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50 Women Share The Unhinged Microfeminisms They Use To Support Women And Annoy Men
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When you start paying attention to how the world treats women, it’s hard not to notice the constant stream of unfairness built into everyday life.
Naturally, that realization can make you angry, and honestly, it should. But what do you do with that frustration? How do you push back against a system that feels so deeply entrenched?
Sure, there are big things you can do: educate yourself, speak up, sign petitions, and demand change from institutions. But sometimes, resistance starts with the little things.
Enter microfeminism—small, everyday acts that quietly support women and challenge the patriarchy. And if you're looking for ideas, we’ve got you covered.
These are some of the most delightfully unhinged microfeminist habits women shared under a viral TikTok by Tori Dunlap. Scroll through and take notes, or better yet, start a few of your own.
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#1
I don’t do subtle. But in the ER when the dad doesn’t know their child’s basic information or medical history, even insurance provider, I never laugh & smile w/ them to smooth it over. I make them sit in their shame like a mother would be treated if she did the same
Victorious Foxx 7 months ago
I've had them tell me they had to call their ex to find out if their child has any allergies to medications. Smh
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Toika Gao 7 months ago (edited)
During my childhood, my dad never knew my age or what school grade I was in
PeepPeep the duck 7 months ago
Me either but he at least would know if an ambulance came that I’m A- and have no allergies.
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Rick Murray 7 months ago
Holy effing c**p - what kind of father doesn't know basic info or medical history about their own child? I can understand an absent father not knowing, but one that's in the ER with the child really ought to have something resembling a clue. 😠
Victorious Foxx 7 months ago
Happens a lot... they get sick on dad's weekend with them, dad brings them in and says they have to call the mother to find out about meds and allergies. What's worse is the dads that won't even do that, instead, dropping off a septic kid back with mom on Sunday night. Mom comes straight in from the drop off with a kid who has a fever of 104 and hasn't kept anything down for at least 24 hours. Makes me so mad
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Still Going 7 months ago
Good, let them wallow in their shame for a while. There's no excuse for not knowing your child's medical history, even if you don't spend much time with them. My friend is an ER nurse; when she sees that behavior, she's always tempted to ask, "Do we need to call an adult?"
Rich Black 7 months ago
way to comfort a parent in their moment of greatest fear! did you learn this while onboarding, or invent it all on your own?
CultOfBambi 7 months ago
If it's genuinely their 'greatest fear', as you say, surely they would know the required info? Besides, I'd imagine that comforting the parent is secondary to providing health care to the child, which they can't do effectively, without that information.
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Lore Story 7 months ago
i cant even remember my own birthday and its completely not in my control. why is this guy being shamed for this maybe he got memory problems
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#2
If a man starts getting angry or rude at work I say something like "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to make you emotional"
Rick Murray 7 months ago
As a man I approve. 👍 And, yes, it seems far too many of us dîck-swingers never really matured beyond throwing toys at each other in the playground. For those of us that have more emotional stability than a peanut, it's tiring for us too.
Tara L. 7 months ago
This actually works really well, I've told guys "oh are you going to have another emotional tantrum?" And it always shuts them down lol.
Donae Lugo 7 months ago
Don't even apologize. It's not your fault they can't control their emotions. You should say "you seem very emotional right now. Maybe we can talk after you've calmed down." LOL
Funhog 7 months ago
Apologizing for someone else's behavior is the opposite of promoting equality.
GenuineJen 7 months ago (edited)
I get what you mean, but the sentiment is still good. Maybe the comment could be something along the lines of "Wow, you're *really* emotional about ________! When you calm down we can have a rational discussion", or one of my favorites, "What an odd thing to say/ odd way to behave!". Often, an apology is there to soften the blow for what's coming behind it in a sentence (at least for some women), not meant literally.
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this is very basic but ✨ask them to explain misogynistic jokes✨and then say “I don’t get it, why is that funny?” and watch them scramble for the answer
Helena 7 months ago
I would, but no one is brave enough to tell these kinds of jokes in front of me because they know I'll rip em a new one
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Rich Black 7 months ago
we have entered the realm where we cannot tell jokes about: religion; political party affiliation; religion. body shape; gender; career choice; arrest records;
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Fair enough, but this line kills *any* attempt at *any* joke. It's not limited to bad topics - and does tempt the reply "I'm not here to give catch-up lessons to the incompetent"
liam newton-harding 7 months ago
Wow, what an incredible superpower you have…misreading the room in EVERY post you comment on. Do you also explain mansplaining to your female “friends”?
Load More Replies...Microfeminism can be fun, petty, serious, or even a little chaotic. But how impactful are these small acts in the grand scheme of things?
To find out, Bored Panda reached out to Alex Schudy, known as the Career Queen on TikTok, for her perspective. And in her view, they’re absolutely worth it.
“Microfeminism is a critical part of the larger feminist movement because these actions feel truly realistic for the individual person to tackle—women can use them in their everyday life, daily behaviors, and choices. Over time, I think that these micro-actions compound and create the foundation for broader feminist change,” she told us.
#4
I love to tell men who are having men tantrums at work that its ok to have big feelings and their feelings are valid but this isn't the place to process their emotions
urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
meaning u should take them out elsewhere and think logically
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I’m a travel agent and I always book the flights to pair the child with the husband
Sue User 7 months ago
I would love to find one. I want to go on vacation and need help booking. Dont have time to research myself. Gladly pay for someone to do it.
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Catharina Geerts 7 months ago
That may not always be for the best. At least you should follow the parents wishes if they prefer the child being with the mother (if possible of course)
Michael Largey 7 months ago
Smaller planes sometimes have only two seats on either side.
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Laura A Ivett 2 weeks ago
Fathers are perfectly capable of handling their kids, this is a gross comment.
Pamela Blue 1 month ago
Her comment to the coworker was exactly what mothers say to their toddlers when they're having a tantrum. LOL! Most women are much better at relationships in the workplace than men are. I say most, because there are always 12 year old adults in the workplace of both sexes.
Load More Replies... Anonymous User 7 months ago
They wrote child, not infant. I don't know if you know this, but they aren't the same. Besides, why doesn't dad know how to look after his own kid? And unless it's a 1 hour flight, they aren't fed the whole time. You are so telling on yourself.
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I'm a yearbook editor and for all the Womens sports I simply have the sports name, but for the means I put “boys” in front of each of them (ie soccer and boys soccer)
Trashy Panda 7 months ago
My high school yearbook named both by gender. And that was in the '80s.
Camilla Koutsos 7 months ago
School sports here start off unisex, so nobody refers to sports by which s*x plays them.
Of course, staying consistently devoted to the feminist cause isn’t always easy. Actively pushing back against the patriarchy, educating yourself and others, and making intentional changes can quickly become overwhelming.
That’s why Schudy encourages finding balance and choosing your battles wisely—and why she believes microfeminism is so useful.
“I think grounding yourself in the fact that even small moments matter is key in the face of criticism. Not every moment requires a full confrontation—sometimes the most powerful microfeminist act is simply supporting someone else, modeling confidence, or refusing to shrink yourself,” she said.
“Plus, one of the most powerful ways to sustain your energy with this movement is surrounding yourself with a community that shares the same values; this helps ensure that you don’t feel alone,” she added.
#7
Whenever a dad says he’s “babysitting the kids” or “watching the kids” I say, “oh so you mean you’re just parenting?”
Deborah B 7 months ago
I don't respect men who say they're babysitting. A man who is actively a parent says: "I have the kids."
LillieMean 7 months ago
I would probably say that's nice, are these toddlers your brother's or sister's children? Or do adults get paid for babysitting, I thought it was a way for teenagers to earn pocket money and responsibility?
Barbara Deskins 7 months ago
one day after I worked an 11 hour shift, I got home to my unemployed husband having done nothing! I said what did you do all day? I watched the baby, he said. Do she do tricks???
