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Someone Asked “What’s A Privilege People Act As If It Isn’t?” And 30 People Didn’t Hold Back
It’s easy to take so much of one’s life for granted. The entire concept of privilege revolves around the idea that going through life without noticing major issues is a privilege all in of itself. So it can help to expand one’s horizons a bit and learn from other’s experiences.
Someone asked “What's a privilege people act as if it isn't?” and netizens shared the examples they have encountered in their own lives. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorite examples and be sure to share your own thoughts, stories and experiences in the comments section below.
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#1
Supportive parents.
People coming from loving families don't even get how lucky they are.
Pandemonium 1 year ago
My daughter realized in her 30s. Of course we were still here for her. And our patience has been richly rewarded
karen snyder 1 year ago
I'd like to add, having supportive siblings. My brother passed when we were in our 20s. Of course, I love him and miss him so much, but now that my parents are much older, I feel his absence in a totally different way. All the decisions, all the responsibility for care, all the expectations are on me alone. I can't move away, or skip a holiday, or take any financial risks. I'm very envious of my friends who get to share the surgery duties and holiday hosting with their brothers and sisters. Someday, I will need to sacrifice my whole life to take care of my parents.
David 1 year ago
My mom was divorced multiple times. Last one stuck for almost 40 year (until death). So my dad history was sketchy but my mom was always there for me, always fair and honest, Taught me to treat others kindly by word and example. Also taught me a lot of practical stuff like cooking and some automotive and so on.
Colleen Glim 1 year ago
My girls totally realize how lucky they are. I would do anything for them and they know it. It drives me bonkers that some people would make amazing parents and can’t have their own but other people can have as many children as they like and love none of them. If there really is a god, he/she has an awful lot to answer for
Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago
My family isn’t perfect, but it’s a lot better than what I could have been born into, and for that, I am grateful
keyboardtek 1 year ago
It depends on how many screwed up people they encounter in life and learn they are screwed up because of how their parents raised them. If most of the people one associates with are well balanced and educated, one takes it for granted that is how people are.
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#2
A fully functioning body. A strong immune system.
Rachknits 1 year ago
Definitely, I didn't realise what a privilege this was until I didn't have it
laura lee 1 year ago (edited)
Still recovering from sickness and injuries from 2022 not to mention im chronically sick for life from my cure for cancer, total removal of a viral organ, and have chronic severe allergies including spring and fall which, where i live, just ends up being year round for me
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Jack Burton 1 year ago
Health first yeah. Nothing is more important. Including mental Health of course
laura lee 1 year ago
True but it is very much physical health first mental second
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Laura Farley 1 year ago
It must be so nice to have a body that does what it’s supposed to do and an immune system that actually works. Dysautonomia/POTS sucks!
Virgil Blue 1 year ago
This. I'm getting really tired if all of my allergies I can tell you. Always have to be so careful what I eat. Even where I go sometimes. I'd love to be able to experience a painless spring and try all kinds of food like normal people.
#3
Time. If I have to take the bus while you use your car, we do not have the same 24 hours in a day.
EDIT: I think y'all are too focused on my example. Also, sure, you might be able to read on a bus, but you can't do your laundry.
If you can afford a housekeeping service and I can't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
If you can afford a lawnmowing service and I can't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
If you have to care for an ailing parent and I don't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
If you have to work two jobs to pay off some debt your ex saddled you with when they split and I don't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
If you have a physical handicap that makes navigating the world more time consuming and I don't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
If you have a chronic health condition that requires frequent medical appointments and I don't, we don't have the same 24 hours in a day.
And time equals opportunity for: exercise, doctors appointments, hobbies, socializing, more work, improving living situation, etc.
Time is a privilege.
Auntriarch 1 year ago
You have to phrase a post or a comment really carefully to avoid the "yeah, but"s
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
My partner is like this. If you use an example to make a point, she will just FOCUS on that one example as if it encompasses everything you're trying to say and she'll run with it as her counter argument, no matter how many times you say, "Yes, that was one example. Here's another..." she will still just hold on to that first example. She's obtuse.
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Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
It's very true. Disabled people have to plan their time differently because there's so much prep involved. For me it's been that people who have money and have help don't understand why others maybe don't have the same energy levels. I can't go out after work because I'm tired. I can't have the same body as you because I can't go to the gym 3 hours a day because I work 11 hours and have to come home and do laundry. My father used to get so mad at my mother because she was tired. He didn't help her at all. All he had to do was go to work and come home. It's like Ali Wong says-- do you know how much more successful I'd be if I had a wife? No, sorry, I don't want to go out or do much because I'm exhausted. Your time is spent differently than mine is because you aren't burdened the way I am.
Sinnsyk Jakte 1 year ago
I immediately understood. Four hours of my day for years was dedicated to public transport to get to and from work. That's four hours less time to prepare healthy meals, do laundry, sleep, or do /anything else/ that might improve my life. Just like money, time is a budget.
doredde 1 year ago
So what kind of public transportation takes more time than the same way in your car? Maybe the public transportation where you live has no good infrastructure. I live in a quite big city and have to go to work by public transport. Would I go by car it would be quite the same time as with the bus (approximately two hours in total)because they take the same streets. When I go by local train it is a quarter of an hour less per route. And the train goes every 5 minutes. So, this seems to me to be a problem of town planning and an car dominating infrastructure.
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#4
Honestly, being born in a first world country.
shereallylikesmusic 1 year ago
This! I love Europe, I love my city, my country and her neighbours I love the people here (from the South to the North, from the East to the West!). I love the nature, the architecure, the diverse ethnicity. I am so grateful to get to live here, today more than ever...
Jesha 1 year ago
You can have privileges in certain ways but not others. Nothing is a guarantee of living a life free of pain and terror. One place gets almost unlimited free water, but you are surrounded by violence. Or you live in a place with no crime but your family is awful.
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Weaponized Beef 1 year ago
Being born a white male in the United States has shielded me from a lot of prejudice and awarded me with a lot of privilege. I spent the first 20 years of my life completely oblivious to this, and the 23 since trying to chip away at those societal biases while also using them for good when I can.
nm (he/him) 1 year ago
Having Turkey, with its neo-imperealist aspirations, as your neighbor is not so privilege.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Even more points for being born in a developed country that ISN'T the United States
Poster 1 year ago
Y'all cannot go even two seconds without hating on the US genuinely what is your obsession about
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doredde 1 year ago
Being born as a male does, unfortunately, not always include a brain, as you have given proof of.
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Complaining about your government freely.
Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
If we are not very careful who we vote for we could lose this privilege!
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
CRAZY that a convicted felon can run for President.
Load More Replies... keyboardtek 1 year ago
If Donald becomes our next prez, he will make sure criticizing his government will be punished.
LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago
I don’t know who the heck is downvoting you, but you’re totally right.
