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With media so heavily focused on bad men, you might begin to think that there aren't any good ones left. To find out if this was the case, Twitter user @emrazz addressed their 137K followers, asking all males to share their experience in standing up to misogyny. (Facebook cover image: Alan Kotok)
Image credits: emrazz
The tweet received 833 responses in just two days. And it wasn't just men telling their stories. Folks of both genders were applauding these random acts of kindness, saying their faith in humanity had just been restored.
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
I am so glad to hear someone stood their ground even after being called names. Nobody likes to rock the boat and this was a time it was needed! Thank you.
Nicky OldfieldDesciple 6 years ago
God for you. You earned yourself a pair of Guardian Angel wings that night.
wacky jack 100 6 years ago
If that good guy wouldn't have helped her the worst could have happened
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Monday 6 years ago
Replace "women" with "anyone" and you've got a perfect statement. Good on the guy for standing up to the sleazebag though.
Full Name 6 years ago
Many years ago a girl grabbed my a*s at a bar and I turned around and looked at her with obvious unhappiness and asked her why she thought she could do that. She gave the "relax buddy, it's no big deal" speech and I asked her if it'd be cool if I did that to a random girl in the bar. She begrudgingly agreed and went on her way.
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Naomi Armitage 6 years ago
Anyone else picture Nic Cage from "Con Air" beating up the rapist? "YOU. *punch* DON'T. *punch* TREAT. *punch* WOMEN. *punch* LIKE. *punch* THAT." *punch*
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Reminds me of the lady who was arrested after she slugged a guy who slapped her on the butt. yes, she was arrested for assault. The story is more in depth than that, however, the situation was still what it was.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself, but I do appreciate it when men protect me. I had a guy grab my boob at a bar one night (total stranger; wasn't even talking to him). I slapped him so hard he fell on his a*s. I prepared to fight. He jumped up, called me a b***h and said he was going to kick my a*s. Before I could tell him to "bring it", two large men stood between me and him. They told him they didn't care who started it, he was not touching me. I said, "He started it when he touched me." They then told him he could leave in a cab or an ambulance. He left in a cab. I thanked them for their help. I didn't tell them I would have been fine without them. I didn't want to discourage them from helping anyone.
Kim Lorton 6 years ago
A true man, and a little boy in an adult body... thank you, for being a man!
pusheen buttercup 6 years ago
Anyone ever seen this set up as a scam, such as "the hero and the pig"?
#3
Monika Soffronow 6 years ago
Great! If the only ones standing up to such "jokes" are women, they will quickly be labeled rabid feminist bitches and thus overlooked, or worse, the "joker" will get spurred on. It is absolutely necessary that men stand up against other men on these matters.
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Small little things can matter. A person may not see the effect they have, but standing up for someone or a situation is important. People will never know it is NOT okay to do these types of things if it is not pointed out the them.
Louise Brigance 6 years ago
So many people, men and women, don't understand the nature of rape. It's not about sex. It's so much more and worse. Complete dominance, underlying rage, feelings of inadequacy's, just a couple of things involved in rape. People will quickly condemn serial killers or pedophiles, but question the victim of rape. How screwed up we are.
Kim Lorton 6 years ago
Mop it in the bud. And if it still continues, hit where it hurts, their pocket.
Seeing this kind of activity on Twitter is especially interesting. The social network was dubbed as "a toxic place for women" by Amnesty International after the organization conducted a study there. Calling it Troll Patrol, the researchers used crowdsourcing, data sience & machine learning to "measure violence and abuse against women on Twitter."
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Tor Rolf Strøm 6 years ago
Well, America's funniest home videos censor nude children on the show, so maybe talk to your country about that.
Sasy 6 years ago
I think that the reason that they MAY censor that kind of thing on the air, is not because they are prudes etc, it is because that footage could then be taken and used in another way by people that are much more dangerous than the average watcher of Funniest Home Videos. Child Pornography can be as basic as a kid naked in a bath, so good on them at whatever that station is for making the children safer. Also considering that the child is too young often to give permission to be paraded around on national television partially nude, when the child is older they would have every right to come down on the show for exploiting them, so also the show probably protecting their own bottoms while blurring a childs. Two valid reasons, the first one gets my main vote.
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
OMG. Seriously. I had this conversation similarly with my daughter. She is not allowed to wear tank tops to school because it is distracted to the boys. When are we going to start holding them accountable for their actions and stop taking away our rights of what to wear.
Hans 6 years ago
Wow, this is so wrong. Particularly if the boys may wear tank tops...
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Ozacoter 6 years ago
My granms were always angry if we (as little girls) didnt wear a tshirt or a full body swimming suit... I never got it can be sexual that a 5 year old girl runs in the garden with only the botom part of a bikini...
Hans 6 years ago
Fortunately, at least in North Europe it is fine to have toddlers completely nude at the beach. Just happens so often that they want to play by chance you you do not have proper swimming attire ready. And seriously, why should it be a problem? There is nothing sexual about a naked toddler, and those who say that it would be for their "own protection" should seriously consider if they fact that they require protection is not the real problem.
Load More Replies... Master Markus 6 years ago
Come on, I hate being around kids and even I'm fine with them not having shirts on. Pants is a whole other thing considering their incontinence at that age, though. The grandad shouldn't be uncomfortable with a kid of any sex not having a shirt on at that age unless he's just generally uncomfortable with partial nudity.
HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK 6 years ago
This can be a touchy subject, of course you don't apply the same nudity rules to children as adults but this guy may have another reason for it. My friend's dad is a police officer with the child protection unit and he talks about the many hours of horrific child abuse videos he has had to sit through, because of this when he grandchildren sit on his lap in a certain way or run around naked he gets taken back to the vids he has watched and he has horrible brain association because of the vastly unpleasant things he has had to watch over the years, he hates it does this to him but he thinks it will always be this way, such a sad thing.