Trish Wise 7 months ago
I was saying this to men 40 years ago. Except when they said they're babysitting, I said, "Oh, these aren't your kids?" Before saying the rest. They never failed to give me a dirty look for calling them out.
Marlene Fortes 6 months ago
In Holland a day off for a mom is just a day of and off course they spend it with their kid(s). But the day off for a dad... they keep calling it "daddy day". Like it is a special day or something
#8
Whenever the dad comes in with the kid to the hospital and doesn't have any basic information, I have him call up his wife and write down all the information in front of me and ask him to memorize it. Like what do you mean you don't know what their ALLERGIES are?
Tabitha 7 months ago (edited)
They might be able to take a guess that and guess right, so instead ask the kid’s birth date and location. Most men can’t remember their anniversary date or their wife’s birthday, so quiz him on his child’s birth date, and what hospital they were born in.
Load More Replies... Stephanie Did It 7 months ago
I'm not known for being subtle. My response to that kind of indifference would be "Why don't you know this about your own child?"
Christine Ladyman 7 months ago
As bad as the men who don't know their own medication.. and say, 'you'd better ask my wife' ! Why do women baby these creatures!
Meishawn Johnston 7 months ago
My dad knew all that stuff. He had to come home from Vietnam and fight another war for custody of me and my brother Because our birth, mom, thought vodka/ d***s was a better medication for her mental disorders than actual medication. no ma’am not even in the 70s…
Christine Ladyman 2 months ago
They're often no better about their own health.. so many men say, 'ask the wife! ', when asked what meds they're taking!! Sadly, too many women take on this mummy role.
Anita Rapp 5 months ago
My ex couldn't tell what son's date of birth was, what school he went to, who his pediatrician was, what his favorite foods were, or who his friends were. Custody was easily decided.
#9
I’m a middle school teacher and when I have heavy lifting or need to open a jar (I teach art), I always get a girl to help me! And I make a big deal of how strong she is.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
This is so wholesome. Raising the next generation of strong women! 💪🏽
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
I'd be more impressed if you alternated between boys and girls - reversing a bias is still a bias
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Jake Bertz 5 months ago
Maybe you should hit the gym if you're so weak you need to ask a child to open a jar for you.
Goover 7 months ago
So an adult woman asks a little girl to help her with heavy lifting? I don't do this with little boys or girls! That's dangerous
urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
Middle school is not "little" anymore or so you thought
Load More Replies...Schudy also shared how she practices microfeminism in her own life.
“I’ve found that building and portraying my own confidence has been a highly powerful form of microfeminism. On top of that, another that I practice regularly is giving credit to women publicly and intentionally—especially in work settings where women’s contributions are often overlooked,” she revealed.
“I also have intentionally stopped viewing other women as competition in professional settings; instead, my microfeminist act is to foster a community of women to learn and absorb from.”
#10
if a man tells me his baby mama is crazy i ask him what size shoes his kids wear
Matthew Currie 7 months ago
I am probably old fashioned but guess that anyone who calls her a "baby momma" is not a live-in partner or husband, so allowing might not be the issue.
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Shark Lady 7 months ago
I once asked a man what he did to make his ex crazy. Funnily enough there was no second date.
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
If a male refers to 'his baby momma' , I suddenly recollect a previous appointment
#11
teaching my daughter to speak up when people interrupt her with "excuse me, I'm speaking" and with "I will accept your apology but not your behavior"
arthbach 7 months ago
I was in a meeting, and colleague presented his perspective. I started to explain a different one, and he started talking over the top of me. My response was to say, "You have already explained your thinking. Allow me the cutesy of explaining mine. When I have finished I'll be more than happy to accept questions."
SpiderWoman13 7 months ago (edited)
ABSOFUCKINLUTELY... My Feminine Microaggression is I say Goddess or Goddess/God or Creatrix - instead of God. You should see how it f***s with the mind of "devout Christians" and yet...It's the most basic of equality thinking. Why should any human being believe that the Divine Creatrix is (illogically) ONLY male???
Tamra 7 months ago
Because the men who wrote "holy" texts created god in their image - male.
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Amy Bobamy 7 months ago
Teach children they don’t even have to accept apologies. It absolves the wrong-doer of all the wrong-doing and off they go. And we still sit with hurt. Forget that noise.
Holly Herr 7 months ago
Kids will often say “It’s okay” in response to an apology. As a teacher I taught my students to say “I accept your apology” so they don’t give the apologizer the idea that it’s okay to keep doing it.
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M G----no 2 weeks ago
It's so hard after years of being treated like that to change. I have a hard time speaking up in groups of people, including friend conversations. I've actually had to resort to interrupting people because of not being able to get a word in edgewise. I'm tired of not being allowed to speak. My ex husband always interrupted me while speaking and then wanted to know why I didn't speak up.
#12
asking male authors in Q&As how their writing has changed since becoming a father.
Jake Bertz 5 months ago
Some of them probably actually like the question, cus society doesn't really give a d**n about fathers feelings.
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Cyril Connelly had a quote about '"the pram in the hall being an enemy to art", but it might be an alternative. And there's a high art-form in raising an intelligent, explorative, questioning child; it just doesn't involve writing, much.
#13
Midwife here. When a woman comes in clearly in labor and in pain, I always ask the man with her (their partners) for her information — like who her doctor is, when she’s due, whether she has any allergies, her date of birth, etc. A lot of them can’t answer, so I ask, ‘Oh sorry, I didn’t ask — who are you to her? » Same thing when they’re on their phones during labor — I don’t give them a choice. They have to come help their wife or hold their child.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
Wow. That there are some guys out there that would need to be told to put their phones down to help with the birth of their child?! Ugh.
Teutonic Disaster 7 months ago (edited)
Don't you know that there's a sportsball game on, honey? You really should have picked a better time. Also, some liberal snowflake is being woke in the comments of this random youtube video, so I have to respond to that fool first. Honestly, this is even more inconsiderate then when you refused to hold in your period before you got pregnant... What, her allergies? Date of birth? Well, today by the looks of it!! Stop asking me so many stupid questions. I don't even know her middle name. Now be a good girl and give her some painkillers. I can't here the broadcast with all this screaming. /SARCASM In all seriousness tho, apart from the fact that I have no intentions to procreate, I couldn't imagine not having all the relevant info memorized (plus a written down backup in case of brainfart) even if the kid resulted from a one-night-stand.
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arthbach 7 months ago
If a midwife tried that on my husband I would have growled at them and said, "Do me the kindness of speaking to the patient! Your behaviour is no acceptable."
Teutonic Disaster 7 months ago
Let's give OP the benefit of the doubt and assume we're talking emergency situations here where the mom-to-be can't answer that herself and the info isn't on file. Also FWIW, partners in a serious relationship really should have info like that memorized, both of them.
Load More Replies... TwiggyTheTree 6 months ago
Why would you want to miss a single second of the birth of your child? I even read about some guy bringing a small gaming setup to the hospital while his wife was in labour..
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
I'm usually against asking one adult to answer for another adult, but I think I can see your point in this case
Kit Black 7 months ago
So has the medical standard changed? That you want to talk directly to the woman giving birth because it makes it easier to determine her pain levels and notice when a contraction hits during the assessment and admission phase?
Earonn - 7 months ago
OPs questions are not about pain levels, in case you haven't noticed.
Load More Replies... Goover 7 months ago (edited)
Also just being honest here, I knew the answer to a lot of these things but.. I was in complete shock during my wife's births and I doubt I could answer those questions without serious prompting. I bet you more men know these answers then it would seem but just aren't able to articulate while their wife is screaming in pain or in danger.
ZestyBison 7 months ago
I'd be insanely upset if people bypassed me, the patient, to speak to somebody else unless I was unable to do so.
PandaGoPanda 7 months ago
I’d feel so patronised and invisible if someone asked my husband for my personal information right in front of me. They do this a lot in hospitals and public services where we live. I’m perfectly capable of speaking for myself.
