“AITA For Making My Daughter Leave Because My Husband Is Attracted To Her?”
Navigating children and a second marriage is no easy task. The kids may not always approve of the parents’ choice to remarry, while the couple might feel pressured to act in a way that’s best for their offsprings, putting their relationship on the back burner.
However, this couple behaved in the opposite way, putting their needs first and forgetting their daughter’s. This eventually led to her leaving the home because the stepfather found it hard to be around her all day. Feeling bad about this whole situation, the mother turned to the AITAH community, asking if what they did was wrong.
Navigating children and a second marriage can be a difficult task
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For this family, matters became even more complicated after the wife found out her new husband was attracted to his step-daughter
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Psychologists say it’s actually healthier to make the spouse the first priority
In a marriage with children, it seems counterintuitive to put yourself first, says psychologist Yvonne Thomas. However, according to her, it’s actually healthier to make the spouse the foremost priority, as a solid marriage foundation will make the kids more stable, secure, and happy.
“By experiencing this emotional stability between their parents, the kids can learn how to do this when they have their own romantic relationships, too,” she says. At the same time, partners will feel more loved and appreciated, which can make kids feel more comfortable and content as well.
Rapid Transformational Therapy trainer Marisa Peer believes that prioritizing the relationship with a spouse also helps raise children with a stronger sense of self-worth. “Your job as a parent is to raise your child with incredibly high self-esteem,” she says. “Many parents think their job is to protect their child or give their child organic foods. All of that is important, but the self-esteem of your child is the most important.”
Licensed marriage and family therapist Charlie Bloom explains that the idea that kids should always be the top priority has gotten to the point where parents are often judged and ostracized for it. This can become harmful, causing couples to neglect their relationship and take on helicopter parenting.
It can further lead to children growing up with the expectation that the world is going to give them anything they desire, which creates a sense of entitlement. “We deal with this quite a bit because parents pick up this cultural bias toward favoring the needs of children above everyone else,” he says.
However, it’s important to keep in mind that there will be times when kids will need more of their parent’s attention
However, putting your relationship needs first doesn’t mean that a parent loves their spouse more than their children. Instead, Bloom suggests, “What you’re really saying is, ‘I do love you both, but there are times when it looks to me like the best decision to make is this decision, and most of the time that decision is going to disappoint one of you. I hope you can understand when I do that it’s not because I love you any less or the other person deserves more, it’s because, in my judgment at that time, it felt like the right decision to make.’”
To avoid neglecting one part of the family, it’s important to strive for balance as much as possible. Thomas encourages couples to set aside time on their calendars to rekindle the romantic and passionate side of their relationship and take it as seriously as any other commitment.
However, it’s important to keep in mind that there will be times when kids will need more of their parent’s attention. Life occasionally happens, and we can’t always predict the changes, crises, or other circumstances that will require more of our care. Some weeks, it might be about children, while others may be dedicated to work. Things shift, and that’s totally normal. Having a firm belief that the spouse or the kids should always come first can cause issues. Therefore, Peer advises, “Understanding that this fluctuates is one of the keys to having an amazing marriage.”
Trying to make everyone a priority might be overwhelming. Something that can significantly help is good communication. No one is born a mind reader, so having an honest conversation when times get tough might help solve problems as they arise. This might take some soul-searching and self-reflection, but it’s important to let them go so it doesn’t turn into resentment in the long run.
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this is a joke right? no one would write it like this and expect an NTA.
While I do hope it's joke (a really crass one) I'm fairly certain that people can be that self-delusional to genuinely think they did no wrong. It seems most it stems from the moms own upbringing, mainly based on the comment that she believed (still believes?) that correcting someone else's child would be harassment.
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(Former therapist here) Does OP have any idea the level of trauma it takes to trigger DID? And then to not support her when she was being bullied? OP you are a horrible human being. I hope the daughter can find people who actually care about and support her.
OP talks about it as if it was a very light case of ADHD or seasonal depression. She clearly conveniently doesn't remember or doesn't care about what she or her husband did to their daughter to cause this. You don't get DID from kids thinking that you're smelly. There is something very big being left out
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Your daughter should have been taken away from you the moment you chose to ignore her bullies.
so her husband says he is attracted to her daughter and thats why he isnt having sex with her and she kicks the daughter out the house that is so backwards absolutely YTA
My biological dad was sexually attracted to me from the time I hit puberty. He molested me when I was 13. He told my mum he was in love with me and wanted me sexually when I was 19. He tried to molest me again when I was 53, a year before he died. I spent my entire adolescence and adult life being scared. It was only a few months ago - nearly two years after he died - that I finally don't feel afraid. My mum? She tells everyone - including me - that he was an excellent father. Me? Lifelong, debilitating depression, anxiety, and E.D. I choose to be single with pets and no human children, and I cherish the kids in my life (friends' and siblings' kids). This woman is a s**t parent and doesn't deserve her daughter. I want to hug that poor girl. Because that girl is me.
