Fellas, is it feminine to respect others?
What makes someone a “real man” is up for debate. Is it having an expensive car? Being great at football? Spending your weekends fishing and drinking beer? Or looking down on artists, vegetarians and anyone else who hasn’t pumped their veins full of toxic masculinity?
We all know clinging onto rigid, outdated ideas of what it means to be a man is ridiculous. Well, most of us know that. But for some reason, there are still people out there trying to gatekeep masculinity, so today, we’re calling them out. From making up rules about what kinds of cars men are allowed to have to claiming that guys aren’t allowed to take naps (We all get sleepy, don’t we?!), down below, we’ve gathered some of the most arbitrary restrictions placed upon men that have been shared in Gatekeeping subreddit.
Be sure to upvote the posts you find most absurd, and don’t forget to press the button hard and fast. Just like a real man would! Then, if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article highlighting how ridiculous toxic masculinity is, check out this story next!
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Bones For Boners
Men who know how to use their hips in everyday life, probably know how to use them in bed, too. Hence why men who can dance are so sought-after.
Yeah Screw Modern Safety Regulations!! I'd Rather Die An Unrecognizable Heap Of Flesh Tangled In A 2 Ton Machine Than Risk My Masculinity Being Questioned!
Also like a "real man" you won't know what killed you as you don't clean your windows.
Their skull cavity was pretty empty to begin with, so fitting in an airbag was no problem
Load More Replies...I would bet both kidneys it is ironic. And if I am wrong I will die like a man. (That's why I wouldn't bet my nuts. Dying without the boys is not dying like a man.)
Load More Replies...This might be tongue-in-cheek from someone who can't afford/doesn't want to trade in their old truck.
Aw come on; this isn't like refusing to wear seat belts. This very old car simply doesn't have airbags. This (probably) isn't toxic masculinity, it's black humor. And I find it funny, actually.
Gatekeeping Masculinity Over Hairstyles
vikings had man buns and you don't get more man than viking, so f**k off.
Yes I grew my hair and wore a man bun for a year and didn’t care what people like this thought and then happily donated to a cancer charity for wigs.
In Māori culture the top knot/manbun/putikitiki is a sign of strength, so yeah..nah. my ancestors would be proud
Okay, so we're all in agreement, man buns have been worn for centuries, across the entire globe, by some incredibly badass groups of men, and that a man bun does not in any way reduce your masculinity....and that they're gross. 🤣
No we are not all in agreement, that they are gross. I like them
Load More Replies...Wolves are smarter than this idiot so they would recognise a lot of their descendents have safe homes, plenty of food, lots of happy walks, important jobs and loving packs.
I was just talking about the fact that my tiny little Maltese poodle's ancestors would be proud that he has 5 people waiting on his every beck and call xD
Load More Replies...OK, I am not a fan of Men Buns. However, just like with many other things like Tattoos, piercings, skirts, etc. , I simply don't wear one and I don't judge those who do. I especially don't care about their virility or masculinity. In fact, I think that if I did, iot would probably be to cover some kind of deep insecurity.
I don't care for man buns out of preference, but it does make me ponder if men see women's buns the same way. Either way, this policing of what men do with their hair is just as toxic as telling women what to do with their hair. Double standards, I guess.
Nobody likes to be placed in a box. But unfortunately, society loves to put everyone in boxes. Men might have more privilege than women in many places, but that doesn’t make them immune to the harm of toxic masculinity. The idea that a woman must be a certain way works in the opposite direction as well. Men are expected to be strong, take up space, be unafraid of anything, be unemotional and apparently, they’re not allowed to enjoy self-care or anything relaxing. We know that guys are just as capable as women of being sensitive, emotional, artistic, and loving, but some people seem to ignore that idea and equate masculinity with loud cars that pollute the earth and eating mass quantities of meat.
My partner self identifies as a “soy boy” because we don’t eat meat, and instead eat a lot of tofu and tempeh, but this phrase has been used as an insult by many men who seem to be a bit less confident in their masculinity. The idea that eating soy products makes someone less of a man or that it lowers testosterone levels (it doesn't) is just one of the arbitrary beliefs placed on men to try to keep them in a box and narrow the definition of masculinity. This list is full of similar examples, so we hope you get a kick out of reading them, but it’s also a bit painful to realize that some people actually posted these ideas unironically…
You Simply Cannot Be Jacked And Smart At The Same Time. It Doesn't Work That Way
This comment earns a bro-fist 🤜 und should be higher ^^
Load More Replies...Probably both. They are bitter because they are neither.
Load More Replies...Jokes on you, I'm not muscular and can't speak a second language.
Not true. My father was a professional wrestler and read poetry and was an engineer. The world needs more men like him.
Gatekeeping Masculinity As It Relates To... Car Features
Can’t up vote this enough. Great to use on the way to the gym to loosen up
Load More Replies...And hypothermia isn’t as cool as you think it is, Kevin. Why are you wearing clothes like a little bìtch? Can’t you handle the cold like a real man, Kevin?
Load More Replies...Now there's a man who never strayed further from their Arizona home than the next Walmart. Let me rephrase your statement: As a grown a$$ man it's no reason for you to use AC. You think your wifey don't wanna see yo sweaty abs any more?
As a masculine man by boyfriend prefers my a*s cheeks toasty thank you very much
@Dan dude pls get a life your 'facts' arent even accurate... stop bringin down the mood pls
Load More Replies...Why don't you want toasty cheeks? You got no cheeks to toast huh? I got 99 problems but cheeks ain't one. Lol
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Yeah, only estrogen boys do the decent thing and put their empty cans in the yellow bin.
