People Are Sharing What Double Standards Between Men And Women Annoy Them So Much, It’s Disgusting (50 Pics)
Double standards are everywhere and they’re out in the open—you don’t even need a magnifying glass to spot them. Whether in real life or in media, we’re constantly bombarded with examples of how men and women are treated and portrayed differently even though we’re talking about the same thing.
Reddit user Meet_Me_In_Heaven asked their fellow redditors to share the most egregious examples of double standards that "disgust" them, so have a look below, and let us know what you think they say about the state of society in the 21st century, dear Readers. Upvote the double standards that you agree have no place in the modern world and share your own examples in the comments.
One crucial real-life issue and pervasive gender double standard that we’ve been hearing and writing about is that the Covid-19 pandemic disproportionally affects women. Not only have women been shown to be more at risk of losing their jobs during the lockdowns, but they also spend more unpaid time at home doing chores and taking care of family members. Even in developed countries, there’s still an expectation that women ought to do the lion’s share of the housework.
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I'm a straight male. I went to a gay bar with some gay women and their straight married women friends. One of the straight women was being basically sexually harrassed by another gay woman there, to the point of being chased around the table, all the while saying she was married to a guy and she wanted nothing to do with it. The whole bar was laughing. If I did that to a woman in a regular bar, I'd get my ass kicked, thrown out, or arrested.
Sexual harassment in LGBT+ community is a serious problem not being taken serious by many people of the community. I was receiving very nasty and sexual comments from a gay friend from Facebook under my photos (not naked, not even half naked, just fully dressed me doing random things in public) and I thought that if he was straight and put that kind of comments under any women pics she could accuse him of sexual molesting. Finally blocked this guy, but I saw that kind of situation plenty of times in regular social media.
the shocking thing is the statistics show the highest rate of sexual assaults' and sexual harassment is in the lesbian community (as well as the highest domestic abuse rates), the gay community is the lowest with Hetero men coming in just below Lesbians and hetero women right below them. This is an issue not dealt with and most pretend do not exist
Load More Replies...This is just simply sexual harrassment regardless of the sexual preference or gender. But to think you would get thrown out of any other bar for the same behaviour is mistaken. This happens to women in bars every.single.day and the perpetrator is rarely kicked out unless he starts picking fights or bothering other men in the bar.
I’m not a lesbian nor a woman, but grew up around and finally in gay bars. This behavior isn’t normal nor acceptable. I learned how to respect men AND women by the hyper aware standards of establishments like the one you speak of. Maybe it was just this group of people or this bar. Not a double standard because not standard.
It's okay for men to not want kids, but women are "broken" or will "change their mind" if they say the same.
I'm almost 36 and been in a relationship for 6 years. If I wanted to have kids, I would have them by now. Still get asked when we'll finally have children by friends and family over and over again. Get treated like a villain for refusing to give children to my partner (who doesn't want to have kids either).
Same here, my husband and I are childless by choice and our families can't wrap their heads around it. It feels like they're still expecting us to change our minds even though I am in my forties now 🤦♀️
Load More Replies...It's amazing how, the moment the schools closed, moms stopped telling me I should have kids ...
Why do media often choose to illustrate "women who don't want kids" with a picture of a woman and a pet (cat, dog...)? I feel like it implies that these women still need to be like "mothers" for a little one, like they are not complete if they don't provide care for another living being.
I have "kids" (they're young adults now), and I love them with every fiber of my being, but if I had to do it all over again, I would not bring kids into this world.
I am 35 and have come to the conclusion that if I am single and childless for the rest of my life that would not bother me. Thankfully, my parents don't behave like some parents. They want grandchildren, but not enough to annoy my sister and I about.
Exactly. If I said I wanted kids people would be like "Awww!!" but if I say I don't want kids people say I'll change my mind and I'm too young to know.
Sometimes I feel like I should have kids, but then I remember that I can't just fill a bowl with kibble and leave a clean litterbox to take off for the weekend... somehow that's "bad parenting"... so I'll stick to cats.
Child predators. Both men and women should receive the same charges.
What do you mean? They already do receive the same charges.
Load More Replies...because say an adult woman molests a 13 year old boy, they get off with a slap on the wrist because of sexism that says "hey that boy must be lucky"
Load More Replies...I hate it when I see a article about a female teacher sleeping with her student and they post pics of her looking sexy or sweet and “innocent” and talk about her looks. If it was a man they would have posted the most dangerous or lecherous picture they could find and talk about how much of a monster he is. They are BOTH monsters who prey on CHILDREN!
Here in the states, there was a famous case back in the 90s of Mary Kay Letourneau, a teacher, who started an affair with her TWELVE-YEAR-OLD STUDENT. She took a plea deal that gave her six months in prison, with three months commuted. She ended up in prison when she broke parole by continuing the affair with the boy. All in all, she spent a little over six years in prison. What do you think would have happened if she were a man?
Georgia or Alabama would elect him senator, and Trump and Graham would back him.
Load More Replies...child predators are just that...child predators. no reason why men and women should face separate charges under the same circumstances.
Hate people who comment on female predators as if they're doing the child a favor!
I'm choosing to overlook the erasure of all but the binary genders because I agree that punishment should be regardless of gender.
To learn more about the unequal distribution of housework and other tasks and what can be done to change it, Bored Panda reached out to relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, who gave us some insights on what can be done to share the load. In short, he explained that communication, respect for each other’s choices, and mutual support are key to a healthy relationship. Especially during these difficult times.
“Both a man and a woman should always show gratitude towards each other and from that, you will both feel happier about being loving towards each other because you know the other person appreciates what you are doing,” relationship expert Dan highlighted that thanking someone for taking the initiative with chores, instead of berating them for usually ‘not doing enough,’ yields far better results.
For Dan, it’s important not just what we say in relationships, but how we say it.
Men get pockets big enough to hold all their stuff while women get fake pockets that are sewn shut, or a micro pocket that can't fit anything.
Omg yesterday I found really cute pants, WITH POCKETS!
Load More Replies...Not "men get pockets". Clothing standards lead to apparel that typically is much tighter for women than for men, thereby leaving no space for pockets without looking odd. It is, thus, not really about the pockets, but about the expectations towards how people dress.
It's almost all women's clothing, not just closer-fitting clothes. How else would they get people to buy handbags?:-D
Load More Replies...Because the fashion industry knows that they can't force men to carry bags by removing pockets... men will just stop carrying stuff rather than carry a bag. The lack of pockets in women's clothing is just a way of making women buy bags.
That would make sense if it's the same company making the trousers/skirts and the handbags. Which it isn't.
Load More Replies...If it's a real pocket that is sewn shut, you are supposed to clip the threads. They're only sewn shut to keep the garment looking smooth and nice when hanging in the shop. (Same with the vent on the back of a blazer.) I have no explanation for micro pockets & actual fake ones, though.
Thank you so much for telling me this i will forever be in your debt
Load More Replies...buy your pants in the guys section they are even more flattering to the curves and they HAVE POCKETS
My teacher in high school once cut hers open with safety scissors in THE MIDDLE OF CLASS.
I hate this so much. I have a pair of Jeans I love except the pockets no joke, are barley big enough for my chapstick. so friggin dumb
When movies need an ugly guy, they hire an ugly actor. When they need an ugly girl, they hire a smoking hot actress and put glasses on her
People were stunned when they found out that Charlize Theron is a great actress when she put on weight for "Monster" and that she's not only a pretty face (she's stunning by the way!)
She is great, but I have reservations on hiring beautiful actresses and then "uglying" them up. Why not hire someone who is a great actress, but who is actually unattractive instead of having to resort to prosthetics?
Load More Replies........and straighten her hair. My wife (who has curly hair) is acutely aware of this trend in movies.
You might even add that non "sexiest male alive" actors are praised for their roles as character actors. Non "sexiest female alive" actors are hardly known but for rare exceptions.
I disagree. Most of the time, I wouldn't even know who the current "sexiest female" is. But in general, of course, the not-super-hot actresses get less attention, that is true. (and it's a damn shame!)
Load More Replies...Glasses are not ugly! You just have to find the right frames for your face.
Anne Hathaway has had lots of crap just for being who she is. To me she's gorgeous, to haters everything out of the ordinary was picked on, just cause. People like Steve Buscemi and Willem Dafoe might totally be categorized as "not hot", but their wits and skills and personalities are actually what do make them hot. Not to mention how they looked when they were younger. I had a friend who thought the worst of his appearance, when everyone around him just loved him ánd his face. It wasn't enough though. So just stop even using that stupid word. No one is ugly. Nerdy, sure, ungroomed, be my guest. But not ugly.
Society has been making money off of women’s bodies/sexuality forever and no one cares. A woman makes money off her own body/sexuality and it’s suddenly a problem.
So much this! I worked as a topless server at a strip club for 3 years. I never “performed” or took more than my top off. I didn’t tell anyone but my sister because I was ashamed. I was raised to believe that the only men who are allowed to see a woman naked is God and her husband. When my truth did come out, I was ridiculed and degraded by my extended family. My grandmother called me a “whore” and disowned me. No one cared that I took the job during the last recession because I was 10 days shy of eviction and the strip club was the only place hiring. Last year, one of my male cousins took a job as a party stripper to pay his way through college. My family’s response, including my bitch of a grandmother? If you got it, flaunt it. They saw no problem with him getting naked for money.
Yes, exactly. If a woman decides to work in a profession that involves using her body, people call it disgusting, or horrible. I just can't understand it.
ah yes particularly with men who dont want women to own their power and some, even their own bodies...
Its the women that are making it a problem. My problem is ads with tits and ass, male or female, in the middle of the day
This is kinda like how people went crazy when Megan Thee Stallion and Cardi B did a song together about their bodies and people said it was disgusting. Personally I think it was a great song and don't see why people hated it so much. They should be able to talk about their bodies as much as they want. It's not like it's illegal or something. It should be fine if a man talks about things like that but if a woman does it the whole planet must explode.
Well to be fair, it was also because of who / how they are. If someone else would have done it, it probably wouldn’t have been so repulsive to so many people.
Load More Replies...To be fair though, who actually has a problem with this? It's quite often not men. I was once on fieldwork in a village in Spain. The mayor of the town came to our professors that the girls weren't allowed in the village in their bikini's anymore after complaints. So later that day a daily ritual started of the men from the village going for walks along our campingside.
Relationship expert Dan gave an example where he heard from a man who was cleaning up the bathroom and found his wife complaining about how he was doing things. This led to an argument and the couple didn’t speak for a couple of days.
“He was very upset that she didn’t appreciate his proactive approach to helping out. All of that stress could have been avoided if she walked in and said something like, ‘Oh, thanks, honey. You’re cleaning the bathroom. That’s one less thing for me to do. Thank you.’ Then, if she wanted him to clean the bathroom the way she normally does it, she could ask, ‘Do you want to know how I get those stains out?’ or, ‘Do you want me to tell you some of the ways I do it that makes it easier?’ and if he then said yes, she could tell him,” Bacon gave some practical examples of effective communication.
“If he said no and ended up causing damage to the bathroom for example (unlikely, of course) or not cleaning it properly, she could then talk to him about it and ask why he thought it turned out that way, after all the good effort he put in. He could then realize his mistake, feel supported by her and decide that he probably should have asked her how to do it first, or continued cleaning until he got it done right.”
I was at the park working out a few years ago and on a bench was a couple arguing. The girl proceeds to slap the crap out of her boyfriend. She then goes for another, but the dude blocked her and held her wrist. The girl then burst into tears and questions why he hurt her like that.
To myself I was thinking, wait you can hit him but when he defends himself its wrong?
My mother told me and my siblings (one sister, two brothers) "A gentleman never hits a lady; but if she hits you first, she's not a lady."
Load More Replies...When I was a little girl (about 5 or so) my best friend was a boy the same age as me. But I would bully him and hit him, even though he was bigger. His father, of course, told him he was never to hit me back. My mother had other ideas and told him to wallop me. He did, and I never hit him again. Not sure what was going on in my mind at that age, but something I'm not proud of.
he didn't even hurt her he just grabbed her wrist and she starts cryig
I loved the episode of LivePD where a cop caught a woman making a false report of domestic battery. She was on the phone with 911 saying "He just hit me!" And then hears her saying "I'm gonna keep telling them you hitting me til they come and arrest you." Needless to say, the woman was arrested instead.
That men can't be raped or physically/mentally abused.
As a rape and molestation victim, this has always stuck hard with me. Nothing was done to the men who did it, either.
Also, APPARENTLY, MEN CAN'T CRY!!! Like what the heck their also human; crying is necessary.
IKR I've literally been told I shouldn't cry by a TEACHER
Load More Replies...'I'll sleep when I'm dead' 2003 film with Clive Owen. Not everyone's cup-of-tea, but it stays with you.
Women things like baking or cooking are just for women until it's a profession, and then it's for men.
Oh yeah. If I say a word "a cook" you will most likely think of a woman. While when I say "a chef" it will probably be a man. And I wouldn't blame you - it's the same in my own head but it's just so wrong and sad nevertheless.
The words “cook,” “chef,” and “chores” have always been gender neutral to me mainly because my dad and grandpa never, ever make my mom and grandma do the chores for them. They’re split up evenly, and they’re all non-misogynistic. I was shocked when I found out that people think cooking and chores are for women. I guess I am lucky to have this mentality and family dynamic.
Load More Replies...I don’t cook in my house. I’m not allowed to. There was an incident when I was trying to make home made soup. Man my wife was mad.
Ah, Mike! We need details! "An incident" is far too intriguing a phrase to leave hanging!
