There’s a widespread stereotype that when a couple gets married, they’ll butt heads with their parents-in-law. Of course, life doesn’t always play out like the script of a family comedy: your in-laws can be just as wonderful or abysmal as any other person on Planet Earth. However, the stereotype really does turn out to be completely true in some fringe cases.
Reddit user u/fuzzyloulou sparked a lively online discussion, as people spilled the tea about what they hate the most about their in-laws, and we’ve collected the juiciest stories to share with you. Check them out below, but be prepared to witness what it looks like when someone has no respect for anyone’s boundaries.
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My mother-in-law is always cooking good a*s food and making me fat. It’s all her fault!
My FIL called my wife and her 3 sisters wh*res all while standing I’m MY house. Reason you ask? They all got married outside of the Catholic faith. We haven’t spoken in 6 years. Best 6 years of my life.
They live 3,500kms away. It’s a little closer than I would like.
The secret to getting along with your parents-in-law, as well as anyone else, is setting, communicating, and enforcing healthy boundaries. If someone keeps walking all over us, butting into our lives, and making us miserable all the time, clearly they have very little respect for us.
It would be wonderful if they suddenly became fully self-aware and changed their behavior, but life rarely works this way. So it falls to you to let them know how their behavior is affecting you and to tell them what you expect from the relationship moving forward.
My husband's mother and 2 sisters really went out of their way to make me feel unwanted and unliked early in our marriage. They judged me, gave me the cold shoulder. Criticized everything I did. Jokes on them. My husband and I have been married for 30 years. So I learned a lesson: screw the naysayers. Haters gonna hate.
...as long as the spouse is on YOUR side and not theirs
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My dad's sisters did not like my mom at first. They thought she was stuck up - although I can't imagine anyone saying that about her. She's about as un-stuck up as you can get. Turns out they were jealous and unhappy that their big brother was being "taken away". As they got older and came to know her better my aunts apologized and admitted they had been wrong. Now they're all good friends. :)
"Haters gonna hate". True, I learnt that lesson very late in life.
Oh God, do I have stories. My MIL is one of the cheapest people I have ever met and a hoarder. For my sons first birthday she gave him a roll of paper towels because..."Look! he loves it, doesn't even know whether it is a toy or not!" At age 3 for Christmas she gave him some random toiletries and cleaning supplies she bought at the dollar store, wrapped them and everything. Now I have to give my boy credit on those...after he opened them he said "This Christmas Sucks!" which caused major drama for my wife and I.
My mother-in-law is a religious zealot who legit hates more than half of her children. One is a lesbian, one is trans, my wife is non-binary, their other brother is gay. But she doesn’t know he is.
It's very interesting seeing extremely religious people hating others for their choices while most religions tells you to respect other people's choices and never to be rude to anyone.
Some of the signs that you might have toxic in-laws include them disregarding your feelings, being invasive in your marriage, and being overly self-involved. Not only that but psychotherapist Dr. Susan Forward also notes that the worst parents-in-law will also try to one-up everything that you do and will gossip about you behind your back.
A few other red flags to look out for include in-laws who are overly critical of everything and anything that you do (nothing will ever be good enough for them), hold grudges, make you feel like you’re inferior, and enjoy stirring up as much drama as they can.
I loved them so much. They expressed their love for me, for almost 40 years. I hate they got old and died.
The way they come over to my house unannounced. Just show up then get mad at me for being in the shower or not home because I’m running errands. I know I’m a SAHM but damn I still have to go run errands outside the house. The way they insist they can have our baby whenever they please without our permission.
The constant criticism. I married their only son and nothing I do is good enough. My house is never clean enough, my one year old doesn’t “behave”, and my cooking sucks. The passive aggressiveness is so overwhelming.
Aside from setting proper boundaries, it also helps if you try to emotionally detach yourself from whatever drama your in-laws whipped up this time around. Don’t judge yourself too harshly even if they keep criticizing you, and if everything else fails, spend some time apart from them.
