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34 Times Guys Humiliated Themselves By Mansplaining Things To Skilled Individuals, As Shared By Women On Twitter
Even though in a sense, men and women are supposed to be somewhat similar to each other, sometimes the one and the only thing that bonds us together is the fact that we're both human beings. Of course, not everyone is as oblivious as some folks might be, yet encountering very audacious men is a frequent occurrence in a woman's life.
One of the best present-day "wonders" would probably be the mansplaining phenomenon. It's insane how many men find any opportunity to explain something to a woman in a condescending and overconfident way when, in fact, nobody even asked them to share any of their input. It's an issue that will probably be around for a while since society loves to presume that a woman is less knowledgeable, less skilled and desires to hear men's opinions 24/7.
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Some folks just love to explain things to women
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Though this particular problem is not humorous whatsoever and many women have no other choice than to endure this kind of behavior on a daily basis, sometimes all we can do is look at it through a different perspective and just laugh. Thankfully, these days many men are extremely self-aware and actually love women, so, who knows, maybe in a couple of decades we can all co-exist peacefully.
Twitter user asked ladies to share instances when men tried to mansplain something they actually knew a lot about
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This Twitter user decided to ask fellow women to share amusing examples of men mansplaining things that the women were quite aware of themselves. The post received 627 likes and heaps of comments revealing entertaining stories and discussing the nerve of some individuals.
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The official definition of mansplaining is the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman in a patronizing or condescending way. Essentially speaking, when men mansplain, what they do is they explain a certain topic assuming that a woman has either no obvious knowledge about it or she's significantly lacking in understanding.
Sadly, gender issues have been around for pretty much forever and most folks have been so sucked into our patriarchal society that they constantly feel the need to show their toxic power and to project it on others without even realizing that they're doing it – which is why a good deal of men don't actually get the meaning of "mansplaining".
I bet idiots like this think they're actually impressing the lady instead of realizing they're just showing their ass.
Even though it might feel like the term was invented fairly recently, mansplaining has definitely been around for a while, yet the actual word was inspired by an essay written by Rebecca Solnit that was published in 2008.
In the said essay, Rebecca shared a story that sort of provoked folks to actually name this behavior. It all happened at a party when a conversation arose between Solnit and a man who heard that she had previously written a few books. Rebecca began to talk about her recent publication when the man decided to cut her off, asking if she was aware of this interesting book that recently came out – which in fact was hers. Though the author didn't use the word "mansplaining" per se, she described the occurrence as "something every woman knows".
Despite many believing this term to be sexist, it doesn't change the fact that it constantly happens to women all over the world. Gender inequality exists and society has made it easier for men to get away with things like that. Though many argue that nowadays folks overuse the term, it's important not to assume that someone's overreacting and to never dismiss the person's feelings, as those rarely come from nothing.
Well you asked a question about specifics so naturally you wouldn't know anything. People are so ridiculous.
Then you secretly message all your colleagues and everyone he then asks says, "Oh, no, you should talk to Lucid about that. She's the expert."
This sounds akin to the running joke of walking into an auto parts store and asking for an air freshener and the employee asks you for the make and model. His response was terrible, don't get me wrong, I'm not defending the response, but sometimes when I'm working on a project and hit a snag where I'm frustrated because I have to make ANOTHER trip to the store and I know what I need, just tell me where it is.
But I bet you don't respond saying you'll find a male to talk to instead, right? You probably would feel the same about not wanting a conversation no matter what gender associate was asking you, and you wouldn't make a point of saying you'd find someone of the opposite gender to help.
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I love going into lowes for building supplies and having every man that I walk past (even men who DONT WORK THERE!) ask me if I need help with something.. and when I say "nope! I got it!" They'll say "are you sure?" .... b***h... yes.. yes I am sure. My father owns a construction company which I have worked at on and off for nearly 20 years on top of the fact that him n I have been renovating and flipping houses since I was 13... Not only do I know exactly wtf I need.. but I also don't need fucken help lifting s**t or carrying s**t.. it's amazing because my husband n I have tested this.. he walks in, we walk separately.. nobody asks him if he needs help.. n in the off chance they do, they never say "are you sure?" But then I'll walk in right after him n I'll get asked right away.. n I get the "are you sure ?" Every Time. My husband could barely change a fucken lightbulb (not really but close) when I met him. I taught him everything he knows.. so annoying
You must be very attractive. When I was young and did home projects I would be offered loads of help. Now I am old and still a woman and I have to search for help in both of those big box hardware stores. Once I was doing a bathroom remodel and trying to hire a drywaller. This guy came into my house that I had owned and been working on for decades and proceeded to explain everything to me about the job except drywalling. I just said with a deadpan expression, "Get out of my house."
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It would have been so awesome if the guy he found was like 'oh ugh... not sure. Hold on let me go get [her] she's way more of an expert.' Just to his face when she came back over.