Load More Replies...Dear Adam Hendron, aggression does not come more naturally to males. I know plenty of girls who could scare Gordon Ramsay into wetting his pants. There’s never a reason to justify sexism.
I remember one of my favorite episodes of the OG Iron Chef where Chen Kinichi battled Katsuyo Kobayashi, at her height known as Japan's Mother. There was quite a bit of 'oh, isn't she sweet' (and, no doubt, she's a totally adorable badass), then surprise when she positively SPANKED Chen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oZMqm4L-e0s
My dad is the one in our family who cooked when we were growing up and my mom is the one who put all our bedframes and shelving units together. I am a female delivery driver and a lot of the cooks I work with are male.
I can make nothing above pasta but I enjoy cooking, but if I was a man it would be considered weird.
When I hear cook I think remi from ratatouille and when I think of chef I think of Gordon Ramsey telling me im an idiot sandwich or a donut
According to Dan, by choosing not to attack our partners verbally for their ‘mistakes,’ we avoid making them go on the defensive. This reduces stress, helps maintain the relationship, and, in very practical terms, helps deal with the double standard of how housework is distributed.
“They remain in love. They feel supported, appreciated, respected and there is no need for an angry, resentful war to break out over little mistakes or errors. Of course, approaching conversations like that also applies to a man talking to his girlfriend or wife who is doing something around the house,” the expert pointed out that it goes both ways.
“For example, if his wife is doing more than normal around the house, a man should be supportive of her, appreciative and respectful, rather than just expecting that she should do it because she’s a woman. No one has to do anything in a relationship. It’s always a choice. This is why you should always come from a place of love and support, rather than in an angry, attacking way where you essentially become enemies who are trying to beat each other in a pointless, ‘I’m a better person than you’ war.”
While there are plenty of double standards out there, at least we’re better equipped to deal with one of them—sharing housework and other tasks during the pandemic through small changes in how we communicate and show gratitude.
When a girl is into more traditionally manly stuff nobody bats an eye, but when a guy is into traditionally feminine stuff people give him funny looks and question his sexuality
Mh, I still see a lot of girls/women being ridiculed for liking 'manly stuff'. May it be sports, cars, games or anything the like.
that's true, but men are shamed SO much more for it than females. i feel awful for them because you should be allowed to like what you like and do what you want to do and wear what you want to wear without being judged for it.
Load More Replies...If when a girl is into more traditionally manly stuff nobody bats an eye that is because women have struggled a loooong time to be able to do so. Sorry to say this, but I think guys into more feminine stuff will have to work their way to doing whatever they want to do a pretty long time, too. It is not an easy task breaking prejudices in people's minds.
I met a young Marine in Iraq after the first Fallujah offensive and he said his guys had discovered how soothing and stress-relieving things like crocheting and knitting were---but he was worried they'd be seen as less "manly." Dude, YOU'RE A MARINE. Why can't YOU change that? SCREW those people! Here's a guy fighting in the bloodiest battle of the war----but why would he care after that? Knit your heart out, dude.
My Marines knitted blankets and little hats for the kids near our FOB. Had a few Special Ops come through and picked up the habit as well. One went stateside shortly after and sent us about 40 balls of yarn. A real man does whatever the f**k he wants to do and doesn't worry about what people think.
Load More Replies...As the mother of a transgender daughter, I can completely say this is true. The number of times I was told to "make him man up" was outrageous.
As a woman into more "many" stuff I will have to disagree, Maybe it depends on community as well Everyone assumes im a lesbian because i like more "many" things and think im still in the closet when I say I'm straight.
Right? Thats my same experience. From everybody asuming that I am lesbian, to classmates insulting and spiting me to relatives saying that "nobody will ever love you"
Load More Replies...Because they think being a man is the good thing so you can emulate them. But being a woman is the bad thing so you can't waste your manhood by emulating them.
I heard a quote once (don't remember it exactly or who said it), but it went more or less like this: "Many now raise their daughters more like their sons, but few have the courage to raise their sons more like their daughters."
Abusive behavior is funny when coming from a woman. I pointed out to my husband that in movies and TV shows, women get upset by a man's actions and slap him and no one bats an eye. Showing a woman hitting a man normalizes this cruelty and it needs to stop.
I can’t stand it when I see a woman slap a man and it’s considered acceptable.
Hitting another human being unless it's for actual self-defence, isn't acceptable. when will people realize it has nothing to do with gender? hitting someone is *BAD*. what happened to words, people?!
Load More Replies...Depends on the circumstances. If you were being a c**t and ignored her warnings, no, you wouldn't have a right to retaliate. If she slapped you out of the blue and made it clear she was about to try it again? Congratulations, you've entered the self defense zone.
Load More Replies...Physical violence is never acceptable. The other reality is, domestic violence is overwhelmingly committed by men against women, and the violence they do to women far outweighs the damage that women's violence does to men. The stats bear this out. Funny how we seem to forget these salient facts.
lots of men dont report the abuse becuse of how they would be treted
Load More Replies...John Wayne regularly spanked Maureen O’Hara in movies.Men slap women on the butt all the time i and it’s seen as a symbol of sexual desire not abuse.
It’s how men handled uppity independent women in the movies. It always made them docile.
Load More Replies...Omg the oldies flicks: women getting angry or upset, man: **SLAP** "for goodness sake pull it together woman!" I think as a society we can come up with some new material, beyond gender reversal!!
How it's okay for men to go to strip clubs but strippers are looked down upon or made fun of by society.
Many people who are strippers are very well educated and a lot are also studying. Stripping is a way for them to make ends meet. As long as it is THEIR choice and they aren’t being forced or pressured into it, then I don’t see an issue.
The main problem of it being their choice, is that they don't actually have other options. "Do this or your kids starve" "do this or you go homeless" isn't a choice. Consent is only consent when freely given and uncoerced, and over 80% of sex workers are not freely and willingly doing this over something else; it's the only thing they can do. If someone is starving, you put food in their mouth not your d*ck
Load More Replies...As I have written in a BP comment before, Gentlemens clubs (at least in the contemporary understanding) are no place gentlemen would visit.
Yet the men who go there think they are Gentlemen.
Load More Replies...This is a problem with the whole sex services industry, it's forced underground where women have no protection from abuse because they can't go to the police and it allows an underground sex trade because if it all has to be done underground anyway, they may as well coerce women into it. Prostitution should be legalized and regulated.
Strippers are doing a job and no one should be judged because of their job.
Why? Sex work is work, why are some jobs more "respectable" than others?
I'm so sick of the gratuitous trip through the strip club in so many movies and TV programs. It usually has nothing to do with the plot, but turns up as meeting place for the actors to converse. Perhaps it is a bid by the sex industry to normalize such behavior.
My next-door neighbor is a stripper and she is in amazing physical shape. During covid, she does live streaming of her pole routines, and her core strength is something to be envied.
Pedophile teachers, when it's a man, you tend to see "Male teacher raped student", and when they're women it's normally "Female teacher had sex with student", I despise the downplaying of it when the teacher is a woman, and seeing comments like "that kid should be lucky, his teacher is hot" disgusts me.
They did it on Dawsons creek, affair with teacher...woohoo go Pacey. It is horrible, all girls school here had rumors of teacher having relations with student, nothing happened, another teacher married an ex student a year or so after she graduated. Now years on I realise that would have been considered grooming. So horrible
Yes same at my all girls school... Often the girls were under age but not reported so nothing done. It is a fine line though if the girl wants its. Not always is it a forced sort of seduction..
Load More Replies...Nah. Very rarely do you see the word "rape" used in any headline when it comes to sexual violence against women. I have never seen "Male teacher rapes student". It's always "had sex with". Where are all these rape headlines you speak of?
True. They generally avoid using any legal term. This applies to murders as well; they often say that the victim was stabbed by the perpetrator and then died without explicitly writing that the perpetrator killed the victim.
Load More Replies...iT is bc women are not seen like predators due to their "fragility". It sucks I know but thats how machismo works. Women are not weak, we can be monsters too.
This is a "comedy" element in a lot of dreadful movies e.g.: "Not Cool" , "F*** the Prom", etc.
These f*ckers can eat my a-s-s, they prey on vulnerable students :'(
More like "Female teacher had affair with student." The word "rape" is rarely used at all.
Yeah, the word 'affair' is really wrong in that context
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Body shaming men. Make fun of a woman’s boob size and people are aghast. Make fun of someone’s d**k size and that’s hilarious. Slag on a woman’s weight and that’s a no-no, but ‘I only date six feet and taller’ is acceptable. They are things a person really can’t do much about, and both being socially linked to equate manliness.
Adrianna should probably take a moment to question the significance of her own existence.
If somebody doesnt wanna date me because i'm 5'7, they'll miss out amazing cooking and funny evenings. Their loss I guess :)
On another hand, women are not supposed to be tall... I'm 1m81 (5'11) and one of my male coworkers once told me I wasn't a 'real woman'. Luckily my other coworkers supported me (including a 4'11 man!). Well, this is amongst uncountable remarks I had since childhood, but this one affected me particularly.
Same here (5'9), got nasty comments for my height and looks (I was called skeleton, stork etc. for being tall and slim - and I carried a great deal of complexes, for quite a time, because of that) even to my mid-age, today. Although past my thirties I started to not care and flaunt my... uncommon-ness by wearing platforms, super-high heels, menswear, very long (1 m) and very short (2cm) hair for my own enjoyment and to enjoy the outrage or confusion of the wannabe bullies :)
Load More Replies...Fair is fair, a tall woman gets crap about her femininity, she shouldn't wear heels lest she offend a man (I hear this a lot, i'm tall, and I like my heels for nights out, thanks, and if my hubby doesn't mind, who are these people to comment?!).....
I'm 5'6" and tried numerous popular online dating sites. I quit each one once I saw that nearly all of the women were demanding men who are 5'9" and taller. Even the women who were 5'2" and 5'3" wanted a man who was 6-8 inches taller than them. ---- Men under 5'9" or 5'10" are seen as "too short to be real men" in our modern culture.
Which is nonsense. I’m sorry you’ve dealt with that! I can’t imagine passing up a guy due to height. My husband is 5’8 and I’d be without an amazing partner if I cared about how tall he is.
Load More Replies...Women like this are only advertising why you should avoid dating them. They are really doing you a favor.
I've always preferred shorter guys. I don't have to reach too high to hug or kiss.Plus they're very attractive as well.
Exactly! I don't want to have a cramping neck all the time because I'm constantly looking UP. I really don't get it.
Load More Replies...No one should bodyshame anyone else. It's okay to have a type, but don't humiliate and degrade those that don't fit your type.
"but ‘I only date six feet and taller’ is acceptable." It is acceptable to have a preference. There's a difference between a preference and shaming. I prefer shorter men (as I am short) - that isn't shaming taller men.
Agreed, I don't want a stepladder just to kiss him.
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A woman with her kids is "taking care", a man with his kids is "babysitting"
This is pathetic! Anyone who suggests I'm babysitting my kid will get a earful from me..
This goes a looooong way. As as single dad I have troulbles getting into "parents with kids changing rooms" because I'm a guy. When I finally argued my way into them (with my two 5yo girls) I got funny looks, plus mothers with their kids started hiding them out of my sight. Another example - me making photos of my kids at a beach got me into cop trouble. Never heard of a woman harrased, because she was taking photos of kids at the beach. Booking a hotel with two beds for me and my daughters is a nigthmare... Over the years I have grown thick skin, but I hate how this is getting under my kid's skin...
When I was around 7-8 my dad and I went out of town and when checking in at the hotel for the night the desk person kept giving us weird looks and was kinda rude. It was weird enough that they memory stayed with me after all these years. I was holding his hand and I think it weirded her out or something. I didn’t “get” it until I was older and thought about it and it clicked. If it was my mom it would have been just a lost memory of nothing.
Load More Replies...Not sure from what pov this is, but we often see Men putting those terms out there themselves. Have to babysit tonight wife going to book club, have to watch the kids wife is working late etc...when it should just be, sorry I can't make it, staying home, not a reason based on the wife isn't available to mind our kids.
Also that if a mum is taking care of the kids it's her job.. but when dad is 'babysitting' he is such a good dad for spending time with his kids. Sich a backwards notion still
But, on the other hand, I was a single dad and got praised all the time for it. I realized that women do not. I would feel guilty about it.
YES THIS. When I was younger, my mom would go to work until 7pm and I would spend a lot of time with my dad until he went to work at 8pm. People would always assume he was my babysitter or grandpa, which, hello? That's my DAD, it's not your BUSINESS, why do you CARE
This one always drove me crazy. I see it changing a little more now with my children and their kids.....Thank goodness!
Men or boys who are sexually abused by women are told to feel lucky. People will joke, 'Where was that teacher when I was in school?' and disregard that being a male victim is a big deal. But sexual abuse messes with you no matter your gender, and being a male survivor is also hard.
Yes, yes, yes. I know someone who was raped by a woman and when he went to the police they laughed at him. In 30 years he has not had a partner or interest in having one because of that experience.
😥 hearing this breaks my heart-- encapsulates the damage of societal perception...
Load More Replies...This bothers me so much I know TWO people who brag that their first sexual encounter was with an adult babysitter and friends mom when they were under age. I told both of them, you know that's child rape right? They were no way that was awesome. I said ok, so if it were your daughter and an older man? And they both freaked out. I was like ok wait, so if a BOY has sex with a grown woman it's cool, but if a GIRL has sex with a grown man it's horrible? I'm pretty sure they both are horrible and y'all need counseling. (same convo two times condensed for time / space)
Not every pedosexual human being abuses other human beings sexually, so no, definitely not.
