Mixed-Race People Reveal The Horrible Moments Their Own Family Was Racist Towards Them (30 Pics)
The number of Americans who identify as multiracial is growing at three times faster than the normal population, and like virtually all people of color, they have encountered racism in their lives. Even within their closest circles.
Family relationships across races add another layer of complication for people who are already straddling two or more worlds.
At least in the US, a vast majority of multiracial people (roughly 90%) say they have not been mistreated by a relative or extended family member because of their mixed-race background. But it still happens.
So when Twitter user NFTina Turner tweeted "I don't think the racism mixed race kids face from their own families is discussed enough," people responded with their own personal experiences.
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My jaw actually dropped when I read your post. I'm sad and sorry that you were exposed to such ignorance as a child.
The top 5 states with the highest percentages of Americans who identified as multiracial in 2019 were California (12%), Texas (6%), Florida (6%), New York (6%), and Pennsylvania (4%). Multiracial Americans are evenly split for gender (50% vs. 50%) and about 2 in 10 (19%) hold a college degree, compared to one-third (33%) who have a high school education. Levels of education among multiracial Americans are comparable to those of the general population and have remained stable since 2014.
Interestingly, most adults with a background that includes more than one race do not consider themselves "multiracial." When asked why, 47% of those with multiple races in their background cited their family upbringing and/or their physical appearance.
Of course all racism is stupid and ridiculous, but this is extra stupid to me. To hate a sweet little addition to your own family over their skin color? If that can’t get you to open your eyes, nothing will.
For multiracial adults, experiences with discrimination are often tied to racial perceptions. For example, in 2015, about 7 in 10 multiracial adults who said most people who passed them on the street would describe them as black (71%) or multiracial (72%) said they have been subjected to slurs or jokes because of their racial background, compared with 55% among those who said most people would describe them as hispanic and 44% among those who said most people would describe them as white.
This is enraging. I shall be setting the world on fire now, one moment please.
Yes, family dynamics are influenced by many factors other than race but, overall, biracial adults tend to have more contact with relatives from one of the races that make up their background than they do with the other.
For example, biracial adults who are white and black have much more contact with their black family members than with their white family members. About 69% say, over the course of their life, they have had a lot of contact with their relatives who are black, an additional 19% say they've had some contact with their black relatives, and 12% say they've had only a little or no contact with them.
Conversely, 21% of biracial white and black adults say they have had a lot of contact with their relatives who are white, and 13% say they have had some contact. 1 in 4 say they've only had a little bit of contact with their white relatives, and 41% say they have had no contact with them at all.
I can't imagine what's like to have a dad (or mom) who doesn't accept, and worse ridicules, half of your genes. I mean, wasn't it his choice to be with your mother? And even if he had been forced to be intimate with her (seriously doubt it), you're his blood for crying out loud, and CHILDREN. I think this speaks of something very lacking at the core of some people. [Edit: Oh forgot what I was going to say, the actual first reason I wanted to comment - I love curly hair.]
One person who has felt these tensions firsthand is Victoria Anderson. Growing up as a child of a white woman and a black man in a small town in Maine, she was constantly reminded she was different.
A close relative nicknamed her "jungle bunny," she told CNN. Another relative once turned her framed photo so her face wasn't visible. Oh, and she wasn't allowed to play with some white cousins, an insult that added to the discrimination she received from strangers.
That Looks like an old picture from the times when People wern‘t „offended“ by a doll.
It does look like a 70s picture to be honest.. when awareness was not as well developed as it is now.
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Ignorant. I hope... It's different in its intention.
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Gollywogs were ( unfortunately) a children's series and I've seen plenty of white kids with them as toys in old pictures too. My guess would be this was an older relative looking to share a favorite childhood toy with the kid and not even thinking it was racist.
I'm not young anymore. I'm caucasian and had a similar doll. I was proud of it because it was different. His name was Mocca and was best friend with my Teddybear collection.There was no racism at all!
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Was it rude? Or was someone trying to give the child a black doll at a time when black dolls really weren't widely available? Maybe it was done in kindness?....I repainted and the hair and body of 12 barbie dolls for my niece because mixed race dolls weren't as available then as now ..it wasn't a racist thing I wanted her to have dolls of every color because she is a rainbow with many colors and that's what makes her beautiful! I didn't want her isolated with just pale white blond barbie! Yes that doll is extreme but maybe they just wanted a different color represented when she played!