For instance, if they keep butting into your lives, you may want to ask them not to come over so often because you and your partner are both incredibly busy. You can do this gently, politely, and diplomatically, but it still needs to be said. Your in-laws might think that they’re doing you favors out of love and they might not realize they’re being a nuisance. Or they know exactly what they’re doing and you need to be firm with them.
My MIL is overly Christian... And reminds us regularly we're going to hell because we don't go to church. My incredible wife responds with either, see you there or, that's where all our friends are going, why wouldn't we want to go!
I absolutely love my in-laws, but compared to my family they are *REALLY* loud. Like instead of taking turns talking they just talk louder over each other until someone listens. I leave with a headache, and that's including times I sneak to an empty room for peace.
At the in-laws table. Seven people means four different concurrent conversations - all the time. Yes loud.
Their concept of time. They're all always shamelessly late to everything. And they all act like it's a cardinal sin to be early. They think they're "early" if they stroll in just in the nick of time.
For example, I've told them, "We have to be there at 7, and it's a 20 minute drive, so we should leave by 6:35 at the latest. So you need to be at our house at 6:30 so we can load the car".
"Why so early? I'll be at your house at 6:45".
Then they show up at 6:55 and can't understand why I'm pissed. And we get to where we're supposed to be at 7:15 and can't understand why everyone there is pissed.
At least my husband has gotten better about it. He still hates to be anywhere early but he plans and takes steps to be on time, not late.
My MIL isn’t too nice to the kids. Granted, she has 15 grandkids, you can tell which ones she likes more. And less. My kids are in the middle.
Its hard to like 15 kids of different ages. Some kids you may see often others not so often. My mom had a saying about 5 minutes is enough over 15 minutes too much. She loved her grandkids but her mind and senses couldn't keep up with them and it tires her out. The older she got the harder it got. Not all parents are cut out to be award winning grandparents no matter how much they love the kids.
I hate that my father-in-law was a pig headed son of a b***h and refused the vaccine. Left my wife with ashes.
There's nothing I hate about my in-laws but my MIL occasionally says some things that give me pause when she's in the room. For example, she wished me a happy birthday recently to which I casually replied, "Just another trip around the sun." My comment resulted in a 20 minute lecture about how the sun actually orbits the Earth based on her visual observation of it rising in the east and setting in the west every day. I often wonder how much of my partner's childhood trauma is a direct result of her mother's "unusual" beliefs.
How critical they are of my partner. He is loving, kind, smart and unique. Nothing he ever does will ever be enough for them. As a result he has major anxiety and perfection issues. He’s hard on himself and constantly apologizes over minor things. I wish he knew how awesome he is. For this reason I’ve chewed out both his dad and mom with them being clueless as to why. What issues? I’d love to be close to them if things were different; however see how dysfunctional they are and am totally okay with zero contact.
My wife’s dad is a very “I’m right, or you’re wrong” kinda person. If he’s not right, he refuses to admit it and will just leave and not speak to you for a long time. Then show back up and act like nothing happened.
I hope that your wife didn't turn into the "sorry, sorry everything is my fault even though it has nothing to do with me , I gladly take the blame for everything" person.
My mother in-law abused my wife physically and emotionally. She is the cause of her PTSD, and I suspect, her anxiety. The woman is a narcissist who uses people and then drops them if they lose value. When my father in-law was in the hospital for his third stroke, she preyed upon his family, asking them for money to pay her bills. No one knows what she did with the money, and my heavily disabled father in-law swiftly lost his home (despite the loans supposedly being for the mortgage payment). We have gone as no contact as possible.
I can relate to your wife at an extreme level. I literally start flinching whenever someone touches me , have bad reflexes.
That they were neglectful parents. I realize that they weren't in the best financial situation while my partner was growing up, but they kept his learning disability diagnosis a secret from him and he was left to his own devices most of the time. He's the youngest by a lot, and likely was not planned. He grew up without being encouraged to do well in school or to set goals in life. He also struggled a lot with affection early in our relationship because it wasn't modeled in his home growing up.
My partner doesn't hold it against them though, merely sees his childhood as a way to not raise our child so I have to commend him on that. I just wish he had been given the support and love a child deserves too.
