For all the talk about gender equality, the truth is that being a woman is very different in reality, full of everyday struggles that some people might not be aware of until they’re pointed out. That’s what Twitter user Gayatri wanted to show the world with her viral thread where she asked women to tell her they’re women “without telling me you’re a woman.”

Gayatri, from Mumbai in India, caught people’s attention with her to-the-point and no-nonsense thread. She opened up by saying that she’s always on the lookout for “escape routes” whenever she’s walking in a dark alley. Other women pitched in with their experiences and Gayatri added a few more of her own. Gayatri told Bored Panda that she routinely talks about women's life and workplace experiences on Twitter. "I started this thread as a way for women to share their experiences and the prejudices they face in everyday life. The answers showed that women all over the country and world even had the same experiences. We fought the same battles."

Scroll down a read through the responses to Gayatri's thread and our interview with her, dear Pandas. What did you think of the thread? How would you answer her question? What do you think can be done to change the situation? Let us know in the comments. Gayatri’s fears aren’t unfounded. The situation with women’s rights in India is shocking, writes The Guardian, and both women and girls are frequently victims of violence.

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yadudewhatever Report

Tabitha L
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2 months ago

I bought a fake engagement ring in college for this purpose.

MiaOokami
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2 months ago

That is both really smart, and really sad.

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CatWoman312
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2 months ago

Some don’t even care about that anymore. They see an unavailable woman as a challenge

Calypso poet
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2 months ago

Yep.

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Anaïs Ballestra
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2 months ago

So f***ing true.....

deanna woods
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2 months ago

It's sad that this has to be done.

Wolfstar
Community Member
2 months ago

This one is so true. When I'm out and about, my roommate always comes with me and says that he's dating me even though he's not (he's gay) People back off since he's freaking tall but there are some jerks he takes that as a challenge

SheHulk
Community Member
2 months ago

Tell them not interested then hearing f*****g lesbo tho I´m not. Wish I was.

K.
Community Member
2 months ago

Yuhppp. I have learned to say, “I’m not allowed to date until I’m married.”

Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

Sad, but smart move.

Cyan
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm a teenager and I'm not allowed to go out at night or anything but I already have so many plans in place for if something like this happens. I shouldn't have to be terrified.

Carmen Elena
Community Member
2 months ago

Soo true! Some men are incapable to accept that sometimes we don´t want their company just because.

Zophra
Community Member
2 months ago

Damn... never thought of it like this with the respect idea.

Shinomi Chan
Community Member
1 month ago

Honestly. If it ever comes to it, if I have to I WILL play the role of someone's gf/wife if it means a creepy stalker stays the hell away from them.

Michael Tesfaye
Community Member
1 month ago

not all men are the same. smh i would walk off if a girl tells me no.

Susan Mercurio
Community Member
2 months ago

Oh, brother, do I know this one!

fuggnuggins
Community Member
2 months ago

This second one, you could substitute either "men" with "woman" or "gay people", or not substitute it though you're not a woman, and it would still be true. This person has a pathological perspective of life. Professional victim.

Madonna Rose
Community Member
2 months ago

Wearing a mask has made a great difference, I get far less looks anymore and I’m very careful about my surrounding and making noticeable eye contact.

tomruns12
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2 months ago

Im a man and im always aware of the escape routes.

Mika Andersson
Community Member
2 months ago

this is all so sad. why can't womens choices be respected like they should?

pangolinmangos
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2 months ago

on every comment i will type a ʕ•́ᴥ•̀ʔっ to show I SUPPORT WOMENS RIGHTS (i am a girl)

pusheen buttercup
Community Member
2 months ago

It's good to be aware of escape routes, man or woman :) bad things can happen to men too

Jenna
Community Member
2 months ago

Yep.

Jus
Community Member
2 months ago

I sometimes wear my old wedding ring even though I am single now.

Bla
Community Member
2 months ago

that's so true

elfin
Community Member
2 months ago

Rational, but too focused on the man. As a woman you have the right to say "No" with no explanation required. If he persists, ask him why he is persisting and really listen for an answer. He may find it awkward.

Madonna Rose
Community Member
2 months ago

I’m trying to not indulge in a conversation and you want me to ask him why he’s persisting...get real, that’s asking for trouble!

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Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat
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2 months ago

The creeps don't even care if you say this. They will say just cheat on him or leave him for me. So lame.

