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There are many ways to be a toxic parent to your kids, but these self-absorbed parents don't just affect their offspring - but the entire world around them. Whether they think the world revolves around their kid(s) or that the world and their kid(s) revolve around them, some people have zero awareness or regard for just how obnoxious their actions are.

Bored Panda has collected a list of photos from the internet of this variety of bad parenting, and they will make your blood boil. From not cleaning up after their messy children they let run rampant, to downright neglect that could lead to their kids getting hurt - the toxic people on this list could benefit from a parenting tips class. Scroll down below to check out the craziness and don't forget to upvote your favs!

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"Taking A Picture Of Me???" - Woman Changing Her Baby's Dirty Diaper On Top Of An Old Navy Clothing Display

"Taking A Picture Of Me???" - Woman Changing Her Baby's Dirty Diaper On Top Of An Old Navy Clothing Display

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

shes shocked that someone taking a picture of her, yet thinks its normal to change a diaper in a clothing store

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Raising kids is hard, there is no question about it. It's easy to get stressed and frustrated - which can lead to some toxic parenting styles. Here are some toxic parenting behaviors to avoid. Instead of taking at your kids talk with them. Barbara Greenberg, PhD, a clinical psychologist known for her national television appearances focusing on the mental health of adolescents and teens, told Reader's Digest: “Toxic parents are known for not listening to their kids, but instead, talking over them or at them,” and said they should, "make a concerted effort to remain silent and listen, listen, and listen some more. If kids feel listened to they will talk more and confide more. 

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Parents Letting Their Children Play On The "Vietnam Women's Memorial" Right In Front Of Veterans

Parents Letting Their Children Play On The "Vietnam Women's Memorial" Right In Front Of Veterans

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These Kids Just Destroyed This Thrift Shop's Toy Section And Their Parents Did Nothing

These Kids Just Destroyed This Thrift Shop's Toy Section And Their Parents Did Nothing

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Try to stay positive! Negative thoughts can be more powerful than you think and affect your interactions with your kids. Internationally recognized child psychology expert, Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD, explained to RD: “No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to their own emotions.” 

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This Mother...

This Mother...

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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh hell no, this is disgusting. Why does no-one say anything to this parent, instead of taking pics call the manager, get them kicked out and banned from the restaurant.

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Someone Took Their Measles-Infected Kid To The Play Area At IKEA

Someone Took Their Measles-Infected Kid To The Play Area At IKEA

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A complete lack of imagination and responsibility, like a deliberate terrorist activity.

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It's hard to keep a cool head when you have a million things to do, the dog got out, you have to drop people off at activities and still have work. Dr. Bernstein believes that it is worth it to learn how to manage these parenthood frustrations as the outcome can have a positive effect on your child's behavior. “When you learn to identify and manage your own parenting frustrations, you’ll be amazed at how your child’s challenging behaviors can quickly improve.” 

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Leaving Dirty Diapers At Your Table After Leaving A Restaurant Is Pretty Trashy

Leaving Dirty Diapers At Your Table After Leaving A Restaurant Is Pretty Trashy

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This and few other posts makes me re-evaluate wanting to eat at a restaurant again

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Letting Your Kid Watch A Movie On Full Volume In A Restaurant

Letting Your Kid Watch A Movie On Full Volume In A Restaurant

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any loudly watching and listening in a public place without headphones should be punished on the spot. Hammer. Drastically. And after the equipment.

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Your child is not their behavior. We all have bad days, imagine if you snapped at your child and from every day onward your kid thought of you only as "angry" mom or dad. The same goes for your kids. Dr. Bernstein explained: “The lack of time for parents to catch their breath and reflect, can lead them sometimes to see their children in global ways. As a result, toxic labels such as: lazy, problematic, selfish, and inconsiderate can result in parents influencing their children to be locked into a negative identity." Focus on solutions, not labels. 

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Lifting Your Kids Over A Guard Rail So You Can Ignore Them With Your Smartphone While They Try To Destroy A Display

Lifting Your Kids Over A Guard Rail So You Can Ignore Them With Your Smartphone While They Try To Destroy A Display

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are the statues made from Lego bricks? Then, oh my gosh . . . Even if those weren't Lego, there are railings in front of the display for a reason.