Back then these were just dolls. I recall reading that a white person started this movement against golliwogs. Is that true? I had one as a child, I’m mixed race. Never thought it was putting anybody down, it was just a doll. It was an insult to be called a golliwog as that was meant to be hurtful, but the dolls themselves were of no harm. Just the word, when used with malicious intention.
Don't downvote someone asking. Not everyone is from the US. And yes there are very specific cultural phenomena there that are most definitely not universal.
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It's a rag doll that has become a symbol of extreme racism due to its caricature style depiction (similar to minstrels using black face). They used one as a mascot for Robinsons jam until disturbingly recently (2002!).
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Okay this is disgusting if the intent was to be racist, but we don’t know since maybe she was just trying to be nice as years ago finding black dolls wasn’t all that common. This also answers my question as to what a golly is from the previous post
I actually overheard a 7 year-old kid call his mixed race brother some terrible names in a £ store mother just let it happen i had 2 intervene
I honestly wish that I could say that I'm shocked, but sadly I'm not. I grew up in the south.
I am from South Africa. When I was a baby in the 70's I had a gollywog. I obviously had no idea that it was racists. It was one on my favourite dolls because of it's friendly face, bright clothes and it was soft. I am so sad that it is racist.
Remember, that was quite a few years back and things were not spoken of. In this case she probably thought it is a great thing to show her love for her grandchild. Never blame previous generation for their misdeeds in cases like that, it was their upbringing. Today is a totally different matter.
There is nothing wrong with golliwogs I had several in my youth and so did some of my mixed race friends. We even had a dedicated Golliwog shop in the area. We had jam jars with golliwog figures on them. We took no offence from them.
not only is that extremely messed up on so many levels, but that doll looks creepy af. talk about nightmare fuel.
I mean there was likely a positive thought behind this, totes why you should expand your bubble. If all you have is white friends and a white perspective this likely seemed nice to the person creating it.
OK... Clearly, at some point, willful ignorance itself becomes racist, and this is clearly over that line, so please don't think I'm defending those relatives, but I have to wonder: Is this malevolence or stupidity? I'm vaguely aware of gollywogs; I know they are considered racist, but I've never read the books. Are we talking Aunt Jemima racist, lawn-jockey racist or klansman racist?
WTF ? It's not a contest. Oh, you should only be a little offended.
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I'm sorry, but I don't know what a gollywog is, though I can see what it is. What does the term mean?
Don't people read their history? Golliwog dolls were made by the Egyptians to sell to the English (mainly soldiers), for touristy gifts. How it became a derogatory thing, I don't know.
This photo looks like it was taken a lot of years ago. If it was, golliwogs were a common toy and both myself and my sister had one. They represented no form of racism to us and just sat among all our other dolls and teddies as part of 'the gang'. I absolutely understand how they are not acceptable these days but please don't think that everyone who owned or made one years ago had any racist intent.
is this racist because the doll is black or is it cus of something else
I have never ever heard the term gollywog, but I'm pretty sure I don't need to google it.
Why is this racist? I had a golly when I was young/ my parents were never racist and I loved my golly
It’s horrifying how white people seem to portray black people, like Dr. Seuss for an example. As a child, I never really saw an issue, but now it’s just enraging.
Just had to bring dr. Suess into it huh? You feeling relevant now?
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Same, so many people are like "omg, somebody's been spending a lot of time in the beach!"
That's appalling when a grandparent puts monetary value on skin colour. My grandmother was a male chauvinist, but luckily there was an ocean between her and her grandchildren. I don't remember that visit when she gave my brother money whenever he asked but gave me a little money and refused to give me more. It sure pissed off my mother who had to grow up with her brother being favoured.
more "acceptable"? Which part of calling them half Pakistani and half Greek is unacceptable?!
"I heard from a relative in my house that she (my mother) never should have had me because you're supposed to stick with your own kind," Anderson, now 46, said. "I was never taught how to take care of my hair, so it was always a mess."
When your answer (and the search for it) to the question "Who am I?" is even more nuanced, support is crucial. And family should be its biggest provider.
You're better off without them. Still, that's an awful thing to do to someone...
I know that people think saying they don't see colour means they don't have an issue with it, but I don't think people understand that not recognising race can also be damaging.
😲 I've heard the same comment from a few of my white relatives. Ignorance of that magnitude is astounding
That's great! Be proactive and maybe people will learn to think before they speak (although, no lies, lots of people just don't want learn.
Of course, she was the one crying and playing victim. This is sickening!