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Weaponized Beef 1 year ago
Christ, "living things, inanimate objects, and possibly ghosts against Ted Cruz" more like.
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
But we're not worried that friends and neighbors will snitch on us. In China talking about the CCP will get you disappeared. Talk about a country that's corrupt. We don't realize how good we've got it.
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Dodongo Dislikes 1 year ago
It's a trick, complaining openly makes us feel better and we are less likely to really effect any real change to the system. We complain, go home, and feel better the next morning.
#6
Being healthy. I was diagnosed with my first chronic illness at 15, I’m 32 and I’m f*****g exhausted. I loathe people who say “you’re too young to be tired!” Those people have really never known true physical suffering.
Aileen Grist 1 year ago
I can't remember a time when I wasn't in pain, just thought it was me and everyone else felt the same but didn't show it (cat walking on thigh muscle excruciating at 7 yrs old, sitting on a stool in science class and my back aching something terrible). I was 38 when I was told I had fibromyalgia and had probably had it since I had TB at 3 years of age.
Lauren Caswell 1 year ago
aUgh okI I up voted because I too am sick if hearing that. And that latest "Not meant to be" I'm seeing all over this thread, bleargh
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Dawn Montague 1 year ago
I've got chronic issues (anxiety, depression, back problems, and hypothyroidism), and on the one hand, I'm constantly exhausted and stressed... On the other hand, I find that a lot of the people that suffer the most complain the least. I had an aunt that had severe juvenile arthritis, lupus, cancer twice, and a few strokes before she did MAID a couple years ago. I never heard her complain. As guilty as I feel for my complaining, I hate people that tell me I'm too young to hurt or be tired, etc. You can never truly understand someone else's suffering.
Cass Malone 1 year ago
The "too young to be tired" phrase always bugged me cuz little kids need naps so it doesn't even make sense
CrazyKnitter 1 year ago
I don't remember the last day I had where I wasn't exhausted beyond belief. I'm always tired.
Lion King baby 1 year ago
I'm 32 and I have 3 surgeries behind me and 3 C-sections (which I count as surgeries as well). As a bonus of my 3 pregnancies I got 3 disc hernias and chronic back pain. Also not only my menstruation hurts, but ovulation as well. I don't have many days in my week without pain.
#7
A sane mind, and to keep it that way.
similarly 1 year ago
I've suffered depression and anxiety my whole life. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Same. A brutal part is going over childhood memories and spotting all the warning signs that were ignored. I remember the first time I had a full blown panic attack, in grade 1 and thinking I was sick. My dad had a day off so I called home and he came to get me, then spent the rest of the day tormenting me because I "wasn't sick." Just one of so, so many
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Szzone aka Rottyintós Batman 1 year ago
Yeah and you know what, this is one privilege that I busted my äss to obtain qnd I'll enjoy it to the fullest. I don't have any mental illness or anything but anxiety is a hige issue, and it took years of therapy to get stronger. Anxiety still hits from time to time but now my walls are steonger, now I don't invalidate my progress anymore, and I reached a state of calm and baseline happiness. And I'll enjoy this as much as I can.
New Everywhere 1 year ago
That was dope! Enjoy it with all your might. I'm working to get there
Load More Replies... Virgil Blue 1 year ago
I'm trying to work on it, but man is trying to work trough decades of unresolved emotions hard.
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#8
Having friends or at least a decently stable group of friends to count on.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Umm, just how big is this computer?? Do your friends live in the computer or are they just visiting?
Load More Replies... Lion King baby 1 year ago
I can't say I really have friends 😞 never had someone to rely on besides my husband. I'm grateful I have him.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
I have only seen friends in movies, soap operas or books... Reality is way different
kansasmagic 1 year ago
I think "having friends" and "having friends you can count on" are two very different things. I had plenty of "friends" in grad school when the alcohol poured freely, but if I needed a 15 minute ride to the airport? Now scale that up to s**t that really matters.
#9
Being physically attractive is a major privilege that doesn’t really get acknowledged.
Justin 1 year ago
This is true. On the flip side though, some of the most beautiful women I've met have led lives so full of harassment that i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
Jesha 1 year ago
God, RIGHT??? A few of my close friends are media friendly attractive and that apparently means that they're not allowed to say no. Being average means I can raise and lower my flags at will and that strangers don't dismiss things I have to say automatically. I lost a lot of guy friends when they went off the rails meeting one of my friends because of the things they did to get her attention (one sliced his arms up and sent us pictures because she wasn't texting him back while we were at dinner, another went on this huge tear comparing me negatively to her except in perceived intelligence which he told her I had over her??? SO weird).
Load More Replies... Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
I was attractive until about 45 yo. As I put on weight and added wrinkles, I noticed people seemed to pay less attention to what I was saying. It was like my intellect left with my looks! Now I was old and boring, oh well.
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
This was the same time when they began using the word "ma'am". At least I'm sure I'm not going to be abducted. Too much work to carry me. 😂🤣
Load More Replies... Nimitz 1 year ago
It's amazing how this works in an office. Pretty people go straight to the top unless they're overwhelmingly incompetent
veirdbuttrue 1 year ago
This is so true. You see pretty privilege in the office All the effing time!!!!
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 1 year ago
Very much. Not to say that your life is easy or you don't have to work hard, but being pleasant to look at opens doors that you don't even realize. I had a friend who was on a reality show--it was a skilled one where you actually needed to know how to do something. But she wasn't really that great. She was okay. It didn't occur to her that the reason she was chosen over thousands of others, though, was because she had an appealing appearance. She wasn't a supermodel but she looked 'normal' and she was thin all of her features were pleasant enough. Meanwhile someone else who was better than her didn't make it. Crooked noses, bad teeth, getting jobs, being social... it's all sometimes dependent on the way you look. You get in the door, which is a leg up in an of itself. The opportunity that you get, even if you don't take advantage of it, is so much more than some people get and I wish more people realized how lucky they were.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
(Harassment aside)... I've noticed pretty people do get offered opportunities that they may not have earned... I watch too many of those Court shows, and so many of them who are being sued for not owning up to their responsibilities - now these are both men and women- their reaction is "oh I shouldn't have to pay cuz I'm pretty"
laura lee 1 year ago (edited)
You can't put that aside though. The harassment is nonstop and I mean multiple times a day, if it isn't sexual harassment it's harassment bc someone feels you shouldn't be in their space bc "pretty privilege" is what got you here not your own merits. You can have multiple degrees you graduated with honors and you still get the same s**t from petty people.
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FABULOUS1 1 year ago
This is true and I want to add being able to eat anything you want without having to exercise for a year to burn it off.
laura lee 1 year ago (edited)
Even that one isn't that great, ppl with a fast metabolism also age much faster.
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Bret Sander 1 year ago
Exceptionally attractive people are some of the loneliest people in know. People think they aren't good enough for them, or they get treated as though their looks are all they have to offer.
