50 Pieces Of Common Knowledge People Admit To Learning Embarrassingly Late In Life
We tend to have an idea of the various things we should know about, taxes, death, and simple math, but we are burdened with the knowledge that we are supposed to know it by a certain age. Out of embarrassment, we just don’t let on that we aren’t sure about something, as at that point we are too afraid to ask.
One internet user wanted to learn what others only realized way too late in life. The lessons ranged from practical to juvenile to poignant, so make sure to upvote your favorites and comment your own experiences as you scroll through. And take notes in case some of these are relevant to your own life.
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Hr is there to protect the company, not you. Hr is not your friend.
I understand where they’re coming from but I do think HR can support you. I had a really awful situation at work happen and I went under investigation (we had an investigation department) but I hadn’t done anything wrong at all. I went to HR. HR did their own investigation that resulted in the head of the investigation department “deciding to leave”. I think HR is a tool within an organization to keep things in check. Yes, the company is probably their first priority but HR aren’t heartless people.
HR will support you as long as your interests align with the companies interest. As soon as those interests diverge, you're on your own.
Load More Replies...As a person in HR this is not true for all HR. We are there to not only mitigate the risk for the business but to also insure the experience of the employee is woven in every decision we make. I know a lot of HR who work for small businesses who advice management to do better and they don’t listen, Not saying all HR is competent but to say we are all bad is like saying all men are… or all women are.. or….
Protecting the company often means protecting your employees at work. It's cheaper to fix problems than fight lawsuits from disgruntled employees. This sentiment comes from people never actually using HR to fix an issue at work and going off people saying HR doesn't care.
Also these same people think protecting the company is the same as siding with the manager... As if the HR had any reason to treat a random middle manager differently than any other employee
Load More Replies...This is more HR managers, I worked as a HR assistant/minion and I did try to help people
There are plenty of good people in HR, sometimes the company makes it difficult, sometimes people do. I've met loads of good and bad people in HR positions, the good ones always seem to be the ones that understanding that helping people IS helping the company.
Load More Replies...No one at work is your friend. Employers don't care about your off work priorities. In fact, managers/HR will dictate when you can and can't schedule appointments and important events. It's up to you if you want to comply or not, but your decision will determine if you still have a job or not, and employers pay so low on purpose so you're too poor to just quit.
I am HR, CEO, accounts and the workforce I am also self employed thank god.
In Europe it will cost three times asmi h to replace someone than to retain. It really depends in law and regulation of the country you are in. This sounds like a US problem.
My daughter was once yelled at by a manager (not hers) I front of a client, and told to leave and never come back, so she left. The next day she was called into HR and told she was fine, the client (and a couple of co-workers) had complained about the manager's behaviour. 3 weeks later at the managers Christmas Party he followed the General Manager upstairs, lifted her skirt and pinched her bottom. He is now blacklisted in the business.
There's no such thing as "feeling like an adult" I'm 34 and still forget I'm an adult sometimes lol
Eating Cap'n Crunch and watching Looney Toons on YouTube while the grandkids are asleep in the other room. Yep, I'm the adult.
I f*****g love Looney Toons, the reboots never had the same magic as the original series did, in my opinion. Long live the legacy of Mel Blanc, “The man of a thousand voices”. 🙏 A Legend
Load More Replies...I turn 70 today - and forgetting I'm an adult is a daily goal. :)
I'm 43 and I'm wearing socks that look like cats' paws. I have several pairs, in various colors and patterns (calico, gray tabby, etc). Otherwise, I generally pretend to be an adult.
Often times I do feel like me and my daughter are sisters since she's an adult now. We're watching Sailor Moon right now and discussing our theories on the whole show.
Same, I’m turning 32. I feel like I’m 21 tops 90% of the time!
That my height shapes how people perceive what I say. I'm a 6'4 male with a deep voice. I learned it at 40 when I had a boss who was 6'6. I was suddenly aware of my own height and the power position, looking up to him. I realized pretty much everyone is looking up at me, and I began smiling more and asking people questions about themselves to reduce the power implications of my height.
Being tall is SUCH AN ASSET. You're always imbued with authority and "power." I'm 5'11" and didn't realize this completely until I was in my mid-30s.
It really is. I'm constantly having to tell people I'm not an assistant or paralegal, have been so for 15 years and that I'm 46. Only after all of things are addressed does anyone listen.
Load More Replies...I'm short, 5'-2". No one listens to me unless I'm wearing ridiculously high heels and then only sporadically.
Somehow that`s how peoples minds work - Tallness equals respect
Load More Replies...Soooo… watch the people in power of below average height. It wasn’t their height that got them there - they may be brilliant, skilled, innovative, insightful, kind, charismatic (or occasionally conniving) - but they certainly have something a lot above average. These are good people to align with.
My boss is close to 5'7". Anyone his height or shorter, he treats like dung. Anyone taller than him, he treats like royalty.
But notice, extraordinarily beautiful people are extraordinarily dull. They ve never had to develop social skills.
Load More Replies...As someone who is 4'9'', this is part of why I work with young children.
I’m 5’2” and have a “sweet” voice. No one takes me seriously
Not knowing something can be embarrassing. Particularly when we know that we are sort of supposed to know it already. Depending on your age, you have perhaps had that feeling of still being a child “faking it” in an adult world, despite being in your mid-twenties. It’s simultaneously relieving and unnerving that most people in the developed world do not actually feel like adults until they are 29. It’s almost like we become adults at 18 and then need a decade testing it to decide if it’s a good fit.
So even if all of one's peers still feel like overgrown children, people still suspect that most are just well-adjusted, and competent and know that pickles are just cucumbers. Or that doves are just white pigeons, which is so deeply shocking that those city trash birds and the symbol of peace are one and the same. But the bottom line is that we tend to project competence to others while overestimating it in them.
That we should shake the CEO's hand with the exact same enthusiasm and firmness as the janitors hand.
The janitor deserves a handshake of any kind more than the CEO does because the janitor actually busts their a*s WORKING compared to a suit sitting behind a desk all day counting money they got up their wazoo
You know, not all CEOs are like in the cartoons you watch.
Load More Replies...In many workplaces, the janitor is the real MVP. Who opens doors when you've locked yourself out? Who empties your trash and keeps the place clean and tidy? Who fixes broken stuff? Who knows almost everything that's going on in the building? Yup. Be nice to the janitor.
I always try to thank the help/janitors for all that they do.
Don't get this one at all? Do some folks really change their handshake grip depending on whose hand they're shaking?
It's about power and respect. Some people will give an overly aggressive tight handshake to show they are the dominant party, while others (better, nicer people) will not attempt to turn your knuckles into powder. Does it help to swap out handshake for "we should hold the door open with the same smile for the janitor as we do the CEO". People do change up their behaviour depending on where they see the other person in terms of the social (and economic) heirarchy.
Load More Replies...Haha, reminds of a suit trying to shake my hand. I use a hammer all day. Guess what my grip like
the CEO might be arrogant and rich, but that is the person taking all the risks. if a bad decision causes a lawsuit or a huge money loss, if the firm closes and all including you and the janitor lose their jobs, it's on the CEO.
That I don't have to become a mother if I don't want to.
"I don't have to become a mother if I don't want to" odd choice of picture... So that woman must be going to release her kid into the woods after coming to that conclusion
And I don't have to give birth to a biological child. Choosing to adopt a child doesn't make me less of a mother.
Yes definitely! Is that a thing that people actually judge others for?
Load More Replies...I'd be an awful and probably neglectful parent, so it's probably best I don't have kids :)
My grandmother had a clock that would break if anyone touched or tried to move it. I always found that curious. Then some time in my 30s my wife and I were talking and it came up. I was wondering how they moved it out of their house after they passed. As I was explaining “… I think it must have had some delicately balanced mechanism or something that would be disrupted if moved…” my wife’s face made me quickly realize it was just a lie told to young me to keep my dirty clumsy hands off of it. Also, I’m an engineer.
My mom would not let us use the washer or dryer because "they're hanging by a thread". I'm still amused by her delusion that we were just itching to do laundry.
If you move it you cause a fissure in the space-time continuum and as a result you will never have been born
But if you never were born you could never have touched the clock, and never have caused the fissure causing you not to be born, thus causing a paradox.
Load More Replies...My grandma got her first indoor bathroom in the late 70s, it was common in East London to have an outside toilet, she told me there was a huge mouse in the new bathroom so I'd be scared to use it, I believed this for years.
Before I finished reading, my mind went in a dark direction…the very fragile clock was a representation of the grandmother’s very fragile home life. She could not move or let anyone enter into her life or her home life will break down and everyone will see how broken it really was. I may have issues to deal with.
You were right, we inherited a semi perpetual motion 365 day Anniversary clock from my husband’s grandfather. They were popular wedding/anniversary gifts in the 50’s. Once it is set if you touch it or try to move it, it messes up the delicate spinning pendulum, thus slowing time and eventually stopping. It actually came with a few specialty pieces to “lock” it for travel. We have it on a high shelf at our house and no one is allowed to touch it (except to wind it once a year)
My great-aunt had a clock that stopped working when she died. My Mum got it fixed. It stopped working when she died. When my other great-aunt got rushed into hospital the clock struck thirteen. I've had it mended and cleaned after it wouldn't stop striking one day but now it won't chime more than once for each hour and keeps stopping...
I was told by some of my Norwegian grandparents that there was a way to open their garage door by saying a specific phrase. It took a couple years for me to grow out of it.
Many of the examples are simply the age-old issue of hearing a word or phrase before reading it or vice versa. "Piqued my interest," for example, is correct, not "peaked." One would be forgiven for thinking it’s peaked, because in what other circumstances is someone saying piqued? Like many of the annoying parts of the English language, French is to blame. Piqued is simply a rendition of “pique,” meaning irritate or prick in French. From the outside, it seems silly to be judgmental towards a person for confusing a common word for a rare, foreign construction in an idiom.
1. Everyone is just f*cking winging it.
2. “The rules” do not apply evenly.
3. Everyone around you will always prioritize their needs first, regardless of any verbal assurance to the contrary.
I have to disagree about number three. Parents put their children's needs first almost 100% of the time.
Going by stories I read on this website, on twitter, on facebook, in the news etc, it's not anywhere close to 100%.
Load More Replies...Disagree with number 3, some people that were abused as children will feel and act everybody else needs are more important than their own. Same for a lot women, who were told that needs of family members are more important than their own
The point is that if someone has no choice but to attend to your needs because of their mental damage, they're not doing it for your sake, they're doing it for theirs. They are defending themselves against pain by acting as if they were selfless. If they have no choice in the matter then there's no free will and they are prioritising their need to feel safe.
Load More Replies...I can agree with the third one from where I used to work. Management would call select people together to work on a major project together. It would be all planned out & then the next order of business they had a bunch of immediate needs. Then they tell you that all of this will be done without any budget, support, & in addition to your already pressing work. Since we already got blamed for everything, we never bothered to any of what they wanted. Yes, we all failed, too effin' bad.