Load More Replies...Is this some b******t like a dude not washing his butt crack in the shower because it's gay to touch a man's a r s e, even your own?
Maybe it’s not b******t.(?) I seriously listened to a bunch of women at work have a conversation about “skid marks” & why their mens’ dirty underwear was so nasty 😷🤭🤢 UGH
Load More Replies...Yeah, real manly men don't recycle cuz they melt down all the metal and glass in their home made forge they built in the basement and make swords and other things with it. /S/
They are operating on a double fallacy here: (1) that people think recycling is gay and (2) that people think about them.
Wow, this is just pitiful. Are some men that insecure in their masculinity that they believe helping the environment is "gay"?
Planet husbandry - gay! Animal husbandry - gay! Oh hold on, that's farming, isn't that normally considered manly. ...so dumb!
Sounds like a clickbait BS study. Alternate view - I'm not a real man because I recycle and compost. How about... real men do not care whether or not you think they are gay?
Yeah because being selfish and obnoxious and not caring if you leave the world an unhabitable wasteland for your children is so much more manly.
Uh huh... It must be fun for the men that live wherever this is an issue.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I hope it goes without saying that it is perfectly fine to be a guy who really does love football, cars, fishing, drinking beers, fixing cars, eating steak and working out. Plenty of people enjoy these things, regardless of their gender! But the point is that we have to understand that these are not gender-specific interests. Plenty of women know how to fix up a car, and plenty of guys don’t. That doesn’t change their gender identity one bit. And we can’t look down on anyone else who doesn’t share the same interests we do. We’re all free to choose how we like to spend our time, but deciding to expend energy shaming others is just a waste of time.
Just like strict gender roles and expectations can have a negative impact on women, the same can be said for men. Toxic masculinity is often used to perpetuate ideas such as “boys will be boys”, allowing boys and men to get away with inappropriate behavior because that’s just how they are! They can’t help it! The pressure to look and act a certain way can also have devastating effects on the mental health of boys and men. When they’re taught they can’t share their emotions or open up, it’s easy for their internal struggles to go unnoticed and unaddressed.
Why Drive A Small, Affordable, Efficient Car When Bigger = Betterer ??
Running costs, efficiency, easier to park, easier to navigate traffic. Where do I begin?
Because I don't need to compensate for anything. I also like people to be able to see past my car.
Load More Replies...Good for you. A lot of women know what the size (or noise) is compensating for.
Load More Replies...Everyone needs to drive a vehicle, even the very tall. This was the largest auto that I could afford. Should I, therefore, be made the subject of fun?
I guess so? (Also damn you for beating me to it!)
Load More Replies...Because,if it has some pep,its like driving a street legal go-kart.
I have a family to feed and I'd rather a small vehicle and great food than a small d**k and large truck. Hey, if you're that rich a*****e, be my guest but I make do with what I have and for my family.
Literally every man trying to be “manly” drives a truck that takes up like 5 parking spots
My Masculinity Is Defined By My Inability To Read
Hell, try just building an Ikea bookcase without instructions!
Load More Replies...These so-called "real men" are the reasons why so many products have ridiculously obvious instructions.
LOL. And "real men" also do not have to wear shirts advertising the fact that they are "real men"....A true king never has to tell his subjects he is king.
Load More Replies...Real men learn to read the instructions after they are left with 9 bolts still.
Lifehack! 2 hours of trial on error can save up to 5 minutes of manual reading. I tried it, it works!
Yeah...usually when the product built either has NO resemblance to what is required or is so appallingly unsafe or rickety (me)
Load More Replies...There are many articles on BP showing examples of the results. Their titles always start with "Funny" or "Horrible" for some reason
Loud Cars Are The Peak Of Masculinity
Gentlemen, if you feel the need to have a bigger exhaust pipe so your girlfriend can hear you from 4 blocks away, you're compensating for something and she's probably disappointed.
My neighbor's daughter's boyfriend drops her off in the middle of the night like six times a week and his stupid car gets half our house shaking. He's woken up the baby on more than one occasion. I'm about one more 2 am incident away from stealing every lug nut on that shitbox.
Banans in the exhaustpipe takes away a lot of the sound
Load More Replies...Yes, because girlfriends don't shout from 4 blocks away. They know you can't hear them.
Lol... if you drive a loud car... I will immediately dump you. Noise pollution isn't attractive. You could be the coolest person in the world. But the second I see that... I know everything I need to about you & I don't like you anymore. There are few things that are less attractive than a person who has to disturb everyone else just so they can draw attention to themselves.. especially when they have no redeeming qualities so the only way they can get attention is by being obnoxious. No thanks. Plus... now I know you're over compensating for something.
The only reason your girlfriend likes to hear you from 4 blocks away is so she can get her side piece with the ACTUAL big d**k out the door before your dumb a** gets home!
Oh I can hear him from 4 blocks away, singing with our daughter - like a real man!
10/10 comment. Underated and I completely agree
Load More Replies...“Men tend to keep so much bottled up inside. This includes all the traumas and heart-breaking moments. Eventually there has to be a release. And too often that is in an explosive way,” says Ron Blake, a social justice activist and public speaker. When men aren’t taught how to express their emotions, they can become overwhelmed easily when they don’t know what to do with their feelings. This can lead to expressions of physical violence, such as sexual violence, domestic abuse, gun violence or physical dominance. When kept on the inside, these undealt feelings often manifest in depression, addiction or even suicide. It’s dangerous for everyone to impose rigid views of masculinity.
