OK, I get it. You're a funny guy. A bubbly personality. A born entertainer who is going to conquer the country with his standup program. But for the love of life, you're my Uber driver and I don't want to hear any more of your knock-knock jokes. Especially if my date is with me in the back seat and your stupid two-liners are funnier than everything I told her this evening. Some of us just can't seem to understand when we're socially inclined to keep it professional! So to remind everyone to stay on their best behavior, Bored Panda has compiled a list of dentists, professors, and others who didn't. Too-da-loo!
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The email my sister got from a landscaping company job she applied for vs. The one she sent back
We cross each other's lines all the time. And not just online. According to Chester McNaughton, a registered professional counselor who specializes in boundaries, anger management, and dysfunctional relationships in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, boundary violations typically fall into three categories: aggressive, passive-aggressive, or accidental.
Aggressive violations, for example, include shoving and hitting; damaging property; exerting control over someone’s time or money; making threats; taunting and hurling insults.
Passive-aggressive violations include interrupting; gossiping; giving the silent treatment, and assuming you know what someone thinks, needs, or wants.
For instance, we might tell someone: "you don't really believe that, you're too sensitive, why are you making such a big deal?" Susan Orenstein, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist, and relationship expert, explained.
Accidental violations (like the "meatballs" DM that IKEA sent to a random Twitter user) include bumping into someone or stating an opinion respectfully, but finding out that the other person finds it offensive, McNaughton said.
There are many reasons why we don’t respect someone else’s boundaries. For example, we might’ve been raised with different expectations. Even physical touch is something that different families treat in different ways. Some of us like to hug and kiss when we say hello while others believe that shaking hands is perfectly sufficient. Same thing with words!
But if you want to avoid acting like the 'heroes' of this list, here are several suggestions for respecting other people’s boundaries:
- Focus on respect. McNaughton stressed the importance of seeing others as “simply human.” Remember that everyone has thoughts, feelings, plans, dreams, and hopes, he said. Remember that everyone wants to be heard and accepted as they are, he said.
- Listen fully. Listen to another person with the goal of truly understanding them, Orenstein said. “[L]isten to care about them,” McNaughton said. Don’t interrupt, “resist what’s being said or think of what you’re going to say next,” Orenstein said. She also suggested practicing the silent pause: “Completely wait until the other person is finished speaking, take a breath, pause and then respond … You’ll be making space for the other person to express him or herself and get out of the habit of reactivity.”
- Listen for verbal cues. Some verbal cues may be obvious, such as another person saying “I’m uncomfortable sitting so close to you,” or “I’ve asked you before to knock before you come in my house,” Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW, founder and executive director of Wasatch Family Therapy, said. Others may be subtle, such as “changing the subject in the midst of a conversation to something less emotionally vulnerable.”
- Pay attention to body language. “[B]ody language often speaks louder than words,” Hanks added. She shared these examples: If someone has their arms folded while they’re talking to you, they might not be open to what you’re saying. If someone is stepping back every few minutes, you might be standing too close and invading their personal space.
The key is mindfulness. We're often simply unaware of what we’re doing and how our actions impact others.
Seems like he really doesn't see the problem. Well he's learning it the hard way
This is just too creepy. Something needs to be done that encrypts customer phone numbers or something because this is really NOT COOL to be doing to people (usually women).
That would be inconvenient, since I imagine you'd need it often after "worming" the food
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I'm..I'm confused. Is this for an apartment? Or is it for a professional space, like an office or something?
"as you use it at your home" - so this is not a residential property. In which case kitchen facilities have been provided as a courtesy, maybe in a work unit or similar? In that case, yes it's a bit rubbish but it's not that terrible an imposition.
Sounds like it’s for office catering, ie warming bought in food. Rather than preparing and cooking the food. If it is shared office space/facilities I think that’s ok actually
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Your kitchen is for decoration only. What's next the toilet is for urine only please, please poo else where.
Doesn't seem like this is from a landlord. Boss or AirBnB maybe. It says you can't cook there like you would "at home."
But that is your home . Reminds me of those high rent basement Apts where they aspect you to pay 20000 a month but only have a toaster over to cook in.
I got kicked out of a rental place for this. I’m sorry I can’t afford to eat out every day?
I NEVER WORM any food. If I find worms in food it goes in the compost NOW.
Yeah - good luck with that. I think I'd start cooking curry for 20 from that point on.