JessyJoy 6 years ago
Not necessarily sexualising her. Maybe he just wants his grandchild to "look proper" in his eyes (regardless of whether they are male or female) and be wearing clothes. I understand that's a difficult scenario with young kids
Blue Cicada 6 years ago
My father grew up to always have on a shirt, pants, socks and shoes, even in the house. He is bothered daily by my bare feet in the house.
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Agnes Jekyll 6 years ago
A friend's son quit his after-school electronica club because girls are recruited, then made secretary. He complained, nothing changed, he left.
Lisa Lyons 6 years ago
My boss terminated a lucrative contract as the business owner made sexist comments to me. My boss has three daughters and does not play.
Nostalgic Hyena 6 years ago
I'm sick of the "you took it the wrong way" sh*t. I remember a few months ago at school someone thought it'd be funny to grab my backpack and then pull me back, and when I told someone about it, she said "Well, I'm not trying to excuse his behavior, but maybe he's just being playful.". Good lord..
Naima Ivansdóttir 6 years ago
i know i know! violence's never the answer, all right. but this is infuriating.
Load More Replies... Michelle Dodson 6 years ago
OMG. That is so sad. How amazing of a Mom you must have been. Kudos to you and your awesome son!
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Exactly what is wrong with this thought process. This is not a compliment and he should not loosen up over this situation. This situation should be taken to the corporate office if possible.
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Kjorn 6 years ago
whistled… does any woman just answer Thanks for someone who whistled at her? this is plain stupid
fakepanda 6 years ago
The username is Brad. I'm taking for that he heard the whistle and answered for his female friend.
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Bored Birgit 6 years ago
Are you fine? Did you sleep well? I'd like to wish you a wonderful day.
Load More Replies..."Our findings reveal the sheer scale and nature of online abuse faced by women and provides a resource to researchers and engineers interested in exploring the potential of machine learning in content moderation," Amnesty International wrote. "These findings are the result of a collaboration between Amnesty International and Element AI, a global artificial intelligence software product company. Together, we surveyed millions of tweets received by 778 journalists and politicians from the UK and US throughout 2017 representing a variety of political views, and media spanning the ideological spectrum. Using cutting-edge data science and machine learning techniques, we were able to provide a quantitative analysis of unprecedented scale of online abuse against women in the UK and USA."
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athornedrose 6 years ago
louder for the people in the back! if it makes you uncomfortable, THE PERSON EXPERIENCING IT FEELS MUCH WORSE
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Good point! This is food for thought, stand up and help the person out.
Michelle Dodson 6 years ago (edited)
I worked as a "bar back" from time to time for a friend. So, this guy apparently thought that meant I was a s**t. I had turned him down NUMEROUS times. I had to actually slap him while saying "Get the F**k Away From Me You Creep". My friend Greg saw what was going on - and even though he was OBVIOUSLY gay, came over, grabbed my a*s and said "Baby, I'm bored. Let's go home." Best. Friend. Ever.
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therealpixie 6 years ago
I don't care. It's wonderful. It should have happened.
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Agnes Jekyll 6 years ago
Ha! I just about shot my coffee out of my nose! Your husband's a real mensch.
Vicky Zar 6 years ago
Haha I knew what it means in german, because I am german. ;) Thanks for the Yiddish translation though. Yiddish is related to german or is based on it or something, isn't it?
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Gigglemage 6 years ago
Obviously not real. People don't act like this in Canada. The internet knows this! =P
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Ruby Brook 6 years ago
I applaud that! Sometimes people too easily focus on being extremely angry at the person who rejected them instead of respecting them. That can lead to some really problematic situations.
spacemanfromthe80s 6 years ago (edited)
My cousin's college friend created a shaming group to shame the girl who rejected him. He was suspended, apparently. And that's the thing about dating, if you can't accept rejection, your ego is too big. You're unfit for any kind of relationship unless you learn some f*****g manners. People think they are entitled to the person they like. *Sheesh*
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blugeagua 6 years ago
Wow, that nephew was REALLY an a*****e for thinking that she somehow owed him attention and how dare she have the choice to not want to be with him! Guys like that make me sick.
Aileen 6 years ago (edited)
Or the guys who ask a girl to go out with them or do something dirty with them, and then when the girl says no, especially when it’s because she’s taken, the guy starts insulting her and calling her names that imply she sleeps with a lot of guys, then the guy finishes by insulting her physical appearance. There’s just so much that’s wrong with that.
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WhatEvenIsLife 6 years ago (edited)
I have seen SO many screenshots from friends of conversations with men who went NUTS after being told "no thanks." I'm talking long strings of vile, harassing messages calling the woman every name in the book until she finally blocks him. Have seen men say truly messed up things like "I bet you hate men because you got molested," or tell a woman he hopes she gets raped. What the ACTUAL f**k is wrong with men? That kind of c**p happens way too often. We all get rejected - I've definitely felt the sting - and sure it sucks, but what the hell kind of person thinks it's okay to react that way?
Dilly Millandry 6 years ago
It speaks to his attitude to women, possibly people, generally though. If it encourages him to just be a nicer person - good.
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Together, they found out that "7.1% of tweets sent to the women in the study were 'problematic' or 'abusive.' This amounts to 1.1 million tweets mentioning 778 women across the year, or one every 30 seconds."
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Ellie Scott ⭐️ 6 years ago
Thank goodness you were both there, I bet she was so grateful! That was smart to give your details incase she involved the police.
