We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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Francis
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1 month ago

:'D i am cry laughing right now xD this is great

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#2

Living-With-Woman-Draft When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.

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Francis
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1 month ago

Awwwrr sweet :)

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#3

Living-With-Woman-Draft That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?

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Daria B
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1 month ago (edited)

Yes. Yes, there is. The one and only! ♡ Because, a product, to be mass-produced, it needs to be built within certain norms and patterns, but each woman has different breasts. As a result, it's difficult to find the perfect one, but once you do find it, it becomes precioussssss. Not to mention, these things aren't cheap either. (Waiting for replies of the ladies whose boobs need no support. Respect to you, sisters, but see... just because I don't need braces, I'm not protesting against the dentist industry.)

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#4

Living-With-Woman-Draft I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".

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Daria B
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1 month ago

Exactly!

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#5

Living-With-Woman-Draft I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.

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Francis
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1 month ago

How the f did you live until you met your so? :D

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#6

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yup, I don't wash my hair every time I have a shower.

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#7

Living-With-Woman-Draft If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.

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I I
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1 month ago

yep , when i cook my wife "tidies up" around me , only thing is i still need the things she's putting in the dishwasher

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#8

"Period s**ts."

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Francis
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1 month ago

This needs tobbe higher :D

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#9

Living-With-Woman-Draft Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

I didn’t realise this until my now wife showed me the pockets she had in her wedding dress. She was so excited.

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#10

Living-With-Woman-Draft What home feels like.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

Aw! Sweet ^-^

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#11

When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment

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DKS 001
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1 month ago

I dry off in the shower so there are no wet foot prints outside the shower

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#12

They fart just as much as men.

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Vihra Stancheva
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1 month ago

We are humans. And no... we don't fart rainbows:))

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#13

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.

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Ripley
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1 month ago

Or . . . you know . . . ever

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#14

Living-With-Woman-Draft Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.

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Scagsy
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1 month ago

My wife always says 'Don't buy the pink razors, get the yellow ones please'.

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#15

Living-With-Woman-Draft How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.

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Eva the Egg
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1 month ago

I totally agree! I have sooo many houseplants in my house

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#16

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.

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Francis
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes! My bf had to hang the laundry last week.. he tried. And failed xD had to rehang everything LOL

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#17

If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.

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Linda van der Pal
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1 month ago

I do leave stuff on the stairs, but that's for whoever goes up first to bring along (and yes, that definitely includes myself)

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#18

Living-With-Woman-Draft They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Mine obsession can be any kind of storage including shoe boxes, takeaway containers etc.

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#19

Living-With-Woman-Draft Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

Still looking for that drawer!

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#20

Living-With-Woman-Draft No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

And hairties.buy a pack and you'll have heaps for a few weeks, then back to one somehow.

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#21

Living-With-Woman-Draft Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

It's a superpower

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#22

One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

So true

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#23

Living-With-Woman-Draft An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

😂😂😂😂 I didn't realize until now that I do this very often

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#24

Living-With-Woman-Draft The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

The hair is everywhere!!!

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#25

Living-With-Woman-Draft You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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Brendan
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1 month ago

I thought that a full fridge was more of a 'male' thing. It is for me and my two boys, anyway.

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#26

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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Eva the Egg
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1 month ago

Well yes its fancy so you gotta put in every detail!

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#27

Living-With-Woman-Draft You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

Now I am intrigued and curious to know what you did to find this out!

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#28

Living-With-Woman-Draft I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

Start wearing her clothes and tell her it’s an equal partnership

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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I I
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1 month ago

and its NOT drag CAR race

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#30

Living-With-Woman-Draft I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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A Bringhurst
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1 month ago

Worked out for you, didn’t it?

LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

My boyfriend also tried this. He still has to load the dishwasher. And hang the clothes... And...

