40 People Spill The Tea On The Weirdest Rules They Were Unfortunate Enough To See Enforced
Interview With AuthorRules are a weird thing when you stop and think about them. They’re meant to act as guidelines to ensure that we can co-exist with each other. But make them too loose and what you get is utter chaos. Though if you make them far too strict, you might force others to rebel because they’re considering whether they’re needed at all or if someone’s simply going on a power trip. In short, rules need to be balanced and make sense. And some of them are really, really bizarre.
Redditor u/SalMinellaOnYouTube, who has a cooking channel on YouTube, recently asked the crowd on r/AskReddit about “the most ridiculous rule” that they’ve ever heard someone have for their house, family, or kids. We’ve collected some of the oddest stories that show how some parents go way too far to keep everyone in line. Scroll down to read them.
Bored Panda got in touch with u/SalMinellaOnYouTube, and we had a friendly chat about his thread, Reddit culture, parenting, and cooking videos. Check out our interview with the redditor and YouTuber below!
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My parents will swear up and down that none of these actually happened, but they:
Didn't let us watch Rugrats because the way they talk about adults is 'vile'.
Picked me up from a sleepover at 1 am and spanked me in front of my friends because they found a picture of Brittney spears hidden under my bunk bed which led to the only Christian radio stations rule.
Grounded me for a month for one episode of ren and stimpy, which led to the no Nickelodeon ever, house rule.
Power rangers was obviously straight from Satan, so that was out.
I brought home some homework about evolution in 7th grade and my dad burned it, and took the ashes to my science teacher. This was when the 'only god approved science' house rules started.
The 'Dont make a single noise after 8 pm, including the microwave beeping, ever, and tip toe so you don't get interrogated' Rule, was unspoken but very well understood.
Forced me to wear jesus shirts to middle school with all my skater friends, which got me bullied for years, which led to the very obvious follow-up rule: If you are told it isn't happening, then it can't possibly be happening.
List goes on...
Religious folks are f****n weird.
Nobody is going to acknowledge that religions (aka cults) are designed to subjugate and oppress the weak and less fortunate (aka abuse)? I'm probably gonna get down voted for saying it out loud too. 🙄 Christopher Hitchens, I know you would be proud of me. Rip, Brother.
Load More Replies...Oh, and of course they deny it. Just like my parents, they can never admit any wrong doings. I hope you cut them the f**k out like a bad appendix.
CUT THEM THE FÙCK OUT LIKE A BAD APPENDIX...... this should be on various billboards along our highways..... and can apply to any family of origin as well
Load More Replies...Yeah... I've yet to meet an abuser who owns up to the s**t they've put people through.
I was once grounded when I was like 8 years old because I went to a friend's house and she played the VHS her parents rented. It was Pretty Woman. I had no say/control over what she played. Still not sure why I got in trouble. Maybe because I didn't leave? (yes, from fairly strict Christian home)
I couldnt have resisted pointing out to them that Power Rangers was from Saban, not satan, and suggesting they get reading lessons or new glasses.
Yeah, parents will f**k up and then say it didn't happen; your only mandate as a parent, is to be far better than them and also, apologize if your kid tells you that you messed up. Because no one is perfect. But if you've done better than they did, then you can't do worse.
We were curious about what had inspired u/SalMinellaOnYouTube to start the viral thread in the first place.
"If I remember correctly, it was someone else having talked about their neighbor's house having no rules when they were a child in a different thread," he told Bored Panda.
Meanwhile, the OP pointed out that he's not sure why the thread got so much attention on the site. He quipped that r/AskReddit is "something like a slot machine."
"The same (or similar) questions can get 0 to thousands of upvotes," he said that a lot depends on who's the first to spot a new question and draw inspiration from it.
My kid had a friend over recently (high school) and we offered him a snack. He said maybe, is that allowed? Then he mentioned getting an A on a test so we said, then you deserve am extra special after school snack. We offered several options like cereal, goldfish crackers, etc. He cried because no one had ever offered an after school snack, much less said good job on an A. So sad.
Aw I know the feeling hon. I really wish I heard a "I"m proud of you." "Good job, that's great." every now and then, I'm desperate for any praise since I never got any. Edit: This is why I love Bored Panda. Love y'all
Let’s all throw some attaboys this way! Loverboy deserves em.
Load More Replies...My daughter struggles in a couple classes in high school. I was that kid who never had to study because it all came easy to me, so I don't know how to help her. I had her start going to afterschool and honor society study programs and she brought her grade up to a C+. We hooted and hollered and had high fives, just like any A in classes she excels in... She did her best and that is all we can ask for in life. If they are doing their best effort, we should encourage and celebrate that.
Get her tested for learning disabilities such as ADHD.
Load More Replies...My son had a good friend, diagnosed with ADHD in the early 90s. His parents asked if he could come do his homework at ours, so, yes of course he can. They warned me he could be unruly and not pay attention, but I enjoyed teaching maths my way which made it fun. The guy told my son, "Your dad is so cool! Does he ever get angry?" James told him, yes, and he asked "How do you know?" "He gets really quiet and stares at you, so you understand." He was a nice guy and he enjoyed doing homework with us. He told me his mum and dad were always angry and shouting which is why he liked studying with James. I felt so bad for him and there was nothing I could do to help.
My mom: "Why didn't you get an A+?" Me: "There was no extra credit question." My mom: "Well, you should have asked the teacher for extra credit." Pro Tip: When even the best doesn't make you happy, people will stop trying their best.
Nikki, apparently my parents had another family we never knew about. Happy to make contact at last, long-lost sis!
Load More Replies...I went to visit a college roomate's family, and everyone had to go to bed at 8 pm because that was the youngest daughter's bedtime. The kid was 8 or 9 years old. I laughed because I thought they were joking, but the kid threw a tantrum that I wasn't going to bed. They weren't kidding. I did, obviously, but wtf? The next day the parents told me it would be best if I just head on back to college a day early. Yeah, no kidding, bye! My roommate thought I was the a*****e. I laughed at her too.
... isn't that a completely different thing?
Load More Replies...Way to enable your spoiled little brat, I'm sure they won't have trouble adjusting to the real world at all when they're grown
How is following the bedtime, the parents set up spoiled?
Load More Replies...They remind me of the "we don't use the 'n' word with little spoiled Susie," parents. N for NO
I put my kids to bed at 9pm every night, school night or not, so I can enjoy 2-3 hours of "adult time" ( watching r rated movies, gaming, or just reading a book without interruptions)
I have kids that are just slightly younger, and we just called it a victory last night that we got them to bed before 11:00pm...
I cannot handle it when an entire family bows down to the youngest child. That kid is going to be an A*****E!
That is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard in my life! I would have laughed too.
I am sorry about your insomnia, but it isn't normal for adults to go to bed at the same time as young kids. They have different sleep requirements. What was wrong in your situation was that you didn't have a quiet and dark place to sleep. It had nothing to do with others staying up later. I would encourage to try melatonin for your sleep or see a doctor about it.
Load More Replies...According to u/SalMinellaOnYouTube, if someone could unequivocally answer what lies at the core of being a good parent, they "could more or less save the world!"
In the YouTuber's opinion, when it comes to parents figuring out whether they're being too strict or too loose with their rules, they should try to put themselves in their shoes.
"I think one way some parents could be helped is by remembering that children judge themselves (and are judged) against their peers," he shared his thoughts.
"So you want to try to make sure you’re not making your children outcasts with drastically different rules from the children you have them regularly interact with."
My friend’s parents ran a ‘tab’ for him and his brother. They added up how much they spent on food, clothes, sports, etc. and told the two boys that’s how much they would have to pay them back. I remember once we got yelled at for eating his dad’s ‘snacks’ and he added it to the tab.
When they graduated, the parents ‘cleared the tab’ for their graduation gift, so basically they got nothing other than a reminder of how much they cost.
Wow, so you decide to have kids and then spend their lives making the kids feel quilty for being born. Classy
My last foster mother was like that. For some bizarre reason she would comment about how much milk went into the porridge for breakfast in the mornings, saying that it was expensive. Or she’d mention how much the meat cost for the shepherds pie for example. She would guilt trip everyone of us about how much money was spent on food. It made no sense whatsoever ever.
Load More Replies..."I carried you for 9 months." "I put a roof over your head.". Great. Awesome. You did the bare minimum of what you are supposed to do. I didn't ask to be born, not my fault someone's pullout game is weak
OP: "When they graduated, the parents ‘cleared the tab’ for their graduation gift, so basically they got nothing other than a reminder of how much they cost." NO! They didn't get "nothing", they got a HEAD FULL OF BULLSHÌT for a LIFETIME..... Time to reference that CUT THEM THE FÙCK OUT LIKE A BAD APPENDIX from above.......
Load More Replies...And when those boys realise that their parents were guilt tripping them over costs that are legal requirements for parents to pay to not get indicted for child neglect they mist likely didn't feel much love when eventually the parents needed anything from their adult sons...
We did a healthier version of this. As young kids we could shop in the pantry with play money. As teenagers we learned budgeting basics - calculated our extracurricular expenses and did extra chores for a bigger allowance to pay for stuff. As adults, if we needed to live at home, we still paid a small rent but when we were ready to move out they gave it all back to us to use as a deposit somewhere.
I'm taking these great ideas. I'd like my kid to know that "life isn't a free ride and you're not entitled to it" (like so many dip wits these days seem to think) but guilting them as a kid the way OP here says is downright mean. Love first. Life lessons come afterwards.