#10
Having running water. You’d be surprised how much of the world does not have that. When I was growing up as a kid in northwest India, we used to make a human chain to get water from the community tap. My mom at the head fending off others and putting our vessel. Then me, my middle sister and then my eldest sister who would go an pour it in a big vessel. We had several of those big vessels. That was our water storage. After pooping, we would fill a small bucket to flush the toilet. It was only after I was around the college going age and started earning money after taking tuitions of younger kids and my sister got a government job that we could afford water and a pump to fill a big tank on the rooftop and get a semblance of running water.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
Very true. My town water service only provides water once a week and we need to storage it until water is available again. That day is laundry and chores day and no one is punished for missing school or work on that day
DB 1 year ago
I find it amazing that just a few hundred years ago people settled what at the time was total wilderness and very quickly harnessed the power of nature and built a complete infrastructure yet there are still places that have been inhabited far longer where people haven't figured out how to do it yet.
frederick clause 1 year ago
I've been really lucky in that I've never lived anywhere that the tap water was not safe to drink. My greatest concern when traveling is the water quality. I don't just mean to drink but also in things like ice cubes.
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
Have you seen the recent studies about forever chemical contamination? It's in most city water. They expect this to be the next huge class action lawsuit, far surpassing tobacco.
Load More Replies... Bettye McKee 1 year ago
When my daughter protested taking a bath, I would tell her at least she had running water. We had a well when I was growing up, and heated water on the stove, for laundry, baths, hair washing, everything.
David 1 year ago
SO TRUE. Taken for granted in most of the USA. Recently spent another month in the Philippines. Had fun, but got tired buying / drinking from plastic bottles. It was so nice to come home to my own well and know I could drink from the tap and not get sick. In PI, even many places that have running water (many don't), still don't have potable (drinkable) tap water.
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
It makes me just crazy that we use water toilets. It's such a precious resource. Other countries only use water for #2. There's also propane toilets. These aren't even an option due to building codes.
#11
Eating what you want and being able to afford it . ( m not talking about gold flakes on a burger or caviar , just like simple dumplings or even salad or even bread and butter )
As a kid I grew up in a communist “paradise” . At some point towards the end of the regime things got so bad - we had to eat cabbage and potatoes ( and NOTHING ELSE) for the entire winter - for about 4 months .
When I tasted sunflower oil after that - it tasted like ambrosia .
Becca not Becky 1 year ago
I grew up with limited financial means. As an adult, the majority of my extra income goes toward foods that I enjoy eating. It feels like a privilege every time.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Agreed. Just being able to walk down to the store and get eggs or bread just cause you need/want some. It's an amazing privilege that you really appreciate if you grew up poor
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Andy Frobig 1 year ago
When I was a kid, I could tell when Mom got a raise because I'd be introduced to new foods. Not always fancy stuff, but butter instead of margarine, or Heinz and Gulden's instead of store brand. Hebrew National instead of Oscar Mayer. Brewed coffee instead of instant.
David 1 year ago
I am grateful for this every time I go grocery shopping. I'm low budget so I do have limitations. I haven't bought steak in years, I look at the exotic cheeses and then sigh and go get the big brick of cheddar because it is cheaper. But I'm poor in a first world kind of way - not in a "will I get to eat today" kind of way. So for the most part I can buy what I want within reason. I also have a fridge and large chest freezer and pantry area to store up food for when I want it. I have known people here in the USA who do not have those privileges and I've seen it big time overseas in some poorer countries.
Virgil Blue 1 year ago
Eating what you want because it won't hurt you is a good second for me. But yeah, everybody should have enough to eat.
Brian Droste 1 year ago
I supposed I should feel privileged then. I grew up not being super well of? Probably consider poor but have enough income to have a variety of food for our meals.
#12
Having a job with a regular schedule and guaranteed days off on holidays for sure.
karen snyder 1 year ago
I'm not sure how it is elsewhere, but in the richest city in the USA, where I live, a college degree does not get you 40hrs/wk and a benefit package. More than half the educated people I know have 2 part time jobs and get their medical/dental insurance through the state. Then employers wonder why there's no job loyalty and turnover is >%75. We NEED to start a labor revolution, soon.
Fire Singer 1 year ago
"Just work harder, or get an education, or work your way up the chain!" That kind of thing doesn't work anymore. My mom had a job she wouldn't qualify for now if she applied. You usually can't just work your way up the chain to stability anymore. You have to be lucky and know the right people usually.
Wysteria_Rose 1 year ago
God, yes. I was so happy to leave retail. I still believe 3-day weekends should be a thing but I'm grateful for a regular 8-5 schedule Monday through Friday.
RiceRiceBaby 929 1 year ago
I appreciate this, although I don't mind working on some of the holidays, time and half 🤑
#13
Travelling. Hearing people talking about how you're closed minded if you don't travel, as if everybody gets the choice.
Javelina Poppers 1 year ago
I'm a road trip freak and will seek out any and all obscure roads. I shun interstates and major US highways because there's so much more to see once you get off the beaten track. I hope I never lose this ability.
laura lee 1 year ago
My car has been broken since last summer when it got so f*****g hot it melted my engine fusebox, living paycheck to paycheck I cant afford to fix it, and it's summer again so even if it was fixed it'd probably melt to the heat again. Good thing climate changes a myth or if be awfully concerned.../s
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similarly 1 year ago
In truth, it's not about travelling. I know plenty of people who travel and are STILL closed minded. I think it's more about a willingness to learn, and that you can do at home! I think an open mind is a state of mind, and not necessarily where you go or what you do.
Vinnie 1 year ago
I've met perfectly nice people who rarely or never travel much beyond their homes. They don't contribute to over-tourism, they're open-minded (they get along fine with people from other countries), they have other interests (doing activities with their kids, fostering animals, local walks and hiking, etc.).
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CanadianDimes 1 year ago
I think there's a big difference between don't and can't. If you refuse to go anywhere because everywhere else is inferior, then yes, you're close minded. If you can't afford it, or if you're content where you are but explore in different ways (read, research, connect with people from abroad online), that isn't close-minded. I've known people for whom it's a point of pride that they've never been out of their home province or state or owned a passport
shereallylikesmusic 1 year ago
Travelling nowdays often means having the money to put your a$$ on a plane, and rent a hotel in a foreign country. I feel today it rarely means seing the world, getting to know other culrures and customs - and that's travelling to me.
veirdbuttrue 1 year ago
Yeah! otherwise it's just a holiday in an exotic destination!
Load More Replies... Brian Droste 1 year ago
Never went on real trips as a family growing up or by myself. Especallly by myself because couldn't afford it.
Sarah Jones 1 year ago
A lot of travel is really not sustainable, not everyone can be doing it. Why not appreciate places close to your own home instead?