Hate is a bit strong, but I judge my step-MIL because she posts EVERYTHING on Facebook. I swear she can’t take a s**t without posting.
Oh God same with my mother... pretty sure she's bad for business in terms of turning people away from fb
How fake they are. They just care about their image and how they appear to others, very little, if anything, is genuine about them.
MIL refuses to discuss anything that bothers her. She just goes dead silent for a moment, then pivots to a different subject.
Oh man, how much time do you have? Number one thing is that they are drama vampires. They can’t live without it. Everything is about them, and if it isn’t, it will be soon. They are cartoonishly childish and it’s as ridiculous as it is sad. I feel terrible for my spouse and her siblings. Every family get-together is a sh*tshow. Number two is that they can’t make a plan without overcomplicating the ever-loving s**t out of it, which my wife has inherited.
Dang that's my wife's family all the way! Except that last part, "This is what's happening, this is the time. No excuses, don't care if you need to go to the hospital, whatever the reason it's not important. Be there or suffer endless amounts of name calling, belittling, told how much you are a brat and are ruining the family." My wife is on month two of of never speaking to them again and it's such a relief!
They are all incredibly judgemental, a lot of times very self-centered and a hodge podge of other cliches of in-laws from Hell.
MIL once called me a lazy a*s because I lost my job and couldn't get another one.
We had just lost our home and that job at the beginning of the pandemic due to the pandemic.
I was a "lazy a*s" because I couldn't get a job during a time when the world had just shut down, people were dying from Covid and my wife and I are homeless. I'm a lazy a*s though, apparently.
Their refusing to acknowledge our kid(s) due to not being baptized in Christianity. They now do but it took years. What's even worse is my spouse won't acknowledge it even happened. Or he'll say it's in the past. Pisses me the f**k off. Still does. They were a******s for years. I refuse to go see them. I'd rather study in school.
They disowned my wife for marrying me and they hate me because I'm non-binary.
People, don't have children if their choices are not similar with yours and if you are extremely against LGBTQ+ community.
They are christian, right-wing, QAnon'ers. If it gravitates to politics, I feel like I can't keep up with all the conspiracy theories unless I keep my phone out to Google topics. If I don't know of some backwater story, they delight in trying to make me seem like I'm ignorant to the world's biggest news reveal.
We are getting better at shutting down these conversations with simple phrases or just walking away.
I can't begin to imagine what that is like. Reading about these people, and what they are managing to do in some states is stressful enough.
Outlier here I think.
I love my in-laws like my parents, and I have known them since elementary school (I married my childhood friend), but here goes: Please stop telling old stories about me and my wife to my kids. I didn't need them knowing I was a wimpy kid that needed to be protected by my wife from bullies.
When we go to my in-laws, we never leave the house. We sit in the den, watch TV twelve hours a day and listen to my father-in-law c**p on anything and everything he sees on the idiot box. We finally told them that the condition for our coming was to turn off Fox News.
And it's not because he's 84 and a grump old man. He's been doing this for the past thirty years. Everybody, everything is stupid but him. Just this constant stream of negativity.
And my mother-in-law isn't much better. She will sit there and talk about everybody else under the sun and how stupid those people are. I've started just leaving for a couple of hours for a sanity break. I have to demand my children go visit them once a year.
My MIL is a major narcissist and racist.
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Majority if not all of husband’s family members are racist, homophobic, bigoted people. I don’t know how he turned out so great though. They’re also conservative Christian and it blows my mind how they have so much hate inside their hearts when Jesus loved everyone. They’re not really a fan of me simply because I’m a foreigner and not Christian. I put up with my mil’s awful comments about people for a couple of years until i finally exploded and let it all out. Every since then I’ve been calling her out for anything bigoted or hateful she says about others. She’s learned that I’m not going to put up with it.
My almost entire family on both sides is like this. Any advice for how to deal with it? Some are worse than others, some not so bad, some awfully terrible, but they’re all this to some degree.