Load More Replies...Why did these people even have children? You decide to have kids you expect to pay and look after them until they're at least adults! Wow
Well....it now costs about $300,000 to raise a kid to the age of 18, so times two that's a big chunk. Hopefully the two boys will realize how expensive kids are and refrain from having their own, which in turn will p**s off their parents since they wont have any grandchildren. Ha !
What kind of insane person puts that much work into gratuitously being an åsshole?!
Should someone told them that was literally their responsibility by law, and their choice to procreate?
My great uncle only allowed one bowl, one plate,one spoon, one fork, one knife, one cup, and one light bulb in his house. He was married with three kids. He ate first, then the wife, then the kids by age. When he went to another room, the light bulb followed.
I'll bet you anything that he beat the s**t out of those three kids and wife
Why the everloving hell would you even marry someone like this?? And then you have children?!
My father did the light bulb thing so two lights could not be on at the same time to "run up the electricity bill".
That poor 3rd child. Surely the man of the house should eat last, right?
"I work and feed and clothe and put a roof over your heads" A man who ate steak while wife and kids had bologna. (friends dad)
Load More Replies...He's probably all alone at a care home wondering why his kids never visits
Wasn’t necessarily a rule, but I had a good friend who’s mom had locks installed on all the kitchen cabinets to prevent her only child from eating when he wasn’t supposed to. When he got old enough to earn money, she took 50% of what ever he made. His senior year in high school when he turned 18 he came home from school and found all his belongings out in the driveway (Happy Birthday, child). My mom and dad let him live with us till he could financially get on his feet.
This was a somewhat common approach to child rearing for survivors of the Great Depression. My partners father was required to pay rent beginning at age 18 and worked full time on the family orchard when not at school with no pay other than room and board. All of the children turned out to be amazing human adults, I guess this is abuse?
Load More Replies...Why do people like these reproduce? Like seriously. I'm trying to understand the logic. You clearly hate children so why did you have them?
Neighbour got pregnant to “tie a man” to her, he still left her, she dumped the kid with her mum and vanished. Quite a few single mums who take out their frustration on the kids after the husband/boyfriend left them. Christian couple who had kids because they felt it’s their holy duty to multiply and treat them like nuisance. Just a few examples from my neighourhood. Least but not last some 40 years ago getting married and having kids was “the thing” to do. Being childfree by choice was unheard of in my country, single women over 25 considered weird and ostracized. Luckily times changed at least in that respect.
Load More Replies..."Every child deserves a parent....but every parent does not deserve a child."
This is Gold...... and I might add, the parameters for this statement are often misapplied.........
Load More Replies...This is why abortion needs to remain legal. She obviously didn't want him and treated him like s**t.
Jeesh, my friend got a pot/pan set for her 13th birthday. Her mom said it was for when she moves out at 18. Jokes on the parents when it's time to pick out their senior living facility
Hell that's actually a really decent gift. Those can be really expensive and that sucks when you're trying to move out. Though it would have been better at 17 not 13.
Load More Replies...The number of stories I read about a kid getting kicked out of the house on their 18th birthday is unimaginable to me. Why do these people have children? Why? Just stay childless, and don’t abuse someone YOU brought into this world for 18 years of their life. I hate people.
My friend in sixth form came out to his parents in year 13 (17-18 years old) on his 18th birthday he was chucked out and my parents allowed him to live with us for the rest of year 13 and a year after to work full time before going to uni. I was shocked (and sheltered I think) that parents would just throw their child out like that at such a young age. Learnt then that I was very blessed to have such loving parents
Most species kick out their young. Humans are the only species that take back their young- mine are 25 and 28 and I would take them back in a heartbeat
I would temporarily until they got back on track on their feet then send them back out there to try again
Load More Replies...Bored Panda also wanted to find out more about the content creator's cooking channel. Redditor u/SalMinellaOnYouTube opened up to us that cooking and baking are his passions.
"I have a cooking channel where I do some cooking and also some juvenile comedy so it's not exactly for everyone," he said that he enjoys throwing in silly jokes and Downton Abbey references.
"I’m just sort of learning to use YouTube and everything that comes along with it, like video editing, and it's been a lot of fun," he told Bored Panda.
"My videos are not very polished, but I am actually making the food you see, there are no camera tricks and there is no food artistry happening. If you see it, it is edible. Sometimes it's not edible, like the chicken salad."
That guests have to pay for their stay... They invited me for dinner, then calculated how many minutes I was over, charged for my portion of food, drink, electricity and water usage. Yes, they counted toilet flushing and timed me on hand washing.
I could never do this to anyone.
Hmmm... it's only enforceable after being informed. They tell you, you laugh, take your bags and skedaddle
Someone in the original thread said report them to the tax authorities LOL
Load More Replies...Whenever we visited my parents at Christmas, my half sister who lived there insisted we bring all our own food. toilet paper, soap etc. All the cupboards and fridge were completely bare so we had to feed them as well for the duration of our stay. Needless to say we didn't stay long.
Were they too poor to afford basic necessities?
Load More Replies...What friendship? This is no more friendship than a restaurant visit
Load More Replies...I would have in turn charged them for the pleasure of my company and their obvious delight at my witty conversation. "So just give me 50 bucks, and I'll call it even."
I have a friend whose family is super wealthy. When she stays at he sister's mountain house she has to leave money for the utilities. I stayed with them one Christmas. Beautiful house but never again. It was so friggin uncomfortable. I'd rather pay to stay in a hotel.
That's not so weird. In fact it seems like a considerate thing to do. She is costing her sister more by staying there so why not reimburse it. Assuming it's a holiday home the owner might even be getting someone in to clean and prep it before the sister arrives, which again costs money.
Load More Replies...Making them pay is bad enough but making them pay after you invites them is just horrible
When I was a kid, I spent a lot of time at my best friend’s house. Her mom wouldn’t let us drink more than one glass of water in the afternoon because she thought it would dilute the nutrients in our body. Instead she gave us 7-up if we we were thirsty. I ended up secretly drinking water out of the bathroom faucet every time I used the bathroom when I was thirsty at her house.
So why would water dilute nutrients, but 7-Up wouldn't? It's basically sugar water. Aside from that, water helps get those nutrients to where they need to be in the cells. Sure, there would be dilution, but that isn't the same as depletion.
Sooo... maybe this came from something she learned after having a baby. To save money, some people add extra water to baby formula so it goes further. However doing this is very dangerous as then the baby ends up getting less nutrients and peeing more, causing them to actually flush needed salt etc from the body. As you grow this becomes less of an issue, unless you are sick (which is why Gatorade is good for you when you had a stomach bug).
Load More Replies...I “learned” from a home economics teacher that cutting lettuce into too small pieces destroys the vitamin content
😂 So what did this teacher think happens when you chew? Does that destroy the vitamin content as well?
Load More Replies...Apparently you need to drink 3.5 liters of water a day for it to dilute nutrients
Not according to my nephrologist (kidney doc). I donated a kidney 20 years ago and have been drinking 3-4 liters of water a day ever since!
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My wife once had a friend over for a sleepover when she was little. Suddenly, their mum showed up to take them home. Apparently, the friend had seen beer in the fridge and called her mum crying because of it. They were not allowed to look at, talk about, think about, and especially drink beer. Scared her so much that she called her mum to come get her
Maybe she was British and was offended they chilled it?
Load More Replies...Not the girls fault, it the parents fault for raising them that way, what the hell
I had a friend similar to this. Turns out the parent grew up with a violently alcoholic father and their mother was killed by a drunk driver. So their only association with alcohol was pain and death. Sadly, they never got counseling for this childhood trauma and passed this fear onto their children.
That was my first thought. That someone in the family had serious alcohol problems and the kid just knows "Beer is terrible. It's ruining our family." And not the reality of it. Even more likely since they said "when she was little".
Load More Replies...Drat! I'm going to have to delete my Bored Panda account now, they said the word "b**r"! /s
Children break rules all the time because they’re, well, kids! They subconsciously test boundaries and constantly check what they can get away with. So, as a parent, you need to make the rules to be followed under your roof very clear and then enforce them when they (inevitably) get broken.
Not finishing your homework really does mean no playing video games that evening. If you don’t mind the boundaries that you’ve set up, they’ll only get walked over. Actions have to have clear consequences so that everyone’s on the same page. Or you could do things the ‘natural consequences’ way and let your kids learn from their own mistakes. Not finishing homework would mean that you get an F the next day at school and lose some respect from your teacher and classmates.
At the same time, you can’t make the rules way too strict: you’re raising kids, not entering into a multimillion-dollar business contract with them. Following your kids’ every move and limiting what they’re ‘allowed’ to do might make them completely unprepared for the adult world when they grow up.
Pickle time. My aunt was getting her degree in early childhood education/development and went overboard with scheduling my cousins life to the nth degree. When I would visit I wasn't allowed to go into the fridge for a pickle "unless it's pickle time. Right but isn't pickle time." We were preteens.
I waited until she went to the bathroom and took the whole jar of pickles into my cousin's room and played Nintendo and ate all the f*****g pickles
Was thinking this myself !!!!!! Hahaha ! (edit: amusing, but assuming it applies to the consensual nonbiologically close adults....... otherwise :'-(
Load More Replies...I was five and at a friend’s house. We were playing in leaves outside. There was a box of leaves I wanted to move closer to his box of leaves. My box had no bottom, so the leaves spilled out into a small pile. He went and told his mother, she came out and spanked me, quite hard. I ran home crying to my Mom, partly because it hurt and partly because of the injustice. She comforted me, but didn’t do much else (or so I thought). I learned, decades later, my Mom called up the spanker and told her to never lay a hand on any of her children ever again.