#14
I work at a school and when i have to call parents to pick up their sick kid i call the dad first
Kitty 🥀 7 months ago
Why not call the parent who is officially listed as first point of contact, instead, whether it’s mom or dad? 🙄
Dan Holden 7 months ago
Because it's more important to teach some sort of "lesson" to a man than it is to put the child first/s. I understand treating all men as a threat when you're walking alone somewhere, but treating all men as deadbeat dads just because you have a chip on your shoulder? Seems pretty despicable to me.
Load More Replies... Kit Black 7 months ago
This one primarily punishes the kid. Parents put the contact in case of in order of who needs to be called first. You're not calling all the numbers on the list all at once - you're calling one, leaving a message and waiting for a response before calling another - so the sick kid sits there longer while you pretend you're being a feminist...
Jill Rhodry 7 months ago
a lot of schools automatically call the mum first regardless of the order listed
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Tracy Storey 7 months ago
I wish. It is even in the instructions I have given to the school. #1 call grandma, she literally lives across the street from the school and is retired. She'll be able to pick them up quickly. #2 call dad. His job is also closer to the school and is more able to leave work than I am. #3 if you cannot reach #1 or #2 call mom as last resort. I am an operating room nurse, if you call me at work, someone will have to pull me out of surgery, I will either call #1 or #2 to pick them up, or will have to find someone to relieve me in the OR. No matter how many times I stressed this, even if my child was sitting next to the nurse telling her not to call mom, she always called me first because she "needed to speak to a parent"! Okay, but that explains grandma, but their father is a parent!!
Trashy Panda 7 months ago
I'm the dad and I wish my kid's school would do this. Sucks for dads like me that actually parent.
Justbecause 7 months ago
I had the school call me (mum) and only me when one of my kids was sick. When i finished work I checked my phone to find the missed call and went straight to the school. My kid was so sick she couldn't walk, could barely stay awake and couldn't put a sentence together, i took her straight to Emergency. I gave the school an absolute grilling about what there procedure was for when kids were sick (call contact A, then call contact B, i was contact B) why they hadn't kept and eye on my child (she was left in the reading corner where no one could directly observe her) ect, the staff were looking very bad by the time I had finished. There excuses they thought dad would be to busy (hes a farmer so dropping work is fine) despite him being first contact. They were to busy to check in on her. They didn't think she was that sick and that I over reacted by taking her to Emergency. I work in in health care and the Drs did not think I over reacted, she needed to be there.
bobbycurtis 1 month ago
I'm the dad and we let school know to call me first - my job is way more flexible than my wife's! I also take kids to the doctor or dentist and run them to or from evening choir or band practice... My wife and I are partners in this life - that means we share the responsibility for everything in the most practical way, regardless of stupid gender traditions!
#15
I introduce my friends and their husbands (in that order) and add a superficial adjective before the husband... this is Jane and her beautiful husband Joe.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
Best part is the little smile the guys get when introduced like this 😊
Michael Largey 7 months ago
As a husband, this wouldn't bother me a bit. It's the hysterical laughter which would follow that would hurt.
PandaGoPanda 7 months ago
Bit unfair on Joe if he’s not one of the type of men who does that. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
x6rkq946s6 7 months ago
If he’s not one of the type that would do that, then he’d probably either be flattered or amused. And if she’s doing this with her friends and their male significant other, she probably knows the significant other well enough to know that he won’t mind.
Load More Replies... Jake Bertz 5 months ago
And then there'll be the fallout of Jane blowing up at Joe because another woman dared to pay him a compliment.
#16
I'm tall (6'1") and wear high heels to work, so I'm about 6'4"-6'5". Then I stand when talking to the men so they have to look up.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago (edited)
This is a true power play at it's finest!! At my last job, the women always wore flats just because otherwise they'd be taller than the 5' 6" (male) CEO. I purposely always wore 5" heels on the days I knew he was there. I only lasted 3 months at that masogynistic héllhole, but when I left there were a lot more women wearing heels!
Phoebe Bean 7 months ago
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Theoretical Empiricist 7 months ago
I worked at a hospital with a medical director like that. She's also a trauma surgeon.
Gracie Mae 7 months ago
At barely over 5 ft tall, I could only wear 4-5" heels--and STILL too short to have that work for me! I always looked up to tall women who owned their height AND wore heels as well. Shorties like me made up for it with big personalities & 'take no $hit' attitudes because I mostly worked in male-oriented/dominated fields.
Catherine Hutt 7 months ago
Went to a dance once in the ‘70s with my 6’3” boyfriend and wore my favourite platform shoes that I couldn’t wear with any other date - they had 3” platforms and 6” heels. I was 6’1” in them. Overheard a much shorter couple nearby say, “Let’s dance over here, near the CN Tower!”
Niamh_ie 7 months ago
I am just trying to figure out the word that BP has an issue with. High heels (shortened to heels a lot of the time) are a type of shoe with an upward-angled sole. The heel in such shoes is raised above the ball of the foot. It's not about the actual height of the heels.
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I say “sorry i don’t have any change” to guys calling me or whistling at me on the street
SpiderWoman13 7 months ago (edited)
I say "Hey, how are ya. Good? Good." Head high; walking as assertively as f**k, looking them dead in the eye, single nod, no smile -- and going about my business. It always throws them off. Invariably, I get respect. It makes it so easy for me to walk down that street; because I then OWN it. There was a time in Miami Beach when every other street was construction; so unless you put an end to cat calling, you can get pretty uncomfortable. Act shy, or scared, or flirty -- and it gets worse. Look those f*****s directly in the eye, nod like a gangsta, walk like a boss and all of a sudden to them you're a real human being acknowledging their humanity.
Katiekat 7 months ago
Because it is ALWAYS about power, control, dominance, and that sh*t is just so tiring and tiresome. But yeah, do what you have to do to own it, put them in their place, assert your right to be there... in public just minding your own. Sheesh.
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#18
If I sit next to a man on an airplane I copy his spacial awareness exactly
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
Perfect time for some man spreading of my own. Amazing how much space a 5' woman can take up 😂
Weasel Wise 7 months ago (edited)
Yeah, no. If I copy the space-hog guy, that means either our legs will be touching or our arms, and I don't want to touch any part of some strange dude. I prefer the straight forward, "Can you please keep your body in your space?" And then I giggle at their indignance as they rearrange their body. I know, how dare a woman tell a man he can't rub up on me the entire flight. Lol
Earonn - 7 months ago
That comes next, when they don't get the message. But I can see where you're coming from.
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Claudia Becker 7 months ago
If he says the "boys" need the room, I say so do the "lady bits". Then I femspread and ask if I'm making him uncomfortable.
Susan Reid Smith 7 months ago
It isn't just the legs! There was one time I was sitting next to a fidgety man and I thought I was going to get clobbered by his elbows as he put his hands behind his neck.
person (i think) 7 months ago
Ha ha, I do that on the train. I also will make eye contact with a manspreader and point to the seat next to him if his legs are taking up extra seats. Works like a charm Why should a tired lady have to rearrange herself and her things instead of whatever dude thinks he is entitled to 2-3 seats?
Lena Flising 5 months ago
When I walk towards a man, I refuse to take a side-step to let him pass me. He has just as much responsibility to let ME pass.
#19
Not me, but my husband’s a real estate agent and always puts the wife first on the contract.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
And as a former realtor, always assume the wife is the decision maker. Because we are.
Rick Murray 7 months ago
Even better when it's a couple looking at buying a car and the sales person talks to the guy and ignores the woman, gets a reality check when it's for her and he's just there to keep the salesman honest.
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Diana Schlafer 7 months ago
I worked for the bank that handled our mortgage. I personally walked down the hall and did the paperwork with the banker on my lunch break. After we signed the final papers the mortgage info came in the mail with JUST my husband's name. The next morning the mortgage banker and I had a very uncomfortable meeting (for him), and then we got the corrected paperwork with both names on it.