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My in-laws are divorced. I LOVE my MIL; she's terrific. My FIL? Child molester who doesn't understand why he never met my daughter. Never will either, a*****e; and she knows why.
I hate that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law both died too young. I hit the jack-pot for in-laws and still have my father-in-law and brother-in-law left but we miss hubby's mom and sister all the time. :'(
My MIL - whom we both avoid if possible - announced this year that she doesn't want to come to holiday celebrations where her grandkids or great grandkids would be present. More specifically, those immediately related to her oldest son. Other grandkids are fine. She is constantly trying to manipulate everyone to do what she thinks is right for others. I could go on endless, but I'll close with her telling me at my mother's memorial service that she could be my mother now.
"If you want to take my mother's place, I'll speak to the undertaker about it."
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My MIL blames me for causing my daughter to have autism, because it was my choice to subject her to childhood immunizations, which are full of poisonous mercury.
My first husband's parents were catholic and Quebecoise, their kids didn't speak the language. When they had the Canadian family for visits they would speak French to each other and English to the kids and their spouses. I learned French as a child and never revealed this. The trash they would talk about the kids and their spouses was disgusting and very rude! One christmas I had had enough, told them all how I felt about them, in French and left them for good and all. My husband visited them alone from then on. My second husband's mother was a spoiled, very racist, controlling old beach who tried to run our lives as she saw fit. We formed a united front, were polite to her, would run her errands for her and basically take care of her needs and take her on outings. I took her to the mall to shop, she threw a fit at a Mom with her disruptive kids in a snack bar and she and I were "asked to leave" the mall (she had us kicked out). No one showed up for her funeral except immediate family.
My in-laws wouldn't have anything to do with me for 10yrs because we were polyamorous and I was the gf not the wife. Even after his wife left, it took years for them to accept me. I'm sure they are back to hating me now that I've called their son out for being abusive and left his a$$.
I'm glad you left. I hope you're in a better situation now :)
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My I. Laws have both passed. Just small irritations. Mostly was mom saying stuff about my weight. She ate like a bird all the time. She would handle the food with her dirty hands a lot so I didn't eat much at their house. If we had a party an told them 2 pm they damn well were circling the block to walk up the driveway at 2. And I would still be putting items out for the party while they demanded drinks an such. I started telling them half an hour later an it worked. Then they would go shopping store to store comparing prices and tell me long epic price stories. I do miss them.
My adoptive grandparents. My stepdad adopted me and he’s my dad. His parents would talk about how blood is thicker than water. That my mom, my brother and I aren’t as important because we’re not blood just here because of marriage. When with them, I would be told that I wasn’t important as my sister. Anything my sister wanted, she wanted goes and we weren’t blood. My sister would choose everything movies, food, etc. They would even tell my sister that our parents were trying to only focus only on me. Encourage her to get me in trouble and try to ruin the marriage. My mom finally got them one day. They talked about blood again. She asked them who is most important to you and they looked at each other. My mom said you guys aren’t blood. They were speechless! My dad high-fived her her after! I didn’t hear about blood after that.
I couldn't make a general statement about my in-laws. They are not all alike because they were all raised to be individuals. Of course they all have their own virtues and faults, but they are their own. No common threads.
My in-laws immediately accepted me in the family and are always kind and patient with me. That being said, my fil cheated multiple times on his wife and my mil likes expensive clothing a bit too much
My wife loves my parents. Her only criticism is that my mam is always on the go and does too much for others, and my dad talks a lot of shite. As for my in-laws, well... He thinks he knows and can do everything, but actually knows and can do absolutely nothing. She repeats herself, waaaay to much. And they both know that I'm a capable person, but expect me to be superman; I'm sorry but some jobs are for professionals with heavy machinery, not me with a power drill and spade.
i have a medical condition that my son inherited. not life threatening but we will both be affected for basically the rest of our lives. it doesnt impede our ability to think, learn and live. my MIL saw my son exhibiting symptoms of his condition and tried to make him stop (he physically cant). i told her as much and that i myself have said condition. she told me if i just try hard enough i can make it go away by sheer willpower. she is not a doctor and didnt go to medical school. i told my son to ignore her uneducated comments and that he is wonderful just as he is.
