Woman Freaks After The Consequences Of Naming Her Baby The Same As Her Niece Come To Bite
An integral part of any family, inevitably, is some form of drama. Even close-knit family units will find something to bicker about, indeed, in some cases it’s an entire love language. But some drama is so dumb and contrived that people just had to share it online.
A woman asked the internet for advice when her sister chose the same name for her daughter and started asking her to call her own child something else. This was two full years after the birth of OP’s daughter. Bored Panda reached out to OP via Reddit and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Some parents are absolutely dead set on a particular name
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But one mother was surprised when her sister picked the exact same name as her daughter for her newborn
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Names are important to many people, but there are boundaries that have to be kept
While picking a name, generally, doesn’t have the weight and importance that it once did, the sister’s decision is still deeply bizarre. After all, so many family gatherings are not going to be riddled with confusion. Even worse, just saying a name to one child or another might end up looking like a person is picking sides. Ironically, the two little girls involved are likely to be completely ignorant of the entire ordeal until they are much older. Perhaps for the best.
The sister’s suggestion to use the middle name is strange from two perspectives. Firstly, she is in no position to be making these sorts of demands. OP has had a kid for two whole years already, and the sister at no point tried to make any sort of claims, so why she thinks she can pull this sort of stunt now is anyone’s guess. Normally, naming drama happens before the child is even born, but in this case, all the issues could have been avoided if the sister simply made better decisions.
Middle names, traditionally, exist to attempt to preserve pre-marital or maiden names. It’s not unreasonable to perhaps use them in some cases, indeed, some people prefer to be called by their maiden name. However, a two-year-old being pressured into it by a strangely entitled aunt is not the same as a teen taking some first steps towards establishing their own identity and independence.
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The sister’s demands are completely out of touch
Truthfully, people in drama-prone families know very well about what to tell their relatives and what to just keep to themselves. However, in OP’s case, it seems to just be this particular sister who is stirring the pot. It’s not unreasonable to like a name for your child and to go against all wisdom and just pick the same one. Perhaps she was even inspired by OP’s choice. But to then, having never attempted to claim it, demand that her preferences be respected is just out of touch.
Then again, family drama always comes with its own amount of entitlement and strange demands. Family relationships are special, but, in the wrong circumstances, people can start to truly believe that they are entitled to something. Resentment, jealousy, and weird, self-contained rules are all part of this issue, even if it primarily exists just in the sister’s head. Fortunately, for OP, her family appears to mostly be on her side as well.
It’s interesting that OP still decided to poll the internet, as this does seem to be an open-and-shut case. Most readers wholeheartedly sided with her, as the sister simply does not have a leg to stand on. Of course, this doesn’t actually mean that she is going to see it that way, but all in all, at some point, the sister will have to give in or end up cutting contact with her family, as they are not going to just comply with her demands.
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Too many people use the word “compromise” to mean “get my way”. Makes me want to reach through the screen and smack them. OP’s sister is a dïck
This is one of those posts that feels like it just can't be true, because no-one is THAT stupid and unaware, right? Maybe OP's sister can call her daughter "Blockbuster" or "Mainstream".
The thing that makes me think this one is made up is that throughout all of that above no one simply said that OP named their daughter Indie first so sister can simply go pound sand. It simply seems too much contrived drama to tell a story to get some likes.
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Here. Let me be the "Nice Val" and say that I came in with the same comment as Kate. The sister is deranged.
Load More Replies... Starting to wonder if posts like this are genuinely confused or just ragebait they can forward to the family. I mean, it's so obvious that it's the sister's problem.
"Am I the a*****e for asking my siblings not forcibly remove my teeth with pliers?"
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I know someone that 3 first cousins, all born in the same year have the same exact name, bc they were all named for the same grandfather who passed that same year. So 3 cousins, 5 months between them, the same first, middle, and last names. It is common and many families dont care
Even if the sister hasn't known about the name it's not correct to honestly request somebody else basically rename their child. I love the attitude of big Indie little Indie, what do you do.
My poor cousin was always called little Henkie by me. I was 8 or 10 years younger than him. Imagine a little girl calling you little Henkie. My brother was a few cm taller than him, so he was big Henk. LOL and he never complained about it. Nobody said it was weird. My kids named the rabbit after my brother and I took her to the vet (they rather had a male but I didnt want 200 rabbits and already had females, so she just got a male name) and the assistant started to laugh and asked if I named her after the vet. Turned out he was called Henk too.
