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People Who Had To Choose Their Pet Over Their Partner Reveal How It All Went (35 Pics)
"Either the pet goes or I go." It's an ultimatum you think exists only in movie scripts. Until you hear it from your significant other.
A few weeks ago, Reddit user Sugar-Soad posted a question to the platform, asking "People who were made to choose between your pet and your partner, how did your ex react when you chose your pet?"
Surprisingly, it received over 9.6K comments, many of which detailed these exact situations people found themselves in. Luckily, they made the right choice.
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#1
Was getting a divorce and the ex-wife demanded my dog or she’d take me to court over the house. I reluctantly gave him to her. She called me five days after taking possession of him. He was chewing everything of hers, peeing all over her and her new boyfriends house. I got him back and he never did any of that for me. Still have him and he is 15 years old now
Roland Gosselin 4 years ago
My cat would pee and poop all over the place in the last months of my relationship with my ex (we adopted the cat together but the cat CLEARLY preferred me). Once we broke up and the cat & I moved into our own place, ZERO pee or poop outside of the litter box. She is now 12 and still my best friend. :)
Leodavinci 4 years ago
So... the cat's plan to get rid of your partner worked.
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Rissie 4 years ago
He was coerced into that situation. Maybe she has enough money and he doesn't. Losing your house is a different story from ditching a boyfriend of a few months. Also they were married so the dog was (probably and legally) hers too. But that's not how the cookie crumbles. Dog's know. This is incredibly sad that anyone would.do that to begin with.
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Holly Sizemore, Chief Mission Officer at Best Friends Animal Society, told Bored Panda that shelter and animal welfare workers have pretty much heard every random story on why people give up their pets. "Occasionally, there are reasons like 'Oh, we got a new couch and now the dog's fur doesn't match it' or 'the cat hisses at my boyfriend every time he comes over and he's offended' but these random and quite frankly, nutty, reasons are rare," Sizemore said.
Most people, according to her, cite having to give up their pet due to having 'too many animals' and 'housing issues', situations that often result in a homeless pet and a heartbroken family. If you're interested, here's a comprehensive article and data analysis on the most common reasons why people surrender their animals.
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#2
He wanted me to rehome my cat because he wanted a dog instead. We were not living together, and I’m allergic to dogs. That didn’t matter, HE wanted me to have one, so he demanded I rehome the cat. I rehomed him instead. The look on his face when I took him to his mother’s house was pretty priceless.
Pamela24 4 years ago
I'd just like to explicitly appreciate that you said "person" instead of "woman/lady". It's a small thing but a nice one nonetheless. ❤️
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Raine Soo 4 years ago
I hate it when the significant other makes you re-home your pet. The pet was here first. Good on you for standing up for your cat. Now, your ex can have the dog he wants.
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
Actually, it's the people who DO give up their pets that I can't stand. That just tells us that both of them are assholes.
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Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
You took him to his mother's house. HAHAHAHA. "I'd like to return this defective unit, please."
... 4 years ago
Sounds terrible. I don't unerstand his reasoning either, why you have to rehome the cat if you want a dog. News flash: You can have both cats and dogs in the same house (that is if you want to and aren't allergic).
Night Owl 4 years ago
Depends on the cat(s) and/or dog(s). But yes, usually you don't have to choose between animals, it just sometimes takes time and work to get them used to each other. There are rare cases where it can't be done or isn't a good idea
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Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Magic word here is “He wanted “- demanded- the arrogance, I’m happy for you, as the relationship might not even last even if the pet thing wasn’t involved
CatWoman312 4 years ago
If someone you’re dating either dislikes or is allergic to your pet let it be a warning that it’s a red flag.
#3
This is my favorite story from when I worked in a shelter. A guy came in to surrender his cat, with the reason that his girlfriend didn't like her. He starts filling out the paperwork, but partway through he just stops and says, "Screw this. I'm just going to break up with her instead." He picks up the cat and walks out the door, presumably to leave his GF. I hope he stuck to it and he and his cat got a happy ending.
Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
Anyone who would even SUGGEST getting rid of an animal isn't worth your time. Full stop.
Viviane 4 years ago
That's one reason George Clooney was single for so long. One girlfriend said, "It's me or the pig." Max stayed. https://www.theguardian.com/film/2006/dec/06/georgeclooney
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Nat Hedley 4 years ago
He sounds like a keeper, I hope he got a much better partner after that!
Elizabeth Molloy 4 years ago
If your pet doesn't like someone, it's a good idea to avoid that person forever.
Philly Bob Squires 4 years ago
I'm allergic to cats but I have 3 cats... all rescues... wouldn't trade them for the world. Maybe my cats would trade me for a piece of ham or bacon but we'll let that slide! LOL
Luckily, Sizemore said that some couples are willing to do whatever it takes to maintain both their relationship and their pets. "We also hear a lot about how potential romantic partners stand no chance unless they show interest in and are 'approved of' by a pet," Sizemore added. "I know of a story where a couple who fell in love and wanted to get married were instrumental in changing their local town's archaic and overbroad pet-limit law. They each had 2 dogs and wanted to marry and move into the same household with their 4 dogs, but the pet limit in their town was 2 cats and 2 dogs in total (despite no evidence showing that limiting the number of pets/species per household creates more responsible pet owners or fewer nuisances in a community. Cruelty, nuisance, and negligence laws are the best tools to tackle legitimate pet-related issues). For this couple, the thought of giving up any of their furry beloved family members was unacceptable, so they helped get their local community to repeal the outdated pet limit law."
"I also know of another couple who chose to live in separate households because one had cats and one had dogs that really wanted to eat the cats. The woman in this couple joked that the pets (and really maintaining separate households) was the secret to their very happy relationship."
#4
I had an incredibly toxic boyfriend who had at one point paid the fee for a rescue cat for me for my birthday. the cat REALLY didnt like him, she wasnt aggressive she was just skittish and didnt want to be around him. We had gotten into a fight earlier that day about something unrelated and he decided to start ranting about the cat and how he believed we should get rid of her, that she was a bad animal JUST because she was skittish ( she was a rescue!! and a very loving one at that if you let her come to you when she felt safe ).
He started to threaten to leave her at the humane society or get rid of her when i wasnt around so i couldnt stop him. I told him to get out of my house and immediately broke up with him. Butters is still making quality biscuits at my side and loves to take naps with me :)
Danie 4 years ago
ALWAYS choose your beloved animal instead of a selfish, immature 'significant other'.
Theater Kid 4 years ago
I am absolutely in LOVE with Butters. Can I set him as my profile pic?
I want cake 4 years ago
I'm pretty sure this isn't OP's cat, it looks exactly like Loki, who was pretty famous on Instagram and passed away about a year ago. She had a birth defect which caused her distinctive look.
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Teresa Spanics 4 years ago
Good for you! AWW, I hope that you have many long and happy years with dear sweet Butters 😻💖
#5
My ex used to chase his cat around the house. Poor kitty was so scared. I took him to divorce court over that cat. Now she's sleeping on my lap with her sister and she never has to run around the house unless it's happy zoomies.