Oh my god. I am so sorry that you had to experience this. Hopefully you have no contact with your mother and that your father is rotting in the 7th circle of hell.
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If this is real and the daughter actually has DID she went through a lot more trauma than bullying.
Or the bullying has to have been criminal acts, not just kids being mean. OP is downplaying this entire situation quite a lot. Not to mention that she doesn't seem upset enough at her new husband for wanting to sleep with someone less than half his age. What is wrong with OP?
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My mother let a lot of terrible things happen to me and chose her partner over me. I haven't spoken to them in over 10 years. So look forward to having no relationship with your daughter and knowing you failed ss a mother, op.
When I was in school being bullied to the point of suicidal ideation (I had undiagnosed autism and even one of the TEACHERS hated me for "not acting right"), my mother pulled me out of that damn school after attempts to stop the bullying failed. In highschool when another student assaulted me and I was too embarrassed to do anything about it, she immediately pushed me to report the bastard and between us he got expelled. If a grown man, her husband or anyone else twice my age and in a position of authority over me, started making eyes at me, she'd have ripped their f*****g lungs out. This woman here is a failure as a mother and as a decent human being and she should be ashamed of herself. I hope the daughter gets far, far away from her and her vile husband.
"My view that all children are innoscent really tied my hands" Really? ... or where you just afraid of stepping up, and made up an excuse instead? That statement just sounds like some serious selfdeciet (humans have an instinctual talent for this). Some kids can be some real nasty little pricks, who are perfectly aware of what they are doing, and will continue doing so for as long as you let them get away with it. They need to be put in their place, and be shown where the line is, instead of enjoying the benefit of the doubt. You sound like you are very afraid of the conflict, and instead you let your daughter pay the price every single time, when you should have stepped up for her instead. Wake up and face the reality, you have failed as mother, and people are right for calling you out on that.
“I just need time to process the situation and don’t want to leave the house to stay with my daughter when I have a marriage to figure out whether or not to save “!!! Since this woman is so self-absorbed, she should at least consider that if her husband is attracted to her young daughter, he may get attracted to someone else tomorrow. She needs to GTFO at least for her own selfish reason.
For God's sake, you can't possibly be that stupid! Children are innocents.....are you freaking kidding? And on the basis of that mistaken assumption you let your child be bullied into a mental disorder that will impact her entire life? And instead of confronting that sorry excuse of a husband you have and tell him to move out, you kick your daughter out, justifying this to yourself by saying resources are available to her? All I hear is 'it's me, myself and I'. You're not a mother; you are not even a decent human being.
Her comment about all children being innocent jumped out at me - was she saying that she believes that children are inherently innocent or that everyone believes a child over an adult? Attachment to either or both ideas sounds like an excuse to avoid confrontation. Not even her daughter's lack of safety can shake her from her utter lack of introspection or instill a moral backbone.
Load More Replies... I'm guessing that this man has already been inappropriate with his stepdaughter and is mentioning it now to see what he can get away with. He's seen a vulnerable woman and Is manipulating to get her. His stupid wife has made it obvious to him that his behaviour is right and her daughter deserves to be removed from the home. Shame on this woman.
ask your husband to leave, he's a creep and a pervert. And make a good introspection about how you treated your daughter when she "asked" for help
Don't ask him to leave, kick his butt out on the street and toss his clothes on the ground.
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Why did you not do your daughter just one favor? Put her up for adoption at birth, at these then she would have had a mother, one who wanted her
I don't know you and I don't know what happened to you, but I think there are boundaries that should never be crossed. If your mother abused you either physically or psychologically, was violent, deprived you of love, food, attention, etc, she was a bad mother and a bad person. There may be worse mothers, but that doesn't make yours better, or your suffering less real. Never let people devalue your feelings because others had it worse.
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Ah man, the day just started and I'm already done with the internet. Damn.
Of the many horrifying aspects of this one, that she "could help heal some childhood wounds if my second husband and I modelled a healthy relationship" takes the cake.