Harry Gondalf 7 months ago
Women always have the last say in all the 'big ticket' items in the household: furniture, appliances, automobiles... (Except TVs and computers, i would think.)
dollh h 7 months ago
I'm the one buying the TVs and computers. Not the guy. He's quite happy to have me do it.
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Nika Strokappe 7 months ago
Putting my boyfriend first has caused them so much trouble with the paperwork, some had to to be redone 3 times
Lena Flising 5 months ago
My mom wanted to buy a larger house in early 80’s. My dad didn’t mind; they could afford it. So, my mom went to a couple of houses on the market. One real estate agent looked expectantly behind her and said ”So, when is HE coming.”. She turned around and just walked out. We did buy a house, but not from that agent.
#20
I pretend I’ve never heard of the men’s version of sports. “Oh the nba?? Is that like the wnba but for boys?? So nice to give them a go”
Goover 7 months ago
This is pretty funny but, I would just be laughing at them rather than with them. I would immediately see what the person is doing and that they were attempting to push a battle of the sexes into a normal conversation. I would then proceed to not speak to them further and go speak to the other people in my group who arent acting that way, which would be other men. This is a wonderful way to continue the patriarchy. Continue the boys club. Why are people like this? Why can't we all just be nice and respectful to each other
Trashy Panda 7 months ago (edited)
Acting like you've never heard of the NBA is not the flex you think it is
LillieMean 7 months ago
Is that attitude also the reason why you didn't get date number two? I guess third base is something you only see in baseball.
Load More Replies... Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Because you never listen to anyone who doesn't agree with you totally. Way to go, Einstein.
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Is it microfeminism to keep my last name after marrying my husband? I kept my last name… and don’t correct people right away when they write my last name after his first name… 😎 then when I do, I say: „no sorry, he has a different last name. Didn’t take mine when we married“
Veronica Jean 7 months ago
I've asked a lot of my male friends how they would feel if their wife refused to take their last name and wanted to keep hers and the answers have revealed more hidden misogyny in my own friends than any other behavior. I can't tell you how many guys have had a light bulb moment realizing that they're expectations of a wife are actually really sexist. Almost all of them at one point answered that they would seriously reconsider wanting to be married to someone who wasn't willing to take their last name. What crock.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago (edited)
I took my husband's when we married, but only because it was easier to sign 😁. But I know plenty of women who should've kept theirs...
Lady Eowyn 7 months ago
My sister in law said she took my brother's last name because it was shorter and fit better on credit card applications.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 7 months ago
A female friend of mine married a man with the same last name. When people who don't know this ask her if she uses her husband's name, she replies "It depends on how well he's doing with me that day."
Nicola Mawson 7 months ago
I kept my surname. People stick a Mrs in front of it. I tell them they have inadvertently married me to my dad
Be_ Heard 6 months ago
Now that you mention this, not only should we keep our name, we need to get rid of the whole mrs miss thing... it is completely unnecessary. If it had a purpose then men would not just be mister.
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Spidercat 7 months ago
No. It is not micro feminism. It is simply a choice you made to retain your name...who cares what your last name is as long as you're happy?
Rachel Pelz 7 months ago
The comment "he didn't take mine" is microfemininsm imo.
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Barbara Schubert 7 months ago
Most of my life my initials have been B.S. (birth name). Had I taken my husband's last name when we married, my initials would have been B.O. I said "no" to that and I've never gotten a bad reaction to the story.
#22
I work in pediatrics. when asking questions about the kiddo, I make stronggg eye contact with the dad. 9/10 times he looks at the mom for an answer. I dont break eye contact with him. Just raise my eyebrows in confusion why he doesn't know the last time and how much the baby ate. 🤨
April Pickett 7 months ago
I love the fact that there are so many more women in all professions.
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
... except at the top. I've lost count of the number of primary schools round here with an all-female staff - apart from the Headmaster ...
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TheGayUmbrella 7 months ago (edited)
This is great, but be careful that it doesn't come off as having no respect for the mom.
Craig Reynolds 1 month ago
If he is the breadwinner and she is a SAHM, why TF would he know that? You're an AH for your behaviour in that situation. I would do all in my power to end your employment if you pulled that on me.
Rachel Pelz 7 months ago
Amazing that this pediatrician has both parents present. In most cases, especially when it's not a check-up but the kid is sick, all parents I know will agree on one parent taking the kid to the doctor.
Duh 7 months ago
Probably before you go to the doctor. If not then they know for nect time.
Load More Replies... Tamra 7 months ago
He should be thinking: "Why do I not know the most basic information about my own child? This is really embarrassing."
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I never hide my period pads, carry them in the open with me when going to the work toilet to change them. Is that feminism? :) i think it should be completely normal
Ms.GB 7 months ago
If that's micro feminism I do that do but it never occurred to me that it would be anything other than normal.
Jac Carr 7 months ago
Absolutely not; there's many places who would have a "quiet word" with you about keeping them in your bag
Load More Replies... Upstaged75 7 months ago
I don't use them anymore, but I remember being in school and hiding a tampon up my sleeve like I was stealing it or something.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 7 months ago
I don’t make it obvious, just because it’s nobody’s business when I’m on my period
Moonie Pinkslip 7 months ago
Yeah, sorry, but why is this particular item "microfeminism." It's nobody's fùçķíng business what I do in the bathroom, or why I'm going, or what my cycle is. Some women are too much--and yeah I mean that...I'm a woman, and I'm tired of women shoving their "woman" rights down everyone's throat. What is there to be so proud of that you're on your monthly cycle, that everyone should know. Jesus, spare us your nonsense.
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Lena Flising 5 months ago
My husband has bought pads and tampons fot me, when I needed them and could not get to the shop myself. Is that feminism, or just partnership?
Pamela Blue 1 month ago
That's actually a bit stupid. Period pads and tampons are personal hygiene items, and you should at least give a modicum of care to conceal them. Flapping them around in a public place just makes you look ... well ... what can I say? LOL!
Rocky Labonte 2 months ago
"Do what your mother asks" then I was sent to the corner store to get pads for mom age like 7. Fast forward age 42. Im in Muslim countries ( egypt for one ) asking for pad and tampons for my wife and daughter. Some women had a hard time selling it to me.
Senjo Krane 6 months ago
I wouldn't want everyone to know I'm having my period. Call me old fashioned but it's really not necessary to brag about something like that. Some things should remain private.
Catherine Hutt 7 months ago
Here in Canada, there are tampons in the men’s washrooms. No clue what the men are supposed to do with them, and I’m not sure I want to know!
#24
My husband and I both work at the same paper mill and one of our coworkers always refers to us as “Jessica and her husband” instead of “Greg and his wife” and it makes me so happy every time I hear it.
#25
I ask men "Do you work?" instead of what do you do for work.
Upstaged75 7 months ago
When my nephew was born my brother quit his job to stay home with the baby. His wife makes more money, so it just made sense. He's always super proud to tell people she makes more money than he does. :)
Moonie Pinkslip 7 months ago
This is a good equaliser, in these times of men staying home and women earning more. This makes a point--not like "what did daddy cook for dinner last night." That one, above, just so off, for some reason....
Marla Singer 7 months ago
I recently met a new neighbor and his idea of small talk (knowing nothing about me except seeing that i have a male partner) was to ask me "Do you work?" I have never been asked that in my life. I have to admit to being very offended.
Katiekat 7 months ago
Oh yes, and I believe they know what they're asking, while they're living blissfully unaware back in the 1950s or even the 1850s. I ask them the same, and quite often point out how WEIRD it is to be asked *IF* I work in the 21st century. Quite a few don't get it, but I still think on some level they do. It's a test to see how conservative and conventional you are. So happy I fail every time.