I used to build furniture with my dad for his biz. When I was 19, I was made a manager of hardware at a local store. I never once had a man have a problem with asking me, a teenage girl at the time, how to ooerate a tool or hardware, building questions. It was always the women who wouldn't talk to me and ask for a man. Used to make me so mad.
Or, he might have just wanted to know where the part is located and not have to explain what it was for. And the comment about knowing what he is talking about just meant knowing where it is located in the store. I do retail for auto parts and I do get her side about asking for details about the project to ensure the customer is getting the right thing because most times the customer is, shall we say, less than informed about what they actually need. But on the other hand, I have also been the customer that just wants to know where something is in the store without a long conversation about what I am working on.
Someone who just doesn't want a conversation doesn't need to add "then I'll find a man" in their response though, do they?
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Am female who worked in paint store. Man asked steps he needed to take for his project, I told him. Angry went and asked man. Bless his heart he asked, did she tell you what to do? yes? Well then that's what you need to do. My hero
As a woman who regularly visits hardware stores, if I had a dime for every time a man told me what I was buying was wrong (I don’t ask for help specifically because of this, & I can usually find what I need).. because they refused to hear what I said, I would be a millionaire.
By asking 'what's it for' kind of implies that you didn't know what it was or where to find it, or that you'd then suggest that he's asking for the wrong thing. Imagine role reversed and a woman asks a guy 'where is x' only to then be quizzed as to what it's for.? see where I'm coming from?
Apparently there's a switch on a drill that can only be operated by a penis.
Screw him. And I'm hearing impact drivers, not beds a bouncin' when I comment that!
However, a good deal of folks believe that womansplaining is also a legitimate thing. Presumably, it comes from entitled men who cannot apprehend the fact that they're wrong, so instead of dealing with the consequences, they come up with a term that'll help them justify their actions once again. Of course, everyone is equally required to behave like an actual human being – whether you're a woman or a man, it's your job to not be a jerk towards folks that live on the same planet as you – but it doesn't mean that male entitlement should be ignored.
The world is changing, we constantly progress and learn from each other. It's crucial to remember that everyone understands that it's not "all men", though the amount of unpleasantries women had and have to deal with to this day is very saddening. Our number-one priority as the people of this rather cruel world is to always listen to each other, never dismiss someone's emotions or feeling and to constantly learn in order to make our society a safer place for everyone.
Aww look there's a heart in the photo!!!! Also some people just need a good ol' kick in the microscopic balls every once in a while.
People don't get what Old English is. A lot of people say SHAKESPEARE is Old English!
Who knows, maybe soon enough we'll get to see the times when gender issues will finally disappear into thin air so that everyone can live in calmness and solidarity. It takes time to learn and to listen to each other's worries, so for now all that we can do is to voice our concerns and to occasionally laugh at threads similar to this one.
I had a woman cyclist come up behind me quite fast when I (a man) was cycling casually along a country lane. She hung back for a while, which I thought was odd because she was clearly going quicker than me, so after I while I said "You can come past you know!" and she explained that basically some men get cross or try to pedal faster or whatever when she overtakes them. How fragile must these egos be? Woman was in better shape than me and clearly a better cyclist, but held back because *I* might be offended.
Ahh so by your logic then gentlemen, if I'm a chef then anybody who enjoys food is allowed to tell me how to cook once I mention that? Is that correct?? I would love for you guys to mosey on up to any male chef and give him a few pointers, like maybe how to boil water, or scramble an egg. Kick rocks!
And you shouldn't take high doses of dumbomin because it will aromatize into idiotin..
My wife knows a hell of lot more than I do about cars than I do (she and her dad rebilt a 57 Chevy Bel Aire together). Her dad is a retired mechanic and taught her well. I'll take her advice with no hesitation when the hood gets popped.
Baffling. A pregnant 18yo approached me at work - she was homeless, I'm a shelter worker - and asked me a question about pregnancy. I automatically asked her to talk to my coworker who A) has some training as a nurse, and B) has given birth. I was pretty sure I knew the answer to her question, but my coworker was more qualified to answer. I don't understand why anyone would pretend to have knowledge they don't have.
Did tech support for office electronics. We ladies used to joke that certain men call twice: 1) to tell us what was the problem and how to solve it (no matter what we said) 2) to actually listen to us Also, often enough we told a man what to do and he called again until he had our male colleague on the phone, to ask him the same question again. Male colleague hated that and usually ripped them a new one (politely).
Skunks were originally classified as part of the weasel family, but have since been placed into their own family Mephitidae (mephitis being Latin for “bad odour”).
