Sometimes we just feel like someone needs to know what's happening. But here are some rules:
1. be nice and support each other;
2. let's not talk politics;
3. don't use names when mentioning people.
Thank you so much!
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Biological sex is not binary, so how can gender be binary? Pronouns are determined by language based on gender. Pronouns are a form of identity. My pronouns reflect my identity. Why should I deny the pronouns of others just because I think I know better about their sex and/or gender?
Yeah! In addition, sex and gender are really not corresponding. They're tied together loosely by gender norms (expectation of a man to have a d**k, expectation of a woman to have titties), but they aren't the same thing. Gender is a social construct that had no meaning outside of what we as humans give it. It's just social norms grouped together in ways that correspond with people.
Sex and gender like are the same thing just depends on what kinda noun you mean by it. They're not tied loosely, they're synonyms.
Load More Replies...Because some people don't want to hear it, from a biochm major with a medical degree: The majority of cases do fall into XX/XY biologically in humans. Thus, sex is *usually* binary. However, you can present as female with X, XY, XXX, or XX, so it's not just about your chromosomes, it's about gene expression. Furthermore, *gender is not about chromosomes* so ... If someone doesn't feel the biology matches the rest, *support them or stfu*.
the research of Anne Fausto Sterling, an American Sexologist, demonstrates that there could be anywhere from 5 to 7 genders. Sex isn't only determined by chromosomes.
Load More Replies...Why don't you respect other people's gender identity? God also thinks that people should marry the one they love. If one identifies as non-binary, just respect that. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said "Your gender identity is wrong!"?
Load More Replies...When a woman tells you she doesn't want to have kids please just go with it and say "okay"
If you stand in front of a mirror and recite "I don't ever want to have kids" three time, a boomer will suddenly appear and tell you that you'll "change your mind"....
Or, where I live, a "Christian". Because, y'know, my womb is sooooo their business (said no bible verse ever, btw)....
Load More Replies...No matter how hard you try, not everyone is going to like you. Some people just won't like because of them. They have a problem and want to take it out on you, or a friend. I've learned this the hard way, and have gotten very hurt in the process. Just stick with the people and friends you know best. If someone is every a complete jerk to you, unprovoked, just know that it's isn't your fault. It's something with them and they need serious help. If you think you're one of those "jerks", please get some help. Wether that be therapy or a better friend/ friend group. Being a people pleaser is very stressful, I see it in my mother all the time. Don't try to get them to like you, of they don't, just roll with it. Don't let them get to you.
we all know people that we dislike but either we can't explain why or it's for ridiculously petty reasons. Once you acknowledge that about yourself, you can understand that some people won't ever like you, for no reason at all, and it's ok. Unless they're a jerk about it. Don't be a jerk.
Excellent point, but unfortunately, the jerks you describe are usually narcissistic, and will therefore never admit to being "one of them." The solution of "stick[ing] with the people and friends you know best" is a fantastic way to beat the problem!
Not necessarily. Most of them are just regular people with problems that they are acting out, and may not even realize what they are doing.
Load More Replies...It is okay to have and show emotions.
yes! every time my parents get on me about 'tone of voice,' i am convinced they want me to wander around like a mindless amoeba w) no emotion! We need to express ourselves!
Bit of clarification: Emotions are natural,, and someone else is not having theirs just to upset *you* or vice versa. And if someone braeks down crying on a public bus, well, there's probably a reason, so hand them a tissue. If someone cusses, let it slide. If someone's smiling, no, htey're not mocking you, they probably just remembered something nice. .... Honestly, we expect people to have good mental health while demanding they be androids.
this! I read this somewhere else, but its incredibly relateable: "at this point, I've been embarrassed, shamed, or traumatized out of any happiness, emotion, or enthusiasm" and it's honestly scary how many people commented on how relateable that post was
why can we show emotions if we are not supposed to. we have them for a reason.
Parents, please take this to heart. If you raise your child in a strict environment and you're strict in general, you are going to do the exact opposite of what you want. They aren't going to be an angel child whatsoever. They are going to find every way to do what you don't want them to, and they are going to do it in the most unsafe way possible. So please, let your kid have at least a healthy amount of freedom so they don't end up in a bad situation.
People aren't thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are. They generally don't care about the little tiny day-to-day mistakes that you make, and they probably don't hate you for the stupid reasons that sometimes make you hate yourself.