I was 19 when I met my in laws. And I was dumb. I said something stupid and they overheard it. It took me 10 years to find out they overheard me. By that time they (mostly my MIL) did stuff I could not overlook. I could not get over my pride or whatever. Still can‘t but I don‘t see her often now. She went behind our backs when we did not want anyone to see our dead daughter, came back and told us how bad she looked and that she bled on the pillow, but my Mom should better not see her because by then she would look even worse. (Stroke 1). She threatened to call child protective services because our son was crying one time and we could not sooth him fast enough for her liking. (Stroke 2). She told her son/ my husband that he is good for nothing and she should call the neighbour, when my husband had a slight problem while laying tiles in her staircase (stroke 3). #1
Then she went on to tell an acquaintance of mine that „I“ did not want her to see her dead granddaughter, totally forgetting that it was her own son who did not want anyone to see her. She did this at our sons birthday party and totally unprovoked. (Stroke 4). Lesser evils are: she is miffed if you correct her at anything, saying we think she is stupid. Every rule applies only to others. If she is involved, then „it‘s different“. When we or my husband are visiting her, she watches TV to her liking, not even considering us and then wonders why we do not stay longer.
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My ex mother in law is a total b*tch. She went off on me because she was in a bad mood and when I asked her if she needed my help and she said no, as I was walking away she literally shoved everything off the counter and started yelling at me.she was s****y to everyone but especially me and my father in law. She made his life miserable until he passed. Then she dropped his ashes off at my ex husbands house, and got rid of his dad’s stuff after offering it to him. She married Tom when my ex husband was 11 and always referred to him as her son, but completely ignored him once his dad died. She even lied and told a guy she dated she had been widowed 3 years, it was 3 months after he passed. My father in law, or my dad as I still refer to him was the kindest, loving person I’ve ever known. I’ve never seen him get mad especially as mad as he did at my mother in law after she went off on me like that for no reason. He always made me feel protected and loved. I miss you Tom. R.I.P. dad. ❤️ Sh
My mom is a narcissistic parent to me and she is so whiney and self-loathing. I have had to tell her that I will not have my kids hearing her husband call her b*tch (or the Danish equivalent of that) no matter how "he means it in a fun/nice way" it is. Also, I had to tell her not to talk about her own body in front of my kids because she will tell me that she finds her body disgusting and she can't even imagine why her husband wants to have sex with her because he body is so gross etc. My bf of 10 years didn't believe that my mom could be so bad when I first met him. After about a month he was 100% with me on why I don't like my mom that much. And my dad? Well, he (and his wife) doesn't seem to really care that much about me nor my kids (or he doesn't know how to show it?). He has never visited me just to visit me. It's always been to help me with something or to pick me up. He and his wife have never had my kids over for a few hours by themselves.
(Continued) My bf's parents are great with the kids and I can talk for hours with his mom. But they have, imo, done so much bad with my bf during his upbringing and now the result is on my hands. And also, his mom thinks she understand mental issues like social phobia (yes, we all get shy sometimes) and anxiety (yes, it's just natural to be insecure about things at times). I am neurodivergent and have always been an introvert who loved doing indoor-stuff and I always loved being alone for weeks at a time etc. She tells me over and over again that I need to get help to find a job (yes) so I can get my mind off things (no) and get energy to do stuff around the house and garden (no). And then I could also lose some weight (no). She thinks she understands me and my mental stuff.... but clearly and strongly NO. She does not. And you can't convince her that she doesn't understand. Frustrates me so extremely much. And sorry for the rant! 😏 (thanks for reading).
Load More Replies... Majority if not all of husband’s family members are racist, homophobic, bigoted people. I don’t know how he turned out so great though. They’re also conservative Christian and it blows my mind how they have so much hate inside their hearts when Jesus loved everyone. They’re not really a fan of me simply because I’m a foreigner and not Christian. I put up with my mil’s awful comments about people for a couple of years until i finally exploded and let it all out. Every since then I’ve been calling her out for anything bigoted or hateful she says about others. She’s learned that I’m not going to put up with it.
