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26 People Reveal The “Oh, Hell No” Moment That Made Them End Their Relationship
Depending on the circumstances, it can be incredibly difficult or extremely easy to end a romantic relationship. And while we can have virtually endless discussions about the first category, this time let's focus on the second one.
Recently, Reddit user DonutNoLikey asked other platform users, "What was your 'OH, HELL NAH' moment in a relationship that made you leave?" and people have shared plenty of personal stories that provide interesting insight into what pushes us to our breaking points.
Of course, these reasons are often just the tip of the iceberg, but sometimes we need an obvious sign to notice broader, more nuanced problems.
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#1
She got really upset at me at a party (nothing I did) and started a huge verbal argument. Then I demanded that we leave because it was inappropriate to do this as guests in someone’s home. On the way to our place, she hit me a bunch of times demanding “answers” for someone that I slept with before we even met.
She got even more angry and physically violent once we got home, to the point where I had to restrain her before she hurt me or herself for that matter. She screamed to let me go and that if I didn’t she would scream for the police — she looked me in the eye then said “who are they going to believe..?”
For context, we’re both roughly 5’11” but I’ve got about 80 pounds on her. I’m a black man, she’s a white woman. I have never been more afraid of being shot by the police than that night.
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#2
First Mother’s Day as a mum, and just got my first period after a brutal emergency c section. I was so sick I could only crawl to the toilet. Should have been hospitalised, but too mentally incoherent to know. Ex ignored the special occasion, ignored my need for help, and ignored our newborn who I was too unwell to feed or hold so he could go out with his mates. When I called him beginning him to come home in tears he made it sound like he was doing me a favour. Kicked him to the curb as soon as I was strong enough. No regrets.
#3
My best friend is female we have been friends for 18 years, was out with a new gf and ran into NY friend at the mall. Friend hugged me and I introduced her and I though all was well until we got home. She freaked out and said she broke "girl code" and I wasn't allowed to talk to her anymore... side note she had male friends that I didn't freak out over, I pointed that out and she said "it's different, you're a guy" to which I said she has issues and this wasn't going to work out and I never looked back.
I'm not throwing away a life long friend to appease a jealous girlfriend.
#4
I had a dream where everyone in my life treated me like she treats me every day and in my dream it made me kill myself, I woke up in tears and realized truly just how abusive she is.
#5
Never introduced me to his friends. Would actively avoid being seen with me by people he knew. I pretty quickly asked him what was his problem. His answer was that I needed to change my appearance because he didn't want people seeing him date a weird goth chick. Dumped him right then.
#6
Ex wife started an argument with me one morning when I was headed to the funeral of a childhood friend. I asked if she could not do this right now. Her response was “ohhhh, poor you.” That was the beginning of the end.
#7
When I had been the sole breadwinner for fifteen months (then-husband was physically and mentally healthy), deeply in debt, house was always filthy, hadn't hung out with my friends in a year, and hadn't been intimate for a few months.
I was standing on a chair tying a noose to an I-beam in the basement when it occurred to me that I was basically letting this guy kill me. So I walked instead.
#8
I was in a 5 yr relationship with this guy that was psychologically abusive. One year, my sister in law was having pregnancy complications so my family all decided to go to their house for Christmas so she didn't have to travel the 5 hrs to get to us. I told my bf and he said "well obvious you're not going". Turns out not getting to see my family on Christmas was just the push I needed.
#9
Found a stack of papers sort of stashed in my ex's stuff. It was every email from my gmail account printed out so she could read them at work or something I guess. I dunno, it was weird. It didn't work out.
#10
It was already heading down that way, but what got me was one day when he invited his friend to my house (without telling me, while I was at work), and when I came home, they started talking about my cat who they thought should put down because she was 'feral' and given the chance they would do so.
They claimed she was 'feral' simply because she spent the first weeks of her life outside before she had her leg amputated and found her way to me. Ex didn't like her because 1. I'd gotten her when I was with a previous ex, and 2. she was mean to him because she didn't like the way he handled her and never listened to her warnings to leave her alone.
#11
He admitted he and his family belonged to a hate group and said the Holocaust was a Jewish media myth. I’m not Jewish but my dad was helping smuggle Jews out of Warsaw and got caught and sent to a camp. He had a tattoo just like the Jewish victims. Don’t try to tell me it was a lie.