Tell my partner this all the time. She get paranoid at the shops that everyone is staring but forgets she to watches people when just sitting at the shops on a bench
Just because they have to take your order does not mean that customer service workers are there to be your emotional dumpsters! If you spend the whole day taking poop from your management, and you feel like c**p at the end of it, that is understandable. However, find another, healthier place and method for discharging all that negative vibe. Your local recreation center employee or McDonald's drive-through employee do not deserve your "righteous" wrath!
1.its better to adopt kids then make your own 2.when you don't want a pet anymore or cant take care of it. don't throw it on the streets, find them a new home 3.Anime sucks (im serous) please feel free to leave hate comment my post. i love reading hate comments
Point 1, debatable. Point 2, ofc. Point 3, it depends which anime, some are terrible..
ummmm thats wierd that you love hate comments but okay i dont like anime either
nobody has to like anything. there are plenty of anime that i hate and suck but others i love. I pefer manga tho
Be kind to everyone. If someone is a jerk (acts like one) it often means they're scared. Sometimes of you, and sometimes because they think they'll lose something if you gain. Therefore if you are kind to everyone, you disarm them.
that whole 'kill em with kindness' thing DOES work! (most of the time, anyways)
And even if it doesn't, treating them that way often helps change your inner thoughts about the situation so you can cope with it better
Load More Replies...If you be really nice when they're being a jerk it highlights their jerkyness and shame jobs them, this is assuming they're reasonable humans behind the jerk
Unfortunately this is b******t. Usually people who hurt others are doing it just cause they want to. There's a bunch of 'hacks' to get our, but it's all fake. There's no way out. Just disappear and avoid the people who want to hurt you. If they can't see you, they can't come after you. It's the only way to get out of this
im sorry but i can't just hide in a hole for the rest of time
Load More Replies...- Freedom of speech does not equal freedom of concequences. - Your religion is like a part of the male anatomy. It's fine if you have one, but there is no need to shove it down peoples throats. - Just because you don't like something, doesn't mean I should change it. Especially if it's something that really doesn't cause harm in any way
The 2nd one. Just because you have one doesn't mean anyone cares or wants to see it. It's not special or amazing. It's just there and you're the only one obsessed with it. Be respectful and keep it to yourself.
I'm proud of you. If you achieved all your goals, I'm proud of you. If you achieved some of your goals, I'm proud of you. If all you did was stay alive today, I'm proud of you. You did a great job today.
I'm a mom of three kids. One is LGBTQ+, one is special needs one is chi, het and neurotypical. I love and accept all of them equally. And their friends. I try not to judge (unless you mix plaids and pokadots. looking at you oldest child). I collect "banned books" and loan them out. I like to bake and love to bake with my kids. I'm a diesel mechanic who works for the local school. Now you know me. And I'm still proud of you :)
Load More Replies...BECAUSE I AM AN ONLY CHILD DOES NOT MEAN I AM A SPOILED BRAT. I am an only child and I never had another kid to play with, or have another kid to learn how to solve problems/conflicts correctly. THAT IS NOT OUR FAULT!!! Also, we get nice things, because our parents have less mouths too feed/clothe/etc. just me, my mom, and my dad. Do not automatically assume that only children are spoiled because we aren’t. We are so lonely that we don’t know what to do. We don’t have someone else to hold our hand through hard times. Please, don’t ever assume about only children.
When people use all caps, I'm sure they do it to draw attention to something... but when you read all caps, you read it in a voice of someone yelling at you. When you say you're not spoiled in all caps, I read it in a whiny bratty rich valley girl voice because her step dad didn't buy her the louis Vuittons she wanted... my point being, your delivery undercuts your point and I am saying that as an only-child who worked multiple jobs and side hustles to go to university.
You just made a big assumption, and you are an only child. OP could have had to work multiple jobs to go to college, or they still might not have been able to. Just because the top sentence triggered you, doesn't mean you need to be snooty yourself. So sorry you have to work hard as an only child to make your way, but that doesn't give you the right to be an equally bratty individual about it. Do you expect an apology from OP for the way your childhood was?
Load More Replies...It costs you nothing to be kind, but the rewards are endless. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Everyone has opinions, and sometimes those change within moments. The only person's opinion that matters is the person staring back at you from the mirror.
u mean the 4th one? and it doesn't mean opinions about important stuff, it's opinions about yourself.