This kind of story is sadly not so rare. Stepfathers being sexually attracted to their much younger stepdaughters. In fact, the adults in these situations often act on their feelings and of course this abuse traumatizes the daughters. In too many of these circumstances, mothers are poor protectors.
ESH except the daughter. The ex has no business painting her as the villain. He should have gotten her away from the mother and protected her, also against bullies, ages ago too. Only if he called CPS and tried to protect her, but some evil judge gave her the kid he's NTA. But she says she lets her live with her, so where did she live before that? With dad? Why did he let her go live with that creep?
I think the bio dad did a lot more to his daughter than the sorry excuse for a “mother” is mentioning. And I firmly believe she knew and did nothing to protect her daughter. DID has strong causal links to se***l abuse. And now he’s being so public about the shaming to project all that blame onto the mother knowing what he did…
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If she has been diagnosed with DID by a qualified professional the overwhelming likelihood is that she's been through severe sexual trauma as a young child. That's the level of damage it takes for the brain to create/fragment into different personalities, and that's why it's rare. If you'd even bothered to do basic research you'd be aware of this but clearly you don't give a rat's ârse.
Or that her parents were in other ways abusive. For it to be caused solely by bullying it would have had to be extreme enough to get those kids in juvie. To me it does kind of sound like the mom was abusive but conveniently plays the: "I know you hate me for failing as a parent for not stopping the bullies" and ignores the just as true "I abused you at home and they abused you in school".
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Too many women prioritise they pervert men over their daughters' safety and mental health. Sadly, they prefer having a s**t pervert man than being seen as a woman who can't keep one. S**t people on any scale.
She was right to ask the question AITAH. If there is a bigger AH out there somewhere I have yet to come across them.
lol that’s funny. Congrats OP, you aren’t just any AH. You’re sitting at the top of the long list of AHs I’ve ever seen.
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The Grimm brothers would struggle to create a more twisted villain than OP
NOTE FROM THERAPIST QUOTED: I was not told the story that my input was to be posed as responding to. I was asked 3 questions about family structure. This is what I sent to bored panda, after learning how my input had been misused:
Hi Austėja, I am surprised by the title of this article, as your questions indicated nothing of the scandalous headline the story is centered around. I am bothered that the juxtaposition of my comments with the main story of a stepdad attracted to his wife's daughter makes it appear to readers that I endorse incest. I do NOT endorse a "choose one and push the other out" when it comes to whether spouse or offspring deserve prioritization. By placing my response to your unrelated questions next to this awful story, it appears as though I advocate for what has happened in this family, as though it may even have been my advice. I did not advise anything that happened with this family and I don't want my name next to it. I stand by the research that I explained to you. Had I been given this unique, complicated, click-bait situation to consider along with the questions you asked, I would have addressed this family's situation in my responses. Since I was not made aware of this situation,
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This is one of those "you knew the answer before you asked it, but hoped at least ONE person would be supportive" type of situations ... the fattest chance possible doesn't begin to describe her expectations ...
Before I had children, my husband always came first. Now that I have children, they are 100% my priority, in all aspects.
as someone who has DID alongside several other mental health problems F**K THIS WOMAN I HOPE SHE ROTS WHAT THE F**K. MASSIVE YTA. She is ADDING to her daughters trauma and enabling her husband to do the same FFS!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO YOUR DAUGHTER A FAVOUR AND STAY AWAY FROM HER!!! You're a disgusting mother who turned her back on her over and over again AND when you could have made it right YOU stood by your perverted husband! WHAT????? I'm hoping this isn't real, and if it is, you ought to be ashamed of yourself! I'm close to tears because I was bullied and my parents didn't notice and when they did, not enough was done. But I have a lovely family and my parents made mistakes and have always been sorry (I'm 52) but you're a sorry excuse of a mother! SHAME ON YOU!!!!
What a horrible excuse of a person. She gave her daughter fkn DID, that's not just some wave of the hand gets better with time and going outside thing, it's severe. Not only that but now she shows that she'd rather stick with horrible husband 2 who wants to hook up with someone less than half his age instead of mending her relationship with her daughter who most likely went through way way worse than the "mom" remembers or is making it out to be. I hope the daughter has a psychiatrist, good meds, and cuts her excuse of a "mom" out of her life.
DID is very serious. I suffer from a similar, but not the exact, condition due to PTSD. The altars/parts, the personality changes, the lapses in memory, and the fear really hurts me. It’s not just some depression. It’s destruction, designed as a desperate attempt by your brain to be okay.