Elsah Dewitt 6 years ago
This is why I am so bad at trusting people that I think look shady. I get anxiety every time I see a shady man
Kaisu Rei 6 years ago
Seeing stories like this might encourage others to act similarly. There's nothing wrong with sharing tips on how to save someone from rape on social media, get over yourself
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CultOfBambi 6 years ago
Just say you don't understand the joke and ask them to explain exactly why they think it's funny.
Gracie Mae 6 years ago
I have done that before, with a totally straight face & serious tone. makes 'em stop & think, for the most part
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Just by speaking up and saying you are uncomfortable is hard, but it can make a difference. We had to do that with my extended family about their racists jokes they found funny. My immediate family does not and always felt uncomfortable, until someone ones said I am still apart of the problem by not speaking up, so I do now.
Saara-Elina Kaukiainen 6 years ago
I tend to ask people who tell misogynist jokes; what is so funny? While staring right at them eyes wide in curious innocence. For some reason they never tell me...
Tarmin Slingerfinger 6 years ago
For me usually it's funny because misogyny is absolutely ridiculous and you're making fun of the people who actually hold such beliefs, and laughing with the idea that someone actually think somehow women are inferior.
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Adam Cantor 6 years ago
Not laughing, and also asking the person to repeat their joke and explain it because you don't understand it!
Keith Ealanta 4 years ago
I like forcing them to explain it. "I'm sorry, I don't get it." and "Oh, you thought that would be funny?"
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Gracie Mae 6 years ago
gee, when my boys were 3, they were all about doing stuff like that to GIVE TO MOMMY. why assume that they want it for themselves? and even if they did, so what??? children are TAUGHT stereotypes, racism, etc, it's not something they come up with on their own
Jenifer Cappello 6 years ago
Conservatives are so paranoid about their own gender norms being enforced that they no longer think of things like 'entering a contest for mommy' and go straight to the 'adult' section of their brains.
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Louplou 6 years ago
A friend recently brought a stuffed toy flamingo over for my kids, my youngest son instantly fell in love with it and declared proudly that it's name would Jack. Friend argued that the flamingo was pink & thus should have a "girl's" name - I thoroughly enjoyed pointing out that male flamingos are pink too!
Master Markus 6 years ago
What an odd world it must be for someone who instantly thinks "pink=girl".
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Nicky OldfieldDesciple 6 years ago
As were high heeled shoes and make up.
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rhyan lumilay 6 years ago
yeah we didn't know what this little boy wants it for so just let him do what he wants.
Amalie Plougmann 4 years ago
TOY ROLF STORM PERSON LOOK YOU GOTTA STOP IT'S NOT GETTING YOU ANY POINTS.
Furthermore, women of color, (black, Asian, Latinx and mixed-race women) were 34% more likely to be mentioned in abusive or problematic tweets than white women. "Black women were disproportionately targeted, being 84% more likely than white women to be mentioned in abusive or problematic tweets."
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Kjorn 6 years ago
yeah but they should stop making 'girl' toys all pink and purple and makes them all color
Monday 6 years ago
and give some of the 'boy' toys (oh heavens that sounds wrong) pink and purple options too. My little brother loves purple.
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Francesca Annoni 6 years ago
My son loves pretend to cook and play with pots and fake food, I even bought him an apron the same as his dad's, at Christmas his aunt gave him a toy vacuum cleaner with which he enjoys playing while his dad and I do house cleaning .. he loves to cuddle his stuffed animals, feed them and put them to sleep like they were real puppies. All of these would be considered a girl's game but I never convinced my son that he was playing a "wrong" game ... he is actually growing up like a loving baby, who likes to help and who has no prejudices about what are " mom things" and "dad thinghs"
Alejandra Acosta 6 years ago
As an elementary school teacher I usually deal with these so often
The Random Merp 6 years ago
This is such a good thing! I was that one little girl who enjoyed playing with dinosaurs and monster toys. I used to get so mad (being around 5) about people taking them away since they were 'boy toys'. Well done.
Full Name 6 years ago
People took them away? That's just weird. People are weird.
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Loki 6 years ago
My sister and I played with pokemon things our older brothers had(They were 10 and 8, we were 5 and 4) whenever we asked our friends for pokemon card their parents used to get super mad at my parents, we asked of littlest pet shops and barbies as well, maybe watching pokemon is what got me into anime(even though I don't consider it an anime)
Master Markus 6 years ago
The Pokemon TV show is an anime. "Anime" is just "animated shows/movies, etc. from Japan".
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Nailah Butler 6 years ago
this one struck a nerve because I lost friends and his father because how dare I let him pick out and play with girl toys. For the record he had both and wanted a family so he needed some dolls he said. 8 years later well adjusted kid. Even if he did turn out gay it would t have changed my love but he liked what he liked.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
If he is gay, he already was it. Playing with dolls doesn't make you to want to f**k men. But good job mate!
Load More Replies... Emo Extreemo 6 years ago
exactly a kid (that may or may not be me) wants to play with barbie dolls and wear a rose in his hair just let him
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
Are you saying you want to play with Barbie dolls and put roses in your hair, Emo Extreemo? You go right ahead and do those things. I was never fond of Barbie Dolls, but you gotta do you.
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Gracie Mae 6 years ago
I'm a firm believer that kids not only need, but WANT someone to call them out on their bs to help make them better people. it's attention-seeking at its most basic. direct that attention-seeking behavior to be more positive and most of the time it will work. and they will be grateful & show it in so many ways
Full Name 6 years ago
This doesn't end in childhood. People genuinely do like boundaries and responsibility. Look at how so many people really step up when suddenly they are in charge of important things at work etc. We all like rising to the occasion, even if only subconsciously.
Load More Replies... María Hermida 6 years ago
Kids copy a lot of attitudes they see without thinking what they really mean for other people. You make them see by themselves, that's why they respect you.