And this is just one example of why I hate most people. It's not ignorance, it's a choice to be an asshole.
My father is Native American and my mother is white. I wasn't allowed on my white grandmother's property because she said I was "too dark" .
i don't get it... i mean my brain can't process that when you were a kid you could hate someone because of their color! when i was a kid my best friend were not white at all. one were from Djibouti (africa), one were from Cambodgia, one were from innu origin and i think the other one was vietnamese. i never choose my friend. it just happen
Wish I could use an emoji just to show how angry I am about this. Wtf?!
I'm so sorry that decades later, this still resounds with you. I classify people based on merit, not skin color. I'm a MOD for a grocery store, and not even kidding--if I need immediate coverage, I know the white kids will bail because they have no work ethic (and I'm a ginger, so that says something!). I immediately call my Hispanic, Black, and Asian employees, cuz I KNOW they will show up.
For us (in MN, I live in the Twin Cities) having a large integrated race society, there is so much bigotry here! I spent almost 8 years in the Army down in the south. Never once did I get made fun of for being a ginger, I was made fun of for my northern-Midwestern accent. Like, why are people still going on about color and s**t? I was raised in SE MN, and had the highest Asian population in the state per capita. Did I EVER say anything racist about Asians/blacks/Hispanics/whomever? HELL no, my mom would have beaten my ginger ass immediately. Sorry for the rant, I just hate bigoted, racist, classist assholes.
I get that ALL the time, I am Apache/White mixed. "You can't be Native American, you have blue eyes." *sighs* it's exhausting.
I know exactly what this post means. I'm white, & my whole family is white. My parents are both British, I'm British, I was born in Britain but grew up in America. I am not American, but I can tell my whole family views me as "the American kid" & they see me as inferior or uncultured for it. I'm seen as non-British & white even though I AM British & white. I know it isn't as bad as the other stuff on this list, but it's an example of how backwards the UK can really be at times.
And yet, judging from the posts here, "what about the children" is a very real issue; "How will any children you have be treated by both of your families and your community?" How can society discuss racism if talking about the racism that occurs, or may occur, is considered racist? Pretending racism doesn't exist "we don't see colour" is hurtful in itself, and prevents people from confronting and addressing problems.
At a family function a few years back, my mum was talking to her cousin and he said something along the lines of 'You let your daughter go with one of those (A black person)? And worse, have a child with it!'. My mum landed him one on the chin, knocked him clean out cold. She broke his jaw and he cut his head when he hit the floor. When the ambulance arrived and asked what happened my mum just said, 'He tried turning something beautiful into something ugly, and I wouldn't let him'. I F**king love my mum!
This is messed up. I have not encountered this due not being a POC but I am just aghast about this happening from family, even their own mothers! Just appalling. I am sorry this is a thing.
I'm Pakistani and let me tell you, poc are just as racist as white people. Colourism is very big in Asia. In the eyes of many Asians, white people are at the top, then light skinned Asians, then dark skinned asians and then africans at the very bottom. It's so gross to witness on a daily basis.
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My father is a bit racist. He's not racist toward me, but he's a little racist towards white people. And he assumes that all police are racist and can't be trusted. Sometimes he says things (and it's always when we're not with my mom) like "When you grow up, you're gonna be a great author! Make sure you do xyz for your people, for your career, and for your reputation." and I was like "My people?" He looked at me like I was stupid and said "[My name], are you black?" and I just nodded and rolled my eyes while they were closed. That's just one time. There are other little hints and such that he drops. It's tiring.
The 'our people' bothers me too sometimes and if i treat people as equals and not take sides based on skin color they will say I'm a sell out, supporting the oppressor :(
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Wow! These stories are so awful. Everyone needs to keep speaking out!
I mentioned earlier in a post about my mother dating black men. Interestingly enough, it didn't stop that white woman from using the N word at the drop of a hat. She was two-faced in that she always acted nice and pleasant around her black and Asian "friends" but would then bad mouth them and call them all sorts of vile names when they weren't around. I actually feel sorry for my mother. She's was a very angry and hostile person in private and, she's become so used to it, it's now come to the surface and become her life. She has no friends and her own kids don't want to be around her anymore. It's gotta suck living that kind of life day after day. I'm glad I survived her bitterness and became nothing like her. I just wish she'd get help.