Load More Replies...My ex husband was sexually assaulted by a woman when he was deployed with the military. When he went to report it, no one believed him and they all laughed. He was persuaded not to make a report because he would "look like an absolute fool". He is a very manly man, very good looking and never turned down sex (this is why he's my ex). No reason to lie. I felt so bad when he told me the story years later.
Very true. A male's body might get aroused even if he doesn't want it and is terrified. A lot of people don't understand that. And if his attacker is female, he might be afraid to defend himself because she could turn it around and say he attacked her.
Men have emotions too, Evan though beans try to act tough on their outside. Going through that is traumatizing as a man also.
Listen up people, men have feelings as well. Men can cry, can get raped or abused, and they have rights!
LUCKY? Who the he** says that's "lucky? Let me meet them. I've seen what sexual abuse does to both sexes, and no matter the sex of the victim or offender, it's *evil*, IMHO.
I'm not sure that it's taken lightly and more the fact that as a teenager a lot of kids would have fantasized about a hot teacher taking a sexual interest in them and in most cases that fantasy stays with them when they're older(hence the school teacher genre of porn) so they make the "where was she when I was at school" remark more as a joke because they realise that fantasy doesn't match reality and what they thought of as innocent was actually a horrific crime.
Daughters are raised and taught to clean and cook while sons get cleaned up after. My mother got upset with me when I suggested my younger brother learn to take out the trash or do a single chore. When I was his age, I was cooking and cleaning and helping take care of him while getting good grades in school and doing extracurriculars.
O. M. G this isn't to do with gender because I'm a girl but my sister is 10 I used to do work when I was 10 I understand how annoying it is
My parents were pretty fair with my brother and I, but I knew a family with 4 kids, of which only one was a girl. She and her mother did all the housework, cooking, cleaning, etc. Her three brothers didn't lift a finger.
Load More Replies...This is not usual in most families these days. Not in New Zealand anyway.
I agree that I perceive more and more peole to challenge this. Likewise, my daughters can freely chose to play with dolls or cars, to paint a picture or to solder a circuit, to wear a pink dress or a shirt with a dinosaur print. If they were sons, these options would be just the same.
Load More Replies...As a dad I taught both my daughter and son to cook, do the washing, clean, make beds and do DIY at an early age to help them later in life. When my daughter went to uni she was the only one in her block who cook a proper meal! And it was me who taught my daughter about periods.
I dont have a brother at all. My mother says that no matter what every one whether they are man or woman have to learn to cook. My mother is strict on that.
Everyone should learn to cook and clean!
Load More Replies...Ah, bless my mother. She used to say “work is work and it has to be done. It doesn’t have gender” this she said to my brother who would complain that washing dishes was “women’s work” . Mom was way ahead of her times.
I grew up in the 60's and 70's which was still a time when only girls cleaned the house and did the dishes. My parent's were different. I had three brothers, all of whom learned to cook, clean, and even iron and sew small repairs. I did everything my brothers did including mowing the lawn and helping my dad change the oil in the car. We were treated equally when it involved work or maintenance.
Not in my house. All my boys and girls do the same chores. All have learned to cook as well.
It was the exact opposite with me, I (the brother) had to do all the chores and my sister sat back and played Roblox. My parents tried to divide up the chores, but my sister would never do hers, and then I would be forced to do them.
I just had an argument with my parents about this, and how it's sexist. I got in bit trouble.
It is sexist. No one should get in trouble because they're standing up for something like this
Load More Replies...Overweight male actors always get cast opposite gorgeous actresses as their love interests and nobody bats an eye. Overweight actresses are rarely allowed to be lead love interests in the first place, and when they are, they're more likely to be paired with less conventionally attractive men.
And if perchance they are the lead, it's usually for comical reasons. Also, lead actresses are super skinny with super fat bff for comic relief, never the other way round. But where's the between? Average bodies that are neither skinny nor fat, with flabby tammies and saggy boobs are never portrayed even though more people could relate.
Well, at least people started questioning the "leading man is 20--30y older than his love interest" somewhat; until very recently the fact that every romantic lead was 40--45 and their 'appropriate' partner was 20--25 was just a given.
This is my personal peeve! Every time. It kind of shows that a woman falling in love with the man is understandable, but a man falling in love with anything but the look is unthinkable.
Notice how rebel Wilson lost weight and people start saying she's only got a hot bf now coz she's thinner. Forgetting she was big when they got together.
Expand that to.... look at "hollywood"... there are definitely male actors that are either plain/average or considered homely... Every single female actress is at least as pretty as the popular girl from your high school.
And if you are an overweight actress your role is being overweight.
Those romantic comedies with the cliché beautiful and smart woman married to the dumbest guy who is lucky to have her. Swap the roles and see people flip out.
My roles are swapped. My hubby is smart, funny and goddam hot as whilst I am not that bright, not very funny and I look like a dogs breakfast. I often wonder HOW I managed to get a catch like I did.
Oh come on! From your comments I can tell you are bright, smart and funny.. :-)
Load More Replies...That is also typical for Nice Guy (TM) thinking... "All these 9s and 10s not wanting to be my girlfriend, they should be willing to lower their standards and consider me! Also, I'm not going to lower my own standards, I deserve a 9 or 10 and not a lowly 3!"
Yeah, and a lot of shows have a good looking woman and husbands a fat slob.
Every sitcom ever. Raymond, Big Bang, The honeymooners, even the Flintstones.
I think Seth Rogen is cute, actually, but he did act like a douche in that movie.
I would love a movie with swapped roles. Anyway they exhausted everything in romantic comedies
My parents are both equally smart, funny, and attractive and fit together quite well. They have been married for forty one years and are still going strong.
How many older unattractive men are cast opposite a young nubile woman as a love interest? Often and seen as acceptable....
I’m a young guy. One of my female coworkers slapped my ass about a month ago. I didn’t say anything because I really didn’t care too much, but if the roles were reversed I’d be out of here faster than I could say sexual harassment.
I was sexually assaulted at work and when I complained about it I was fired.
And this is why I was almost arrested in Italy. Man smacked my butt with a comment, I smacked his face, he called the cops, who then let me go with an "Oh, an American, their women are all horrible". thanks? I think? 25 years later, still undecided what insulted me more.
Not all women are rude, some may have a attitude and there’s nothing wrong with them but slapping him for what he did is not neccecaly rude.
Load More Replies...As you stated, you would be out of there. She also may have been, had you reported her. Many women do the same as you and don't report the abuse - hence, nothing happens to the abuser. Both men and women alike have to fear that making a report will label them as someone who doesn't work as a team and other such nonsense that will/can follow them through their career.
...that's actually frightening that such an thing would occur as an act of what I would presume to be attraction? In a working environment, especially.
Dads are “superhuman” when they take care of baby, cook/clean/etc, or just parent in general. But women are “doing what comes naturally” when we work a full time job while pregnant, go back to work weeks after major trauma, are expected to breastfeed AND work, keep the house, raise good kids, and are somehow bad moms if we complain and feel overwhelmed.
I also hate the presumption, that all child-caring activities (especially with babies or toddlers) came to mums naturally and are enjoable for them, but dads do them against theit nature and therefore should be praised for them. Like, I as a mum should be absolutelly happy to build a stack of three blocks for the fiftieth time so my toddler could smack it, but dad wont do it, because it is to boring for him. Like - it is for me also, but uf I say so, I am bad mum. (not that this actually happened to me, my husband is not a sexist intolerant jerk) But I hate those comments like "you know, dads don´t understant little babies, they will care for them when they are older"
The ONLY difference, I think, is that as children women are 'groomed' for this, being given baby dolls to play with and babysitting jobs. This creates expectations and, also, experience. By the time most men become fathers they probably don't have the experience that the mother does. Societal expectations do the rest. When we start showing our sons how to care for children then society will begin to change. So far I haven't seen much of this though..
My son has a baby doll, he's her "dad" and I'm the "gran". I've seen him work through stuff, like after he's misbehaved etc suddenly baby doll misbehaved and he puts her in time out etc. She goes out and about with us too
Load More Replies...I understand but if a woman needs or wants to go to work when she is a wife and mother that is her choice largely.. THe truth often is that women cant do and have it all...Everyone wants the big house, the two cars and often cannot afford it... Everything goes on the credit card or the big mortgage and living beyond their means...
My ex mother in law had this way of thinking, it didnt matter that I also had a full time job, I was expected to come home and take care of the baby, clean and then cook for his lordship. One time after my own mum had spent all day decorating for us he came home from work and I asked him to trim the wallpaper at the ceiling so that it didnt stick to the ceiling and his sister happened to be there, she went straight home and told his mum who called me the next day to call me a lazy B***h and told me how dare I ask him to do anything after he had been at work all day!!
I don't know anyone who considers a mother leaving her newborn for work to be something that comes naturally.
Women who either have sex, love sex, or have a great deal of it when they are single are considered loose. Meanwhile, if a guy has a lot of sex, then he’s just being a guy.
Also when women have sex on the first date are considered easy and not relationship-material
Yet men will try it and and then denigrate the woman for going along with it. Men like to be the hunters though and value that which they need to work for. Not always. some people go on to have a relationship after first date sex..
Load More Replies...I never really understood this either. My bro is 12 years older and everyone knew he had LOTS of sex, including my mother. She always thought it was so cute that her son was "so desirable". When her and I had the talk when I was young, she drilled it into my head that if you have sex with anyone other than your husband, then you are and always will be a slut. I'll never forget *her saying, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free".
I hate that saying. They call you a cow, a commodity with that. And if ones "value" only depends on virginity...one should definitely work on ones character.
Load More Replies...Donald Trump brags about grabbing women by the p#ssy and gets elected president. Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion release "WAP" and it's fall of Western Civilization.
We're supposed to want it but not show it (which is creepy in the first place cause you're supposed to be nun-ish but people will lust after you anyway) but if you actually don't want it you are broken, this last part going for men and women.
Yes! why the hell men can have sex whoever, whenever, they want and become a superhero and women become trash?
When men have sex with a lot of people it's considered "cool" and they're basically congratulated, while women who have lots of sex are considered "sluts". Funny, because who would the (straight) men be doing it with?
Women are 'supposed' to clean the inside of the house while men do yard work. One day, my husband's friend called him while we were cleaning the house. His friend said, 'Uh oh. In trouble with the wifey?' No! He just lives here, too.
my husband wouldn't be friends with any guy who called me "the wifey."
My father is pretty good about cleaning and actually cleans more than me in my house
I am allergic to grass, my SO is allergic to dust. I vacuum and wash floors, she mowes the grass
I had to fight with my wife to be able to vacuum and mop the house. It's MY job.
This is how our household dynamics work but not because it is expected, it is just how it works for us. My hubby has the ability to do heavy lifting, doesn’t suffer allergies etc so the outside is his domain and the inside is mine,
If men play video games, it’s normal and expected. If men like sports, it’s normal and expected. If men enjoy something like skateboarding, it’s normal and expected. But if a woman does any of those things, she’s only doing it to impress men and couldn’t possibly actually like them herself.
That goes both ways, if a guy likes netball, ballet, sewing or anything that has been traditionally been done by mostly women for decades or centuries... he will be called gay or a sissy
Intro me to a man who likes sewing, please? I'd love to dump the mending pile on someone who likes it. *sigh*
Load More Replies...I love comic books and video games, but one time I was being harassed by a couple of guys saying I didn't know anything about the characters or the storyline. I finally had enough and just looked one of them dead in the eye and relayed everything that happened in the prior comics. To see their expressions gave me satisfaction. I remember it being a DC comic. The icing on the cake for them was probably when I said I beat Injustice the video game in three days.
Boys are usually surprised when I beat them at Minecraft or things like that, except my brother who already knows it's gonna happen
Load More Replies...Me and my daughter use to play video games together all the time. She now has her own house and kids and still plays video games.
The video games sphere is rapidly changing. I don't have numbers, but I meet a LOT of fellow female gamers in mmos (Guild Wars 2, World of Warcraft, Skyforge, and Black Desert Online, for example). The problem right now that I see is most women will not say they are female for fear of harassment. I was in a player group in one for 6 months before I found out over half the group of 80 was women.
Oh yeah, who doesnt know this "gamer girl are just trying too hard" s**t.
Yay, I love gatekeeping comments like: "Oh, you like comics? Name 3 Silver Age Era Authors", and I'm like Dude, I'm just trying to finish "Civil War 2", give me a freaking break ._.
I play video games. I do sports (sometimes). I like skateboarding. Because I love doing them.
Hullo, I love video games and cars here. Went to a college class to learn about fixing automotives, got looked dead in the eye, by the professor, who told me, "A woman's place is in the kitchen, making food for her hardworking husband to come home to." Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but you shouldn't say that to a willing to learn minor attending your class. Also get a lot of questions when I bring my laptop anywhere, or talk about any sort of video game.
As a man, I could go to the doctor and get a vasectomy tomorrow if I wanted to. A woman has to have like two or three kids and be married for most doctors to even consider performing a tubal ligation.
Of course women should be able to have the same choice as men. Just speculating though: could the reluctance of doctors to do tubal ligation simply be, because it is a more complicated procedure than vasectomies?
No. After our 3rd child, the doctors said no "incase I wanted more children". I also would need my spouses consent. I'm not kidding.
Load More Replies...I asked my doctor multiple times, he flat-out refused. I'm almost 44, so I know what I'm doing, but still it's frowned upon.
Doctors get malpractice law suits for nearly every procedure. It's liability concerns, most likely.
Load More Replies...I will never understand why having a tubal ligation or hysterectomy is thought of as a permanent decision, but having children isn't. Like, once you have a baby, you've had that baby. There 8s no going back after that.