Rafaella Bueno 6 years ago
It's a good way to go about it, instead of just calling them out and making them defensive. Indeed a lot of people who act creepily, specially kids like that, just don't realize how creepy they're coming off as.
Paul Taegel 6 years ago
Yes! Good manners and respect must be taught. People who think it’s instinctive clearly don’t recall the 10,000 times their parents drilled it into them. And that was just a Tuesday.
Kim Lorton 6 years ago
Way to go! Teachers are some of my favorite folks, well, teachers like you!
Dan Steely 4 years ago
Why they respect you is that, while a tough lesson in front of others, you’re TEACHING them, not necessarily berating them. Learned behavior can be unlearned. It isn’t necessarily coming from a bad person. Just a poorly taught one.
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Rebecca Olberding 6 years ago
I totally understand the sentiment of stepping in, but there is something inherently wrong with having to step in and say "I'm the boyfriend" for the other man to suddenly respect the woman...
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
It has to stop, but I do not think this person will learn by distraction. He or she has to be told those types of comments are not acceptable.
Blue Cicada 6 years ago
I understand what you mean, but you have to read the situation. Is the most important thing to get somebody out of a bad situation, or are you able to also give the harasser I talking to?
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Jo Choto 6 years ago
I really don't like the whole "pretend to be her boyfriend" scenario. It's almost like "she's my property so that's why you don't get to abuse her, but if a woman's single, it's fine." I think it's better to show and demand respect for a woman in those circumstances and it's more powerful if you are doing it as a complete stranger than if you are faking to be "her man".
Truth is a B**** 4 years ago
Women should just start stabbing the rapists and perverts, and it’ll stop a lot quicker.
First.time.in.Space 6 years ago
I've done this type of thing for both men and women, just as both men and women have done the same thing to me. When the situation is obvious (Get.this.drunk.f**k.off.me.PLEASE) - You don't have to pretend to be a partner, just a fellow human being helping another out. Without unnecessary drama.
Among its conclusions, the study stated that "Twitter's data states that 2.8 million unique accounts were reported for abuse of which Twitter actioned 248,000 – approximately 9%. However, the data published only reflects unique accounts that were reported for abuse and actioned. Twitter should also publish the total number of tweets reported for abuse and hateful conduct - disaggregated by category - in order to avoid potentially underplaying the true scale of abuse on the platform."
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Francesca Beauchamp-Hartz 6 years ago
What is it with all the 'no matter what the gender' comments? this isn't an 'all lives matter' debate. We are specifically talking about women here because, regardless of if this happens to both genders, it happens to women more. You're not listening.
Load More Replies... Ozacoter 6 years ago
Yesterday I was with my partner and best friend (both guys). When I am with both of them it is like if I am just not in the conversation :( They wont let me open my mouth without interrupting me. It makes me feel so furious, but if you get angry people gets all 'women are so hysterical, you get angry over anything...'
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
My husband and one if his guy friends talk almost non-stop when they're together. They interrupt each other, and me. When they realize they have interrupted ME, they usually apologize and ask what I was saying. I've noticed they never apologize to each other, though. I don't think it's a gender thing with them. He only acts like that with that one friend. They always act like they haven't seen each other in years, even though it's only been a few days. I just leave them alone and enjoy some ME time.
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Robert Sierra 4 years ago (edited)
To be fair I know some people that get so into their own points in a conversation they'll interrupt anyone they're talking to multiple times. It's not a gender thing for them and it is pretty annoying. But I believe some jerks would do that more to women I'm just saying it's not always the case.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
There are introvert people out there who never will speak up for themselves. Man and women. Not everyone can handle a confrontation.
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Wil Vanderheijden 6 years ago
Once my boss was harrassing an intern by make comments on how nice she looked and that he would love to spend some private time with her. I told him that I'd love to spend some private time with his wife to tell her what a jerk he was. Didn't change him much but at least it changed the way he treated female coworkers.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
I made this in the past about other males. I am not gay, but I can pretend to be. And it is lovely to watch how uncomfortable straight man get if you talk loud about their nice a*s :D Only cause I treat them like they treated women just moments before. Most of them got the hint.
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Christina Sersif 6 years ago
Nothing makes a sexist pig more uncomfortable than to be hit on by another guy cause likely if they’re sexist they’re also homophobic
WhatEvenIsLife 6 years ago
Ugh, this happened constantly when I used to ride the bus to work. I specifically wore headphones and read books in order to discourage people from talking to me. Guys straight up didn't give af and would interrupt me constantly. One time, I attempted to ignore a guy and he started reading out loud from the page I was on. There needs to be a mandatory class in high school called "How to Take a F*****g Hint." Even worse, half the time when I would say, "Sorry, I'm married," the guy would come back with, "Well, do you cheat?" without batting an eye. Multiple men have asked me this, and I still don't know how to properly convey my shock that they'd think it was okay to ask something like that point-blank. They don't even think to ask, "Might you be polyamorous, or have an open marriage?" Still not really acceptable, but I'd be less offended by that than someone suggesting I straight up have an affair.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago (edited)
A man was innocently flirting with me at the grocers once. He wasn't being obnoxious or pushy; I thought we were just having a friendly conversation. Then he asked if we could meet for coffee sometime. I told him, "Sorry, I'm married." He said, "That's ok, so am I." I still took the naive approach and thought, 'Surely, he means that getting coffee isn't a date and he only wants to be friends.' But when I said, "My husband wouldn't approve." He said, "Well, does he really need to know? I'm sure you're smart enough to hide an affair." I was like, "OMG! What's wrong with you?!?!" He got mad and left. *I am actually married. And I had my wedding ring on.
