Nobody deserves being rejected. First off, the world is cruel enough. And second, there’s a fair share of karma involved in it. If you ever reject someone, the chances are the same thing will come to you as a boomerang when you least expect it. In a parallel reality, everyone would have a reciprocal “It’s a match!”
But being told ‘sorry’ by your love interest is surely much more complex than that. And the best way to take a glimpse into humanity’s hurt souls is to look at what people have to say themselves.
So when Twitter user Eden Dranger posed the question “What was your harshest rejection?” it resonated with many, amassing 4,173 retweets and 67.6K likes.
So let’s get ready for a brutal, yet sometimes funny, other times plain odd, roller coaster ride featuring the stories of rejection as told by the ones who know what they’re saying.
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Good for you, choosing your family is a perk of being an adult. Your mom doesn't deserve you.
Sounds like my mother. She paid my sister $300 not to go to her senior prom. She sabotaged my sister's chance of going to college right out of high school by saying my father refused to sign the student loan papers only to find out later that he'd never seen them. She constantly thought she was "saving" my sister from humiliation because my sister was overweight her entire life. My sister was a straight "A" student and ASB Secretary for 2 years in high school, including her senior year. She was so popular that, through my first year at the same high school, all her former teachers called me Diane by mistake. Too bad she couldn't see how much harm she did trying to protect her.
My parents were the opposite. They always encouraged us and pushed us to do our very best. The one thing that ticked off my dad was that the school kept calling me in for random drug testing. I had never done a drug a day in my life.
Load More Replies...What a mom (irony). You are lucky to have a better people in your life now, family need not to be blood and vice versa.
One that should have never have kids. I hope that she dies alone and miserable.
Load More Replies...If god existed he would be a horrible entity for letting that poor woman getting beaten almost to death.
Load More Replies...I have a similar story, my big crush married a beautiful girl and we were all so envious of her... until they got divorced because Harry would get drunk and beat her. Who knew? The rest of us dodged a bullet. Hope she is doing OK now. And thank God these b*strds go to prison now! They didn't back in my day.
Inviting a stranger without informing the host is so rude just by itself, especially when you are the only one invited, and to the hosts own home! The stranger being their date is just the cherry on top.
Load More Replies...To find out more about dealing with harsh rejection, Bored Panda reached out to Kate Mansfield, an acclaimed dating and relationship coach based in London, UK. Kate told that the way rejection psychologically affects us vary from person to person. “Rejection can have a profound or a mild effect, depending on the psychological state, the past trauma, and the personality of the person,” she explained.
“At its worst, it can cause extreme feelings of worthlessness and even depression. It can cause the person to withdraw from relationships and to stay alone. Or, to feel not good enough and low self-esteem.”
Meanwhile, people with healthy self-esteem and confidence, are usually mildly affected. This is “because they have a solid sense of self-worth already,” Kate explained.
very evil and abusive, it this was my child I would do anything in my power to make the life of this creature a living hell till she could not show her face in public
Load More Replies...I had a best friend all through primary school and whilst we were still best friends in high school, we didn’t get to see each other as much as we went to different schools. Anyway one day we were chatting on the phone and I asked about her plans for her 13th birthday. She told me she wasn’t allowed to have a party. Well on a Monday morning at school a mutual friend of ours came up to me and asked if I was sick on the weekend. Turns out my supposed best friend of almost 9 years did have a party. I just wasn’t invited. That hurt like hell and ruined our friendship. We have reconnected numerous times since but something always happens and we stop being fiends. Now if we see each other we may have a little chat but there are no exchanging of numbers or scheduling a catch up. I think we both know that our friendship just wasn’t meant to be.
What a horrible thing to do to you. No wonder you never reconnected.
Load More Replies...Oh let me tell you about the wrath I'd bring down on that bitch if I were your mom. Case in point, when my son was young he had horrible eczema. Nothing I did helped him. He was out playing and a mother told her kid to not play with my son because he looked contagious. He came home crying, let's just say when I was done with her, she was crying in front of HER kid. (no I did not lay a hand on her)
My brother had a best friend from age 4 to 11. His mother sabotaged their friendship, as she somehow thought my brother was a bad influence on her son (who wasn't allowed to do anything e.g. eat cereal or wear sports jerseys whilst playing basketball because it supposedly made him look "too wild and not very intelligent"). She actually convinced her son to lie to my brother about not wanting to see him anymore and managed to drive a wedge between them. My brother, who was still a kid after all, didn't understand any of it and it broke his heart. He's 34 now and still has trouble talking about it, since it made him feel completely worthless and as if something was wrong with him.