Most of the people where I live are tan, but some aren't and they usually get called white foreigners :(
These make me very grateful for my family. I am half Ojibwe, my mother is white (Irish and Canadian). My father called my mum 'the other OTHER white meat' and it was said with such love. She called him a 'savage moron' with just as much love. Both also enrolled me in Native Heritage classes, get me into Celtic legends, and taught me that all beliefs have a place as long as they allow other beliefs to have the same place. We celebrate being a melting pot and both showed me that being a mixed racial person is something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
[Necessary background: I'm of East Asian descent] My white father in law, while sitting down to a meal in MY house, commented that, "For all their advancements in science and technology, it's a wonder that the Chinese haven't become more civilized to use knife and fork." I nearly kicked him out of the house.
I myself am mixed. My family has always been welcoming and never racist. I love them very much , but sometimes I think the "racist" is me. I end up visiting my dad's side and I always feel too dark. I can't simply blend in and it makes so self concious. It took time to stop overthinking everything and I'm happy now. These people, they didn't have a loving and supporting family. It must be so hard. %(
What the actual hell... Does this stuff still exist? How can people be so judgmental, alienating their own flesh and blood this way? I have a mixed daughter, and never want her to have to go through things like this. If someone is a disgusting human like this, they will never be a part of my daughters, or my own, life. There is way too much hatred in the world, and it's only by making the next generations fell loved and accepted that this garbage can end.
Friend of mmine. Her dad's familiy says she's too dark. Her mom ----- her OWN mother, who married the white dude ------ said she's too "light". She has nowhere to go. Her dad's family wont' have her b/c she's "black" and her mom says she's "basically white". (Basically?) If she tries to please her mom, her dad's family rejects her. if she pleases her dad's family, her mother rejects her. Like, WTF? She's a person. Just give her a hug and say "Glad to see you, how are you?"
I am shocked that so many are shocked about what people are experiencing. As a minority, this is part of life and racism comes in many forms: subtle, explicit, from other races/ethnicities, from your own (dark vs light, etc), conscious, subconscious, etc. Part of growing up is us learning how to deal with it and move forward in spite of it and how to just stay alive and maintain your self esteem. No kid should have to learn this and it is horrible and a reminder of how far we have to go. But I am not shocked by it. Just surprised that so many others are.
It goes both ways and now the politicians are using race to divide us more.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am not shocked, but I am jolted awake by something outside of my sphere of experience. These are important stories missing from museum narratives.
I remember my (white) fathers side and how his sisters made a post saying how proud they were of their nieces and nephews. They even went as far as to making a list of their nieces and nephews but not once did they include me or my sister who are half filipino. I'm not too sure if it's due to the fact that we're mixed or due to the fact that they might've had beef with my dad before but it still hurt nonetheless. I was too young to understand why my father wasn't allowing me to meet my "loving aunties" ever again.
I’m half white half Mexican I have strong Mexican features like eyes ,hair, the only thing is I’m pale 😅 my grandma on my mums side the white part of me is racist as hell it doesn’t matter what we’re talking about always saying the n word always talking about how immigrants are ruining the country my ama from my dads side was born in Mexico and came to America to live with her mother this makes my dad a first generation immigrant and me second generation it hurts whenever people say that immigrants should go back bc they just want a better life and don’t even get me started on people at school “oh ur Mexican but ur so pale” yeah I know I can’t help it “If ur Mexican say something in Spanish to prove it” what? Ur Russian Samantha speak some Slavic to prove it It gets tiring fast
Um so I read the thing on the front when you see it and um so What's a gollywog?
This is heart-breaking. My sister married a man who was 1/4 black and 1/4 ojibwe back in the mid-70s. Never occurred to me until maybe in the late 80s that someone might have been a d**k about it, but no one was to my knowledge. So, my nephew was 1/8th black, but many would see him and just think "black". One night a police officer gave him a little grief and called him "you people". When my nephew told us at the next get-together, the entire family exploded, all of us ranting and slapping our knees at the same time, "You people! She called you, 'You people!?'" and on and on. We were livid. I can't imagine being a person so evil that you would reject someone based on a superficial trait such as facial features, hair texture/color, or skin tone. My parents and oldest siblings all have black hair. My one sister and I have light brown hair. The family didn't reject us, dontcha know.
I just can't with this. I get so mad when I see the terrible ways that some people treat others. I could just explode! And to act as if they've done nothing wrong!