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ＱＵＩＮＣＹ—ＰＬＵＴＯ 4 years ago (edited)
I know this was a roughly 2 YEARS AGO but lmao means : Laughing My Ass Off
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Rosie Hamilton 6 years ago
Sometimes you have to show the thick ones by personal example. If it made them uncomfortable perhaps they'll make the connection.
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Love that you are doing this in front of your child, they will see what and how men are to behave. Kudos to you for doing the right thing.
madapult 6 years ago
Yeah, my dad stopped these two random girls who were following and beating up an innocent person who they didn't know, they just were being racist or something. So he and all the people who were there (all strangers) blocked the girls from following that person into a store and called the cops. I think he is a good role model and also more people should do something instead of watching!
spacemanfromthe80s 6 years ago
Men who beat up women are barely men... Except of course when she's about to kill you... Or when a woman tries to kill you after your old acquaintance's son killed your dog... Then maybe it's acceptable
Devon Kaylor 4 years ago
Domestic violence events are one of the most dangerous calls the police go on. As nice as it is that you are helping the person in need, please don’t do it with your 3 year old in tow.
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Chris Jones 6 years ago
Why did he need a sandwich made if he had lunch? Though I totally agree with the outcome I'm just feeling a bit confused.
Pamela24 6 years ago
To degrade the girl in a "joke" kind of way, most likely. Because women, as we all know, are put on this planet to serve men and make their lunches.
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CultOfBambi 6 years ago
My standard response to the 'make me a sandwich' "joke" is 'Sure hon, but you'll have a hard time eating it because you'll be too busy picking your teeth up off the floor.'
Monday 6 years ago
Plot twist: The girl just makes really amazing sandwiches and her classmate really wanted one.
Daria B 6 years ago
Then she took out her calculator and showed him the cost of that sandwich he ordered.
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Captain Foley 6 years ago (edited)
I once asked a woman to make me a sandwich, and she did. But that's because I was at Subway and she was the employee who does the food.
Dominique Funchess 6 years ago
@hashwadoobies first of all it did not say that she got offended, it said the teacher OVERHEARD. Second of all you don’t know how people are and what the situation may be because if she had said something, you never know if she could get beat up, or anything.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
My husband loudly tells me to "Get back in the kitchen!" sometimes and then I tell him to "Go fix the car!". We only do this around people we know. The real joke is that he does most of the cooking and I work on the cars. We love poking holes in gender stereotypes.
PeachPossum 6 years ago
In our family the conversation would have gone something like this: "Hey, make me a sandwich!" "What's the matter? Broke your arms? Make it yourself."
Jean Nielsen 4 years ago
Way back when my Mom was still alive and visiting us, she made herself a sandwich. My husband (not a nice guy) walked into the kitchen and stood there staring at her. She said "Would you like a sandwich?" He replied "Yes" and she said "Okay, I'll leave the fixings out for you. Put them away when you're done." And she took her sandwich and walked away. Yea Mom!
Master Markus 6 years ago
Why did this tweet end with an "I"? Does that mean something or is it just a mistake?
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GoldenAngels 6 years ago
Definitely under the bus, no matter their gender
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kai konami 6 years ago
As a wise man once said, “So many people treat you like you're a kid so you might as well act like one and throw your television out of the hotel window.”
Elsah Dewitt 6 years ago
I would have done the same thing. But first I would kick him in the balls
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
If it were only that easy every time! Kudos to you for doing the right thing.
Susan Bishop 4 years ago
While crossing the country on a Greyhound, the driver stopped the bus and ejected a drunk who was harassing my mother. I was about 7 at the time and it really impressed me. Gotta love a bus driver who will leave someone on the side of the road miles from any town for hitting on a woman traveling with 5 kids.
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Elsah Dewitt 6 years ago (edited)
Oooh. If that guy told I was talking so much that would be going to far. Little did he know he had ran into “jug cena”
Daniel Taylor 6 years ago
So how's this sexist. I've been cut in front of before and I'm a male. Who hasn't had a rude person cut in front of them before?
Tahani 6 years ago
So someone telling you that you talk too much and should be quiet isn't harassment to you?
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Lingon 6 years ago
Or one of the greatest tennis players of all time. Gender don't have anything to do with it.
Ruby Brook 6 years ago
well... i would say he just said that because there are two completely different tennis leagues of men and women. As the women's tennis players don't compete against the men's tennis players... I wouldn't say it's bad to say something like that. Let's focus on applauding this man for stopping some other men for being really rude to a talented tennis player.
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Kesondra Key 4 years ago
can you imagine if people started talking about what guys wear and what they look like all the time?
Amalie Plougmann 4 years ago
Tor Rolf Strøm, STOP. I AM FED UP WITH YOUR SEXIST COMMENTS. YOU DO NOT BELONG ON A FRIENDLY APP LIKE THIS MAKING ABSOLUTELY INAPPROPRIATE MESSAGES. PLEASE 👏STOP👏NOW👏
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I'm not entirely sure I see this as sexist. Women criticized other women's outfits all the time and no thinks anything of it. They said her outfit was "unflattering". Maybe it was.
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Ruby Brook 6 years ago
Sometimes every friend group needs a bit of a "wet blanket" so that jokes don't go to far. Even if something is considered a joke by some people it can become toxic if it gets taken too far...
Andrea Delden 6 years ago
When my son was about 9 he came home from school and told me a joke about “an English man, an Irish man and a Scotsman. It was kind of funny but very racist. When he finished I asked him to tell me the joke again using his and his 2 best friends names. He did and about 1/2 way through he was crying telling me he would never tell the joke again.
Master Markus 6 years ago
I'm really wet blanket-y sometimes, but I usually find that it's with racist jokes from extended family rather than sexist ones... Not really much better.
