not just eat without asking. Every day after that the cake in this storage condition becomes a hazard and I as the aunt would panic about potentially poisoning my niece.
What has this economy come to where you don't let your baby-sitter eat? Having a meal and snacks with the kids, leaving pizza money. That used to be norm in the baby-sitting biz. Pssst..good luck finding someone else to trust your kids with.
It's really good to burn bridges with both your family and babysitter over someone eating two week old stale cake.
Hand over the $20. And remove your child as their babysitter. It will suck for the daughter and the kids not seeing her as much. She could go back after a while but unless they plan to leave her food she can have if hungry then forget it. Not worth sisters drama over a cake.
Your sister is being stupid af! That camke has been sitting in a bread box for 2 damn weeks, lmao, no one was eating it, yet she wants money? Hell no.. I would also tell her that my daughter won't no longer be baby sitting for her....
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