We all do prioritize our own needs but there are some times we have a need to give selflessly to those we love. It's a pretty nice feeling
That just because two people are in love doesn't mean they should be together
This. 110%. I never really believed in "the one"... Until I did. Things have happened that have caused me to lose a lot of respect and trust for them. I still love them, I miss them. I still talk to them and end most conversations frustrated by their obtuseness. My partner now, was sort of a slow burn. I knew him in High School. He got back in touch 3 years ago and been together for two. His attitude and manner, respect and trust in me. Is astounding. Love can absolutely be earned along with those things. And it becomes something stronger than giddy love that runs out.
Load More Replies...You can love someone deeply, but not like them. I had a young man I was engaged to in college that I adored. He made me laugh and we loved to do the same things together. But I didn't like how his friends were so judgemental/verbally abusive. But he CHOSE those friends. He also was not supportive of me taking medication for mental heath. One of the hardest decisions of my life to end our relationship, but well worth it in the end.
My grandpa used to say "all my dreams have to turned to dust. What I thought was love was only lust".
UPVOTE, UPVOTE, and upvote! There was a really good book that I read that changed my perception about the word "love" forever. A quote from it that always stayed with me was "sometimes the person who accompanies you to the end isn't necessarily the one you love the most, but the one who's most suitable for you."
Load More Replies...And just because they are both awesome individuals, doesn't mean they are compatible.
Anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship will understand this one...
Trying to treat myself as I would others.
The ol' reverse golden-rule
That reminds me of the time when in fourth grade we got a list of the names of everyone in the class and were told to circle the names of the people we worked well with double circle the names of the people we worked best with and put a jagged circle around the names of the people we did not work well with (this was for the purpose of assigning groups) well a few minutes after I turned mine in the teacher called me over to talk about it since I’d put a jagged circle around my own name… my logic “the person who is the meanest to me and the person who gets in the way of my success the most is myself” the teacher was like “very philosophical but you still have to be in your own group”
Load More Replies...This post is so fair like there was a time in my life where if I treated people the way I treated myself I would go around telling people they had no right to exist and then get jailed for assault. (Note I’ve already had therapy and I’m much better thankfully but COVID was a hard time period for me as a nerdy undiagnosed autistic kid who was also dealing with questioning their gender identity in the south of the United States)
A few years ago, I heard a similar version of this: “If you wouldn’t say or think something about your best friend, don’t say or think it about yourself.” This has really changed my outlook and the negative self-talk and my negative body image has changed a LOT! Be a good friend to yourself!!
Others shared deeper, more personal experiences. From relationships to self-worth, life is the only effective teacher. Many people end up staying in bad, toxic relationships, whether with a partner or just a bad friend group, for longer than they should, even when they recognize the toxicity of the situation. People only know what they know, which is endlessly circular logic and redundant, but remains ultimately true. If a person doesn’t know any better, they will continue to be around people who are just bad for them, since self-worth isn’t really a class one can take at school.
you know metal? that genre of music that's loud and yelly? it's called metal because it's harder than rock
I always heard the term came from born to be wild, the line "heavy metal thunder"
Ironically rocks are often harder than metals. Thus the reason you can use rocks to sharpen metal and not just cut away at the rock. Though it depends on the rock and metal in question.
Next you'll tell me it's not called pop because too much of it will make you feel sick.
Load More Replies...Not true. Until the 1990s, one rarely spoke of "metal" without "heavy." It's the weight that's most significant. "Heavy metal" referred to power of steel, as in "heavy metal thunder" from Steppenwolf, which referred to the singer's motorcycle, which in turn yielded a sense of freedom, but also a sense of purpose, as the music appealed also to workers in "heavy" industries who were building the future. For instance, Black Sabbath's Tommi Iomi, whose unique style was attributed to adapting to losing his finger to a hundreds-tons industrial equipment.
Kinda. Tony lost his fingertips in a press, and due to his fake fingertips had to start using banjo strings on his guitar, giving a 'heavier, more metallic sound'. Which is why he's officially credited with inventing Heavy Metal. (Source, he's one of my mates dad's oldest friends).
Load More Replies...That I'm an introvert and shouldn't try to replicate the lives of the extroverts around me. Also, I'm nowhere near as booksmart as I thought I was.
I struggle with that first part too. Not so much the second part as the mistakes I have made in my life have taught me that I'm not that smart.
Come on, man. Think about it. There's something that you can do better than anyone else in the world. What is it?
Load More Replies...Being above average is not nearly as great as many might think. First, relating to Dunning Kruger effect, you become aware of how much you DON'T know, which makes you hesitate to speak up when you could. Second, the only people to genuinely understand you are proportionately less frequent to encounter. This leads to the third point, finding a loving life partner means either accepting those who can accept YOU, or simply being lonely. Pets really help.
Smartness is more like a pattern, it is fully possible to be smart yet incredibly dum. I once lost an intercontinental flight because I had forgotten to empty my camera's files to the computer, and then left quite late, only realizing on the airport train that I never even checked the time of the flight, just assumed. It was bitter tears when I pulled out my credit card at the airport (had to pay 800 euros from my student budget). Or smartness can be blocked because something's difficult for you. I myself work in a highly educated job yet I have been anxious for years because writing is so hard for me, and only now have I realized that it's because I'm constantly afraid of doing things wrong and therefore feel like I need to make it perfect. This made me almost change career but now I can think about it more healthily (focusing on what the value is in what I do)
You might be neurodivergent. What you're describing is very common among people who are Neurodivergent.
Load More Replies...A lady Named Susan Cain wrote a book called: Quiet subtitled "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" The title grabbed me, and it changed my outlook on a number of things. Introverts have been getting the short end for ever.
Introvert who has learned to fake being social for short periods of time. Then I need to recharge. I am actually more knowledgeable than most. Trivial pursuit? Any edition, I fill all the pieces but the pink on the first question every time - pink is arts and entertainment. Go figure. I also use the phrase - I don't know - scary eh?
This list was supposed to be about common knowledge that you learned. But this example seems rather specific to you.
The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits. A. Einstein
I learned that other people's opinions of me don't matter. MY opinion of me matters, and since I hold myself to an exceptionally high standard....I'M AWESOME!!
I'm nearly fifty and have finally come to the realization that I don't need to stand on my head to please any toxic people in my life. It's been liberating!!
I'd phrase it slightly differently, that certain other people's opinions of me matter less than mine. I think the opinions of significant people obviously DO matter - your parents, spouse, kids etc. But random strangers? Not so much.
That's the attittude! I always say I'm the best and the most beautiful woman in the world. If others don't think the same, not my problem.
I keep having problems with kids who are plain ordinary but consider themselves awesome. *sighs*
Similar to the ignorance about pickles or thinking that one has to buy shoes and clothes to grow into as an adult, many people also feel embarrassed to admit that they are in a toxic relationship or friendship. We see our social circle as a reflection of ourselves, so admitting that they might be bad feels like telling everyone how dumb we are. Embarrassment is a particularly bad teacher since studies show that it doesn’t even create a drive to avoid similar behavior in the future. So it’s mostly your brain making you feel bad but refusing to build something useful out of it. The one upside is that embarrassment means you are more or less mentally normal, as a lack of embarrassment is a sign of psychopathy.
That treating people with respect and being honest are not mutually exclusive
Yes. Those 'brutally honest' people are just plain rude. There's no justifying being an a*****e.
Granted, but at the same time, the truth does sometimes sting, and lying to cushion someone's feelings can ultimately be more harmful.
Load More Replies...I lived all over the world from the age of 9 months. Lived among lots of different cultures, learned a lot from a lot of people. As I grew older, I interviewed people in prisons as well as talked to people from the Royal Press Office arranging royal visits. The only difference between all of them was the way they spoke. I didn't care what their background was, what color they were, what religion, how rich, how poor, what gender, what education level, none of it mattered to me. I was brought up to respect everyone and that's how I live my life. If it's taught early enough, it stays with you. Having said that, when someone is mean or evil, then all bets are off.
You can be brutally honest but it doesn't always have to be said out loud. If it is something that will help the other person learn from it, yes. But if it is something that is your personal opinion like you don't like their clothes for example then no.
As a nurse, I found that treating the rottenest patient or their families would most of the time get them to trust you & work with you. Some of the grumpiest, most hostile people warmed up after a while. However, there are those who remain natural born a-holes.
I have been a conflict management trainer and I used to teach people to replace "brutal honesty" with what I called "tactful truth". You can speak honestly about even difficult, personal things; just make the effort to leave everyone's dignity intact.
A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent.
Yeah. One of the hardest things for me after being diagnosed autistic is the way a lot of people in online communities tend to be more "brutally honest" than neurotypical people. I realize that can be a part of autism as you may not be able to recognize that something is rude, but I recently saw a discussion where a person claimed that it was better to tell someone that their clothes look horrible than to not do that. When told that there's really no burning reason to share that with someone, and that if the need is truly there it can be done much more gently, the person claimed that saying it directly is more kind and that they'd rather know than not. This aspect of autism has always really bothered me. While I understand that honesty is often more important to neurodivergent people than trying to be kind, and that the way to be kind often isn't obvious, it really does seem sometimes like no effort is being made and that autism is being used as a reason.
I try to go the "hmmmm that outfit/part of outfit looks ok but do you have the X handy? That really makes your complexion glow/eyes sparkle. You would look even more amazing in that today"
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Who I am is more important than how I look.
Let's preach body neutrality. It's a vessel to carry who you are as a person. Take care of it, but the way it looks doesn't define you as a person. You shouldn't have to be beautiful to recieve respect and kindness
Sadly nobody is capable of looking at one's soul instead of the book jacket.
Load More Replies...Hahahahaha .... no ..... some of use are just handsome 😉
Load More Replies...One of my college classes was on professional etiquette and the subject of professional dress came up. Basically it went that you need to wear business professional wear and that tattoos were unacceptable blah blah blah. I brought up two people: Bernie Madoff who wore fine suits and clothing and swindled people out of billions of dollars. Then I brought up Matthew Taylor, a NASA engineer who successfully landed a prove on an asteroid. Matt's picture post mission was him in a NASA polo with his tattooed sleeved arms exposed. Matt got more emails and letters about how he should be ashamed of showing his tattooed and how they were unprofessional. In my paper on business etiquette, I compared and contrasted those two people and argued that I'd rather have someone with tattoos "who looked unprofessional" than someone who cares about their appearance more than anything. I even commented that just because they are in a suit doesn't make them good or professional, but it's how you act.
The thing is, that example proves the professors point. Perception is everything. If you're in a professional environment people expect you to look professional. And if you don't well the assumption is immediately that you're not as skilled, you're a slacker and shouldn't be there etc. The fun thing is this works both directions. If you were at the beach and you see someone sunbathing in a 3 piece business suit you're going to think they're weird too. Or at a casual gathering where everyone is in t-shirts and shorts. The reality is that humans are very good at identifying "the thing that is different" and then we make an (often wrong) assumption that it's bad.