Papersnake 2 years ago
If someone ever tells you a racist or sexist joke just say to them "I don't understand it can you explain it" and then watch as they panic
HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK 6 years ago
A joke is just that, a joke, this guy sounds insufferable too, and "mansplaining" too, ugh.
Nicky OldfieldDesciple 6 years ago
Is that why you're profile picture is of a sad little clown :(
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The Girl on Fire 6 years ago
Did you really..did you really have to make a Jake Paul reference?
Riz Leslie 6 years ago
Last time I checked Jake Paul did not invent the saying “it’s everyday” and putting “bro” at the end of a sentence
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Kelly Von Tee 6 years ago
Who the hell is Jake Paul? Nothing said seems like a catch phrase to me, just normal, every day speech.
Alia G. 6 years ago
Popular social media star who coined the phrase "every day bro" he's known for being disrespectful, excessive, and up until recently people had suspected him of being a sociopath
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Henlo 6 years ago
Bc not everyone can attend a private school like you, trust fund kid
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Malinda Shockley 4 years ago
yeah you were just showing him how it affected HIM not that it was actually wrong to harass women
Tarmin Slingerfinger 6 years ago
All right, this one is different than all the others here(for me at least). The guy is right in saying that the bartender should be a bit professional. But you can't possibly try to convince me that people can't check each other out if they want to. What you see and what you look at should be your own freedom. Just refrain from commenting/harassing the person you were looking at.
elfin 6 years ago
This one did comment. If he hadn't, no one would have noticed what he was doing.
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Zsuzsi László 6 years ago
Nobody said it was ok to girls to say that a guy had a great a*s. It would be an unacceptable situation the other way round too
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Daria B 6 years ago
She was freakin' pushing her baby in a stroller and they still..... What do these men have their heads for? Decoration? Because obviously there's no brain within those skulls. We need more people like the brave guy who confronted them.
Kim Lorton 6 years ago
That’s it , they don’t have any viable brain tissue left! Drugs, watching family toxic relationships of domestic abuse... or, they just don’t care. They have no respect for anyone, let alone themselves.
Load More Replies... Christina Sersif 6 years ago
I quit running alone because some loser guys would harass me. I don’t know why any guy thinks it’s ever appropriate to yell at a woman like she’s a dog
Smerv 6 years ago
I was once going to the beach with my little kids, wearing mini skirt and big summer hat, really feeling myself good. Someone just yelled "b*tch" at me. It was horrible, I just freezed and couldn't do/say anything, my kids there! I thought maybe my underpants (shorts!) were showing or something (I'm cis btw). Worst part oc that my kids maybe heard and I didn't do anything. It was sad too that I've had been so used to catcalling it somehow didn't degrade me but my kids, I was so worried about them
Amanda Raynes 6 years ago
Some guy in my town would make vulgar remarks to me when i was pushing my baby girl in my stroller. I had a coworker tell me he said nasty things to her too even tho we asked to stop he would only laugh and say worse things... First day someone could watch my baby we went past his house and before he could start kept asking how his d was hanging and ooohhh you looking good in them jeans... He looked entertained at first until we wouldnt let him get a word in edge wise and just continued to say very explicit things to him. Never had a problem from him again.
tarebear 6 years ago
Aannndd the ignorance has finally shown itself... it was only a matter of time before someone went there even though that whole story is provably untrue.
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Annabelle Lee 6 years ago
I use the year as an excuse for many things! Ex: It´s 2019. I can eat without silverware if I want.
Kamryn McNamara 6 years ago
"That was soooo last year brah like that's not even cool anymore fam just let it go"
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Exactly. His friends standing up for the other person by calling the male out.
Car Alarm 6 years ago
Am I the only one that feels that 'Look elsewhere' wasn't the right thing to say? To me, that sounds like saying, 'Go find another girl to harass', which isn't solving anything.
The First And The Last 6 years ago
they most likely meant look elsewhere to a girl who can actually consent, not a drunk girl who wouldn't be in her right mind
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Kamryn McNamara 6 years ago
I like how the "You're coming with us" thing poses a threat. I mean... Obviously they're just going to make the man a nice ham sammich.... right....
Carrie de Luka 6 years ago
It's a thing that's going on right now though - just saying. #OutOfDateMan
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Nikki D 6 years ago
Men call me little girl all the time. I am 30 damn years old and definitely not little!
KCN 6 years ago
SirPatTheCat: very clever, however, no one should have to do this to keep from being called 'little'.
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pusheen buttercup 6 years ago
Imo, I believe sometimes this is indeed offensive, and sometimes it's not. I believe it's cultural, not that misogyny is cultural, but that the words and what they mean are flipped in other cultures. Rather than the precise words that were said, we may want to focus on the meaning. Even though the words themselves make no sense in this way, how people use it is different, for example "cool". Cool is "cold." Cool is also "good." Cool makes no sense. I have visited cultures where "little lady" as actually a term of respect for the Matriarchy, instead of a Patriarchy. Usually the men are in service to the women in these cultures. It sounds strange I know. But spend some time in these places.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I agree. Any word can be offensive. What really matters is how and why it was said.
Load More Replies... Monday 6 years ago
This depends very much on the tone it's said in. A lot of older men do it as a friendliness sort of thing.
Aunt Messy 6 years ago
Yeah..and the last time some guy older than me called me "dear", he MEANT to put me down. So I turned to him and said, "That's MRS. Dear to you, toots." The entire room laughed and he never did that again.
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Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I don't know. It really depends on how and why it was said. In the southern US, both men and women say this a lot without meaning to be offensive. The terms "Hon"(short for honey), "Sweetie", "Sug"(short for sugar) and "Darlin" are all used as gender neutral terms, and they are spoken by either gender without an intent of offence. If I think someone is using any of these words with sexist intent, I will call them on it.