Sounds more like the two of you could have spent more time getting to know each other
So many, but my personal fave was the male ex-friend (this is why he became an ex!) who met my 34-year-old autistic son for the first time. Yeah, apparently all those years of doctors and medicine and teachers were for nothing because, after just 30 minutes with my kid, this guy told me, "He's not autistic, he's just very needy and you're falling for it!" Oh dear, thirty-four years down the drain, why did nobody tell me?!
I bet your son doesn't even look autistic! And also didn't throw down some matches on the ground and call out a number. Pfft, your other son probably isn't a young Whatsit Cruise either. You've been had, Tiny Dancer, you've been had!
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You really never know when you're going to run into mansplaining; sometimes it's over the stupidest things. I'm a really big fan of the Tintin so I wrote up a review aimed at others familiar with the comics that the Spielberg movie didn't do the best job trying to cram 3 comics into one movie. A former male friend I had at the time, who I took too long to realize didn't like letting me have an opinion, decided to berate me for it. Apparently he knew more than me because he read ONE Tintin comic and saw the movie. It was seriously stupid how much he wanted to tear me down for one little review.
While at college and majoring in neuroscience, a guy who had taken a total of zero bio or psych classes tried to explain to me how male and female brains are "different." When I told him that everything he was spouting ("Guys use the left side of their brain more." "Guys have fewer connections in the brain because they think more rigidly" etc) was utter nonsense, he tried to backpedal and say he meant it figuratively. As if these were abstract concepts and not quantifiable metrics
Yeah. It is very clear by now that men and women do not think differently. It is true that on average some areas develop more often in a way or other depending on the gender. But it is not due to sex but to gender roles. It is because brain developes according on how you use it, so people doing the same tend to have same brain structures. For example taxi drivers have extremely well developed hypocampus because of their jobs (dealing with space memory). One of my closest friends is a neurologist and yeah, you can estimate the gender of the person seing a brain scan but it is extremely unreliable. Same as you can assume that a short adult is a female because we tend to be shorter on average but that does not mean that you can identify the sex of the skeleton by its height.
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Ugggh as a guy I wanna apologize for this behavior. My father is one of these guys and he will do this behavior to any race, gender, age, or education background. It's not the same but it does allow me at least a glimpse even if it's only through a small hole.
You don't need to apologize for men that aren't you. Feel the freedom of being different! Glad you are aware though.
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As a female farmer you wouldn't believe the crap that men with no farming machinery knowledge have tried to mansplain to me.
I'm a coffee tester. a man told me how to enjoy a black coffee on our date when I ordered tea because I drank too much coffee that day. When he figured it out he started ghosting me.
Even if you weren’t an expert, how did he figure telling you what you should drink or how to drink it would end? That’s bizarre! If my partner fancies a cup of tea then that’s exactly what I make, I don’t explain the other choices available, she’s a grown woman FFS!
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I had a rookie EMT school me on how to drive my ambulance. Loudly and in front of several other crews. I waited until he was done to respond. Before I could, my medic (a great guy) just looked at him and said, “she’s been an ambulance driver trainer longer than you’ve been alive.”
I'm not going to go into how often non legal men explain the law to me, a lawyer ( also in not so arrogant as to assume I know everything about the law, and I will certainly listen if, for example, an accountant explains tax law). One of the most infuriating mansplainings I've dealt with is a man who spent a great deal of time correcting me in what the main themes in Hugo's Les Miserables are. I was talking about the book, which I have read many times. He had only seen the musical. Not even any of the many films. Just the musical.
I think I've been mansplained on just about every subject under the sun at one point or another. I have learned to let them dig a little hole and then step in ever so sleekly with my superior knowledge/experience/qualifications/facts.
Im a manager, chef, barista, bartender, waitress and sales.. guess which of those jobs most men believe i do. A male coworkers has the same jobs. Even after i tell them what i do, i cant be in charge im just the waitress there... they never question my male coworker
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I've got two stories: After shoveling out four feet of snow from an entire double-wide driveway, some male dill-hole came by and told me I had done it all wrong. It took all my strength not to bury him in a snowbank. When working in IT support, guys would walk right by me when I went to meet them, because they thought the mail room guy was the one who could give them internet access. Then they'd call me in a panic later when they couldn't get online, and I'd cackle madly to myself.
Had an endocrinologist comment that a new medication he was prescribing might "upset my tummy." My tummy? Really. I was 55 at the time, a college professor with two masters & he says "tummy"? Last time I ever saw that doctor.
FWIW, you'd be shocked how many people with advanced education can't handle the words we use for anatomy ---- stomach, abdomen, intestines, etc. It's really weird, but they exist.