Andy Frobig 1 year ago
I've been very lucky that my work has been in demand by non profits, who have sent me to places I would never have gone otherwise, for free
Susan Reid Smith 1 year ago
Travel is expensive. I didn't ask my husband how much it cost to travel 1600 miles/2600km to see the total solar eclipse in April.
Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago (edited)
Travelling is far more difficult for half of the world's population for safety reasons. On that issue, being a man is maybe not a privilege bur definitely a plus.
#14
Having strong teeth.
laura lee 1 year ago (edited)
And why isn't half your face considered medical anyway that's some b******t medical takes care of your whole body minus eye ears and teeth, just why??
Load More Replies... Nimitz 1 year ago
Sadly we just got a national dental care program in Canada but it looks like the Conservatives will win the next election and they're talking about how we can't afford it. They'll be rolling back our national prescription plan too.
Brian Droste 1 year ago
Yes, I believe I have strong good strsight teeth. Never had to have any major surgery to straight them out.
Erjenn Rejano 1 year ago
I agree. I didn't take good care of my teeth as a child, and now I have dentures at 35
#15
OWNING a house, even if your parents are the one who own it.
similarly 1 year ago
Housing is another thing that's gotten stupidly expensive. The inflation of property is unbelievable.
Musky82 1 year ago
1 in 5 homes sold today are sold to investment companies who systematically have raised rent and reduced inventory. This is price fixing and should be ended. A major reason so many people are anti-capitalism is because our GOV isnt enforcing anti trust laws like price fixing and monopolies, which allows companies to become huge at the expense of the middle and lower class. It’s becoming harder to start a business, buy a home, buy groceries, start a family, and honestly just exist at this point due to these terrible policies. It doesn’t matter if your a democrat or republican, we should all be pissed.
Load More Replies... Nichole Harris 1 year ago
Sooooooo grateful to my in-laws for the home my hubby and I own!!! We'd NEVER be able to purchase in this market
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
Huh. Living in a place where renters' rights are a thing and building standards are high I don't see that owning a house (or an apartment/flat) is significantly better than renting one.
David 1 year ago
I am SO grateful my mom helped me get into a house 20+ years ago. She didn't buy it for me but she did bank it while I fixed it up enough to get a conventional loan. My mortgage payments and taxes about about half (or less) of what it would cost me to rent it and the property is currently worth about 3 1/2 times what I paid for it. I'll probably never move because I can't afford a new place.
#16
Being raised well, some of us had are developmental years torn to pieces, feels like being set up to fail as an adult, has you wondering if your parents ever liked you, or if if they were just stupid.
similarly 1 year ago
It was kind of a shock getting to a point in adulthood where I realized that what happened to me in childhood was so abusive people would have faced jailtime if it had happened today, and that some of my mental problems stem from that.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Right?! I had very abusive parents and people are like "Sometimes things were hard and you should forgive." That's BS. If a person goes up to a kid and strangles them like Homer Simpson, they're going to jail. But if a parent does that to a kid, well, it's supervised visits for a year for you Mr Handsy Hands. And we will NEVER get justice for what was done to us.
Load More Replies... Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
Due to death , illness and financial issues I had a period of family insecurity that left me feeling like I was standing in quicksand from 10yo to 17yo. I was still more fortunate than others, it left me fearful of change however.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
I read about so many stories of kids being abused and wish there was something I could do about it ...I'm not qualified in any kind of therapeutic field... but my first instinct is to just hug them close and tell them it's not their fault
#17
Opportunity. I have a few affluent friends that, in high school, were able to get excellent grades and extremely high SAT scores because their parents had wealth and, therefore, could provide them opportunities for support. For example, one friend, who is now a psychiatrist, was 3rd in our class of 600+ kids because his grades were amazing. After school he’d go home and study and his parents paid for SAT prep courses, giving him ample opportunity to succeed. Meanwhile, after school I would go to work because my parents had little money, so car payments, gas, clothes, school lunches, cell phone, etc. fell to me. That’s 5 hours I didn’t have to dedicate to studying. People take things like this for granted.
TheElderNom 1 year ago
That kid probably still worked hard, and that should be recognised but so should the privilege.
Mike D 1 year ago
Never had to study or do homework outside of school. And, without the right genetics, even 5 hours of studying wouldn't be enough. You also have to win the genetics lottery.
laura lee 1 year ago
Naw you just need to change your studying style and method to suit your learning ability
Load More Replies... laura lee 1 year ago (edited)
"car payments, gas, clothes, school lunches, cell phone, etc" that's privilege in itself, more than half of those are not necessities, you could've spendt the money on prep and/or just studied more and not work after-school. Life's full of choices. I didn't have a car in high school so no buying gas nor a phone had to buy my own clothes as well so I made them last decades. You failed to prioritize
#18
Working from home. People who don't have to squeeze time out to wake up early, shower, dress, rush their breakfast and get stuck in a traffic for 40 minutes have more time than us who have to go to work in office daily. Talk about having time to clean the house, save money on cooking at home and exercising after work. The time we lost is the time you gained.
Fire Singer 1 year ago
I understand this statement, but I don't necessarily agree. I don't like working from home personally. I need to go into a work environment and not keep everything in my home. But that's me personally. Everyone is different.
Crescent 3 1 year ago
I did not appreciate this until the pandemic. My agency went 100% remote during the worst of it, and found out that productivity didn't decrease. So when things improved they offered three options: 100% in office, Hybrid, and 100% remote. I chose hybrid at first, then about 6 months ago, I went full remote and I've never been happier.
Joy Myers 1 year ago
Another benefit of WFH is that there is a buffer between you and other employees…no sick or stinky or loud coworkers right next to you when you can’t escape. Being hourly is extra helpful because that’s a hard boundary when OT is not approved…”sorry, gotta get back at this as it must be done before I clock out today.”
Kirsten Holmes 1 year ago
And if you're traditionally employed you don't have to spend hours invoicing clients, doing taxes, and finding more work. You can also take a holiday without worrying about keeping your business afloat.
#19
Being neurotypical and not genetically predisposed to mental illness.
BoredPangolin 1 year ago
Oh dear, I would NOT want to be a neurotypical. I would NOT want all the neurodiverse people to be any different. Of couse it comes with challenges especially in childhood with school being designed AGAINST anyone neurodiverse, but diversity comes with talent. An autistic brain, or an ADHD brain, is able to achieve things naturally that a neurotypical brain can't easily do (and vice versa). It's not just doom and gloom. I would agree that clinical depression, anxiety and panic attacks caused by genetics fully suck, though.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
Cant relate- probs neurodivergant and mental illness passed down from family genetically
Riddle E. Nigma 1 year ago
Agreed. As someone who is and has raised 3 neurodivergent kids, we all universally wish we could be like everyone else. We don't let is distract us but if given a chance heck yes I would love to be like most adults.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
I'm also learning more about this and feel like our entire Health System, even though more has been learned about it, it's still failing people who suffer from various mental illnesses
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Now is this your mental illness talking? /j
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Lauren Caswell 1 year ago (edited)
Do you say this about anything other than disabilities? First few comments I gave the benefit of the doubt, but if you keep saying disabilities/the disabled aren't meant to be, you're going to prove yourself to be an ignorant or heartless individual
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Whole crews going around gathering up garbage. Clean water flowing directly to your house. Sanitation is crucial for a healthy society.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Yet people complain about taxes as if the things mentioned here arrive for free.