Janice Seagraves 6 years ago
My husband used to call any short woman little girl. And that included eighty-year-old women. I called him on that every time until he stopped.
Isaiah Tannis 4 years ago (edited)
I don't see the issue in calling someone 'Little Lady' or 'small man'(as we say here in T&T) it's way better than hearing the nasty things these men would say when catcalling someone that seems to attract them. Sometimes, it's not just what you say but also how you say it, people get disrespected by the way you bring about your words to them.
Wyndmere 6 years ago
I ceased being a "little girl" when I became a double digit age; 10. To continue calling me that is demeaning, disrespectful, and arrogant on your part. I am a woman. A female between 10 & 18 is a young lady. Learn how to respect the females around you, and speak to us with respect.
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Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
My first husband was significantly shorter than me. "Little Man" was my pet name for him. His mom got mad, but he told her it was none of her concern what I chose to call him. I never meant it as an insult, it was simply a fact that he was shorter than me.
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Klaudiia Sherbatzky 6 years ago
Everyday at work I have a customer that comes and call me names , like : Hey how you doing? Me: Thank you , fine , what about you? Him: you are sooo sexy, Oh my god you are soooo sexy...why don´t you give me your number and we go out? Me: NO thank you He: why not? I can come to your house and we can drink something? Miziii pitziii sexy girl , baby you are looking goooooddd - THIS IS EVERYDAY and I am sooo sick of that. I´m ignoring him when he starts talk to me this way but he don´t stop. AND he has a wife and kids at home. This is so disgusting, he disgusts me! I have no problem with people tell me I am looking good or something but he is doing that in a disgusting way. And when I say he should please stop with this he say´s why? I should take this as a compliment that a man like him is attracted to me......
Felicia Dale 6 years ago
If you have a phone, can you whip it out and start videoing him when he does this?
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Marianne Jexmark 6 years ago
I've read all of these and even if I've never been sexually assaulted or seen one, the best response must be "would you like a guy/man act like that to your mother/daugter/granddaugther just like you did to me/that girl/woman?"
invisible sheep 6 years ago
thanks for taking the s**t for the woman you don't know. Lots of time it is just too scary to confront a stranger, risking getting troubles. You are great!
pusheen buttercup 6 years ago
A man once bothered my friend and I, gave us creepy vibes. We stated clearly and politely we weren't interested, but he persisted. No one in the bar did a damn thing. Maybe it's unfeminist for me to desire to be rescued, but woman or man I am a physically wimpy person, and I didn't like my odds. I kept hoping for someone to help... Finally, because I was concerned for my friends' safety and mine, he began to reach across our table to us, and I slammed my hand down on the table and told him off. He left... for a moment, as we were leaving the bar wee saw him again on our way down the street. I took my friend into the brightly lit grocery store. I later told this story to a guy, asking him why no one tried to help us. He said, white knighting is all well and good till someone pulls a gun on you. As alone as I felt I can't argue with that logic. Does anyone have a potential solution that would make it safer for someone to stand up to others?
Michelle Dodson 6 years ago
I'm a middle aged white b***h - and I do the same thing. It's funny how those little punk a*s bitches back down when we DON'T. In't??
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Person2638 6 years ago
I really have hope that my generation will be the one to end the misogyny (and misandry) that plagues our society. In the mean time, have you heard of misanthropy? The belief that all humans are inferior?
Pam 6 years ago
So I think this stuff is super important and yes, there are definitely times having a dude around has helped BUT...LADIES!!!! We must learn to stand up for ourselves!!!! Stop waiting for a "movement"!!
Merann Bartle 6 years ago
We need to be educated to be able to defend ourselves. Often assault or unwanted attention comes out of the blue and because you’re not expecting it it shocks you so you don’t respond as you should. There’s a reason animals play dead, fight or flight. If we are prepared and have trained for the situation then we can respond accordingly and “lady up” but the response has to be trained. We need self defence taught in physical education classes for girls at middle and high schools. Not just getting out of a physical hold but appropriate verbal responses to shut down the unwanted attention as soon as it manifests. Once you are able to spot it and the response is automatic it would prevent a lot of assaults.
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invisible sheep 6 years ago
I was 17 and worked part-time as a waitress at a local small "family" bar. I got harassed multiple times verbally, thankfully, there was no actual physical harassment, but yes, people tried. The scary thing was, I didn't even realize I was being harassed. I considered those were "over flirting". I remember there was an old frequent customer, probably older than my dad, who was married as well, always tried to flirt with me, but I just ignored him every time, one time he tried to kiss me, saying its "a gift", i pushed him away, telling him he was disgusting. My boss, who was a man, who I always considered a kind and nice person, told me "its just a joke, don't be so harsh"..... I quit the job even though I desperately needed money for my study. But I didn't think of it as anything serious, I only quit because I felt it was too much work for little money, and I had to put up with such annoyance, only when I look back to that time, I realized how f****d up it was.
deanna woods 5 years ago
I may be commenting late, but that really was messed up. That man shouldn't have been bothering you and your boss should have taken it seriously.
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Shari H 6 years ago
I used to have a co-worker that would tell clients to talk to the girl in the office. I asked him to stop referring to me as "the girl" or I would start calling him "the boy". He looked at me with puzzlement and asked: "what should I call you?" and was fully shocked when I said, "you could use my name". I doubt he meant offense, but his cluelessness about why he was wrong is so much worse. In another instance, a male co-worker covered the phones one day while I was out of the office. When I got back he said he preferred working inside on such a rainy day and my boss told him his legs were too hairy for office work. I responded with "You assume I shave my legs", and my co-worker says "He assumes I don't". I've never seen a grown man turn that shade of red before or since.