Load More Replies... Ffs. Just be honest. Tell little sister that she’s still a child and a self absorbed little twat . She isn’t mature enough to raise another human being. She doesn’t even have the sense to realise she has copied her sister’s child’s name and is the one who is wrong here. F**k her and her absolute stupidity.
OP is the little sister. The sister who had the 2nd "Indie" is ELEVEN YEARS older than OP.
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BP keeps posting AITA stories where the answer is a slam dunk. 94% NTA. I understand its a ploy to promote discussion but there's no discussion. Please choose subjects where there's a 50/50 split. You don't need to keep discussing where to go to dinner tonight when there's only restaurant in town and you are already there.
I'm starting to think these AITA are actually AITAI ... Am I The AI? I'm starting to think they're written by AI because this is like the tenth time I've read about someone who has a child, and then their relative or their friend wants to give THEIR child the same name. Is this really a thing? Why would ANYONE do that? I mean, I understand naming your child after their grandma or their uncle, or honoring some other relative in some way, but really? Naming your child after your sister's child? On what planet is that a good idea? I'll tell you which one: the one the AI thinks we're living on.
Go back a ways, you'll find many more. A true Tragedeigh if you ask me...hell, even if you don't!
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The sister sounds like a narcissist with that level of entitlement and gaslighting.
If they're race car fans, they could call one Indie and the other Daytona.
I'd tell OP's sister to go and try to trademark that name just so I can see her being heckled and laughed by the patent office and everyone else. Honestly, some people really should be prohibited from procreating and that dingus sister sounds high on the list -_-
What a ridiculous situation. If this is the biggest problem in sister's life, she's doing a damm sight better than the rest of us!
This is a fake story. Reddit removed it for being spam, and the person's account was suspended
Exactly. They should just call the 2nd Indie "Temple of Doom."
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This happened in our family. My brother is 4 years older than our cousin who my aunt (dad's sister) decided to give the same name to. We didn't see them often growing up but when we did it was always big - and little - or - #1 and -#2. Even now as adults they get referred to that way.
If they keep that up, eventually they'll have the Indie 500.
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The sister is a moron as is her husband. Good for the family for telling her this is her fault. I can't get over what an idiot she is.
Don't believe a word of this. No-one is that daft. Call the second kid "Pendent" and have done with it.
I think you're a very sweet person for even thinking that you might possibly TA. Let me explain this to you gently: your sister is in the wrong, a 100%. She knows that but is unable to acknowledge that to herself. So, she blames everyone else for her bad decision. You were absolutely right in stating your position on this issue the way you did: arguing with your sister would not have solved the issue, because I strongly suspect that in any further conversation she would bring all kinds of other stuff up just to get her way. She made a mistake: leave that with her. It's her problem and it's up to her to find a solution. It's not your problem so please do not make it so: het her figure things out on her own. Tell her this subject is not up to debate anymore for you and leave it at that.
Funny how the older sister is calling the younger one "selfish" when she's actually the selfish one. What a twat.
Yes having a two year old tell you no mama my names Indie. Asking a two year old to change her is about as effective as using birth control after having sèx. Which I can clearly see your sister do. Her baby doesn't even know her name yet. She gets to use the middle name.
We named our new dog after an extended family members son that we adored. The parents thought it was great.
In my country it used to be common for the oldest boy to be named after his dad, and for kids to be named after grandparents. So in my family there's 4 men/boys with the same first name. I just don't get it, it's weird (why be named after your father, you're your own individual person!) and inconvenient, because it leads to confusion. Not just when talking, but also when it comes to getting letters in the mail.
What a load of crapola - I cannot even fathom why the OP would ask if she was in the wrong. I would have laughed the sister right out of town!
What the heck?? There are so many beautiful names out there, why on earth did this woman decide to take her niece’s name? She had 9 months to choose a name and she seriously couldn’t do better than to use a name her sister had already used? It’s ridiculous.
I have three cousins named Stanley. I have no problem knowing who is who, even on holidays. No one in my large family ever mentioned it was confusing. Tell your sister to get over it.
In my family we had 3 josephs (now only 1), 2 pauls and 2 Thomas's. For the josephs we had grandad, uncle joe, and joseph. For the pauls we had uncle/big paul and lil paul or pj and for the thomas's we had grandpa/tom and tommy/thomas. People the world over have multiple people in their family named the same. Hell, go look at what george forman named his kids lol
Want to wage, this isn't the first selfish and predictably problematic thing this sister has done.