Vasectomy is (mostly) reversible. Tubal ligation is (1) in invasive surgery and (2) 100% nonreversible. From what I'm reading, its also easier to do right after a pregnancy.
Tuba ligation can also be reversible and it isn’t that invasive either as it is usually done laparoscopically and is day surgery. Unless you get it done with a hysterectomy or cesarean.
Load More Replies...I have endometriosis, just shy of stage three. Beside the fact it took 15 years for someone to listen to me. I was told no many MANY times on matters of birth control or hysterectomy. Too young, might want children, not sexually active so you don't need it (with the implication they think I'm lying about activity), "you don't understand these things", etc. Now diagnosed I have an over 50% chance of infertility and would struggle to carry to term due to damage from the endo. Guess what? Still too young, might want kids.... *screams*
in Poland men are allowed to do vasectomy. Women are forbid to do permament sterilization as this will make us i guess not usefull anymore.
And even if you have uterine fibroids, you can't get a hysterectomy till menopause in many cases. ARGH.
Hey there a med student here so fibroid is not a malignant condition and the reason it's removed after menopause is basically estrogen Harmon which quantity decrease after menopause it's protective in nature as in preventing breast and ovarian cancer and maintain bone density in females as it is a protective harmon so that's why there are high chance of fracture in females after menopause. And hysterectomy only remove uterus not overy so after hysterectomy before menopause u get high chance of ovarian cancer if other risk factors exist . Also estrogen has protective effect on heart that's why after menopause chance of male and female getting heart diseases is same while before that it's high for male
Load More Replies...And indigenous women get their tubes tied without their consent >:I
I’m an 18-24 year old guy, and I work with kids.
It’s disgusting the amount of protocols and procedures there are to keep me from being alone with kids, but there are almost NONE for the female staff I work with.
It is really sad. There are less and less men working with children because of this and peoples ideas that “men are bad”. All children need a male role model and they don’t always get it at home, so having a male teacher, student councillor, social worker can be extremely beneficial. There are more good men than bad, it is just we hear more bad than good. These men are our husbands, fathers, children, friends etc, we need to stop tarring men with the same brush.
I agree but protocols have to be put in place with this sort of thing, especially if the male is not known to the employer...Just to make others feel safe..
Load More Replies...I used to work with kids too. The rules are also here to protect you from false accusations.
Exactly this. When I worked in pediatric nursing, I made damn sure never to be left alone with a kid. It's sad, but you *have* to protect yourself.
Load More Replies...Yeah, I work with kids. I have to be so f*****g careful because my life is f****d if something gets misconstrued in the smallest of ways. I’m in a room with a child for five seconds and I could be called a pedophile and rapist. I’ve seen it happen.
I am really sorry about your situation. There is a great movie about such a story - The Hunt with Mads Mikkelsen. Really scary stuff
Load More Replies...you are paying for the sins of your fellow man who is the main sexual perpetrator and abuser..However women do abuse children and I guess no one should be allowed to be alone with children in that case.. Sad world... I was stopped from taking photos of a neighbour's child I was watching on his sports day... I was a middle aged female..
Sadly no wonder... the difference between the amount of sexual abuse caused by men vs. women is insane. Call it a prejudice (and it is) but there is some quite rational background...
We are moving towards an age where optics take preference over practicality.
Load More Replies...Their photo is really beautiful ❤️, but woman appear innocent because it was how they are supposed to act.
A friend of mine is a trans guy and worked in a daycare. Many parents told the female staff to never leave him alone with the children. He came out to most parents and suddenly, they were fine with it. That both man-hating AND transphobe like... f**k.
This is awful. I don't think it's like that in my country? I do know that there was a famous case here of a woman running a childcare who had been abusing most of the children in her care. They found photographic evidence on her phone - zero doubt. Most of us still think a woman couldn't do that, wouldn't do that and that somehow her maternal instinct would prevent this. Even when we know this not to be the case we still have that thing on our mind still saying that. Even where we have our own individual bias the law shouldn't show any, NO ONE should be alone with children, regardless of sex..
Sad fact but a child is more likely to come to harm with a man than a women
Even if I, the father, am listed as the primary contact on every single contact form for my kids, the school will still call my wife first. Even after being the only parent the teachers and school have ever seen during drop-offs and pickups, the school still insists on waiting to talk to my wife to 'discuss something about your child,' even though I'm right there.
Honestly, I would make that public. Call the press or otherwise make a scene. That‘s patronising. It’s YOUR child and you‘re an intelligent human being ffs!
This was posted on Reddit. Probably some time ago. They probably won't see this.
Load More Replies...oh gosh yes my dad does so much for us but my mom is a therapist so she is very busy and has to do work in private so when I went to the nurse thy would always say I"'m gonna call your mom okay?" and I would say "my mom is working right now so call my dad" and they would be like "okay" with a snob face
For me, there are two sides of this coin. I have brain cancer and epilepsy, so while my mom is usually at work(she’s a doctor, so doing telemedicine), my dad is the one who almost always has to care for me immediately. Then, when my mom hears about it, she tends to drop everything as soon as she can and get home so she can care for me. I imagine people could, in theory, call her selfish for that. So, I think everyone should know that humans, male or female, have emotions, and react similarly to given scenarios.
When we go to mechanics, the workers bypass me and go to my husband. Problem is, his father was an accountant who knew nothing about cars. My father was a diesel mechanic that taught his daughters how to do their own oil changes and tune-ups. So when the mechanics ask my husband what seems to be wrong with the car, he tells them "I don't know, you'll have to ask her."
I paid cash for our last vehicle. The company listed my husband as the owner on the sales contract. They typed up the contract for our trade in and put bother our names. The sales manager was really pissed when she had to redo it because I was the sole owner.
All of our vehicles we have in me and/or wife...because if something were to happen, it is something that doesn't have to be put through probate.
Load More Replies..."If you want to waste your own time and hers, by all means, call her. She will only tell you to call me instead, and I'm right here. I'll be waiting over there while you waste time and money, OK?"
like dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, dad's here, OOH LET'S CALL MOM!
Dad works late, gunning for the big promotion: “What a great provider!” Dad leaves early to pick up sick kids from daycare: “What a great dad! So wholesome.” Mom stays late, guns for the big promotion: “How can she neglect her kids like that?” Mom leaves early to pick up sick kids: “Figures, she was never really committed to the job.”
Depends on the job. Sounds like a toxic environment, and not at all like most places that employ humans.
This attitude doesn't just come from people at the workplace; it's also from people who hear about it.
Load More Replies...This is very common. It's a stigma attached to gender roles. As a mom you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. I accepted that a long time ago and do not care what ppl think. I owe no one any apologies for taking care of my kids or my job.
There are jobs where men are chastised for leaving early for their children's activities. Thankfully, I have always been allowed to leave, but I have known men that had been written up for leaving to attend a dr appointment or school activity.
Guys at my job make fun of anyone who actually uses paternity leave.
Load More Replies...these stereotypes may be alive and well in some places. but not all. The truth is the traditional roles are entrenched and not everyone is on board with the big changes..
Domestic work is invisible work, you kind of take it for granted :P
I've heard "Do you have to leave to pick up your kid. Can't your wife do that?" said to or about dads who leave early to pick up sick kids.
Women get so much sh*t for being “too choosy” with men and “not giving them a chance” and in general get called uppity, picky snobs because they won’t go out with certain guys. But when those same women are victims of date rape/violence/murder, they get blamed and people say that they should have been more careful
Women should be choosy, especially if you want children. Childrearing is a long, expensive and trying time. Having a reliable partner that will stay with you when times are hard is invaluable. It literally used to mean the difference between death and survival.
How about women should be choosy because they have a right to be, and aren't obligated to reciprocate a man's advances for any reason?
Load More Replies...The people saying this are the types who call themselves 'incels' ie bitter, resentful and entitled individuals who view women as objects to whom they are entitled to use. Age has a LOT to do with this. When you're young you are, literally, inexperienced in the ways of the world and have to be extremely careful. For both physical and mental safety and of course that you must think about whether, even by accident, you would be willing to have this guy's children. Sure does make you fussy! But, when you're older and know people better and are beyond the risk of pregnancy you might feel able to take a chance but honestly it feels less risky when you are older, wiser and better able to read people and their intentions..
Yes!! The bulls**t radar is well-tuned by middle age...
Load More Replies...Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis. Every single man I have ever known - EVERY SINGLE ONE - has told me things like men only want one thing, yes ALL men; he's only being nice because he wants to get in your pants; guys are only interested in one thing; don't get drunk at parties; don't walk alone in the dark; etc. etc. etc. But then they'll turn around and say "not all men." Some dude actually told me I was no better than a racist because I was wary of strange men in certain circumstances. F*cking pick one and stick with it, dudes. Tired of the lectures. Slap a vagina on and walk around for a few hours, maybe you'll finally get what we're talking about.
men may give women s**t for being too choosy but they are usually the losers or the not wanted.. I doubt women get blamed for being raped and murdered always... We cant know a man until we are with him a long while and going out on a date is potentially risky but where would we be if we didnt have some kind of faith?? Women who drink too much and invite a potential stranger back to their house are being foolish but I am afraid it happens...By the way most rapes and murders are done by those known to the victim and often in the family..
It’s also public appearance, it a man or woman (applies to both) want to have a good looking person to have a relationship it is usually because of peer pressure or how people things of you. If you actually love them you shouldn’t care.
woman who are raped have been told that what they are wearing was why they were raped. i know because my friend got raped and she has anxiety attacks just deciding what to wear. this part of society grosses me out.
I completely disagree with this post. I think it's been misunderstood. They are literally telling women to consider qualities OTHER than looks and money. That is what they mean. Date a guy who is kind, smart and considerate. Qualities most rapist/violent/murderers don't have. It's not about being LESS PICKY, but picking the right qualities.
Or the same men calling them 'too choosy' are the same men calling her disgusting for an extra 5 lbs, or otherwise not fitting some weird idea of perfection in their head.
I'm a trans guy, and people listen to me as male way more than they did as female
I read the opposite of this quite a lot from trans women, who go from being listened to, to being ignored.
I saw a short video on social media once where a group of trans people discussed the difference in treatment of men and women, as they had experienced both. I have tried to find it again but have only find similar videos.
Not at all surprising. I have a FB account with my first name/last name and an alt FB account with my initials/last name. For some reason, people assume the latter is a man's account and my comments are treated with much greater respect there.
Single mothers are seen as a red flag and are blamed for choosing a deadbeat as their child’s father. But single fathers are considered a great catch and are praised for 'stepping up.
This must be a new thing. Single mothers have always existed in greater numbers and in the town I was raised in it's always been a big thing. But whilst single mothers would always be able to find a partner, if they wanted to, single fathers were usually avoided. Most women, back in the day, didn't want to bring up someone else's kids. Harsh but true..
As someone who knows a few single dad's, given today's society usually giving all right to the mom during separations, the dad has to really care about the child and the mom has to really be terrible in order for this scenario to occur, so yes, in "general" this is true. Don't get me wrong though, this is only talking about the single dad part, not the "blaming women for their choices". Although I do feel in today's society, people have kids before they really know their partners, or just don't put any thought into it until it's too late.
And it's always assumed that the mother must be human garbage or else she would have full custody
Women, oftentimes, prefer men who have shown that they are independent and responsible. Men, oftentimes, prefer a women who is younger and has less attachments. Of course their are exceptions, and some may disagree, but I feel there is more than a little truth for this statement.
Had this happen with a professor of mine. Problem is, she was a single mother by choice. She didn't want to be married to a man in order to have a child, so she adopted. Why is a woman having a family and a career impossible to fathom?
Undoubtedly it takes more principle for a typical man, while women generally have the greater instinct to nurture. Unfortunately, this instinct is often misdirected to grown men who acts like children
Female domestic violence victims get lots of support, while male victims get laughed at.
This is one reason why I do not support white ribbon day. It should not be violence against women and children but violence against anyone. There are absolutely F**K all domestic violence services for men, especially shelters. It infuriates me so much, especially since a lot of homeless men are victims of domestic violence.
True. It's the whole, "Ha ha, you got beat up by a girl," thing. It's sickening.
Yes, this is truly awful. Women certainly do need all the support and more but - and i don't mean offence by this - the inability to believe a woman is able to physically and mentally abuse a man is actually sexist against women. I know, controversial but let me explain. Women are considered so weak and inconsequential that she is 'incapable' of hurting someone. It's certainly not true, nor has it ever been but this is another toxic legacy of sexism, one that hurts men too..
Women fought for many years to develop supports for themselves and there’re children. It is men who treat men differently. Men can work together to develop supports also. They just have to care enough about each other to get the support in place ... women’s services would absolutely assist them with information, contacts and resources. Do can happen to anyone. Please do not blame women for organising their own support.
Oh wow, that's intense. Good for your mum for getting out of there! Stay strong you two.
Load More Replies...So true, I was with a friend who was raped at a rape counselor place and when a guy came in everyone pointed and started laughing. NOT
Johnny Depp. If Amanda Heard were a male, she would have been canceled in a second.
Women rarely get complimented for the things men get complimented for: assertiveness, accomplishments, or basically any intentional act. While men rarely get complimented for the things that women get complimented for: their appearance or personality characteristics that make others feel good.
Maybe we should just compliment each other more often, particularly for the things that make life more joyful yet are routine.
I say "Thank you" for seemingly small things. Positive reinforcement. I mentioned it to a happily-married colleague. She does the same thing.