#21
Libraries.
Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
One our greatest resources! You can borrow books, access the internet, borrow movies and music. Most libraries have wonderful learning programs , support group meetings, and game tournaments.
Bettye McKee 1 year ago (edited)
I started haunting our local library when I was 5. I could already read, so first grade was just boring. I still read every chance I get.
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#22
Never having food insecurity. Some people have access to so much food that it would make others' heads spin.
#23
Basic medicine, especially for children. I know that the modern medical system has its flaws but kids used to die from stuff that is cured by $5 in medicine now is wild. .
Floeckchen 1 year ago
Worse if you are able to get basic medicine and it is affordable too but you still take you or your children to your local quak because "you don't believe in science"...
Vinnie 1 year ago
As if science was a belief system. Science self-corrects, dogma doesn't or only very, very slowly.
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LanieMeB62 1 year ago
Vaccinations for children to avoid so many childhood and adulthood illnesses and their associated complications.
Vinnie 1 year ago
Exactly. This is why I object to anti-vaxxers insisting that diseases (for which vaccinations exist) aren't deadly. The death rate may not always be high, but the complications can bring permanent or long-term impairments and vulnerabilities. Plus the spread can cause sick time for a close group. Examples: a work team getting behind on a project, a family members struggling to to care for other members, a daycare where parents have to take time off to care for children.
Load More Replies... Sarah Jones 1 year ago
Vaccines have massively lowered childhood mortality and increased life expectancy
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
"You don't have to vaccinate all your children. Only the ones you want to keep" (/S)
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Having a pet of any kind. The vet bills , decent food, appropriate training, equipment.
karen snyder 1 year ago
Forgive my ignorance, but, vote on what? Luxury taxes? Are you suggesting pets be reclassified as commodities? As persons? We can't even get the government to agree to make the human cost of living reasonable. Im not paying taxes for low income pets until we can stop arguing about insuring and housing vulnerable people.
Load More Replies... Susan Reid Smith 1 year ago
We just lost a cat to cancer. I don't at all mind the bills from the vets. They study as long as a human doctor and their offices have excellent equipment. I'm glad we could afford it.
Charlotte Sandoval 1 year ago
Surprised not to see any "get a fish" comments. If you're taking good care of your fish, it's hella expensive
karen snyder 1 year ago
I had a beta fish for 3+ years that cost under $10
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Leaving the home and being able to return safely everyday.
#26
Financial stability.
Tempest 1 year ago
This! I hate the saying of “Money doesn’t buy happiness”. No, you can’t buy happiness at the store but having financial security means you don’t have to worry about when you can eat a proper meal or if you can afford a proper mattress to sleep on at night. Money affords you comfort and peace of mind. For those who take all these simple life choices for granted they don’t see them as being a result of their financial backbone. Those who have limitless money don’t recognise these as equating to happiness. I come from a struggling family and I wish I could have more money not to spend on expensive clothes and trips abroad but just so to see my old parents retire from their jobs or for us to be able to afford healthcare when we need it and not have to wait till a disease is too serious or to do some much needed home repairs so we don’t have a leaky roof…
Lady Miss Pie 1 year ago (edited)
Literally every problem I have could be solved if I had money. Being poor is expensive and soul-destroying.
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Being able to go to college.
similarly 1 year ago
University in America is now stupidly expensive. I would urge people to rethink university and instead consider trade school. My cousin teaches at a trade school and has mentioned repeatedly that there aren't enough people going into trades to fill the gaps left by people retiring.
megasmacky 1 year ago
Big thumbs up. There are many trades where you'll be interviewing the employer instead of the other way around. "So tell me why I should choose to work for you, rather than the 15 other companies offering me a position?" I know a plumber who works at a nuclear power plant who made a little over $200,000 last year. Also, trucking is facing a near-disastrous shortage of drivers. People don't realize how much of a catastrophic effect this could have on the economy in the very near future.
Load More Replies... Lil Miss Hobbit 1 year ago
My 4 older siblings got to go...my parents paid for most or all of their degrees. I am paying my way through because my parents fell on hard times. Sometimes I get frustrated with my siblings because it feels like they had it so easy. At 22 my sister has started her career and is complaining about wanting a raise...at that age I will barely graduate and will be broke as anything.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago (edited)
Your parents should make your siblings contribute to your education. They got a free ride. If each one contributed a little (split it among all of you), then it should be doable. And it would be only fair
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Certainly not Dan 1 year ago
I’d think hard about going to uni these days, unless a degree is a pre requisite to a certain career (law, architecture, engineering etc) then going in as apprentice level can get you everything you need, plus you get paid as you learn. Ain’t no algorithm going to sort out the wiring or plumbing in your old house!
CrazyKnitter 1 year ago
My ADHD made it impossible for me to finish college at the time. Felt like a really bad failure, especially since I had done so well in school prior to that. Still causes me problems, but I really don't think we should have to do college for every job.
#28
Having electricity, then never having it go out.
mysecondaccount27: I remember watching a TV show when I was really young where the power went out at the school and everyone freaked out and got scared. I was so confused as to why they were acting like it was a big deal. That's the day I found out that in first world countries, power going out is a very rare occurence, and usually means something extreme (weather etc). In my country, it's just a regular thing. It's rarer these days (goes out maybe once every one or two weeks) but at the time, it was happening every few days.
Blew my mind.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
In my town we only have electricity for a couple of hours at nights... No big deal
doredde 1 year ago
That depends on where you live. When it´s warm enough and the sun goes down at the same time nearly the whole year, maybe one can cope with it. And being used to it may help. But in Northern Europe you couldn´t keep living up in the winter as usual. But with climate change that may be only a temporary problem...
Load More Replies... Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
I'm in the UK, but in a fairly rural area. If the power goes out it usually means an idiot in a tractor has pulled down a power cable (happened twice this year already).
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
Funny how rural UK and rural Germany have so much in common 😂 (honestly it's more excavators for optic fibre cables, but the principle is sound)
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David 1 year ago
Thought about this in the Philippines. Power went out three or four times at the house during the month we stayed there. Possibly more since we were not at the house every night. That's as many power outages as I've had at my current house in over 20 years. ONE of those was for 2-3 days during a severe storm. The rest were typically under 30 minutes.