Damn! I'm in a very white family -- Irish descent -- and have a cousin whose mother is Chinese. So he's half Chinese with the most Irish name you ever heard. They've ALWAYS been part of the family! Even after my aunt and uncle were divorced, she was still kind and helpful to our side of the family when they'd visit Hawaii (where they all live), and my cousin brought his girlfriend to visit my parents when he came to the mainland some years back and I was fortunate enough to be there and meet him. He's a great guy with a delightful girlfriend! I think it's wonderful to have our family starting to blend more with the rest of the world. I only hope that someday people of ALL skin colors are so mixed that it becomes a completely meaningless thing!
"at three times faster than the normal population" What is the normal population?
2021 the year I wish racism would finally end. It makes me sick that we still have fellow humans being told they are less because of their color!! WTF is wrong with some people that cannot understand we are all the same beings with different traits and skin tone. Why is it still happening when we know facts real scientific facts we are the same, the good, bad and the ugly. Racism needs to die and be buried! Imagine a child growing up with a life filled with hate within their own family, so very sad.
... as much as I don't care about race and colour, I'm actually glad about not being mixed-raced. I just can't wrap my head around it, you have a grandmother, who bakes cookies and loves you and reads you fariy tales ... and all that stuff, and yet, the racism that was present in her youth still is to be found somewhere in her, and comes out every now and then - but she loves you? The only other thing where love is shown by actions of hate I know of are the stories in the bible - fiction, to say the least. Glad it's fiction. Racism sucks.
My husband is half Latin American, half British white, I am British white. Our son is 75% white, 25% Latin American. He is blonde, blue eyed and white skin. His Hispanic family LOVE that he is white and blonde, he is absolutely the favourite for all of them over my husbands siblings children BECAUSE he is so blonde and white. His grandfather on my husbands side has been heard to use the word spic (derogatory to hispanics) and sand n****r despite being married and having kids with a Hispanic woman and an Arabic woman. It blows my mind. I have to remind the Hispanic part of the family not to have favourites and remind my FIL not to use racist terminology otherwise he will not be allowed in our home.
I'm 1/2 Puerto Rican and right handed. Stay with me here. I can't snap my fingers on my left hand, but am otherwise ambidextrous. I was told the reason I couldn't snap those fingers was because my left side was the Puerto Rican side, my dumb side. As told to me by my mother, who is white, lily white with red hair and blue eyes. My father, the first time I saw a picture of him is so dark I thought he was black.
All these stories brought tears to my eyes. No one should be treated any less because of thier beautiful skin color. My children are half white/half Puerto Rican and though my mom was so happy to finally have a grandchild, she snobbed me. My side of the family won’t recognize our mixed children but his absolutely adore them. The only exception... my grandmother (who’s a great grandma!! And she is so happy and in our lives) and one aunt (who I spent most of my teen years with her). I just don’t get the hate. Every child is beautiful.
Omg I’m shocked to know that I wasn’t the only who had to deal with this. I am half French, half Turkish and my French family was so racist with me... they said things like "you look so much like a foreign" or they gave me pork knowing that I was a Muslim. They were horrible and I’m glad that now as I’m an adult they decided to not talk with me anymore. I don’t need them...
My relative once said that I looked like a ugly, fat gypsy girl he saw on the streets. I live in Sweden and I was young. I didn't even know about the hate against so called 'gypsies'. My father is half french and half tunisian. But I can be a Romani girl. They are even more hated than arabs. Just stop the hate
Not sure how constructive this whole thing is to be honest. I had white family and black family, I was always referred to as a half caste, we all were, only by my black family members. They used that word as praise or as an insult, all depending on who they were taking about. . That’s the way it was. The black side (both of my maternal grandparents) were not quite ‘full black’ either, so I’d hear relatives put down full blacks and they’d also put down whites. In normal conversation there would be a lot of ‘that white bitch/bastard/mongrel’ or ‘the black bastard/bitch’ it depended on who they were batting for at the time. Weird but that’s how it truly was. Poisonous really, but it’s how things were, and still are (away from the socials of course) because that generation raised a new generation, very similar to themselves, and so on.