If you lay a hand on any of my children you are getting much more than a call
My elementary school principle put me over his knee and gave me a " birthday spanking". I was embarrassed and remember I felt really weird/confused/grossed out. When I got home my mom could tell something was wrong so I told her what happened. Had barely gotten the story out and my 120lb mother was out the front door speed marching towards my school. When she came back she said she took care of it. The next day and rest of the year the principle would barley look at me and gave me a wide berth, he wasn't back in September .
True Story: A young Maya Angelou would not speak after a tragedy in her life. She could, but would not. A teacher slapped her across the face for not answering in class. Maya's (grandmother? Or mother?) walked to that school and slapped that teacher across the face, hard. But the killer was what she (Maya's relation) said to that teacher. Something to the effect that: I would not willingly disrespect you. But now you know how it feels."
In what world is it OK to put your hands on someone else's child? Not mine
A box for leaves that fell so that you can still play with them without them being all over they yard
Load More Replies...Sadly, in many parts of Southern US it is not just allowed but recommended
Load More Replies...I was at a friend’s house when I was about 8/9 yo. Her brother complained to their mum that we weren’t playing with him. Their mum slapped me. We weren’t bullying him or being mean. We were just playing normally. She didn’t ask us to include him. I never went to her house again.
I knew a guy who, in his 20s, still had a bedtime enforced. He had to be in bed by 8pm, and if he was sleeping over at a friend's house (in this case at my house during my 21st birthday party) he had to phone his dad at 8pm to say he was going to bed (he didn't go to bed though at least).
My dad used to enforce no nap rule. I couldn't take a nap in the afternoon, no matter how sleepy I was, even on the weekends. But this rule didn't apply to himself, obviously.
Sometimes that makes sense, unless you were an adult at the time, in which case he didn't have the authority. Taking naps during the day can cause insomnia in some people at night.
Load More Replies...I grew up like that. I worked full time all through high school and even though I was 18 through my senior year bedtime was 8 pm. After I graduated, and was still working full time, I was given a 10 pm bedtime. Told my parents I was moving out and my mom told me I wasn't allowed to move out. That didn't go very well for her, lol.
I left home at 16 and it took me 8 years to not feel paranoid and scared whenever I made big decisions such travel move etc
Moved home in my mod-20s briefly after the military and found myself on my old HS midnight curfew. Was gone in a month.
hes frincking independent. i wonder what othery f*ckery his parents have.
Parents who smother and protect their kids far too much are known as ‘helicopter parents’ because they ‘hover’ over their kids and pay far too much attention to every single little thing that happens in their lives. In their desire not to appear neglectful, some adults end up reducing their children’s independence.
If someone realizes that their rules might be a tad too strict (an outsider’s perspective is always helpful in these sorts of subjective situations), you could try loosening the rules bit by bit until you get rid of them altogether.
For instance, if you continue to set a strict bedtime for your adult child (e.g. in bed by 8 PM), clearly, there are some trust, abandonment, and other issues at play here. You need to take a big step back and let them start making their own decisions. Otherwise, they’ll never feel comfortable doing anything in their lives without parental approval. In these sorts of cases, seeking the help of a family counselor might be a good move.
When I was younger, a friend said that we weren't allowed to watch Spongebob. I found out later on that, allegedly, this is because the holes in SpongeBob induce lustful thoughts.
How could anyone resist squidwards nose tho. Lustful thoughts activate
Who the fúck even thinks this shít?! If your génitals get happy from seeing a cartoon sponge, you shouldn't have kids before addressing your mental health.
So how did they wash the dishes in that house? Can't have been with a sponge.
Load More Replies..."who f*cks a sponge, under the sea? OP's friends' parents! OP's friends' parents!" sung to the tune.
Who wants to f*ck sponges that live in the sea? OP's friend's parents! They're lusty and icky and gross as can be! OP's friend's parents! If screwing a cartoon is what would like -- OP's friend's parents! Then get mental help or just take a hike! OP's friend's parents! OP's friend's parents, OP's friend's parents, OP's friend's parents, OP's... friend's parents!
Load More Replies...I was at a church once for work I was doing with a nonprofit. I had my 3 year old daughter with me and I was carrying her on my hip. Some church lady approached me to tell me that I shouldn't carry her like that because it stimulates the genitals and makes them desire that feeling. I was dumbfounded. Where do they get this stuff?!?
I mean...when I was 3 (and I am a girl), I greatly enjoyed the seat belt fastener that went in between my legs, if you know what I mean. Kids will do what feels good, but I highly doubt holding your kid on your hip is that stimulating.
Load More Replies...And yet they get offended when you say religion is a mental illness...
Where I went to school there was an extremely religious family. Basically everything was a sin. Food that tasted good was a sin because it encouraged gluttony, etc. Only reason why the kids went to public school was because both parents worked. The daughter was so sheltered, she had a panic attack because she learned some people weren't Christian.
I'm not for the banning of religion but I sure am praying it dies away quickly! But as they say: pray in one hand, sh*t in the other...see which fills up faster 😔
I just had a core memory unlocked!! I had a family like this growing up! Got removed from their house for a week for saying booty!! Are there once and the food was terrible she said seasoned food is for gluttons!!! Wow
Sucks asss but relieving in a way, huh? Hope you have a Family Of Choice to rely on.......
Load More Replies...You can Google why religion was INVENTED. Control the masses.way back when there was no global government or whatever. It was few in charge thinking how do we get them to act civilized and not eat each other ..... Religion is born then weaponized for centuries. In today's world we have laws, accounts and balances. We found a system not reliable on religion. We call it laws and regulations. But still religion is here. Some magical being that will torture you but loves you.. th fk
Not every religion is like Christianity, you know…
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Was dating a woman for a couple of months, nothing seemed off or anything with her but we took a vacation where we visited both of our immediate families. At her parents house, we werent allowed to sit next to eachother or stand near one another. Also, we couldn’t sleep in the same bed…I had to sleep on the couch and she got the spare room. Their reason was that they didn’t want any “funny business” happening in front of them.
We were both 32 at the time…
Really? This is very weird and resembles a puritan couple dating. (When being a puritan was common in England)
Puritans ran away and escaped to America. That might explain a lot.
Load More Replies...I'd politely thank them, say it was lovely meeting, then leave. I wouldn't sleep on a couch, nor would let a partner. The woman would've know their parents/ family would have those rules, so that's crappy
Thank you! In the original thread on Reddit I got called an “incel” for suggesting this is break up territory.
Load More Replies...Lol 😂. I was 34, pregnant, and my mom didn't want my fiance to sleep with me in my bedroom because we weren't married, and- get this- what would the neighbors think? (Gee, mom, I don't think the neighbors knew who was sleeping with whom in whichever bedrooms in our house, and BTW, I'm 34 and very pregnant, with my 3rd child, and I'm sure no one on our street cared if I was sleeping in the same bed with my fiancé. ) And my mom was not some religious freak, she was just controlling and liked to shame people. Conversely, my fiance/now ex hubby wouldn't have sex with me in his mother's house until she shamed him into it.
My parents weren't allowed to sleep in the same room at my grandparents even when they were married. My boyfriend and I had to sleep in different rooms on different floors - I sneaked in his room at night (nothing happened!) But the talk the next day phew... When I told Gramps that I don't want to ever marry or bear children, he abruptly went out for a walk and said something like "you are not normal"... In the fourth year of relationship with my SO, he stated that SO had to call him as formally as the first day they met (because of the no marriage statement of me).... The next decade my SO very successfully tried to just avoid any addressing to Gramps because it's just weird after that many years for us
I know a couple who had lived together for over ten years, had three children together but still weren't allowed to share a bedroom when they visited relatives in the US since they weren't married.
According to Very Well Family, there are some signs that can help people tell if they’re enforcing rules that are too strict. One of these is that the parent has a zero-tolerance policy for any mistakes. Instead of being overly authoritarian, add a bit of flexibility. Meanwhile, another sign that the rules might be too strict is if the child lies a lot. If they’re disciplined too harshly, they’ll simply learn to lie well to avoid punishment. In short, they become secretive, not necessarily more rule-abiding.
It also helps to take a look at how your friends and neighbors raise their kids. If you realize that you’re far stricter than everyone in your social circle, it might be a sign that you may need to scale things back a bit. Remember that everyone wants to be a great parent, but there’s no such thing as being ‘perfect.’ Take a more realistic, grounded approach to parenting. One that allows for mistakes.
when my sister was expecting her first boy, I got the baby a little stuffed bunny. its ears happened to have a floral pattern. she got rid of it because "there's no way my boy is playing with flowers."
Step daughter refuses to allow her sons to watch Peppa Pig because, "She is pink."
I'm imagining her getting a daughter and forbidding her to look at sky or water because they're blue.
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Fun! My 5 year old son loves flowers and was so excited when I painted his nails pink.
Load More Replies...I'm assuming they're the type of people to have a gender reveal too when she was pregnant
That's so sad. My 5 yr old daughter was given a blue plush hippo when she was born. Not once did I think oh this is blue not pink so she can't have it. So here we are now she starts kindergarten in the fall; she calls her hippo one of her best friends, loves to bring it on car rides, & will NOT sleep without it.
Unrelated, but why are there so many photos of pregnant women holding onto their bellies as if the kid is going to fall the hell out if they let gp? So bizarre.
I’ve seen many pregnant women literally in the first trimester stop doing this. I think they do it for attention and they want to tell people that they are pregnant by the third trimester, the weight can be uncomfortable and holding hands underneath your belly is a relief
Load More Replies...I am very sorry. Not for you, you seem perfectly normal and sensible, but for your sister. Such a shame.
Stereotypes have ruined many lives... Poor kid, that is terrible
A friend’s mom had gone to Woodstock and never quite recovered.
