First dates are usually a bit weird and awkward. But when the person uses you to cover an expensive restaurant bill or tries to recruit you to a pyramid scheme, they're unbearable.

A few weeks ago, Redditor u/Eseohii posted a question to r/AskReddit, saying "Those who've walked out on first dates, what was your 'I'm out of here' moment?" and people instantly filled the comment section with crazy characters and surprising stories.

Here are some of them.

#1

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Had a first date with a girl who insisted we go to a really expensive place, where she ordered a $25 dollar appetizer, $45 steak and a $15 drink. She wouldn't put down her phone, kept taking calls and answering texts. The waitress noticed and motioned for me from behind her. I excused myself, and the waitress had separate bills all made up and asked if I wanted to pay my share and leave her at the table. I said, "That would be wonderful!" So I did.

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Riddhi⭐
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2 months ago

She got what she deserved!!! DUH!😁

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#2

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I drove us. Started to parallel park (been working/parking in SF for years by then) and he said, “I’ll park this for you, women don’t do well at parallel parking.” At dinner he was dismissive only to female wait staff.

I ran into these two hilariously drunk surfer dudes on my way from the bathroom, they told me my date was a jerk. We laughed about it and I went back to my table.

When leaving, the drunk dudes were also outside, I said bye to them and Assholio had the nerve to bark, “she’s with me!”

I told him to wait while I got in the car and unlocked the doors..except I didn’t. I drove off and left him standing there. The two drunk dudes whooped and yelled go, lady, go! Such an awesome finish to a terribly embarrassing date.

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Helen Haley
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2 months ago

What an a-hole

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Bored Panda got in touch with u/Eseohii and they told us the idea for the post came from a real-life example. "My friend had been on a date but walked out because the guy had researched her whole life and was reading off facts about her to her," the Redditor told us. "I was curious what other crazy things people have encountered on a date that made them say 'nope.'"

All these comments under the post only strengthened u/Eseohii's belief that "even after agreeing to a date you're not obligated to follow through if it's not worth your time!"

Even if we disregard the extreme cases, they think it's not "rude" to abandon your first date. "Life is way too short to keep engaging in things you're not truly interested in," the Redditor said.

#3

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) On a first date with a military guy. He spent a large portion of the date talking about why the strippers in Toronto were better than the strippers where we lived. To change the topic, I asked him if he did any volunteer work with the military overseas and he said "NO! I joined the military to kill people not help people!" I got my bill, chugged my beer, and left as fast as I could.

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Jo Johannsen
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2 months ago

Psycho!

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#4

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) The fact that within 10 minutes of meeting him he started making sexual comments and "joking" about following me home so he could stalk me if I rejected him.

I got out with the help of a bartender who let me leave out the back door.

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Riddhi⭐
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2 months ago

Creep alert!!😶

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#5

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Having the usual get to know you conversation over drinks. I was telling how my car was stolen the night before and her response was.."Don't you just hate blacks?" I never said who stole it....I was out of there...

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Helen Haley
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2 months ago

And thank you for telling me you're a trash human right off the bat.

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As more Americans turn to online dating and the #MeToo movement leaves its imprint on the dating scene, nearly half of U.S. adults – and a majority of women – say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years.

Since there are no guarantees whether or not a date will work out for you, you have to be emotionally prepared for pretty much everything that might happen. "Having the right level of expectation is really important to ensuring you both enjoy your date, and stay motivated for future ones," dating coach Hayley Quinn told Bored Panda.

"Dating is a process, so don't go on a first date expecting to meet 'The One'! A good level of expectation to have for a first date is that you're going to have fun and be curious about the other person. A first date isn't about anyone judging anyone else, it's just an opportunity to see if that level of connection between you could be there," Quinn explained.

#6

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Went to pick up my blind date. She opened the door and looked at me.

"Ew"

I looked at her and said "Yeah, I agree" and turned on my heel and left. Total date time Less than 5 minutes.

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Dorothy Parker
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2 months ago (edited)

What a terrible woman. I think their response was warranted, based on her manners alone.

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#7

We were talking about out pets and I told her about my cat and she said if we were to continue dating I would have to get rid of him because she doesn't like cats. For a moment I thought she was kidding because who would ask that of a first date (or any date). It became clear she wasn't kidding and was mad I wasn't taking her suggestion seriously. I didn't end up leaving, I was in the middle of my fettuccine alfredo and I wasn't about to scoop it into some doggy bag like some caveman. She took an Uber.