This blooming idiot, narcissist self-centred POS married a pervert and she's blaming the daughter for her husband's totally unacceptable behaviour. This kind of people should be neutered before puberty to make sure they can't procreate and ruin their children's lives.
I have DID. Luckily not from sexual abuse, but a very, very traumatic incident that left me with severe memory gaps for a few years. This poor girl. I can't imagine what she's been through to have to deal with what she needed to distance herself from. A parent's rough break up ain't it. As someone else said, she's most likely been abuse, sexually or physically, by men her mother has involved herself with. I hope the young woman is able to find a good therapist, good friends and maybe a stand-in mom she can talk to.
Jeez, you call yourself a mother, but blame your daughter because your husband is being a perv?? Unreal. You’d probably have her sent off to a Magdalene laundry, if they hadn’t been shut down years ago! 🤨🤦♀️
At the end of the day, I will ALWAYS say that the final decision of whether or not to have an abortion falls on the woman. Do I always agree with their reasons to abort? No. And, especially not with THIS woman. If I was the guy, I'd divorce her because it sounds like this is a deal-breaker for him and he's going to resent her and the stepdaughter...possibly even the step-grandchild. Does divorce make him an a*****e? Maybe...but what the wife did makes her one, too, imho, so it balances out.
Please, please, please, please, please, please tell me this is fake.
No, this is from a year ago and OP never even replied to any of the comments.
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It can't be, no guy would actually tell his wife / partner this stuff
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This is a truly disgusting viewpoint by your so-called psychologists. Full stop. I am appalled.
See about from a therapist furiously standing up for herself when her lack of context was predatory.
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this is a joke right? no one would write it like this and expect an NTA.
While I do hope it's joke (a really crass one) I'm fairly certain that people can be that self-delusional to genuinely think they did no wrong. It seems most it stems from the moms own upbringing, mainly based on the comment that she believed (still believes?) that correcting someone else's child would be harassment.
Load More Replies... (Former therapist here) Does OP have any idea the level of trauma it takes to trigger DID? And then to not support her when she was being bullied? OP you are a horrible human being. I hope the daughter can find people who actually care about and support her.
OP talks about it as if it was a very light case of ADHD or seasonal depression. She clearly conveniently doesn't remember or doesn't care about what she or her husband did to their daughter to cause this. You don't get DID from kids thinking that you're smelly. There is something very big being left out
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so her husband says he is attracted to her daughter and thats why he isnt having sex with her and she kicks the daughter out the house that is so backwards absolutely YTA
My biological dad was sexually attracted to me from the time I hit puberty. He molested me when I was 13. He told my mum he was in love with me and wanted me sexually when I was 19. He tried to molest me again when I was 53, a year before he died. I spent my entire adolescence and adult life being scared. It was only a few months ago - nearly two years after he died - that I finally don't feel afraid. My mum? She tells everyone - including me - that he was an excellent father. Me? Lifelong, debilitating depression, anxiety, and E.D. I choose to be single with pets and no human children, and I cherish the kids in my life (friends' and siblings' kids). This woman is a s**t parent and doesn't deserve her daughter. I want to hug that poor girl. Because that girl is me.
Oh my god. I am so sorry that you had to experience this. Hopefully you have no contact with your mother and that your father is rotting in the 7th circle of hell.
Load More Replies... If this is real and the daughter actually has DID she went through a lot more trauma than bullying.
Or the bullying has to have been criminal acts, not just kids being mean. OP is downplaying this entire situation quite a lot. Not to mention that she doesn't seem upset enough at her new husband for wanting to sleep with someone less than half his age. What is wrong with OP?
Load More Replies... My mother let a lot of terrible things happen to me and chose her partner over me. I haven't spoken to them in over 10 years. So look forward to having no relationship with your daughter and knowing you failed ss a mother, op.
When I was in school being bullied to the point of suicidal ideation (I had undiagnosed autism and even one of the TEACHERS hated me for "not acting right"), my mother pulled me out of that damn school after attempts to stop the bullying failed. In highschool when another student assaulted me and I was too embarrassed to do anything about it, she immediately pushed me to report the bastard and between us he got expelled. If a grown man, her husband or anyone else twice my age and in a position of authority over me, started making eyes at me, she'd have ripped their f*****g lungs out. This woman here is a failure as a mother and as a decent human being and she should be ashamed of herself. I hope the daughter gets far, far away from her and her vile husband.