Napping Is A Female Thing
my dad, who has been happily married to my mom for thirty years, just went to the bedroom take a nap. poor mom's in for a surprise when he comes out
Soldiers take naps whenever they can. But try calling a company of marines gay...
Oooooooo so napping is what turned me gay!!!!!! Finally mystery solved, anyways ima take a nap...maybe I'll wake up a drag queen?!?!? I'll let you all know after!!
The fact there are no comments on this-this is messed up wth-REAL MEN get tired
Is there an age limit on these? I'm fairly certain my WWII veteran grandfather was taking naps in the latter years of his life because he died in his 70's. Do you stop being a real man after serving your country and aging gracefully, and then changing your sexual orientation because you made it to old age?
i mean thats how i became gay. i just woke up and i was a raging homosexual
Apparently How You Eat Your Steak Determines Your Level Of Masculinity
I just bite on live cattle grazing. Tarzan is how hardware store employees refer to me.
i eat it well done cuz i hate red in my meat
Load More Replies...I’m more of a Favourite Taylor Swift kind of steak myself. So I guess I’m the problem, it’s me
always stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror
Load More Replies...Heyyy- taylor swift is amazing ok? Dont come at her like that :(
Arggggghhh! Must...not... have...dirty .....thoughts....AAARRRRGGGG!!!
Load More Replies...I'm female and I like my steak like the topmost piece - does that mean I'm masculine? XD
Ask them if that makes you a trans man and explode their heads!
Load More Replies...So burning your steak is super masculine, and eating it raw is super feminine? Hardware store employees in my country are usually women. What does this mean? I am confused.
I believe it is the opposite way around. If you order your steak over done they believe that you are a wimpy pushover that lets you kids walk over you. Whereas, if you order your steak raw and mooing like a manly many with muscles on his muscles than all the employees at a hardware store bow down to you because you are the epitome of manliness. So outrageously stupid.
Load More Replies...I'm betting that this guy has sex like he has his steak - very rare.
Ok Boomer
I do both too and I'm female, does that mean I'm actually a man? XD
Load More Replies...Yea another thing that should be mandatory for getting a drivers licence, know how to check your car's fluids, brakes and Change a tire, minor things that any One can do, and can actually save your life in some cases...
if youre spending every weekend fixing your car, doesnt that probably mean you're a s****y driver, mechanic, and/or both?
Nah men did the upper until their kids were old enough to wash the car every weekend.
Because video games can be cheaper than a car and some parts depending on the car? I just did a search on local stores in my area (a Canadian Tire and a Game Stop). Cheapest tire I could find was $66.99 per tire, and if you need all four, that comes out to $267.96. Ontarian taxes (13%) make a set of tires easily go over $300. The average new video game (standard edition) is between $79.99 to $89.99 before taxes, or $90.39 to $101.69 after taxes. I could buy three video games, and in theory, still spend less than a set of tires.
Lots of guys still work on cars, but modern cars are almost impossible to work on and need a computer for most performance hacks. It's not the guys that have changed, it's the cars.
While men and women are both prone to struggling with mental health issues, men are far more likely to die by suicide and far less likely to utilize mental health services. So what should we be doing to combat this toxic masculinity? According to Mens Group, it’s important to first identify your role in these gender norms and what beliefs you hold that you want to challenge. “If you were abusive in your relationships, you need to learn better coping mechanisms and cope with anger,” Mens Group explains. “You can only find a way forward by first understanding where you are. It starts with self-examining your behavior and identifying areas that require positive change.”
Masculinity Gatekeeping
Why are so many of these writen by women, and why arent they laying incels since they clearly want that type?
Many of these were written by men as well. Society is brainwashed by the patriarchy. That's the point.
Load More Replies...Honestly the second kind sounds more fun. As long as I can at least have pics, I'm cool with it
Right?! Male underwear is so much worse at showcasing the booty, I totally understand why they'd want to try some sexy panties instead!
Load More Replies...Absolutely. There's nothing straighter than a whole team of sweaty, muscular men regularly getting in the shower together.
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Yeah, it sounds like the only fighting this guy is doing is choking his chicken to death and the urge to do it for the 9th time today.
Load More Replies...Ah yes, the truest sign of masculinity - seeking pleasure in the form of assaulting other people.
Definitely! I could practically feel the spit flying out of his mouth as he yells his masculinity manifesto!
Load More Replies...I need to tell him that in our country "Morphie" or "Moffie" means homosexual.
And they wonder why they’re still single? This is the reddest of flags, my dude.
Awwwww as someone with ADHD I absolutely love ur user! 💕
Load More Replies...I do not feel this "warrior urge" and I'm quite happy for it. I'm a lover not a fighter. Lol
Most of the fights I ever got into were in bars. Usually some little short dude that wants to prove something. Also, I didn't like getting into those fights. F**k you, Morpheus
Gatekeeping Skin Masculinity
30 years ago, the only people with tattoos could be roughly divided into the military and criminals. When your grandmother gets inked, it’s a sign that tattoos are now about as countercultural and rebellious as wearing red socks.
Used to work in criminal justice, and still firmly associate tattoos with criminals. I know, it is monstrously intolerant of me, but seeing young people with more ink on them than on a seasoned gangster, is off-putting.
Load More Replies...Umm, I don't care who has tattoos and who doesn't. I don't have any myself. However, I don't think a butterfly above my butt crack would make me any more masculine.
I got one specifically to look non-masculine and I'm a guy.
Load More Replies...I get tattoos because i like tattoos and if someone doesn't want any, i get that.
I have a skin condition which swells badly when heavily damaged, more than usual. So I can't even get tattoos!