OneHappyPuppy 1 year ago
Back in the 90s in the Balkans we had regular electricity shut offs. We made do
#29
Voting in a democracy.
Nea 1 year ago
India, world’s largest democracy, proved once again today how voting is power in a democracy.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Yeah... Read up on Modi's voter suppression tactics. It wasn't a fully rigged election, he just influenced the vote enough to guarantee reelection
Load More Replies... Susan Reid Smith 1 year ago
Even if you don't want to vote, please do so in order to keep the right to vote. No politics here, just keep doing what we've been able to so we can keep doing it.
doredde 1 year ago
As we can see in Europe these days. Sad to say that it means, that many people have to "live" and endure the extreme shift to the right/conservative side. We have a lot of work to do to not keep staying in reverse gear for too long. In a world where evolution, time and development only have a linear alignment that goes forward, the consciousness and mind can not go the opposite direction. That would end in a world we don´t want to imagine and that will 100% go down in a hellish speed.
Dodongo Dislikes 1 year ago
another illusion of freedom, like the freedom of speech. Both of which are freedoms we've only taken away from ourselves due to our own apathy
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
Specifically it is a democratic republic. A necessary distinction, since there have been republics that were not really democratic (pre-Augustine Rome, Venice, ...).
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The privilege of having Wi-Fi so fast it could outrun a cheetah, yet complaining when a webpage takes more than three seconds to load.
Mike F 1 year ago
I have to call myself to task over this all the time. My first online experience was 1998-1999 with AOL dial up. Anyone who experienced that knew that you would sign in, click to open the desired page, then go get a cup of coffee/tea while waiting. Now, I click and scream at the laptop if the page doesn't open before I even click. When there's a "wink" in service I think about those who don't have the ability to access the web then switch to OTA programming.
Game Guy 1 year ago
This. I used to use BBSs in the 90s. My 2400 baud modern would take a full minute to receive a screen full of just text. I thought the 28.8 I replaced it with was crazy fast. Now I have 600mbps down and get annoyed if a 7gb Steam game takes more than 3 minutes to transfer. On my old modem it would have taken months, and Mom would pick up the phone after 4 hours and wreck it because the bbs didn't use Zmodem. ;)
Load More Replies... Dodongo Dislikes 1 year ago
We didn't get internet @ our house until after the pandemic. Up until then, we were reliant on our cel phones for a portal to the internet. It's still not the lightening fast internet people in populated areas always brag about but when you come from 0 mbs , 70mbs seems pretty fast!
Cass Malone 1 year ago
I remember a time when a web page took like 15 minutes to load. Kids these days are lucky to have never had to deal with this especially when it comes to school work
#31
The capacity to earn a living.
#32
Assuming that the police will show up and help.
Mental Liberals 1 year ago
Always be prepared to take care of yourself!! The police are only the cleanup crew...
Nimitz 1 year ago
I mean, the police are often also a threat. And they don't arrest guys if they they happen to be friends. Speaking from experience
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#33
Having good social skills. If you're a people person it's very easy to make connections and get places in life. Pretty much every career requires being at least decently good with people, and if you really want to succeed it's a requirement. It's not always just confidence either, because being confident but lacking the proper interpersonal skills will usually just get you branded a creep or weirdo. It's an art and certain people just seem to "get it" better than others. It's possible to learn and improve if you have poor social skills, but it can be very difficult if not impossible for certain folks, especially those who are neurodivergent. I believe people skills are probably the biggest driver of career success honestly. Your skills and resume matter less if you can get people to like you and make connections easily. Anyone hoping to get into a management or executive role absolutely must not only have good communication skills but be quite adept at making friends and navigating difficult social situations. For those of us with disabilities that hinder social skills, like anxiety or autism, or simply people who are not naturally extroverted, it can be a massive roadblock to success.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
I never figured out how to fit in any group, let alone what to do for being able to have and then maintain a relationship of any kind with anyone... I just can't understand how this works
doredde 1 year ago
Maybe a good therapist could help you? Sometimes someone who has a Professional distance and skills, who is not involved in your privacy, can do a lot to come forward. Social skills a something you normally learn from your parents and the people around you, when you grow up. I didn´t have that to a certain extent. But you can learn as an adult too, if you want to and try.
Load More Replies... Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago
I can relate. Still wondering how I managed to make good friends and find a lovely husband. Being shy and clueless in society is so annoying.
Vinnie 1 year ago (edited)
I suspect your friends and husband find you charming :) I've had to learn intellectually what others learn by osmosis. Still learning, get the odd failure rate. My husband is still learning about me after all these years. I'm grateful for his efforts.
Load More Replies... Regina Holt 1 year ago
Also, just thought I'd mention that abused children often grow up having a hard time being confident. They were "taught" that they weren't worth much. They often taught not to get close to people for fear of getting hurt again.
#34
Going out to eat (with table service, I mean.) That was a rare thing when I was growing up.
Aileen Grist 1 year ago
Me too - even having chips from the local chippy was a rare treat, my mum would put a boiling chicken in the oven on very low, in a little water, and it would be ready when we got home - about 8 hours later - and if they were feeling well off we'd have 2 portions of chips between the 4 of us from the local chip shop
#35
Growing old. Not everyone gets the opportunity.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
My father died when he was 47 and his brother at 53. My grandfather - their father - went at age 33. My youngest brother died at 52. I'm not just grateful to be here at 73 - I'm genuinely astonished.
Javelina Poppers 1 year ago
Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional and I take advantage of each and everyday.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
Growing old is only mandatory if you're lucky enough to still be alive. I'm grateful every day to still be here at 40 when some of the people I went to school with are either long dead or seriously ill.
Load More Replies... Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
This is why I don't lie about my age . I am honored to have made it to 68 when so many have died younger. I don't understand why some people, women especially will not state their true age. We need to remove the stigma and stop making jokes when someone asks your age. Usually they do this to understand your experiences in life!
#36
Being able to afford to take time off i cant tell you how many times i will say "i cant afford to take anymore days off" and i get asked why.... because i cant afford to go a day with out pay.
TheElderNom 1 year ago
Getting paid time off by law. I really hope it becomes standard in the world.
Edward Treen 1 year ago
It IS standard in the civilised world, except for the Land of the Free - as is full healthcare, employee rights, and many other things most of us take for granted.
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#37
Eating fresh fruit.
Javelina Poppers 1 year ago (edited)
I grew up with orange, tangerine, plum, pear, lemon and grapefruit trees in our yard. I never realized what a gift that was till I moved out on my own.
#38
Your “rights.” The only rights we have are the ones we’re allowed to keep. Every time I hear someone say “He can’t do that!” No… he totally can. He really *shouldn’t*, but here we are.
#39
Not having to support your parents. I was encouraging a friend to move away from grad school but they let me know it’s not that easy seeing how she supported her family financially. I always viewed moving away being “hard” on your family was just an emotional thing. I never took me and my siblings ability to move away without considering the financial impact on our parents/family.