#26
Not really microfeminism but I only go to female doctors and practitioners now🥰 men never believed my pain and symptoms so I don’t believe that they are capable of passing their exams
Upstaged75 7 months ago
I had the opposite experience when it came to endometriosis. 3 different female doctors dismissed and belittled my pain. It was a male GYN who finally helped me. Wish I had seen him sooner.
Day Andie 7 months ago
Yeah, some women doctors seem to try even harder to be super-jerks. Medicine seems to eradicate empathy.
Load More Replies... Joe Reaves 7 months ago
Unfortunately, statistically, women medical professionals are just as likely to ignore women's reporting of pain as men are. It's a failing of teaching and practice in the medical field in its entirety not a function of the gender of the practitioner.
Evelien Stijger Martens 7 months ago
I know many female doctors, especially gynocoligists that are cold as ice and din't listen at all.
Reset Game 7 months ago
Unfortunately I have found that it doesn't always matter what gender the doctor is. ☹️
Nadine Debard 7 months ago (edited)
I've learnt a way to make doctors listen to what I have to say and not let them dismiss me until they have answered me. It's difficult to explain, you need some natural authority but let them know they're the boss, explain very quickly what bothers you most (skip the details at first) and what you fear, be factual, and then let them talk. Answer questions. Redirect things if needed (sorry, I didn't quite understand...). And insist if needed. That saved my life a couple of times. One of the last Dr I saw told me that she loved my way of explaining, she said something along with " you made me feel involved, you let me no choice, you explained well, you anticipated my questions, it was clear, that was like discussing with a peer". Same with men today.
M G----no 2 weeks ago
I have chronic illnesses and I've been going to the same doc for years. Thankfully he listens (despite admitting there's not much that can be done). Every time I've had to go to a woman when he's not available, they're usually sandoffish. They act like they know more than me and that my concerns aren't valid. Tho I admit they're often Nurse practitioners or physician's assistants because of having to be fit in. I don't know if that has anything to do with it. Nurses are the best tho.
Gracie Mae 7 months ago
Same--the last male gyn I went to (on a lunch break, at that) told me I had fibroids (?--it's been a lot of yrs ago) & then proceeded to start cutting them out right then & there. No warning, no general anesthetic...nothing! Tried to go back to work after my appt & was in too much pain. a$$hat
#27
Ask my kindergarten students what dad cooked for dinner last night and get v shocked if they say their mom cooked.
Michael Largey 7 months ago
Dad's nights cooking were our favorites. Mom prepared dishes taught to her by her mother - who was from the UK.
Ashley Schriber 7 months ago
To those who don't get it...yes, in many households, men cook. But it's still fairly common to assume mom cooks or mom is supposed to be the one to cook, so common that people hear this question gender-flipped all the time (So what did Mom cook for dinner last night?) and don't notice anything miss with it. When you start off assuming Dad cooked, it then seems odd and out of place, and you realize that assumptions are often present in questions like these.
Rick Murray 7 months ago
If I had a family, mom would cook. I have zero talent in the kitchen and couple that with some really peculiar food preferences (I'm quite big on pasta that has been tossed in butter and lightly peppered *and* *NO* *sauce* (as in the texture of tomato peel literally gives me the heebeegeebees)) everybody would be better off having anybody else do the cooking.
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Ah, I remember the heebeegeebees - I've got all their records ...
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 5 months ago
My parents cooked about half the times, back in the 70’s. Nowadays, my dad does most of the cooking in their home.
Rob Williams 7 months ago
I retired a few years before my wife and it seemed only fair that I did the cooking. Now we're both retired but I love my cooking time and still do it all. I enjoy a glass of wine and an audiobook while I potter about in the kitchen.
#28
I'm 6 feet tall and sometimes I tell men I'm only 5'10"
Mel in Georgia 7 months ago
My high school friend said the same thing! I'm only 5'1" so we looked pretty funny walking down the hall together.
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Michael Largey 7 months ago (edited)
My girlfriend in college thought being tall was unfeminine. She called herself 5'8" but would admit to 5'10" if pressed. She was actually a hair under 6 foot. She made no secret that she was initially attracted to to me because she'd look shorter next to my 6'4". Evidently she got over this because she married a guy she towers over.
Deborah B 7 months ago
Isn't that just buying into the misogynisic beauty standard requiring women to be shorter than men? Be 6 foot, and wear 4 inch heels if you want to, and flaunt your height, and tell men "Don't be insecure, I love short men."
The Other Guest 7 months ago
It's not about women being shorter than men. It's a tactic to make men insecure about their own height. After all, how can he really be 5' 11" if the 5' 10" woman is taller than he is?
Load More Replies... Anonymous User 7 months ago
love it. I'm 6'2" and so many men would tell me I'm not because they are and I was looking down on them. I'm actually 6' 1.5" but I round up. They do too but by a lot more.
Mojitojo 7 months ago
. . .and men will say four inches is eight inches 😳
Load More Replies... x6rkq946s6 7 months ago
Are you referring to the stock photo above? It’s pretty safe to assume that it probably isn’t an actual photo of the OP
Load More Replies... #29
I have a woman tattooed on my arm and everytime someone asks me who it is I say God
Rick Murray 7 months ago
Yahweh (who evolved into the Christian "God") is quite young in the context of mythology. I think the first known reference is about 1700BC which is after some of the Greek pantheon, not to mention the mesopotamian gods like Tiamat. So the tattooed woman god? How about good ol' Mother Nature? (or Mother Earth if you prefer)
Catherine Hutt 7 months ago
Monthly periods for years and years, labour pain, menopause…God is definitely a man!
Kelly Hartle 7 months ago
The original world for God in the Old Testament was neuter. It was only made male when it was translated, so this would be just as valid as assuming God is male.
Sara 7 months ago
I agree with what you're saying, but that's a very disrespectful way to say it. You can be an atheist without being rude and condescending.
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#30
Play women’s sports on the tv for my dogs when I’m not home. Boost ratings, increase pay!
#31
i always serve food to my grandmother before my granfather (It IS a really really tiny microfeminism)
Papa 7 months ago
This grandfather probably wouldn't notice, or care if I did.
Load More Replies... Moonie Pinkslip 7 months ago
In Indian high-class tradition, it is always the women and children served first, then the elderly, then the rest. Don't see it much publicly, because like I said, it's high class, and the general populace isn't.
Mreoww 7 months ago
Yeah I haven’t really seen that tradition anywhere. I typically see the grandfathers getting served first.
Load More Replies... Jill Rhodry 7 months ago
your ignorance on some of these matters is astounding
Load More Replies... Courtney M 7 months ago
My 85 year old grandmother cooks, and then my 88 year old grandfather makes her sit while he makes her plate. Then after dinner he clears the table and rinses everything before she washes them. ❤️
Lazy Panda 2 7 months ago
This must be a cultural difference. I'm from the uk. I was taught the order was guests, eldest, women and then men. When I stop and think about it, only the guests bit makes sense but my Grandparents were generally the guests so would have defaulted to first place anyway!
Courtney M 7 months ago
My grandmother cooks, and then my 88 year old grandfather makes her sit down and makes her plate for her, clears the table after, and rinses all the dishes before she washes them. ❤️
87z7rgjd7s 7 months ago
Why on earth would you serve your grandfather first? As a server I always serve a female first. If it’s 2 women I start with the one who ordered first. Works well for me and it makes a woman feel better!
#32
Assume the drink with the fruit and the umbrella is the man’s order
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
If it's my husband, it usually is. He's finally comfortable enough in his masculinity. And I take credit for that, lol🍹
Spidercat 7 months ago
A decent waiter knows who ordered which drinks. This just makes you seem incompetent if you guess wrong.
Clown fish 7 months ago
Really if only one person goes to the bar or it's ordered on an app they no do they?