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Sophie Greeff
Community Member
1 month ago

Girl here I'm not allowed to load the dishwasher as i do it wrong husband is in charge

Llewella
Community Member
1 month ago

Mom here, my son keeps telling me I load the dishwasher wrong and then corrects it... But I'm the mom, like what the hell

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Jessica Shookhoff
Community Member
1 month ago

That was on purpose

Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

This is another one that I’ve apparently been doing all wrong and my boyfriend does it the correct way lol growing up we never used our dishwasher and just hand washed the dishes so I didn’t know there was specific way of loading the dishwasher until my boyfriend suggested a better way which does make a lot of sense

Brendan
Community Member
1 month ago

It's my job (the husband) to fill the dishwasher because I'm the one who does it right.

Krystine Patterson
Community Member
1 month ago

Who cares, as long as everything is loaded facing down, it'll get clean.

Zophra
Community Member
1 month ago

He COULD be taught...

Gabunya Matata
Community Member
3 weeks ago

my bf loaded it just once ever and did it in a way that i would absolutely hate ( and things were touching lol ) .. he just let me do it my way since xD i like washing them clean before i put them in the dishwasher ( i soap them all up real good and scrub everything off and then just rince them with just a little water, not to waste cuz it loses the purpose of a dishwasher but i feel a need to know they will be 100% clean and nothing will clog the filter)

Jean Thompson
Community Member
1 month ago

clever!

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
1 month ago

my husband is slightly too efficient in loading the dishwasher - things do not get clean because there is no room for the water to reach anything.

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 month ago

I swear men do this intentionally for that very reason. He (occasionally) unloads the dishwasher & I'll find a few items sitting on the counter because he doesn't know where they belong. We've lived here 8 years and NOTHING has changed.

Mer
Community Member
1 month ago

I think that was intentional! lol

W.G. SamKito - bored
Community Member
1 month ago

Considering all these comments, THIS is a serious issue!

Stuart Smith
Community Member
1 month ago

......and the problem is?

Kristof De Smet
Community Member
1 month ago

If my wife loads it, I have to put a lot of things back in it, or wash them by hand, because they are so close to eachother, they don't get washed properly.

skool gurly
Community Member
1 month ago

i don't know anybody who uses their dishwasher except 1/ as a drying rack 2/ occasionally to kill bacteria in sponges, loofahs etc

Thunder_Python_88
Community Member
1 month ago

Nice strategy. Do it wrong and you won’t have to do it.

Jim Day
Community Member
1 month ago

Well played, Tom Sawyer

Billy Maguire
Community Member
1 month ago

I learned to do that YEARS ago with gardening - LOL !!!

Berlinda Dunbar-Nye
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband, since retiring, thinks he needs to reload our dishwasher.....go for it hun

Julie C Rose
Community Member
1 month ago

With the kind of schedule I might go back to after the borders reopen, I honestly DGAF. If someone takes a load off me and it doesn’t result in me having to clean up the results of poor execution, they’re most welcome to do it differently from me.

danielw
Community Member
1 month ago

If loading the dishwasher "Efficiently" means filling every nook cranny and gap... then you're overloading it, and it's actually less efficient. there's a balance there. Also, it may not be efficient, but I tend to run it more frequently rather than waiting for it to get full. we don't have a gazillion spatulas and I use them pretty much every time I'm cooking.

Robert Thompson
Community Member
1 month ago

Quite the opposite around here. She doesn't like the way I do dishes, so I do them. That sounds like spite. It is more about me not telling her how I would have her do them.

John Otruba
Community Member
1 month ago

Loading no problem here it is the unloading we loathe!!

John Otruba
Community Member
1 month ago

No one minds the loading of the dishwasher in my house. It is a battle to get it UNloaded!!

Curry on...
Community Member
1 month ago

Any woman my son dates only needs to ask me what he was taught to do.

Suzanne Clark
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband can fill up, actually fill up, the dishwasher only using 4 plates, 2 bowls, and a 3 glasses. Yes, I reload.