Her magazines said that processed food was bad, so she wouldn’t let my friend use the food processor they got for Christmas. (I swear I’m not making that up.)
Having once heard “using the microwave” described as “nuking the food”, no one was allowed into the kitchen while the microwave was running. You had to set the timer, hit start, then run to the living room until it beeped.
She read that more people died of lightning strikes than bee stings. (I don’t know if that’s actually true; she read all sorts of b******t so who knows.) She knew lots of beekeepers, and a couple of them died from bee stings, so she inferred that death from lightning was somewhat common. When a thunderstorm was blowing in — and in southwest Missouri, that was all the damn time — she made everyone sit in the middle of the living room. It wasn’t enough to be indoors. You had to be many feet away from any closed window.
My buddy practically lived at my house.
It's so frustrating the c**p that people espouse and believe about radiation etc.. and yet not know that we experience radiation from the earth just by existing (yes, I know I'm being simplistic). Like- do research, be informed, then create informed crazy rules
And not every form of radiation is bad. Did this woman understand that every time she listened to the radio she was exposing herself to radiation? Every time she turned on a light too. And if microwave radiation were the type that was dangerous, leaving the room wouldn't help and you would have dangerous radiation all over your food.
Load More Replies...My mum refuses to use the microwave because she read that it works by making the atoms in her food shake faster. So her logic (term used loosely) is that you put fast shaking atoms into your body which is going to harm your slow shaking atoms. 🤣
A little knowledge can be bad if you don't know how to interpret it.
Load More Replies...the "infectious" radiation is alpha or beta, not microwaves. It passes through and dissipates. Also, that's what the grid behind the glass is for, to block the waves!!
Thank your parents and you for giving that kid a space to live without high stress and fear
"A friend’s mom had gone to Woodstock and never quite recovered." 🤣🤣🤣
There was a kid in my neighborhood growing up that was not allowed to chew gum. He soaked a piece of leather in sugar water and chomped on that. His parents were some strange religious nuts. They would scream about the devil if you knocked on their door Halloween night.
Why would you knock on their door on Halloween if all they had was sugary leather?
I'd probably knock with the iPhone on them to capture the devil rant, sorry I know that's a wee bit evil but.......Halloween....
Load More Replies...In the 50's, I wasn't allowed to chew gum, but didn't really know why. So I snuck some (age maybe 5 or 6), was chewing away when my father came in, so hastily took it out of my mouth and popped it in the pocket of my new skirt. That's when I learned WHY it wasn't allowed.....
I would knock just to hear them scream about the devil while I was dressed as a sexy Devil 🤣🤣👹
I have an irk about this as well though because my kids and ex tended to put the wad somewhere inconvenient afterwards, e.g., no exaggeration: on a table (on, not under); on the fridge; on a car dash; on the car door (inside); on the car handbrake, etc. It was gross. After the handbrake one they were banned.
thinking past black and white for some people is just too much of a strain. We need to be patient with them
I don't disallow gum but I don't buy gum for my kids. My oldest tends to bit her cheeks a lot while chewing, like I did a lot growing up, so it just makes sense not to make that very available to her. She did get a pack from a teacher last week so I just told her to be careful and don't chew it around or show her younger sister, I'd rather not find gum stuck to random places
I'm still mad at my parents about not letting me trick or treat because "Halloween is the devil's birthday." The amount of research I did at the library at 9 years old to prove they were wrong is sad yet impressive. I never convinced them and by the time they had mellowed out, I was a teen. Still holding that grudge
My sister gave away a Spider-Man toy that I gave my nephew as a birthday present. His older sister told me “mum says that we’re not allowed false idols in the house” they’re really fundamentalist Christians.
Sister could have at least warned her that he wasn't allowed toys like that, so that she didn't get the kid a cool present that his mom was planning on snatching from him anyway
Here in Malaysia, Mus.lim children are no longer allowed to have Spiderman water bottles or Ironman schoolbags because when you need help, you should call on God, not humans.
I can't help imagining them getting robbed and instead of calling the police praying
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We weren't allowed to interact with anyone outside the family. Mom and dad were afraid of liberals, communists, atheists, satanists, demons, gay people, and most other religions so they didn't want to risk us being exposed to the notion of tolerance.
In theory, there was an approval process to get around that rule. Basically, my parents had to talk to that person and ensure that they believed all the same things my parents did.
In practice, almost no one got through the process, and the few that did disqualified themselves almost immediately once the actual interaction began.
wow, have you managed to escape from your cult yet or are you still trapped?
me too. spooky scary person with good grades, a volunteer job, and in a happy relationship
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My best friend growing up, had to walk around her house on her tippy toes, because her parents couldn't stand hearing her footsteps.
Excessive tiptoe walking in early childhood can actually damage the tendons (?) in your feet
Grew up in a two-storey house. Taught myself to walk on the balls of my feet so my parents couldn't hear my footsteps. Still walk that way barefoot...
I had a sibling that walked around on their heels. Sounded like a ten foot tall giant was stomping through the house - all the time. Might have been intentional. ;)
Load More Replies...Great way to get hammer toes...my son has that issue...not because we forced him...it was just how he walked when he was a kid...we were forever telling him to walk on his whole foot...even his son does it from time to time as did I when I was a youngin
In college I worked on a project with a girl who had to call her mother every time she relocated on campus. Like, when she left a location and then again when she arrived at the next location. So when she moved from the cafeteria to the library, or when we took a break to go get a coffee and when we left to go back to our dorms, when class started, when she left class, Had to call her mom. I avoided her for the rest of college.
I could just see "friends" waiting til the girl is on the phone with her Mum and yelling "Come on girl! Stop hogging the drugs I want some." and "Hey get off the phone, we're going to be late for the orgy!"
As a mom, this just sounds exhausting. I'd be working on getting my daughter into therapy if she was calling me that often
Sure she did. She was being held hostage by her own mother.
Load More Replies...Growing up, my wife’s family was incredible close with a family with 5 siblings and they did everything together, including holidays. Their father died, and wife’s family helped raise the kids. Over time, the siblings each moved away, then the mother, until there was only one left (M). M is family and still came over for all holidays. He is a vegetarian/vegan, and always brought a tofurkey and side dish, so just the easiest guest to accommodate. My brother in law and his wife had 2 kids and bought their own big house so they invite us over for their first time hosting Thanksgiving. The rule? M was not invited because he was “not family.” It caused a huge fight and we ended up not going over there so M wasn’t left alone. It was a fight every year until finally they stopped inviting us altogether. When M went to his wife’s family for thanksgiving one year, we still didn’t go to brother in laws.
So on the very holiday that's meant to be thankful for what you've been given in kindness, that, as I understand it, celebrates generosity and sharing a meal with strangers, this twatwaffle decides to exclude a long time family friend and his wife who was friends with them all their life let him. Wow.
You did the right thing. Tell your brother in law he's not invited because he isn't real family
off topic but: why in the name of veganism would you refuse a tofurkey?
I can’t make sense of this. M is part of OP’s wife’s family. All of her siblings & her mother moved away, except for M. M is the wife’s brother. Then OP said his “brother-in-law and his wife” bought a big house & started hosting Thanksgiving. Brother-in-law implies he is either OP’s wife’s brother (can’t be, so that’s a no) or OP’s sister’s husband, in which case why wouldn’t he just say “my sister & her husband”? I read it & re-read it, and it makes no sense the way it’s written. How is OP related to “my brother-in-law and his wife”? Anyone?
M is not part of OP's family, they were family friends. The brother in law is probably the wife's brother, so has spent every holiday with M for years but didn't want to invite M when he (brother in law) got his own house.
Load More Replies...This is just unintelligible pronoun soup. Someone was or wasn’t invited to thanksgiving and vegan, that’s all I got.
OP’s wife’s family was close with M’s family growing up. M’s father died, so the wife’s family helped raise M and his siblings. Over time, M’s mom and siblings all moved away. M stayed, and still came over for all holidays. He was vegan but brought food for himself so he was easy to accommodate. Well, OP’s brother in law and his wife bought a house and invited everyone over for their first time hosting Thanksgiving. But M was not allowed to come because he was “not family.” It caused a huge fight, and OP’s family stayed with M instead of going. This caused a fight every year, so eventually the brother in law stopped inviting OP. And even when M went somewhere else for Thanksgiving one year, OP’s family still refused to attend the brother in law’s celebration.
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I was in a friend's kitchen (we were 8), sneezed, then turned and took a kitchen paper tissue from the roll, cleared my nose, and walked toward the kitchen sink door, to throw the wad into the trash bin. My friend burst out "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!". I'm like "What? Throw away the trash." He continued "ARE YOU CRAZY?! SNOT PAPER DOESN'T GO IN THE KITCHEN TRASH!! JESUS, WHAT IF MOM FOUND OUT!!"
I'd already thrown it, but he fished it out of the bin and flushed it in the toilet in under ten seconds.
I already knew his mom was a nasty ol' battleaxe, but I had no idea how deep her will manifested itself in that sick house.
It really is a list of mentally ill parents abusing their kids.
Load More Replies...In my family that practice would have given us a huge water bill. Almost all of us have bad allergies
Kitchen paper shouldn't go in the toilet, unless your flush is like Niagara. It doesn't dissolve like TP and can block drains.
One of my best friends growing up had super Christian parents. My group of friends loved playing Diablo 2. We would spend weekends at each other's houses for LAN parties. If we ever went to super Christian house, we were not allowed to play Diablo 2 because it included the devil in the game. No matter how many times we explained that the goal of the game was to KILL the devil, they would just dig their heels in even more.
The Christian nuts are not gonna let you play a game with any reference to a devil then 🙄
Wonder if that applies to books as well. I heard there was a book where the devil features somewhat prominently. What was it called again...