Load More Replies...Yeah, If I have typical "masculine" traits I'm automatically labeled a b*tch :P
You know funny... I USED to compliment males for those things (appearance, personality traits, etc.)... and then they **AALL AVOIDED ME** or started being **REALLY MEAN**... because they thought I was hitting on them... and I was not the 'hot girl'. (before you say anything... yeah - they pretty much told me that right to my face.)
In movies woman are knows for their beauty or their looks (how skinny, etc) all of their time and in many tv shows also, and don’t show how amazing thay really are like how strong beans are and great things beans do
i don't like it when people are like "she's so smart" when a man is doing the exact same thing... its like saying "she's so smart... for a woman."
I actually go out of my way to compliment men on their style, haircut, shoes. I try not to talk about physical attributes as that is just a chance of nature.
People who dress their babies in colors not typically assigned to their gender often experience that babies dressed in blue, brown or green are seen as strong, big, tough, eager, while babies dressed in pink or yellow are seen as cute, petite, nice, complaisant. Babies in "male" colors who cry are told "it's not so bad, go back to play", while babies in "female" colors are rushed to, and told "let me kiss the pain away, take it easy, rest a bit".
As a girl, I compliment my male friends on this stuff all the time! They all look amazing, and they make my day whenever I talk to them. I love to tell them this and see them smile...especially my bf. He's so pretty and such a lovely guy! Normalize complimenting men! Or anyone in general! Everyone wants a lil bit of love <3
that is a sweeping statement. In my world men are complimented on their appearance especially if they make the effort and on their personalities. Women are recognised for their accomplishments and for being assertive...
Mens nips arent censored but for some reason women's nips are.
True! (And bring that apostrophe over to “aren’t, from above, please!) 😉
idk why but it makes me uncomfortable when ANYONE isnt wearing a shirt. i know it's stupid and i seem weird, but not everyone wants to see you unclothed. im sorry i know its dumb
I agree. It's always 'men can go out shirtless so women should also be able to'. How about nobody goes out shirtless if it's not needed?
Load More Replies...They should start censoring women's nipples with pictures of men's nipples
It’s absolutely ridiculous. We all have nipples, so just get over it.
Since mens nipples are basically just there for sexual pleasure, they should be censored too if we're going that route A woman's are both for pleasure and feeding babies.
It comes down to being sexualised. men don't give a f**k about having their nipples out and that has made it into something very unsexual... on the other hand, very few women would go bare breasted and not have a problem with it. That has made breast be overly sexualised by both women and men and now seem like private parts.
We don't go topless because we would be arrested, lol. If I could go swimming without having to worry about my useless bikini top slipping and revealing some nip, I would be so happy.
Load More Replies...who cares about nipples! I don't want to see them other than on the beach anyway. So much problems in the world and some people think biggest problem is that we can't see nipples on women. Who cares? Why would you even want to see anyone's nipples on the street or wherever?
okay say, a trans woman used to go shirtless, then she transitions and now she's expected to cover them up even though it's the same thing! Double standard y'all.
When a woman cries, it's viewed as normal.
When a man cries, he's told to man up.
I actually like it when a man cries and I don’t mean that I get some sick gratification from the pain of others. I mean I just like it coz it means they are comfortable within themselves to show their emotions.
ha--i,m a metal head into horror/the occult (and kittens)--i damned well tear up at everything i watch on tv.
Load More Replies...This should be higher, because it can cause so much trouble to men´s mental health! My husband needs therapy because all that tears he hadn´t cry... When it is too much for him he has panic attack when he could just cry it off... but we´re making progress. In his 30s he is learning to cope with emotions just because he had´t learnt it when he was kid, because "men don´t cry". what a f****d up world.
I get uncomfortable when anyone cries, but I know that's my issue. LOL.
If I feel like crying, I'll cry. Anybody who has a problem with that can kiss my ass.
When a woman cries, she's often seen as hysteric, over-sensitive, childish. She's not told to "man up", sure, but people often say "Typical of a woman, to bring out the water-works to get her way".
I fully encourage the men in my life to open up. I have had my oldest son start crying for no reason I could tell, talked to him, he was just having a depressed day and felt down. I held him while he cried and we talked about it. It should never be normal to tell people to not express their emotions.
Clothes from the women’s section fall apart after six months.
Meanwhile I have a 15-year-old shirt from the men’s section that I still wear.
Nah. they usually don't cost that much. Perhaps because the manufacturers know the ladies wouldn't keep it for long hence they scrimped on the quality and durability to make the price competitive. Most women shoes can't stand up to most men's shoe in terms of build-quality
Load More Replies...to be honest, I buy most clothes from the men's. bigger pockets, and, especially as a younger kid, they had t-shirts more 'me'. I never liked unicorns or princesses, I preferred gaming and skating. All that kinda stuff was in the boys section. so that's where I went.
I don't find that the case at all. My clothes last as long as my husband's. I've worked in charity shops though and, going by the donations, women do replace their's a lot more often.
I have a pair of sweatpants that are 17 years old now, still last. I don't think any womens clothing get that mileage
I've still got clothes from when I was in high school (I'm 33). Granted, some of them have needed fixing like a zipper replacement or I've had to sew up a ripped seam, but women's clothing can last a long time too.
Load More Replies...But why is there 6 times the amount of women and girls clothing area in shops than there is for men and boys?
And again, just abandon the fast fashion for goddess sake. The production expenses of such garments are less then 1/3 of the final cost, the quality is cheap, and the materials are gross (polyester for the most part). It seems like the expensive choice to buy linen/cotton/woollen clothes but it will last for years even decades if you care for it, and thus will cost less money on the long run. Moreover you will help the environment by not buying plastic clothes every 6 months.
Depends on the maker, I guess. I have 20 year old pants from NY & Co. I have a 30 year old kimono robe from Victoria's Secret. Both still look great.
Been wearing men's clothing for quite a while now. They last longer, are more comfortable, and have pockets.
If a girl is 21 and a virgin she's considered pure. If a guy is 21 and a virgin he's a loser.
Yeah, as a teenager I wondered how that was supposed to work. In order to get the best ratio of "cool guys" and "pure girls" that would mean all guys would have to have lots of sex with a single girl? Would that be the "mega-slut" or would she be considered as providing a service to society (making the dudes cool and keeping the other girls "pure")? Idk.
No, the guys have sex with that hot teacher mentioned in other posts! Easy!
Load More Replies...Sex doesn't make you cool, it's something you should only do when/if you feel like doing it.
in some cultures perhaps but being a female virgin at 21 would raise some eyebrows in some quarters these days.. Religious views can account for being a virgin at that age for both...
i hated those idiots who push you to have sex or drink when you are a teenager, believing that made them "machos"...
Like I said on another point; if men should have a lot of sex, and women no sex at all, are the men only having sex with each other?
Men who don't smile: Thinking, serious, determined. Women who don't smile: B****y and uninteresting. I've never heard of a man getting asked why they didn't smile for something.
This one really gets me. I get told to smile all the time. I'm not a naturally smiley person. I'm not even a naturally happy person - I'll smile when I darn well feel like it. I once got told on the metro that I'd look prettier if I smiled. My dad was in hospital and we didn't know if he would survive, and this absolute womble tells me to smile. His defence : "how was I supposed to know?". So I told him, "you don't, that's why you keep your trap shut."
hope your dad's good, and DAMN that was a nice comeback
Load More Replies...Unless you are a black male, then you are considered threatening if you do not smile. https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/tv/2020/09/11/hulu-woke-star-lamorne-morris-on-shows-truth-racist-experiences/5756314002/
I don't smile. once I was asked if I was ok, because I looked sad. Just because I'm not smiling doesn't mean I'm not okay.
When I worked in fast-food, I was told to smile more all the time, but I just look strained, artificial if I try to smile. I put a "smile" in my voice when I welcomed people instead.
When a woman is direct to employees at work she is a b***h. When a man is direct to his employees he’s a leader.
Sorry, from my personal experience I disagree with this one, There's being a leader then there's being an A-hole. there is a fine line between being direct and being an A-hole. Doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman.
in my day a woman was a ball breaker and seen as aggressive whilst men were assertive and go getters.. It has been more experience sadly that women bosses are the worst and men much more democratic. No petty bitching and back biting that women indulge in more...
Nah. I'm a guy thats had plenty of female bosses throughout my career and it's been fine. Are there power tripping female bosses? Sure, but being female and boss doesn't = bitch.
Not always, I have a female manager, she is very direct, one of the most blunt people I have ever met and a great manager, she takes no crap but treats everyone fairly and as a human.
I hear the men are considered d***s and assholes when leading. So, equal. Buy there is a difference between leading and knowing what you want and being a bossy bitch or ass.
I disagree with that, both the woman and man who is 'direct with employees' is a twat in my opinion.
Men: I'm a 34in waist and size M shirt in EVERY. SINGLE. STORE. Women: Sizes are called different things in each country, and the naming convention bears no relationship to the actual size (what is the 6 in size 6 supposed to signify?)
I call BS. I'm a 34 to 38 in one sizing method and 44 to 46 in another. Depending on the year, shop etc. I have rarely been the same size. Even better was when I bought a pair of trousers in H&M, next year I had put on 5 kilos so I went for another pair of the same jeans, I fit perfectly into the same size. I now never bother looking at sizes, I just take a handful of trousers into the changing room and try them on till one fits. Even once with some Bear Grylls trousers, they were marketed as 104cm (perfect for me) when they arrived, they didn't fit. I measured them.. 98cms. This an industry problem more than women/men one.
manufacturer defects are one thing...women's sizes are an actual joke...a size 6 will literally be completely different from store to store. At least measuring in inches/cm gives you a general idea to go on.
Load More Replies...At the moment I live in the middle of nowhere. It is either mail order or a long drive. Clothes sizes are a joke. Purchased several tops from the same company, some are too tight, some too big. Not a problem when in a store. Before they went out of business, I purchased everything but pants from one store. I would place orders with multiple sizes, then return 3/4 of the order. Final sale items are always a problem.
I literally can't find clothes that fit me anymore. I'm 160cm tall and weigh 56g. But clothing manufacturers based the size "medium" on the average size of their customers. Since obesity is so widespread, there's nothing small enough to fit me. It's beyond annoying, especially when I've bought half a dozen sets of "small" panties, none of which fit me, and I can't return them.
I would really love to just size clothing according to the actual size of my waist, hips, etc. I know I'm heavy. Making the size number smaller doesn't change that fact.
A bad dad can lose custody but many times a bad mom won't.
Hear hear, just because you are a mum doesn’t mean you are a good one. It should ALWAYS be what is in the best interests of the child, NOT what society expects or is used to etc.
That's why I think that if a child is old enough (I'm not talking about three year olds,) they should be able to choose which parent to live with. They've seen what happens at home, and can probably choose the better parent. Or the judges should at least take it into serious consideration.
Load More Replies...I know someone who stayed with his wife until his daughter went to college because during the initial divorce proceedings the judge was going to give primary custody to his wife because she was female and he is male. Despite him earning 6 figures, well educated, and she had never been able to hold down a job for more than 5 months, had been arrested 5 times for DWI and DUI, license suspended, arrested for drug possession, and much more. He stayed with her for 7 years till his daughter turned 18, went to college, just to protect her from the mother. This is the problem in the system, and this story was just 9 years ago.
Waaay back it was impossible for a woman to take her children away from the man of the house. Then the opposite became the norm. We can't pigeonhole people as being fit/unfit due to their sex. It's supposed to be whatever is in the best interests of the child, often it really isn't..
You have to be an absolutely abysmal mom before they even consider taking away custody and giving it to the father. The family law system(in the US) squarely favors the woman. You can be better off financially, live in a better area, and can provide more, and still, they'd rather give the mother custody and slap you with child support and visitation rights.
I think in general that is the same here in the uk, I'd like to say it's getting better but when I sit holding my hubby while he crys because he can't see his children, all the while his ex is constantly posting on fb about her amazing social life and drinking habits and the youngest child at 9 is letting himself into an empty house and cooking his own dinner, I find it hard to believe it's getting better!! He's an amazing stepdad to my children, holds down a fulltime job would do anything for anyone and lay down his life for his children yet it was deemed in the best interests for them to stay with their mother! (Ps; I have reported her to social services so many times re her behaviour and nothing changes!!) If she doesnt want to parent and wants to go out all the time then fair enough, let the kids father parent...but then of course she wouldn't be able to afford the lifestyle she has (that's all her kids are to her...money, as soon as they turn 18 they are out on their own. This has happened to both of the older children) ....sorry a bit ranty but it makes me SO mad!
Load More Replies...Read the book a child called it it is a perfect example to this,
Wrong. Depends on the laws of the state and the judge. My ex was abusive, but had an expensive attorney with well trained expert witnesses. I almost lost custody -- a stay at home mom, who spent hours volunteering at his school.
It goes both ways. A very bad dad, who's beaten up the mom in the presence of the children, can sometimes keep custody, and a mom, who tries to keep her kids from an abusive dad, can lose custody for "not cooperating". The best interest of the child ought to be the deciding factor in all cases.
this I am afraid is true.. It takes some doing to give custody to the father rather than the mother even with damning evidence against the mother... .I have witnessed it..
yup....I have a friend who is a dad....he had a bout of depression and social thoughts...now the ex won't let him see the kids out of this fear of him doing something to himself or the kids (fair enough) he is now well....she still won't let him. Me I went to the hospital for postnatal depression, suicidal, had no connection to my baby.........she was with me ENTIRE TIME while I got well. Not once was it...we must never let her see the kid again.
Could not fathom having to give up their family name at marriage, but pressures his wife to do it without a second thought.
It used to be that the woman passed from being the property of her father to that of her husband. That is where the taking of the name came from. As a side note, my brother took the name of his 1st wife and when they divorced and he re-married he still used that name and my new SiL uses it as well.