Ryan Deschanel
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2 months ago

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It sounds totally made up. Men know what "no" means and respect that, actually much more than some women (no, Ashley, I can't "stop being gay just once", and yes, Caroline, I am sure I don't like you).

Nina
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2 months ago

Wow, your comment is soooo naive. 👏

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Rocio Palacios
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2 months ago

This Is true, and infuriating.

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Natalia
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2 months ago

True. Sad but true.

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According to Gayatri, one of the things that the responses to her thread showed is that rights and reality are two very different things. "Instead of asking women what needs to change about women's rights, I think what needs to change is the perception of men. Women are still looked at as inferior beings who need to be told what to do and how to live every single day," she said.

"Men need to actively listen to women, overcome their biases and age-old mental conditioning, and treat women as equals. These discourses are being labeled feminism and the women who talk about this, feminists. But if you think about it, all women want is to left alone and not be told by men how to lead their lives."

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Elizabeth Molloy
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2 months ago

51. I didn't.

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#5

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Red Hair Blue Soul
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2 months ago

And last one to sit down and relax, if ever!

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

Same. Not our responsability!

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However, there are problems in the West, as well. Writer and founder of ‘Voice of Salam,’ Elizabeth Arif-Fear told Bored Panda that women face sexist attitudes, harassment, and barriers to entry because of their gender both in the workplace and outside of it.

Her solutions to these issues is to continue to “dismantle gender-based stereotypes about gender roles,” push for “full parity in dividing unpaid work at home with their partners,” and report incidents of harassment and “illegal questioning of their marital status in job interviews.”

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Natalia
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2 months ago

Oh come on! That's so frustrating!

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#8

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Vincent Philippart
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2 months ago

Could be a black man.

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#9

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Soap
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2 months ago

I don't want children. That's my answer, and it won't change. Stop making my life yours.

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According to Arif-Fear, these kinds of actions will help in continuing the work toward “smashing the glass ceiling” that women face.

“Ladies, you can do it! Please believe in yourself!” she said. “Likewise, partners need to do their share at home, colleagues should check their attitudes (e.g. sexist comments), not mansplain in meetings, and managers and employers should ensure that they are creating fair equal opportunities and spaces at the table. Consideration for those with childcare responsibilities is also important.”

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

Yes this. And not to whistle!

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#11

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Natalia
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2 months ago

...and don't forget to make and serve coffee!

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#12

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Rocio Palacios
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2 months ago

Take self defense classes. It Is important to make you feel more secure and for reducing anxiety.

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#13

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

I have Heard this one several times. I still dont get it and my reaction Is "ignore and keep lifting"

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

This Is true, most of the times women are in charge of child cre. When i travel kids stay with my partner, but he Is "assisted" by muy mother un law, the Nanny, and my female friends.

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#15

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

This one Is really painful, and just wrong. Im sorry you have to go through that.

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#16

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Natalia
Community Member
2 months ago

No,no, there is no such a thing. It's just purple, just blue, just red....and what do you mean you had a new haircut?! It's all same to me! 😂😂😂😂

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#17

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Red Hair Blue Soul
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2 months ago

If she would have raised him correctly, he should be able to take care of himself!

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#18

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Squirrelflightisawesome
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2 months ago

When will men understand.....

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#19

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Montana
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2 months ago

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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#20

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

Order pizza, or cook plain pasta!

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#21

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ADHORTATOR
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2 months ago

that's sad

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#22

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

Agreed. Same thing here. "She has a PhD, but is just un Cats". Fxxk them, useless, frustrated pricks.

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#23

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Arctic Fox Lover
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2 months ago

No. Just no.

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#24

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Black Panther
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2 months ago

Normal in india

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#25

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Rocio Palacios
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2 months ago

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Sorry, but these are not directly associated w women. I travel for work, changing continental and all, and dont do nothing like all these. Take self-defense clases, build your confidence. If not you still appear vulnerable.

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

Good for you to recognize it. Now STOP. Count all your achievements un order. Say them out loud. You will feel proud.

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HappyPig1723
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2 months ago

Man, I'm only 12 but even I know this stuff. (I'm a girl btw) The world is a scary place.

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#28

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Natalia
Community Member
2 months ago

You are doing your best every single day! 🤜🤛

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#29

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Rocio Palacios
Community Member
2 months ago

You are teaching him something really important by being strong and a working mom. Keep up.

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Natalia
Community Member
2 months ago

Once I had a conversation with a highly educated man. He said "whenever you see s**t happening on a road you know for sure that the driver is a woman!" I was like what?!?! 😤

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