Load More Replies...Don’t kid yourself, image is something. It’s just not everything. Think that people don’t respond to image and you disadvantage yourself.
A gorgeous person with low personable traits and little good personality will only be tolerated for so long until someone with looks AND good character traits comes along. That also depends on the job field or where you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Cultural influences plays a part, too. Most people are average looking, as the saying goes, and get by just fine because of how they grow as a person on the inside.
This post reminded me of a quote so I thought I'd share. "I am my own person, and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm." -Elizabeth Gracely
Knowing who you are is also much more useful than knowing how you look. And which one suddenly means nothing when the lights go out?
I got a good one! I grew up and Brooklyn, New York. Believe it or not I never knew j walking was a thing. So when I was in my 20’s I ended up in Hawaii thanks to the military. I was crossing Kalākaua Ave in the middle of the street and two cops started yelling at me. They were yelling at me about j walking and I thought they were messing with me. I started laughing and told them that not real. One of them got real mad and wanted to detain me but his partner was like “ where you from? “ I told them Brooklyn and they both started laughing and explained to me that the rest of the U.S. has this thing called j walking. 😂😂 I felt pretty silly afterwards not knowing a pretty common law.
I used to think jaywalking was actually walking in the shape of a J when you crossed the street.
When I was little I thought jaywalking was a version of Ewoks from Star Wars like J-walks and E-walks
Load More Replies...Only the US. In Europe they trust adults to look both ways before crossing the street... wherever they feel like it. Cars are required to stop at zebra-stripe crossings, but anyone can actually cross anywhere. It's not illegal.
Not just the US. Also it's actually not really enforced throughout the US. Most of us Americans still jwalk.
Load More Replies...J walking is a remnant of jim crow era laws and was made specifically to harass and arrest minorities similar to vagrancy/loitering laws
The term "jay" comes from that, yes. Jaywalking is a term automakers came up with so the general public would blame accidents on pedestrians, rather than the cars that hit them.
Load More Replies...People walking have the right of way in the uk. Definitely a friendlier approach to those in two feet.
We actually made jaywalking illegal in the early eighties, but since the police recognised that it was a stupid and unenforceable law it's lapsed into desuetude.
Load More Replies...So , in the US you can’t just cross a street? Do you have to look for a crossing?
Not on every street, but major roads in cities/towns usually have crosswalks at every intersection and some places do have laws that technically require you to use them. It's really only a factor in high traffic, mostly urban areas, supposedly for the safety of pedestrians.
Load More Replies...This EXACT thing happened to me on the same street!!! Or maybe it was Kuhio. Oh. I'm from Brooklyn too!!
I remember it made all the NY Newspapers when several years ago the police ticketed a man for J walking in Brooklyn (it is officially on the books in NYC, but never enforced), the ticket was thrown out. But it literally was a full page article in the NY Post, Daily News, and front page of the Metro section in the NY Times. That is how big the news was
And this is why common sense does not exist: what's common in one culture/area is not common in another
Common sense = what the majority thinks is a good idea.... ..... Good sense = what actually is a good idea .... Don't reach for anything that fell into the deep fryer.
Load More Replies...Essentially not using defined pedestrian crosswalks or walkways and therefore being a risk to yourself and automotive traffic.
Load More Replies...You can also take heart in the knowledge that, well, knowledge is growing a lot faster than any of us can actually process it. In the English language alone, there are between 500’000 and 1’000’000 books published every year. Even at the lowest estimate, you would need to read 1369.86 books a day to keep up. This equals roughly 57 books an hour. Even the most prolific Goodreads liars are not likely to think that is possible. More importantly, no one around you is reading 57 books an hour, much less just one. And if you want to read what embarrassingly obvious things others learned late in life, check out our other articles here and here.
The adults in my life never had it figured out either, they just made it seem like that to a kid.
You could live to be 100 and you’ll still have more to learn, more to experience, and more to figure out. It’s a never ending process. It’s only to help us though, that’s how I see it. 🤷🏻♂️
"the moment you stop learning, you start dying,' - Albert Einstein (only quote I can ever remember)
Load More Replies...As a child, I noticed that adults and children made decisions equally well. The difference was that adults got to make them.
You will always be hoping a more adult adult is going to be around to help even when you're the oldest adult in the room by decades lol.
I'm 50 and still haven't figured it out. Just yesterday, when talking to a friend I realised that none of us do. We think others are to sure of themselves but the truth is those we look at and seem to be so happy and self assured have a ton of insecurities. Heck, I have a s**t load of insecuries and she thought I am all fine and dandy.
Stop expecting things to be fair
My first experience with racism occurred when I was a 5yo at a small Catholic school. My best friend, Renée, was black. Some kids called her a word I didn't know, and she started crying. Our dads arrived to pick us up, so I asked my dad about it. He told me they were picking on her because of the color of her skin, which I thought was stupid. When I asked why her skin was brown, my legendary dad said, "Because her parents have brown skin." Made sense to me. I never understood racism. Still don't, and I'm 58yo. (And both our dads spoke with the principal, and there were consequences.)
Load More Replies...Like parking fines for example, for the rich it's a minimal cost for parking wherever they like, for the poorer it can be the choice of paying the fine or eating for the next month.
I'm really strugling with this rn. I hate unfairness, I always have. I started to realise (even tho my mom told me long time ago) that life just isn't fair and it never will be. I hate that I can't control it and that the world isn't some beautiful utopia where everyone can be happy.
I've always explained to my kids that life isn't fair and that we can't control other people or what happens to us. What we can always control, though, is how we react to the world. I say if you're struggling with this, find your agency - get out there and do whatever you can, big or small, to change it. And encourage others to do the same.
Load More Replies...If life was fair, we would not be aware of "fairness" any more than fish are aware of water.
I watched a show on the Kavanaugh senate confirmations just last night that reminded me that “sometimes the bad guy wins”. Trump had a list of 25 potential judge picks and literally just chose one at random. There were lots of other conservative judges to choose from. But we picked the guy that scream-cried at his confirmation just to ‘own the libs’. So messed up that we have terrible people in power across all sectors of government.
ESPECIALLY the Supreme Court! What a stacked crock of s**t!
Load More Replies...I hate when people cry & scream "That's not fair!". Seriously? Who raised you into thinking life would be fair. They raised you to be depressed & miserable all of your life then.
Even ifYOU do everything right, and make all good choices, it's STILL not fair.
Idk about this one. If you stop expecting things to be fair, you either develop a chip on your shoulder, or you stop calling people out on their bs and just seethe internally. Developing a chip on your shoulder. You should definitely expect things to be fair - within reason.
If you come from a poor family, you have to work x3 as hard to get ahead.
In the US you have less than a 1% chance to become rich. But for some reason (mostly lies told to the poor by the rich) people think that getting rich is easy.
Your odds greatly increase in your favor if you're willing to put in the time, discipline and effort it takes to become rich. Most are unwilling to do so.
Load More Replies...This assumes life will let you get ahead, all those BS motivational posters aside, we do not create opportunities like that. Social networking is currently the best means to advance, as people may choose to give you an opportunity they control, rather than a stranger they don't know. This really was a bad thing in my case, as my social skills were very poor.
Not true, my social skills suck, orphaned at a young age, relied on church meals because we were broke. Fast forward and I worked hard, have bought multiple properties and 2 businesses. Nothing handed to me on a silver platter. Stop acting like a victim and you’ll go far in life.
Load More Replies...Oh boy is this true, and then being treated as though there was something wrong with you, instead of society.
Frankly, it doesn't matter how hard you work. There's good evidence that, on average, escaping poverty requires almost 20 years of nothing going seriously wrong - no large medical bills or sudden car replacements or work layoffs. 20 years of almost impossible good luck, and you *might* make it into the middle class.
But very important not to have a victim mentality or you’ll become a broken and angry old person……..
Being told your whole life that you need to pull yourself up by your boot straps and if you are poor it's your own fault for not working hard enough makes people into broken and angry too.
Load More Replies...That the housework can wait awhile. To sit and enjoy the dinner I just cooked with my family. The dishes will still be there when I get to them, they ain't going anywhere lol
Hold on, why the hell are you doing the dishes if you cooked the dinner. What kind of 1950s dystopia are you living in?
If you are cooking then why are you cleaning also? I’m my house those that cook do not do the dishes
Better yet- if you spent time and energy prepping the meal, have your kids or partner clean the dishes. That’s what’s fair and teaches a valuable habit to your kids.
Clean as you go, you don’t need to leave a huge mess in the kitchen whenever you create a meal.
the pans used. I want to spend time with the people around my table, not at my kitchen sink. Whatever's left can wait an hour or so.
That there are no guarantees, you may never find love, tragedy may befall you, you may not win, you may die alone.
One does not negate the other, but hope can defeat the despair some people feel from the possibilities in the comment. Keep that optimism, it's precious
Load More Replies...I read once, “you could do every damn thing right, every damn time and still fail.” 😓
Hope is a demon that keeps you struggling for that miraculous person, job, whatever that will make you magically happy. Find peace & joy in what you have, even if alone, poor & sick. Life still has beautiful moments: a sunset, a pet, a good book, a song that makes your heart soar. Find yours each day.
Truly. It's up to each of us individually to celebrate the moments we have had, even those moments now painted with loss and longing, and to find purpose in the moments we have remaining. I lost the most important person in my world, it was sudden and without warning. I choose now to live for him, to enjoy all the things we had hoped for in memory of him. I choose to make it my purpose to finish the novel I've been working on, to weave our story into the fabric of fiction so that we may live forever.
I understand how you feel, i pray you get to achieve those dreams ...
Load More Replies...I have found love. Been thru many tragedies, each one making me a stronger person, I have won & lost many times, & when I die, I'm really not going to care how I died.
I'm 46 & once I finally accepted I was ugly, fat, and sickly it was easier to accept I'd never find love.
On a more serious note. I learned way too late that sometimes I was the bad guy. I was raised in a house where everyone was so defensive. Nothing was ever anyone’s fault. I still jump on the defense with my husband now. After some bad decisions and burned bridges I realized that not everyone is willing to overlook you doing something wrong if all you do is say it’s not your fault. You are sometimes the bad guy in someone’s story. I find it really difficult to deal with my family after realizing this. But hey ho.
I had to learn to argue properly in relationships as an adult. I had to switch the mindset from trying to win the argument and make them agree with me to trying to resolve the conflict and move forward together.
Same. At the age of 37 and some counseling it cliqued
Load More Replies...Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Order (DARVO). The classic tool of narcissists/sociopaths. Once you start looking out for it, you can never unsee it. It's great you're self-aware enough to notice and that's proof that you haven't inherited the narcissism that seems to be prevalent in your family. Go you!
Accepting that I'm the bad guy in someone else's story has helped me realize that not everyone needs to like me. I ended up becoming the villain in my former best friend's story and vice versa.