Load More Replies...Sometimes what you want is the worst thing that can ever happen to you. Don't obsess about a goal, just let life show you the way and you'll see it was worth it
What if, hear me out, you happen to be the captain of a soccer team and your team is down by 1 goal lol
Glad you asked it, in this case, and this case only, go for it as if your life depends on it (cause depending on the soccer team and its fans it actually does lol)
Load More Replies...It isn't fair to compare anyone with kids to someone without kids. You shouldn't ever, as an outsider looking in, assume that someone's life is easy or they don't have responsibility because they don't have children. You know nothing about someone else's life and what ia happening in it. It's true not everyone wants kids/can have kids but never make assumptions about someone's life. Some women don't have kids because rhey can't; some because they don't want them both of which are fine. But the moment you look at someone's performance in anything-- how often they take personal days, how much makeup they have on etc and say well "so-in-so has three kids and somehow they can manage" you are comparing two totally different people, with different lives, different skills, different situations on a very skewed, highly biased and antiquated metrics. Not all women can be divided into those with kids and those with no responsibilities-- you wouldn't do that with men, don't do that with women (especially when you are a woman yourself, shame on you.)
Agree 100% percent. There are some parents who believe because they have children, they immediately have it harder and therefore should be treated with more sympathy and coddled more. Yes, kids are difficult, and I understand there are circumstances that call you home or where you may need some time to work through your issues, but you don't get special treatment. You and I(a childless, single woman)both have c**p we have to deal with in our personal lives.
Exactly. I had a manager sit me down after i put a tonne of time and energy into my job and did genuinely a great job there... and say "so-in-so lives as far as you, she is a single mom and can get to work on time, why can't you."... the cw she was referring to lives 30min away taking 2 low-traffic hwys to get to work, I lived 1.25hrs away, took 6hwys (5expressways, 1 country highway) including one that was a single lane so could take 15min-1hr depending on the lead car and weather. Yes my cw was a single mum... of a 17yr old. I was the primary care taker of my mum who had recent surgery and my bedridden grandmother with MS. I was a full-time student and newlywed still adjusting. I was 30min late that day because they closed a major 5lane highway. Despite every time i stayed late, came early, let them change my schedule... 7 lates (sub-5min) in 3 months well-- she can do it why can't you was her stance. She had me on every weekend so parents could be off-- i literally never had weekends off with her.
Load More Replies...You will never feel free. You will always have some restraints.
Sorry I wanted to add on: "But you need to know how far those restraints can go and be you."
I am not sure about this. Stephen Hawkins in his life support chair declared, that "In my mind I am free" and I know that is how I feel. though I am old need a roller to go anywhere, and my husband and my sister died. Freedom to think, to wonder, to enjoy good food, good company and a reasonably good health. Plenty of restrictions, but I don't feel them in everyday life.
It’s okay to not like something. You are allowed to not like something that your friends really like, and it doesn’t make you any different!
If the guy who got you pregnant is a lazy dead-beat and you think that having their baby will make them "snap out of it" and finally "step up"", then don't be surprised when you get shafted and end up raising little Junior all by yourself.
Also don't try and raise a child with someone just because you think all children need two parents. One great, committed parent is better than two s****y ones. It's also okay to admit that even if they are a good person, the two of you together don't work.
No one knows what they are doing. Most 'adults' are just as clueless and anxious as you feel most of the time...or is this just me? - I definitely don't know what I am doing but people still trust me to be in charge.
I would infinitely prefer someone in charge like you, who has the ability to doubt him/herselv, not someone who is absolutely sure she/he knows how to do it.
Nobody cares about representation in books, comics, movies or games if the stories and characters suck, it will only throw more shade on the represented groups. Using established fandoms / properties and changing them to appease some Keyboard Warriors on the internet won't net anything and shutting down any criticism with calling people sexist, racist or that alike is nothing else than exploiting women / minorities as shield. But I bet the people that need to hear this aren't around on BP
The first one is absolutely right. I love seeing representation and I rarely get it (trans and gay) but if I got it in the form of an offensively stereotypical character created only for 'diversity points' I'd rather it not exist. I don't want to be used as a way for shows to claim that they're diverse and cool, I want to see real rep
I'm gay. I also love comics. When some comic company suddenly decides a character is gay, after they haven't been for forty+ years, it doesn't feel like representation to me. It just feels like they're trying to pretend to be our friends as a cynical marketing ploy. Especially if the character just magically becomes straight again or disappears when it doesn't sell. I have liked when more original characters have an identity, but even then, it's almost always that they'll take a name from a more established property, and throw a splash of gay/brown/minority paint on. And it often feels like they'll make EVERYTHING about that one aspect of the character's identity. Like... I'm gay, but I'm also other things...