I haven't had many memorably bad dates, but that was the worst. Im willing to make certain reasonable changes for the right person, but cats are non-negotiable.

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Dorothy Parker
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2 months ago

My hero. You never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like your pets or children.

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#8

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) This guy and I were eating dinner after chatting for a couple of weeks, and unprompted (in the middle of something I was saying) and completely unrelated to what was being discussed he said something along the lines of, “So you know in order for this to work you’re gonna have to share yourself right? My friends and I like to pass girls around.”

I was pretty dumbfounded and after a bit of stuttering I told him I didn’t think it was going to work, asked for a to-go box and my portion of the check, and noped the f**k outta there.

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Riddhi⭐
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2 months ago

I have 3 words : What the freak!!??😲😬

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Most of us have probably been in an awkward situation where the date isn't going well and we want to leave early but can't find a nice way to do it. According to Quinn, that's something we need to take care of before, not during the evening.

"Instead of thinking about ending a date early, I would try to avoid planning dates where you're going to end up feeling over-committed!" the dating coach said. "Skip dinner and keep it to casual drinks or a coffee in an area that's convenient to you."

However, if you get enough bad vibes to start feeling you need to hit the eject button, then Quinn advises to be candid and say something along the lines of, "I appreciate you meeting me, but although it's awkward I want to be upfront that I don't think we have that chemistry."

"If you feel too unsafe to do this, yes you can make an excuse to leave (the old phone a friend) or tell a member of staff at the venue that you're looking for Angela, this is a code word to let members of staff know you feel unsafe, and they should assist you into a taxi," the dating coach said.

#9

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Not me but this happened to a friend. Context: friend has a beard. So my friend picks up this girl and they’re on their way to dinner and she says “You do realize that if this is gonna work you have to shave that off right?” He didn’t say anything, just turned around and dropped her back off at her house

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Jo Johannsen
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2 months ago

Good for him. If she was willing to make unreasonable demands before the first date even got under way, she was NOT a keeper.

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#10

We chatted online. At the time I was a smoker and told him. He said no big deal because he smokes too. Decided to meet up at Starbucks for coffee. First thing he said, "hi. By the way when I said I smoke, I was talking about meth."

I said "oh, bye". And turned around and left.

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Sarcastic Cow
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2 months ago

:D That escaled quickly

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#11

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Great chats online, decided to meet in person.

He's got a blue tooth headset with a little LED light that shows it's on. He keeps it on during drinks. I work up the nerve to ask if he can take off the headset while we're eating dinner.

With pride and complete confidence he says, "Don't worry! You totally have my full attention. This isn't a phone headset, it's a camera."

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

What a creep.

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#12

I had invited a guy off a dating site to my house. When I opened the door, he said he could kill me if he wanted, and to never meet anyone off the internet again.

My two male roommates were in the kitchen because they knew this guy was coming, and heard him. They ran him out of the house pdq

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Daniel Mattock
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2 months ago

Not the best idea to have a first date at your house…

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#13

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) He was 45 minutes late picking me up (weather was quite poor so I gave him a pass)

Get to the coffee shop, take off my jacket and immediately he says, “I see you brought your A game, or should I say, D game “ referring to my breasts. (I’m surprisingly busty for my frame)

Even the people 2 tables over just stopped and looked at him.

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Mia Smith
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2 months ago

Oh geez. I just cringed hard on her behalf. I would have immediately turned on my heel while putting my jacket back on and left.

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#14

He told me I wasn’t pretty enough to be so confident. Like what??? I was shocked but the server came to my rescue and was like girl get outta here no charge for your drink!

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Otter
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2 months ago

Betcha that guy firmly believes he's "a nice guy".

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#15

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I had to pick him up and he complained about everything. My car, the way I drove, my music taste, why was I being so quiet while carefully plotting my escape plan. Definitely the moment he said “My friends really want to meet you. I need them to know you’re real.” Annnnnnndddddd that’s when I bounced.

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Caro Caro
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2 months ago

You slammed on the brakes and told him to f#@ck off !

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#16

Date one - seemed nice so invited him in for literal coffee... attempted rape, I broke his nose.

He texted the next day to ask if we could pick up where we left off.

He was a doctor in a women's psychiatric unit, and he knew where I lived. I moved 4 weeks later.