In Scotland the family name used to (hundreds of years ago) go down the mother's line so that lineage was assured. The idea of the family taking the man's name is literally the only sign/assurance that he has fathered his wife's children. In THIS respect I am okay with it, but it should never be expected/forced..
When friends of mine got married, he took her name. He was estranged from his dysfunctional family, and felt more kinship with her family. So he took her name.
Belgian here, I don't know any woman in my personal or professional circle who uses her husbands surname. I would have found it very bizarre if my wife would have changed her surname to mine, she didn't become someone else or my property the day we married.
My family has a hyphenated last name. It's super unwieldy but it makes the most sense.
My husband didn't care when I kept my former name, but boy did I get s**t from the families!!!
Yeah, I kept my maiden name. He didn't give two shits about it.
Single father's taking their kids to the park and watching them play while they get stares from every other parent or ppl passing by.
Your need to keep commenting on apostrophes is giving me a twitch.
Load More Replies...As a single dad I confirm this totally. But hey, it's only a park. Imagine the sh*t I usually get in while at the beach with my two 6yo daughters.
I am afraid I do the same. We are just so aware now of paedophilia.. Sad world..
When men come out and accuse priests or other old men who abused them they aren't interrogated as to why they didn't say it sooner. With the 'Me Too' movement backlash, we see that women are dismissed and not believed when they talk about their abuse years later.
Women are dismissed constantly and accused of trying to get on the gravy train of claiming compensation. This is even when the complaint was made at the time and disbelieved. I'm always shocked at women being complicit in this nonsense, I feel like they've been conditioned into believing it by those with a vested interest ie the perpetrators..
the men were intimidated, even threatened the same way as women are.. They also feel a sense of shame and that they would not be believed or any action taken against the perpetrator which is largely true especially with the institutions....... They may bury the memories but they resurface and they want it out in the open as adults..Even if the perpetrators are now dead...
They keep talking about it. It's not that it was "years later" it's that no one wanted to hear it at the time.
People need to understand how trauma works. Many victims need time to process what actually happen. Many seal that memory to protect themself from mentally decaying. Thats all way more difficult than people imagine.
A large portion of the women were accusing wealthy and well-known people in Hollywood. People with money. That gives them a lot of reasons to lie, sadly. Most of the men who abused boys were not wealthy or well-known. None of the abused could say, write a book of their ordeal and sell the books/interviews off the scandal. **I'm making no judgement to the merits of any of their claims**
It's because they are wealthy powerful men that they were able to get away with it for so long!
Load More Replies...Straight girls can hold hands, lock fingers, cuddle, shower, and kiss each other. Two guys can’t even make eye contact without being gay-shamed.
Oh. I guess I'm gay as hell. Not that I didnt know that but still...
Yeah, platonic friends, no matter the gender shouldn't be afraid to show physical affection. Cuddling isn't about sex, it's about comfort and support.
The US puritan attitude towards basic touch and affection is super weird. We are a social species. We need physical touch. Not just sexual touch.
Not strictly true or perhaps culture specific. Men hold hands in the Middle East and kissing other men on the cheek (it sort of needs to be accompanied by a bear hug) is a thing in Eastern Europe for example.
Really? Girls kissing and hugging in a shower would give me pause. lol!!!. As for the eye contact thing. that is ridiculous. Men are much more homophobic anyway.. IN fact two girls kissing and cuddling would turn them on...
If someone I was dating said I love you to their mates I would care a bit. Go hug your friends idc you care about them
When a guy gets with a bunch of chicks, he’s a “stud”. When a girl gets with a bunch of guys, she’s a “sl*t”.
There should be a common word for both men and women and it should mean "it's their life, none of my business"
Coz stud is used as a compliment in a positive sense, where as slut is a derogatory term, that's the reason.
Load More Replies...My mother uses the word "scow" for both genders for what she deems promiscuous behavior. English isn't her first or only language, but she means "garbage scow". So.... Maybe let's all use my mom's word? "What a scow?"
If anyone were to call someone a 'stud' unironically, they no longer have my respect.
men who play around are called players and pants men. women I am afraid are called sluts and whores. They are the ones that produce and largely raise the children and have to be more careful and responsible. Men want to know the child they are raising is theirs so essentially that is the cause of the dicotomy.....
Being over looked for a role (between 20-35) because I might become pregnant.
The one solution to this is for men and women to have the same amount of maternity leave and the same legal minimum time off. In Spain this year both men and women will get 4 month maternity/paternity leave. Now they need to add, for example, that both must leaglly take a minimum of 3 months each. Once this happens, the risk to the employer is the same for either sex so no preferences.
In Sweden, fathers and mothers have 3 earmarked months each (and fathers have an extra ten days after the birth, to spend with the mother and the newborn). The rest of the 16 months, the parents can split as they want. On paper, men have more parental leave here than women, but most of the rest of the months are usually taken by the mother, so women have more in practice. Women's leave are usually planned; they take some leave before the birth, to slow down and prepare, sometimes they need bed-rest before, to not give birth prematurely. Men disappear from one day to the next (for their ten-day-leave), as the birth happens when it happens.
A lot of women do a lot of stuff (stunts for example) while being pregnant, what gives?
I work in a woman dominated field (library) and a good portion of my coworkers are self-proclaimed feminists. They constantly complain about "The Patriarchy" while being hateful, sexist group of humans towards the men in the building.
Also working in a library that is part of a large university: It‘s not quite as bad here, but one thing that drives me nuts: Our university has an 'equality' department. Yet, they only tend to women: They hold women-only university-wide meetings, they send emails to women about holiday camps for their children, they have a campaign against sexual abuse with a confidential email address - put only in women‘s bathrooms. So male workers have no children? Male workers/students face no abuse? I truly hate it from my guts. Pointed that injustice out to one of their members once. She told me women have it worse and that men don’t need anyone lobbying for them.
Well to be fair, the gender equality is specifically an issue because women have lower chances\pay not the other way round. So it makes sense to address it that way round
Load More Replies...I have worked in different 'mixes' of work environment. Male dom, Female dom and mixed. Men and women can both be assholes in their dominant environment, although most people aren't, it's a select few who feel liberated. The best is the 'mixed' where, for various reasons, everyone is on their best behaviour..
I was appaled when I heard ny SIL say she wasn't a feminist. I later wondered if she meant she wasn't anti-man and did not fully get the concept of feminism. I should have said "You wear pants, have a job, chose when you married and to whom, can vote, can drive, don't do all the household tasks...you sure you're not a feminist?"
What these people can't seem to grasp is that a feminist isn't just about females. It means you think everyone is equal, men, women, LGBTQ, black, white, anyone, it's not just females trying to become the superior gender.
And so men have a dramatically higher suicide rate than women. Their traditionally higher pay is largely a product of their responsibility to provide for the family, which is still reflected in divorce courts today.
Feminists are some of the biggest hypocrites I've come across. I once accidentally said "look at the state of her" to a friend when a women walked past and got a half hour lecture from a group of "feminists" about how a woman can dress, walk, talk, and act however they want and they don't need a man like me to approve. The fact that I was referring to the fact the women's clothes looked like an explosion in a neon paint factory(they actually hurt the eyes to look at they were so bright) didn't matter to these women so I walked away, ten minutes later I had to walk past them so I was careful to avoid them seeing me because I wanted to avoid another lecture but as I past I heard one of them say to the group "look at that s**t over there, she should be ashamed to dress like that but she probably enjoys the attention" I openly laughed and they didn't even bat an eye or look ashamed when they realised I heard them.
Expecting women to keep up a constant and rigorous beauty routine while men are doing very little to maintain their own attractiveness.
I am a teenage girl, and I don’t even care about makeup. I spent about 5 minutes doing my hair, and pick out cute outfits for school. People tell me I should do more to please the guys. Meanwhile my brother combs his hair and is told he’s trying to hard.
I am probably “worse” (in societies standards) than that. I just put my hair into a messy ponytail, don’t wear make up, and just put on whatever clothes...which are pretty much all sports clothes...
Load More Replies...Amen! Every day after school I have to to walk through a group of 8th grade guys to get my locker. I’m pretty sure they’ve never used deodorant
Load More Replies...I call shenanigans on this. If a woman says she feels fat, her friends rally to her side, telling her how beautiful she is. I literally asked my male friend if I am fat, and he said, "I know 5 fat guys, and you are four of them." That's the real double standard here.
Yes! Why do women need to have a shampoo, conditioner, body wash, face wash, body exfoliating bar, face exfoliating bar, body cream, face cream, hand cream, and every other bar and cream, but yet men can have a single bottle that does literally EVERYTHING!
You don't HAVE to. Usually women want to and buy all this s**t. I am a woman, and I have one soap I use for everything : face, body, hair, bathing my dogs, and I even washed dishes with it when camping :P Don't want ton of s**t - don't buy ton of s**t.
Load More Replies...Is it men's fault that women made scruffy beards and bed-head something attractive?
Women can't be topless in the heat like men.
In some states women can be topless. Most choose not to. I agree that the law should be equal for everyone. Free the nipple.
So many women are embarrassed by their breasts because they're "different". But that is only because they aren't normalized like mens bodies are. You see all different shapes and sizes on man (and hairy nipples mind you) while the female breasts shown to the public tends to only look a certain way. I am angry at myself for being insecure about my body when I see so many men walking around looking like they do without giving a f*ck. I wish I had the same confidence.
I get the feeling of being angry with yourself for being insecure too.
Load More Replies...This is more about women being uncomfortable with it since even where I'm from, it isn't illegal for a women to be topless, but they would never. And this comes from a country that has been desensitised from boobs being sexual all the time. Google: UMHLANGA ESWATINI
We might need to somehow lower the sexualization of topless women? I don't see any car accidents happening when there's topless men running at rush hour from being distracted. Some women will still need a sports bra anyways for the support, but I still get honked at taking a walk by the main road in a crop-top, so this doesn't make me so sure it would happen in the near future.
Well, if you have to choose between going topless or being sexually harassed most people probably go with the first. Even though covering up doesnt help much either... Thats a thing I like about the german FKK (Free Body Culture). The body is considered just what it is. breast are no different than legs or anything else. Nothing gets sexualized its just that. Your body.
Woman choose not to because it is a social norm for women to have tops on
Given the sun exposure I'd get where I live... I'd still wear a top. But can we get over the whole 'must wear bra" thing for women? In warm-hot climates, as where I live, it's sheer torture. but if you don't wear one, you're "asking for it".
In popular media, we often see certain portrayals of characters that reinforce gender double standards. Consider how animated figures have been given 'baby face' aesthetics to appeal to certain audiences.
This concept ties into broader societal representations, as explored in the discussion on child-like features in animated characters, highlighting how seemingly innocent designs can perpetuate unrealistic standards.
Nobody defines a womans sexuality from whether she's wearing pants or a dress. But when a man wears a dress everybody wants to make assumptions.
Well. Women fought for being allowed to wear trousers. Perhaps it’s time for men to fight for acceptance wearing dresses/skirts.
But they DO judge if I only wear pants, why? Pants are practical and have pockets (:
Some men look better in dresses than some women. I say, wear what you want and don't care what everyone thinks.
Kanye West was 'told' by others in the genre that he was 'distroying hiphop' for wearing a skirt. (that one person is a damn idiot, so I wouldn't pay that much attentiong) and joked about all over. I'm not much of a fan of his, but damn, he looked good in that thing! Also, if you dress like a Goth, you can wear whatever you want. People assume about them anyway, so they can comfortably wear what they like.
this is one of the first things I thought of. When a girl wears traditionally masculine clothes, she's called a tomboy. but when it's reversed, he's called gay.
guys can wear dresses if they wanna... i told my brother if he wanted to wear a dress he could borrow one of mine... he refused but still i asked
For obvious reasons (men overheat down there), I'd love for men to be able to wear skirts without being judged.
Is it bad to say that I haven’t found a skirt for a man that was really attractive to me? I think men should wear what they want but do I have to be obligated to find that cute? I’m asexual so it’s kinda weird for me to find anything attractive.
Men point out every woman driver doing something wrong. Ignore all of the male drivers doing something wrong.
anyone who use his phone while driving is an asshole regardless of the genre
I'm sorry but I laughed so much XD. I know you meant gender but I just imagined a sci-fi character using their phone while driving T.T
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my mom don't care. if someone's being a crappy driver, she'll point them out
Or if someone is driving slow they suspect the person is either old or a woman.
I think this is ironic seeing as most car accidents involve men.
The UK Office Of Statics confirmed that this is a misrepresentation. The fact is more men made insurance claims following car crashes. They stated that married women tended to be named drivers on their husbands insurance because it was cheaper (I know, a whole other issue right there), so that the claim was made under the mans name. The statistics provided by the Police showed that around 39% of accidents were a result of a woman's actions, 41% a man's, 13% unavoidable causes (Such as sudden natural causes) and 7% undetermined cause. Not really a lot in it. On the bright side casualties from road accidents have been declining steadily for the last decade.
Load More Replies...The body Positivity movement. Fat women are "strong, independent, beautiful" and fat men are just fat men. Either have both, or nothing.
Aesthetics are unimportant and the body image issues forced on our daughters are toxic. However, health should be a priority, the only priority. If you're in your healthy weight range - you're not fat. If you're over it, lose weight. Likewise if you're UNDER it you need to gain some too..