If it was a sin or wrong or not allowed to interbreed between races then science wouldn’t allow it. Since we can it’s definitive proof it’s acceptable. If they want to make it a religious reason then they can easily justify if god didn’t want us to be able to have children then we wouldn’t. My mom lied to me about there being a story about black and red birds in the Bible to justify interracial relationships being wrong. First of all there’s no such story second of all birds and humans are completely different species so that excuse never stuck. Just let people live their lives how they wish. They claim they want us to be happy but then try to stomp on it if our happiness doesn’t fit their agenda
Parents can end racism! We are a white family, lived in an all white area (my mistake) for most of my life, and my son's younger years. I honestly did not think about it much, One day I heard my son online yelling at someone. " I will not tolerate racists, I am done with you". I had never been prouder in my life. I realized he grew up with us treating people as people. The tv shows were not based on race, when out and about we did not act any different to people with different skin, hair, eye or clothing color. Different cultures and religions were something to learn about, no one is better than another. Due to the actions of society lately I am finding myself going in the opposite direction (not good either). I am making a concentrated effort to be extra nice to certain neighbors due to their culture/race. I am old and tired of the constant fighting.
I am not mixed but my nanas side of the family hate my mom, dad and little bro because they don’t go to church. They don’t talk about it in front of me but I have heard them talk about it. They are fine with me cause i go to church and hate it everyday of my life. And for them to shame my family!! My Grandma on my dads side treats my little bro like her own grandkid same with my step bro. Now the only thing i have to do with their side is my Nana, Papa and my coson Alise.
Posts like these really make me lose my faith in humanity. Like what's with all the hate for a mere cosmetic difference?
At a family function a few years back, my mum was talking to her cousin and he said something along the lines of 'You let your daughter go with one of those (A black person)? And worse, have a child with it!'. My mum landed him one on the chin, knocked him clean out cold. She broke his jaw and he cut his head when he hit the floor. When the ambulance arrived and asked what happened my mum just said, 'He tried turning something beautiful into something ugly, and I wouldn't let him'. I F**king love my mum!
This is messed up. I have not encountered this due not being a POC but I am just aghast about this happening from family, even their own mothers! Just appalling. I am sorry this is a thing.
I'm Pakistani and let me tell you, poc are just as racist as white people. Colourism is very big in Asia. In the eyes of many Asians, white people are at the top, then light skinned Asians, then dark skinned asians and then africans at the very bottom. It's so gross to witness on a daily basis.
Load More Replies... My father is a bit racist. He's not racist toward me, but he's a little racist towards white people. And he assumes that all police are racist and can't be trusted. Sometimes he says things (and it's always when we're not with my mom) like "When you grow up, you're gonna be a great author! Make sure you do xyz for your people, for your career, and for your reputation." and I was like "My people?" He looked at me like I was stupid and said "[My name], are you black?" and I just nodded and rolled my eyes while they were closed. That's just one time. There are other little hints and such that he drops. It's tiring.
The 'our people' bothers me too sometimes and if i treat people as equals and not take sides based on skin color they will say I'm a sell out, supporting the oppressor :(
Load More Replies... Wow! These stories are so awful. Everyone needs to keep speaking out!
I mentioned earlier in a post about my mother dating black men. Interestingly enough, it didn't stop that white woman from using the N word at the drop of a hat. She was two-faced in that she always acted nice and pleasant around her black and Asian "friends" but would then bad mouth them and call them all sorts of vile names when they weren't around. I actually feel sorry for my mother. She's was a very angry and hostile person in private and, she's become so used to it, it's now come to the surface and become her life. She has no friends and her own kids don't want to be around her anymore. It's gotta suck living that kind of life day after day. I'm glad I survived her bitterness and became nothing like her. I just wish she'd get help.
Most of the people where I live are tan, but some aren't and they usually get called white foreigners :(
These make me very grateful for my family. I am half Ojibwe, my mother is white (Irish and Canadian). My father called my mum 'the other OTHER white meat' and it was said with such love. She called him a 'savage moron' with just as much love. Both also enrolled me in Native Heritage classes, get me into Celtic legends, and taught me that all beliefs have a place as long as they allow other beliefs to have the same place. We celebrate being a melting pot and both showed me that being a mixed racial person is something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
[Necessary background: I'm of East Asian descent] My white father in law, while sitting down to a meal in MY house, commented that, "For all their advancements in science and technology, it's a wonder that the Chinese haven't become more civilized to use knife and fork." I nearly kicked him out of the house.
I myself am mixed. My family has always been welcoming and never racist. I love them very much , but sometimes I think the "racist" is me. I end up visiting my dad's side and I always feel too dark. I can't simply blend in and it makes so self concious. It took time to stop overthinking everything and I'm happy now. These people, they didn't have a loving and supporting family. It must be so hard. %(
What the actual hell... Does this stuff still exist? How can people be so judgmental, alienating their own flesh and blood this way? I have a mixed daughter, and never want her to have to go through things like this. If someone is a disgusting human like this, they will never be a part of my daughters, or my own, life. There is way too much hatred in the world, and it's only by making the next generations fell loved and accepted that this garbage can end.