Me, a tattooed woman, more masculine than untattooed men. According to nae
As a woman, why don’t you have a piercing? And you; as a civil engineer, why don’t you own a parakeet? I’m sorry? That’s not what we’re… Oh, I’m sorry; I thought we were combining random things for no discernible reason.
Mostly because i don't like them, and also Im not a big fan of wasting my money, but hey ... Thats just me.
Combating toxic masculinity will also likely lead to some difficult or uncomfortable conversations. “This is achievable by talking to people of the opposite gender identities and expressions,” Mens Group notes. “You need to talk about gender biases concerning masculinity. This will give you an understanding of how your behavior affects people of the opposite gender.”
“Men need to learn not to get defensive when having these difficult conversations. The aim of the talks should be to seek understanding, which helps to facilitate positive change.”
Fishing = Peak Masculinity
So you have homosexual tendencies towards guys who don't fish? If it's your thing...
I've always heard that if you can think of it,it's probably a kink for someone. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, more power to 'em.
Load More Replies...So, every single man who lives in an area where there aren't really any large lakes/rivers/oceans to fish in (say, desert areas) - instant automatic pansy?
Yes, they just aren't trying hard enough to be a real man /s
Load More Replies...Commercial fisherman in Alaska for 10 years. Catching one at a time from shore is the weakest flex.
Damn, that's where I went wrong. I always wondered why I suddenly turned into little debbie.
I Fish, Garden, Sew, Crochet and Hunt as well as know how to use a Chainsaw, what does That make me?
So Phones Determine Your Masculinity
Woohoo, I'm a REAL MAN! My husband is gonna be so confused when he realizes the mother of his children is actually a man.
Oh no, I thought that I had an Android because I'm an IT engineer and just know the benefits but now people might think I'm all about toxic masculinity.
Ok, many of these posts are really bad but this one is hilarious. What does this even mean?
It clearly means that I have to run and take a hammer to my husband's android asap, lest he leave the house and get swarmed by flocks of women mistaking him for being single!
Load More Replies...Well, his chances of having sex with an android are in fact vastly greater than his chances of having it with a girl.
So… you stop being a real man if you manage to get a woman? …I’m trying to reason in your own language, macho stupid, but alas I skipped a lot of classes in macho stupid. Everybody did, except for a few bruises and swollen testicles, everybody else absolutely hated it.
I'm android and so is my wife!! Wait... no, my wife is not an android... my pho... hers... Our phones are android and my wife is an alien!!
Thank you for clearing that up, I was really confused 😝
Load More Replies...I'm taking this as that women can have any phone they want as we weren't mentioned?
You Are Not A Man If You Have Blonde Hair, Apparently
This actually pisses me off. My dad was naturally blonde. He was Swedish by genetics/heritage. He was a good man and a great father. Eff you and your idiotic, nonsensical prejudices, Emmy.
i am naturally blond and so was my dad I am 15 he is 52
Load More Replies...Lol you'd be right. It's oral sex with lots of spilt
Load More Replies...Are you really going to tell me that Thor and Captain America aren't real men?
I mean.. they aren't rrrreal men- they are fictional. But Thor is a fine man :-)
Load More Replies...What.... what does it mean to "give sloppy top" and why does the image of lots of spit come to mind? 🤢
Just a guess, but I think it has setting to do with how they give Australian kisses?
Load More Replies...ah yes, that big girl Chris Hemsworth. https://i.insider.com/6377ac5f2c8b9a0018cb9a17?width=1000&format=jpeg
Obviously she's not a real woman with a shaved head and her dislike of skinheads!
Load More Replies...It’s important that we educate young boys that there really is no “box” they need to fit into. It’s all arbitrary. They can make their own decisions about what they are interested in and how they want to express themselves, and we should never make them feel guilty or looked down upon for showing emotions. Teach boys to help out around the house and in the kitchen just as much as their sisters, and teach them to respect all people, regardless of their gender, sexual orientation, interests, etc. Essentially, combating toxic masculinity should be as simple as raising boys and girls equally and never shaming boys for being themselves. But unfortunately, due to the way society currently is, it takes a bit of correcting past prejudices.
Fragile Masculinity
Why is it, that so many of this post, try to offend men by comparing them to women? Like, F you! The misogyny is crazy high.
Yup. LIke first off, a man is a man, regardless of what they do or how they act. Second, why is being a woman an insult?
Load More Replies...This is why we should not waste taxpayer dollars on gender reassignment. Instead of expensive drugs and surgery you can apparently accomplish the same things just by taking a nap, shaving off your beard, or putting your hands on your hips. /s
Excuse me - ofcource- standing is for us females, you men have to crawl around and suffer like REAL MEN/s
Load More Replies...How the hurt little boys inside these macho men are crying. Confused and alone, trying to cling to clichés of manliness and succeed only in making themselves a laughing stock. It’s sad, in a way, it really is.
But my hips are so conveniently placed! They're closer than my pockets!
I have a condition where my lower back is fused to my scrolic joint and it causes a fair bit of discomfort. I have 2 beautiful daughters and I often have my hands on my hips supporting my sore back but I assure you I am a man and a Dad these things can coexist you numbskull
But but but... It airs out my stinky man pits though! Old spice got nothing on this backward-hand, hip-hugging, robust-musk, mega-man!
Ever Had Your Masculinity And Eating Habits Gatekept By A Bottle Of Cheap Hot Sauce?
Urgh, most of these type of sauces just taste like corn syrup and capsaicin with liquid smoke flavour.
Don't forget to add a healthy dose of mayonnaise.
Load More Replies...It's true! I once accidentally ate men's hot sauce and automatically grew a beard whilst an axe and a beer appeared in my hands out of nowhere.