My almost entire family on both sides is like this. Any advice for how to deal with it? Some are worse than others, some not so bad, some awfully terrible, but they’re all this to some degree.
Load More Replies... My in-laws are divorced. I LOVE my MIL; she's terrific. My FIL? Child molester who doesn't understand why he never met my daughter. Never will either, a*****e; and she knows why.
I hate that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law both died too young. I hit the jack-pot for in-laws and still have my father-in-law and brother-in-law left but we miss hubby's mom and sister all the time. :'(
My MIL - whom we both avoid if possible - announced this year that she doesn't want to come to holiday celebrations where her grandkids or great grandkids would be present. More specifically, those immediately related to her oldest son. Other grandkids are fine. She is constantly trying to manipulate everyone to do what she thinks is right for others. I could go on endless, but I'll close with her telling me at my mother's memorial service that she could be my mother now.
"If you want to take my mother's place, I'll speak to the undertaker about it."
Load More Replies... My MIL blames me for causing my daughter to have autism, because it was my choice to subject her to childhood immunizations, which are full of poisonous mercury.
My first husband's parents were catholic and Quebecoise, their kids didn't speak the language. When they had the Canadian family for visits they would speak French to each other and English to the kids and their spouses. I learned French as a child and never revealed this. The trash they would talk about the kids and their spouses was disgusting and very rude! One christmas I had had enough, told them all how I felt about them, in French and left them for good and all. My husband visited them alone from then on. My second husband's mother was a spoiled, very racist, controlling old beach who tried to run our lives as she saw fit. We formed a united front, were polite to her, would run her errands for her and basically take care of her needs and take her on outings. I took her to the mall to shop, she threw a fit at a Mom with her disruptive kids in a snack bar and she and I were "asked to leave" the mall (she had us kicked out). No one showed up for her funeral except immediate family.
My in-laws wouldn't have anything to do with me for 10yrs because we were polyamorous and I was the gf not the wife. Even after his wife left, it took years for them to accept me. I'm sure they are back to hating me now that I've called their son out for being abusive and left his a$$.
I'm glad you left. I hope you're in a better situation now :)
Load More Replies... My I. Laws have both passed. Just small irritations. Mostly was mom saying stuff about my weight. She ate like a bird all the time. She would handle the food with her dirty hands a lot so I didn't eat much at their house. If we had a party an told them 2 pm they damn well were circling the block to walk up the driveway at 2. And I would still be putting items out for the party while they demanded drinks an such. I started telling them half an hour later an it worked. Then they would go shopping store to store comparing prices and tell me long epic price stories. I do miss them.
My adoptive grandparents. My stepdad adopted me and he’s my dad. His parents would talk about how blood is thicker than water. That my mom, my brother and I aren’t as important because we’re not blood just here because of marriage. When with them, I would be told that I wasn’t important as my sister. Anything my sister wanted, she wanted goes and we weren’t blood. My sister would choose everything movies, food, etc. They would even tell my sister that our parents were trying to only focus only on me. Encourage her to get me in trouble and try to ruin the marriage. My mom finally got them one day. They talked about blood again. She asked them who is most important to you and they looked at each other. My mom said you guys aren’t blood. They were speechless! My dad high-fived her her after! I didn’t hear about blood after that.
I couldn't make a general statement about my in-laws. They are not all alike because they were all raised to be individuals. Of course they all have their own virtues and faults, but they are their own. No common threads.
My in-laws immediately accepted me in the family and are always kind and patient with me. That being said, my fil cheated multiple times on his wife and my mil likes expensive clothing a bit too much
My wife loves my parents. Her only criticism is that my mam is always on the go and does too much for others, and my dad talks a lot of shite. As for my in-laws, well... He thinks he knows and can do everything, but actually knows and can do absolutely nothing. She repeats herself, waaaay to much. And they both know that I'm a capable person, but expect me to be superman; I'm sorry but some jobs are for professionals with heavy machinery, not me with a power drill and spade.
i have a medical condition that my son inherited. not life threatening but we will both be affected for basically the rest of our lives. it doesnt impede our ability to think, learn and live. my MIL saw my son exhibiting symptoms of his condition and tried to make him stop (he physically cant). i told her as much and that i myself have said condition. she told me if i just try hard enough i can make it go away by sheer willpower. she is not a doctor and didnt go to medical school. i told my son to ignore her uneducated comments and that he is wonderful just as he is.