Friend of mmine. Her dad's familiy says she's too dark. Her mom ----- her OWN mother, who married the white dude ------ said she's too "light". She has nowhere to go. Her dad's family wont' have her b/c she's "black" and her mom says she's "basically white". (Basically?) If she tries to please her mom, her dad's family rejects her. if she pleases her dad's family, her mother rejects her. Like, WTF? She's a person. Just give her a hug and say "Glad to see you, how are you?"
I am shocked that so many are shocked about what people are experiencing. As a minority, this is part of life and racism comes in many forms: subtle, explicit, from other races/ethnicities, from your own (dark vs light, etc), conscious, subconscious, etc. Part of growing up is us learning how to deal with it and move forward in spite of it and how to just stay alive and maintain your self esteem. No kid should have to learn this and it is horrible and a reminder of how far we have to go. But I am not shocked by it. Just surprised that so many others are.
It goes both ways and now the politicians are using race to divide us more.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am not shocked, but I am jolted awake by something outside of my sphere of experience. These are important stories missing from museum narratives.
I remember my (white) fathers side and how his sisters made a post saying how proud they were of their nieces and nephews. They even went as far as to making a list of their nieces and nephews but not once did they include me or my sister who are half filipino. I'm not too sure if it's due to the fact that we're mixed or due to the fact that they might've had beef with my dad before but it still hurt nonetheless. I was too young to understand why my father wasn't allowing me to meet my "loving aunties" ever again.
I’m half white half Mexican I have strong Mexican features like eyes ,hair, the only thing is I’m pale 😅 my grandma on my mums side the white part of me is racist as hell it doesn’t matter what we’re talking about always saying the n word always talking about how immigrants are ruining the country my ama from my dads side was born in Mexico and came to America to live with her mother this makes my dad a first generation immigrant and me second generation it hurts whenever people say that immigrants should go back bc they just want a better life and don’t even get me started on people at school “oh ur Mexican but ur so pale” yeah I know I can’t help it “If ur Mexican say something in Spanish to prove it” what? Ur Russian Samantha speak some Slavic to prove it It gets tiring fast
Um so I read the thing on the front when you see it and um so What's a gollywog?
This is heart-breaking. My sister married a man who was 1/4 black and 1/4 ojibwe back in the mid-70s. Never occurred to me until maybe in the late 80s that someone might have been a d**k about it, but no one was to my knowledge. So, my nephew was 1/8th black, but many would see him and just think "black". One night a police officer gave him a little grief and called him "you people". When my nephew told us at the next get-together, the entire family exploded, all of us ranting and slapping our knees at the same time, "You people! She called you, 'You people!?'" and on and on. We were livid. I can't imagine being a person so evil that you would reject someone based on a superficial trait such as facial features, hair texture/color, or skin tone. My parents and oldest siblings all have black hair. My one sister and I have light brown hair. The family didn't reject us, dontcha know.
I just can't with this. I get so mad when I see the terrible ways that some people treat others. I could just explode! And to act as if they've done nothing wrong!
Damn! I'm in a very white family -- Irish descent -- and have a cousin whose mother is Chinese. So he's half Chinese with the most Irish name you ever heard. They've ALWAYS been part of the family! Even after my aunt and uncle were divorced, she was still kind and helpful to our side of the family when they'd visit Hawaii (where they all live), and my cousin brought his girlfriend to visit my parents when he came to the mainland some years back and I was fortunate enough to be there and meet him. He's a great guy with a delightful girlfriend! I think it's wonderful to have our family starting to blend more with the rest of the world. I only hope that someday people of ALL skin colors are so mixed that it becomes a completely meaningless thing!
"at three times faster than the normal population" What is the normal population?
2021 the year I wish racism would finally end. It makes me sick that we still have fellow humans being told they are less because of their color!! WTF is wrong with some people that cannot understand we are all the same beings with different traits and skin tone. Why is it still happening when we know facts real scientific facts we are the same, the good, bad and the ugly. Racism needs to die and be buried! Imagine a child growing up with a life filled with hate within their own family, so very sad.
... as much as I don't care about race and colour, I'm actually glad about not being mixed-raced. I just can't wrap my head around it, you have a grandmother, who bakes cookies and loves you and reads you fariy tales ... and all that stuff, and yet, the racism that was present in her youth still is to be found somewhere in her, and comes out every now and then - but she loves you? The only other thing where love is shown by actions of hate I know of are the stories in the bible - fiction, to say the least. Glad it's fiction. Racism sucks.