Load More Replies...Good thing I grow my own peppers and make my own hot sauce. To be enjoyed by whatever you identify as
I've had this, it's actually really s**t. as in, it's absolutely awful. must be because I'm not a man.
The bottom line, “Meat is for men, vegetables are for cows!” Sounds really healthy, but also what are women and children supposed to eat?
In my family - sausages and salad. If there's any steak left after the men, then the teenage boys eat enough then the women can have some, then the teenage girls, then the younger children.
Load More Replies...What happens when women eat it? Do they die or do they turn into men?
Gee, they've eliminated 50% of potential buyers by gender and another 40% by IQ. What marketing!
Gatekeeping Fatherhood, Masculinity, All Sorts Really
Why the random font change for the 's'? Makes a cringe item even more cringe!
My grandma was a "beard" for her second husband... Does this make her qualified?
The Book of Man also notes that when fighting toxic masculinity, one great step is to dare to be vulnerable with your male friends, to show them that it’s okay and even welcomed. “Show strength by crying. Do this in the knowledge that all men go through emotional difficulties. Daily!” they write. “It’s true that if one man shows it’s okay to do something, we, as pack animals, tend to follow. So open up yourself, and become that person your friends open up to too. Men tend to either keep emotional traumas to themselves or go for female support. While the latter is a wonderful thing, surely we can make a decision to serve that support role to our buddies too. But it takes a hardy soul to stick their neck above the parapet first to see if we’re in the clear to do so. Be that soul.”
Gate Keeping Masculinity
My father failed at life and I can drive manual. Wonder where that falls on the scale.
I'm a woman and I drive a manual. Does that mean I'm actually a man? If so, that's going to be a LOT of paperwork.
Load More Replies...What the f*#k is a standard vehicle! If you can't refer to a manual car by the correct term then maybe it's time to learn better use of words. ...but then again maybe toxic masculinity doctrine demands that you keep hitting yourself in the head with a rock until you can't learn anything more.
Standard has been used to refer to manuals since at least the 60s
Load More Replies...Ok, but these days your standard vehicle is an automatic, and the newer cars are letting you have less and less control while driving (at least where I live). I even heard some blasphemy the other day that they're developing "smart" cars that have a play stick shift in them, probably so idiots like this will be pacified with pretending to be in control
Mine’s a 2015 and a 6 speed. A real 6 speed. Although, I did have to order it from the factory. I refuse to own an automatic, until my knee gives out.
Load More Replies...everyone wants you to learn how to drive a stick shift, but no one wants you to practice on their car. hmmmmmm
Because no one wants to have to replace the clutch or transmission. I want my son to learn on mine, but it’s 8 yrs old now and I’d feel better if was serviced before and after I teach him.
Load More Replies...To be fair driving manual is fun!!!that being said I know many men that is 10X more manly than me and they can't do it...
If you're a male and can't respect people different than you please turn in your man card and tell your father he failed in life.
I like how they got the apostrophe in "you're" right, but not in "can't" 👍
Gatekeeping Masculinity
Or maybe a man raised by a woman (or women) knows how to respect women and treat them right?
I ain't taking anyone's opinion with a grain of salt if they are called "Man Eater"
My Dad died when I was 11, so was raised by my mum, had to fight my own battles in life with no advice from a father figure, my poor mum had no idea how to deal with me when I was a teenager. I've learned to be self reliant and resilient, I love how these girls think so much of themselves that they'll analyse a man that way and dismiss him for some that's really irrelevant.
Gatekeeping Masculinity
According to an earlier post this guy should be using an Android phone! 🤣
And don’t stop questioning why things are the way they are. Because often, there’s not a great reason. “It’s a bloodless revolution,” The Book of Man writes. “A revolution in the head, but not in the inward looking way it was in the Sixties, because you want to effect lasting change, and not be naked all the time. Question the way we are brought up, question the systems of power, question how you are being controlled, question all thinking about being a man. Seek some answers for yourself and take responsibility. The end to toxic masculinity has to be started by men so it becomes socially unacceptable. Let’s start the change now.”
Gatekeeping Sports And Masculinity
if someone is right near you adn you have agun and they are about to kill you and you have the perfect defense when you shoot them. your gay if you do
Load More Replies...Long range shooting is for little school girls, real MEN use a knife, and look the Enemy right in the eyes wille they stab them, and then they take a pee on their Enemy corpse to assert dominance.....( Yes Im kidding )
A real man would never touch a knife. He will tear the limbs from his enemy's body barehanded then use those to bludgeon him
Load More Replies...guns hurr durr guns (also IS THAT A BARRETT M82?! dude, no normal human owns/fires a Barrett as a hobby. That's a "Murica HELL YEAH" gun.)
Dunno if it's a Barrett M82, but it looks like it costs several dollars per round to shoot.
Load More Replies...if you need a gun to feel manly, safe and secure, it really says a lot about how weak you actually are.
Firearm to feel secure? That is the primary purpose. Secondary: harvesting food. Manly isn't even on the list.
Load More Replies...Killing - for no reason - a living being from the longest and safest possible distance. The epitome of cowardliness.
Yeah, back in the day the point of hunting a wolf or a lion or something was to show your strength and courage because you proved you could do it with just you, the ferocious beast, and a spear. Blowing the poor thing away from atop an armoured vehicle or whatever doesn't prove anything except how pathetic you are. (Killing an inedible predator is of course wrong regardless, but I think you get my point).
Load More Replies...The manliest man that has ever maned. Real men (and women) play putt putt.