Now if we could just apply this to The Little Mermaid. As a black female myself(so chill wannabe woke)I adored Ariel as a little girl. She's probably the reason I find redheaded women so attractive. To make her black now is just pandering to the overly-sensitive people. Disney needs more creative ideas. Like Princes and the Frog! I loved seeing a black princess who had to work hard and was strong and a bit like me. It was wonderful! Make a black mermaid film could about Jamaican mermaids. Or perhaps incorporate an African legend into a Disney film with magic and music! Like Encanto. Something original and unique, not changing the image of something just to please black people. I want to see a live-action Tiana. I really hope Disney does that.
Nobody wants to hear your phone on speaker, music or conversations
Omg yes. I was in a horrible 3hr long traffic jam (the interstate closed because of a bad accidentso they were filtering everyone off slowly. It was literally dead stopped for 2 of those hours). I spent it next to a transport truck that blared EDM so loudly that it was heavily distorted and literally rattled my car. It was like a form of torture... I had a headache that became a migraine in those 3hrs. I have to assume the driver of the truck was deaf and had accidentally cranked the volume all the way up.
I love you. Someone or other you know loves you. You may not know it, but that someone is out there. Don't just look for them tho. BE that person as well! Love yourself, and love others who deserve it. And I still love you, and always will. :)
Nothing.Just do your own good ,don't listen to others too much .It can get too noisy sometimes.
You, every one of you, have and are living an extraordinary and unique life. No matter what you might think, your life is your own and no one has or will live it but you.
Bears aren't real, they're all people in costumes
if your kid is refusing to eat vegetables, try ranch
Then throwing the nutrients out with the pot liquor!
Load More Replies...Giving others rights does not take away your rights. When the US solidified gay and interracial marriage last year you would have thought queer people were going around breaking up marriages.
It has always been a mystery to me, why some people should think, that 2 men wanting to marry would be a threat to marriage?
some biblical something-or-other. I think they forgot about that little thing called freedom of religion.
Load More Replies...If two men or two women in a mature, consensual relationship and getting married is going to usurp your hetero marriage, you and your SO had bigger issues within yourselves. Two men/women walking around loving each other is as normal as you doing the same. But no, certain people would rather focus on that than a grown man grooming a child/teenage. You know what group I'm talking about.
FURRIES ARE NOT THAT BAD, YOU TREAT US LIKE S**T, WE DESERVE BETTER
Honestly, the way some people treat differences... it's no wonder they make their world so bleak and dreary. I just wish they would stop trying to push that darkness, anger and depression onto others. I'm not a furry, which kinda makes it none of my business... it makes you and others happy, and isn't harmful. Rock on, furry friends! <3
who gives a c**p if some people like to dress up?! let people have fun! furries are awesome people and creative!
It's a bit of a cliche, but just think before you do something 'would i like this if it was someone else doing it?' For example loud music is great...... when it's YOU that's playing it, when it's a neighbour it's not so great. People that park in disabled bays when they're not disabled... they always seem to have justified it to themselves on a reason they'd call b******t on if someone else tried to use the same one. We just seem to have a scummy undercurrent of people that then go on to teach their kids the same kinds of lack of respect for others here on this planet we're all sharing and at some point if we want to deal with the underlying issue then the consequences for being a d******d are going to have to be raised cause the ones for being one now don't seem to stop them.
I hope everything is okay between us. You've seemed really distant lately. I hope your girlfriend hasn't finally come between us. You were one of my best friends. Yes, I know, we've only known each other since September but you are. But I don't know if you still think we're friends or just people who know each other. I love you and I'm always here when you want to talk again. See you soon.
The truth backed by real facts.
People: (for example) "water isn't real!" me: "evidence?" them: "water isn't real!" sorry it's a trashy example but it's true.
Good and bad things happen to everyone. You're not the chosen one, neither the worst person ever born.
the chosen one has worse things happen to everyone than the rest of them.
Don't judge a person because of their looks, money, race, etc. Karma is a thing, you know. 😄
Just because you were able to do something, it doesn't mean everybody else can do it. We were all born with a different set of tools, and life has been completely different for each of us.
whoever you are, wherever you are. You are loved, even if you don't believe you're loveable.
thats what i keep telling myself, but i have to face the facts, im an a*s😅
guys we don't need to down vote just if we disagree with someone's religion. it's not kind
Load More Replies...Sometimes I wish people would love me a little less and leave me in peace
Instead of right clicking then selecting copy then right clicking and selecting paste ctrl+c and ctrl+v is a well known, well established shortcut that you would do well to learn, Brenda. Just because you aren't aware of it doesn't mean you should dictate what shortcuta people are allowed to use. You may prefer to drag your job out but you should take the opportunity to learn new skills such as keyboard shortcuts instead of berating the person who managed to take your 8hr a day task and finish it in 5hrs while doing it more accurately. Ps. Cut is just copying with deleting... instead of copying then deleting haphazardly. Your welcome.