Lovely... you have a kitchen but can't cook meals... that reminded me. When I was in Australia I couldn't cook during the day or else my bungalo would be invaded by tons of horse flies... even if I tried to block any opening... it happened twice before the farmer I was working for told me that it was better to not cook during he day... I was like.... thanks for the (too late) tips... that was after I went crazy trying to get rid of them and slashing my hand on a window that I broke...
Who doesn't like some WORMED food. This landlord is so smart!
This is actually quite common in Asia. Lots of places don't allow for cooking. Reason being as that a lot of Asian food needs to be fried and oil seeps into walls etc. And since Asia heavily favors landlords over tenants, they basically can stipulate almost any rules...but the no cooking one is super common.
"please, no sleeping in bedroom as you snore big and keep me awake as you are underneath my bedroom where I be sleeping. Please use bathroom as it's not meant for that purpose anyway. Only brushing teeth or washing face in sink. Thanks"
This reminds me of a coworker that moved into his own place after he and his girl broke up. He invited us over but said we had to order food. When we got there, he explained why: It was a private house where the landlord was basically renting bedrooms but didn't allow the tenants to use the kitchen.
Why even have those types of appliances in a kitchen if you don't want people to use them? Honestly WTF 😒
Shared or not, a kitchen at a HOME is ment for cooking. Fix the alarms is the answer.
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My friend asked me if this message from her 53yr old landlord was creepy
I don't see anything inappropriate about this. Mistake was made, company apologized, life can move on.
Because Julie works for Alaska Air, not the TSA at JFK. Not much mystery there.
Why wouldn't you tell your driver where you're going? Sure, his response was catty, but so was hers.
That's the question answered and it must be reassuring to know that a possible stalker knows your phone number.
I think he was just trying to be light-hearted and put a smile on your face. A bit like when you order online for pizza, and they give you funny messages about the progress of your pizza from prep to delivery and all the stages in between 'Just peeked into the oven. The cheese is bubbling nicely. Should be done in about 15 minutes'
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It's a strange combiantion of actually inappropriate texts, honest mistakes and pretty innocent jokes.
Some of these are beyond creepy and inappropriate... But about half are comments I wouldn't even think to screenshot. I just hate how people get bashed or made fun of for simply having a personality. It's a social crime to strike up conversation (appropriate Convo!) or just be silly... Sad
I think my favorite was Professor Wilson's, erm, problems. Lol
These were entertaining, with a hint of schadenfreude thrown in. Some amusement to be had at the discomfort of others. Sorry
DoorDasher. I'm on crutches so I need orders to be placed in a bag with handles so that I can hook them over my wrist and crutch-it through the house. I very clearly state so in the delivery instructions. I also opt for "no contact" delivery. Driver shows up holding 3 boxes, no bag, rings bell, to hand them to me in person...
how are these drivers not coached on do not try and interact with any passengers outside of the ride or delivery ? this is horrible and by playing it up as just funny or rude but just block the call is not good either, it should always be reportable, the company that said they do not have a complaints department is even worse, this lets dangerous people have a without consequences playing field.
I am amazed by how many drivers are harassing women. Seems like there should be an anonymous system where they can't get your name or number when they are delivering, and a button that if they send you something inappropriate, you can automatically report it, and those drivers know they will be fired immediately.
An anonymous system that instantly fires people? Wow, no.
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It's a strange combiantion of actually inappropriate texts, honest mistakes and pretty innocent jokes.
Some of these are beyond creepy and inappropriate... But about half are comments I wouldn't even think to screenshot. I just hate how people get bashed or made fun of for simply having a personality. It's a social crime to strike up conversation (appropriate Convo!) or just be silly... Sad
I think my favorite was Professor Wilson's, erm, problems. Lol
These were entertaining, with a hint of schadenfreude thrown in. Some amusement to be had at the discomfort of others. Sorry
DoorDasher. I'm on crutches so I need orders to be placed in a bag with handles so that I can hook them over my wrist and crutch-it through the house. I very clearly state so in the delivery instructions. I also opt for "no contact" delivery. Driver shows up holding 3 boxes, no bag, rings bell, to hand them to me in person...
how are these drivers not coached on do not try and interact with any passengers outside of the ride or delivery ? this is horrible and by playing it up as just funny or rude but just block the call is not good either, it should always be reportable, the company that said they do not have a complaints department is even worse, this lets dangerous people have a without consequences playing field.
I am amazed by how many drivers are harassing women. Seems like there should be an anonymous system where they can't get your name or number when they are delivering, and a button that if they send you something inappropriate, you can automatically report it, and those drivers know they will be fired immediately.
An anonymous system that instantly fires people? Wow, no.
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