Fat men have been and still are acceptable as a body form, fat women have not been and are not now acceptable in most of the world. In fact, fat male bodies are more then acceptable, they are welcomed. It isn't about rejecting fat men it is about making room for women too.
well to be honest, female looks are under way more scrutiny than male's. There isn't a single part of our body which hasn't been presented to us in some perfect, ideal form, which most of us don't have - from feet, hands, eyes, nose, hair, knees to the obvious parts such as boobs and bum. Not to mention the constant pressure to look young, not to be too thin or too fat.. You can't compare the amount of pressure and prejudice women face because of their looks compared to men.
No thanks, visible veins and muscle definition do nothing for me. In fact, prominent veins give me the boak.
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Bisexual women are sexualized.
Bisexual men are shunned.
I once went on a date with a guy and he showed up with his WIFE expecting a threesome just because I'm bi...
I was once told by a women I was dating that she doesnt want to continue dating because I'm a bi guy that's been dating other men and that makes me way less masculine and she didnt want a weakling.
Bisexual women only want attention from guys. Bisexual men are gay. These are the assumptions I have met in society. I doubted my own bisexuality and thought there was something wrong with me. It got much better once I finished school. Nobody gets to tell you what you are and not, only you know that deep in yourself. Peace and love to my people in the Pride community ❤
Nobody looks twice at an overweight guy at the pool with no shirt on but if it were an overweight woman in a bikini everyone thinks its gross.
Also I can't go to the pool topless, what is the difference between my nipples and men's? :I
No matter their skills, men are treated like they know more about any given subject, while women always have to prove their knowledge.
My father, while teaching his daughters how to fix their own cars and take care of repair/yard would never hand me or my sister a power tool without making us read the manual first. While my brothers were given a new power tool and expected to know how it operates immediately with no assistance. Not sure why he did that.
I have seen this a few times. But sometimes people read too much into things. I was accused of doing this exact thing when in fact I actually had a legitimate question because I was interested in what was being said. 'Would you have questioned a man like that?' 'Well yeah, I would, although I probably would have had to ask a few time to make sure he was listening'.
A grown woman with “daddy issues” is laughed at while the man who abandoned her as a young child and was a sh*tty role model has no consequences.
I guess the male equivalent is a guy with 'mommy issues' and they do get laughed at.
Men can look like Bigfoot or a Star Wars Chewbacca and it's okay. If a woman has a tiny bit of hair anywhere other than her head, people will get grossed out.
Why are people looking, so bizarre. I won't lie, armpit hair revealed on girls takes a second, but that is just a moment to adjust to their norm, no different than the mind scramble made when discussing shaving or waxing, waxing is owie.
Very true. In winter I don’t shave but there is no way I could go out with bare legs etc because of the judgement and looks I would get. I am not confident enough.
I actually like the feel of shaved legs in summer but don't care enough to do t in winter. So I have winter-fur and start shedding again when the sun comes out 😁
Load More Replies...Why is it seen as letting yourself go when you stop shaving/putting on makeup/dieting as a woman? Maybe you are closer to yourself and feel more comfortable like that. I would consider doing things to your body that you don't want is letting yourself go or even letting yourself down 🤔
I'm a burly guy and still shave my armpits and pubes as it's simply good hygiene.
Dress codes that only apply to men. I have gone to many restaurants or clubs where men have to wear long trousers, a collared shirt, and sometimes a jacket and tie. Women would wear short dresses, hot pants, or sheer outfits. Someone please explain why these ‘codes’ only apply to men?
im gonna start a petition to let girls wear trousers. I mean, half of them probably wont, but at least they can
Load More Replies...This situation never happened to me and I've never seen this one sided thing, but if its true, it sucks balls. Maybe thats because people think automatically that women will dress "appropriately"?
I don't know about this, I've been rejected service at fancy restaurants when I'm wearing mini-skirts, short shorts, flip-flops and even belly tank tops ._.
I can go out looking like a freshly awakened zombie & won't get any complaints. Women are expected to dress & look like models, even if they're buying produce at the grocery store.
I guess it all comes down to how much you let "them" influence you.
Only men can be priests in the catholic church. It's outdated and prejudice against women.
It is their religion, their choice, don't like it, don't be catholic. In Islam women cannot be Imams, in many other religions they have similar restrictions. Religions have their rules and beliefs and it is very bigoted, narrowminded, an regressive to try and impose your personal beliefs onto others religions. Don't like this about Catholicism, then don't be Catholic.
Sounds kind of like "don't like the current government? Then leave the country!". Very dumb argument. Also you can't choose the things this religion influencea though. For example, my country is supposed to be secular but for some reason governmental funding for child-care and social work goes almost exclusively to curch-institutions (even though there are others). And those do not have to stick to the basic laws of this country. Meaning they can fire social workers for being gay or living in a partnership without being married...
Load More Replies...Most old religions have this in place, i.e. Judaism, Islam, etc. I don't think it's right but it's a set of rules written down, in many cases, thousands of years ago.
I mean this is also coming from a church that harbors pedophiles, push dangerous anti-contraceptives ideology in places with high AIDS and HIV rates, and has been on the wrong side of issues for a long time, not counting the other numerous things they have done.
I know that in Germany there is a theological feminist group that tries to make it possible for women to become priests (or even pope). But I guess thats not going to work out I'm afraid
I know this is something that the leaderships HAS tried to change. But the bulk of the world's catholic population is now in Africa and they tend to be more 'conservative' in their views on religion and on treating women as an equal. they are still, in a lot of places, stuck with Victorian values..
Well apparently (not sure if true or not) the bible says women are not even allowed to speak in church except in prayer and song.
I don’t know about that. Hannah Anderson, a famous theologian writes books about the church. Usually no one speaks during church except for the pastor or speaker
Load More Replies...I call BS on this. I've seen plenty of female catholic priests...they just never get promoted beyond that to bishop or cardinal. You will probably never see a female pope.
One of the frequently cited reasons for this is that "all of Jesus' Apostles were men". Which has been called into question with the discovery of documents suppressed or rejected by the early church suggesting that Jesus also had female disciples who were at the time as active and prominent as the male ones. But hey, it's "tradition"! (Which is a short way of saying, "We aren't sure why we do it, and it doesn't make sense, but we've done it for as long as we can remember and aren't going to change it.")
Making fun of a balding man is perfectly acceptable form of jest or rejection. Making fun of any physical deficiency or rejecting a woman based on looks is cruel and vilified.
Mothers who work shouldn’t have had kids if they wanted someone else to raise their kids. Fathers who work are just working for their family’s future.
When my husband does his own laundry, people are confused and ask why. Why should I need to do a grown man’s laundry when we both work full-time? Yet, my husband has never been asked about not doing my laundry.
Why do people know, why is this anyones business, is he complaining, bragging ?
That, and do they actually separate their laundry? It’s their business, of course, but it strikes me as odd :/
Load More Replies...I literally do all of my laundry and ironing and so does my dad who's 70.
When the husband works and the wife stays home with the children, the family is "productive" or "successful", but when the wife works and the husband stays home with the kids, the husband is a dead weight and the wife is being overworked.
My mom goes to work and my dad stays home with us. Kids make fun of my sister for it! It doesn’t matter!
Whoever earns less or is less fussed about their careers should be the home staying home.
Based on the economics at play, women/mothers economic value in terms of work volume on a whole is $160,000/year usad - while men's not hardly at all. To that end, on average, it is fair to say a man not making money (and that is when an average take home pay is ~$30-40,000/year) barely reflects the hidden value of women's work that is never addressed. Don't like it? Address how we devalue all that women do and overlook it.
I afford to send our son to the preschool we wanted him to go to, I took a part time job a couple of nights a week. My family and some others were outraged that I was doing this and not my husband. My husband was much more patient and better at one-on-one than I was plus he and my son really enjoyed "guy time". I say do whatever works for you and f*ck anyone who wants to question what goes on in your home/relationship (as long as it's legal).
The only way I would say this is true is if the wife is still expected to do all the shopping, cooking and cleaning on top of the full time job.
Women are constantly told about the dangers of sex, ridiculed for wanting or having it, and dealing with how difficult it is to get birth control. Meanwhile, men are told nothing about how to be safe and make their partner comfortable, but are given a pat on the back and are showered with condoms.
Again, nope. Let’s take a look inward here, and realize that WE are responsible for raising our sons to respect women and men, (depending on what their preferences will be as they grow up). We’ve raised both our children that consent is the most important thing.
By "raising our sons" did you perchance mean "raising our children"?
Load More Replies...A man who is quiet is stoic. A woman who is quiet is passive/submissive.
Yeah. try that with the quiet woman and see how that works, too. 😉
Load More Replies...I'm quiet and in no way am I submissive. I just don't like to talk to people.
The draft. If you are male, it's widely agreed and politically acceptable to force you to go fight and die for your country. People would be up in arms if women were forced to do this.
Not in Israel where women are drafted into the army and perform frontline duties.
I'm in 2 minds on this subject. I think the military is a great place to learn things and that everyone should do it to learn basic self sufficiency as well as working with others. On the other hand, I don't think you should be able to force anyone to leave their homes to go an fight "for their country".
Some girls think "omg can you be my gay best friend" while actively avoiding lesbians as hard as they can and some guys think "lesbian p*rn is so hot" while hating gay men
In my late teens/early 20's I worked a daily shirt with a lesbian, a gay man and a hippie stoner. (I was the straight-laced nerd of the group.) It was such an interesting dynamic and one of the greatest working team relationships I have ever had. We became great friends and all had each other's backs while having an awesome time!
Uh- I'm not sure what you've seen but for me it feels like bisexual girls actually get accepted the most out of anything. I could be wrong though that's just what I've seen
Load More Replies...Lesbian porn, in theory doesn't exist. It's basically straight porn but with two women making out. Most lesbians that I've known over the years watch gay porn because it's actually proper same sex porn.
If I dress a certain way to attract a guy, I'm a try-hard sl*t. If a guy dresses a certain way to attract a girl, he's stylish and evolved.
Depending on the way he tries to do it, I will probably call the guy a peacock.
If a man isn't married by 30 it's whatever, but if a woman isn't married by 30 then there's something wrong.
Not I'm europe, though there's some stigma. Some of us might not marry at all :)
The wage gap. A former employee decided to only hire men for office positions because they wouldn’t ever get pregnant or need maternity leave either!
The one solution to this is for men and women to have the same amount of maternity leave and the same legal minimum time off. In Spain this year both men and women will get 4 month maternity/paternity leave. Now they need to add, for example, that both must leaglly take a minimum of 3 months each. Once this happens, the risk to the employer is the same for either sex so no preferences.
One of the executive in my old job refuse to hire a very talented chemist just because she was 1 month pregnant, arguing that she will be in maternity leave so she will be out too soon... The next day all men who could, took all their maternity leaves at the same time, and refuse to canceled them until the executive resign and the company hire the chemist...
A woman can be just as creepy, perverse, and uncomfortable as a man. But they’ll never be taken accountable for it.
Gross men don't take accountability for their gossness. Both should be treated as the criminals they are
If you are a woman and can't do house chores, you are useless and don't fit the idea of a woman, if you are a man that can do house chores then you are gay, this isn't a manly job...
As a non binary i agree with this whenever my mom is to yell at me for not doing chores perfectly and saying i don't act like a girl ...well thx mom
Chores are a chore, if you have the $$$ hire someone to do them and use your time to do other stuff ;D
really? i hate chores... maybe i should live alone with all the dogs i'm gonna have
I don't know. I've always been doing house chores, we just split them with my wife (I do the kitchen, bathroom, outdoor stuff and look after cars while she does the rest).
Guys can hang out with whoever they want, though girls can't hang out with just any guy 'cause apparently every guy wants to sleep with us.
Hmm...at a certain age I think that this is probably true though. Teenage boys are a slave to their hormones and would probably sleep with anyone at all. So yes, if you're female and have a pulse they probably do. NB I'm saying this with decades of perspective, I didn't used to think that back then..
I agree. I am female and several of my best friends while I was growing up were male. Even now, one of my best friends is male. I am married, he in not but there is no sexual tension. He is kind of like the younger brother I always wanted but never had.
Load More Replies...Biologically in general, yes that is how it works. Different reproductive strategies in our species based on gender is sort of understood.
Men cannot experiment with the same gender without being considered gay. Meanwhile if girls do it they're just having fun.
In high school it is extremely common for girls to experiment with other girls, and this person is right, no one seems to bat an eye lid. If the roles were reversed though, well that’s a different story.
Dating apps. As a dude I'm expected to send the first message, be unrealistically witty and funny to set myself apart from the hundred other guys currently messaging her, and have a total banger of a profile to have even the slightest chance of getting a match. Meanwhile ladies leave their bios completely empty and expect having the perfect man to be handed to them on a silver platter, no messaging first or nothing.
Bumble actually only allows the woman to initiate the convo. My pickup line to my partner was "so what's for dinner" because he said he likes to cook. Over a year later and we love to cook together.
Just don't message those "ladies" then. Oh, and maybe stop generalizing just because some women rely on their looks to get laid. Everybody has a right not to be interested in somebody. Spoiler alert, dating apps are not vending machines where you put in a message and a vagina falls out.
I cisgender girl can go get a boob job with no issues. But a transgender girl such as myself needs a referral from a psychiatrist to make sure "we don't regret it"
I actually understand why that is done and should stay that way, having a boob job to enhance what you have is completely different to having a boob job to change your gender. There is a difference. In saying that, I believe ALL plastic surgery should be done after a psych consult unless it is for medical reasons.
Yes, it makes more sense to be doing it for gender reassignment. But it is entirely reversible if someone DID regret it..