Load More Replies... Andrea Steinacher 7 months ago
Well, if you give the Martini extra dry to me and the fruity, sweet fancy drink to my hubby, you would be right
TwiggyTheTree 6 months ago
I've had many strange looks while ordering a pink panter for myself! It is freaking tasty 😋
#33
I email like a man. Direct, no excited punctuation. No niceties. Just straightforward.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 7 months ago
When I do this, I’m just considered rude, blunt, lacking in social skills. I am wired to cut through bǔllshǐt and get right to the point. I hate being expected to beat around the bush.
Spidercat 7 months ago
And we (men) thank you for doing this. It's all that is needed in a work environment. Anything else is just time that could be spent on something more important. Keep up the good work. 👌🏻
Sparkle 7 months ago (edited)
This is genuine question not meant to be mean. I feel like asking questions is never a bad thing anyway to the short and sweet emails often times women will be considered b****y. So is that a minority think women are b****y if it's short and sweet or the majority. Personally I think that short and sweet is much more productive than a drawn out email with all the fluff in the middle.
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Laura Moulton Cain 7 months ago
I was told by a supervisor that my emails are rude because I just ask for what I need I sound bossy. what the heck?
Mojitojo 7 months ago
I've had that. Just because I don't say 'Hi' or some other bull sh it . .
Load More Replies... Laura Moulton Cain 7 months ago
i was told by a direct supervisor that my emails are rude because i just ask for what i need. what the heck?
Alice Platzer 1 month ago
We HAVE to email like that where I work,or else nobody would get anything done.
#34
When I have to announce a promotion at work, I make sure I highlight how OVERQUALIFIED the women are compared to the men in their SAME exact position.
Sue User 7 months ago
Last job i ended up leading a team of male developers. I gave myself a good title on my resume.
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#35
Point out every mistake our construction team makes and say it’s okay because they “don’t have a woman’s eye for detail”
April Pickett 7 months ago
That'll p*** them off and you'll have a hostile environment. I don't know what you should do to point out the errors, but that isn't it.
Moonie Pinkslip 7 months ago
Yeah, tell me the name of your construction company so I never hire them. I definitely would NOT create a hostile environment amongst men with bullsħìț micro-feminisms. This is not one: it's just rude and bad behavior
Load More Replies... Goover 7 months ago
This is inviting potentially serious hazing on the woman. I could literally see this resulting in violence against her. This is stupid AF, It's not a game. Before I went back to school and was a framer, I definitely saw retribution against problematic 3rd parties. Let's not get people hurt here to feel good about ourselves.
zububonsai 7 months ago (edited)
Woman and blue collar worker here. Same 👍🏻, plus it would never occur to me to belittle construction workers in a condescending way and call that rude behaviour "micro feminism" and act surprised if they don't immediately start waving an "I ❤️feminism" flag. 🙄My a*s, there are constructive and appropriate ways to talk about work mistakes and this isn't it. ( I'm sure that's where the "I pissed into the concrete making machine and let the owners wonder what reeks" Reddit threads come from).
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Constantly asking them if they have kids and if not when they will be having kids
Craig Reynolds 1 month ago
I hate kids, never wanted them, and don't have any. I would have your a**e fired for that nonsense.
#37
told my male VP I liked his pixie cut, after he got a hair cut ☠️
Clown fish 7 months ago
You'll have to click the "hottiecharz" under the picture.
Load More Replies... urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
I told this teacher that just shaved off all his hair that he would look better with a mullet and he was like "you could've told me last week ya know"
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#38
When my boss asks me to hire a third party service (consultants, lawyers, appraisers, etc.) I only contact women ✨
Jean White 1 month ago
I don't know about that.....I've worked in environments that are mainly women and let me tell you....I have never had to put up with the shenanigans from men that the women initiate. .....I feel like a referee most days...Big argument, crying and going home....never had to deal with that with the males I've worked with.
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 5 months ago
For many years, it was just a bunch of men and me in our department at work. I often said, when they looked for someone new, that it would be nice with another woman. The male managers always said that they had a limited number of applicants, but they’d see what they could do. Then we got a woman manager, and suddenly we don’t just have much more applicants, but the department is about half men, half women. One man and me left from before she came, so she employs both men and women.
#39
Walking down the street I don’t get out of the way for a man.
Michael Largey 7 months ago (edited)
That's following the old rules. Men were told to step aside for a lady,
Zena 7 months ago (edited)
Not in my lifetime. Not when walking down a city sidewalk (or any walking path). And the point is that BOTH should make way for the other.
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Tim Gearing 7 months ago
i thought the basic rule was to avoid bumping into people regardless of gender?
Zena 7 months ago
The point is that it's always the woman who moves out of the way to make space for the man; if she doesn't, they'll bump into each other because the man typically never thinks to move aside. I know, I know: Not. All. Men. We know. But never in my life has any man ever moved aside to make space for me. So: All Men in my experience.
Load More Replies... Nadine Debard 7 months ago
Sometimes I stop in front of them and make an awkward and confused eye contact, so they have to move around me and feel bad.
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Lena Flising 5 months ago
I refuse to do that too. A number of men have almost walked into me, as they assume that women will make themselves small when a man approaches.
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Although not everyone you will meet behaves as Sir Walter Raleigh ...
#40
“Hello Ladies and sons of Ladies” is how I start any presentation
TheGayUmbrella 7 months ago
Not every man is the son of a lady. Gay parents exist! Also absent mothers!
Rick Murray 7 months ago
Gay parents and absent mothers are absolutely a thing, but I can definitely assure you that every single human alive on this planet was fired out of a woman's poom-poom, so "son of a lady" is correct even if said lady isn't in the scenario.
Load More Replies... ZestyBison 7 months ago
Ill say "hello ladies" to the ladies and if there is a male present it's "hello ladies and [x]". It's not so much intentional as it is moreso a thing that happens.
#41
i lowkey assume every single person on the internet is female (idk if this counts or not 😭😭)
urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
I hate it when people say low-key. Is it like some sort of trendy thing now?
#42
immediately assuming men are talking about women's sports instead of men's
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
That's a good one. Let the guys do the spluttering. Although, *is* there a women's NFL ?
Kat Jenkins 2 weeks ago
No. Because women are too smart to participate in a concussion factory.
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urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
Did you hear about the winger who scored last night for Brisbane? Oh, Julia Robinson? Yeah she's good
#43
If a couple doesn’t share a last name, we send mail and cards assuming the female’s last name for the family.
Jake Bertz 7 months ago
To be fair, she's probably the one that will read it and remember it anyways.
Lore Story 7 months ago
wait is it normal for girls to have better memorys? im a girl and just thought a lot of the posts on here was just anti memory problems instead of feminism place and had no idea what i was doing here because i cant remember things for 5 seconds and just continued scrolling for some reason
Load More Replies... Goover 7 months ago (edited)
There are two people in a marriage, and together they chose what the name is. Considering 79% of women in the United States took their husband's last name (2023 Pew research center), you are effectively misnaming an entire family on purpose close to 80% of the time even though they chose a different name. Seems like a pretty d**k move.
Michael Largey 7 months ago
I hope the local post office's delivery mechanisms take your practice into account.
Jaya 7 months ago
There are countries where the post delivers it based on name? I've only ever seen it being delivered on street name and house number. Does it also mean that everyone HAS to display their name outside their house? Because how else would the postman know who lives there?
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#44
Going to get my doctorate so I’ll be addressed before my husband
Christopher Beckford 7 months ago
Indeed, that's hardly "micro" that's commitment. Well done! Also... does it actually work? I know several people with doctorates (including couples where both have them) and yet it has never once been even a tiny factor in the order in which I address them.
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wowbagger 7 months ago (edited)
Speaking from experience, it won't make a bit of difference. Many people will outright refuse to believe you have a doctorate at all, and even if they do, they won't use the title.
Janelle Collard 7 months ago
Right? Look at DR. Jill Biden. Cheeto + his minions have been degrading her since Joe was Obama's VP.