Jojo Dancer
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1 month ago

Grown up Tetris

Sofia Monteiro
Community Member
1 month ago

Me and my husband we simply don't discuss this and don't peak when it's the others turn to load the dishwasher... We're so different at it!

Linda Williams
Community Member
1 month ago

This can work both ways. I'm a woman and according to my boyfriend I'm always doing it the wrong way.

John C
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm twitching at the wooden utensils I see in that dishwasher.

Shoddy
Community Member
1 month ago

Is that on purpose?

Corey Brown
Community Member
1 month ago

Well done!!

Tim Haight
Community Member
1 month ago

I load the diswasher. I do it the right way and everything comes out clean.

Jods
Community Member
1 month ago

Is it prongs upwards or down?

Easily Excitable Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

But learning to do it properly will be a real turn-on. Trust me on this.

Peter Bear
Community Member
1 month ago

My wife loads it and I unload it. Equal distribution of work, and everyone's satisfied.

Oskar vanZandt
Community Member
1 month ago

Yup. Only my mother knows how to load a dishwasher correctly... all her adult children know nothing.

Pernille Dyre
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

😂😂😂 You play Tetris in the dishwasher... you have to pass the levels...

Mojones
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm sure that MY way of loading is way better! I wonder when we find consent in this. We haven't in the last decades... but I will stand my ground!

Gabby M
Community Member
1 month ago

Dishwashers I can handle I wasn't allowed to food shop. Imagine my horror and disappointment at this news after having 3 kids lol

Guido Pisano
Community Member
1 month ago

so it's not just me

Seabeast
Community Member
1 month ago

Nope, in our place, he'd the dishwasher loading expert.

Son of Philosoraptor
Community Member
1 month ago

I had to take the loading privilege away from my wife. I load like a 3D "15 puzzle," super tight and efficient. She loads like she's putting socks in the hamper.

Nikki Sevven
Community Member
1 month ago

Just think of it as a 3D game of Tetris.

Bobby
Community Member
1 month ago

My wife is too efficient. There isn't space between the dishes for the water to jet onto. Just split the load or do those last few by hand baby, just wasting water and time when everything is in there too tight!

Lisa Yario
Community Member
1 month ago

But does it come out clean? Who really cares how they are loaded if they are clean ? When my husband empties the dw the things that are in a little stack on the counter are things that he doesn't know where they belong. He tried to put all of them away and hid them from me. Take your dw energy and save it. Don't sweat the small stuff. You're going to need it later when you fight over the remote.

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I I
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1 month ago

Snap , apparently there's a certain way that works best , she won't tell me it , i just got to figure it out i guess

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#31

Living-With-Woman-Draft I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

You do this so you don't need to unclog your shower weekly. But you don't leave it on the wall, it should be binned before you leave the bathroom

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#32

Living-With-Woman-Draft That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yes there can. I am not a fan of throws and cushions. Not my thing.

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#33

Living-With-Woman-Draft That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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Dark Pigeon
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1 month ago

Well yes, the lotion or moisturizer goes on the skin. Or you get the hoze again

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#34

Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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Marianne
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1 month ago

That's true for any new person in your house, not just women. :)

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#35

Living-With-Woman-Draft The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

Because we just neeeeeed more space

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#36

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

Really?

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#37

No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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Karen Joy Nesheim
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1 month ago

Try owning a cat! 🤣

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#38

Living-With-Woman-Draft To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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Mary Veltri
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1 month ago

Imagine! Lol

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#39

Living-With-Woman-Draft When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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Materyst
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm a long haired woman and have never heard of this

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#40

Living-With-Woman-Draft They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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Jessica Aubé
Community Member
1 month ago

Ya so ... let’s not generalize woman ... some woman are clean freaks others are in the middle and others are the opposite ... this is not a female trait .. this is a human being trait ... please stop putting woman in charge of cleaning and making them feel like if they don’t keep their house spotless there’s something wrong with them

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