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#9

This Mom Allowing Her Child To Listen To His iPad Full Volume Without Headphones For The Entire Flight

This Mom Allowing Her Child To Listen To His iPad Full Volume Without Headphones For The Entire Flight

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Every kid is unique, even within the same family, and each one has something to bring to the table. Maybe you find it easier to get along with one sibling over the other or have more in common, but comparing kids against each other is toxic - especially if you think it will result in a change of behavior. Dr. Greenberg says, “Instead, you should celebrate each child’s individuality; comparisons damage self-esteem and do not serve as motivation.”

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Neglectful Parents

Neglectful Parents

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some poor kids are just begging for attention, and growing up they'll probably behave more and more outrageously just to be noticed by their parents.

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Pro Travel Parenting Tip: Use The Lavatory For Your Child

Pro Travel Parenting Tip: Use The Lavatory For Your Child

Backstory: Parent brings own potty seat on board, sets it in aisle mid-flight to have child use (in front of everyone) - when discovered by crew was advised she couldn’t do this & would need to utilize the unoccupied lavatory. And her reply: “I don’t give a ****!”

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disgusting. However, almost impossible to enter miniscule plane restrooms with two peoole or to change a diaper in one. No win situation.

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#12

Dealership I Work At Gives Out Loaner Vehicles While We Get Theirs Repaired. One We Just Got Back

Dealership I Work At Gives Out Loaner Vehicles While We Get Theirs Repaired. One We Just Got Back

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Putting A Used Diaper In A Child’s Shoe Is The Hot New Thing In My Parents' Hometown

Putting A Used Diaper In A Child’s Shoe Is The Hot New Thing In My Parents' Hometown

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A Mom And Two Older Kids Refused To Leave The Kids Play Table So Kids Could Play. They Didn't Even Look Up From Their Phones

A Mom And Two Older Kids Refused To Leave The Kids Play Table So Kids Could Play. They Didn't Even Look Up From Their Phones

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#15

This Little Kid's Ballon In The Theatre

This Little Kid's Ballon In The Theatre

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Leaving Your Baby In The Middle Of The Entrance (The Parents Were Nowhere To Be Seen)

Leaving Your Baby In The Middle Of The Entrance (The Parents Were Nowhere To Be Seen)

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Parents Who Raise Their Kids Saying It's Okay To Leave A Library Like This

Parents Who Raise Their Kids Saying It's Okay To Leave A Library Like This

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This Parent Became Part Of The Show So She Can Get A Close Up Of Her Kid

This Parent Became Part Of The Show So She Can Get A Close Up Of Her Kid

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lack of self-preservation instinct and terrible shame for the child.

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Please Don’t Be The Type Of Person To Say Or Tell Your Children That This Is Okay Because It Is Someone’s Job To Clean It

Please Don’t Be The Type Of Person To Say Or Tell Your Children That This Is Okay Because It Is Someone’s Job To Clean It

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Shawn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guarantee it's not. Lots of folks have no respect for anything..

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Kristy P
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband is a custodian at a school and a child once threw something on the ground instead of throwing it away properly. A teacher told him to pick it up & throw it away. The child looked at the teacher and said (while pointing at another custodian) "that's his job". Where did he learn that? His parents.

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Israel Martinez
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is a fireman's job to put out fires ... doesn't mean you should start them ...

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cinema in my town asks you to leave your rubbish on the floor so that they can recycle it for you. A message comes up on the screen before and after the film telling you to leave it on the floor under your seat

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Phlop Ophlarb
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can hear them saying "Isn't that your job/what you get paid for?"

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Janine B.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every time when I go to the cinema. Makes me just furious.