#40
Brushing your teeth with sink water. I've been living in southeast asia for a while, and its a weird little thing I miss.
Kate Jones 1 year ago
Sorry for my ignorance but...do you not have sinks or water flow? or is a quality of water issue?
Julia Nolan 1 year ago
Water quality. A lot of countries don't treat their water, so it may harbor high bacterial (or even viral) loads that could make someone sick from brushing their teeth in it. Even in some countries that do treat their water, environmental standards are so low that the water is likely full of incredibly toxic chemicals that could also make exposure to it a not great idea.
Load More Replies... Jesha 1 year ago
Especially after Trump rolled back so many EPA policies.
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#42
Being well socialized, and able to talk to people efficiently. I think a lot of folks don’t realize that social anxiety can really put up obstacles, like even something as simple and menial as asking a stranger for directions seems terrifying.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
Social anxiety could also stem from abusive childhood treatment. Things were "kept in the family, not shared outside of the home"
Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
We boomers have a harder time understanding this. We were always through our lives interacting face to face with friends, adults, and authorities. I knew of a few people we called "painfully shy" but they had little choice but to face their fears. There was no internet and very little phone interaction.
#43
Getting time to workout for 1 or 2 hours 4-5 days a week. It’s such an underrated privilege. Very few understand it.
#44
A good passport.
Julia Nolan 1 year ago
Some countries have agreements with lots of other countries that allows their passport holders to travel to these other countries without getting a visa. (e.g. if you're a US citizen, you can travel to the UK without having to apply first and be granted a visa) Generally these passport holders can also get visas relatively easily even from countries that aren't part of the agreement. (e.g. a US citizen can usually get a visa to Egypt by swinging by the booth in the airport, then waltz into the country) Conversely a LOT of countries don't have such reciprocal arrangements, to travel involves a lengthy visa application process with the very real possibility that the visa will be denied if the passport holder can't demonstrate certain criteria. This makes travel really hard for a good chunk of the world's population, even if they have the interest/funds for international travel. This is why certain passports are considered "golden" or "good" and others are considered pretty useless.
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Driving.
doredde 1 year ago
That i consider the real privilege. Driving is a necessity to come from one point to another. Being able to go, where you need to go by foot, bike or public transport and not having to have a car is really luxurious. If having a car and a drivers license is mandatory to reach every location, meaning having to buy and maintain a lot of metal, plastics and gas to move one person to his resources, is quite sad and very uneconomical and bad for the environment.
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Not having a learning disability and being stuck in garbage IEP classes that have students learning way behind the rest of their peers while getting screwed over with no child left behind. So many people ive seen graduate high school only to be left in the dust and not be able to handle college at all because it's a massive leap from being stuck in those lower level classes.
Javelina Poppers 1 year ago
I was raised on the 3 R's with no frills and I'm eternally grateful for that.
#48
Not always. But often: Spontaneity. For many, it just shows how rich in time and /or money they are. They don't care about the negative consequences spontaneity can bring. Because they don't apply to them. *They can afford an evening to not work out, since they have time for many more evenings like this.* *They can afford to miss the concert because they can easily book the next one.* *They can afford to book the train or airbnb last minute, because they have the financial freedom to do so.*.
#49
Family.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
Very much depends on the family. Sometimes the family is what screw you up.
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Being in a healthy romantic relationship. Easy for some people, near impossible for someone like me.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
Having a relationship... Forget about romance... Just being able to have a bond with an other human being
Natalia Allen 1 year ago
I recently realised I have never had a healthy (romantic relationship) only situationships & likely never will and its so sad.
#51
Working in an Air-conditioned office with carpet on the floor.
BookFanatic 1 year ago
Thank you for the reminder. I just walked through my office complaining that it was so cold due to A/C. This is definitely a privilege compared to so many.
#52
Being able to live with your parents as an adult.
doredde 1 year ago
Maybe it´s meant like: Having my parents still living as an adult?
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Being able to complain about non-issues. I support women talking about abortion rights, equal pay, etc. When I see women complain about air-conditions being set to cold as a sign of patriarchy because it keeps them from wearing cute clothes, you know that person is either stupid or so privileged that they have nothing else to complain about.
Jaya 1 year ago
This is dumb. We can't complain about an unfair system, because there's worse things in the world? Then you also shouldn't be allowed to complain about someone hitting you in the face, because there are people who actually get murdered. You can't complain about someone touching your breasts without consent, because there are people who get gang-raped. You can't complain about parents not being there for you or a teacher hitting you, because child labour exists. This 'whatabouttism' is harmful and stupid. If something isn't right, you're allowed to complain about it.
TheElderNom 1 year ago
It's not about cute clothes usually, it's about freezing, sometimes so bad you want to wear gloves. I'm sometimes freezing in 22 degrees Celsius despite wearing blankets, warm clothes and wool socks.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
What TheElderNom said. And to explain: women need higher temperatures. I can‘t remember why, but it‘s biology. It‘s not about want, it‘s about need.
#54
Being Middle class.
Raphapablap 1 year ago
Considering most people are working class, I can imagine many people would realise that if they were a class above, they'd be privileged
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I come from an ancient era (pre-Reagan) when many working people were middle class.
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Girls getting their nails & hair done. I see/hear girls complaining about rent and groceries all the time but not about the hundreds they spend on those fake nails and hair.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
I never understand how people who cry they don't have enough money, spend so much of it on unnessary stuff like hair, nails, tatoos. We can see that you spend a lot of money on these things, I don't have as much pity on you as someone who does not look adorned with unnecessary expenses.
#56
In the U.S., you are free to start a business any time you want with little to no hassle. Many people in the U.S. dont realize what a beuracratic nightmare it can be to start a business in some countries. It's often highly regulated with big fees, taxes, oversight, and perhaps some palms that need greasing.
Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
Yeah sorry. I agree with the other poster. It's crazy hard. You can get a EIN # easily, but that isn't the same thing. License numbers/EIN can cost less than a hundred dollars, but you can't do anything with that other than use it to open a business bank account. The costs and oversight of opening a business is excruciating and ridiculous, in the US at least, which is why most people can't raise enough capital to do so. Opening a restaurant for instance...alcohol licensing can take over a year. Safety inspections can set you back thousands of dollars before you even open. And even just getting an appointment can take months. And some inspections are required yearly so...it never stops. This is all before you even deal with hiring and payroll requirements. Providing and dealing with health insurance. Everything is super regulated. Don't even get me started on marketing and advertising.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
A restaurant that doesn't think that safety inspections are worth the money is a restaurant that won't get any of mine. While in high school, I worked in a restaurant where a kitchen safely issue killed one of the customers.
Load More Replies... Matthew Zornig 1 year ago
As a small business owner, I disagree. Plenty of red tape in Pennsylvania.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
You may be free to start a busiiness any time you want, but there definiitely will be a hassle, and most businesses fail within too short of a time.