I was 19 when I met my in laws. And I was dumb. I said something stupid and they overheard it. It took me 10 years to find out they overheard me. By that time they (mostly my MIL) did stuff I could not overlook. I could not get over my pride or whatever. Still can‘t but I don‘t see her often now. She went behind our backs when we did not want anyone to see our dead daughter, came back and told us how bad she looked and that she bled on the pillow, but my Mom should better not see her because by then she would look even worse. (Stroke 1). She threatened to call child protective services because our son was crying one time and we could not sooth him fast enough for her liking. (Stroke 2). She told her son/ my husband that he is good for nothing and she should call the neighbour, when my husband had a slight problem while laying tiles in her staircase (stroke 3). #1
Then she went on to tell an acquaintance of mine that „I“ did not want her to see her dead granddaughter, totally forgetting that it was her own son who did not want anyone to see her. She did this at our sons birthday party and totally unprovoked. (Stroke 4). Lesser evils are: she is miffed if you correct her at anything, saying we think she is stupid. Every rule applies only to others. If she is involved, then „it‘s different“. When we or my husband are visiting her, she watches TV to her liking, not even considering us and then wonders why we do not stay longer.
Load More Replies... My ex mother in law is a total b*tch. She went off on me because she was in a bad mood and when I asked her if she needed my help and she said no, as I was walking away she literally shoved everything off the counter and started yelling at me.she was s****y to everyone but especially me and my father in law. She made his life miserable until he passed. Then she dropped his ashes off at my ex husbands house, and got rid of his dad’s stuff after offering it to him. She married Tom when my ex husband was 11 and always referred to him as her son, but completely ignored him once his dad died. She even lied and told a guy she dated she had been widowed 3 years, it was 3 months after he passed. My father in law, or my dad as I still refer to him was the kindest, loving person I’ve ever known. I’ve never seen him get mad especially as mad as he did at my mother in law after she went off on me like that for no reason. He always made me feel protected and loved. I miss you Tom. R.I.P. dad. ❤️ Sh
My mom is a narcissistic parent to me and she is so whiney and self-loathing. I have had to tell her that I will not have my kids hearing her husband call her b*tch (or the Danish equivalent of that) no matter how "he means it in a fun/nice way" it is. Also, I had to tell her not to talk about her own body in front of my kids because she will tell me that she finds her body disgusting and she can't even imagine why her husband wants to have sex with her because he body is so gross etc. My bf of 10 years didn't believe that my mom could be so bad when I first met him. After about a month he was 100% with me on why I don't like my mom that much. And my dad? Well, he (and his wife) doesn't seem to really care that much about me nor my kids (or he doesn't know how to show it?). He has never visited me just to visit me. It's always been to help me with something or to pick me up. He and his wife have never had my kids over for a few hours by themselves.
(Continued) My bf's parents are great with the kids and I can talk for hours with his mom. But they have, imo, done so much bad with my bf during his upbringing and now the result is on my hands. And also, his mom thinks she understand mental issues like social phobia (yes, we all get shy sometimes) and anxiety (yes, it's just natural to be insecure about things at times). I am neurodivergent and have always been an introvert who loved doing indoor-stuff and I always loved being alone for weeks at a time etc. She tells me over and over again that I need to get help to find a job (yes) so I can get my mind off things (no) and get energy to do stuff around the house and garden (no). And then I could also lose some weight (no). She thinks she understands me and my mental stuff.... but clearly and strongly NO. She does not. And you can't convince her that she doesn't understand. Frustrates me so extremely much. And sorry for the rant! 😏 (thanks for reading).
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