MagicalUnicorn 4 years ago
i bet kitty is grateful for being saved and gives you all the love <3
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Was your ex chasing his cat around the house because he thought it was fun? Did he like scaring her? He sounds toxic. The cat deserved so much better.
Viviane 4 years ago
Chasing a cat is almost always mean-spirited. I've only encountered one cat who liked to play chase and she was the one who decided when. She would give me a wild look and then the game was on. Up and down the stairs, me laughing, then she'd stop suddenly so I could "catch" her.
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Paul Davis 4 years ago
Have never understood this but have met several people who look at an animal and suddenly a switch seems to go off in their heads telling them that they have to be cruel to it. Disgusting.
There have also been very interesting studies on the subject. A survey carried out by Rover.com, for example, found that 60% of couple owners said that bringing up a dog together made their relationship stronger. But that's not all. Half of the participants said their canines had helped them spend quality time together, as a couple.
Which, when you think about it, is understandable. Around 88% of those surveyed also said that raising a dog requires teamwork and 65% agreed that trust is needed, too. Both are important factors for a thriving relationship, so constantly working on these attributes is bound to produce valuable results for the couple's everyday life as well.
#6
I remember him saying my diabetic cat needed to go so he could get a dog. We weren't even living together. I looked him dead in the eyes and said. "My cat will outlive this relationship" considering she was really sick at the time he said it was unlikely and stormed off.
We broke up 6 years ago and my cat is still going strong.
#7
To be fair, anyone giving you an ultimatum to choose between them and one of your loved ones (human or otherwise) isn’t interested in a healthy relationship of any kind, and so isn’t worth your time. Long story short, never choose the one giving the ultimatum.
Cheryl Fontaine 4 years ago
Ultimatums are always power plays...that should tell you everything you need to know about that individual....leave them at the curb.
Load More Replies... Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
Unless the one giving the ultimatum is your pet. Then always, always choose your pet.
Parmeisan 4 years ago
Some of my favourite books growing up were the Myst series, and one of the books has a really poignant scene that has stuck with me for 20 years and counting. Aitrus has a good friend, Veovis, who for some reason decides that he cannot get along with someone else in Aitrus' life, and gives the "me or her" ultimatum. As he told her later: "It was an impossible situation, Ah-na. He made me choose." "And you chose me?" "Yes." "Why?" "Because he was not right to make me choose."
Maripat Webber 4 years ago
EXACTLY. I once was called to take back a five year old dog (I was the breeder). So I drove three hours to pick her up. He had adopted the puppy at twelve weeks. He married his wife two years ago. Now she’s pregnant and said the dog had to go. That poor man sobbed his heart out, and his wife just sat there stone-faced. How could you do that to someone you supposedly love? What kind of mother to be has so little nurturing instinct? I placed the dog in a brilliant home, where she was adored by all the kids, the parents, and her doggie “brother”, so SHE at least had a happy ending.
Rebeka Gyulai 4 years ago (edited)
I had an ex who turned out to have narcissistic personality disorder. I didnt know this when we got together. He was charming. Then out of nowhere after month in the relationship he said that im worthless and does not deserve to be appreciated. He also stated that i have to get rid of my rescue pup who i had for 2,5 years then. I looked dead in his eyes and told him if i have to choose between him and my pup i choose my pup a hundred times. Then left. He harassed me for a month after i broke up with him. Still going strong with my pup for 4 years now and have a loving relationship where my boyfriend loves my pup like she was his child. :) ALWAYS CHOOSE YOUR PET! The right person will love it too and accept that it belongs to you like a child.
Sizemore reminded people that there may be occasional legitimate reasons to ask someone to give up their pet for you. "Say for instance, if you were deathly allergic to cats and could not be around them without risking anaphylactic shock. However, anyone worth their salt as a romantic partner would never make such a request unless it was absolutely necessary and unless there was a clear positive alternative for the pet and their partner (maybe the cat is very much loved by the next-door neighbor who would happily give a great home to the kitty)."
"Bottom line, despite all the love and joy pets give us, they aren't without occasional challenges," Sizemore highlighted. "Most challenges, whether linked to a romance or not, can be mitigated by a little research, veterinarian, and/or animal trainer or behaviorist. Occasionally, rehoming a pet is in everyone's best interest, including the pet. And, sometimes it's best to rehome the romance."
For more information on pet care, take a look at all the resources provided by animal experts at Best Friends.
#8
I dated a guy who told me he would convince me to choose him over my cats. I broke up with him shortly after, mostly due to that. Was happily single, then my now husband comes along and says, "I've always wanted to be the husband of the crazy cat lady." Way to win a girl's heart.
CatWoman312 4 years ago
My husband was adorable when he found out I had cats. He would ask me to send pictures and videos and started calling them his cats too before we got married. He loves them just as much as me. My friend thought it was weird and I told her when you love someone you love everything about them, pets included
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
So, if you were not single, you would not have met your true love, congrats !!!
#9
My ex husband was a constant cheat, terribly abusive, and loved to destroy anything I owned in order to punish and control me. I put up with anything and everything for over two years because “I loved him”. The last time I ever saw him he yelled at/hit my dog. I instantly packed my car and dog and left. Immediately filed for divorce. Haven’t seen him since. His lost his wife, source of income, vehicle, maid, scapegoat, bodyguard, sober driver, and emotional support in ten seconds. He was absolutely astounded I chose the dog over him, regardless of how many times he was warned not to act out around her. She is my soul mate and I would die for her.
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Any sane person would choose the dog over your ex. Some people are blinded by love. I'm glad that your dog showed you the light.
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Yes sad she cares less for herself than for her dog.
Load More Replies... Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Speaking from past experience, I’m happy you left in time, 80% of the time the domestic abuse just gets worse rather it’s physical or mental
THE DOG LIFE 4 years ago
Not to be rude or anything, but why would someone want to stay in an abusive relationship?
juice 4 years ago
sometimes they don't have anywhere else to go, sometimes they are manipulated into staying, sometimes they convince themselves "this is the only person who will love me". or sometimes their view of "love" is warped and everything seems normal. abusive relationships and manipulative partners can do terrible things to self esteem, and make them think the abuse is okay (or worse, that they deserve it)
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Estelle Giles-Monroe 4 years ago
Domestic abuse includes harming animals and children. Many people stay in these situations for fear everyone will be destroyed if they leave. I say, create a plan, connect with a domestic violence program for support, and animal welfare agencies. The latter can shelter your animals until you're able to find a safer living situation.
Heather W 4 years ago
He's lucky you just left. My cat is my child, I am responsible for her wellbeing, and I would have probably done what my Mom did with her first husband when he hit my sister: chased him for 10 blocks with a cast iron skillet while screaming loudly what he did and what I thought of him, as well as a graphic description of what was going to happen if he stopped running.
Tarryn Louise 4 years ago
It sucks that it took for your dog to be physically abused before you left him, I know from personal experience leaving a toxic relationship is super hard. So glad you made the right choice <3
#10
Not me, but my sister was dating a guy who angrily accused her of loving her elderly cat more than him. She said she did -- she had had him for 14 years and they had only been dating for about a month.