#57
Being naturally extraverted.
#58
Being the gender that won't be drafted into a war.
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
Then you're privileged to be the gender unlikely to be 'unalived' for just existing - and that's an everyday awareness, not just wartime.
doredde 1 year ago (edited)
That would not be possible, I think. Even if you´re from a country, where you don´t have to actively fight as a woman. Who do you think has to take care of the children and elders at home, while being bombarded in/out of their homes? Who has to mourn a dead husband/father/brother/son when killed in the field? Who do you think had to keep the industry and economics going, when the guys "wanted" to go on a fight in Europe during WW2 or now in Ukraine. And many of those women are taking a very active part in fighting back the enemy, working in hospitals to nurse their men back to health/life? There are no privileged persons in a war, except the (old, white) mostly men that show off in TV and continue their privileged lives in luxury and comfort in their big palaces and bunkers, sending young, healthy, fearful or brainwashed men to serve this "needs"? There are no winners in a war, on no side ever. Only way up in the elites that do not even have to get their hands dirty themselves.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
My husband and I just discussed that our country needs our drafting system back. We had the option to either do the Military thing or a social year (helping in medical fields like being an aid to disabled people). I don‘t remember why they stopped those programms but we need them back and we both agree that it should be mandatory for everyone, not only boys.
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veirdbuttrue 1 year ago
Exactly. I'm amazed that this isn't on the above list. All your civil liberties are gone, your job, your house your life, your food supply, the life of people and the pets you love are under extreme and immediate threat all the time.
Load More Replies... Crescent 3 1 year ago
BEING ABLE TO TAKE UNPAID INTERNSHIPS - Some of my more well-off college friends were able to take great unpaid internships at major companies and law firms because they didn't have to worry how their rent would get paid or how to put food on the table or how they would afford next semester's tuition. I, on the other hand, had to pass up unpaid opportunities because I needed to make money. So, instead of spending the summer learning more about my chosen field, I spent it delivering pizzas, or working on a moving truck. It gave them a HUGE leg up in the interview process and on their resumes.
Brynne Forrest 1 year ago
That one about the garbage and the running water and the person that made the comment about..... people complaining about taxes? UM, I PAY for my water service, sewer service AND garbage service every month. Those are three separate bills. My taxes are NOT paying for those things because the sanitation service is contracted out by the county to a private business. Our water and sewer is county run but we are still paying for it. For context I live in northern California. But I've also lived in Delaware, North Carolina, Alabama, Pennsylvania.... and paid a bill for each of those things in all of those places. So I'm confused as to what "complaining about taxes" has to do with it.
Lauren Caswell 1 year ago
I'm just putting it out there: Disabilities do count. We are 'meant to be', despite what some panda here thinks
Mike F 1 year ago
Wow! This is one of the only posts that has an "us vs them" vibe that hasn't degenerated into a generational/national thing. This was great. No having to lay it down for a while to cool off. There is lots to learn here, and like the AA process says "take what you need and leave the rest". So many different things to chew on and mull over. For the second time in a week, I love this place! Thanks to everyone who, while disagreeing, kept things civil!
Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
I always think about Little House on the Prairie, and how back then they had so little to function in life. How grateful I am to have running water and plumbing. Indoor plumbing alone is such an amazing invention and has kept people from disease and from having to dig holes to use. Having the ability to go to grocery store and buy whatever I want, really. Maybe I can't afford it all but just walking into a place like that is a privilege so many people don't have even now. Medicine at your fingertips. Roads... a lot of places even now struggle to get aid and food to people who need it not because of lack of charity or desire, but because they literally have no way of getting there. Cars... being able to open your world through travelling. Even something trivial like having TV. Charles Ingalls used to play his violin once in a blue moon and it was all the entertainment they had other than books.
Bored Seb 1 year ago
I disagree with the "supportive parents". Saying it's a privilege is wrong. It is the way it should be. It should be normality. Saying that it's a privilege make it sounds that it should no be normality. BTW, this is the same for a lot of entry here. Don't say it's a privilege when everyone should have the same thing.
veirdbuttrue 1 year ago
Exactly. I'm amazed that this isn't on the above list. All your civil liberties are gone, your job, your house your life, your food supply, the life of people and the pets you love are under extreme and immediate threat all the time.
Load More Replies... Crescent 3 1 year ago
BEING ABLE TO TAKE UNPAID INTERNSHIPS - Some of my more well-off college friends were able to take great unpaid internships at major companies and law firms because they didn't have to worry how their rent would get paid or how to put food on the table or how they would afford next semester's tuition. I, on the other hand, had to pass up unpaid opportunities because I needed to make money. So, instead of spending the summer learning more about my chosen field, I spent it delivering pizzas, or working on a moving truck. It gave them a HUGE leg up in the interview process and on their resumes.
Brynne Forrest 1 year ago
That one about the garbage and the running water and the person that made the comment about..... people complaining about taxes? UM, I PAY for my water service, sewer service AND garbage service every month. Those are three separate bills. My taxes are NOT paying for those things because the sanitation service is contracted out by the county to a private business. Our water and sewer is county run but we are still paying for it. For context I live in northern California. But I've also lived in Delaware, North Carolina, Alabama, Pennsylvania.... and paid a bill for each of those things in all of those places. So I'm confused as to what "complaining about taxes" has to do with it.
Lauren Caswell 1 year ago
I'm just putting it out there: Disabilities do count. We are 'meant to be', despite what some panda here thinks
Mike F 1 year ago
Wow! This is one of the only posts that has an "us vs them" vibe that hasn't degenerated into a generational/national thing. This was great. No having to lay it down for a while to cool off. There is lots to learn here, and like the AA process says "take what you need and leave the rest". So many different things to chew on and mull over. For the second time in a week, I love this place! Thanks to everyone who, while disagreeing, kept things civil!
Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
I always think about Little House on the Prairie, and how back then they had so little to function in life. How grateful I am to have running water and plumbing. Indoor plumbing alone is such an amazing invention and has kept people from disease and from having to dig holes to use. Having the ability to go to grocery store and buy whatever I want, really. Maybe I can't afford it all but just walking into a place like that is a privilege so many people don't have even now. Medicine at your fingertips. Roads... a lot of places even now struggle to get aid and food to people who need it not because of lack of charity or desire, but because they literally have no way of getting there. Cars... being able to open your world through travelling. Even something trivial like having TV. Charles Ingalls used to play his violin once in a blue moon and it was all the entertainment they had other than books.
Bored Seb 1 year ago
I disagree with the "supportive parents". Saying it's a privilege is wrong. It is the way it should be. It should be normality. Saying that it's a privilege make it sounds that it should no be normality. BTW, this is the same for a lot of entry here. Don't say it's a privilege when everyone should have the same thing.
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