Load More Replies...Do you remember what they would say when you told them the goal was to kill him?
Their fear? What IF you were not able to defeat the Devil? What then? BAD things would surely happen then! Very bad things. bad.
this makes no since, given that the devil is mentioned in the Bible...
Now the kids have an excuse not to read the Bible! And they're excused from all church services since preachers mention Satan so often in their semons.
Load More Replies...The woman who gave birth to me once told me that I should never let my sons play Pokémon because it was evil from Satan. No joke. And she wonders why I am an atheist.
Ooh my wife didn’t have a door on her bedroom until she was a teenager because “you shouldn’t have to hide anything from your parents.” Her mom also would get really upset if she closed her bedroom door at night when she went to sleep. All of the siblings would sleep with doors open. It was a big adjustment for her at first when we got together to sleep with the bedroom door closed
Practically the same thing for me, my door was never, ever allowed closed.
I'm not allowed to close my door either and I have a camera in my bedroom that points directly at my bed because "I can't be trusted" all because I had my phone in my room.
Load More Replies...Holy....I had a door and my parents knocked on it before entering my room. I did the same with my kids, they have a right of privacy too
I keep doors open due to small rooms in my country and excess CO2 inhalation, you need ventilation. Open the windows and doors while sleeping (not external door obviously). Nothing to do with spying on the kids.
Yes, me too. Nothing to hide as rooms were only for sleeping. Waking hours were all spent downstairs because upstairs was baking hot during the day.
Load More Replies...My parents removed both of my room's latches for the same reasons as stated by the OP but my brother gets a free pass .
I never had a doorknob on my door until just a few months ago. Even now I’m not allowed to lock it, but I’m grateful for the small bit of privacy I guess
Load More Replies...I had three older brothers. My mom's rule was we couldn't close the door with girls over. She was totally in the right.
My parents said I was too modest, so I got dressed in the bathroom while running the water in the sink. They'd get mad when I wouldn't walk around the apartment in my underwear when I was a teenager, saying the nuns made me too modest. They couldn't understand why I saved my money and moved far away when I was 19.
My FIL forbade my wife, and tried to forbid my two children, from driving once they passed their driving test. His wisdom was “put that piece of paper [driving license] in a drawer for five years” to reduce the amount of insurance they would pay. Spoken like he was passing down the knowledge of the Ancients. F*****g idiot.
Tell him to "put his sorry *ss in a drawer for 5 years or more" to reduce the idiocy price you'd have to pay later as a result of spouse and children not being able to drive in case of emergency... Smh!!!
Here in the UK, if you don't drive for the 5 years (ie, don't insure a car) then you still get stuck for high insurance because you have no experience. Here, it's drivers who are insured, not cars.
If you have teenage children with driver's licenses, most insurance will raise you rates even if you claim the teens won't be driving.
Depends where you are. Here the rate is the same but your excess is higher.
Load More Replies...In the US at least, after age 18 you HAVE to have ID on you or you can get a ticket.... The 5 year rule is flawed
Does that do anything? Like reduce premiums or something wherever they ate?
Not in the UK it wouldn't, its your no claims discount that reduces your premium and you only get that by being insured.
Load More Replies...When we were 13, a friend of mine was kicked out of the house by his parents for a week because he stacked things wrong in the freezer, and some bread got squished. He spent the week staying at different friends' houses each night until his parents let him come back home. EDIT: holy moly, this got a lot of action. For those wondering what kind of parents my friend had... The mom was super religious and tended to be pretty strict, but tried, unsuccessfully, to hide it when any of our group were at their house. The stepdad wasn't allowed to have much input when it came to any punishments because he wasn't the bio dad. My friend and his sister were always punished pretty much immediately by the mom, and step dad would just kinda disappear. Regardless of the error made, the punishments would build until she would snap and say something like, "get out of my house, i don't want to see your face!" She was definitely verbally and emotionally abusive, but i never saw signs of physical abuse. There were multiple occurances of me or other friends going to spend the night and being sent back home shortly after because she was in a bad mood and my friend didn't have his room clean enough for her liking. i.e. a plate and fork on the dresser from breakfast Or a couple clothing items on the floor
Kicking a kid out with nowhere to go is physical abuse and you can't convince me otherwise.
Wouldn't it be reckless endangerment? Or child endangerment? In any case, why is it legal?
Load More Replies...I relate to this so much. My mother was an un-medicated bipolar meth addict. The first time I was kicked out of the house I was 12. It was all because I left a sock in the dryer that I didn't see. I went to my best friend's house for a safe place to stay, but their parents couldn't believe that any parent would kick their adolescent child out and they figured I was lying. I had nowhere else to go so I slept under their carport. They found me in the morning and decided to take me in. This family wasn't very well off, yet they never complained about keeping me safe and cared for. After about a month I was allowed to go back home. Unfortunately this wasn't the end. I was kicked out multiple times for simple child mistakes. Thankfully my unofficially adopted family was always there. Even today I am so grateful for them, there's no way I could thank them enough
I had to make coffee for my in laws, even though I have no idea how their fancy coffee machine works and they refused to explain it to me. Now I'm not welcome there anymore because I have "no respect for them"
Sounds like they were looking for ANY excuse to get this outcome and you are better off!!
My house growing up: if you had to go to the bathroom during a family meal, your plate was taken away and dinner was over for you. No bathroom during meals!
So basically, if you really need the toilet, they'd rather you develop a liver disease and face hospitalisation than you leaving the table... just great. I'm pissed now.
Slight exaggeration......You don't get liver disease from holding your pee, and you can't (after a certain point) hold your poop. Needing either causes great discomfort, so in the end, you decide 'which is better? Eat all my food or relieve myself'.
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Load More Replies...Having to use the bathroom during a meal was considered rude according to my family, but not to THIS extent
Same here. We all have normal health, so I'll call the kids 5 minutes before dinner, so they have time to go to the toilet if needed. I don't like them to go while eating eighter. And we are seldom longer than like 30 minutes - so I don't see the problem. But taking away a plate or other punishment when they do need to go occasionally? That is a no-go for me.
Load More Replies...is that supposed to aid you in being able to plan ahead? Better go before you go!
that's because you used it as an excuse to not eat your veggies
The kids could not watch Barney because it's a "dragon". It was a religious family
That might be a good argument if dinosaurs were real. We all know God put fake dinosaur bones in the ground for sinners to find and test peoples faith in the Lord. 😜
Load More Replies...Mine couldn't watch Barney because he was annoying. They also never knew what a teletubby was for the same reason.
But.... F*****g saint george KILLED a dragon. Why do these nut cases never follow their own words
Had a childhood friend whose mother was (and still probably is) obsessed with her image of wealth and piety. 1. They had a living room that you could not be in. We were allowed in the "family room", but not the living room. 2. When we were 6, my friend and I played dress up. I was Protestant, they were Catholic. A mint green cross necklace was in my friend's play jewelry. When we went downstairs to show her mom, her mom's eyes got wide as dinner plates and she yelled, "GET THAT ROSARY OFF HER NECK!" 3. When we were 18, I started seeing my (now) husband who works a public retail job. Her mother started ridiculing his job and how he walked "like he had a stick up his a*s". He has a lumbar spine injury. I let that friend go because as we grew she began turning into her mother and now she won't talk to me.
“My name is Erin Quinn, and I come from a place called Derry...or Londonderry depending on your persuasion”
I went to catholic school growing up. Wearing a rosary around your neck is a huge no no for some reason.
I wish she hadn't succumbed to the insanity, but its good that the friend was able to recognize that it was not a sustainable relationship.
Having a formal living room isn’t that odd. It’s a concept from an older time when people had manners and would host guests formally and treat them with great respect. Such concepts are apparently mocked and derided these days, sad days.
#1 was is pretty common when I was growing up. We had the "living room" and the "den". The living room was kept spotless, had the fancy furniture (with slipcovers) and the pictures of untold generations on the walls. It was for company.
I want to know what six-year-old children play "Protestant and Catholic Dress-up"
I had a friend in 5th grade and her mother was legitimately insane. She wouldn’t let her daughter come to my house because we had carpeting. I think she had some munchausen by proxy because she was convinced her child was allergic to everything, including dust mites/any innocuous dirt in carpeting. The girl also developed an eating disorder…she was a dancer when we were kids and her mother apparently monitored what she ate extremely closely. I felt so badly for her.
That’s sad. I know a kid who’s parents are both over 400 pounds at least and he only eats one meal a day because he’s scared he’s gonna end up the same and he developed a social disorder cuz his dad abusive. (Forgot to mention that the reason his mother is so heavy is because her husband abuses her emotionally)
You can see this if you work in an ER. A parent will make a kid sick to call attention to themselves.
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I read on the internet that once that carpeting is more sanitary than wood/vinyl and since I like to lay on the floor sometimes I’m repeating it here to reinforce my belief.
Growing up my dad and stepmother gave my sister and I chores that we had to do before we were allowed to go out with our friends. I thought it was normal until I moved out. When I vacuumed the marks couldn't overlap and they had to go in the same direction. I had to clean the bathroom wipe everything down including the shower no water spots allowed. No personal items (shoes, jackets, or bags) could be left in any other part of the house besides your room. We had a sitting room that no one was allowed in that I also had to clean weekly. We had a dishwasher but I had to do the dishes every day by hand I had an 11pm curfew even on prom night. After I joined the military and moved away married and had children, I still had the 11pm curfew if I came back to visit. I was in my 30s at this point. Oh and I forgot to mention I didn't get an allowance for this so if I wanted money I had to not eat lunch at school and save my lunch money. I also bought all my school clothes from the age of 12 on up working cropping tobacco in the summer.