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Got a couple: My friend whitesplained chai to me (I'm Desi.) Another person mansplained gender to me (I'm genderfluid) YET ANOTHER person mansplained psychology to my therapist My friend mansplained drawing tablets to me (I've had one for 3 years now) Somebody on the internet 'splained my own neurodivergence That's it for now-
Just had a reminder of a fun one from a few years ago. As some of you may know from my handle, I'm a big Elton John fan. More than 40 years of massive fandom under my belt. I know the man, his music, his band, his LIFE. Watched and commented with delight on a very rare video on YouTube that included Bernie Taupin (his lyricist all these years). Took about 30 seconds before Some Guy had to tell me, no, that's not Bernie, that's Nigel Olsson, his longtime drummer. I had to link to the actual spot in the video where Bernie clearly plays the tubular bells. At least he publically apologized. Imagine trying to tell me, of all people, what Nigel and Bernie looked like, lol. Oh, the ironing ;-)
Now my bf is a pretty good guy, but I about lost my mind when he started telling me that if I wanted to lose weight all I had to do was drink a glass of water when I first wake up in the morning. LMAO. People, I'm 39, I've dedicated my life to fitness and and I got certified as a Holistic Nutritionist just so I could learn (my day job is Graphic Design which I have a BS and MFA in). I've been taking fitness classes, hitting the gym, riding my bike, running, hiking etc... steadily for decades. I've tried every diet fad and nutrition plan in the book. How could I be so stupid as to ignore drinking water in the morning?! (Which I pretty much always do anyway when I take my medications.) I should had dumped him then and there. I would had lost 190 lbs on the spot. he he he
I used to have a neighbour down the hall always up in my laundry business. One day he was watching me load my laundry into the washer and had the nerve to tell me how I was doing laundry wrong, and even mentioning how long he's been doing laundry. As if I wasn't taught growing up. But I've dealt with the same condescending assumptions I'm stupid at laundry from men and women, including other instances. It's not just a problem with men. Women are just as bad.
someone tried to explain self harm to me in a group therapy session. where i was talking about self harm. and he had never self harmed. i don't understand people sometimes
I feel like many of the people doing mansplaining do not do it only to women, they just need to spout their nonsense and feel superior, no matter who they are talking to. Also everything is not necessarily mansplaining, if some expert is showing how something works and the person they are explaining it to happens to be the one who designed it.. how would they know? if it was their responsibility to show how things work then how is it mansplaining.
I once sold my art (I'm a printmaker) at an art festival. An older guy approaches my stall and starts explaining to me how etching presses work and why drypoint is so superior to linocut, which is what I do. He never made a print himself in hin entire life. I was 27 at the time but looking younger. I kept telling him: I know about drypoint. I know how to use an etching press, signaling to my work behind me. He did not stop.
another situation: I am at a BBQ with my bf who is latino. Everyone else there is latino, too, except this german guy. We chatted in german for a while, he asked about my spanish, so I told him I spoke well. I later proceeded to chat with my bf in spanish, which german guy heard. He interrupted our talk various times, explaining to me what my boyfriend had just said. The worst thing about it was that his spanish was god awful, too.
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My husband still tries to argue with me over grammar issues. I studied and used to teach my two languages, he doesn't let that stop him.
I have terrible, terrible seasonal allergies and chronic congestion. No one really took it seriously until I started working for myself six years ago. It got so bad - I would wake up, welcome the children, and then just lean over my kitchen counter and sob. There was so much pressure in my head...it concentrated close to my eyes and the pain was unbearable. I woke up on one January 1, and my ears were plugged so hard I was nearly deaf. It stayed like that for months. I went to an eye doctor who said nothing was wrong and FINALLY got a referral to an ENT. That beautiful woman took my seriously for the first time in my life. Told me - yes - she could see that my sinuses were damaged and that I needed help. We started by taking out my tonsils and adenoids (I'd always been laughed at when I suggested it) and then she put me on medication, gave me a septal plug and kept a close eye on things. I got a lot healthier within the next few years. I'm not sure what separated us but I know she had
a baby, there was a family emergency that had her on an emergency trip to India and I had to see her replacement the last few times. He immediately told me that I was imagining things, my sinuses looked great, and I had to argue with him to get my medication renewed. He said 'fine, it doesn't do a damn thing but if it makes you feel better.' I got the e-mail last week that my normal doctor was returning and who did I want to see. I told them I wanted to see her and told them why. When I meet with her - that jerk is going down.
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Most of mine involve doctors, including the obe who tried to convince me my arm wasn't broken. One weekend of swelling later we demanded an xray. Several wrist bones were ALSO broken. My best ones usually happen on the internet so I give them a pass because they wouldn't know this unless I bring it up, but I've had many instances of men explaining English language to me. I have a BA in English from a major university in my country. Admittedly now a useless degree in my small town but where else would I use it except to make people shut up on the internet? My dad takes the case and I've given up, he's set in his ways. But I was amazing with computers in my teens (early 00's). While using the computer he would often explain how to use it. I appreciate the help from someone who took computer classes because his job was changing, but forgetting that I set up and programed the computer for him did get annoying.