Load More Replies... #45
I correct anyone who calls her Kamala with “you mean Harris”
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
I prefer former Vice President Harris or even better, "Should've Been President Harris"
Michael Largey 7 months ago
I think it's a compliment to Harris that the worst thing her enemies can come up with to call her is her first name.
Load More Replies... Mel in Georgia 7 months ago
Ugh, I was talking to this arrogant Trump supporter who kept purposefully mispronouncing her first name. I corrected him every time. Finally he sighed and called her Harris.
Jane Hower 4 months ago
With all she drinks she's probably now able to see what is and be unburdened by what has been.
TheGayUmbrella 7 months ago
I call her Kamala just because I know so many people with first name Harris and it's confusing.
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
Calling her by the name the patriarchy forced her to take from her husband is feminist now???
Michael Largey 7 months ago
No, calling a woman by the name she prefers is feminist.
Load More Replies... #46
I review and stamp construction documents and submittals in pink so they know a woman is the one correcting their work
Helena 7 months ago
I intentionally use really girly words or phrases when I password protect a spreadsheet or something else at work, because otherwise the password always gets out and people screw up my spreadsheets or whatever it is. Make the password PrettyGlitterUnicorn and no guy on the floor will say it out loud.
TeenieMeanie 7 months ago
I used to initial my high scores on arcade games with GRL, so they know they got beat by a girl.
#47
Work as a cashier and always ‘forget’ to scan period products
Jonny Dio 7 months ago
Be careful: your customers don't know they could be charged for stealing.
Babs McGurk 7 months ago
You are stealing from your employer. Someday this is going to come back to bite you in the a$$. If.you're lucky you will only lose your job. If you're not so lucky, you may end up with a police record and possibly some jail time.
Virgil Blue 7 months ago
This could really bite you in the back end or the customers back end. I agree that period products are way to expensive b.t.w. But making people steal them unawares? Cant see that working out in the long run.
Michael Largey 7 months ago
Any decent computerized inventory system will red flag this in two months tops. Figuring out who's responsible may take longer.
Clown fish 7 months ago
You'll find they are always stolen. Also cheese, baby milk, deodorant, shampoo in that order. Baby milk is now is a lock box a long with cheese in a few shops.
Load More Replies... #48
i say ma’am but never sir. they enjoy sir a little too much for my taste.
Kathleen Pearlman 7 months ago
Women dislike being called "Ma'am" - that's for Grandma. Being called "Miss" makes my eyes light up.
Pamela Blue 1 month ago
I remember being called Ma'am by a younger kid when I was 18, and I was horrified! LOL! Now I'm an olde farte and it sounds just fine.
Mark Alexander 7 months ago
I very much dislike being "sir'ed." Or called mister. I say "Please call me Mark," and get everyone giggling about how hard it is for them to stop. Of course, i tease when they slip. Kinda fun really. Especially in stuffy doctor's offices.
urbeinghunted 25 7 months ago
I call everybody "mate", "bruv" or "buddy" regardless of gender or occupation
Load More Replies... Gracie Mae 7 months ago
In some cultures it is a sign of respect & manners to use Ma'am/Sir. My grandchildren are taught this and I beam with pride when they use them.
Jac Carr 7 months ago
I'm a Brit so to me, you have to be knighted by the monarch to be called Sir and even then no-one does unless we (the public) think they really deserved it. Having said that in my 60 years, I've called two men sir - they were both in their 80s and WWII vets; they'd earned it
ZestyBison 7 months ago
Ma'm has gotten really casual. There are undertones to "sir" at times which I don't enjoy. Both me and said male would need to be neutral for "sir" to be uttered.
WayoftheStarPrincess 7 months ago
Completely unrelated but... I work as a librarian in Sweden. We got rid of honorifics in the 70s and I'm technically "allowed" to use you with the king etc. There's this one American (US-specific) teenager who keeps calling me ma'am and it's so cute how he sputters and struggles to just lay off the honorifics when I ask him to. He really tries, because he wants to repsect my wishes and at the same time the ma'am is how he's raised to show respect. But for me it creates a distance I'm not interested in. I'm not more or better, I'm just a librarian.
Rosie Bannister 7 months ago
no-one is JUST a librarian. You hold the keys to knowledge and a portal to other worlds!
Load More Replies... #49
Listed the wife first on all my wedding invites regardless of how we knew the couple. Even my husband’s groomsmen
LB 7 months ago
I'm queer but yeah I thought it was a little annoying when my sister got married and EVERYTHING was labelled [groom's name] & [bride's name]
Lezlie Findlay 7 months ago
And yet we always say bride and groom! So why not name them that way?
Load More Replies... #50
I regularly call men “girl” like I say oh “thanks girl” to grown adult men.
#51
Engineer here!! I make every model and all my notes and drawings pink :)
Realistic Expectations 7 months ago
Don't assign a color to one gender. I know plenty of people (Both women and men) who love the color :)
Nina 7 months ago
I'm a woman and I've always loved light blue, it's my favourite colour!
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Baba Caine 7 months ago (edited)
Back in thy olden days boys were dressed in pink and girls in blue for a reason I can't remember, some queen or king started it ,well in england anyways
#52
When I was working in a supermarket I never scanned a single pack of tampons or pads because we shouldn’t have to pay for it 😎
Kitty 🥀 7 months ago
So you’re setting your customers up to be potentially held for shoplifting? Very helpful.
Kelly Von Tee 7 months ago
There are cameras everywhere. The customer won't get in trouble. (former cashier here)
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Mreoww 7 months ago (edited)
Toilet paper isn’t as much of a necessity as period products are. Period products ar e basic necessities all women need and deserve. Though, I do agree about the theft part.
Load More Replies... Jake Bertz 7 months ago
Do you do the same for toilet paper? Everybody poops, I read the book in college.
Nika Strokappe 7 months ago
I think this is weird, why should we not have to pay for it? We all need food and water, we still need to pay for that as well right?
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
So you're helping a handful of people while increasing prices for everyone else. Food is a basic necessity too, you skip scanning food? Theft is rarely okay, definitely not okay here. You're being illogical and causing as much, if not more, harm than good. When a company finds an excuse to raise prices they ALWAYS raise them much more than necessary, so you're probably just making them more expensive than they need to be without hurting the 'offending' company but definitely hurting your employer.
Kris Tyler 7 months ago
I fully support that! everyone saw them pay for their items no worries!!
arthbach 7 months ago
Once again, it's still theft. If you want to receive free tampons and pads, then campaign in the political arena. Don't steal from shops.
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#53
I’m a server and I ask the men what their kids want to eat
Zena 7 months ago
Maybe the kids are too young, or maybe the kids have dietary restrictions or there are things that the parents don't want the kids to have? Or maybe the server doesn't want to stand there all day listening to the child dither or talk about their toy or tell a joke or whatever. Lots of reasons to not ask the kids. Again, I'm assuming very young children, which is when you would typically ask a parent.
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i call male politicians by their first names only
SpiderWoman13 7 months ago
Oh you can... This is Bored Panda and it's required.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 7 months ago
If female reporter calls a male politician by his first name, too many male politicians would take that as a request for an assignation rather than an interview.
#55
I tell men food isn’t spicy when it is
Dan Holden 7 months ago (edited)
What's this supposed to accomplish. I know plenty of people, both men and women, who are sensitive to spicy food. How is it ok to lie to them about how spicy the food is regardless of gender?
#56
not really feminism but i constantly blame the fact that a man probably designed something when an error or design flaw appears
Judes 7 months ago
I don't really like this one because there's already an assumption that men build and design everything and it's not challenging that assumption.
Zena 7 months ago
It's making the assumption that men build and design things with bugs and errors, or poor design, implying that it would have worked better if a woman had designed and built it.
Load More Replies... Craig Reynolds 1 month ago
Men designed everything. You are just useless and offended that you have no design skills.
Cheryl Ursin 1 month ago
I just checked. Yup, the mammogram machine was invented by a man. Knew it.