I wouldn't take this as a rejection towards you... Imagine being one of those women, they are 14, all looking at each other, no way their are going to jump on the lonely guy, they would be too self-conscious. Would probably have been much easier with an even number between women and men
Agreed. Or maybe even, he made a nervous grin that accidentally looked like a very smug smile.
Load More Replies...That was not on you, they were already feeling rejected themselves because thirteen other guys didn't show up.
I think you're right. Poor guy though, that must hurt
Load More Replies...If I were you, I'd be pretty fucken nervous. I'd probably sweat at an alarming rate, s**t myself and walk straight out the door.
But your picture it looks like you finally found just the right person. Good things come to those who wait. Congratulations!
When asked about the ways to deal with being rejected, Kate suggested working on your self-esteem and understanding that it’s nothing to do with you, and usually, it’s not personal.
“Try to feel grateful, because the one thing worse than being rejected is to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't really love you. That is rejection on a daily basis, and causes extreme loneliness.”
First, freckles are sexy. Second, to hell with that guy and what kind of a jag says something like that? Dodged a bullet.
I had something similar happen. I was at a roller blading disco and a guy asked me out. We chatted on the phone every few days and organised to meet up again at the next disco. Well he only saw me in UV lights the first time but this time he saw me in daylight as we were waiting for the place to open. He had his friend dump me coz I wasn’t as good looking like he thought I was.
Aww, I have a ton of freckles too and I (now) love them! I hope you love yours too!
I get quite a few in the summer and my husband is in awe.
Load More Replies...I had more freckles as a kid, but they've faded a bit (get more during summer/sunny weather tho). And boy do I love my freckles!! WISH I HADE MORE!!!!
Freckles are adorable. I hope you walked out on this rude creep. Some people have no tact.
No it means your cat treat game is sad.You need to buy cat treats by the bucket.
Load More Replies...All outdoor cats have friendships, schedules, and communities their owners know nothing about.
Most likely the homeless simply had way more attention to give, because they had more free time, and they likely gave more undivided attention also.
Load More Replies...Cats know where they are needed. Our cat moved in with our neighbors, the man had cancer. Stayed until the widow moved, then he came home.
I had a guy and his cat living with me for a period of time. Once the guy got on his feet, he moved out and took the cat with him. A week goes by and he said that Squeek wasn't happy with him or where they were living. He brought Squeek back here and he's been living with me happily ever since. You can't be mad with a cat for knowing what they want.
It's not always about the treats. The attention you show and the time you spend with cats is also very important for bonding. Besides that, cats are opportunists.
Let's just hope that they are able to put him behind bars for his part in the siege of the capitol.
John Edward’s did the same thing but got the side piece pregnant while his wife was dying of cancer.
Tale as old as time, unfortch. When women get sick, most men will bail. Build and nurture your female friendships, gals. They will be the ones by your side when you are at your worst.
Most men? I don't think so....the majority of men would stick to their vows it's just that doesn't make headlines so you only hear about the arseholes....
Load More Replies...I think Newt Gingrich did this to his wife as well (she was also in the hospital).
Sort of like McCain divorcing his first wife after she was mutilated in an auto accident.
I am blessed to say that my parents would never be like this. They have been married for forty one years and still love each other greatly.
That was also me, whose husband kicked me out after my heart attack, stroke and several surgeries. I wasn't "the person I used to be."
You just dodged a bullet lolll if he can't handle a person having an extra few pounds, then that's on him.
They're 15. Of course, they're going to be concerned about appearance.
Load More Replies...You know what I may get hate for this but just because he asked if the other girl was fat, does not mean he was insulting her. So it all depends on the tone of voice and intention. Fat is a descriptive word and not an insult if used as a descriptive word and not as an insult. And people saying well he shouldn’t care about looks. Newsflash believe it not looks to matter. That is the first impression you get of someone. Some people are not attracted to bigger girls, yet like some are not attracted to slim girls. Some are attracted to blondes or brunettes etc. Things we ind attractive are beyond our control.
What are you talking about? Of course it is insulting to ask someone that kind of question! You can have preferences but it is not okay to act like a total jerk!
Load More Replies...Bigger women are just as beautiful as smaller women. Beauty doesn’t have a size!
Looks sure say bothing about personality. Looks do matter for most when dating though.
Load More Replies...Oh, I just hope he’s bald and toothless now. Or is he the one that’s in prison for almost killing his wife? Either way, he was an asshole then and he’s probably still an asshole now. So you’re so much better off, and way way better than him.
This is not to bad....he tried to be subtle. I do not like overweight people as more then friends either.
Karma Police, arrest this maaaan/ he talks in maths, he buzzes like a fridge/ He's like a detuned radio....
Load More Replies...Better to be rained on than spend even one minute with such a twerp. And anyone who laughed should hang their heads in shame. They are not nice people.
