Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
Is Being Short Really That Bad
I don’t get it why are we so upset about people who are shorter or taller or fat or skinny or just different in any way??? Snap out of it people
I don't care how tall or short he is that is a gorgeous wedding picture. I especially love the kid on the right. He has it "goin' on".
the kids are an optical illusion- they are really 10 feet behind Kevin Hart
Load More Replies...Dude. Be proud of your beautiful, Amazonian wife! She chose to marry you! What do you have to be insecure about?
Best thing in that pic is the little girl. She outshines all the others.
There may be a reason behind such insecurities... some girls, well people actually, are height prejudiced.
Load More Replies...I am small, only 5', it never was a problem when in my teens and 20'a. The problems occurred when I got older and people constantly treat you like a child and as if you have as low IQ, I am not a child or dum thank you, women are just as bad.
Don't worry, when you hit 60, no one will assume you're a child. And if you have the right eyebrows, no one will mess with you.
Load More Replies...Insulting short men, the only type of discrimination, bullying and harassment that is socially encouraged...
Agree. Goodness knows it's been going on long enough. I remember the commemorative stamp celebrating Charles and Diana's engagement. He was pictured several inches taller than her. They were actually the same height.
Load More Replies...I was 5 foot 7 in high school and my girlfriend was 6 foot. One night we had gone out to dinner and while I was in the restroom a lady asked my gf if our height differential bothered her. She replied "Makes no difference when we are horizontal". That's why she's my wife of 32 years.
And Damn!! He is looking GOOD!! As they all are. And no doubt would be even if they were standing closer.
I think it's his second wife and those are his kids. He makes jokes about cheating on his first wife, so number 2 might not last long, but IDK if she's the mistress. If she is, too bad so sad.Best you can hope for is that his career tanks before she finds out about his next side piece and there's less to divvy up than she's hoping for. Short or not, his ego is enormous and he's just effing loud and annoying.
Load More Replies...I hate being as short as I am. I have to stand on my tip toes in the kitchen to get the right angle to chop veggies. I can't reach most things. I can't find anyone in a crowd. I certainly can't see what is going on on the stage. Hate it. Depends on how short you are but man, nothing is made for someone my size. At work, I sit with my legs pulled up into my chair because my feet don't reach the floor. Sure I could lower my seat, but then typing would be horribly uncomfortable. I know super tall people face similar problems of nothing being comfortable for them.
My friend is 5 foot tall. My car is a big lifted landcruiser. Her and vodka, my car and my laughter and her 10 attempts of trying to get in it! The only time I've ever laughed at someone short 😂😂😂
I don't care how tall he is. Would prefer to see the bride and groom smiling though. It should be a happy occasion.
I don't get it. Why are we hating short men? I'm a short woman. It is what it is.
The kids are smiling but the adults...is that a thing among celebrities, to not smile in photos?
Sad Truth
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
Load More Replies...This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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