Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
I'm Fine.. Really
Found On Facebook
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
He’s Not Wrong...
Budgeting
My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust
She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
Blind Bruh Moment
Mind Blowing How Accurate This Is!!!
He's Right
As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
Mysterious Ways
Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
I Feel We Are There Already
Well, It's True Isn't?
Hearing Impaired
You’re Not From Around Here Are You
"Cries In Millenial"
We’re Screwed
We All Panic Sometimes
Group Projects Are The Worst
Sad Truth
they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Useless Job
So Close Yet So Far
That's Where It Began
London
I promise if that happened up here in Glasgow, that wee lad would have had a huge cheer and everyone would have joined in. Along with encouraging calls like "gaun yersel' wee man!". However, if a famous person was on that tube, we'd have ignored them completely lol
Welcome to a whole world of crushing disappointment kiddo. It's downhill from now.
Come on, people. Clap your fecking hands. It's a kid, you miserable bastards!
They are just refraining from lying in front of the kid.
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Likely all had headphones on looking at the floor not making eye contact with anyone.
I would have clapped. The Cleveland zoo has trams because of its size and the one hill is huge. Kids love to wave as they pass the other trams and people walking. We don't have kids but I swear I'm the only adult who waves back. I'm not exactly a kid person but I was one and I loved stuff like that. Like getting semis to honk was THE coolest thing!
Yes, I always say hello to dogs and wave back to kids. It's such an easy thing to bring joy to their lives for just one moment.
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I'd have died laughing then and there. And then went on to haunt Jeff Bezos.
Should have tried Homer’s version “If you’re happy and you know it say a swear”
Once, long ago in Chicago, some theatre friends and I got an entire train car to join in a sing-along of "Hakuna Matata". It was awesome!
When my son was 2 he split his head open tripping into the edge of the car door, and there was tons of blood. By the time we got to the hospital he was fine and had forgotten all about it. He proceeded to go around the waiting room and say hi to everyone. I attempted to stop him and make him sit but people seemed to find him a nice distraction, he made so many hurt & ill people feel better that day, there were laughs and similes by the time we were called back. The doctor proceeded to ask "what happened to your head"? And he said "I don't know" and looked confused, he had no idea, he seriously had forgotten how he had hurt his head.
He sounds like my 4yo. He's the most confident person I know, and he'll happily say hello to anyone.
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poor boy doesn't know the outside world :(
It's impossible not one person was happy. Some were just shy to clap, I guess.
Can you imagine what the scene would have been in that bus if even just half had clapped... it would have gone further ..till everyone and clapping in unison and laughing. People missing their stops because they were having FUN!
If a kid interacts with you, you interact back those are the rules people! Otherwise, it teaches them to be reserved and shy and that they will be rejected if they seek social stimulation - that s**t stays with them! Just smile back, its not hard!
Please
Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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And Don’t Forget Student Loans
It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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Life Can Be So Rewarding
So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets
"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"
Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!
It Was So Beautiful
Welcome To The Show
I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
Cause Your In New York
Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!
My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
I Wish
I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It
Hitting A Little Too Close To Home
Economic Generation Gap
Doesn't Look Like An Improvement To Me
I'm Not Surprised At The Stupidity
Two Problems In Life
Fun Fact
R.i.p
Keeping It Cool...
Poor Bastard
Rip Gam Gam
Teachers In The 90s
At the risk of repeating myself from the last time this appeared on a BP post - the teachers weren't *lying*. Teachers in the 90s didnt have crystal balls to predict the future. A Nokia 3200 cost over £750 in 1993, which didnt exactly suggest they would be affordable to everyone (and this was a brick phone that didnt even have a calculator function). Knock it off with saying 90s teachers should've foreseen the iPhone.
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Uno
This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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