My Granddad's name was William,known as Bill.My son,nephew and cousin all have the middle name "William".They all have different first names.My son just recently became a dad.His son's name is William,know in the family as "Baby Bill"....This is an example of a family name being used successfully.I have a 2 year old granddaughter with an unusual name.It would be totally weird if her aunts or uncle suddenly decided to use HER name for child they have now. My daughter's name is India.We have never shortened it to a nickname,though we do occasionally call her by her middle name as well.Maybe the Op's sister could change it to something like that.But at this point,she is just being nasty and trying to take attention away from the op and her daughter.The older sister is the one who should change the new babies name.
The last comment about naming a kid Chloe when they already have a 19yo niece named Chloe is a silly example since by then, it would be kind of a namesake situation rather than "these two little kids will now both answer when we call for one of them"
NTA, your sister is an idiot and you both named your kid after a car race!
My father in law was Stephen, his brother named his son, my husbands cousin after him. If our eldest had been a boy, he would have been Stephen but by the time we had a son, cousin Stephen had already named his eldest son Stephen. Not a big deal; we just used Stephen as a middle name. Our logic was that they’d almost certainly be at the same school, in the same year, it wouldn’t be fair to either of them to have identical first and last names. No one owns a name but everyone has a duty to avoid making life difficult for their kids.
Too many people use the word “compromise” to mean “get my way”. Makes me want to reach through the screen and smack them. OP’s sister is a dïck
This is one of those posts that feels like it just can't be true, because no-one is THAT stupid and unaware, right? Maybe OP's sister can call her daughter "Blockbuster" or "Mainstream".
The thing that makes me think this one is made up is that throughout all of that above no one simply said that OP named their daughter Indie first so sister can simply go pound sand. It simply seems too much contrived drama to tell a story to get some likes.
Load More Replies... Here. Let me be the "Nice Val" and say that I came in with the same comment as Kate. The sister is deranged.
Load More Replies... Starting to wonder if posts like this are genuinely confused or just ragebait they can forward to the family. I mean, it's so obvious that it's the sister's problem.
"Am I the a*****e for asking my siblings not forcibly remove my teeth with pliers?"
Load More Replies... I know someone that 3 first cousins, all born in the same year have the same exact name, bc they were all named for the same grandfather who passed that same year. So 3 cousins, 5 months between them, the same first, middle, and last names. It is common and many families dont care
Even if the sister hasn't known about the name it's not correct to honestly request somebody else basically rename their child. I love the attitude of big Indie little Indie, what do you do.
My poor cousin was always called little Henkie by me. I was 8 or 10 years younger than him. Imagine a little girl calling you little Henkie. My brother was a few cm taller than him, so he was big Henk. LOL and he never complained about it. Nobody said it was weird. My kids named the rabbit after my brother and I took her to the vet (they rather had a male but I didnt want 200 rabbits and already had females, so she just got a male name) and the assistant started to laugh and asked if I named her after the vet. Turned out he was called Henk too.
Load More Replies... Ffs. Just be honest. Tell little sister that she’s still a child and a self absorbed little twat . She isn’t mature enough to raise another human being. She doesn’t even have the sense to realise she has copied her sister’s child’s name and is the one who is wrong here. F**k her and her absolute stupidity.
OP is the little sister. The sister who had the 2nd "Indie" is ELEVEN YEARS older than OP.
Load More Replies... BP keeps posting AITA stories where the answer is a slam dunk. 94% NTA. I understand its a ploy to promote discussion but there's no discussion. Please choose subjects where there's a 50/50 split. You don't need to keep discussing where to go to dinner tonight when there's only restaurant in town and you are already there.
I'm starting to think these AITA are actually AITAI ... Am I The AI? I'm starting to think they're written by AI because this is like the tenth time I've read about someone who has a child, and then their relative or their friend wants to give THEIR child the same name. Is this really a thing? Why would ANYONE do that? I mean, I understand naming your child after their grandma or their uncle, or honoring some other relative in some way, but really? Naming your child after your sister's child? On what planet is that a good idea? I'll tell you which one: the one the AI thinks we're living on.
Go back a ways, you'll find many more. A true Tragedeigh if you ask me...hell, even if you don't!
Load More Replies... The sister sounds like a narcissist with that level of entitlement and gaslighting.
If they're race car fans, they could call one Indie and the other Daytona.