I could swear this was written by myself or my brother but a, I know I didn't, and b, he was never in the military. Took me years to let go of "the house must be perfect."
At almost 64 I've realized that better than it was is now OK.
Load More Replies..."Finish chores before going out." Okay, normal. Teaches responsibility. "Vacuum lines cannot overlap..." and we've entered crazy town...
When I was in my 20s visiting mom and dad, mom would say "be home by 11" and I'd say "I have a key. Don't wait up".
My ex’s mother was like this. I left my shoes in the den next to the couch. They were out of sight. I came down the next morning to them proudly displayed on the coffee table. “You left your shoes.”
On the table? I would be in chock and go ballistic . It’s extremely unlucky and said to bring sorrow and bad luck with shoes on table (same with keys)
Load More Replies...Was this............ not normal?? My 8pm curfew is shaking in its boots
Sounds like a pretty normal childhood other than the carpet lines. I'm not sure why kids expect money just for being alive? 😂. We never got an allowance. And we did hard manual labor, like loaded rock and firewood and helping my dad with construction jobs. We were happy to just have a loving home and food on the table. I've had a full time job since 16 and paid my own way through college. It teaches responsibility and creates good work ethic. Kids today are babied and lazy.
My stepmom had a totally bonkers rule about feet. She was irrationally afraid of plantar warts and, according to her, anyone she didn't know intimately had plantar warts. As a family we had a second home/beach house that was basically a small bungalow and only had one restroom with one stall shower. Nobody, no friends, relatives, could use that shower after the beach because they'll get their plantar wart all over the floor and then she'll take a shower and she'll get plantar warts. We also had a swimming pool and she would make new people, including children, WEAR SOCKS IN THE SWIMMING POOL. And as far as I know, nobody living in our house including her ever had plantar warts so... unreasonable? Sure. Effective? Sure.
Couldn't everybody just wear thongs as you do in public shower stalls and be done with it? Also, I've never heard of "plantar"...
Now while I'm not this bad. I refuse to go some places bare foot, because of things like athletes foot, and ring worm. Fungi infections that can not be cured only treated. Protect your feet people you need them.
My dermatologist told me the best way to get rid of warts is to put surgical tape over the wart, on DRY skin and keep it dry, obviously change it everytime it gets wet. It works!!!!
Duct tape will work too! But you can buy wart-removing bandages (salicylic acid) and freezing kits over the counter at any drugstore now :)
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I have a friend whose dad had one paper towel specifically used for eating bagels. You cannot re-heat or eat your bagel on anything other than the bagel towel. No plates or bowls were allowed to be used for bagels. You got your turn with the bagel paper towel or you waited till it was free
I grew up poor, without a furnace in Northern Indiana poor. A bagel paper towel does not make sense. We didn't even BUY paper towels, they were a waste of money. Use a plate or use a rag to tidy up
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We were never allowed to ask for anything while visiting...even a glass of water
If I'm having guests, I am supplying them with as much as they will accept, they don't even have to ask. Why would anyone treat people like that
When I had people over I would dothe same, Loverboy. Now I have a few select people over and they just help themselves to the kitchen. Just as family would. (I was raised that way, the kitchen is in there. Help yourself. )
Load More Replies...When someone and their child was visiting us when I was a child, if the kid asked for one of my toys to keep I had to give it up. If I was visiting another child in their home and asked for one of their toys to keep I was slapped across the face.
my mom is like that. If i ask for something at someone elses house she will get angry at me. Once i was at someone elses house and their kid hurt me (physically but not to bad, only shoved me) and i told on them, and my mom got angry at me.
Would be interesting to know if this was this person's parents who set the rule or the friend's
When I have someone over they help themselves. I don't care what they take just help yourself
A friend's parents had a pool table. His mom decided to play with us one day, and gave us the house rules. She said, "When it's someone's turn to shoot, I tell them. If someone gets ahead of me, they lose their turn. Everyone plays very hard, and in the end, I win."
Not quite the same, but when I was a kid, my paternal grandparents had a pool table in the basement. I was never allowed to play because my grandfather was convinced I would rip the surface of the table. It wasn't because I was a girl, my aunts were allowed to play. He just hated me (the feeling was mutual).
How did your friend's mom enjoy her job as a health insurance company executive?
smart mom. eliminate all potential arguments from the start
my 11 year old daughter was at a friend’s house and my daughter said “oh my god” and then got lectured by the parents for using god’s name in vain.
The wrong use of the Lord’s name, the one the Bible warns against is using God’s name for evil. Not that I believe in a God, but "using god's name in vain" really just means doing evil in the name of him.
"doing evil in the name of him" - you just described Christianity.
Load More Replies...Again this is normal in a Christian household. When you visit a Christian's home, out of respect for them, you do not use The Lord's name in vain. And your children should be taught this, even if you're atheist. "We don't believe saying that means anything. But for them it's very important. So please don't use The Lord's name in vain at their house. It's just common courtesy. It's like going to a trans person's house and using their proper pronouns. Just try to be respectful of everyone.
It may be normal in a fundamentalistic Christian household. For everyone I know saying "Oh god" is among the top 5 go-to reactions when you're surprised/shocked, no matter your actual religious orientation, and I've never heard anyone being reproved for it. I guess "normal" is what you're used to.
Load More Replies...Silliness. The Christian deity's name isn't 'god'. 'God' is a generic word that refers to any deity, including Zeus, Allah, Jehovah, Ra, etc.
While I don't agree I understand. to some people that's the same as if your daughter said f**k in their house. Any kid that ain't mine started cussing or using language that I consider to be cussing I would talk to them about not using that language in my house or they wouldn't be allowed back.
The god of which these people speak is at best an impotent irrelevancy, and at worst a sadistic monster. In either case unworthy of worship of any kind. So yes, I'll use God's name in vain as much as I like, thank you very much.
Me: "Oh my god!" Someone: "Don't take god's name in vain!" Me: "Which god do you mean?"
Load More Replies..."Look. I-- I'd had a lovely supper, and all I said to my wife was, 'That piece of halibut was good enough for Jehovah.' "Look. I don't think it ought to be blasphemy, just saying 'Jehovah'."
Right. I'll take two points, ah, two flats, and a packet of gravel.
Load More Replies...Haha even I got lectured about this a couple times as a kid. Even though I myself was Christian
A lady once watched my kids, and the rule was no beverages during a meal. I think she didn't want kids filling up on liquids instead of food...?
It was back in the mid 1990s Some article claimed that drinking during meals is unhealthy and children may choke on food if they drink something. And people took it too seriously. When I was in kindergarten, one of teachers always make sure we did not drink anything during meals. We werre allowed to drink only after we finished meal. No idea where that belief came from.
Actually drinking fluids while eating makes you take in more air into the stomach. Facts learned in bariatric nutrition. That’s also why using a straw is discouraged.
Load More Replies...Yeah we had this rule too because all 3 of us kids would fill up on drinks and not eat much food. It wasn't very strict unless we went out to dinner because we were the worst with refills at restaurants so dad put his foot down; probably the only thing he put his foot down over 😆
We just drink water with dinner. Nobody is filling up on that.
Load More Replies...Drinking during meals helps you to fill up faster and not over eat. If you are hungry, try drinking cold water instead.
Drink then not finish their burgers when out and about. Then complain their hungry. Drinking after no drama but not filling up on softdrink first
My cousin still can’t drink until after she eats because of the trauma this b******t rule caused her
Had a friend who was very much into computer gaming in the late '90s/early 2000s. Voodoo video cards were very much in vogue, but his parents forbade him from using the term "voodoo," even in reference to the card. They suggested they he instead call it the "V-card;" the hilarity of the situation was lost on them.
Voodoo isn’t even a proper thing. It’s a perversion of Vodu, a Haitian religion born from the mix of culture overlapping in the midst of the slave trade.
My Haitian friends would disagree with you that it’s “not even a thing”.
Load More Replies...We have one; it’s not too crazy but a guest might wonder “WTF?” No singing at the table. My daughter, as a young child, would just start belting out a (totally randomly generated) song while we would try to eat. She would sing it very loudly. We just made the rule that no singing was allowed at the table. If a little friend came over, we’d keep the rule consistent (it applied to us as parents as well). Now my daughter is 16, and every once in a while one of us will start to hum a tune just so the other two can sternly (and mockingly) say “No singing at the table!”
As a kid, if I started humming, singing or "dancing" (sitting down) when eating dinner I was firmly told not to do that since it was not a disco I was at. Always made me stop but also added to the overall trauma of growing up because I had sung (or whatever) because I was happy and then told I wasn't allowed to express myself that way. Today, I let my kids sing and even leave the table for a minute to show us some dance moves they "invented" in kindergarten.
This is hilarious! I actually have to do this with my youngest bc she is deafening and won't eat.
At my maternal grandparents, were not allowed to talk. You had to eat in complete silence. You need the salt but can't reach it? You nudge the person next to you, point at it, then thank them by nodding.
That was part of generic table manners when I was a kid, like no elbows on the table and no drinking while eating soup ( still haven't figured out the why of that one)
We had the same rule at my grandparents house because me and my sister would randomly sing as kids lol it was only inforced when we were under 10
The twelve year old kid had to wear a shirt and helmet while playing Tony Hawk Pro Skater 3. It was me. I was the kid.
Not their house but my wife has a cousin who took her child home because my niece was watching Disney Channel and I was wearing a tank top. She felt like those things were bad for her 12 year old to be seeing and experiencing and took him home.
Omg, not a tank top! How dare you expose this poor innocent to the bareness of your arms??