Guess he wasn't expecting that because he just kind of shut up and left the house.
Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Gorgeous mini lion! 1 month over 14 years?? He really thought there was a comparison?
#11
I have an elderly rat (going on four years, which is quite the feat for a rat). I’ve raised him since he was a baby with his brother, who passed away two winters ago. When we moved in with my in-laws over the summer, they didn’t want me to bring my rat. I straight up told my partner that I’ll live somewhere else for awhile (we’d been living together for almost three years at that point) because my rat is my responsibility, he’s very old, and that I was going to see him through to the end. They were a little upset and accused me of choosing the rat over them, but I explained that he’s an animal that relies on us. It worked out, I convinced my in-laws to let me bring him, and we’re all still kickin. He’s on his last days and I’m glad I’m here with him. He’ll be buried with his brother when it’s time.
Batwench 4 years ago
I do wish people would get the idea that rats make excellent pets. They are intelligent and less psycho than hamsters. Glad that OP made a stand for her rat and shoes that she is a decent person that animals cannot just be gotten rid of.
Aroha 4 years ago (edited)
I respectfully disagree - about hamsters being psychos :D. I have had 7 and they were all sweethearts! Nearly all hamster horror stories are in fact animal abuse stories - we would also be grumpy if we were mistreated as horribly as so many hamsters are.
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Aroha 4 years ago
I have kept many kinds of rodents as pets and they are wonderful, sweet creatures. I have never been bitten and my flat doesn't smell at all. Yet I have been turned down by many potential romantic partners, because "rats are disgusting". Funnily enough, I have never had a rat. I think I will adopt a pair and keep ignoring the men who have no compassion for the smallest living things...
Karen Lawyer 4 years ago
Older rats, especially males, often do not "take" to new cage mates and it's not uncommon for an older rat to prefer living alone. I've had around a dozen male rats over the years, and at least 4 of them were like this when they were older.
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CincyReds 4 years ago
Awww good for you! All animals matter, and you were very lucky to have him for 4 four years! My two bothers only lasted for a little over two years, and they passed within a month of each other and are buried right beside each with thier favorite toys.... I miss them greatly
Philly Bob Squires 4 years ago
I love ratties! They may not live long but they give you their all while they are around. Very intelligent animals!
#12
I found out my girlfriend was hitting my dog when I wasn't around. I left her and she was unable to admit that was the reason. I guess answering the question of "what happened to you guys?" With "oh he found out I was secretly hurting his dog" might make for awkward conversations.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
right alongside people who hurt kids.... just line 'em all up... and let karma take a few bites....
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Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
I honestly don't know what I would do in this situation. I know bare minimum her stuff would be thrown out the door unceremoniously. Bare minimum.
Kennedy Johnson 4 years ago
I just can’t understand why. Did she have a past trauma with a dog. Otherwise there is no reason why she’s hurt your dog other than she EVIL! I hate when people hurt dogs. 99% of the time they won’t hurt you and just want love.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
My mom DID have past trauma from a dog attack when she was about 9 years old, but she let us have pet dogs and never harmed one *ever*.... EVER. And she had genuine scars and phobia.
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Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
The only time to use violence against a pet is if it has attacked you for some reason and you are trying to defend yourself. Either get along with the pet or leave it alone, both of them usually work pretty well.
L Jennings 4 years ago
THERE IS NO TIME TO USE VIOLENCE AGAINST A PET, DICKHEAD. IF YOUR PET ATTACKED YOU, THEN YOU DID SOMETHING STUPID.
Load More Replies... Paul Davis 4 years ago
Dodged a bullet there -- if you'd had kids with her it seems plausible she would have been hitting them also.
Estelle Giles-Monroe 4 years ago
Awful human. Did she think you wouldn't notice a change in doggo behavior around her or eventually set up cameras?
Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Poor thing, defenseless, sorry I would’ve aired out the dirty laundry awkward or not, to prevent future things like this happening
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
Such a sweet baby, thanks for the right choice, I do believe strongly, if a person abuses an animal, they will likely, abuse a child, it's a fact !!!
Amanda Hunter 4 years ago
I fired my house cleaner as he'd squeeze my dogs ears and my dog would yelp.
Jette Wang Wahnon 4 years ago
This happened to me as well...My dog was elderly,suffered from Epilepsy and had a small accident while alone with her.My youngest came home unexpectedly and found her hitting the dog with a broom. She had been with me for 12 years and was the best cleaner I ever had.....but she was sent packing the second I came home..no-one touches my animals or children.
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I had a live-in bf (we had been together a year, decided to cohab because LDR wasn’t fulfilling). I had a cat for 15 years. He didn’t demand I get rid of my old man but he repeatedly made comments about how it was time to PTS because my cat was old and thin. He always commented on my cat’s weight. Even went so far as to stop by a vet and pick up cremation pamphlets so I could shop for urns.
I spent $$$ on all senior bloodwork, checked thyroid, etc. He had a clean bill of health because I always provided the best nutrition and care.
One day I told him, “the next time you mention me putting my cat to sleep or imply I’m not doing right by him make sure your bags are packed.”
He was gone 3 weeks after that. The cat had 3 more wonderful years before cancer got him and I did PTS.
People: 15+ years of love and emotional investment will trump your new relationship, every time
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Pets are part of the family. I know that many people don't see it this way, including the human members of my own family. Fortunately, my ex-boyfriend understands how important my cats are to me, and helps support them financially. He loves the kitties too.
Rissie 4 years ago
My husband never had a connection with a kitty until he found a stray/lost kitten who immediately chose him to be his dad. And the older he gets the more it shows. I just love seeing that.
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𝑬𝒄𝒉𝒐 𝑩𝒖𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒍𝒚 4 years ago
I'm so sorry do be the person who doesn't know anything, but there are a lot of abbreviations in this and i don't know what they mean... please help? 😆
Iggy 4 years ago
LDR = long distance relationship and PTS = put to sleep.
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mj_palmer 4 years ago
My old girl is a beautiful black cat like yours. She is 14. She is thin, but that's how old cats are. Every year she gets a checkup and the vets always praise how good her condition is. She still charges about the house with our 10 month old kitten. Your picture up there is a perfectly healthy happy cat. And I love him.
Christel Nellemann 4 years ago
LDR, PTS. Too many acronyms new to me. Bf is boyfriend , ok, but it is getting too much, is it hurting your fingers to write the actual words? BF I get an AMI, an OD on NO or just an CTI .
Suzanne Haigh 4 years ago
People make these sort of demands on their supposed loved one are just out to control the person and shows you what a life with them would be like.
Nat Hedley 4 years ago
100%. Pets are a lifelong commitment; anyone that doesn't get that is certainly not someone to settle down with because if they can't commit to an animal...
#14
This was a long time ago but I just started dating this person and I was told they hated my dog, it was a bit of a shock but I was like no biggie just get to know my dog and you will fall in love with him.
So the next time, we had a doggie date and HE TRIED TO KICK MY DOG. I literally grabbed my dog and turned around and walked away. And that was that!!!