I'd tell OP's sister to go and try to trademark that name just so I can see her being heckled and laughed by the patent office and everyone else. Honestly, some people really should be prohibited from procreating and that dingus sister sounds high on the list -_-
What a ridiculous situation. If this is the biggest problem in sister's life, she's doing a damm sight better than the rest of us!
This is a fake story. Reddit removed it for being spam, and the person's account was suspended
Exactly. They should just call the 2nd Indie "Temple of Doom."
Load More Replies... This happened in our family. My brother is 4 years older than our cousin who my aunt (dad's sister) decided to give the same name to. We didn't see them often growing up but when we did it was always big - and little - or - #1 and -#2. Even now as adults they get referred to that way.
If they keep that up, eventually they'll have the Indie 500.
Load More Replies... The sister is a moron as is her husband. Good for the family for telling her this is her fault. I can't get over what an idiot she is.
Don't believe a word of this. No-one is that daft. Call the second kid "Pendent" and have done with it.
I think you're a very sweet person for even thinking that you might possibly TA. Let me explain this to you gently: your sister is in the wrong, a 100%. She knows that but is unable to acknowledge that to herself. So, she blames everyone else for her bad decision. You were absolutely right in stating your position on this issue the way you did: arguing with your sister would not have solved the issue, because I strongly suspect that in any further conversation she would bring all kinds of other stuff up just to get her way. She made a mistake: leave that with her. It's her problem and it's up to her to find a solution. It's not your problem so please do not make it so: het her figure things out on her own. Tell her this subject is not up to debate anymore for you and leave it at that.
Funny how the older sister is calling the younger one "selfish" when she's actually the selfish one. What a twat.
Yes having a two year old tell you no mama my names Indie. Asking a two year old to change her is about as effective as using birth control after having sèx. Which I can clearly see your sister do. Her baby doesn't even know her name yet. She gets to use the middle name.
We named our new dog after an extended family members son that we adored. The parents thought it was great.
In my country it used to be common for the oldest boy to be named after his dad, and for kids to be named after grandparents. So in my family there's 4 men/boys with the same first name. I just don't get it, it's weird (why be named after your father, you're your own individual person!) and inconvenient, because it leads to confusion. Not just when talking, but also when it comes to getting letters in the mail.
What a load of crapola - I cannot even fathom why the OP would ask if she was in the wrong. I would have laughed the sister right out of town!
What the heck?? There are so many beautiful names out there, why on earth did this woman decide to take her niece’s name? She had 9 months to choose a name and she seriously couldn’t do better than to use a name her sister had already used? It’s ridiculous.
I have three cousins named Stanley. I have no problem knowing who is who, even on holidays. No one in my large family ever mentioned it was confusing. Tell your sister to get over it.
In my family we had 3 josephs (now only 1), 2 pauls and 2 Thomas's. For the josephs we had grandad, uncle joe, and joseph. For the pauls we had uncle/big paul and lil paul or pj and for the thomas's we had grandpa/tom and tommy/thomas. People the world over have multiple people in their family named the same. Hell, go look at what george forman named his kids lol
Want to wage, this isn't the first selfish and predictably problematic thing this sister has done.
My Granddad's name was William,known as Bill.My son,nephew and cousin all have the middle name "William".They all have different first names.My son just recently became a dad.His son's name is William,know in the family as "Baby Bill"....This is an example of a family name being used successfully.I have a 2 year old granddaughter with an unusual name.It would be totally weird if her aunts or uncle suddenly decided to use HER name for child they have now. My daughter's name is India.We have never shortened it to a nickname,though we do occasionally call her by her middle name as well.Maybe the Op's sister could change it to something like that.But at this point,she is just being nasty and trying to take attention away from the op and her daughter.The older sister is the one who should change the new babies name.
The last comment about naming a kid Chloe when they already have a 19yo niece named Chloe is a silly example since by then, it would be kind of a namesake situation rather than "these two little kids will now both answer when we call for one of them"
NTA, your sister is an idiot and you both named your kid after a car race!
My father in law was Stephen, his brother named his son, my husbands cousin after him. If our eldest had been a boy, he would have been Stephen but by the time we had a son, cousin Stephen had already named his eldest son Stephen. Not a big deal; we just used Stephen as a middle name. Our logic was that they’d almost certainly be at the same school, in the same year, it wouldn’t be fair to either of them to have identical first and last names. No one owns a name but everyone has a duty to avoid making life difficult for their kids.
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