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Amber Turk
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At my fast food restaurant, I've seen an entire family finish eating, then shove all their trash and food under the table as if that is the garbage can. People are cretins. Swine.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg this just made me remember that my dad literally said this to me as a child, but I would absolutely not do this even though he told me it was okay back then. I probably know better because my mum would say the exact opposite (she always got mad at him for doing things like wearing shoes in her house (they are divorced))

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Sue Sanders
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're sure it's kids? I can name a hell of a lot of horribly messy grown-ups who've yet to earn that title.

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Mo Poppins
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m from a family of narcs, and though they have more decency than this, they do have that entitled attitude that it’s someone else’s job to clean up after their mess.

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Sarah Schmidt
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who worked in a cinema I can assure you, that looks way better than most seats after a film for adults...

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least the staff have two magical brooms to help them fix the mess.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I used to work at a cinema in my teens we were told to dump the popcorn out onto the floor and remove the packaging because it was a fire hazard, so at the end of a late shift we would leave each screen looking like this, some point in the early hours a crew of cleaners would clean up the mess we had made, I always thought this was odd.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked in a cinema in the UK. We were told to sweep popcorn under the seats and tip out liquid from the drinks bottles into a bucket (before disposing of empty bottles), unless it was after the last screening then we could leave it for the cleaners.

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Kathy Baylis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering the fact that the person who has to do it is probably making minimum wage.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone should work in a cinema for a day, same goes for dropping clothes on the floor in a shop

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Samantha Hurrell
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't go the cinema often, but when I do I often see discarded food packaging. How hard is it to use a bin?

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Susan Gardner
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like "adult" behavior to me, or mom with children and she is not a better example. I've seen it too many times

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Candice Ravel
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked in a theater when I was a teenager and it's not only kids who do this s**t.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leaving your not spilled popcorn on the chair all nice is fine (even tho they have trash cans on the way out, I understand some people have their hands full with kids) this is not okay.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disagree. There's no excuse to be a burden for anybody else. You can get up and toss the stuff before the kids get up. If not, then how did you get the kids AND the food there in the first place? It's not okay to make other people do extra work because you caused a burden.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so happy I haven't seen something like that where I live since the 13 years I moved in this country!

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Sascha Newcocoon
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

but it is someones job... in some cases this argument is right...

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Amanda Brady
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We all have aspects of our jobs we hate doing, but we chose that job and we just have to do it. If you're gonna b***h about it, find another job!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they did tell their kids that - then the kids deserve to become Cinema attendants for a job!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friend works at a movie theatre where there are reclinable chairs. And some a*****e kid reclined EVERY. F*****G. CHAIR. Now workers usually have 5 minutes to clean the theatre and it takes about 10-15 seconds per seat to go down fully. She couldn't even clean the movie theatre well because she had to fix what this a*****e satan spawn did

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I Love Watching My Kid Through An iPad

I Love Watching My Kid Through An iPad

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Had My Tutoring Area All Set Up, And The Kid Didn’t Show. The Parents Didn’t Even Call. I Got Up At 7:00 In The Summer For This

Had My Tutoring Area All Set Up, And The Kid Didn’t Show. The Parents Didn’t Even Call. I Got Up At 7:00 In The Summer For This

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Don’t Use Your Kid’s Mental Illness To Be An *******

Don’t Use Your Kid’s Mental Illness To Be An *******

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And The ******* Of The Day Award Goes To The Parent Who Left Two Loaded Diapers Nestled In The Rocks Along The Barton Springs Spillway Only About 20 Feet From A Trash Bin

And The ******* Of The Day Award Goes To The Parent Who Left Two Loaded Diapers Nestled In The Rocks Along The Barton Springs Spillway Only About 20 Feet From A Trash Bin

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A Mother Just Watched Her Child Do This

A Mother Just Watched Her Child Do This

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, she didn't . She problably was too absorbed by her phone to even have even noticed it if the kid would have demolished the entire stand.

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When Parents Allow Their Kids To Make Messes In Stores Like This

When Parents Allow Their Kids To Make Messes In Stores Like This

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

would hate to see what their house looks like, this behavior was learnt and condoned at home

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Remember Everyone, The World Is Your Trash Can! (Bonus: The Mom Who Did This Saw Me Scoff And Take A Picture)

Remember Everyone, The World Is Your Trash Can! (Bonus: The Mom Who Did This Saw Me Scoff And Take A Picture)

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bonus: The Mom Who Did This Saw Me Scoff And Take A Picture, Yet decided she couldn't be bothered and left the trash exactly where it was.