Load More Replies...So it's tougher and more "manly" to kill something from way off instead of up close and personal where it might get the chance to fight back? I'm picking up some minor inconsistencies with this story.
This is Juan. Juan is an incel. I gave him a fifteen minute head start across the green. Sadly, I missed the birdie and putt a hole in Juan instead.
Most of these p**s me off. As it happens, I like shooting and I don't like Golf. However, if that puts me at a level with people that write this s**t, I may need to reconsider.
Fragile Masculinity Gatekeeping Boxes
I have a junk drawer full of tools, fish hooks, and random paperclips... that USED to be in a box. Does that count?
I guess I’m a real man then. Ignore the fact that I’ve always been a woman and my two tackle boxes are filled with beads and sewing equipment. Much more useful than staring at water all day and hopelessly trying to get a fish to pay attention to you, only to stab it in the mouth and throw it back in.
Imagine Gatekeeping Shoes As A Sign Of Masculinity
Have people who post this stuff actually worn a suit and tie for over 8 hours a day? I hate ties with a passion
Same here, I feel like I am being strangled if I wear a tie and/or have my top button done up. But since the pandemic I have not worn my smart work clothes.
Load More Replies...No no no..Real men wear steel toe work boots. All the time and for every occasion, weddings, funerals, it doesn't matter. They even wear them in bed just in case they need the added traction during bedroom fun. /S/
I'd rather see sneakers than the crocs I see everyone wearing >_< I hate crocs with a passion.
I wear Allbirds and if anyone has a problem with that, they can pry them off my cold, dead feet.
Real men pay hundreds of dollars more for the same shoe! You can't fool us!
Haha, my dad had one pet peeve he mentioned every holiday or bday. He always reminded us to never buy him a pair of pleated dockers. Like someone was gonna do that to terrorize the poor man. He was seriously worried, like a phobia. He went thru life in ripped jeans, Hanes white undershirts and Kmart sneakers, all of it splattered in paint. and built beautiful houses for a living. He did this to save every penny possible because he wanted to give us the best life possible, as he grew up beyond poverty stricken. He was the real-est man I've ever known, and he gave us an incredible life. But the long running joke was that we might one day buy him those dreaded dockers, and he'd be forced to wear them, smiling. Because real men act like they love each gift their silly kids give them, whether it's a few popsicle sticks glued together, a terribly drawn portrait by a toddler, or pleated dockers. He'd have smiled with class and Said "I love it baby, thank you!" Real men are good men. Period.
According to this list, men must have beards, have loud, large cars, be great at fishing, play sports, must eat meat, must not recycle, must not wear sneakers, must never take naps, must have tattoos, must not have an iPhone, along with much more… It is exhausting even reading this list, let alone trying to live in a way that conforms to these silly ideas. I hope all of you pandas know that, regardless of your gender, you can behave however you like. As long as you respect others, how you dress and what hobbies you choose to have are completely up to you. A real man is someone who identifies as a man! Keep upvoting the posts you find most comical, and then if you’re interested in reading another article discussing toxic masculinity, look no further than right here.
Being A Man
Yup, there's room for most of these things in the same life, they don't need to be mutually exclusive. The only one I'd want rid of is 'conformity'.
Load More Replies...I thought beer was manly!! And reading and love were gay!!
A few of these I could get behind, and a few others are half right. Learning to respond instead of react is very important for a maturing adult, as is replacing lust with love. Then a few others are half right: reading, thinking, exercise and meditation are all healthy habits for an adult (of either gender). You don't necessarily need to give up video games completely to read more, one can do both....though probably not at the same time.
"conforming with thinking" Wonder what the Oath Keepers and Proud boys think of that...oops they conform
Gatekeeping Masculinity And Trailer Hitches
Damn, and i had just gotten used to the fact that it's hip to be square.
Load More Replies...Why do I need a boyfriend to tell me the chain is hooked to the pin? This list is all kinds of sexist.
I suspect that this guy knows a lot more about trailer hitches than he does about girlfriends. Because he's had a trailer hitch.
Nope. He's an idjit. That safety chain is not going to keep the trailer with the tow vehicle in mishap. It should be bolted to frame. It's also too rusty to trust.
Load More Replies...I can guess what's wrong but I'm not absolutely sure - am I now bi-curious? I've never towed a trailer before (gay) but I can use a chainsaw without any training (straight) but I first learnt how to do so safely (?). These rules are so confusing!
There's a lot of problems going on there. Wth is going on with the harness? Where's your safety pin for that trailer tongue?? OP might have to rethink his masculinity /S
The chain is hooked to the pin that keeps the hitch attached to the car. If the trailer hits a bump and pulls the pin out, the hitch will come out and you will be sans a trailer. The chain should be hooked to the car.
Load More Replies...Woman here. Your chain is connected to your cotter pin. The wiring harness on the ground is also concerning for anyone behind you. Where do we go from here?
Because Driving What You Enjoy Is Shameful
These guys are going to faint when they find out fire trucks are automatic.
dude, i drove a semi with an automatic. don't tell them...
Load More Replies...Bit off track, but up until 10 years ago I had only driven standard cars. When my boyfriend and I first started dating he asked me to drive his car because he was tired. His car was an automatic and it took me a while to stop driving with 2 feet and shifting into nuetral haha. Also, I guess, based on this logic, I'm a man and my boyfriend is a woman. 🙄
Perhaps a considerate one. When you are stopped at lights at night, you aren't sat with your foot on the brake blinding the drivers behind you with your brakelights. I've only ever owned manual cars, but have on occasion had to drive an auto, and I would always take it out of drive if I was going to be stopped more than a few moments.