My husband is half Latin American, half British white, I am British white. Our son is 75% white, 25% Latin American. He is blonde, blue eyed and white skin. His Hispanic family LOVE that he is white and blonde, he is absolutely the favourite for all of them over my husbands siblings children BECAUSE he is so blonde and white. His grandfather on my husbands side has been heard to use the word spic (derogatory to hispanics) and sand n****r despite being married and having kids with a Hispanic woman and an Arabic woman. It blows my mind. I have to remind the Hispanic part of the family not to have favourites and remind my FIL not to use racist terminology otherwise he will not be allowed in our home.
I'm 1/2 Puerto Rican and right handed. Stay with me here. I can't snap my fingers on my left hand, but am otherwise ambidextrous. I was told the reason I couldn't snap those fingers was because my left side was the Puerto Rican side, my dumb side. As told to me by my mother, who is white, lily white with red hair and blue eyes. My father, the first time I saw a picture of him is so dark I thought he was black.
All these stories brought tears to my eyes. No one should be treated any less because of thier beautiful skin color. My children are half white/half Puerto Rican and though my mom was so happy to finally have a grandchild, she snobbed me. My side of the family won’t recognize our mixed children but his absolutely adore them. The only exception... my grandmother (who’s a great grandma!! And she is so happy and in our lives) and one aunt (who I spent most of my teen years with her). I just don’t get the hate. Every child is beautiful.
Omg I’m shocked to know that I wasn’t the only who had to deal with this. I am half French, half Turkish and my French family was so racist with me... they said things like "you look so much like a foreign" or they gave me pork knowing that I was a Muslim. They were horrible and I’m glad that now as I’m an adult they decided to not talk with me anymore. I don’t need them...
My relative once said that I looked like a ugly, fat gypsy girl he saw on the streets. I live in Sweden and I was young. I didn't even know about the hate against so called 'gypsies'. My father is half french and half tunisian. But I can be a Romani girl. They are even more hated than arabs. Just stop the hate
Not sure how constructive this whole thing is to be honest. I had white family and black family, I was always referred to as a half caste, we all were, only by my black family members. They used that word as praise or as an insult, all depending on who they were taking about. . That’s the way it was. The black side (both of my maternal grandparents) were not quite ‘full black’ either, so I’d hear relatives put down full blacks and they’d also put down whites. In normal conversation there would be a lot of ‘that white bitch/bastard/mongrel’ or ‘the black bastard/bitch’ it depended on who they were batting for at the time. Weird but that’s how it truly was. Poisonous really, but it’s how things were, and still are (away from the socials of course) because that generation raised a new generation, very similar to themselves, and so on.
If it was a sin or wrong or not allowed to interbreed between races then science wouldn’t allow it. Since we can it’s definitive proof it’s acceptable. If they want to make it a religious reason then they can easily justify if god didn’t want us to be able to have children then we wouldn’t. My mom lied to me about there being a story about black and red birds in the Bible to justify interracial relationships being wrong. First of all there’s no such story second of all birds and humans are completely different species so that excuse never stuck. Just let people live their lives how they wish. They claim they want us to be happy but then try to stomp on it if our happiness doesn’t fit their agenda
Parents can end racism! We are a white family, lived in an all white area (my mistake) for most of my life, and my son's younger years. I honestly did not think about it much, One day I heard my son online yelling at someone. " I will not tolerate racists, I am done with you". I had never been prouder in my life. I realized he grew up with us treating people as people. The tv shows were not based on race, when out and about we did not act any different to people with different skin, hair, eye or clothing color. Different cultures and religions were something to learn about, no one is better than another. Due to the actions of society lately I am finding myself going in the opposite direction (not good either). I am making a concentrated effort to be extra nice to certain neighbors due to their culture/race. I am old and tired of the constant fighting.
I am not mixed but my nanas side of the family hate my mom, dad and little bro because they don’t go to church. They don’t talk about it in front of me but I have heard them talk about it. They are fine with me cause i go to church and hate it everyday of my life. And for them to shame my family!! My Grandma on my dads side treats my little bro like her own grandkid same with my step bro. Now the only thing i have to do with their side is my Nana, Papa and my coson Alise.
Posts like these really make me lose my faith in humanity. Like what's with all the hate for a mere cosmetic difference?