Edyta Z 6 years ago
* brings back fate in humanity:) (Sorry for that unfinished comment, my dog decided to walk on my phone when I was writing it...)
Load More Replies... Wyndmere 6 years ago
All the above examples are just as bad as a male trying to belittle another male by calling him a woman. That implies that being female is somehow inferior to being male. He insulted his mother, grandmother, sisters, aunts, female cousins, future wife, daughters, daughters-in-law, and his future grand daughters; along with every female on the planet. When God made Adam, He said it was good. When God made Eve, He said it was very good, and He meant that about BOTH of them.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
I don't think any god has made anything, but the start of your post is really good and absolutly correct!
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cybermerlin2000 6 years ago
2 stories come to mind. When I was 18 I took a job at a good classy pub. I saw 2 guys walk in chatting when one of them pinched a girls bum who was sat at the other end of the bar. As I walked towards them I saw my manager heading towards them but even before he got there his friend hit him on the shoulder and spun him to face him, said something that was probably along the lines of "Not cool dude!" before headbutting him. My manager arrived to here in time to hear the offender teary eyed say "I'm sorry for being a d**k" Second I was involved in . I was 23 and lived in a second floor flat when I hear shouting outside. I looked and saw a couple arguing. Suddenly he punched her hard in the stomach! I ran downstairs and did a flying crappy wrestler style kick and he flew into the bushes. I got up and took her hand and limped back to my flat with her in tow. By the time he had got out of the bushes we had got inside. She used my phone to call her dad and he picked her up.
Person2638 6 years ago
I really have hope that my generation will be the one to end the misogyny (and misandry) that plagues our society. In the mean time, have you heard of misanthropy? The belief that all humans are inferior?
Pam 6 years ago
So I think this stuff is super important and yes, there are definitely times having a dude around has helped BUT...LADIES!!!! We must learn to stand up for ourselves!!!! Stop waiting for a "movement"!!
Merann Bartle 6 years ago
We need to be educated to be able to defend ourselves. Often assault or unwanted attention comes out of the blue and because you’re not expecting it it shocks you so you don’t respond as you should. There’s a reason animals play dead, fight or flight. If we are prepared and have trained for the situation then we can respond accordingly and “lady up” but the response has to be trained. We need self defence taught in physical education classes for girls at middle and high schools. Not just getting out of a physical hold but appropriate verbal responses to shut down the unwanted attention as soon as it manifests. Once you are able to spot it and the response is automatic it would prevent a lot of assaults.
Load More Replies... invisible sheep 6 years ago
I was 17 and worked part-time as a waitress at a local small "family" bar. I got harassed multiple times verbally, thankfully, there was no actual physical harassment, but yes, people tried. The scary thing was, I didn't even realize I was being harassed. I considered those were "over flirting". I remember there was an old frequent customer, probably older than my dad, who was married as well, always tried to flirt with me, but I just ignored him every time, one time he tried to kiss me, saying its "a gift", i pushed him away, telling him he was disgusting. My boss, who was a man, who I always considered a kind and nice person, told me "its just a joke, don't be so harsh"..... I quit the job even though I desperately needed money for my study. But I didn't think of it as anything serious, I only quit because I felt it was too much work for little money, and I had to put up with such annoyance, only when I look back to that time, I realized how f****d up it was.
deanna woods 5 years ago
I may be commenting late, but that really was messed up. That man shouldn't have been bothering you and your boss should have taken it seriously.
Load More Replies... Shari H 6 years ago
I used to have a co-worker that would tell clients to talk to the girl in the office. I asked him to stop referring to me as "the girl" or I would start calling him "the boy". He looked at me with puzzlement and asked: "what should I call you?" and was fully shocked when I said, "you could use my name". I doubt he meant offense, but his cluelessness about why he was wrong is so much worse. In another instance, a male co-worker covered the phones one day while I was out of the office. When I got back he said he preferred working inside on such a rainy day and my boss told him his legs were too hairy for office work. I responded with "You assume I shave my legs", and my co-worker says "He assumes I don't". I've never seen a grown man turn that shade of red before or since.
Edyta Z 6 years ago
* brings back fate in humanity:) (Sorry for that unfinished comment, my dog decided to walk on my phone when I was writing it...)
Load More Replies... Wyndmere 6 years ago
All the above examples are just as bad as a male trying to belittle another male by calling him a woman. That implies that being female is somehow inferior to being male. He insulted his mother, grandmother, sisters, aunts, female cousins, future wife, daughters, daughters-in-law, and his future grand daughters; along with every female on the planet. When God made Adam, He said it was good. When God made Eve, He said it was very good, and He meant that about BOTH of them.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
I don't think any god has made anything, but the start of your post is really good and absolutly correct!
Load More Replies... cybermerlin2000 6 years ago
2 stories come to mind. When I was 18 I took a job at a good classy pub. I saw 2 guys walk in chatting when one of them pinched a girls bum who was sat at the other end of the bar. As I walked towards them I saw my manager heading towards them but even before he got there his friend hit him on the shoulder and spun him to face him, said something that was probably along the lines of "Not cool dude!" before headbutting him. My manager arrived to here in time to hear the offender teary eyed say "I'm sorry for being a d**k" Second I was involved in . I was 23 and lived in a second floor flat when I hear shouting outside. I looked and saw a couple arguing. Suddenly he punched her hard in the stomach! I ran downstairs and did a flying crappy wrestler style kick and he flew into the bushes. I got up and took her hand and limped back to my flat with her in tow. By the time he had got out of the bushes we had got inside. She used my phone to call her dad and he picked her up.
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