"My view that all children are innoscent really tied my hands" Really? ... or where you just afraid of stepping up, and made up an excuse instead? That statement just sounds like some serious selfdeciet (humans have an instinctual talent for this). Some kids can be some real nasty little pricks, who are perfectly aware of what they are doing, and will continue doing so for as long as you let them get away with it. They need to be put in their place, and be shown where the line is, instead of enjoying the benefit of the doubt. You sound like you are very afraid of the conflict, and instead you let your daughter pay the price every single time, when you should have stepped up for her instead. Wake up and face the reality, you have failed as mother, and people are right for calling you out on that.
“I just need time to process the situation and don’t want to leave the house to stay with my daughter when I have a marriage to figure out whether or not to save “!!! Since this woman is so self-absorbed, she should at least consider that if her husband is attracted to her young daughter, he may get attracted to someone else tomorrow. She needs to GTFO at least for her own selfish reason.
For God's sake, you can't possibly be that stupid! Children are innocents.....are you freaking kidding? And on the basis of that mistaken assumption you let your child be bullied into a mental disorder that will impact her entire life? And instead of confronting that sorry excuse of a husband you have and tell him to move out, you kick your daughter out, justifying this to yourself by saying resources are available to her? All I hear is 'it's me, myself and I'. You're not a mother; you are not even a decent human being.
Her comment about all children being innocent jumped out at me - was she saying that she believes that children are inherently innocent or that everyone believes a child over an adult? Attachment to either or both ideas sounds like an excuse to avoid confrontation. Not even her daughter's lack of safety can shake her from her utter lack of introspection or instill a moral backbone.
Load More Replies... I'm guessing that this man has already been inappropriate with his stepdaughter and is mentioning it now to see what he can get away with. He's seen a vulnerable woman and Is manipulating to get her. His stupid wife has made it obvious to him that his behaviour is right and her daughter deserves to be removed from the home. Shame on this woman.
ask your husband to leave, he's a creep and a pervert. And make a good introspection about how you treated your daughter when she "asked" for help
Don't ask him to leave, kick his butt out on the street and toss his clothes on the ground.
Load More Replies... Why did you not do your daughter just one favor? Put her up for adoption at birth, at these then she would have had a mother, one who wanted her
I don't know you and I don't know what happened to you, but I think there are boundaries that should never be crossed. If your mother abused you either physically or psychologically, was violent, deprived you of love, food, attention, etc, she was a bad mother and a bad person. There may be worse mothers, but that doesn't make yours better, or your suffering less real. Never let people devalue your feelings because others had it worse.
Load More Replies... Ah man, the day just started and I'm already done with the internet. Damn.
Of the many horrifying aspects of this one, that she "could help heal some childhood wounds if my second husband and I modelled a healthy relationship" takes the cake.
This kind of story is sadly not so rare. Stepfathers being sexually attracted to their much younger stepdaughters. In fact, the adults in these situations often act on their feelings and of course this abuse traumatizes the daughters. In too many of these circumstances, mothers are poor protectors.
ESH except the daughter. The ex has no business painting her as the villain. He should have gotten her away from the mother and protected her, also against bullies, ages ago too. Only if he called CPS and tried to protect her, but some evil judge gave her the kid he's NTA. But she says she lets her live with her, so where did she live before that? With dad? Why did he let her go live with that creep?
I think the bio dad did a lot more to his daughter than the sorry excuse for a “mother” is mentioning. And I firmly believe she knew and did nothing to protect her daughter. DID has strong causal links to se***l abuse. And now he’s being so public about the shaming to project all that blame onto the mother knowing what he did…
Load More Replies... If she has been diagnosed with DID by a qualified professional the overwhelming likelihood is that she's been through severe sexual trauma as a young child. That's the level of damage it takes for the brain to create/fragment into different personalities, and that's why it's rare. If you'd even bothered to do basic research you'd be aware of this but clearly you don't give a rat's ârse.
Or that her parents were in other ways abusive. For it to be caused solely by bullying it would have had to be extreme enough to get those kids in juvie. To me it does kind of sound like the mom was abusive but conveniently plays the: "I know you hate me for failing as a parent for not stopping the bullies" and ignores the just as true "I abused you at home and they abused you in school".
Load More Replies... Too many women prioritise they pervert men over their daughters' safety and mental health. Sadly, they prefer having a s**t pervert man than being seen as a woman who can't keep one. S**t people on any scale.