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Demi Zwaan
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2 months ago

So where is the part where she called the police and his work and got him arrested and fired? Or did she just care for her own safety?

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#17

Blind date set up by my GRANDPARENTS. I love my grandad and he’s done so much for me so I went. We met at a bar where my best friend worked. We get drinks and I’m talking to my friend. He says “this homo trying to hook up with you?” 1. He’s not gay 2. It wouldn’t matter if he was 3. He was just checking in on me.

So I’m already done with him at this point but my ride is still over an hour away. His mate shows up at one point and starts trying to flirt with me. It was gross. My date then starts asking about “my hot friends” and if I can get them to come out. I said “I like my friends so… no” He starts being racist against Pacific Islanders. And was horribly rude to this German guy there drinking. when my ride gets there I said “I’m leaving.” He said “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me” I said “thanks but I’d rather gouge out my eyes”

The next day he messaged me and said “you probably think I’m a bit of a c**t after last night but do you want to go out again” I had no intentions of ever seeing him again so I explained why his behaviour was unacceptable and suggested he try making friends who are girls so he sees them as something other than a hole to stick his d**k in.

I told my grandparents everything. They told his parents and apparently his dad was super embarrassed.

My grandparents were then informed to stay out of my love life and any time they brought it up I just say “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me”

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Dorothy Parker
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2 months ago

Great to have grandparents they can say that to.

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#18

She wouldn't stop making fun of me. She was 26 and I was 36 (though if it matters, we were at the same place in our careers/income) and she kept making ageist jokes about how I was old and decrepit. Eventually, after telling her pretty directly to lay off, I just said "you know, I'm not enjoying this, I'm going to go," and paid for the table and left.

Later she said it was because she was overcompensating because she was self-conscious about how much younger she was, but that just means that when she's uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning the other person.

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

My fiance is 12 years younger than me. It's never been an issue.

PiscesMama
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2 months ago

When she feels uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning a person…did you even read this? Her behaviour has nothing to do with age, it was just an obvious choice of weapon.

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Nat Hedley
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2 months ago

Yeah, re: that second paragraph - nobody's born an arsehole, they all have reasons but it doesn't change the fact they're an arsehole.

Dan Buczynski
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2 months ago

My ex girlfriend used to do that with my height. I'm 5'6", and never felt awkward about it for a single day before her. Now it's a thing I'm constantly aware of. Thanks for that!

Beverly
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2 months ago

One of the most attractive guys I ever knew was 5'6". So don't give it another thought.

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Natalie Seaton
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2 months ago

"Sorry, when I'm uncomfortable, I act like a giant ass". Bullet dodged.

SlartyBlartFast
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2 months ago

She lied with the excuse - why would she deliberately go out with someone she considers decrepit-old, nah-ah. I am very happy he was honest but polite with her and left.

OCDRobot
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2 months ago

26 but still acting like a teenager if she thinks 30's is old. Hell, she's not too far away from it herself. Maybe she should calm down a bit and realize that.

CatWoman312
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2 months ago

I’ll be 36 this year. Guess I’m decrepit too 😏

Kaj Boelsen
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2 months ago

My partner is 20 years younger, he’d never pull such a stunt.

Al Reilly
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1 month ago

I'm 12 years older than My wife of 33 years seems to be fine so far LOL!!

Martha Higgins
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1 month ago

Congratulations for leaving.

Lynn Morello
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1 month ago

It sounds very Childish to me, Like a Schoolyard Bully.

backatya
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1 month ago

he should had some sex first and then leave

katboxjanitor
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1 month ago

Good thing you gave her a no. And you are a good guy to pay for the table.

jane don
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1 month ago

At least you were Man enough to tell her why& paid the bill -unlike some Weasels that only pay 1/2 the bill & Sneak out-not knowing if she has money--

Lisa Chambers
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1 month ago

Projection is never a great go-to mode.

Kathy Conley
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1 month ago

The guy that I’ve been dating is 29 years younger than me and for both of us it is the best relationship we’ve ever been in! He adores and worships me and loves me like I’ve never been loved in my life and I love and worship and adore him and love him the same way!

Evelyn Haskins
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1 month ago

So?? Not a person you want to have a relationship with.

Neal fy
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1 month ago

I've also done this type of joking while being uncomfortable, but it doesn't necessarily mean there's a pattern. After being told, I didn't do it again. I know what she did wasn't nice, but it could have been a one time thing. I'm not justifying or defending her. I'm just saying I don't agree with the last sentence. I'm sure everyone has at least one experience of doing a strange thing in an uncomfortable situation.