Jayne Kyra 4 years ago
Anyone who tries to kick a helpless (as in non-attacking/violent) animal deserves to be kicked in the crotch.
crazy_cat_notAlady 4 years ago
i remember yelling at 3 grown men who kicked a stray cat. I'm around 100 pounds, but man I yelled. i remember calling them "sorry excuses of human forms"...now that I think about it, it sounded funny. but getting that from a tiny woman, well, u should have seen their faces. i detest people who go out of their way to harm or hurt animals who are happily minding their own business.
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Vasana Phong 4 years ago
I’m telling you, animal lovers, we are a special breed, there’s a lil place in our hearts God created that’s extra
crazy_cat_notAlady 4 years ago
awwww...u filled the dog-shaped hole in my heart a lil bit. what a beautiful way of putting it.
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Susan Green 4 years ago
Anyone who will harm an animal, will also harm people as well. Best to never be around anyone like that.
Lisa Shelton 4 years ago
I don't think I would have gotten past the 'told they hated my dog' part to get to the doggie date.
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
No no no, sweetie, you're supposed to kick him! In the delicates! Without holding back!
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
One more smart girl, I am proud of you, if I wrote a book on my pets, through many years, the love and joy through time, has made my life extremely happy, I miss the ones now in heaven waiting for me, so much love waiting !!!
#15
I knew a couple that had to break up because she was badly allergic to his elderly dog. They were both understanding of the situation and there’s was no animosity. They ended up getting back together after the dog had passed away and are now very happy.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
I worked with a man that loved cats. He and his wife had 4, in spite of him being quite allergic. He got allergy shots, to desensitize him. And they worked, to a point, but he still was quite stuffy. The last cat they got was a Sphynx.
#16
My friend had his girlfriend spend the night at his house. While he was making her breakfast she began complaining about his "nasty dog". My friend told her, "You should stop complaining, the dog lives here and you don't". They broke up a week later.
Vasana Phong 4 years ago
I hate when someone comes into someone else’s world and try to run it
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 years ago
"The dog lives here and you don't" Perfect! My friend had a sign in his living room basically saying the same thing "Yes, my dogs are allowed to sit on the furniture. They live here, you don't".
#17
Not me but my sister choose our cat over her boyfriend of 4 months. He was furious when she dumped him and called her an idiot for picking a “dirty fleabag” over him. Cat was not a dirty fleabag, he just hated pets and wanted to try to control my sister. I was relieved when she dumped him. I never got good vibes from him.
Monolicle Potato 4 years ago
Nobody is compatible with that sort of person...
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Zena Marsh 4 years ago
She had a lucky escape there. Cats are some of the cleanest animals. they are always washing themselves.
Philly Bob Squires 4 years ago
Well she got rid of the dirty fleabag... and her and the cat lived happily ever after! LOL
Manel Dias 4 years ago
People who hates beautiful god's creations are sure DIRTY FLEA BAGS themselves.
deanna woods 4 years ago
It's a good thing your sister got away from this guy. He sounds like trouble.
#18
True story:
ex says "im leaving"
im all worried about our cats. Dont want to lose them, dont want to seperate them
ex says: "dont worry im not taking the cats"
Immediate relief.
Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Some exes are so evil that they’ll fight to get the pets only to take them to the spca cause that will make the other one suffer more
Hannah Bloomfield 4 years ago
Exactly the same for me. I had sat in the lawyer's office crying about it, the relief when he said he wouldn't take the boys or split them up was immense
Just a Snowball 4 years ago
HEY EVERYBODY!!! okay now that i have your attention, i have a cat just like this and he is a stray, i have no idea what breed he is but i know this is his breed, so please. if you know what breed this cat is can you tell me?
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
Looks like an average short hair. My rescued Korean short hairs look exactly like American short hairs. Not sure how they are different. I call them Korean because we found them in Korea.
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Demongrrrrl 4 years ago
I broke up with my fiance (he was emotionally abusive) but left my cats with him because when I left I didn't know where I would be living. He lived in a nice house with lots of sunny windows and 2 kids who adored the cats. They lived 7 more years, and he always kept me updated on how they were doing. They both got ill (diabetes and kidney disease) and he paid for the very expensive tests and treatments, which I could never have afforded.
#19
She acted like she'd never even considered I'd choose the cat over her. I don't think that thought had ever entered her mind. Then she went into a big spiel about how I'm a loser, I'm missing out, there's only one of her, etc etc. Yeah, I knew all that when I put my foot down over her idiotic jealousy of the cat liking me more than her.
The cat is now 16 and still with me, happy in her senior years. There's been other women since her, ones that treated me a lot better than she did. It was a total win for both the cat and myself.
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Who do people think they are? The pet was here first. Get in line, lady.
June 4 years ago
Even if the pet didn't come first, I would definitely choose the pet.
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CatWoman312 4 years ago
Honestly if a guy has a pet period cat or dog it earned points in my head. I love animals and usually people with pets tend to be more loving and compassionate
Susan Green 4 years ago
Exactly what kind of people dislike animals? I will never understand this.
Zena Marsh 4 years ago (edited)
Good Luck to you both, hope the cat is in (relatively) good health
#20
I had a boyfriend I dated for a few months and things were starting to get serious. One day he said “you know if we ever move in together your dog will have to be an outside dog. Dogs aren’t meant to be inside.” My dog was a 7pound chihuahua. I told him if he was not willing to change his mind we would not be moving forward with us. He told me it was my loss. I was ok with that. After that I would try and find excuses for my pup and potentials to meet before. When I met my now husband he told me he did not like small dogs. He met my pup and fell in love. Sadly she passed away two years ago but he just celebrated 12 years ago. I hope the other guy found someone good for him.
troufaki13 4 years ago
What some people fail to understand is that pets are not just household items, they're family. They're not up for negotiations.
Raine Soo 4 years ago (edited)
What did he mean that dogs were not meant to be inside? Your ex did not seem to be an animal lover. I'm glad you found someone better suited to you and your pup.
Tina Hugh 4 years ago
Some people see dogs as working animals, like horses or oxen, and thus belonging outdoors. ‘Not sure how a Chihuahua fits in with this point of view, tho. I agree he’s not an animal lover and maybe he’s not too bright, either.
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LivingTheDream 4 years ago
My daughter just had the same thing except it was her bf's uncle's house they just moved into. He wanted her chihuahua to be an outside dog...in rural Texas, land of the wild hog and other animals. She told her BF to deal with it or she would be flying back to CA and move back in with Dad! Good girl!
Pernille Dyre 4 years ago
I don't understand the outside-thing with dogs. In denmark most dog live inside...
Zena Marsh 4 years ago
I'm glad you found a good husband, and that he got to know your dog for so long.
Lena Flising 4 years ago
Dogs and humans have been living together long before there were houses to be inside.
David Kimmel 4 years ago
We had always had larger dogs and never considered looking for a small one. Beagle and terrier we about as small as we got. Went looking for an older companion for our Lab so she could have a friend in old age. The vet's office had a Pomeranian in for neutering. How can you not love this face? She came home with us.
#21
I had a friend who was dating this real assh**e guy. One weekend her parents came to town with a puppy. Let her play with it and love on it all weekend. At the end of the weekend they said “you can keep this dog if you dump assh**e.” She didn’t even think about it, dumped him immediately.