I have many, many examples of this. The most baffling one did not happen to me but to my sister, age 58. A man tried to explain to her how to boil water (how you can tell it is boiling).
I work at a restaurant and im in charge of the beer. If anyone needs advice they usually ask looking at the menu, look up to me and say 'oh nevermind'. Usually they go and ask my male coworker or just order our regular lager. Sometimes when i just keep on talking i can impress them but usually they stop listening. Next to the fact im female im also really short and look a bit younger. I have brewed my own beer, went to mutiple brewery's and factory's. Trying and learning about different beer and types of beer is something im quite serious about and i can almost garantee that i know a whole lot more that most men.
I have a degree in wildlife biology, have worked around the world with wild animals, and have a massive skeleton and taxidermy collection - some of it comes from my collecting roadkill and processing it myself. So I know my animals and I know my dead things. Outside of my online taxidermy group? Yet to meet a SINGLE man middle aged or older who isn't completely condescending and mansplaining about the simplest thing. "Do you know what that is?" (looking at empty exotic turtle shell) "Not 100% on the species, reptiles aren't my speciality" (very slowly) "It's a TURTLE"
Story time: so, I just did my nails the night before church, on the way to church I was talking to my mom about them. My brother asked “why do you care about your nails? No man cares about what your nails look like.” So I politely explained that I don’t do nails for men I do them for myself or sometimes my girl friends. He completely disagreed and tried to explain that no woman dresses for herself or other women and we all dress for men. Me and my mom tried explaining that we don’t do stuff for men and he just kept trying to explain to us why women do things. Bc obviously a 14 year old boy knows EVERYTHING about women and why we do things.
my bfs dad explained my name to me, complete with wikipedia, first time we met. I was an adult.
A man once told me, "Did you know that they don't speak Spanish in Spain?". I say "No, they definitely speak Spanish in Spain...". He's starting to get angry and he interrupts me, "NO, they don't speak Spanish in Spain!". I say " Yes, they do, but...". He interrupts me again and storms outside before I can finish my sentence. "...you're thinking of Brazil, where they speak Portuguese."
Did any of these women explain to the men that 'they owned the brewery' or 'sports analytics'? I feel as though they may have been seeking out the outcomes.
Try reading the essay that was mentioned at the beginning, "Men Explain Things To Me" by Rebecca Solnit. Perhaps then you will understand (or maybe not). When someone wants to splain, it doesn't matter WHAT you tell them.
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My husband said this priceless gem to me - "You know when the grass is green, it's growing?"
I love these "articles"... listicles? Idk what to call em. But I love the topic!
Some of these sounding an event that's been twisted for the sake of this post. Most actually sound like a dude trying to make a comment, show interest or share what they know and you've made it sound obnoxious.DISCLAIMER!!; NOT ALL are all stories here are this just there's a good quarter that are. Please stop type casting every dude to to a creep or sexist. Sometimes a man's behaviour is innocent (I'm made good friends from some of these situations and they are happily devoted to someone. Sorry I just hate this All men are vile stroke of feminism which is becoming more popular are idiotic. DISCLAIMER 2!! I AM FEMALE! I just want to show the devil's advocate when you read these type things.
Your second disclaimer doesn't really mean anything; there are plenty of women with internalized misogyny and pick-me habits. I'll go ahead and take their word for it, since they were actually there, you know, experiencing it. NOT ONCE did this article say "all men," it's just people sharing their experiences. It's you making assumptions.
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Don't know if it was mansplaining, as I didn't know thier gender, but someone tried to argue with me, a 20 year experienced x-ray/CT tech, that no, you CAN'T see the heart on a chest x-ray.
Man tried to tell me how a pushchair should work because she's an engineer, I asked him if he regularly fixes and builds them, because I do and your ideas won't work.
I’ve had so many dudes in my class at my old school try to tell me that cheerleading was not a sport even tho they had never even seen a performance/competition and I had been in competitive cheerleading for 10 years
"Mansplaining". Always use gender neutral language, unless it denotes negative behavior by men.
Where we tell you that you don't grasp how a uterus feels? B/c, y'know, you really can't grasp that one. Just asking. :-)
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Men should never help women in the workplace. Allow them to learn the hard way.
Rather than acknowledge that it's a certain type of person that does this, not a specific gender, we promote this highly offensive, blatantly sexist expression because it makes up feel better. You all know women do this too. Condescension is not gender-specific.
Oh, honey! Sure "women do it too," but the preponderance of splaining is from men. Try following one of your female friends or relatives around for a day, quietly, so as to make it not about you. You'll see.
Load More Replies... So many, but my personal fave was the male ex-friend (this is why he became an ex!) who met my 34-year-old autistic son for the first time. Yeah, apparently all those years of doctors and medicine and teachers were for nothing because, after just 30 minutes with my kid, this guy told me, "He's not autistic, he's just very needy and you're falling for it!" Oh dear, thirty-four years down the drain, why did nobody tell me?!