JD Lee
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1 month ago

Clearly she wasn’t as mentally mature either. Her loss.

Carol Goodson
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1 month ago

Once you are grown up, age doesn't matter (like it does when you are in high school)

Mickie Shea
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1 month ago

Wow that is a great age difference. Just depend on your experience, I imagine.

Daniela Strobl
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2 months ago

Me: "36 is pretty old."... Realizing I'm 35...

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix
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2 months ago

Ageism has been a problem at my school but not huge, like the one time we were going on a feild trip in 3rd grade and some middle schoolers said "gOiNg tO tHr PumPkIn PaTcH" keep in mind the feild trip was all gt students, so we snapped back "we're going to college idiot!" We were going to visit a college but I realize now he crashed and burned for another reason bc we told him hes not going to college 😂😂😂

SobyKay
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2 months ago

totally agree. sometimes ppl who have to berate others are covert narcissists, so you're lucky she was callous enuf to show u her true colors right away. otherwise u could've been in for a world of pain.

Aaricia
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2 months ago

You should've just left and let her pay for the table. Hit them where it hurts.

deanna woods
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2 months ago

If you have to demean people to feel comfortable maybe you need therapy.

Carole Reid
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2 months ago

I think she is going to have a really hard time when the years start piling up on her.

Jaguarundi
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2 months ago

Well, she had the "mean" part on point!

StringbeanON
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2 months ago

Smart choice OP, that was a lame excuse from her

Azure Adams
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2 months ago

Yeah that is still a no, regardless. She needs to learn way better coping tools

DKS 001
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2 months ago

not someone to have around

StellaLehggs
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2 months ago

A 10 year difference shouldn't be a big deal. Depends on the people. If it works, it works. She needs to get her head on straight.

Liam Farranree
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2 months ago

for once a dating horror story where the one who is clueless, immature and socially awkward isn't the guy

Chich
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2 months ago

I know a couple who are about 25 years apart, They have been together for years. On the other hand, loads of couples similar age who didn't last

Lovin' Life
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2 months ago

Age is just a number!

Eppe
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2 months ago

This one is relatively mild, and she apologized

Leslie Burleson
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2 months ago

Or she was trying to make a joke to be relatable . My husband is two years older than me, but he might as well be 100 for all I tease him about how much older he is than me . We both think it's funny

Uchman
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2 months ago

The difference is that he's finding it funny, not telling you to stop

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Suzi Gauthier
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2 months ago

I would never say it, but 36 was decrepit to me in my 20s.

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Has anyone seen a sense of humour? It's been missing

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I think you should given her a chance

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#19

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I had a first date with a girl who told me, "Actually I'm engaged but I'm not 100% sure if he's the right one. So I'm going to go out on a few dates to see if I change my mind."

Check please!

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Michelle M
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2 months ago

Well I'm also engaged...to never see you again.

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#20

She had 22 cats and would just randomly take in strays. Not give them any vet care and was planning on keeping a recent litter. I love cats... I paid the bartender when she went to the bathroom and hyper walked to the door. Forwarded her contact info and a summary of what she told me to the humane society.

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troufaki13
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2 months ago

I love cats but she's a hoarder! Not good for the animals

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#21

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) First date we are at a Japanese restaurant. She asked me my star sign, I replied "Scorpio". She leaned over the table and slapped me clean & hard across the face. Naturally I was shocked and confused, I mouthed "What...?", she firmly says "I NEVER date Scorpios". I went to the bathroom, came back - she had gone, and paid for everything.

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Happy_Pandalover
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2 months ago (edited)

that‘s weird. but she paid for everything :). Somehow i find that story amusing. (Her slapping him is a No Go of course. Please don‘t take me wrong. I just find the circumstances amusing because it‘s so absurd.)

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#22

He was a friend of a friend. He went to a restaurant and ordered our food. While we waited he started to say things like “First I’ll eat this meal then I’ll eat you out”. I laughed cause I thought he’s just joking. I thought he’s just nervous and his mouth lost his filter.

Then when the waitress later asked if we want more to drink he was like “Yes, bring us something strong” I said not for me and that i have to drive later and just want a coke and he looked at me and was like “Don’t be stupid. You think I’ll f**k you once and let you leave? You’ll at least stay the night” The waitress looked at me with wide eyes like im crazy for even being there. After she left I told him that he has to stop with this that it was rude and that we’re on our first date.