Christian Bradshaw 4 years ago
While you are right, if the parents saw that this person would end up treating their daughter badly, they were definitely right to be worried
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Pezor Zass 4 years ago
there's a lot wrong with that story. i mean, that's some serious emotional manipulation. The parents told her "do what we want you to do, or we'll take away a thing that makes you happy" and she did it. That means more than likely that this was not the first time they did something like that to her. This is not a good story, guys.
Derek Clark 4 years ago
So the parents bought a puppy to emotionally manipulate their daughter. What would have happened to the puppy if she had chosen the boyfriend?
Leodavinci 4 years ago
So... conniving (obviously) parents convince easily manipulable (again obviously) daughter into dumping BF they don't like (assh*le is a matter of opinion). Sounds maybe more like he dodged a bullet.
Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
Actually that's not great parenting. Pets shouldn't be used as leverage or a bribe. But at least she got a good friend out of it.
#22
I bred tarantulas professionally for a few years. Most were in a specially designed shed outside, but I had a few in the house. Was totally upfront with people when dating, and if it was a dealbreaker, then no hard feelings.
I dated this one guy for a few months, but we'd always go out or to his. I didn't really think much of it. Around month 4, he started getting annoyed and one day, straight up asked me how long it was gonna take to "sell a few spiders".
I thought he was talking about my actual job, so I was like, "oh, I sell them in bulk to a supplier. He's coming round on Tuesday, actually." And my bf was so relieved, but I couldn't really understand why.
So the dude comes round on the Weds and sees the tarantulas in the house and goes on an abolute tirade about how I lied to him, how I've broken his trust, and how he's gonna need time to heal. NGL, I just burst out laughing. I was like, "you really thought I was gonna give up my job for you?"
Well that was apparently not the reaction he expected. He stormed out, yelling about how I was such a dumb bitch for not realising how great he was lmao. Tried to crucify me on social media, but he just ended up looking like an idiot lol
juice 4 years ago
it isn't, OP posted on Reddit and there was no picture. actually, i'm pretty sure every picture on here is a stock photo and not from the OPs
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CatWoman312 4 years ago
Yeah good luck to you, but giant spiders is probably where I draw the line with pets lol.
Don't Look 4 years ago
Okay this time I’m saying it - this story was butchered. I’m guessing she knew .... well, anyway, this was the story that cracked me.
sylvanticx 4 years ago
taratulas sound epic! never seen one, but in pictures they're so big and furry you could pretend they're mammalian. tiny baby spiders and tarantulas i can take, but get that brown widow away from me.
Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
That woul be "the incredible SULK" instead of "Spiderman" you dated.
#23
Not my partner but my mom gave away my dog when I was away on a trip visiting my sister when I was 18. She called me while I was away to explain my dad was going to leave her if she didn’t rehome him. Fast forward several years later.. my mom gave her cat to my 7 year old daughter only to later take the cat back after getting mad at me for something. 2 years later my daughter still cries over missing the cat. I went no contact with her immediately following that incident.
Ray Lebowski 4 years ago
Agreed. I don't much care for cats, but I care less for people who hurt animals AND other people just to make some power move.
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#24
I had a fortnight to decide, him or my cat. I thought he was joking! Nope, a fortnight later and he asked for my decision. We'd been in a relationship for nearly two years and were living together, I loved him but the whole thing was absurd and I wasn't getting rid of my cat. We broke up and in general he took it well. Too well. I was pretty sure he wanted an to break up with me, but couldn't admit it. So I left with my cat and went to stay with my brother. I came back that weekend to sort out our joint possessions only find him sneaking out the back door the 19 year old receptionist from his work that he'd been [having sex] in my bed. 12 years later and me and the cat are doing great! I hope he's turned into a better human being.
troufaki13 4 years ago
I wouldn't have waited 2 weeks to tell him that I choose the cat. No-one has the right to make me choose!
Nomadus Aureus 4 years ago
He's just a toxic asshole who wanted to make it look like it was her fault they didn't work out.
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Carol Emory 4 years ago (edited)
And if he's not a better human being, I hope he's strapped with 3 screaming kids to support and a wife that makes him regret his decision to make you choose your cat or him.
Zena Marsh 4 years ago
You made the right choice. Glad you and the kitty are still going strong.
Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
Nah, still miserable with that ugly, fat receptionist he never could get rid off 'cause she's not fond of pets. 🤡💫
#25
I was in elementary school when my stepdad made a comment about getting rid of my cats. I told him that we had the cats longer than him , and I liked them better. He looked at my mom to defend him, and she told him she had told him not to talk about my cats. One passed away at the age of 14 when I was in college, and the other passed away at 19 after I had graduated. He was never cuddly with them but was always nice after that conversation.
20 plus years later he has his own cat that adores him and hates my mom.
Jayne Kyra 4 years ago (edited)
Just a picture of the above cat gang as Japanese bodyguards. EDIT2: Found the artist! https://twitter.com/juunigou. Q3AnuBk-60...494ca4.jpg 
Laugh or not 4 years ago
Amazing drawing, really capture the whole posse vibe of the Photo.
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I love this picture! These cats have zero f**s to give and don't care what you think!
Susan Williams 4 years ago (edited)
I came home from elementary school one day and could not find my little dog. My mother told me my father had taken it to the pound. He had come home from work in a foul mood and had stepped in some of my little dog's poop. This made him so angry that he put the dog in the car and drove it to the pound. That was when I was about 12 years old. I am now 84 and I still cannot get over how someone could be so cruel to an animal or a child.
Susan Williams 4 years ago
we were not a demonstrably affectionate family... that little dog was my one source of love given and and returned.
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#26
The dog chose me lol I divorced my husband and his dog destroyed his house and sadly wouldn’t eat properly or do anything but stress until he came to live with me and my dog. But to be fair, my ex is terrible at pets. He just kept him outside all day and night with no interaction. The dog is a Great Dane and at the time it was me, my toddler and my dog in a little town house but we gladly took in the big guy over keeping him alone and miserable with his actual owner.
Zena Marsh 4 years ago
Some people really should not keep pets. Glad the Great Dane found happiness and love at last
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
I think a lot of people don't understand what's involved in having pets. They think they can pay attention only when they feel like it, completely ignoring the fact that pets have emotional needs that their humans must fulfill. If they'd just spend a few minutes several times a day giving their pets affection...
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WildHoneyPie 4 years ago
I've never met one but I've always thought that Great Danes have very tender feelings. Glad he didn't go with the husband
Lena Flising 4 years ago
I'm not even a dog person, but I still know that Great Danes are intelligent and need LOTS of active exercise every day.
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
You have a big heart, thanks, I love the Great Danes , big but great family dogs !!!
Cheryl Fontaine 4 years ago
I feel the same about people who keep their dogs in crates for hours.... the only time a dog belongs in a cage is when he's at the vets.... if you think your pet belongs in a cage, don't get one...you're a loser at pets.
sylvanticx 4 years ago
you can keep a dog outside, but you gotta do it right. give them the same amount of love an affection.
Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
Great Danes are overly sensitive and actually do rather well in small housinng. If you don't mind sharing the couch that is, lol.
#27
Late here- my aunt started dating this guy a while after my uncle passed away. Seems nice at first. She ends up basically buying him a house. He quits his job, the whole 9 yards.
My aunt has 2 dogs. Now apparently this guy decided he hates dogs now and they’re too loud and annoying and ends up giving her the ultimatum. When she chooses the dogs he tells her she’ll never find love with those dogs around. So he’s kinda jobless and out of housing right now. Good luck to him lol
Parmeisan 4 years ago
Had a friend with a dog named Karma, so this seems extra applicable to me
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Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
Once the sun is starting to shine out of their you-know-what, all you need is to find a solid stick...
#28
I briefly dated a guy who pretended to not be severely allergic to cats. He came over for the first time doped up on Benadryl and I confronted him about it, and he tearfully told me he hoped to keep his allergy a secret long enough for me to fall for him and choose him over my cat.
And that this was a repeat strategy for him.
I laughed so hard (poor confused guy) and told him the only winning move was not to play. I happily never saw him again.
Aroha 4 years ago
"I pretended to not be allergic because I like you so much".... Awwwww. "So you can get rid of your cat". GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!!
W. 5 4 years ago
Exactly, this describes the emotional Rollercoaster reading this😂
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Sammi Unni 4 years ago
I did try to date someone who has a dog (I am also severely allergic). I told him at the beginning that I was allergic, and to NEVER pick me over the dog. Otherwise I will leave, regardless if he "picked me". I had to end it with him because I ended up in the emerg due to my allergies, no matter how hard I tried. I wanted to continue, but knew my health was a big priority. He was still mad, but I was open about everything at the beginning. All I can say is I tried?
Demongrrrrl 4 years ago
Good for you. You were honest up front and made it clear that you would NOT come bet him and the dog. The fact that he was angry with you for that makes me think he would have chosen you if you'd made an ultimatum.
Load More Replies... Martha Meyer 4 years ago
There are plenty of people out there who don't own cats. Why not just date them?!
Sammi Unni 4 years ago
It is actually sometimes really hard to find someone who doesn't have pets. I'm not complaining, nor do I think people shouldn't have pets. But over 90% of the people I know have a pet with fur of some sort. Hard to get away =(
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Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
Might have had half a chance if he'd been taking it so he could keep seeing her despite his allergies instead of trying to depose the kitty. Asking to choose someone new over a pet is just the wrong thing to do.
MandaPanda 4 years ago
"And that this was a repeat strategy for him." How that working for him?
Synsepalum 4 years ago
I'm allergic to cats and I have a cat. I take four kinds of medication, and I am starting allergy shots soon. My Biscuits is worth every sneeze and them some.
#29
Lol we had a puppy together but she didn't end up liking her very much. 8 months later thanks to the ultimatum she broke up with me, it was the best decision ever. It was an eye opener when I finally realized how unhappy I was in that toxic relationship. My mom offered to take care of the puppy since I was finishing up school, she's now my mom's dog and she turned 12 this year!
Raine Soo 4 years ago
I'll go ahead and assume that the puppy didn't like your toxic ex much either. Dogs are very astute.
Cheryl Fontaine 4 years ago
Indeed they are. My dog is very mellow, loves everyone, but she has growled twice at seeing an individual through the glass in my front door.... I'll always trust my dog's instincts...any dog's instncts really.... that trust has never failed me.
Load More Replies... Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Magic word here kids” toxic relationships”, glad you saw it earlier on
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
Good to find out, sooner rather later, time lost is gone forever !!!
#30
Being told to get rid of my puppy for acting like a puppy and 'embarrassing him in front of the neighbors' for 'stealing' something he promptly took back to them was the last straw for me kicking out my ex. Not even the abuse or the cheating
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
This post has shown, many adorable pets, what's not to love !!!
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
Our pets are like little toddlers, they are smart, love and teaching works well !!!
#31
Well, he got jealous anytime I'd even pet the dogs infront of him. He started treating them terribly. Eventually he told me, basically, that he knows I wouldn't get rid of them but so long as they were around our relationship would be negatively impacted and would deteriorate. Then we broke up. Shrugs
Imagine feeling threatened and jealous of your SO (of 14 years!) petting a dog. They are well behaved, house broken, no behavioral issues, no financial burden, and honestly they are low maintenance in the attention department too. Thaaaaaaaaaaats when I noticed something was very off and went ahead and proved him right. I didn't get rid of my dogs, and I just started distancing myself.
Alan Green 4 years ago
I'm the opposite. I fear I may grow more fond of the dogs than the owner lol.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
When my hubby or I come home from wherever, we are like, "Hey, hon, I'm home! Oh, there's my sweet darlings!" and we're talking to the pets, not each other, LOL.
Demi Zwaan 4 years ago
Wait. You were together for 14 years and he just started to treat the dogs terribly? Or did he do so for 14 years? I don't get it. Why would you even be with someone like that for 14 years?
Tarryn Louise 4 years ago (edited)
Sadly reminds me of how my step father would treat me and my sister. If mum showed us attention, he would treat us poorly and accuse mum of loving us more. Sadly however, my mum never left him and just ignored us more. Yea..... growing up was f**king fantastic. Nothing like copping a beating when he was drunk and mum refused to have sex with him.
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
One thing for sure, we all can make a mistake, but we can correct even the big ones !!!
Susan Mercurio 4 years ago
It was a control issue. Good thing it showed its ugly head at last.
Pascale Pierloot 4 years ago
Right choice, the ex just had to many issues. Besides the behavioural problems, u just can't keep some that don't socialize well with others. 🤪
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
He wasn't just abusing the dogs, he was abusing YOU. It's very common for abusers to punish their targets by hurting or killing their pets.
#32
Not my story but my friend. His gf forced him to choose between her or dog but that dog was remaining memento from his deceased mother and of course he instantly dumped his gf. His gf went from facefull with expectations to beet red full of shame and anger and smashed his house windows when she left his house.
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Karma is a bitch. I hope that he sued her for damages over the broken windows.
Vasana Phong 4 years ago
You can’t let someone that would do this get away with it, I’m sure a police report was filed, in any situation, what next if she didn’t like something you said or did, your car will be next
El Dee 4 years ago
He dodged a bullet. If he hadn't had a dog he could've ended up in a LTR with a real horror!
#33
My ex was allergic to cats and had asthma. I had a cat. He just kind of moved in with me without asking over time. I wasn’t against it. His allergies and his asthma never seemed to flare up or anything too badly with my cat around. We kept the place clean, etc. He asked me to get rid of my cat multiple times. I said no every time. Turns out the jerk was cheating on me with multiple women. Dropped the dude like a hot potato. Glad I kept my kitty.
Caroline Nagel 4 years ago
I wouldn't say 'never hurt': my cat has some very sharp claws and teeth and I have enough scars as evidence. Despite that I love her dearly!