And apologizing correctly is critical. Never, repeat, never say "I'm sorry but...". Always just, "I'm sorry".
Load More Replies...Yup. I had some a*****e years, for sure. I got my head out of my a*s and I try really hard to be good, though. Do no harm but take no s**t. It's incredibly important to know that people CAN change. I was raised by a racist bigot and some of it rubbed off on me. I refuse to be that way as an adult. No one is perfect.
Congratulations on your insightfulness and ability to make changes. Ut doctrinal (keep learning) 🤗
I always admit when I’m wrong , my hubby always says it’s not his fault . Different values in life .
Insurance and credit cards. Trying to figure out basic adult finance stuff without any guidance or help will force you to feel like an idiot for a long time.
We NEED financial literacy education in schools. How to get a credit card. How to use it. How NOT to use it. What’s a deductible? What’s a copay? What’s in-network? .. And yes, we know our US healthcare system is horrible but it’s governmentally impossible to change it in at least the next two years, so we need to learn to work within the system we’ve got.
I'm taking a financial class through my church (actual certified financial advice not weird religious mumbo jumbo) right as I'm set to go to uni, and I'm so grateful the option was presented to me. My dad actually teaches the class, and he's been passionate about finance for a while, so I have felt very very lucky. Not everyone is, and I urge everyone to take a financial class if they haven't, regardless of age! We have people in all walks of life in our class
And the bank and credit companies LOVE to throw it in your face how dumb we are.
Ok, here's the thing, and I hope not news to everyone. These systems, in SOME cases, are set up to be either confusing or misleading on purpose. Like a trap is. Ever wonder why some countries have an automatic tax system, but the US has one where they KNOW what you owe, but still make you figure it out? Someone is profiting because of that confusion, like tax prep companies. Insurance and credit cards exist partially, because people don't make enough money to pay cash for things they NEED, on demand. Rigged system.
It's not rigged. It takes reading, researching and a willingess to learn it. Most people aren't willing to do any of that and want to be treated like a five year old and hand-walked through the system. There are more tax services available today than ever before, these digital services literally do the math and completing the forms for you, they even submit your taxes for you. All you have to do is answer the questions! Seriously? How much more simpler do you want it?
Load More Replies...I feel like this type of Stu should be essential for students in high school. It should fall under the classifications of home economics imo.
Mine Craft, Fortnite, Super Smash Bros and other games aren't taught in schools either, but somehow kids figure it out. If you can figure out how to play games on the internet, then you can figure out how a credit card and insurance works. Not being taught in school is no excuse.
Load More Replies...I bought my first home at age 41. I had an awesome mortgage adviser and I knew I’d get the mortgage no problem, but I still felt like such a noob. At 41 I had a tenure, a good salary, had bought cars, and thought nothing could baffle me anymore. Nope, I was wrong.
That cows had to have had a calf to make milk. They don’t just make milk. I had to be a mom myself and nurse my kid when it dawned on me.
Yes and the calf is taken away from its mother so we can use the mother to take all the milk and the calf typically just gets some formula. It's heartbreaking
A cow will continue to produce milk long after its calf is weaned, just as long as you keep milking it. Also true for humans - milk production can be made to continue for years.
Load More Replies...Yuppers, the babies are taken away, the boys go in the veal pen (boys don't make milk) and the girls to the nurse/ feed pen. Unfortunately I live next to a dairy farm and have to see the veal boxes every day
That's kind of sad, given that it isn't anything hard to understand or some whacky feature of nature. Also, the milk industry being gone wouldn't make me sad, but happy on behalf of the cows that don't have to endure it then. Every human who has an intact mother has access to all the milk it needs.
Mammals don't need milk at all after infantcy. Humans are the only animals who regularly drink the milk of another species. It is entirely unnatural and gross.
Load More Replies...The hole women pee out of isn’t the same hole they stick the tampon in
A lot of people (females included) don't figure this out right away. Definite failure in education.
Well I knew but the mfkn cartoon on the wrapper did not help me figure it out when I was bleeding everywhere :/
Load More Replies...So people who thought that babies are jammed up a pee hole: did you think pregnant women don’t pee because a baby is blocking the pee from coming out? 😳 Or did you simply not think it through?
I think more commonly people assume urine comes out the vagina. Similar to how sperm and urine have the same exit in males.
Load More Replies...Geez, apparently we got better sex education in Canada in the early 80’s…
Our urethras are separate from our sexual-organs entrance. For men, both kinds of "stuff" come out of the same place XD
Load More Replies...They really should have separate male and female health classes so that differences like this can be discussed with least discomfort.
My school had separated classes back in 2000; guys and girls were were together during the first part of the class, then separated for the gender specific class. I feel like the separation is good to make it slightly less uncomfortable, but the lesson should be on both sexes, because we should all know how all bodies work. As a woman, I feel like men need to know how my anatomy works if they’re going to be making laws about it.
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4% of 25 is the same as 25% of 4
Me too. Had to really think about it a minute though for real.
Load More Replies...And 75% of 56 is the same as 56% of 75. That doesn't seem to help as much. But since the answer gives you the secret to life, the universe, and everything else, it's worth hauling out the calculator.
Uhm..... I'll be by this pot of petunias contemplating and being comforted by the unfairness of the universe
Load More Replies...It makes sense because % is just /100, so 4% of 25 is 4/100*25(/1), and 25% of 4 is 25/100*4(/1). If you look at it as multiplying fractions you get 4*25/100(*1) which is the same as 25*4/100.
I see all those numbers and my brain shuts down 😔
Load More Replies...Yeah, this is a good one. I was about 30 when I found this out and it changed my life.
I've seen this useful fact on here a few times and I absolutely love it. 😁
It never made sense to me that we would go under tables during an earthquake, because wouldnt the ground crack open? The table wouldnt do anything then?
Wasnt until last year I realised that it was to stop debris from falling on us. Smh
My old man told me that during WW2 the whole family hid underneath his grandma’s dining table during German air raids for the same reason
In my city, or my part of it anyway, Newcastle upon Tyne, we had an aircraft siren go off at noon for years after the war ended. We kids wouid dive under the kitchen table too. Edited to add, we had atomic bomb training at school as well. Get under your desk. Fat lot of good that would have done. .
Load More Replies...Tables is obvious. Do doorframes provide the same protection/the same reason? (Genuine question, not in an earthquake zone (normally))
Yes, doorframes help too. You can also stand or kneel next to something tall like a fridge or couch... basically making an angle to keep debris from falling on you.
Load More Replies...Yes. Oct 17 1989 world series earthquake in CA, i was still at school doing after school stuff. Earthquake hit, me and other students and teacher went under tables until shaking stopped before going outside. Protected us from falling bookshelves, books, potted plants.
Load More Replies...One of the questions we have on our monthly safety quiz that we have to do at work is about what to do in the event of an earthquake, and the answer we're supposed to give is "Duck, cover, and hold." It wasn't until a few years ago that I learned that it doesn't mean "Hold your position until the quaking stops", it means "Hold onto whatever you're sheltering under, so that it doesn't get knocked aside by falling debris."
Oh…. I always knew that. Yep, yep, I , ALWAYS knew that, nope I didn’t just find that out by reading it a few seconds ago, I ALWAYS knew that!
We got under the desks when there was an Atomic Attack drill. What difference would it make?
I lived in alaska as a kid and during earthquake drills we had to get under desk or in a doorway. But I wondered the same thing!
I was well into adulthood when I realized why we had to hide under our desks for nuclear attack drills. I got paddled in the first grade for refusing to get under there. You are telling me a big bomb that can flatten the entire area, that my desk is going to protect me. I now know that it wasn't about protection. During the recovery period, they can look at each little pile of ash that is left, & know who's remains belonged to who. That is where little Ralphie sat, there is Lisa's seat, And there are Suzy's ashes.....
Life is too short. Take the time to stop and smell the roses. RIP Myles grandpa loves and misses you
Oh. EDIT: From OP on Reddit: "Watching my grandson die and unable to help. He passed at 29 days from heart issues and had multiple open heart surgeries."
Heart breaking (no pun intended). Can't even imagine the pain.
Load More Replies...It really is. It's too short to complain and dread every day you have to go to work, looking forward to just your days off, anticipating vacations. No matter what undesirable situation I'm in I like to focus on something I enjoy in the moment. Give yourself some credit and some slack.
...+ I found useful in order to avoid insanity, do at least ONE fun thing every day. Small, big, that's besides - just do one thing aiming only at your own happiness in the moment. Don't waste a day ONLY for other people, waste some time for your joy, too.
Load More Replies...I get looks & laughs from all kinds of neighbors because I do just that. I never encroach on someone's property or take flowers without permission. But I DO stop and smell the roses. Whenever I can!
Learn to separate the smell of the roses from the smell of the fertilizer that helps make the roses so fragrant.
That not everyone has a storyline ongoing inside their heads. I used to be inside my own and would laugh at things happening in my story, and everyone would look at me funny; so glad that I wear a mask now.
I'm still trying to understand people who say they have no inner dialogue. Do they not realize that ideas, questions, opinions and even worries ARE the inner dialogue? No one's head is empty of thoughts. Or maybe I'm totally wrong.
I think the inner dialogue is more like the narrator in a movie, you're "talking" in your head. But some people (like my husband) don't have a voice in their head when they think. He says it's more pictures and feelings for him. Which is still weird to grasp, being someone who can't get their inner narrator to shut up for one moment
Load More Replies...What? Y'all don't just create stories or conversation in ur heads??
I learned recently that 50% of the population doesn't have internal thoughts. Sounds creepy to me... all that silence.
I always had plenty of stories/scenarios/conversations going on in my head. You need to learn to keep them separated from your real llife. But they can be fun. Just don't think that you can imagine how a conversation with another person will go in real life. But... they are a very good help if you need to write stories, professionally or just for fun.
I think everyone has a storyline going on in their head. Some are better at hiding it
I just googled it and it seems that an inner monologue is actually *hearing* your voice in your head. So not the same as what this person is describing, which is more picturing a story inside your head. Some people just can’t do it, I was reading a story to some students and one said she couldn’t picture it in her head.
I have several rotating storylines in my head, depending on my mood. Soundtracks included. Pretty sure that's how I've survived this long with my s****y life.
Just found out this was a thing,,, pretty sure this is me!
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Why girls in high school often didn't participate during sports class.
"You don't feel well? Why don't you go home if your sick?"
10 years later: aaaaaaahhh...
In high school sports classes I always felt like I had to work extra hard when I was going through that or I'd be "weak"... for all of you still in that age, don't feel like that. It's not weak to need to rest when you're in pain. It's taking care of yourself. My mindset was not healthy. Please rest when you need to :)
My current gym teacher won’t let girls sit out from period cramps because “she’s had them and they’re not bad enough to sit out”
Load More Replies...Some people take the PE class WAYYYYYYYY too seriously and must win at all costs - rather than learning and enjoying the exercise for what it is. Those people and the PE 'teachers' make the rest of us miserable.