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Let Me Look At My Phone While I Block All The Other Parents From Seeing Their Kids Dance

Let Me Look At My Phone While I Block All The Other Parents From Seeing Their Kids Dance

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Wil Vanderheijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask her to leave that place so you can look at your child. If she goes ape, video it and tell her that your facebookfriends need a good laugh.

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Spotted This Kid Next To Me Jumping And Climbing On His Seat While The Plane Was Landing. Parents, Please

Spotted This Kid Next To Me Jumping And Climbing On His Seat While The Plane Was Landing. Parents, Please

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When Parents Let Their Kids Destroy The Thrift Store

When Parents Let Their Kids Destroy The Thrift Store

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do the people working there just remain silent and not say anything, parents and kids need to be told that this is totally not acceptable

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Parent Made Her Party Guests Give Up Their Bears To Her Daughter

Parent Made Her Party Guests Give Up Their Bears To Her Daughter

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you tell a bunch of 6 year old they don't get to keep the bear they just made? That mom is a monster!

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Guy Changes The Diaper Of His Kid And Leaves The Waste Behind

Guy Changes The Diaper Of His Kid And Leaves The Waste Behind

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Parents That Do This When A Trash Can Is 10 Feet Away

Parents That Do This When A Trash Can Is 10 Feet Away

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of our dog owners here do the same with the poop of their dogs.

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Kid Drops A Squeeze Ball Over An Ancient Roman Mosaic. Parents Let Him Go Fetch It, Ruining The "Birds Mosaic" Of Italica, Spain

Kid Drops A Squeeze Ball Over An Ancient Roman Mosaic. Parents Let Him Go Fetch It, Ruining The "Birds Mosaic" Of Italica, Spain

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not that this is ok, but is he really ruining it just by stepping once on it?

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Parents Letting Their Kids Play With The Toys At Goodwill And Just Leaving It

Parents Letting Their Kids Play With The Toys At Goodwill And Just Leaving It

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Wil Vanderheijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but this is bad management failing to tell staff that they are allowed to confront parents and kids on unwanted behaviour. These things happen because for staff it's a "Not worth risking my job for"-issue.

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These Parents In Dentist Waiting Room Are Letting Their Kids Tear Up The Magazines

These Parents In Dentist Waiting Room Are Letting Their Kids Tear Up The Magazines

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Parents Who Let Their Kids Watch Videos On Full Volume In Public

Parents Who Let Their Kids Watch Videos On Full Volume In Public

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Someone's Kid Bit Into My Yogurt Container And The Parent Put It Back On The Shelf. Then I Bought It And Had To Go Back To The Store To Buy A New One

Someone's Kid Bit Into My Yogurt Container And The Parent Put It Back On The Shelf. Then I Bought It And Had To Go Back To The Store To Buy A New One

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Parents Watching Their Children Climb Up And Destroy These Signs In IKEA

Parents Watching Their Children Climb Up And Destroy These Signs In IKEA

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Wil Vanderheijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, that's when you call a staffmember. But sadly, it will show that nobody really cares: The staffmember knows that confronting the parents could cost him his job, The parents would trhow a rage when confronted and are comped with entire new furniture for their home. Sad but true.

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Trashy Dad, Letting Baby Drop Food On The Train Floor, Then Stepping On It Himself In His Socks. Witnessed Near Birmingham (UK)

Trashy Dad, Letting Baby Drop Food On The Train Floor, Then Stepping On It Himself In His Socks. Witnessed Near Birmingham (UK)

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ick..what is wrong with that guy's leg...? What are those welts..? Major case of ringworm maybe..?

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Parents That Let Their Kids Climb A Memorial. They Were Using It As A Slide

Parents That Let Their Kids Climb A Memorial. They Were Using It As A Slide

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