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Teresa Spanics 4 years ago
Good for you! AWW, I hope that you have many long and happy years with your dear sweet kitty 😻💖
#34
I love my chihuahua. She’s super sweet and never growls or has ever bit anyone. I have had so many guys say “I hate chihuahuas/ I already hate your dog” before even meeting her. I had one guy lose his sh*t when I told him I was choosing to not go on another date with him because of how he talked about how sh***y and mean my dog was on a first date when I was asked what breed she was. My boyfriend now said the same things at first before he saw her and fell absolutely in love within 2 minutes. They’ve been best friends for almost 5 years.
jtrisn1 4 years ago
Chihuahuas get such bad resp due to people raising them improperly. Chihuahuas require attention and extra care from their owners. You need to learn to respect their persknal spacw and enforce it on ANYONE who tries to invade it or rile them up.
Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson 4 years ago
Exactly my Chihuahua was abused before we got him and he was a devil dog when we brought him home. He was terrified for a long while and didn't have a personality. With love and patience he changed from terrified devil dog to cuddly, playful, and happy boy. We've had him for almost five years now and he's the sweetest little dog. He still occasionally guards random things, but nothing like when we first got him. He's a completely different dog now and his personality has really shined through.
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Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago (edited)
I had a chihuahua who didn't like strangers. Actually, she turned into my dad's dog. At first she barked at anyone visiting us. But eventually we got her to just lie quietly beside him in his chair. Or so we thought. In the chair, but not quiet. A very low level growl the whole time that only he could feel her making. Gotta love them! As far as any dog socialize, socialize, socislize right at the beginning. For the family that was so patient with your little "devil dog", you are wonderful.
Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson 4 years ago
Thank you. We're a dog family since my grandmother is severely allergic to cats. We actually went to the shelter for a Shih Tzu, but we saw this little Chihuahua and he was so cute that spent a little time with him and fell in love. We got him home and that's when the little devil dog came out. The shelter warned us before we adopted him that he tried to eat them when he first got there. His second night home he shredded my grandfather's arm, but once he realized he was in my arms shaking and crying, terrified we were going to hurt him. Instead we cleaned the blood off him, cuddled him, and he apologized to my grandfather. I don't know the details of what he went through, but we're pretty sure he was hit with a flyswatter because of the way he reacts to one. He has a crooked tail which leads us to believe someone broke it. We've tried to socialize him, but that's one thing he still hates. If people come over he's fine, but going out to meet people, he won't have it.
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Toastie Boi 4 years ago
i hope people find out that not all chihuahuas are demons from the 8th circle of hell. Not an owner just weirded out by the fact that most media representations of chihuahuas are as demons.
Martha Higgins 4 years ago
I dislike chihuahaus and dachshunds and would not have either, but would never disparage someone else for their choice.
Katinka Min 4 years ago
Chihuahas are great. Mayn are badly bred so they are too tiny, fragile and have issues. But in general they are these giant personalities in small bodies, smart, funny and all in all fantastic and fun dogs.
Chaotic_pansexual 4 years ago
Chihuahuas are just so adorable and they’re just so tiny they’re like itty bitty teddy bears I love them
#35
I never knew how bad some people could hate cats. Me and my fiancé (seven years)broke up. And I think it was partly because I had gotten a cat a year before she moved in. When she finally moved in, she wanted me to get rid of it. She left after barely six months of living together.
Raine Soo 4 years ago
I don't understand it either. What did the cats ever do to them that they would hate them so much?
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
Cats are individuals with strong minds. Some people hate it when a pet has more self confidence than they.
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Manel Dias 4 years ago
That is the partner's INFERIORITY COMPLEXES, PLUS THE JEALOUSY, thinking that he/she will give more attention to the beloved pet they own.
Teresa Spanics 4 years ago
Good for you! AWW, I hope that you have many long and happy years with your dear sweet kitty 😻💖
Ann Golub 4 years ago
some people are allergic... I know I am allergic to cats, I am not a cat person at all, and I HATE cat hair that gets on EVERYTHING in my home. My ex had 2 cats and I swear I still find their hairs randomly in my stuff - he and I broke up in 2008. But I never asked him to get rid of his animals - he adored them, it was obvious. I think they liked me more than him lol. After we broke up, I decided I would never date a cat owner again. And I haven't.
MERCI LANGSTON 4 years ago
Well I personally like cats, but my dad is allergic to them, I just don't want to have any cat fur on me that can spread and get him irritated. But we had outdoor cats ourselves so some of these people wanting to get rid of the pets I don't really get.
#36
when my ex and I split - she left me the cat that only liked me Ignatius and I are doing great
#37
My mother chose the dog over my father. My father pretty much just had surprised Pikachu face, and then got really petty in the whole divorce process, and for years afterwards with legal motions, etc. Much of my teenage years consisted of my parents being tied up in court over stupid [things]
I'm told my father is super confused now as to why I won't talk to him.
#38
Had an old friend who chose her ex's dog over the ex. And though there was no choosing in the "ones not around any more" sense, my dog 1000% loves my husband more than he ever loved me. If I had not married my husband, pretty sure my dog would have given ME an ultimatum.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
I laugh, because I got a puppy about 6 years ago. He has grown into a fine dog, but clearly would rather I left him and my husband alone. Jerk. But I still love him.
#39
Two friends of mine dated seriously years ago. Girl's cat had jealousy issues and peed on guy's shoes. Guy put cat in the bathtub and pissed on cat. Relationship didn't last much longer.
LuckyL 4 years ago
Me too! Would have dumped him too. But still made me laugh
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Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Oh good grief. Cats pee in unsuual places when they are stressed (or sick), not for "revenge". This guy's tactic would never have accomplished what he thought it would accomplish (some stupid idea of "dominance" probably...).
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
Now I must pee on the guy. No one is that cruel to animals without getting a bloody nose
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
I've been with my hubby 30 years. If he did this? he'd be gone before he zipped up.
#40
my ex asked me if she thought my dog liked me or her more and I said me. she got genuinely mad and told me I am supposed to just lie to her, didn't last long.
#41
My now ex and I were together for 5 years when 8 rescued my 3 legged dog kelsey, for some reason he couldn't stand her, she really is the sweetest thing. After 1 year of moaning and threatening me over her I was getting to the end of my tether. We'd been together nearly 7 years when one day he said it's me or the dog, I looked him dead in the eye and told him not to let the door hit him on the way out. He moved out and kelsey and I have since adopted another 3 dogs
Triv 4 years ago
He had no room to bitch, though, if he okayed it. Pets are like kids: you don't take on the responsibility lightly and you stick with it once the choice is made and the pretty is taken.
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I ended it before she gave me the ultimatum. I would notice that she would get really annoyed with my dog some days. Welp, we broke up once I noticed that lol my dog will never break my heart!
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Lady Vader 4 years ago
I was casually dating a guy who was kicking my cat when I wasn't looking. When I caught him, it made sense why she avoided him and no one else. I beat him out of my house and down all the stairs from my third floor condo. He was almost a foot taller than me but I think he thought I was going to kill him. I have never physically hurt anyone before but when that blind rage took over me, I absolutely lost it.