Right? It seems like schools put more focus in sports than education
Load More Replies...The advent of the sports bra combined with social acceptance of teens using tampons increased highschool sport participation for girls in the US exponentially.
Also, to any girls who are constantly getting the "exercise will make u feel better" speech by their teachers, this is not correct. Yes, for some it will help, for others though, it can actually make the pain worse. Every body is different and be confident that you know your own body best.
Back in high school in the late 50s. We girls would have to be in uniform (cotton white shirts with cap sleeves and snap buttons and blue shorts, gym shoes) and line up for roll call. If we were "having our period", we would say "regular" and be excused from heavy activities. We also had segregated hygiene classes (boy/girl) for reproductive health. This was California a more progressive state in general. But a lot of information was left out and we didn't dream of the internet.
In high school, I would throw up every 20 minutes. Stopped after the first baby. Thank goodness.
When I was I high school, girls who complained of cramps during PT were given extra exercises to do as the PT teacher said they would help with the cramping. So if you were in pain, it was better to just keep quiet about it.
One of my male coaches told me to do the running exercise anyway because it would help with the symptoms. I looked at him like he grew two heads and kindly corrected him and said, I’d do it, but I’m not cleaning up the mess it will make. He looked so confused and had me sit. He had a daughter 4 years later and now he gets it. Yes, I still know him lol small town
That my parents are human beings who make mistakes and not perfect divine beings
I remember how shocked I was at 15 to discover that my parents were less intelligent than I was. I mean they were taking all the decisions!
When I was around 10, my dad was putting up a barbed wire fence. I looked at his hands where he got a cut. It was the first time I remember of him ever bleeding. It made me realize he was human and one day he would die.
My daughter and I realized together that while children are growing up, they actually watching their parents grow up and maturing at the same time. She's 45 and I'm 19 years older.
I found out later from my grandparents what they were like. My maternal grandmother complained at how lazy my mother was and she needed my mother to help out as my mother's parents were busy running their shop. They lived behind the shop. My mother though could achieve things without much effort. My paternal grandmother who was from West Wales and Welsh speaking didn't want my father marrying a woman of English descent who only knew Welsh as a foreign language learned in school. My father hated swimming and paddling in the sea from an early age.
Oh yeah. My mom told me this herself once, that she wasn’t perfect and was trying her best. I never hold my parents to an extremely high standard, but I know they’re doing their best!
My parents say that they made a mistake and there honest about it.
That my happiness and feelings matter too. I have always felt that I was there to support others and being the best person I can, and all it lead to was people taking advantage of me or making me feel like I did something wrong if I wasn’t what they wanted. I don’t feel that way anymore. I am not going to apologize to people treating me like c**p anymore. I only put my energy into people that actually deserve it now.
I had a so-called friend for many years. I never noticed that she always wanted me to come to her house (an hour away), but would never want to come to see me. During covid, she called me because she was bored - she couldn't go shopping or to the movies, so she wanted me to drive to her house and she would make lunch. I told her I wasn't going to drive that far, as my car was old. I haven't heard from her since. No problem.
It took me awhile to figure out that it was okay to buy nice "stuff" for me and not just other people. And that I didn't have to wait for a special occasion to spend money on myself.
You re so right there,, i was exactly same as you, bt now it feels good...
Load More Replies...I feel this one.. I'm about to end a 17 year relationship because I finally have the guts to choose for myself. It's not easy, I'm on the brick of destruction but I have to do it. Otherwise I will be unhappy and living a life for someone else for the rest of my life. I can't do it anymore. I'm so exhausted and done..
I know how you feel,, but take it easy, nd think very well before you finally jump on conclusion...
Load More Replies...I have, just recently, realized this about myself. I deleted lots of people from my social media and blocked two people from calling or texting. It gives me anxiety thinking about it, but I'm glad I did.
Perfectly said! Big lesson I had to learn as well, actually making better contributions for it, I feel.
You can't ever rely entirely on any family or friends for life.
I'd also stay that just because they are family doesn't necessarily make them taking advantage or abusing you means you HAVE to come to their aid.
That's a sad sentence. :( I realize that I'm incredibly blessed to have the amazing family I was born in to. I always say I was first in line on the day awesome parents were being assigned.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 my oldest bro took me to some random shelter just to please our Stepdad's biological daughter who was taking over the house.
The family you make will always be stronger than the family you had no choice about.
I will always be there to support my children - always, no matter what, if I can, I will help
I can only rely on my mom and dog, everyone else has shown how little interest they have in my existence.
Human beings are, by nature, fallible. That is our humanity. No one is 100% reliable including you. That doesn't mean you're not cared for or loved. Unreasonable expectations lead to resentments. That is on you.
“Queue” is not pronounced like “kwee wee”. I learned this in a meeting at work when I mispronounced it.
Pro tip: Never use words you're not 100% sure of how to spell or pronounce - Same thing with colloquialisms and expressions.
Yep. I'm a voracious reader, but socially awkward. The number of words that I know how to spell/know the meaning of but have NO IDEA how to pronounce... it is a lot of words XD
Load More Replies...In IT, I used to wince whenever someone referred to clearing their browser's"cash-ay" (cache is pronounced cash, cachet is cash-ay and a totally different word)
Lol, and paradigm isn't "para-dig-um". Learned that the hard way in front of my western civ class freshman year of college.
Please can you explain how this is pronounced? I’ve only ever seen it written and I would have pronounced it that way haha
Load More Replies...That's the thing: we don't use this word, so we never hear it said. Just imagine how you might try to pronounce this word if no one had ever said it to you?
Load More Replies...Don't feel bad. I'm over 50 and only recently learned that quay is actually pronounced "key".
Oh man I have so much trouble with that one. And only recently realized that "lesion" is "LEEzhun," not "LESS-ion." Like, I'd HEARD the word lesion, but I'd somehow never connected it with that spelling?
Load More Replies...And Penelope is not pronounced Pene-lope. I learned that the hardway in the new school I went to.
That was my oh! moment too. Reading Greek myths on my own thinking Pennylope is funny and then in English ws studied the Odyssey and the teacher said Pen ell opee, Odysseus' wife. Oops. There were a couple of girls in my school with that name but everyone called them Penny, like Jennifers were all Jenny, so the penny never dropped. Sorry.😊
Load More Replies...That sex is nothing to be ashamed of. I grew up in a strict, repressive household. Became sexually active at 18 but felt a lot of guilt over it which didn't go away for a couple years. Those feelings negatively impacted my relationship at that time.
Thank you for saying that so many people don’t realize that it’s normal to not do it or to do it they are both normal and natural just don’t do it in public
Load More Replies...Sex is the most natural thing. I don't like it when anyone is shaming anyone when it comes to sex and the many things it can entail. As long as both or all people are consenting adults, go for whatever you like.
Used to be embarrassed by it, til I met a guy that showed me it was an opportunity to bond with each other. He showed me it was just as much about trust and respect as it was about lust. The rules were so simple, we both give equally, we talk about what we like and don't like openly, we listen with no judgement, and respect the boundaries the other sets even if they change. I never felt more free or secure than the time I had with him.
When I turned 18, i had an older boyfriend. We set about losing my virginity like we were full of bunny rabbit energy. Except it wasn't like all the romance novels !! That freaking hurt like a mother! Did not enjoy it for a couple of months!
Religion is at the bottom of it all. Religion taught in all schools in the country I was born in and grew up in. Religious parents stopping teachers from teaching about sex adequately through the parent-teacher associations and becoming school governors as they are selected from councillors, teachers and parents of children in school. Some teachers are religious themselves. School education was very much devolved to local authorities when I was at school as there was no national curriculum then. Head teachers had more control over the curriculum then. I filled in the gaps later by reading books about it.
Load More Replies...To be fair, all your childhood shït negatively impacts any romantic relationship you have at 18.
The Puritans did so much damage to us Americans. Ten & the Jesuits were the ones who came up with the notion of sex being sinful. Go to Europe where sex & nudity are just seen as normal. It's not stigmatized like here. Lay out nude in the sun or have sex in public there it's nothing. Do it here in the US & it's a major crime.
I was in my early forties when I learned about Asexuality, and was relieved that while I was different, I wasn't broken because of how I was raised.
That there are tons of people out there who engage in sexual intercourse with other people not for the purpose of reproduction, but rather for enjoyment reasons, and that I am a part of a minority group of people called "asexuals". I'm still trying to wrap my head around this, but it has gone a long way to explain why I see so many people in relationships with terrible people who don't want to leave, or why something as unfathomable as cheating to me can seem like something valid to many others.
Totally misread that as asexual reproduction at first...
Load More Replies...Quoting here, to clarify against misinformation: Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It may be considered a sexual orientation or the lack thereof. It may also be categorized more widely, to include a broad spectrum of asexual sub-identities. (To be specific, they don't WANT to engage in sexual activity)
Actually some asexual people do enjoy sexual activities! Sex positive asexuals enjoy sex for reasons other than sexual attraction! There's also sex neutral or, like me, repulsed
Load More Replies...I'm really glad you figured it out eventually, it tends to break the isolation. I hope you've found your inner peace. The exact same thing happened to me. To be fair, at the time of my younger years in Eastern Europe, even the validity of homosexuals was seriously questioned, and no one ever heard of asexuals. It felt so good to learn that there's a perfectly good explanation and I wasn't a solitary freak :)
Hey I know this is one year late, but if you are seeing this. I feel you. I'm asexual, and I'm from Hungary, and for a very very long time I did not know the concept of being asexual, but I knew I was not 'normal'. Now I know and am in peace with myself. (Kár, hogy Magyarországon még erre is csúnyán néznek és nincs kilátás fejlődésre. De legalább én el tudtam fogadni magam.)
Load More Replies...this this this! My open-mindedness grew a lot after I learned I was asexual and not everybody saw the world the way I did. Before, it was just this sort of inexplicable, "But why would you DO something like that??" and now it's, "They're dealing with an urge I'm not dealing with." (It's like talking about somebody having a disability! lol)
Probably aromatic. At least that's what I am. Don't want to do romantic stuff, but I'm not asexual. Edit: autocorrect is my enemy, I meant aromantic
Load More Replies...YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t get why people cheat on other people. Like, in my head, shouldn’t you be honest about your feelings and break up first? Also, I didn’t believe that most high school kids were actually sexually active. I still don’t know if they are, or if TV is actually right on this one.
I mean, teen pregnancies are a thing, so at least some of them are. Probably not as rampant as TV would have us believe, though.
Load More Replies...Right? Not every relationship is fueled by sex. Sometimes a great companionship is more than enough.
Actual hygiene. It wasn’t until I was 12 and went to summer camp for the first time that I realized when you shower you’re suppose to wash yourself with soap. I would just wash my hair and hangout for while because I liked the hot water, THANK GOD I DIDN’T SWEAT A LOT.
Men, wash your booty holes! Wash with soap and water. Your butt should be as clean as your face when you come out of the shower.