She was right to ask the question AITAH. If there is a bigger AH out there somewhere I have yet to come across them.
lol that’s funny. Congrats OP, you aren’t just any AH. You’re sitting at the top of the long list of AHs I’ve ever seen.
Load More Replies... The Grimm brothers would struggle to create a more twisted villain than OP
NOTE FROM THERAPIST QUOTED: I was not told the story that my input was to be posed as responding to. I was asked 3 questions about family structure. This is what I sent to bored panda, after learning how my input had been misused:
Hi Austėja, I am surprised by the title of this article, as your questions indicated nothing of the scandalous headline the story is centered around. I am bothered that the juxtaposition of my comments with the main story of a stepdad attracted to his wife's daughter makes it appear to readers that I endorse incest. I do NOT endorse a "choose one and push the other out" when it comes to whether spouse or offspring deserve prioritization. By placing my response to your unrelated questions next to this awful story, it appears as though I advocate for what has happened in this family, as though it may even have been my advice. I did not advise anything that happened with this family and I don't want my name next to it. I stand by the research that I explained to you. Had I been given this unique, complicated, click-bait situation to consider along with the questions you asked, I would have addressed this family's situation in my responses. Since I was not made aware of this situation,
Load More Replies... This is one of those "you knew the answer before you asked it, but hoped at least ONE person would be supportive" type of situations ... the fattest chance possible doesn't begin to describe her expectations ...
Before I had children, my husband always came first. Now that I have children, they are 100% my priority, in all aspects.
as someone who has DID alongside several other mental health problems F**K THIS WOMAN I HOPE SHE ROTS WHAT THE F**K. MASSIVE YTA. She is ADDING to her daughters trauma and enabling her husband to do the same FFS!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO YOUR DAUGHTER A FAVOUR AND STAY AWAY FROM HER!!! You're a disgusting mother who turned her back on her over and over again AND when you could have made it right YOU stood by your perverted husband! WHAT????? I'm hoping this isn't real, and if it is, you ought to be ashamed of yourself! I'm close to tears because I was bullied and my parents didn't notice and when they did, not enough was done. But I have a lovely family and my parents made mistakes and have always been sorry (I'm 52) but you're a sorry excuse of a mother! SHAME ON YOU!!!!
What a horrible excuse of a person. She gave her daughter fkn DID, that's not just some wave of the hand gets better with time and going outside thing, it's severe. Not only that but now she shows that she'd rather stick with horrible husband 2 who wants to hook up with someone less than half his age instead of mending her relationship with her daughter who most likely went through way way worse than the "mom" remembers or is making it out to be. I hope the daughter has a psychiatrist, good meds, and cuts her excuse of a "mom" out of her life.
DID is very serious. I suffer from a similar, but not the exact, condition due to PTSD. The altars/parts, the personality changes, the lapses in memory, and the fear really hurts me. It’s not just some depression. It’s destruction, designed as a desperate attempt by your brain to be okay.
This blooming idiot, narcissist self-centred POS married a pervert and she's blaming the daughter for her husband's totally unacceptable behaviour. This kind of people should be neutered before puberty to make sure they can't procreate and ruin their children's lives.
I have DID. Luckily not from sexual abuse, but a very, very traumatic incident that left me with severe memory gaps for a few years. This poor girl. I can't imagine what she's been through to have to deal with what she needed to distance herself from. A parent's rough break up ain't it. As someone else said, she's most likely been abuse, sexually or physically, by men her mother has involved herself with. I hope the young woman is able to find a good therapist, good friends and maybe a stand-in mom she can talk to.
Jeez, you call yourself a mother, but blame your daughter because your husband is being a perv?? Unreal. You’d probably have her sent off to a Magdalene laundry, if they hadn’t been shut down years ago! 🤨🤦♀️
At the end of the day, I will ALWAYS say that the final decision of whether or not to have an abortion falls on the woman. Do I always agree with their reasons to abort? No. And, especially not with THIS woman. If I was the guy, I'd divorce her because it sounds like this is a deal-breaker for him and he's going to resent her and the stepdaughter...possibly even the step-grandchild. Does divorce make him an a*****e? Maybe...but what the wife did makes her one, too, imho, so it balances out.
Please, please, please, please, please, please tell me this is fake.
No, this is from a year ago and OP never even replied to any of the comments.
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Load More Replies... This is a truly disgusting viewpoint by your so-called psychologists. Full stop. I am appalled.
See about from a therapist furiously standing up for herself when her lack of context was predatory.
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