Someone who felt it necessary to report me for not following instructions because i used keyboard shortcuts to do what she asked. Granted this was years ago but I found out that day that she was at it again with a friend of mine who works there.
Load More Replies...Just that kindness still exist in this world and don't loose faith in yourself.Depression is real but that feeling is caused by a chemical imbalance mainly serotonin so it's not real as well.This means your depression is not your fault.Don't hesitate to talk about it or see a doctor.If nothing works then give it some time and keep faith in God .
thank you i have so many friends that don't believe this and i support you and you have a new follower JESUS LOVES YOU BTW
I'd like my deceased mum and dad to know that we have Liddy and CJ, my niece and nephew, and that they are safe. I'd also like them to know that despite their situation, they've become amazingly mature and good kids - especially CJ. I feel so proud and delighted that they love us and trusted us enough to make this huge step. I'm giddy, almost like I've just given birth. Monday morning was heartbreaking and wonderful all at once, and probably one of the best Mondays I've ever had.
To experts in the field. Not all of them, but the ones that judge a parent or tell you that 'no, that would never happen, you are just wrong'. Please realize that living a situation is VERY different from simply learning about it. I've been blasted a couple times on line, called a terrible parent/person, or a liar, when I've shared stories on autism support groups. Sometimes what they have been taught will NOT work for every child. And if anyone should understand the idea of 'if you've met one person with autism it means you've met ONE person with autism', it would be you.
Arranged marriages and in some cases relation with relatives are both based on Stockholm syndrome.
Or the subject of my submission to this challenge/post thing...
There's this guy (I'll call him C) who I asked why he hates me because whenever I say something he ridicules it and when I get mad at C for ridiculing everything I say he calls me a Karen. Also, when I am having an argument with someone C butts in, and is never on my side. If I stop being friends with C, everyone in my friend group is friends with him, and then they might stop being friends with me, and then I would have no friends. One person in the friend group doesn't like C either but I'm sure she'd rather stay in the group...What do I do?
Are you in school? Because this reads like you are. Popularity is fleeting and if someone is making you uncomfortable there's no reason to continue interacting with them. The "group" isn't that great if none of them deign to support you. I promise school friendships are mostly superficial - some last, but most don't. And making yourself continually uncomfortable to "keep" a group that doesn't stick up for you isn't worth it. I'm sure there are plenty of people you can make friends with that aren't following C around like a puppy.
if you stop being friends with him and none of your friends stick with you then they are FAKES so you need to find some new friends who love you for who you are and will stick with you no matter what you do and will put you on the right path when your wrong ive had to do thismany times
i need my son to hear that i love him more than the dog (and for him to know, i mean it).
maybe i need to switch the word 'hear' with 'believe' because i do. he thinks i don't mean it.
Load More Replies...Sayings have context and are not easy ways out of discussions. "Do not speak ill of the dead" is for the evryman, like your aunt sheryll who drank a bit too much at family dinners. It is not for people who represent a system of oppression or that kind of things (e.g. queen elizabeth who ruled over colonisation of a lot of countries. i'm not talking about outright celebrating her death but about those who used the do not speak ill of the dead argument to shut down the voices of people from those countries) Same thing for "separate the art from the artist": Separate the art from the artist is for people like Roald Dahl and Lovecraft who are dead and don't use their money to promote hateful ideology. JK Rowling for example makes money with her work and uses it for harmful ideologies and campaigns. you cannot separate the art from the artist when it enables the artist.
I mean even if you're a terf, antisemitism seems pretty harmful to me. Also there are intersex people who menstruate too-
Load More Replies..."1. be nice and support each other; 2. let's not talk politics; 3. don't use names when mentioning people." What I need people to hear would violate rules 2 and 3, so.............
is there any way you can share that without using names?
Load More Replies..."1. be nice and support each other; 2. let's not talk politics; 3. don't use names when mentioning people." What I need people to hear would violate rules 2 and 3, so.............
is there any way you can share that without using names?
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