Not necessarily. I have shown my kids how to do things on a daily basis until I am blue in the face but it’s not until they have had something explained to them or demonstrated to them by a peer that it has finally clicked.
Load More Replies...That sucks, tbh. When I was a kid like, toddler age I remember my mom showing me how to wash my body properly
I remember when I first became a bonus mom, one of my bonus children didn't know how to cut their toenails safely (i.e.without tearing them up and making them bleed). I showed him and he thanked me. Said no-one had ever taught him. I guess there are some things you just imagine they will know what to do?
Load More Replies...Wash and rinse, preferable with soap or bodywash or whatever you want to use. Just keep it clean and when you rinse with clear water there is no need to worry about ph balance or whatever stuff you are worried about. Your body will balance all that out again within 2 hours.
I've read we should wash private parts with just water. I would never ditch soap, though.
Girls should use the correct soap on their female areas, regular soap everywhere else especially the booty hole areas. The wrong soap on our female area can cause irritation and infections and it throws off our natural ph balance. Some of us cannot use regular soap as much of it causes allergic reactions.
Load More Replies...My son just recently learned about shampoo. He thought soaking his hair while taking a shower did the trick. I won’t even tell you how old he is. It’s crazy.
I'm starting to think this is the result of caretakers doing less in fear of molestation by accident, not realizing the important lesson being missed
how many times you take A bath is included too. children i was in the uk. seldom took a proper bath and we would share the hot bath water, teenage years in malaysia, a hot country, bathip
I have ADHD, penny dropped at 43 years old.
I was 47. To be fair, if OP is female, it is harder to diagnose in ladies than men. We mask it more.
Me too. I'm glad I'm nt alone in the late realisation...
Load More Replies...When I was a kid a "penny drop" meant hanging upside down by your knees on the playground bars, swinging hard, and letting go to land on your feet. :) I usually missed and fell, but some girls were really good at it.
Load More Replies...Also diagnosed at 43. Only took major depression, panic disorder, and suicidal ideation to get some gd real answers. I’m female, btw.
I'm glad you were able to get some answers. I hope your feeling better.
Load More Replies...When I was a kid back in the 1970s, my teachers labeled me, literally, "lazy" and "stupid". It wasn't until I was an adult that I realized I had classic ADHD symptoms, developmental learning disabilities (LD that goes away as you get older) and at least 3 forms of dyslexia, one of which is quite rare ... not to mention that I didn't get glasses until I was in high school and likely needed them long before that, but nobody noticed that eyesight might be the problem. I think my early schooling could have been a lot easier than it was if only people had known what to look for.
35. It was quite something to realize that what had always been treated (by including but not limited to myself) as a character defect was in fact a medical condition. In my case, caused by head trauma.
I’m autistic but I wasn’t diagnosed till around your age so my best advice would be push hard for getting evaluated especially if you are ADHD since it is a very common partner to autism (also remember it’s autism spectrum disorder so you may not have the same traits exactly as another autistic person since you will be at different points on the spectrum)
Load More Replies...I was 39. I'm female, and have the inattentive type, not the hyperactive type, so i just looked like i was daydreaming a lot, among other things.
I'm 25. Just recently starting to suspect that my severe executive function issues in school were actually undiagnosed ADD and/or high-functioning autism. A psychologist actually told my parents at one point that he thought I was on the spectrum; no one ever followed up. Thanks a lot, Mom and Dad 🙄
Boundaries.
For real. Nobody modeled or taught me that s**t growing up. When I finally got it, it was like a bolt of lightning. Recently realized that most of the challenges in my life are related to poor boundaries and it definitely threw me through a loop.
I learnt that we're supposed to brush both sides of our teeth . The inner side needs to be brushed as well.
I saw all of the commercials just showing them brushing the outer portion so i assumed that this is the way
That's a bit of an oversight on the parent/guardian's part I would say
If you try to brush underneath the gum line, you're doing it right.
Strange, we had this lesson repeatedly in February every year in grade school. We got to use the giant dentures and toothbrushes...i believe there was a song
I had to ask my dentist when i was 12 the. I never stopped because it feels good on my teeth
Also. Dont swish with water just spit the toothpaste out. It is supposed to leave a bit of coating on your teeth for it to work properly (usually has ingredients that bind to teeth with saliva)
NO DON'T DO THIS. I read this on the internet somewhere twenty years ago, thought it made sense, tried it, had three cavities in six months. If you must, rinse thoroughly and then re-apply toothpaste.
Load More Replies...Even if the parents didn’t teach it, didn’t their dentist tell them? We also had dental people come to our school several times to go over stuff like that.
It was some point in high school, probably around 10th grade, that it was made clear to me that two non-infected gay men engaging in monogamous non-protected intercourse didn’t magically produce the hiv/aids. To be clear I literally thought the simple act of gay sex resulted in hiv/aids.
A lot of people thought this. This was before AIDS was better understood, and caused a lot of discrimination of gay folks. Glad we know better now.
In most parts of the world, HIV was spread through heterosexual contact, but the hysterical anti-gay crowd refused to believe that they could ever be at risk.
In Africa it was commonly believed that having sex with a virgin would cure HIV. I wonder how that worked out?
Load More Replies...In the early 80s when AIDS first hit the fan, there were only 3 ways of getting it. IV drug users, Gay men, & Haitian men. Period. Don't dispute it. A girl in my Army unit in Germany, her 12 year old brother was dying of AIDS. They would not let her come home on emergency leave. It's false unless he is one of those 3 things. He was a hemophiliac & had received many blood transfusions. The Red Cross & the US govt refused for years to believe HIV was in the blood supply. Gay men still can't donate blood no matter how monogamous they are but the lady down the street who has sex with everything with a breath is okay to donate.
Just likes being chinese did not mean you were abruptly spreading Sars-CoV2. Many thought exactly this even if chinese people were born and lived elsewhere. I know of people with chinese resemblance going around with the banner of their country fearing to be mistaken for chinese
Probably nothing. In the UK at least it was illegal to 'promote' homosexuality in schools so teachers didn't talk to kids about people being gay at all. HIV and aids were called the gay disease when I as a kid, and it was thought that only gay men would get it. There really was so much prejudice and misinformation at the time. For context, the police once raided a gay bar in London and wore rubber gloves so they wouldn't catch HIV.
Load More Replies...During that time, my gay brother warned me against going in for surgery. The gay people knew way before the rest of the world that HIV could be the result of body fluids including blood transfusions.
Well, that's how the media/hysteria machine made it sound. No fault on you.
That I belonged to a cult
Practically all religions started as cults, some just got big enough to claim otherwise.
At first, I was reading "That I belonged to a c l i t" ••• I have to apologize!
This is the last sentence of their book, and I really want to go back a few chapters
Pickles are brined cucumbers. Only found out a few years ago. I'm about to turn 42.
I remember that one! They wanted to find out who "stole" the cucumber right?
Load More Replies...There are specific pickle cucumbers that you make pickles out of - not salad cucumbers.
What? I don't understand this one. What else would it be? They still look like cucumbers when they're in a jar. It's not like they change into pink cubes and become unrecognizable.
When I was a kid I considered a cucumber to be a pickle that never found its true calling.
Cucumbers they sell in the UK are like a foot long. I can see how the tiny ones in jars seem like a different vegetable.
Load More Replies...Yeah, my mom canned pickles, and her mom did. I always, always, hated cukes, but I love me some dill pickles. My mom's dad liked sliced raw cukes in water with a bit of vinegar and onion as a snake. Smelled awful.
Yeah they should be labeled as pickled cucumbers. Cuz technically anything can be pickles
Anything can be pickled, but not anything can be pickles.
Load More Replies...I mentioned to a coworker that I was making pickles and he seriously thought they came from a pickle plant.
Martha Stewart does not own Martha's Vineyard....
I think she now has a wine by that name though. I think I’ve seen it at Walmart. Obviously, the wine came after the city.
Martha's Vineyard is an Island below Cape Cod in Massachusetts. A lot of NIMBYs live there. Yes to windfarms, but not where I can see them from my deck.
Load More Replies...The women she was in prison with shared prison cooking recipes with her. Stewart promised that when she wrote her prison cookbook, they would get credit and share in the proceeds. She lied.
Load More Replies...BWAHAHAHAHA!!!! It certainly IS hard not to associate the two, at least.
That paprika is just crushed red pepper
Fun fact, in some european languages a bell pepper is also called "paprika". So I'm guessing those two are related.
You guess correctly. Most importantly it's a Hungarian word for Bell Pepper - that's where it was first used as a spice and many languages imported the word to mean the fruit as well. I was actually shocked to find this word is not used in English to describe the fruit, since it is so common in European languages (German, Italian, Slavic languages...)
Load More Replies...Easier to pick that up in german, since the actual fruit is called Paprika here
No way! It’s not really spicy. Is this true? According to google, that is indeed true. But they do make it from very mild red peppers. And the spicier kinds use seeds and such where the nonspicy kinds only use the skin. 🤔
The difference is because the actual paprika fruit (the "bell pepper") contains a lot of water and depending on the type also other ingridients like natural sugars etc. that are no longer present when it is dried and ground into the spice.
Load More Replies...I'm 63 and didn't know that. But I use chili oil for heat. The flakes get stuck in my teeth.
I had a friend (operative word being had), who claimed to be allergic to pepper. Except that I only found out when made a stew that had some bigger bits of pepper in it. She made scene. I told her that I had been serving pepper in the food for a long time She never complained but made a drama that now she new why she was always feeling so poorly. We were flatmates so I knew it didn't add up as she never complained. I decided not to tell her what paprika is (we Germans looove paprika). Asked her once "you don't want paprika on your fries, do you?". If course she did. Later asked her if she was OK and if she liked the lunch. Yep, absolutely amazing, lunch was delicious! New she was faking it. I also caught her buying spring rolls that contained peppers. Saw her checking the ingredients. She snuck the empty box out the kitchen super quick not knowing I had checked the ingredients in the store.
That male circumcision is not just a Jewish thing and that I'm circumcised
It’s a Jewish, Muslim, and largely American thing. I respect all opinions but mine is that I wish we’d keep boys natural unless medically necessary. But to each their own.
If it wasn't done by "acceptable" societies, we'd call it mutilation. We don't allow dogs talis and ear to be cut (in many western countries" but we allow this..... barbaric.
Load More Replies...I didn't even know about circumcision til I saw an uncut one in a locker room (What's wrong with HIS D-ck ? )
I didn't know a circumcised one till I saw an American cut One ran I mile 🙈🙈
Load More Replies...circumcision has no medical justification, its only grounds is some religious nonsense
Well, maybe it made sense at à time, even if it doesn't now. Remember that the two religions that promoted it originated in countries where waters rare, and sand plentiful.
Load More Replies...Shocked the H*** out of me when in gym, had a dude that had not been cut. Yeah, Yeah, not supposed to look, but DAMN. Freaked me out
Just remember this his is the one that’s “supposed” to look like that.