Tank tops are of the devil because they expose your shoulders and potentially your bra strap. Only a shameless hussy would ever wear one /end sarcasm
Load More Replies...My parents had a neighbor two doors down from them that made their kids leave the inside of their house by 8:00 am in the summer and they were not allowed back inside until it was bed time, around lunch and dinner time the mom would put food out on a table in the front yard for them to eat. In the winter months after they got home from school they stayed outside till it got dark. Just a very odd family all the way around. Didn’t surprise anyone when the oldest daughter got pregnant at 15 and moved away.
That's a scary f*****g thought, but now that you say it, it sounds reasonable.
Load More Replies...My college dorm roommate was on the phone with her mom and her mom said, “don’t share food with your roommate.” Lol. it’s ok, i can live without your cheeze its and gummy worms. I would never tell my child not to share. WTF.
I grew up poor and was never told anything like that. Poor people are often the most generous with what they have.
Load More Replies...My friend’s mom would not allow the word “Dang” in the house as it was “one small step from a swear word”. She also wouldn’t let the kids watch Mary Poppins as it had witchcraft, and kept the sugar under lock and key. Both kids got into hard drugs and ended up in secure treatment facilities
My ex FIL had a rule that once he sat down for a meal, only his wife and grown children could get him anything he needed from the kitchen. He would not stand up
Poor man’s masculinity was so fragile that he’d turn into a woman if he went into the kitchen.
Wonder what he did when no one else was home. Just starve until his wife got there?
Load More Replies...Dbag dude. I know people like this, pisses me off. I am a grown man I will get my own f*****g plate unless my wife offers. Usually cause she's not sure what or how much I'll want and always f***s my plate up, which I don't tell her, I say thank you so very much honey I love you but I can get my own plate.
No Harry Potter
it's Unchristian
A Christian website that doesn't like Harry Potter because magic uses a picture of me and my brother reading them happily. Oh, the site thinks it causes satanism, so I want to tell them that I do not worship satan but Cthulhu
Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn!
Load More Replies...I was a huge Harry Potter fan, until the last couple of years because I can't separate JKR from her work. I can't stand her now. It's more of a book thing than a movie thing though - for the books, that was, editors aside, all her own work. Hundreds of people were involved in the films. That said, I haven't brought myself to watch any of them recently, and I haven't seen the latest Fantastic Beasts. I'm not sure what I'll do when my daughter is old enough, but I won't be banning HP. I think I'm just not going to bring it up. If she discovers it by herself, then that's fine. There's more to think about, and our own views may change. It's all so disappointing. JKR is actively against my friends existing as themselves. It seems that the trans-positive allegories in her writings (which some trans friends have told me was one of the aspects that drew them to her books, knowingly or unknowingly) were purely coincidental.
(pls don't downvote) jkr is not transphobic. i recently listened to a podcast on the things that she did. she was saying that it is okay to express opinions. she is not against trans people, or for trans people.
Load More Replies...I had friends like this. always seemed weird when they were focused on making their daughters smart, let them read ALL the ideas.
Went to a playdate at a church friend's house. Her mom made us wear t-shirts over our bathing suits to "maintain modesty"...we were in kindergarten. My parents had the rule that any friends coming over could only play outside. They couldn't come in even for a glass of water. I had to bring it out to them. I was not a popular child.
Sounds like they knew the father was a paedophile and wanted to avoid 'temptation'.
The way to do that is keep children away and get therapy. That other reasoning (if true) strays perilously close to victim shaming (if anything actually does happen).
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, my best friend's mom wouldn't let us walk anywhere in the house except for on designated paths. Supposedly she didn't want us messing up the vacuum trails left on the carpet after you vacuum. Basically she wanted her house to always look like it had just been vacuumed. But the carpet looked even worse than it would have looked had she just let us walk everywhere since there were very visible trails leading to each room and to the couch and kitchen.
I wonder if they lived in Nashville in the late '80's. I knew a girl whose mom had paths of carpet runners in her house. You know the clear plastic kind with the spikes on the bottom? You couldn't veer off of these paths or her mom would be upset. She ended up kicking me out of their house as well because I brought the Necronomicon in their house. I wasn't a "devil worshiper". I was just curious as to what the book was about. It was kinda weird because the mom was very familiar with men and flaunted her many boyfriends in front of her daughter.
Wonder if she (the mom) was related to my friend's mom? She had the plastic runners as well as plastic furniture covers. They had a swimming pool which they rarely used, because she didn't want people tracking wet footprints on the TILED kitchen floor if they came in the house for a drink or snack, should they happen to forget the "dry off before coming in" rule.
Load More Replies...My friends dad would have a almost screaming rage at me if I didn’t finish all my food . He would say we don’t waste food in this house and hed bully me to eat it . I refused and my friend usually finished it for me . Very good way to teach disordered eating .🥴 Never force someone to eat something that’s vile and harmful . I ended up not spending the night anymore after that happened a few times .
That behaviour IS vile - but after it happened for the first (and maybe second) time why eat there at all, or take more than, say, one half sandwich?
I agree that you shouldn't waste food and you shouldn't pile more food on your plate than you can finish. You can always take more later if you need. Didn't you learn that in your own house? He probably grew up poor or is still poor or had to work very hard to buy that food or spent a lot of time and effort preparing it and there you are, tossing his food and money in the garbage, treating his food and him with disrespect. He is not teaching you disordered eating, he is teaching you manners.
Maybe dad served the food, and insisted they finish what he gave them.
Load More Replies...Growing up my cousins often stayed with us. They were not allowed to watch TV or play computer. They could not have fun on Sundays, could only go to church, read Christian books and nap. They could not travel on Sunday. Sundays were eery with 7 kids in the house and no laughter.
When I was a kid, my friends mom was a little nuts. She had a sitting room with a couch and a love seat that nobody was ever allowed to sit on. You had to walk through it to get to the rest of the house and it led to the kitchen and then the living room. If you sat on the furniture in the sitting room she'd throw a fit. I always felt like it was such a waste, to have such a nice room and never use it. It would have been a perfect study room or reading room. She also had other crazy rules, like punishing my friend when his little sister did anything wrong. As if he was responsible for her actions and looking out for her.
When I was younger my parents had a room we only used when visitors came. The couch was quite comfy. But no one ever used it unless we had visitors. One day I wandered through with my book and spontaneously decided the cool and quiet room with the huge opened patio door (you had to walk through the room to get to the terrace) was perfect to have a peaceful afternoon, so I got me some pillows and huddled in the huge armchair. After a while my father walked through and asked: why on earth are you sitting here? I told him and he looked really confused. But then he got his newspaper and sat on the sofa to read. Rinse and repeat when my mom found us. After that we all used that room frequently. My siblings too, whenever we wanted peace and quiet. It was also the coolest room in summer in the whole house. It was just an usus they'd learned from their parents to have a room for special occasions and no one had questioned that. But as soon as they saw me sitting there the spell was broken
I had a friend whose mother was the same. No one was allowed into the "good" sitting room EVER!!!! She would dust, polish and vacuum the room every Sunday and the curtains had to remain closed at all times for fear that the sunlight would bleach the carpet and couch. My friend got grounded for a week because she found the key to the sitting room and dared to open the door to show us the sacred room (we never entered, just snuck a peep from outside the open door)
This was very much a thing in my grandparents' generation. Virtually every house I've been to had a room that was only ever used to entertain guests and was off limits to children.
My mum too. She's very houseproud. To this day, she complains every time I sit on the sofa. I always ask her, why do you even own a sofa if it can't be used? I know the answer - it's only for guests. I'm not allowed to use the aircond even if I have a pounding headache from the heat. It has only been used for 1 week in the past 20 years - the one week that we had a guest.
This seems like a very antiquated but normal one because everyone I knew my grandparents age had one too...
When I was a kid we used to play a game called Tunnels and Trolls (it was basically a cheap Dungeons and Dragons ripoff) and one of our friends with ultra religious parents wouldn't let him play because 'troll' is Swedish for 'devil'. To this day I have no idea whether that's even true.
It's so very much not true. Troll is the Swedish word for, and this is a big surprise I know, troll. It is also the plural word. Troll = troll and also troll = trolls.
Noooo... Djävul is Swedish for devil. Source: I'm Swedish. We don't have a word that is jàkel. We don't use à. Jäkel can be used as a childish, joking way to describe a friend that is a prankster or just like to be funny.
Load More Replies...Troll is not a Swedish word for devil. And it's not in any Nordic language. But I must add that in the 1800s as the ppl became more Christian 24-7 (most ppl before that defined themselves as Christians, but when they weren't at church they also had all those other entities to deal with on a daily basis , like trolls, nisser, elvens etc) they started to see the entities from folk tales as a sort of demons from pre-Christian times. The first source of a nisse-figure is from an Icelandic saga where a bishop is pouring holy water onto a family of "nisser" and driving them from their home. So yes, a troll CAN be viewed as a sort of demon. But troll is not Swedish for devil.
My nephew wasn't allowed to use the trashcan(automatic) or flush the toilet. They say it's cuz he used them inappropriately but I'm like how is he gonna learn to use them appropriately if he is banned from ising
My friend was married to a tyrant for way too long. He made his children go to the bathroom at specific times of day so they could "train their body" to "go" at those times. He also turned on the water heater for a few hours a day, and allowed the kids only 10 minutes per shower. This was all in the interest of saving money apparently. I was so happy when she divorced him.
10 minutes is plenty of time for a shower. In Oz it is recommended we have showers under 4 minutes.
Train their body? Ummm, I'm no doctor, but I'm pretty sure that's not how the human body works...