I bet your son doesn't even look autistic! And also didn't throw down some matches on the ground and call out a number. Pfft, your other son probably isn't a young Whatsit Cruise either. You've been had, Tiny Dancer, you've been had!
Load More Replies... You really never know when you're going to run into mansplaining; sometimes it's over the stupidest things. I'm a really big fan of the Tintin so I wrote up a review aimed at others familiar with the comics that the Spielberg movie didn't do the best job trying to cram 3 comics into one movie. A former male friend I had at the time, who I took too long to realize didn't like letting me have an opinion, decided to berate me for it. Apparently he knew more than me because he read ONE Tintin comic and saw the movie. It was seriously stupid how much he wanted to tear me down for one little review.
While at college and majoring in neuroscience, a guy who had taken a total of zero bio or psych classes tried to explain to me how male and female brains are "different." When I told him that everything he was spouting ("Guys use the left side of their brain more." "Guys have fewer connections in the brain because they think more rigidly" etc) was utter nonsense, he tried to backpedal and say he meant it figuratively. As if these were abstract concepts and not quantifiable metrics
Yeah. It is very clear by now that men and women do not think differently. It is true that on average some areas develop more often in a way or other depending on the gender. But it is not due to sex but to gender roles. It is because brain developes according on how you use it, so people doing the same tend to have same brain structures. For example taxi drivers have extremely well developed hypocampus because of their jobs (dealing with space memory). One of my closest friends is a neurologist and yeah, you can estimate the gender of the person seing a brain scan but it is extremely unreliable. Same as you can assume that a short adult is a female because we tend to be shorter on average but that does not mean that you can identify the sex of the skeleton by its height.
Load More Replies... Ugggh as a guy I wanna apologize for this behavior. My father is one of these guys and he will do this behavior to any race, gender, age, or education background. It's not the same but it does allow me at least a glimpse even if it's only through a small hole.
You don't need to apologize for men that aren't you. Feel the freedom of being different! Glad you are aware though.
Load More Replies... As a female farmer you wouldn't believe the crap that men with no farming machinery knowledge have tried to mansplain to me.
I'm a coffee tester. a man told me how to enjoy a black coffee on our date when I ordered tea because I drank too much coffee that day. When he figured it out he started ghosting me.
Even if you weren’t an expert, how did he figure telling you what you should drink or how to drink it would end? That’s bizarre! If my partner fancies a cup of tea then that’s exactly what I make, I don’t explain the other choices available, she’s a grown woman FFS!
Load More Replies... I had a rookie EMT school me on how to drive my ambulance. Loudly and in front of several other crews. I waited until he was done to respond. Before I could, my medic (a great guy) just looked at him and said, “she’s been an ambulance driver trainer longer than you’ve been alive.”
I'm not going to go into how often non legal men explain the law to me, a lawyer ( also in not so arrogant as to assume I know everything about the law, and I will certainly listen if, for example, an accountant explains tax law). One of the most infuriating mansplainings I've dealt with is a man who spent a great deal of time correcting me in what the main themes in Hugo's Les Miserables are. I was talking about the book, which I have read many times. He had only seen the musical. Not even any of the many films. Just the musical.
I think I've been mansplained on just about every subject under the sun at one point or another. I have learned to let them dig a little hole and then step in ever so sleekly with my superior knowledge/experience/qualifications/facts.
Im a manager, chef, barista, bartender, waitress and sales.. guess which of those jobs most men believe i do. A male coworkers has the same jobs. Even after i tell them what i do, i cant be in charge im just the waitress there... they never question my male coworker
Load More Replies... I've got two stories: After shoveling out four feet of snow from an entire double-wide driveway, some male dill-hole came by and told me I had done it all wrong. It took all my strength not to bury him in a snowbank. When working in IT support, guys would walk right by me when I went to meet them, because they thought the mail room guy was the one who could give them internet access. Then they'd call me in a panic later when they couldn't get online, and I'd cackle madly to myself.
Had an endocrinologist comment that a new medication he was prescribing might "upset my tummy." My tummy? Really. I was 55 at the time, a college professor with two masters & he says "tummy"? Last time I ever saw that doctor.
FWIW, you'd be shocked how many people with advanced education can't handle the words we use for anatomy ---- stomach, abdomen, intestines, etc. It's really weird, but they exist.
