TL;DR: i wanna unfriend someone because they are a really bad influence on me, but idk how.
So im friends with this person right? i'll call them... cheerio. yup, like the cereal.
i met them last year in a mutual class. we immediately became friends because we are the same age and we were assigned to sit next to each other.
now i was pretty happy to be their friend, we had similar interests.
but then the day comes around that they came into class, and they looked pretty tired and depleted.
i ask cheerio if they are ok.
they said that they were fine, but their zaza wore off.
they did zaza. weed. we are minors by the way. and its illegal in my state to do it if you are under 21.
i am pretty shaken by this statement. i surround myself with a bunch of people who can be described as "goody two shoes"(really rude connotation, ik). they get good grades and they follow the rules, and not really rebels.
this comment lingered, but i tried to ignore it because i thought it was a joke. cheerio seemed like the type of person to make "dark jokes" so yeah.
here comes the day where i decide to sit at cheerio's table at lunch. nice convo, but then comes the disscussion of zaza. i stay quiet and observe.
everyone talks about having it, dealers and stuff like that. i felt extremely uncomfortable. i've seen this stuff in videos they've shown us in health class, and i never thought it would ACTUALLY happen.
in the most nonchalant way possible, i tell my friend that i would go to the bathroom, and i left.
other stuff that you guys should probably note:
- cheerio is the type of person to be "overly woke". dont get me wrong, i'm all for the lgbtq acceptance, as i am part of the community myself. but its come to the point where stuff like these happen:
- heterophobia. cheerio has said many statements that lead me to believe that they genuinely hate straight people.
- racism, but against white people. ironically, cheerio is white. cheerio said statements like, "oh they probably did [horrendous act] because they are straight and white."
- glorifying neurodivergency. imo, neurodivergency is just something you have. its not bad, its not good, its just.. what it is. though you do have to accept that it sometimes affects one's life in a negative way(sensory overload, social ques, ect). cheerio does not accept this and has used it as a complement.
- genuinely believes that you can identify as an animal. im all for the enby's but i feel like there are limits.
- has a pretty negative outlook on life.
so yeah theres that. please help me you guys. im scared to approach my parents because they would immediatly assume the worst and think that i did something. and they will keep it a long going disscussion for the rest of my life. like even after its solved they would bring it up.
please help me you guys.
thanks
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You live in America right? I suggest two ways: either you be very direct with them and end the friendship or you slowly start ignoring them and you can maybe ask your teacher to change your seat if you’re uncomfortable. It’s a good idea to bring this up with your parents or any other trusted adult as you have no idea the things that can happen around negative influences
And by the way, I’m in a much tamer situation than yours. I update my parents on stuff I feel is important. If you don’t say anything then your parents will asume you’ve done something which is why you were hiding it from them
Dang, that's rough. I'm really sorry you have to put up with Cheerio (love the nickname). I don't really have any experience with this, but I do agree with Stardust. I suggest slowly ignoring them, or maybe just change seats or something? You could tell a teacher about this and maybe they won't put you on the same assignments or next to each other in class. Also when I saw zaza I got really confused cause thats the nickname I call my friend Zaïd by lol.
Hey, it won't let me add a post, but i just wanted to let you know that i understand how difficult it is to try and distance yourself from an unwanted friend and i encourage you to prioritise your own mental health and general well-being. Don't feel guilty for not staying friends with cheerio. As a fellow goody two shoes, you should always feel comfortable with the people around you, and these people cheerio hangs around with do not sound like a good fit for you. Weed is really bad for your brain cells, and they might end up addicted or arrested. As stardust said, you can always speak to the staff at your school to move you away from them. I know you are strong enough to get through this and do what you have to! Good luck and have a nice day. :)
Hey, it won't let me add a post, but i just wanted to let you know that i understand how difficult it is to try and distance yourself from an unwanted friend and i encourage you to prioritise your own mental health and general well-being. Don't feel guilty for not staying friends with cheerio. As a fellow goody two shoes, you should always feel comfortable with the people around you, and these people cheerio hangs around with do not sound like a good fit for you. Weed is really bad for your brain cells, and they might end up addicted or arrested. As stardust said, you can always speak to the staff at your school to move you away from them. I know you are strong enough to get through this and do what you have to! Good luck and have a nice day. :)