Load More Replies...A doctor once told me that circumcision prevents complications that affect approximately 1 in 50,000 males. So essentially, back when circumcision was almost universal in the US, we were unnecessarily circumcising 49,000 people just to avoid an easily remedied problem for that 1 in 50,000. He told me that there's basically no real medical reason to do it. I now live in Japan where basically NOBODY does it, and everybody here's fine.
Might want to double check that math you got there lol
Load More Replies...Well, I am pretty happy to be circumcised, thank you very much!
Yep. There's a reason uncut is not the norm in porn.
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Parents have names too, learned at like 9 or 10
i have been teaching my kids their first and last names since they were 2...and my and my husbands names, and i have been teaching them our home address, you never know how important this information is when a child gets lost!
Exactly. I once got lost (I explored a bit too much, my parents weren't even far but I considered myself lost lol) in the grocery store when I was 5 and I knew exactly what to do. I went to the most secure place from where I can find help, told them the names of my parents, they called for them and they came pick me up. If that didn't work, I was ready to give them a phone number and if that didn't work out, my address. It's really really important to teach your kids these things and also how to be careful with strangers. It amazes me how people don't teach their kids these things as it can LITERALLY save their lives
Load More Replies...Yeah, I can see that parents would refer to each other as mammy or daddy when they’re talking to their children but what about everyone else? Everyone but my brother and I called our mam by her name, our dad was dead but if mam spoke about him to anyone else she used his name. I do remember being very disappointed when I was about 5 when my brother told me in have to take my husband’s last name when i married. I planned to get round that by marrying my younger cousin and found out we had different last names anyway; foiled!!
Load More Replies...When my daughter was about 3 I took her to toddler storytime and we went around the room introducing ourselves I said my name was cadena she goes NO! Her name is mommy
in some cultures it's strictly forbidden to use parents names, my sister is a Dr, older kids didn't know their grandma name
Load More Replies...Growing up, we barely knew our parents' first names, and we never called our friends' parents by their first names. When my friend's mom was 99, I realized that I didn't know her first name. She was always Mrs. H.
I learnt it at 4 and only called my parents by their names until they yelled at me for disrespecting them
Mine didn't. Pretty dead marriage by the time I arrived on the scene
Load More Replies...I know a guy, his sons call him "firstname" and not "dad". That would hurt me
I only knew what to go on was from notes they would leave for each other, he called her Bunty and she called him Doc. Imagine my surprise when as an adult I welcomed a new client and said "oh, that's my mom's maiden name, could we be related. Well, hello Uncle Jack. He even said "your mom's name is Bunty and your dad's name is Doc." Their real names were Muriel and Norman.
My whole life is an embarrassment if that counts. I'm in my thirties and I still struggle with basics.
There's usually someone somewhere who will help. It's just taking the first step.
What are basics? I think everyone is always learning from others!
How to say the last name Nguyen.
It was a long time before I learned that Siobhan, is pronounce "Shi-vahn"
In the same vein, how does one pronounce “Ng” and “Ngai”? Both are eastern Asian last names
Ng is pronounced somewhere between Eng(with the short e sound) and Ang (With the long a sound)
Load More Replies...I learned in 8th grade... Yeah it's Wen or New-en depending on what part of Vietnam you're talking about. Most Vietnamese Americans use 'Wen'.
I once had to Google the pronunciation and practice for a moment before calling a Ms Nguyen at work. Everyone else declared "not it" before I came in. She said she was surprised I said it right, thanks google.
I have always said 'nuh guy en' in my head - thank the lord I never spoke to anyone with the name and hideously misspoke it
I went so far as to ask someone with that surname how to pronounce it ("win"). I was 55.
Use a vague hint of an 'N'; there was a short-lived comic "Billy Nguyen - Private Eye". There were only 5 issues but funny as hell post-apocalyptic Seattle series
How to brush my teeth. I was super neglected as a child so that is something I've always struggled with and even after going to a dentist for 2 years and having exams every 4 months I only learned last month that you need to brush your gums 🤷🏻
Product idea: A pill that you put on your tongue ..close your mouth and it fizzes up completely cleaning your teeth..gums..tongue ..spit it out and rinse ..job done.
Great concept, but as a dental hygienist, I can confidently share that it is the mechanical action of the toothbrush that removes the plaque and food debris from your teeth. Mouthwash are nice but aren't cleaning anything
Load More Replies...Brush under the gum line at a 45 degree angle. Also: You need to replace your brush after three months, and it needs to look essentially the same. If the hairs stand out, you're pushing too hard.
Don't you automatically brush your gums when you brush your teeth? It's hard not to.
Riding a bike at 15
I learned at about 11, but not for lack of trying…
Load More Replies...I couldn't ride a bike until very late. First, during childhood, we were too poor to afford it; then I had health problems with my back spine. Worked to earn a living and underwent treatment for my spine for years. Now I'm learning to ride a bike in the park nearby. It's awkward to be so clumsy among all those kids and teenagers, but I don't care. I'm in my early 40s. :)
I still have no idea how the heck I'm supposed to ride that thing.
A mother at my kids' school learnt last summer to swim and ride a bike. She never had a bicycle or went to the pool as a kid and decided to take lessons to be able enjoy these activities with her daughter.
I decided to embrace my own absurdity when I learned at 22. You can get away with all kinds of things when you do that. ;-)
I was shocked when a guy at work just got his drivers license at the age of 23, here in Florida. Heck, I go mine as soon as I could
Depends on where you're from. In lots of places driving lessons are prohibitively expensive for some.
Load More Replies...There was a bit on Taskmaster where the contestants had to ride a bike, and Victoria Coren Mitchell goes, "Um..." She was 49 at the time, and she gamely got on the bike and actually did pretty well, considering. So it's never too late.
I taught myself how to ride a bike at 8 years old. I started by riding the bike using my feet on the ground to push along, keeping my balance. Did this for weeks. When I felt confident enough I used the pedals and that was it.
That skunks weren't only a French thing. Pepe le Pew had me thinking all skunks live in France
This....is seriously a bit of innocence that it is 100% ok to have. Matters not that skunks are scattered across the globe. 🦨
Many live in the USA, but too many try to emulate chickens, and try to cross the road.
Teachers lie when they say “there are no such things as stupid questions”. I’ve asked so many stupid questions LOL
There are no stupid questions, just a lot of stupid people... but seriously it's better to just admit when you don't know something and ask than act like you already know.
I disagree in one situation. I (5'1) at 22 was asked whether I had always been this short.
Load More Replies...It's a stupid question if it shows you haven't been listening.
Load More Replies...I say that to my patients when they say “can I ask a stupid question?”. The only stupid question is the one not asked.
I never ask if I can ask a stupid question. It's already been firmly established that I can.
Load More Replies...Can confirm -- both my parents were teachers, and they freely admit this!
No honest question is stupid. If you're genuinely asking for the sake of learning, there are no stupid questions.
I had a teacher in high school who liked to say the only stupid questions are the ones you don't ask. Made me wonder if he was actually listening to the ones that *were* asked. ;-)
How to dry myself off with a towel, I didn’t have parents who taught me basic things, they had too many kids. I saw in movies they would just wrap themselves in a towel and leave the shower. That’s what I would do and I remember always being told I got water everywhere but never understood why until a few years ago…..I’m 30.
This "Itsy Bitsy Spider" song is not in fact about a spider in a bathtub. I always though the "water spout" in the song was the water spigot in a tub and the rain washing the spider out was someone turning the tub water on. I was well into my 20s and looking for parts to repair my house when I realized that a "water spout" is actually a rain gutter. So the spider was in a gutter and the rain that washed it out was literally just rain.
I guess if the house had a hole in the roof then the rain would wash the spider down the tub drain.
Hot showers. I was 31 when I figured them out. I know it sounds stupid but hear me out. I showered with the same temperature water I’d wash my hands with, it was warm-ish but it wasn’t hot. I always thought it was weird they advised against washing face in shower since water was the same temperature. Id use the Vick’s shower tablets when I felt congested only to have to squat to be able to get any of the steam. I laugh back at it now 2 years ago I was having shoulder pain and was told to run hot water on it. I did my usual hot water for a few days and nothing happened then one day I turned the hot water up and bam! I felt something release after a few minutes. I had some of the vicks laying around and threw a tablet down. I had to turn it down because the smell was too strong, didn’t even need to squat. I was 🤯
You know what fixes almost everything? A hot soaking bubble bath. I'm glad I figured that out as a young teen.
Well . . . you saved a lot of energy over the years? Accidentally eco friendly?
I get it though from a slightly different angle. We have always had an electric water heater and with those, water doesn't get nearly as hot as gas/oil heaters; took me a long time to realize how hot faucet water could actually get and it stays hot too after 20 minuts 🤯
Apparently both hot and cold showers are good for you in different ways. Not sure about luke warm ones though lol
French toast can be made with other breads besides raisin bread
I have never made it with raisin bread and don’t know anybody who has. This is a thing?
Oh man if you thought French toast had to have raisins in it your opinion of French toast was unfairly negatively impacted for a very long time. Unless of course for some strange reason you like raisins
As a Brit. My default is to eat savory French toast. Never could understand putting sugar or fruit on it. 🤢
Me too. Putting anything sweet on there is revolting.
Load More Replies...Raisin bread is gross, using it for french toast would be f**king awful.
What? Raisin bread?! Ours was always made with plain white bread, which also doubled as hot dog or hamburger buns
I used to say "f**k it I'll be dead by 20 and if not I guess I'll regret this s**t later". Almost 30 and still alive, should have died multiple times, but got lucky and now I do regret a lot of s**t. So basically I learned it's cool to live for the day, but do expect tomorrow just in case.
And remember that "that which doesn't kill you" does not usually makes you stronger, if makes you suffer the rest of your life from injuries sustained...
or in my case just be sitting there as a ticking time bomb
Load More Replies...I remember cheerfully telling my dad when I was 10 or so that I would unalive myself at age 45 because that was "too old" and I'd be "done with life" by then. I'm 41 now and I definitely do not plan on sticking to my original promise XD I have cats that need me! My dad was 50ish when I told him that, and I remember he just looked at me all "😐" when I told him that I thought 45 was "old" XD
Ha ha ha! When I was a kid I thought because I'd turn 40 in the year 2000 that I'd be close to death. Now I'd give almost anything to be 40 again!
Load More Replies...That I know nothing
Gas stations weren't built over natural refined gas reserves below ground, and that gasoline was shipped to gas stations
I thought people said “Florida ceiling” when referring to floor to ceiling windows til I was like 25 lmaooo made sense to me 🤷🏼♀️
When I was a child when a waitress would ask if you wanted "Soup or Salad"? I thought she was asking if you wanted a "Super Salad" and wondered why no one ever ordered it. This went on until my early 20's when it finally dawned on me what was going on.
A nursing home resident is having his hundredth birthday, so as a treat they hire him a stripper. She comes in, throws off her coat to reveal herself clad only in basque and stockings, and straddles the centenarian's wheelchair. "Hey there," she purrs, "I'm here to give you super sex." The old man focuses his bleary eyes on her. "I'll have the soup," he says.