Load More Replies...I don't see this as a "man" one. This had a factual basis but with modern technology it is less of an issue. The "joke" or idea here as I read it is - it is a waste of money to have a powerful sports car but then down power it by having an automatic transmission. Again though, tech has improved. There are now what you might call racing or muscle car automatics. But back when most cars were manual and automatic transmissions were just becoming more common, you took a hit on both power and gas mileage by having automatic.
That's part of it. A sports car is considered to be less regulated, more on its own physics alone, a more directly driven car. Power steering was frowned upon until the eighties, too, and that, I understand, as a sports car is supposed to be light in weight, and therefore, anything not aboard is an improvement, and a car heavy enough to really NEED a power steering can't really be considered anything else than a truck. Efficiency, still, is highest with manual transmission - or internally similar transmission regardless of mode of operation - but as automatic tend to have more steps nowadays, they can come close to the optimal line of operation, even more so during driving cycles measuring mileage or so, and therefore, consume less on paper at least, in reality sometimes. Anyway, sports cars, where the driving and not arriving is the main reason to drive, having a less comfortable, less clottered, less-doing vehicle, I prefer too. If I drive for fun, I prefer that. If I drive to arrive? I don't care ... not that much workload to change gears ... but if the car does on its own, so shall it do...
Load More Replies...I mean it is mad to get an automatic sports car. Sports cars are all about performance right? And an automatic just can't deliver that. Nothing to do with masculinity - this applies to men and women
It's more about "interacting with a machine that doesn't think, interpret, or act on its own whatsoever", a Dumb Device, so to say. A nonsync gearbox is a nice thing, too - but ultimately, you drive a fullsync one no different in order to switch fast and free of damage. I drive a Mini, and changing gears there can be done three ways: Slow - letting the sync to its thing; fast with double-clutching - what's to say there anyway... ; or fast, and destructive - what's to say there, anyway again, that's not to be done. I like that having a little set of abilities that everyone can learn sufficiently within a day is required to make the best use of the machinery, and not just hitting a button and some computer takes over to adjust my gearboxes' state of operation. I like that changing gears while getting slower depends on how well I perform, and that said thing is totally internalized, automatically happens without me thinking about it whatsoever. And, whatever I do and the car don't, is something that won't add to the car's weight. Of all the comfy automation aboard a currently made car, the sheer amount of electric motors, spiral gears, sensors, fail-safe attempts (that not always work out) and whatnot is kinda sickening... All that material, all that mass that is to be moved with the rest of the car at all times, ... man, we're nuts with that much stuff, meant to carry our own a*s on our behalf, ...
Load More Replies...18-wheelers are now automatic! But I’m sure if this guy drive one, it would be a noisy old Kenworth with a 50-lb shift “k**b” that touches the ceiling.
This Man Has A Comic Book Character Pfp, Btw
I love these kind of texting reminds me on how inferior certain people are and how much they're pretty much some s**t wrong with their brains
So Much Bs Toxic Masculinity In This, Glad I'm Not A "Real Man"
Wait, I thought real men were supposed to have beards, and that shaving was "gay"! Now they say to use straight shavers, and an e-book! Aren't e-books "gay" too? I'm really confused now on how to be a real man! It's making me giddy!
According to rule #29 saying „giddy” has disqualified anything you’re saying so now none of these things are gay, real men aren’t supposed to have beards and you’re 100% sure on how to be a real man. Woohoo!
Load More Replies...I shave with a piece of broken glass from the bottle I just smashed over my head
Glass? That's rich. We use bits of flint, though for a close shave we splash gasoline on our chins and set afire to the beard.
Load More Replies...It's a "straight RAZOR" and if you don't learn how to shave with it correctly, you will slit your own throat. Source of information; my grandfather born in 1889 and he was a journeyman barber.
There are 2 types now. Shavette with changeable razor blade, and the all steel razor. I got some nicks with my shavette, but nothing bad.
Load More Replies...You pussy, a real MAN shaves with a razor sharp manchete. ( Reminds me a shaving cream add that Gillette did a wille ago, alas it was pulled back, but it was frikking hilarious, a bunch of dudes dressed like loggers, going on to a cabine in a Snow blizzard, and then you are the " Barber " using a chain saw to shave the dudes )
Scene from Crocodile Dundee - he shaves with safety razor, but when the woman character approached he pulled out knife and pretends to shave.
Load More Replies...“Manlygroomer?” Aren’t you the old guy who kept offering me a six-pack when I was 14?
Ah yes, hair stylists advising on masculinity. Me thinks they have a chip on their shoulder.
I used to shave with a straight razor when I was in the Army. F**k that! I love 5 blade razors. When I used a straight razor I always looked like I was in a catfight with a Leopard.
Gatekeeping Whatever Tf This Is
Bolt from an AR-15 / M16. Any man or woman who spent time in the military recognizes it (and has spent hours cleaning it!)
interesting, I assumed it was part of a vehicle transmission.
Load More Replies...An automatic gun is the GAYEST form of weapon. Everyone knows that real men brawl in the nude with their bare fists, just like our ancestors.
Man here - each and every one of these posts makes me sick. If you don't operate something with your d**k, then it doesn't matter what your gender is. It's simply irrelevant to damn near everything. Why are people so wrapped up in this c**p? It's not like birth as *any sex or gender* was your choice beforehand, so confirmation bias is just stupid. If you strive to be a good person who relieves suffering when and as you can, then you're succeeding as a human, in my book. Life is really difficult for so many humans, and creating intellectual logjam like these doesn't confirm you are a "Man," it just confirms that you're a jackass.