Extreme politeness. One of my friend's mom had very strict rules about politeness. I once went to this friend's house as a kid, and she offered me something to drink. I said "yes please" and "thank you" once she gave me the drink. The next day at school she told me her mom was upset and wasn't sure if I was allowed to come back. According to her (the mom) I should have said "yes, thank you (for offering me this drink)" and the "thank you" again after getting the drink. Both "yes please" and "yes thank you" are correct in my language. In the end I was allowed to go back, but that's such a weird reason to be mad at a kid. We also weren't allowed to call something ugly, or say that something tastes or smells bad. Instead we had to say "I don't like how it looks/smells/tastes". (small edit to clarify that part: we weren't allowed to use these phrases *at all* when she was watching us, *ever.* You accidentaly ate some food that went bad? it's not gross, you just don't like it.)
I think the last part about not calling things ugly or saying they taste bad is a good rule. I'm an adult with no children, and I make a conscious effort not to label things or people negatively. You can go around calling everything you don't like yucky, or you can say something like"I don't enjoy the texture of boiled carrots, but I prefer them roasted." Words matter.
Ugh, I have a pedantic aunty like this. She Basically speaks the ye olde English version of our language. God forbid you use a borrowed word or shorthand form of anything.
I am both pedantic and an aunt, and feel compelled to point out that "the ye" is redundant. "Ye" means (and is correctly pronounced) "the." It was originally spelled with a thorn, a letter that is not used in contemporary English, which is pronounced as a "th" sound.
Load More Replies...In my family we don't say please unless we're irritated. It sounds sarcastic ("clean up your room, please!"). We say "can you" or "won't you". "Won't you clean up your room?".
The kids had to call farts "fluffs"
How the f**k did you fit that out? For that matter, how did you get it in?? /j
Load More Replies...My brother used to call it a poot. I still can't hear that word without laughing.
i once went over to a friends house when i was younger and she lived with her mom and grandma. we were eating thin mints and my friend didn’t want the rest and offered them to me, so i ate em. welp turns out the grandma saw me eat her thin mints and proceeded to yell at me and what an awful greedy child i was. i was 11. when i told my parents about it, i wasn’t allowed over to her place anymore
I can just picture crotchety old grandma "You greedy child! Eating all the thin mints!" LOL.
Family friend wasn't allowed to say the word "gross" because it was his mom's maiden name; I'm guessing she'd been teased as a kid and hated it . My brother said it in front of him at our house once and the kid freaked out and told my mom he'd said a really bad word. That mom was just making her kid weirder with that one.
And "gros" is French for fat. Language is beautiful and weird 😉
Load More Replies...My step brothers had to use lidded coffee cups for juice and water in the house until they were 20. I mean, yeah they're disasters and spill everything, but now that I'm a parent, I definitely love my kid more than my carpet
my kids are clumsy and one would knock over her drink every. single. meal. for her first ~10 years so yeah, she got to use the lid
My dad's wife wouldn't let me fill my glass more than just below half until I was about 14 years old. Nor carry a 1.5 liter bottle of soda. Because she believed I wasn't strong enough to carry it without spilling or simply dropping it all on the floor. Then my dad and her adopted my brother and she enforced it with him as well. He didn't care about it, though, and would rather take her yelling and angry panic than follow that rule. Lol.
If my kids (now 21,19 & 13) still spilled juice like they did when they were allowed nothing but soppy cups that's all they'd be allowed to use as well. But even though it's not a rule everyone who lives at my house has their own "special" cup they prefer to drink from and they all have some type of lid!
Drinking from a lidded cup costs nothing. Carpets cost thousands. It is not an outlandish request that your children don't f*****g spill, if they can't get the hang of how hands work then they can drink from a f*****g sippy cup.
Did you miss the part where it says until they were TWENTY?
Load More Replies...A woman with 2 teenage daughters will only pay for their college if they DONT’T date or have boyfriends.
Hmm a bit control freaky I mean I get the idea that lovers are a distraction during college but you can't tell kids NOT to get involved. It's going to happen.
For two of my female students, their parents rule was that they couldn't date any boy twice. Their brother was under no such restriction.
Sounds alright to me. Not everyone can even pay for their kids college, if you are lucky enough to have parents that can, I implore you to follow every b******t arbitrary rule they have if you are going to go to college. You won't regret it in your fututre.
My friend’s grandfather wouldn’t let us drink the leftover cereal milk by bringing the bowl to our mouths. We had to finish it off with spoons. It took forever.
I drink the extra milk from the bowl if there is a lot left. Yum.
You mean it takes about sixty seconds that feels like forever, sure such a burden.
Good luck with never eating sandwiches with your hands then, with insisting men always stand for women, of men always walking to the left of a woman… Manners are good, but a lot of etiquette is BS.
Load More Replies...I once went to someone house and their mum wouldn't let them drink milk unless they watered it down. It was like that for every drink they drank too. Didn't matter if it was milk, fizzy drink, juice it had to be watered down.
I drink super diluted juice if I am not in the mood for straight up water. Less sugar and you still get the fruity taste. Juice lasts for a while at my house too.
Soda stream fizzy water, add juice. Sometimes a little liquid like Mio to add extra flavour
Load More Replies...We always had watered down juice as kids, to try and limit our sugar intake, but this sound like it was a cost saving measure.
Watered down juice is fine, my family always watered our juice down. But fizzy drink and milk?!?
When you're poor you learn how to make things stretch. Maybe you should check your rich a*s priviledge.
Maybe you can explain nicely, without being unnecessarily rude.
Load More Replies...At my Mom’s cousin’s house, you are not allowed to sleep on the couch. They never had an answer why, just because.
Well, people don't sleep on my couch, so clearly I'm also a freaky crazy weirdo
Why did these people have children if they were just going to abuse them?
These weren't as abusive as past posts like this have been. Most were just weird about not wanting kids to use certain words or read Harry Potter etc.
Load More Replies...This isn’t exactly a rule but my mother hates it when I talk about anything happening more than a 100 years in the future because she has a weird belief that the world goes through a 5000 year old cycle and that the cycle will restart in the next 50 years. She gets very mad at me when I talk about the dinosaurs, the universe’s past, any culture not related to India, the future of the universe, aliens etc.
I always look at these threads expecting some amusing anecdotes and it ends up being largely full on abuse ☹️. I need to stop reading these.
i always expect abuse. That's why I read thee, I want to be prepared to help
Load More Replies...My daughter is 16. My rules for her friends are: no drugs and no swearing. (I don't expect them to not swear in life, just not at my house). Eat what you want, watch what you want, clean up after yourself... oh! And you have to say hello when you come in and goodbye when you leave.
For me the saddest part is that those kids not entirely understand how wrong all those situations are… Even in comments saw some mentioning stuff about their homes like it is normal/common thing to do to kids… So some of those kids don’t escape it even when they grow up. I would say that there should be a psych evaluation before having kids or when having kids, but abusers usually know that it’s wrong and not normal and they would change behavior. Another thought. Please don’t tell me that no one saw what it’s going on… Someone knew what was happening and just went with “not my business”, “not my kids”… It is horrifying to know how many there are such kids that experience this or even much worse abuse and there is no one to help them out or explain how it is wrong…
Ja. Men i vardagsmun nuförtiden använder ingen jäkel och menar djävul
My dad, who goes to a week-long bluegrass festival every year, developed a pathological aversion to porty-potties. So one year, he just chugged an entire bottle of Imodium so he wouldn't have to use the porty-potty for a week, and wound up in the hospital with an intestinal blockage that almost killed him. Now my sister rents a motorhome for him every year, so he can have his own private toilet.
No wonder there's so many f**ked up kids in the world. Don't people realize everything you do effects a kid even the screwed up s**t. It effects them terribly.
Why did these people have children if they were just going to abuse them?
These weren't as abusive as past posts like this have been. Most were just weird about not wanting kids to use certain words or read Harry Potter etc.
Load More Replies...This isn’t exactly a rule but my mother hates it when I talk about anything happening more than a 100 years in the future because she has a weird belief that the world goes through a 5000 year old cycle and that the cycle will restart in the next 50 years. She gets very mad at me when I talk about the dinosaurs, the universe’s past, any culture not related to India, the future of the universe, aliens etc.
I always look at these threads expecting some amusing anecdotes and it ends up being largely full on abuse ☹️. I need to stop reading these.
i always expect abuse. That's why I read thee, I want to be prepared to help
Load More Replies...My daughter is 16. My rules for her friends are: no drugs and no swearing. (I don't expect them to not swear in life, just not at my house). Eat what you want, watch what you want, clean up after yourself... oh! And you have to say hello when you come in and goodbye when you leave.
For me the saddest part is that those kids not entirely understand how wrong all those situations are… Even in comments saw some mentioning stuff about their homes like it is normal/common thing to do to kids… So some of those kids don’t escape it even when they grow up. I would say that there should be a psych evaluation before having kids or when having kids, but abusers usually know that it’s wrong and not normal and they would change behavior. Another thought. Please don’t tell me that no one saw what it’s going on… Someone knew what was happening and just went with “not my business”, “not my kids”… It is horrifying to know how many there are such kids that experience this or even much worse abuse and there is no one to help them out or explain how it is wrong…
Ja. Men i vardagsmun nuförtiden använder ingen jäkel och menar djävul
My dad, who goes to a week-long bluegrass festival every year, developed a pathological aversion to porty-potties. So one year, he just chugged an entire bottle of Imodium so he wouldn't have to use the porty-potty for a week, and wound up in the hospital with an intestinal blockage that almost killed him. Now my sister rents a motorhome for him every year, so he can have his own private toilet.
No wonder there's so many f**ked up kids in the world. Don't people realize everything you do effects a kid even the screwed up s**t. It effects them terribly.