#12
I woke up at 3am to my partner of 11 years muttering at me when he thought I was asleep.
His tone was so dark and disturbing I felt that if I hadn't woken up to hear him I may not have woken up at all.
He wasnt loud so maybe it was the way he was speaking that made me wake up like I did but my brain was immediately on high alert. I snapped awake and alert in an instant and just knew that I should just stay still and quiet and not let him know I was awake.
What came out of him where all sorts of wild accusatory delusions spat at me with so much venom that 6 years later I still clearly remember the feeling of dread that washed over me. My whole body was weighed down with it.
Our relationship wasn't a great one by any means but it was the first time I genuinely felt afraid of what he would do. I was afraid to speak up but also afraid that if I stayed quiet and let him keep on his rambling that it could progress into something worse and if it came to it I could never have fought him off.
That's when it really clicked to me how seriously he needed professional intervention and that I was not only unable to help him but also that I needed to get out from under the same roof as him as soon as possible.
Paranoid schizophrenia is a b***h and the available mental health care in our area is a joke.
#13
She went on vacation to have a spiritual awakening by doing drugs in the jungle and came home accusing me of being a demon.
#14
My fiancee cheated on me and got pregnant, then told me "You never did anything to prove you really love me"
She asked me to prove my love for her by accepting the baby she got from cheating on me.
I asked her to leave - this was my home, my name only was on the lease. She refused to go.
So I gave my notice to the landlords, moved out and told her she had two weeks left.
"But what am I supposed to do? I don't have a job!" she wailed.
Not my problem.
She's a single mum now.
#15
He got physically aggressive with my eldest daughter. I left the next day with both of my kids.
#16
She crawled through my doggie door at 1:30 am, went through my phone, and then asked me why I was talking to another woman.
Oh, I forgot to mention that I broke up with her a month earlier. We were not in a relationship when she pulled that stunt.
#17
I’ve talked about this before but I had a real Karen of an ex who was easily the meanest person I’ve ever met. The turning point for me in the relationship was when she made me rehome one of my dogs when I lived with her, she claimed after four months of me living with her that her lease wouldn’t allow it. So I tearfully rehomed my German Shepard chow mix and got called a little bit for bawling like a baby when I did it by my ex. The next week I’m chilling in the house when In walks my ex with a basset hound. I asked her about her lease and she straight up told me she lied about that because she hated my big dog, the same one both of her kids loved. At the time an apartment was out of the question due to my horrible credit so I bought a camper and moved it onto my parents property shortly after. Im now in an amazing relationship with someone just as goofy as me and we’re currently house hunting!
#18
I caught her banging the guy she picked to be my best man on the preacher's desk on our wedding day.
#19
When I was 16/17, I dated a guy who was in town for the summer. He was so cool (I thought) and I had a car so I would drive us on dates and junk. He really made my heart flutter. If I said no to him, he'd get upset a bit, but it didn't seem to be a huge issue. Like, if he wanted me to drive him somewhere to drop him off to hang with his friends, normally I would but a few times, it was like a 30min drive and I said no.
Then he hit me once. We were in the car and he wanted me to drop him off at a girl's house and I asked why. He wouldn't really answer and then admitted that he was using me for my drug connections and my car. I was surprised and said no. I'd drop him off where he was staying and then we were done. He hit me. I pulled over and kicked him out of my car and drove away.
#20
My ex boyfriend was angry his mom woke him up at 10 in the morning via phone call, so after the call, he punched a hole in his door, threw his phone at the window, woke me up forcefully, and yelled at me to buy a new door so his parents wouldn’t kick him out.
#21
He refused to use soap. Yes, this includes hand soap. He believed that water and scrubbing was enough to keep yourself clean and it was important not to strip your body of its natural oils. I must admit, he did have really nice hair and skin but he always smelled bad and I could not get over the fact that he didn’t even use soap after using the bathroom. I have no clue what he does if his hands get sticky or really dirty, I didn’t stick around long enough to find out. Thankfully we never got physical or made it official, but we “talked” and went on dates for a month and I still get the ick when I think about him.
#22
When he was polyamorous (literally dating other people) but got super upset and jealous when I would hug my friends.
#24
In a gay situationship.
He wanted me to start taking estrogen/transgender drugs to "have a more feminine physique" and become a femboy.
#25
She stole my car, drove it from Washington to Las Vegas, and married a guy she met on Xbox Live so he could get residence.
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