I say guns are for women, a real man would have a recurve bow with an 80lbs max draw. /s
Bah, little boys use such bows. Real men go for 120lbs /s
Load More Replies...If your boyfriend doesn't know what this is, they are not from USA?
Ah, yes; what could I possibly look for in a man if not violence and creepy obsession with murder weapons? Nothing says “catch” quite like a pathological fascination with things designed for the single purpose of killing people.
Ammosexuals... Ha! Love it. (Now if you'll excuse me I have reloading to do. Cheers!)
Load More Replies...I went through these and, in conclusion, have no interest in being a "real man".
„Real man“ don‘t need your approval. They just crawl their beard and sort their toolbox or whatever.
Load More Replies...@VonBlade, my husband doesn't "conform" but is a man. He is, specifically, *my* man and I love him because he's not the incel-misogynist-weird-AF "man" these people think he should be. He's my personal hero, and I am glad he doesn't conform. I don't conform to all female gender stereotypes, either, and so we match :-)
Load More Replies...Holy guacamole, the misogyny in this post is off the chart! I can’t believe people question the need for feminism when boys grow up being told at every turn that anything they do is ‘gay’ and ‘girly’.
Men, as long as you are a decent human being, your hobbies, preferences, looks, cars, don't make me think any less of you, or make me feel that you are unmanly. Paint your nails, collect miniature trains, become a bodybuilder, make a pink bicycle your main mode of transport, watch cartoons, drink hot chocolate wirh sprinkles, grow a beard that reaches your knees, love music that everyone hates, or just be as average and mainstream as can be. If you embrace what you truly like, that is the coolest asset you can have.
@Dan Dilly, your comments are now cracking me up, thank you for the laughs. And it's not medical. I am an MD, and you can't run that past me without my calling bullsh*t. I've had and I've treated frostbite and hypothermia. Your "real man" status doesn't do a da*n thing against either. You can make what jokes you want (I pray they're jokes) but you don't get to throw around that BS and say it's "medical".
Load More Replies...Okay, okay. Now let's talk about what makes a real man. As a real man myself, I have all the fûckíng expertise I need to talk about this. First: exist. Second: identify as a man. Third: don't be so insecure about your own masculinity that you start gatekeeping what a real man is, that's pathetic. And now crack open a beer. Or a prosecco. Or tea. Whatever floats your boat I guess.
And that’s the tea, folks. This. Insecure men braying about masculinity is the absolute biggest turnoff in existence. The… biggest.
Load More Replies...Real men die at 35 of heart disease, cancer, emphysema, stroke and diseases that can be treated with vaccines. Just like their forefathers. Who were dumber than we are today.
This whole thread was about a bunch of homophobes who also hate women- ironically. Why are female things so bad to some men? I don't understand how we aren't supposed to be afraid or hate men when they have no problem telling you regularly that they hate everything about you. And that you should hate everything about you. And that you are lesser than them.
I hear you, but if also like to point out how much of this men hear from women. It's honestly disturbing how much stereotyping is done by both sexes to both sexes out of insecurity about themselves.
Load More Replies...I went through these and, in conclusion, have no interest in being a "real man".
„Real man“ don‘t need your approval. They just crawl their beard and sort their toolbox or whatever.
Load More Replies...@VonBlade, my husband doesn't "conform" but is a man. He is, specifically, *my* man and I love him because he's not the incel-misogynist-weird-AF "man" these people think he should be. He's my personal hero, and I am glad he doesn't conform. I don't conform to all female gender stereotypes, either, and so we match :-)
Load More Replies...Holy guacamole, the misogyny in this post is off the chart! I can’t believe people question the need for feminism when boys grow up being told at every turn that anything they do is ‘gay’ and ‘girly’.
Men, as long as you are a decent human being, your hobbies, preferences, looks, cars, don't make me think any less of you, or make me feel that you are unmanly. Paint your nails, collect miniature trains, become a bodybuilder, make a pink bicycle your main mode of transport, watch cartoons, drink hot chocolate wirh sprinkles, grow a beard that reaches your knees, love music that everyone hates, or just be as average and mainstream as can be. If you embrace what you truly like, that is the coolest asset you can have.
@Dan Dilly, your comments are now cracking me up, thank you for the laughs. And it's not medical. I am an MD, and you can't run that past me without my calling bullsh*t. I've had and I've treated frostbite and hypothermia. Your "real man" status doesn't do a da*n thing against either. You can make what jokes you want (I pray they're jokes) but you don't get to throw around that BS and say it's "medical".
Load More Replies...Okay, okay. Now let's talk about what makes a real man. As a real man myself, I have all the fûckíng expertise I need to talk about this. First: exist. Second: identify as a man. Third: don't be so insecure about your own masculinity that you start gatekeeping what a real man is, that's pathetic. And now crack open a beer. Or a prosecco. Or tea. Whatever floats your boat I guess.
And that’s the tea, folks. This. Insecure men braying about masculinity is the absolute biggest turnoff in existence. The… biggest.
Load More Replies...Real men die at 35 of heart disease, cancer, emphysema, stroke and diseases that can be treated with vaccines. Just like their forefathers. Who were dumber than we are today.
This whole thread was about a bunch of homophobes who also hate women- ironically. Why are female things so bad to some men? I don't understand how we aren't supposed to be afraid or hate men when they have no problem telling you regularly that they hate everything about you. And that you should hate everything about you. And that you are lesser than them.
I hear you, but if also like to point out how much of this men hear from women. It's honestly disturbing how much stereotyping is done by both sexes to both sexes out of insecurity about themselves.
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