Load More Replies...A "Florida ceiling" is one a hurricane has moved five miles from the rest of the house.
Oh, geez. When the movie "The Amityville Horror" came out, I heard it pronounced a lot, but never saw the word. I would talk about the movie like "The Ama Teeville Horror".
Women can be just as cruel as men.
This is what gets me when people say "If women were in charge there'd be no more war". No; women are very capable of being vindictive, petty and spiteful.
And there are very many cases of males being raped or the victims of domestic violence.
Women are human, and we humans are occasionally very horrible. The difference is that women are mostly cruel on a social or psychological level in comparison to the more hands on cruelty of men
Not if you were brought up "correctly", to be a "gentleman". Seriously, these days we'd call it gaslighting, or manipulation. Back then the man was supposed to take whatever was thrown at him by an abusive woman. Often literally.
Load More Replies...Not sure why you got a downvote, you are absolutely correct. Take my woman’s upvote.
Load More Replies...That being a fat guy my whole life was not the best choice.
For some it's not a choice. There are glandular issues that cause excessive weight gain, and there isn't a lot that can be done.
Didn't know about the arrow that points to the side the gas tank is on until I was about 40.
Perhaps because this is a relatively new feature on automobiles,like post 2000.
Even the four or five post-2000 cars I've driven don't have this feature so it's definitely not universal. My Mum's car is a 2022 model and it doesn't have it.
Load More Replies...My car doesn’t have the arrow! I actually read a long thread on this the other day. It was crazy how heated the conversation got 😂. Dunno if it’s all German manufactured cars, but ours do not have the arrows.
I just would like to say to the people saying that their cars don't have it. Its the arrow next to the tiny gas pump by your fuel guage. There are almost no gasoline cars built in the last decade that don't have them
You can afford a car less than 10 years old? Lucky!
Load More Replies...How to tie my shoes did not till 19. My parents brother and cousins all tried. I just couldn't understand it when I was 6, so I just stopped trying to learn and tucked my laces in my socks.
I didn’t even learn it from my parents. I was 6, and the recess supervisor taught me.
i've never seen anyone tie shoes the way i do apparently i learned it the "wrong" way
My gran made me a felt bear that had all different types of fastening on it. It still took me forever to master shoelaces.
They should have brought my wife in. In her kindergarten class she had a student with only one arm, and she taught him to tie his shoes.
BRB, need to go find out how people tie laces with one arm!
Load More Replies..."I am a quitter! I come from a long line of quitters! It's a miracle I'm here at all!" - Bernard Black
How to navigate the academic landscape effectively.
Mainly stay beneath the surface, but keep your periscope up at all times.
That you don’t have to put your knife *through the tines of the fork to cut stuff
oh thank god the sound makes me want to rip my eardrums out
So not exactly this but similar. I was taught you switch your knife to your right hand and fork in your left to cut then switch the fork back to your right hand to take a bit. That's just too much work. I just cut food with my left hand.
"There are two basic methods for eating with a knife and fork. The “American” involves having your fork in your left and your knife in your right when cutting your food, then putting the knife down and switching your fork to your right hand to eat, tines facing upwards. (If you’re right-handed, that is.) With the “European” method, the fork remains in the left hand and the knife helps coax your food onto your fork. The tines remain facing downwards."
Load More Replies...That bob seger was not singing about a night moose. I never really bothered to listen to the lyrics and that was the only part of the song that stuck out to me.
My dad grew up thinking "Only the Lonely" was "Phony Baloney" and "I only have eyes for you" was "I only have ICE for you."
Thanks for that. Now I'll never get 'Phoney Baloney' out of my head.
Load More Replies...Loser by Beck. That song is mostly a nonsensical jumble of words, and he actually sings "soy un perdador, I'm a loser baby..." and i always thought he said "someone get the door" and it made sense to me since most of the lyrics don't make sense 😂
“Blinded by the Light” has several misinterpreted lines - what I didn’t know until about 5 minutes ago is that it was originally written and recorded by Bruce Sprinsteen, and that the Manfred Mann version is a cover!
My little girl heard, "Every time you go away, you take a piece of meat with you" Can't blame her though, I was hearing the Beach Boys sing (Kokomo) "I want to bake like mounds of rotten steak"
Elton John wasn't singing, "hold me closer, Tony Danza"...
How to pronounce "salmon"
There is no common sense.
When someone says "It's just common sense!", they often mean "I have no facts or logic to support my claim, but I'll call anyone who disagrees with me an idiot."
You would be wrong. This whole article is an example of how common sense isn't common.
Load More Replies...The real problem is that people aren't taught decent reasoning skills
“Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.” - George Carlin
Nah. Previous generations were just as dumb, stubborn and self-centered as today's callow youth. They just couldn't advertise it as widely.
Load More Replies...I was late to the Santa party. I don't remember how old but old enough to feel like an idiot.
I always knew it but I like to believe anyway, I think it's cute that this old man just gives kids free stuff to be nice for no reason ♥
I'm not gonna tell people how to be with their kids, but I do not like the Santa myth.
Decided a long time ago never to lie to my kid. We never had Santa or the Easter Bunny or tooth fairy. She had a lot of presents and party days, but nothing from fantasy beings. Even now she believes me whatever I say, because she knows it'll never be a lie. I might not be entirely correct all the time, she's knows I'm fallible, but not untruthful.
Load More Replies...I knew from the very beginning that Santa was a fairy tale, since I watched the gifts being wrapped every year and the tags said "From Grandma" etc. My big shock was learning that most kids actually believed he was real.
I was 10 but I still get presents from Santa and when I had teeth fall out I still got money :)
My oldest son was 11 when he worked it out. He was a bit upset and it was sad to sit with him while a little piece of his childhood passed away.
My daughter was 9 when she stated vehemently that Father Christmas didn't exist. "He doesn't exist! He DOES NOT exist! I know the truth!" etc etc ect. So I finally agreed that she was correct and for her not to tell her younger brother, ok? Well, she sobbed her wee heart out! She'd been testing me. Doh 🤦♀️
Load More Replies...So what is a good age to tell kids about this and how do you do that? Mine is 6 and has no idea. But he’s still little right?
He'll probably have maybe two more Christmases still believing in santa. Someone at school with an older sibling will tell him, or he'll figure it out for himself.
Load More Replies...Envision a future you can enjoy even if if seems impossible
Me, doing a regular trip to Mars for vacation that takes only a day or so and Mars having nice livable vacation homes, activities and stuff and of course it's all on a budget. I really would like to safely and cheaply go to space *sigh*
Tibet is *not* pronounced "Ti-bay", as if it were french
On a similar note, I once heard someone in a restaurant in England ordering Turbot, the fish, pronounced "Turbo".
That elephants aren't as big as 2 story buildings :(((. Still very dissapointed about that one
Social skills. Thank you hallucinogens.
That your parents don't know what's the best for you, only you do
Not true for young kids. It is not best for you to eat just candy and no vegetables. It is not best for you to go into the water before you learn how to swim etc.... Teens may think they know best -- and they probably do in a lot of cases - but still can't always oversee the consequences of their actions. Should be a good mix of letting them make their own mistakes and healthy parenting.
I have too many... um when I learned that digimon literally means digital monsters 😳
So did I! I chose to do my research project on Pokémon and was delighted to find this out.
Load More Replies...Don’t be a naive b***h, sadly I just learned this lesson
Questioning everything and thinking for yourself about things is a good way to avoid trouble
That you can turn light switches on and off in og half life
Investing is super easy. Wish I would of started when I was 18.
*would have. And think yourself lucky you have money to invest. The vast majority of people don't.
In my 70s - saw my sound retirement investments disappear TOO many times, over the years. Sometimes I think I'd have done better in Vegas! Sheesh! 8-(
Load More Replies...I wish I learn to save money earlier, even if it was only $5 a week, in 20 weeks that's $100. Saving a little bit of money is better than none at all
About 2 years ago I saw the phrase "for all intents and purposes" in a book I read and thought it was a mistake... until I saw it again about a week later in a different book. I'd always thought it was "for all intensive purposes." I guess I had only heard it, not seen it written out before. I'm in my 40's. I still feel 🤦
Technically known as a mondegreen https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mondegreen
Load More Replies...That I can respect something I don't understand. I was raised in a pretty accepting home compared to most I know, but if you couldn't make somebody understand your perspective you were wrong. I guess for example: my extended family couldn't care less if you were gay straight or bi. They get those. But asexual? Cant wrap their heads around that, so you must have not met the right person yet. They also don't really get gender vs sex assigned at birth either
Good job being better than your family! Too many people decide that they need to hate something just because they don't understand it, and it sucks
Load More Replies...I'm almost 40 and I only learned maybe 2-3 years ago that there is a chance that eyebrows won't grow back. Had I known that as a teen in the late 90's I would definitely had been more careful and not done the super thin brows. Fortunately, I never had an issue with hair growth but man would I look silly now if they didn't grow back; accidentally overlooked and had half an eyebrow at one point
"Bridge ices before road" I always for some reason thought that meant the part of the road right before the bridge got icy first. I think I was 40 when I finally realized what it meant. To be fair, I live in Florida so an icy road isn't really much of a concern most years.
When a person smile bat you. They're just being polite guys. You know what I am talking about
I realized that I was a guy (and also gay) less than a year ago. Very fun
The sheer amount of stupid people out there... wow.
About 2 years ago I saw the phrase "for all intents and purposes" in a book I read and thought it was a mistake... until I saw it again about a week later in a different book. I'd always thought it was "for all intensive purposes." I guess I had only heard it, not seen it written out before. I'm in my 40's. I still feel 🤦
Technically known as a mondegreen https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mondegreen
Load More Replies...That I can respect something I don't understand. I was raised in a pretty accepting home compared to most I know, but if you couldn't make somebody understand your perspective you were wrong. I guess for example: my extended family couldn't care less if you were gay straight or bi. They get those. But asexual? Cant wrap their heads around that, so you must have not met the right person yet. They also don't really get gender vs sex assigned at birth either
Good job being better than your family! Too many people decide that they need to hate something just because they don't understand it, and it sucks
Load More Replies...I'm almost 40 and I only learned maybe 2-3 years ago that there is a chance that eyebrows won't grow back. Had I known that as a teen in the late 90's I would definitely had been more careful and not done the super thin brows. Fortunately, I never had an issue with hair growth but man would I look silly now if they didn't grow back; accidentally overlooked and had half an eyebrow at one point
"Bridge ices before road" I always for some reason thought that meant the part of the road right before the bridge got icy first. I think I was 40 when I finally realized what it meant. To be fair, I live in Florida so an icy road isn't really much of a concern most years.
When a person smile bat you. They're just being polite guys. You know what I am talking about
I realized that I was a guy (and also gay) less than a year ago. Very fun
The sheer amount of stupid people out there... wow.