He apologized and for 10 min it was okay. Then, as if a switch was turned on he said just like that (mid sentence without even ending his previous story) “You know what, I can’t control myself anymore. Either we go now or I’ll f**k you on this table” I told him I’ll go to the bathroom. He complained like a baby that we have to go now. I went anyway and went to the waitress, payed for the food and left without a word.

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Susie Elle
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2 months ago

Guy has serious issues

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#23

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) First date. Went bowling, turned around and he was going through my phone. A little soon, I think....

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Jo Johannsen
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2 months ago

The twelfth of never would be too soon.

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#24

We met at the restaurant, I had arrived first to get a table, the server showed her over, we shook hands, I pushed her chair in. The server asked if we would like a drink or to hear the specials. She picked up the menu, asked the server for a wine list without even looking at them, looked intently at me and said "how much money do you make?" I said "excuse me?" In a confused tone somewhat taken aback. She stared at me and said very slowly and deliberately "how much money do you make in a year?" I looked over at the server who was still standing there with a really awkward look on their face, thanked them for their assistance so far. Turned to my "date" and said I was sorry but I had to leave, and I got up and walked out.

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Sky Render
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2 months ago

That is one seriously unsubtle bit of gold-digging right there...

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#25

He brought two friends along which was unexpected. They were all drunk. I flagged down a waitress while one guy left to go do something. I ordered my food, the other two confessed they'd already eaten. Third guy walks back in to the restaurant, dripping blood from a horrific gash in his arm. In shock, I ran to my car & grabbed my first aid kit, cleaned & butterflied the wound, bandaged it, had the guy elevate his arm while the waitress called 911. Got cleaned up, returned to find the un-injured guys had just eaten my food. Grabbed my kit & my purse and walked out.

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Nadine Bamberger
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2 months ago

You deserve an award for behaving this calm and considerate, what an absolute nightmare.

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#26

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Went to meet a guy for the first time at his house. There was a pile of toenail clippings on his coffee table. And it wasn’t one recent clipping. It was like, many clippings. Out the door I went.

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Riddhi⭐
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2 months ago

Eww! That's gross 🤮

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#27

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) He invited me and a friend to play dodgeball with a group of folks I’ve never met. We’re having an ok time, he’s paying more attention to his friends but that’s fine because I’ve got my friend to keep me occupied. We’re hanging out in the parking lot before the first game is about to start when out of nowhere he grabs a ball and throws it at my crotch as hard as he can. This motherf**ker screams “wham, bam, right in the clam!”

I immediately turn to my friend and ask her if she’s ready to leave. I say goodbye to him and his friends. Immediately come home to a grip of texts about how “immature” I was behaving.

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

How old was this guy?? 10??

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#28

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) She finally let it slip that she had a bf lol "but it was totally fine bc things had been going bad for a long time and she was going to break up with him." My thoughts were that if she would do that to him she'd do it to me. No thanks.

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Mia Smith
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2 months ago

If they cheat WITH you, chances are they'll cheat ON you

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#29

When he asked me to change my clothes because they were not sexy enough and told me what I had to order for food… he ended the date by talking about his gun collection…

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

Control freak. These guys are total whack jobs.

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#30

Went first for a walk, he did not shut up for a like minute for one hour, complains about everything and everyone in his life, not even ask nor allow me to give a comment.

Set down, he orders food for me, without even asking; get's his drink, bartender mentions the caps are difficult to open, but he arrogantly and rudely brushes him off, tries to open them himself but ends up spilling juice all over himself. Yells like it was the staff's fault and how the country he is from is superior. No regard for people, just yelling. At that point, I wanted to get under the table because that was actually a restaurant I frequently visit (from a small town with just a handful of restaurants). Continues to talk about how superior and above all that "incompetence" he is, and when he becomes manager, he would fire people like that. Continues with complaints for another hour.

I offer to split the check considering that he talked about money issues and because I obviously did not want to see him ever again so did not want to feel like I "owe" him anything. He yells at me, I leave the money on the table, walk-off. He basically continues yelling at stuff for going after check again with the "in my country" talk about how they have it on the spot. Grabs my hand and says angrily to wait for him. Asked me literally 2 questions finally, I say I will grab a taxi but he forcefully insists to walk me home. To avoid him making another scene, I accept.