Birgit M 4 years ago
I would always choose my cat over a boyfriend, but this is not just about loving a pet more than a person. Someone who demands that you give up your pet is an egotist (most likely in other ways, too) and oblivious to the fact that this animal makes you happy. So they don‘t care if you suffer from the loss.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
Yes, I do believe that is truly the crux of the matter.
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King Joffrey 4 years ago
Neither of these is really about the pet. It's about insecurities (you love the cat more than me) and control (I decide whether the pet stays/what kind of pet is acceptable).
W. 5 4 years ago
Damn, you're right! Reading the examples I Just thought "What assholes!" but the true motives behind this are even scarier!
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
About thirty-ish years ago, boyfriend comes with me to the family farm. First, I stay back to watch him and the cats interact. Then, him and the dogs. They loved him. He was patient and kind with them, and he got purrs from each cat, and happy wags from all the dogs. Yep. He asked, I said yes, still married, and he is right besides me helping with ferals and rescuing shelter animals!
Ozacoter 4 years ago
Any person who behaves this way with a pet or a loved one is not going to be a good partner. Some people might not love pets but are neutral about them (often after love them). Some have valid reasons to not want one, like allergies or cleaning; one of my best friends will never have a dog/cat because she loved everything spotless and pets shed. That's all fine. But a person that its like 'I hate dogs/cats", its rude to them or gives ultimatums is a jerk.
Viviane 4 years ago
My husband wasn't crazy about animals, but he never asked me to choose pets (two cats, a rabbit) over him. He's gotten to like them a bit more. He once surprised me by cuddling a cat that lived in a B&B. We haven't had pets in years, but he does imitations of various animals. Some days, I can't tell the hubby from a baby alpaca ;)
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Diane Heral 4 years ago
Was seeing someone, when one day out of the blue, he said "When we get married, your cats will have to be outdoor cats." That was first time marriage was mentioned! I just looked at him and said "You'll live outside before they do." We parted ways shortly after that. The strange part was that he & ex had 2 dogs & 2 cats, that were indoor pets.
Cynner 4 years ago
My boyfriend never liked Cats, arrogant assholes he called them. Before moving in last August, I one time said that he gets me AND a cat, he only said: I know. Mimi needed some time to get used to him, she is not really fond of people who are not me. But in the last few months their love has blossomed and I swear my boyfriend feels SO special when she screams at him for pets. He's in the inner circle now.
Viviane 4 years ago
I've met a number of men who told me they don't like cats, but they do adore that one special one. One cat hater was totally charmed by his girlfriend's two friendly and affectionate cats. He was scared of the snake that she draped over her shoulders, but he tolerated it. They're now happily married.
Load More Replies... Johnny 4 years ago
When my ex and I split up, we both wanted the dog (we got him when he was a puppy and we had him for 7 years). So, we split custody, we traded him off every week or two. The dog didn't seem to mind, he was always super happy to trade off and he settled into different routines depending on where he was (I had a city apartment, she had a suburban house with yard). Eventually she moved a few states away and the dog went with her, he lived to be 16 years old, I'd still see him every year or two and he always remembered me.
Viviane 4 years ago
Sweet! My nephew got visitation rights to see his ex-girlfriend's cats. :)
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Rens 4 years ago
Last year I met a guy who lives in the same building as me; and we seemed to get on well and I invited him over for dinner the next day. He was eager to meet my cat; she greeted him then flopped onto her back with her belly exposed. I took that as a good sign and we've been together ever since!.
Lady Vader 4 years ago
I was casually dating a guy who was kicking my cat when I wasn't looking. When I caught him, it made sense why she avoided him and no one else. I beat him out of my house and down all the stairs from my third floor condo. He was almost a foot taller than me but I think he thought I was going to kill him. I have never physically hurt anyone before but when that blind rage took over me, I absolutely lost it.
Birgit M 4 years ago
I would always choose my cat over a boyfriend, but this is not just about loving a pet more than a person. Someone who demands that you give up your pet is an egotist (most likely in other ways, too) and oblivious to the fact that this animal makes you happy. So they don‘t care if you suffer from the loss.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
Yes, I do believe that is truly the crux of the matter.
Load More Replies... King Joffrey 4 years ago
Neither of these is really about the pet. It's about insecurities (you love the cat more than me) and control (I decide whether the pet stays/what kind of pet is acceptable).
W. 5 4 years ago
Damn, you're right! Reading the examples I Just thought "What assholes!" but the true motives behind this are even scarier!
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
About thirty-ish years ago, boyfriend comes with me to the family farm. First, I stay back to watch him and the cats interact. Then, him and the dogs. They loved him. He was patient and kind with them, and he got purrs from each cat, and happy wags from all the dogs. Yep. He asked, I said yes, still married, and he is right besides me helping with ferals and rescuing shelter animals!
Ozacoter 4 years ago
Any person who behaves this way with a pet or a loved one is not going to be a good partner. Some people might not love pets but are neutral about them (often after love them). Some have valid reasons to not want one, like allergies or cleaning; one of my best friends will never have a dog/cat because she loved everything spotless and pets shed. That's all fine. But a person that its like 'I hate dogs/cats", its rude to them or gives ultimatums is a jerk.
Viviane 4 years ago
My husband wasn't crazy about animals, but he never asked me to choose pets (two cats, a rabbit) over him. He's gotten to like them a bit more. He once surprised me by cuddling a cat that lived in a B&B. We haven't had pets in years, but he does imitations of various animals. Some days, I can't tell the hubby from a baby alpaca ;)
Load More Replies... Diane Heral 4 years ago
Was seeing someone, when one day out of the blue, he said "When we get married, your cats will have to be outdoor cats." That was first time marriage was mentioned! I just looked at him and said "You'll live outside before they do." We parted ways shortly after that. The strange part was that he & ex had 2 dogs & 2 cats, that were indoor pets.
Cynner 4 years ago
My boyfriend never liked Cats, arrogant assholes he called them. Before moving in last August, I one time said that he gets me AND a cat, he only said: I know. Mimi needed some time to get used to him, she is not really fond of people who are not me. But in the last few months their love has blossomed and I swear my boyfriend feels SO special when she screams at him for pets. He's in the inner circle now.
Viviane 4 years ago
I've met a number of men who told me they don't like cats, but they do adore that one special one. One cat hater was totally charmed by his girlfriend's two friendly and affectionate cats. He was scared of the snake that she draped over her shoulders, but he tolerated it. They're now happily married.
Load More Replies... Johnny 4 years ago
When my ex and I split up, we both wanted the dog (we got him when he was a puppy and we had him for 7 years). So, we split custody, we traded him off every week or two. The dog didn't seem to mind, he was always super happy to trade off and he settled into different routines depending on where he was (I had a city apartment, she had a suburban house with yard). Eventually she moved a few states away and the dog went with her, he lived to be 16 years old, I'd still see him every year or two and he always remembered me.
Viviane 4 years ago
Sweet! My nephew got visitation rights to see his ex-girlfriend's cats. :)
Load More Replies... Rens 4 years ago
Last year I met a guy who lives in the same building as me; and we seemed to get on well and I invited him over for dinner the next day. He was eager to meet my cat; she greeted him then flopped onto her back with her belly exposed. I took that as a good sign and we've been together ever since!.
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