Michael Largey 7 months ago
Promoting the assumption that any designer is a man does not help the cause.
#57
I dont think this is microfeminism, but I say at least on a weekly basis “men used to go to war and now their wives are paying the bills”
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
Wait but what about the wage gap? How are women making 70% as much as a man but paying all the bills and paying premium prices for feminine products?
Michael Largey 7 months ago
Serving in a war doesn't make you a warmonger. In fact, most watmongers never get near any battlefield.
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i rip open my pad as loud as i can in any bathroom im in
Ms.GB 7 months ago
Women are aware women have periods and have to change their pads and tampons.
Zena 7 months ago
Yes, but some of us have been conditioned (somehow) to think that we need to be discreet about it even in a women's restroom. Don't ask me why; that's just the way we were raised. So I congratulate this person from trying to break that cycle.
Load More Replies... Rick Murray 7 months ago
😂 Where I'm from, there's tampons that go up, liners that go along, and *pads* that deal with uncontrollable pee (or worse). So this was unintentionally amusing.
#59
not rlly feminism but if im in traffic ill only let cars in if a woman is driving
Amelia Jade 7 months ago
I found most of the list amusing. But this one is stupid. Not letting people in, and driving competitively instead of cooperatively, just created traffic issues for everyone on the road--including those other women you're supposedly trying to be nice to.
Realistic Expectations 7 months ago
this is a joke, no hating (looking at you Zena)
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microfeminism is too weak for me. i’ve upgraded to full blown misandry.
Mreoww 7 months ago
That…doesn’t seem quite fair to me. Idk, I prefer no misogyny or no misandry whatsoever, how about we just stick to equally respecting the opposite gender.
April Pickett 7 months ago
Not happening for at least another couple of generations. Men have habits they've learned from their male role models. We all know how hard it is to break a habit.
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Michael Largey 7 months ago
Hating men, however justified and satisfying, does nothing to help women. Hating the New York Yankees will not help the Chicago Bears to win the Super Bowl.
What do you think ?
Ellinor 7 months ago
I have a small message to all the future commenters who will say that many exemple are just petty and unnecessary rude. Yes, but you have to understand that we are tired and angry (especially with the whole right-wing rise in the world right now). So yes we are petty, we are sometimes mean, but it's been decades, centuries of fighting and we are tired, tired to see that the things our mothers and grandmothers were fighting against are coming back in full force. We're too tired to be sad, so now we're angry because it's what we have left to keep keep the strength to fight back.
SouthernGal 7 months ago
I prefer to know someone’s character before I condemn them. If they are misogynistic, then I will be their worst enemy. But someone who isn’t part of the problem should not be punished.
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Gavin Johnson 7 months ago
I grew up in a home that was equally ran by my parents, Jean, my Mum was a fighter for equal rights, and feminism began at home. She was and still is Jean first, Mum to Gavin and Steven and married to Dave after that. We all had jobs in the house, my brother and I were taught how to cook, use the washing machine and other household jobs from a young age. My Dad knew all of our info for hospital, I fractured my skull at a young age and that meant plenty of check ups so Dad often took me and he knew every detail. I am now a Dad to a daughter, 14, and I encourage her to point out the inconsistencies that she comes across, she may be small (well she used to be!) but she is a feisty individual and she will be telling it as she sees it, I’ll be stood right there with her.
Barbi Griffin 7 months ago
Female here, I stopped reading around #22. Microfeminism, according to Webster Dictionary, is not even a real word. Reading the 22 or so examples it seems to me that it's an excuse for women to rude and petty towards men. It just reinforces negative stereotypes.
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
I was thinking something very similar. None of these seem to advance the cause of feminism and some actively harm it.
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FreeTheUnicorn 7 months ago
Once again terrible premise. Thankfully title is inaccurate but it isn't feminist to have the goal of annoying men. The goal is equality, if fighting patriarchy is annoying someone, then that's a by product
Zena 7 months ago
But I do think sometimes the little things that annoy some men can be helpful, if it makes them think about WHY it's annoying to them and what point is being made.
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Nadine Debard 7 months ago (edited)
My son isn't 4 yet. He's trying his best to understand this world and build models and rules in his little head. I always correct my husband (and myself, and we talked and he agreed and we're fine) when someone assumes gender roles, like when husband says that a man is driving the excavator I add 'or a woman'. Always. It's important to keep his mind open and develop his critical eye on the world. We were raised with so many divisions. I hope he'll represent the next generation of men, those comfortable with their masculinity and who respect everybody.
Rick Murray 7 months ago
All those fathers that know nothing about their own children. That makes me irrationally annoyed. 😠
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
I could tell you most of that stuff about my nieces and nephews but some dudes don't even know it for their own children?? For shame!
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Ahnjunwan 7 months ago
Why did i read this list? I knew before it would be just a lot of hateful men bad things
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
Yup. The title of this list should be "misandrist microaggressions" if it was being honest and accurate. A few were okay but most were pretty obviously misandrist.
Load More Replies... Ellinor 7 months ago
I have a small message to all the future commenters who will say that many exemple are just petty and unnecessary rude. Yes, but you have to understand that we are tired and angry (especially with the whole right-wing rise in the world right now). So yes we are petty, we are sometimes mean, but it's been decades, centuries of fighting and we are tired, tired to see that the things our mothers and grandmothers were fighting against are coming back in full force. We're too tired to be sad, so now we're angry because it's what we have left to keep keep the strength to fight back.
SouthernGal 7 months ago
I prefer to know someone’s character before I condemn them. If they are misogynistic, then I will be their worst enemy. But someone who isn’t part of the problem should not be punished.
Load More Replies... Gavin Johnson 7 months ago
I grew up in a home that was equally ran by my parents, Jean, my Mum was a fighter for equal rights, and feminism began at home. She was and still is Jean first, Mum to Gavin and Steven and married to Dave after that. We all had jobs in the house, my brother and I were taught how to cook, use the washing machine and other household jobs from a young age. My Dad knew all of our info for hospital, I fractured my skull at a young age and that meant plenty of check ups so Dad often took me and he knew every detail. I am now a Dad to a daughter, 14, and I encourage her to point out the inconsistencies that she comes across, she may be small (well she used to be!) but she is a feisty individual and she will be telling it as she sees it, I’ll be stood right there with her.
Barbi Griffin 7 months ago
Female here, I stopped reading around #22. Microfeminism, according to Webster Dictionary, is not even a real word. Reading the 22 or so examples it seems to me that it's an excuse for women to rude and petty towards men. It just reinforces negative stereotypes.
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
I was thinking something very similar. None of these seem to advance the cause of feminism and some actively harm it.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 7 months ago
Once again terrible premise. Thankfully title is inaccurate but it isn't feminist to have the goal of annoying men. The goal is equality, if fighting patriarchy is annoying someone, then that's a by product
Zena 7 months ago
But I do think sometimes the little things that annoy some men can be helpful, if it makes them think about WHY it's annoying to them and what point is being made.
Load More Replies... Nadine Debard 7 months ago (edited)
My son isn't 4 yet. He's trying his best to understand this world and build models and rules in his little head. I always correct my husband (and myself, and we talked and he agreed and we're fine) when someone assumes gender roles, like when husband says that a man is driving the excavator I add 'or a woman'. Always. It's important to keep his mind open and develop his critical eye on the world. We were raised with so many divisions. I hope he'll represent the next generation of men, those comfortable with their masculinity and who respect everybody.
Rick Murray 7 months ago
All those fathers that know nothing about their own children. That makes me irrationally annoyed. 😠
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
I could tell you most of that stuff about my nieces and nephews but some dudes don't even know it for their own children?? For shame!
Load More Replies... Ahnjunwan 7 months ago
Why did i read this list? I knew before it would be just a lot of hateful men bad things
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
Yup. The title of this list should be "misandrist microaggressions" if it was being honest and accurate. A few were okay but most were pretty obviously misandrist.
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