We walk in silence, I try to have him off and leave, he insists to follow me home how there are probably some "dangerous" people around, he tried to force himself on me on my front door (the one of the yard, fence or how it is called), even though I said I don't think it will work. Exact words, "you owe it to me, we went on a date, I did not waste my money for nothing". I literally pushed him off (he was skinnier) and threw another 20$ (besides the ones I already left for my meal in the restaurant) at his face, saying "here, we are done", got instantly in the yard, locked the fence, while hearing him yell, and sent him a text that I will call the police if he does not get the f**k out of there. He left.

The worst part is, his aunt was our neighbor, my mom knew his mom and were good friends, and the next day, on my way out she literally had the audacity to ask "how did it all went" (I am pretty sure she heard him screaming awful things since literally, their house is like 10m from mine, across the street, literally) and I told her just "you should have raised him better". They never spoke to me again. I am absolutely fine with that.

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Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
2 months ago

F**k politeness, if someone makes you that uncomfortable, leave. Your security trumps his discomfort. What a douchebag, glad you could escape.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) She looked over my shoulder and said, “Oh, my other date is here.”

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

You mean your date. I'm outa here.

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#32

Guy wanted to meet a place I use to work at, I showed up and he was already there. I order vodka and we're glaring into the menu while his shots arrive and he's just pounding them. Base bartender is giving the stinkeye, I know him so I'm like WTF. The date steps out for the bathroom or vape and the bartender beelines to my table to warn me this guy is a raging alcoholic that "f**ked around" with his cousin a few months back. I noped right out of there.

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Nadine Bamberger
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2 months ago

What I get from most of the stories here is that bar and wait staff are the real heroes.

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#33

I sat down across from him and within 5 mins of meeting me he tried to slide his hand up my dress under the table. Yikes.

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Rus Kus
Community Member
2 months ago

Again can't we all just discuss things beforehand? I mean I'm sure there are people out there who would be ok with this kind of behavior and if she was one of them and gave concent then fine by all means. But just assuming and acting on this thought is disgusting

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I met a girl in small bookstore, we seemed to hit it off so I asked her out. She took me to a nearby ATM to get some cash for dinner and she and her partner tries to rob me. They had been having some success with the setup over the summer, so the SFPD was watching ATMs in the area and arrested them both.

I spent the night at the police station being interviewed and writing my statement; No dinner, no first date sex, and the shop sold the book I wanted.

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Rod Egret
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm sorry about the book.

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#35

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Blind date - she took to a fetish party - asked me if i wanted to pee on a guy with her- told her no thanks I'll use the urinal this time and split.

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Luther von Wolfen
Community Member
2 months ago

I'll admit - there was a point in my life when I would've thought "Oh, she's interesting..."

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#36

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) The first time I dated someone from Tinder, the date turned out to be a recruiting event for one of those Costa Coffee pyramid scams.
Apparently the guy was missing his quota so he used Tinder as a recruiting tool. Unfortunately for him, I realized quickly what it was and left ASAP. F**k that guy.

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K. Anderson
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

It multi level marketing- pyramid schemes are illegal 😂😂 this is a famous line all period schemes use

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#37

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) When I realized she was trying to get her ex get jealous of me. She chose the place and time and it was where her ex worked at that time.

Left and apologized to the ex.

Later she texted me saying that she'd forgive me for the faux pas if went to another date-she still picked the same time and place. I ghosted her.

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Jo Johannsen
Community Member
2 months ago

Class, not faux pas.

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#38

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Walked into a guy’s house and heard his mom yell out “Guy, who the hell is that? I told you I didn’t want no more girls in here!” Turned around and walked out.

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Roger Haywood
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2 months ago

Sorry Mrs Wallowitz.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) On my very first date ever, I go to a movie with my girlfriend that I also had my first kiss with about a week earlier at a dance. She doesn't mention anything about this, but she ends up bringing her sister. Her IDENTICAL TWIN sister. I had no idea who was who all date long and didn't find a way to ask. She later tells my friend she thinks I am more into her sister than her.

Very awkward. Much confused.

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SlartyBlartFast
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2 months ago

Mind games. Please avoid people who do this

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#40

A dude was under the impression that because I used an ice cream cone emoji I had consented to bathroom-at-bar-sex . I was like “hell no” and he looked at me like I told him I was a flat earther

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Jo Johannsen
Community Member
2 months ago

Is that an actual thing?

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