Load More Replies... Got a couple: My friend whitesplained chai to me (I'm Desi.) Another person mansplained gender to me (I'm genderfluid) YET ANOTHER person mansplained psychology to my therapist My friend mansplained drawing tablets to me (I've had one for 3 years now) Somebody on the internet 'splained my own neurodivergence That's it for now-
Just had a reminder of a fun one from a few years ago. As some of you may know from my handle, I'm a big Elton John fan. More than 40 years of massive fandom under my belt. I know the man, his music, his band, his LIFE. Watched and commented with delight on a very rare video on YouTube that included Bernie Taupin (his lyricist all these years). Took about 30 seconds before Some Guy had to tell me, no, that's not Bernie, that's Nigel Olsson, his longtime drummer. I had to link to the actual spot in the video where Bernie clearly plays the tubular bells. At least he publically apologized. Imagine trying to tell me, of all people, what Nigel and Bernie looked like, lol. Oh, the ironing ;-)
Now my bf is a pretty good guy, but I about lost my mind when he started telling me that if I wanted to lose weight all I had to do was drink a glass of water when I first wake up in the morning. LMAO. People, I'm 39, I've dedicated my life to fitness and and I got certified as a Holistic Nutritionist just so I could learn (my day job is Graphic Design which I have a BS and MFA in). I've been taking fitness classes, hitting the gym, riding my bike, running, hiking etc... steadily for decades. I've tried every diet fad and nutrition plan in the book. How could I be so stupid as to ignore drinking water in the morning?! (Which I pretty much always do anyway when I take my medications.) I should had dumped him then and there. I would had lost 190 lbs on the spot. he he he
I used to have a neighbour down the hall always up in my laundry business. One day he was watching me load my laundry into the washer and had the nerve to tell me how I was doing laundry wrong, and even mentioning how long he's been doing laundry. As if I wasn't taught growing up. But I've dealt with the same condescending assumptions I'm stupid at laundry from men and women, including other instances. It's not just a problem with men. Women are just as bad.
someone tried to explain self harm to me in a group therapy session. where i was talking about self harm. and he had never self harmed. i don't understand people sometimes
I feel like many of the people doing mansplaining do not do it only to women, they just need to spout their nonsense and feel superior, no matter who they are talking to. Also everything is not necessarily mansplaining, if some expert is showing how something works and the person they are explaining it to happens to be the one who designed it.. how would they know? if it was their responsibility to show how things work then how is it mansplaining.
I once sold my art (I'm a printmaker) at an art festival. An older guy approaches my stall and starts explaining to me how etching presses work and why drypoint is so superior to linocut, which is what I do. He never made a print himself in hin entire life. I was 27 at the time but looking younger. I kept telling him: I know about drypoint. I know how to use an etching press, signaling to my work behind me. He did not stop.
another situation: I am at a BBQ with my bf who is latino. Everyone else there is latino, too, except this german guy. We chatted in german for a while, he asked about my spanish, so I told him I spoke well. I later proceeded to chat with my bf in spanish, which german guy heard. He interrupted our talk various times, explaining to me what my boyfriend had just said. The worst thing about it was that his spanish was god awful, too.
Load More Replies... Guy I ended up working with tried to explain how a telescope works to me, I had been the grad student TA for his undergrad Optic class.
My husband still tries to argue with me over grammar issues. I studied and used to teach my two languages, he doesn't let that stop him.
I have terrible, terrible seasonal allergies and chronic congestion. No one really took it seriously until I started working for myself six years ago. It got so bad - I would wake up, welcome the children, and then just lean over my kitchen counter and sob. There was so much pressure in my head...it concentrated close to my eyes and the pain was unbearable. I woke up on one January 1, and my ears were plugged so hard I was nearly deaf. It stayed like that for months. I went to an eye doctor who said nothing was wrong and FINALLY got a referral to an ENT. That beautiful woman took my seriously for the first time in my life. Told me - yes - she could see that my sinuses were damaged and that I needed help. We started by taking out my tonsils and adenoids (I'd always been laughed at when I suggested it) and then she put me on medication, gave me a septal plug and kept a close eye on things. I got a lot healthier within the next few years. I'm not sure what separated us but I know she had
a baby, there was a family emergency that had her on an emergency trip to India and I had to see her replacement the last few times. He immediately told me that I was imagining things, my sinuses looked great, and I had to argue with him to get my medication renewed. He said 'fine, it doesn't do a damn thing but if it makes you feel better.' I got the e-mail last week that my normal doctor was returning and who did I want to see. I told them I wanted to see her and told them why. When I meet with her - that jerk is going down.
Load More Replies... Most of mine involve doctors, including the obe who tried to convince me my arm wasn't broken. One weekend of swelling later we demanded an xray. Several wrist bones were ALSO broken. My best ones usually happen on the internet so I give them a pass because they wouldn't know this unless I bring it up, but I've had many instances of men explaining English language to me. I have a BA in English from a major university in my country. Admittedly now a useless degree in my small town but where else would I use it except to make people shut up on the internet? My dad takes the case and I've given up, he's set in his ways. But I was amazing with computers in my teens (early 00's). While using the computer he would often explain how to use it. I appreciate the help from someone who took computer classes because his job was changing, but forgetting that I set up and programed the computer for him did get annoying.