Load More Replies...My parents won’t even let me bind in case I “regret it”. They don’t understand that I am uncomfortable and I hate my body. Of course I know how to be safe with a binder, but they won’t listen to me. “Wait until you’re fully grown” okay mom, I appreciate that you’re trying to help me, but do you know what it feels like to step out of the shower and look down and then feel like you’re going to throw up?
i'll love and support you!!! also look in your area for youth groups for lgbtqia+ teens/tweens. it can really be helpful and some places can help you buy binders and things to make you feel more comfortable i'n your own skin. i promise that there are so many people who can be here for you and on your side. i'm rooting for you!!! <3
Load More Replies...There have been a few notable cases where a transgendered person wanted to "revert back". Especially when you're talking gender reassignment surgery, I think there needs to be some scrutiny here. Especially with the transgender suicide rates higher than population average, some extra eyes (especially a psychiatrist) would probably be for the best, in my opinion.
I've had really bad endometriosis since I was a teen. When my problem became worse after having my son, I went to a OB/GYN to get a hysterectomy. He refused to give me one saying that he didn't want me to "regret that I wouldn't have kids anymore." First off, I don't need the plumbing to have kids, that's what adoption is for. Secondly, my son was born autistic and I was told that I had a very good chance of having another kid who is autistic...which is why my son was in his teens with no siblings. I think I've thought this through thoroughly. If I were a guy asking for a vasectomy, there would have been no issue.
Woman showing her feelings/crying/getting mad: Healthy person expressing herself Man showing half the feelings: immature manchild
Hmm not sure about this one. When women cry or get mad, there can be an element of "oh look she's hormonal, calm down dear" in my experience 😕 It's not good. Making fun of anyone for showing emotion, regardless of gender, is not ok.
You're dead on. A crying woman is seen as weak as well.
Load More Replies...In my experience, my family always tells me to calm down because I'm being emotional. So this is half right. But that's just in my experience.
Yeah right. Some of these are just selective and untrue. Women are cconstantly scrutinised for their emotions ⁷
There are some positives AND negatives in this. Men are belittled for both crying AND not being able to cry. Women are belittled for crying when they do cry and there are other emotional outbursts that are specifically only allowed if you are a woman. This is usually due to the woman in question being an asshole but it's put down to 'being a woman' or 'hormones' Which is insulting to women and, obviously, a double standard as men would be permitted to act like this..
When a dude walks around without a shirt that's fine but if I wear a cute top where you can see my bra straps and the back of my bra that's somehow inappropriate...
i don't wear my training bras because they always ride up and i hate it, but my mom makes me wear them with some shirts... i don't see the problem if i don't wanna wear them
Women in business that are strict and tough are "crazy b****es" but men in business that are strict and tough are "strong leaders."
When a less-than-perfect man only goes after perfect-super-model women, and then complains that women only care about looks and not personality when the man fails.
" So by that rationale, if a pig had a better personality, he would cease to be a filthy animal. Is that true?"
Load More Replies...When a boy loses his virginity, he's a man; it's a rite of passage. If a girl wants to lose her virginity she'll be "broken" or not "pure."
Making fun of men in comedy movies... every father has half the iq of his wife
Yeah, I feel like on TV, dad is either well-meaning, but a silly idiot, or a "traditional manly man" who doesn't care about the family. Guess what?! Some fathers are just awesome!!! (like mine <3)
Load More Replies...This is such a weird thing, I have also noticed in a lot of sitcoms, and this one showed did it best, one kid has to be a moron, and one a genius or street smart con artist. Very rare now to just be two or three regular kids. I understand humour but one kid from each family are fork in wall socket crazy.
The picture for this is very much the opposite, though. (the only one? Now I'm not sure...)
So many guys complain about paying for stuff, but if a woman is powerful and wealthy enough to take care of herself, she is often believed to be aggressive and pushy.
I have been married for 27+ years but back in my dating days, I always paid for myself or alternated who paid because I never wanted to feel like I "owed" a guy anything. If I gave anything of myself (kisses/cuddles, etc.) it was going to be clear that it was done by choice and free will and I would not be made to feel like I owed him anything for buying me dinner. If they were offended, then we did not need to continue dating.
When women look after their kids it’s just parenting, but when men look after their kids it’s babysitting.
Women objectifying men. It's so normalised in modern society. Women being called sl*ts because they sleep with many guys, but guys are champs. Simply makes no sense to me.
Sex toys are great and healthy for women but disgusting and perverse for men.
A woman can ask my height but I can't ask her weight.
You can ask my weight but it doesn’t mean you will get an answer. Just because someone asks for your height doesn’t mean you have to tell them.
Why can’t you ask for a woman’s height too, instead, if you want to ask the same questions
Rejection for being overweight or under height is just as painful though. You can always lose weight, you can't gain height.
Load More Replies...Yeah but why would you want to ask a woman's (or anyone's) weight unless it somehow comes up in a conversation?
Height can't be affected by anything you choose to do and I'm not sure why it seems such a big thing. Has this happened since online dating became a thing?
Yip, height is apparently super important to women on online dating apps. They will ask your height and if it doesn't meet their standard you are unmatched or blocked. But if you dare say a woman's weight does not meet your standard then you are an abomination.
Load More Replies...When a girl is underweight/malnourished she gets praised for her figure. When a boy is underweight/malnourished he gets fed 2x more than everyone else in order to “get some meat on those bones”
Not in my house! You get fed no matter what you look like-I should let you starve?! 🤣
What time is dinner? I'll get there early as I'm starving! I'm in my monthly 'counting down the last days until payday' stage!
Load More Replies...I disagree! I grew up skinny and it wasn't all sunshine and roses, I was harshly ridiculed all the time for my lack of figure.
I once lost almost 20 pounds in a week because of an infection including lots of vomiting and diarrhea . I looked like a damn zombie but my mom was like "Oh, look at your slim face! You're even more beautiful know!" Well thanks Mom.
Body image that is pushed onto our daughters is terrible, it's unrealistic and it's unhealthy. The range of weight allowed in your BMI is fairly wide so it's possible to be healthy at a heavier weight than magazine covers. As I've discovered over the years men are less worried about this (for women) than women are..
That women can’t take care of themselves or in my family’s case even make some choices without a man.
When I first got married and I told my mom I was going to go something, she would ask "What did HUSBAND say?" I would respond "I didn't ask him. I don't need permission." It would drive her crazy. We have been married over 27 years and she still asks me this sometimes. LOL.
your family sounds horrible, or at least they aren't that flexible in that particular section
Girls who play video games are either ugly or looking for attention, while guys who play video games are cool.
Thing i hate is office attire, as a man im stuck wearing long pants, socks, shoes, long sleeve shirt with a collar, and a tie. Women can get away with a sleeveless dress and open towed shoes then complain the office is too cold so its like 75* or more.
So get yourself a nice dress and open-toed shoes. Sue for discrimination if they reprimand you.
I agree with this actually. In summer, I come to the office in light summer dress and sandals, and men come in suits, so they have to turn AC to be freezing cold, and then I freeze, and started to bring blanked and socks with me to work! Just let them wear summer clothes for God's sake!
Throw on a girdle, an underwire bra and high heeled shoes..then we'll talk about who is uncomfortable....
Lol this is getting down voted. Clearly you weren't a female in school with a dress code.
Socially awkward women being cute but awkard men being creepy.
I've never seen this, but can believe it. I'm socially awkward, but most people say 'get out there, talk to people.' my dad gets it, he was introverted too
I'm a shy, quiet, and awkward introvert. I find awkward guys endearing.
It's extremely rare to hear a woman being described as creepy imo.
Load More Replies...After a meal is done in many households, it is expected that the women need to get up and clean and put away the dishes, after the spent hours preparing the meal, while the men sit and drink.
Lol nope, get your effing plate in the dishwasher or just wash it. If my gf cooks i will do the dishes, if i cook she will do the dishes.
As a guy who always loads the dishwasher (whether I cooked or not), I disagree, although I have seen this in older generations.
I always knew I was lucky to have a hubby who treats me like a genuine equal and shares chores, but I never reliased how rare it apparently is?!
Meet a interesting woman, have a chat, wonder if she want's to meet up again for a date, she feels the same, you look at each other expectantly, waiting.... waiting for the man to make the move.
I can't get past people using 'a' rather than 'an' when the next word starts with a vowel!!
Load More Replies...As a teen, all my guy friends could stay out all night while I had to be home by 11.
Why a man in a relationship can go out and drink with friends or go to the bar, but if the woman wants to do it then she MUST be cheating.
Women are called girls even when they are adults yet men are not called boys when they are adults.
most of the time. My last job the boss would address the office as "hey boys and girls" (to be fair he was in his 60's and almost every worker was under 40)
Load More Replies...I think that depends on the situation and media. You folks ever noticed how a teenager around 16 y/o is called a "young woman" when its about a topic like rape or something, but men in their twenties are called "boys" in the same context?
Totally untrue, if I go out with my mates I go for a drink with 'the boys', never 'the men' (it doesn't even sound quite right).
I never hear anything about forcing women to register for the draft like men.
Some people are arguing for women to also have mandatory service in wars, but my civics teacher told us that's unlikely because of how long it takes
Women are expected to be parents, and men are not. So when a man parents his child, he’s basically emasculated for being a decent human being.
"Women are expected to be parents, and men are not"-Nope. Thats just flat out not true
Back in the early 60s my father used to take my sister out for walks in her pram. He told me that people used to stare at him, even shaking their heads. 'A man shouldn't be taking his child out, that was women's work' Nowadays seeing this is commonplace and imagining it as it was back then is almost impossible. Luckily we can see how ridiculous it is that men are emasculated for being fathers (a total contradiction) This will change too..
Not true. I don't know where you heard this but no one ever thinks men should not be parents. No men is EVER emasculated for being a parent, I have never heard that in my life! Or has something changed that I am unaware of?
A woman suffering in public needs help. A man suffering in public is a nuisance.
I need an example of this ever being a thing. Anyone suffering needs help, when would a Male suffering in public ever be a nuisance?
I have seen this one. You won't realise this until you see it with your own eyes. I saw a man collapse, I think people thought he was drunk. They walked past for quite a while until a young teenage girl stopped to help. Turns out he wasn't drunk, he'd had a seizure. Of course there's the 'bystander effect' to take into account as well but I think the OP is actually correct. That's not because of anything to do with men though, it's because women are seen as weak and needing 'more help than men' There's ALWAYS an anti-woman sexist thought behind it, isn't there?
Load More Replies...I can sort of understand this... A LITTLE. Do to safety concerns, I have was afraid to assist a man who was clearly bigger and stronger than me when he looked to need help and we were in an isolated place. However, I did call authorities and stayed in my locked vehicle observing his condition to make sure the help did arrive before I left.
Haha if that was the case why are wo many women catcalled and followed?
A small girl being flirted with grown men is creepy and disgusting, but a small boy being flirted with grown women is ‘cute’
WTF, who says it is “cute”. I have never heard that before, it is creepy either way
I hate how women can flaunt their curves and skin, but if a guy does it, he's either vain or a pervert.
Where was this when I was a teenager? I can flaunt my body without someone making a comment? I wear free 7xl shirts sometimes, and I still can’t hide my curves. I haven’t been able to see my toes (standing up) since middle school. Women can flaunt their bodies, but it doesn’t mean they’re doing it, doing it all the time, or doing it for anyone.
Some of these things are crazy exaggerations.. A single father with kid in the park is nothing mentionable. Nobodies looking....
This is an annoyance of mine: Reading comments on YouTube, if a guy tells a female creator they think she's hot he will get hounded for being a creep. However, I see females leaving the same type of comments on male creators videos by the heckload and no one bats and eyelid. I personally think that the thirsty comments should stop altogether.
TV Advertising that treats all men as simpletons with their condescending wives needing to look after them because Men Are So Stupid and Women Are so Smart in Tv land
It is difficult for me to believe that men have an equal amount of problems regarding their gender as women do, because I enjoy gaming and see women take so much hate in that community. The young girls I have encountered on Instagram or TikTok or whatever, girls my age, are usually progressive and supportive of men being feminine and men being emotionally vulnerable, supportive of male rape victims and abuse victims, whereas guys hate on other guys being feminine more in my opinion. Also harassment / abuse happens a lot more to women, even though it should of course be recognized when it happens to men
This all just shows how feminism is important and that the patriarchy harms both women and men.
So many I don't agree with at all. And someone actually compared circumcision with female genital mutilation!
The thing that I truly hate is that there is little to no support for men when we have PTSD/anxiety. Also, we are mocked, demeaned, looked down on because we have a mental illness.
Some of these things are crazy exaggerations.. A single father with kid in the park is nothing mentionable. Nobodies looking....
This is an annoyance of mine: Reading comments on YouTube, if a guy tells a female creator they think she's hot he will get hounded for being a creep. However, I see females leaving the same type of comments on male creators videos by the heckload and no one bats and eyelid. I personally think that the thirsty comments should stop altogether.
TV Advertising that treats all men as simpletons with their condescending wives needing to look after them because Men Are So Stupid and Women Are so Smart in Tv land
It is difficult for me to believe that men have an equal amount of problems regarding their gender as women do, because I enjoy gaming and see women take so much hate in that community. The young girls I have encountered on Instagram or TikTok or whatever, girls my age, are usually progressive and supportive of men being feminine and men being emotionally vulnerable, supportive of male rape victims and abuse victims, whereas guys hate on other guys being feminine more in my opinion. Also harassment / abuse happens a lot more to women, even though it should of course be recognized when it happens to men
This all just shows how feminism is important and that the patriarchy harms both women and men.
So many I don't agree with at all. And someone actually compared circumcision with female genital mutilation!
The thing that I truly hate is that there is little to no support for men when we have PTSD/anxiety. Also, we are mocked, demeaned, looked down on because we have a mental illness.