I have many, many examples of this. The most baffling one did not happen to me but to my sister, age 58. A man tried to explain to her how to boil water (how you can tell it is boiling).
I work at a restaurant and im in charge of the beer. If anyone needs advice they usually ask looking at the menu, look up to me and say 'oh nevermind'. Usually they go and ask my male coworker or just order our regular lager. Sometimes when i just keep on talking i can impress them but usually they stop listening. Next to the fact im female im also really short and look a bit younger. I have brewed my own beer, went to mutiple brewery's and factory's. Trying and learning about different beer and types of beer is something im quite serious about and i can almost garantee that i know a whole lot more that most men.
I have a degree in wildlife biology, have worked around the world with wild animals, and have a massive skeleton and taxidermy collection - some of it comes from my collecting roadkill and processing it myself. So I know my animals and I know my dead things. Outside of my online taxidermy group? Yet to meet a SINGLE man middle aged or older who isn't completely condescending and mansplaining about the simplest thing. "Do you know what that is?" (looking at empty exotic turtle shell) "Not 100% on the species, reptiles aren't my speciality" (very slowly) "It's a TURTLE"
Story time: so, I just did my nails the night before church, on the way to church I was talking to my mom about them. My brother asked “why do you care about your nails? No man cares about what your nails look like.” So I politely explained that I don’t do nails for men I do them for myself or sometimes my girl friends. He completely disagreed and tried to explain that no woman dresses for herself or other women and we all dress for men. Me and my mom tried explaining that we don’t do stuff for men and he just kept trying to explain to us why women do things. Bc obviously a 14 year old boy knows EVERYTHING about women and why we do things.
my bfs dad explained my name to me, complete with wikipedia, first time we met. I was an adult.
A man once told me, "Did you know that they don't speak Spanish in Spain?". I say "No, they definitely speak Spanish in Spain...". He's starting to get angry and he interrupts me, "NO, they don't speak Spanish in Spain!". I say " Yes, they do, but...". He interrupts me again and storms outside before I can finish my sentence. "...you're thinking of Brazil, where they speak Portuguese."
Did any of these women explain to the men that 'they owned the brewery' or 'sports analytics'? I feel as though they may have been seeking out the outcomes.
Try reading the essay that was mentioned at the beginning, "Men Explain Things To Me" by Rebecca Solnit. Perhaps then you will understand (or maybe not). When someone wants to splain, it doesn't matter WHAT you tell them.
Load More Replies... My husband said this priceless gem to me - "You know when the grass is green, it's growing?"
I love these "articles"... listicles? Idk what to call em. But I love the topic!
Some of these sounding an event that's been twisted for the sake of this post. Most actually sound like a dude trying to make a comment, show interest or share what they know and you've made it sound obnoxious.DISCLAIMER!!; NOT ALL are all stories here are this just there's a good quarter that are. Please stop type casting every dude to to a creep or sexist. Sometimes a man's behaviour is innocent (I'm made good friends from some of these situations and they are happily devoted to someone. Sorry I just hate this All men are vile stroke of feminism which is becoming more popular are idiotic. DISCLAIMER 2!! I AM FEMALE! I just want to show the devil's advocate when you read these type things.
Your second disclaimer doesn't really mean anything; there are plenty of women with internalized misogyny and pick-me habits. I'll go ahead and take their word for it, since they were actually there, you know, experiencing it. NOT ONCE did this article say "all men," it's just people sharing their experiences. It's you making assumptions.
Load More Replies... Don't know if it was mansplaining, as I didn't know thier gender, but someone tried to argue with me, a 20 year experienced x-ray/CT tech, that no, you CAN'T see the heart on a chest x-ray.
Man tried to tell me how a pushchair should work because she's an engineer, I asked him if he regularly fixes and builds them, because I do and your ideas won't work.
I’ve had so many dudes in my class at my old school try to tell me that cheerleading was not a sport even tho they had never even seen a performance/competition and I had been in competitive cheerleading for 10 years
"Mansplaining". Always use gender neutral language, unless it denotes negative behavior by men.
Where we tell you that you don't grasp how a uterus feels? B/c, y'know, you really can't grasp that one. Just asking. :-)
Load More Replies... Men should never help women in the workplace. Allow them to learn the hard way.
Rather than acknowledge that it's a certain type of person that does this, not a specific gender, we promote this highly offensive, blatantly sexist expression because it makes up feel better. You all know women do this too. Condescension is not gender-specific.
Oh, honey! Sure "women do it too," but the preponderance of splaining is from men. Try following one of your female friends or relatives around for a day, quietly, so as to make it not about you. You'll see.
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