Truly nice people are rare in this world. You haven't learned that yet?
Load More Replies...To be honest I'm rather curious about that apology attempt. I'm trying to think what could possibly be said in this situation (and what for, really) and I'm drawing blank
The people (I am assuming that they are total strangers) who laughed at you were horrid. They had no empathy, and probably lacked any capacity for compassion. Blind dates are tricky. My favourite dates have been blind ones, completely sight unseen. And, my worst dates have been blind ones, where I got stood up or the guy took one look at me, and walked the other way. Fortunately, that seldom happened. But, when it did, I was more annoyed than hurt. "How dare you? Especially if you were no oil painting yourself."
I'm glad for you that you can't imagine this happening where you live.
Load More Replies...I think this probably means "over qualified" as in "I think he's going to be too bored to spend all day every day collecting trolleys". So take it as a compliment.
This is what my mom has told me about a job I have applied for. I have applied to work as kitchen staff at a local mental hospital and I have repeatedly rejected. My mom thinks that I am being rejected because I have a bachelor's degree so the hiring people think that I am over qualified for that job.
Load More Replies...I have been here. My deceased boyfriend, may he RIP, networked with this guy whose wife was looking for an office manager for her insurance business. The husband thought my resume looked good for the position. She called me and said that she preferred to hire someone with far less qualifications, someone like a 'lane replenisher' or 'someone packing groceries with a bare minimum high school leaving certificate'. Why? She further explained, because an office manager job would be the best job that a person like that could ever hope to get in their lifetime & they would not leave the position for something better. The husband eventually apologized for his wife wasting my time. I have a degree in Business Management.
Nawww I'm sorry for your loss. I couldn't even BEGIN to imagine what it would be like to be in your shoes!!!
Load More Replies...When Hagen Daz openned a store in our neighborhood my school mates and I were turned down because we did not have prior experience at an ice cream store (I had retail experience). NYU thought we were worth teaching, but Hagen Daz didn't.
I had a similar experience. I applied for a great job as nature park gard. The job was a “learning job” and the vacancy said that you only needed a high school diploma and no experience. I have two masters in biology, two years experience as animal caregiver and volunteer experience working in forests. They didn’t even call me to an interview “because I wasn’t the type of person that they were looking for”. Assholes.
Reminds me of when my husband ( a licensed contractor ) was slow at work and applied to Home Depot. They stuck him in the parking lot gathering carts instead of inside helping people buy the right stuff to fix up homes. Meanwhile, the kids that worked inside, knew nothing.
Haha, I was sent home from a temp job as a grocery store cashier cause I was too clumsy when scanning items. I was studying towards a master's degree in Math at the time.
Whatever people say, rejection hurts. Bottom line. It doesn’t matter which point of a relationship you’re at—being told "I am sorry, but" is something none of us want to hear. Emotional responses by anyone who’s experienced it are confirmed by researchers, and they range from feeling jealous to anxious and lonely.
But since rejection has a lot to do with self-worth and self-image, oftentimes the pain of it is directly linked to how you validate yourself. Often people look for external and not internal forces to feel validated, which makes them vulnerable to setbacks. What if we simply haven't learned to love ourselves enough?
Just another viewpoint to consider: she had self-esteem issues she hadn't worked through and wasn't confident enough yet at that age to date who she really liked and give the finger to social pressure.
Load More Replies...Love is love in every environment. If you think you have to hide it, it isn't love.
Maybe she was just uncomfortable with public displays of affection?
Load More Replies...Grease! Good comparison - at least Danny tried to "shape up" for Sandy.
Load More Replies...If that’s your picture, you must’ve been one good-looking nerd. The cheerleader, one the other hand, may have been pretty on the outside, but she was eaten up with ugly on the inside. Bet the person you’re with now is beautiful, inside and out (beautiful inside makes outside so much more beautiful than just surface “beauty”—-enhanced by being bathed in a beautiful pure light of intrinsic goodness).
PDA was uncomfortable for me when I was a teenager. I didn't even want my mom to kiss me in public. Some teenagers are insecure like that.
I had a thing for nerds since high school but i was no cheerleader lol
I'm pretty sure you mean emasculated .... She'll feel quite emancipated I'm sure haha 😂!!
Load More Replies...This person really did dodge a bullet. lf someone is worthy of your affection, they would be celebrating your success. If someone who claims they care about you makes you feel guilty about your achievements....you don't need them in your short, precious life. Why do dogs understand unconditional love, but people don't?
Load More Replies...A guy taught me how to fish. I mastered it. He stopped taking me fishing.
That's just mansplaining the right way...
Load More Replies...He would have been nothing but trouble down the road. He's a guy that's threatened by a woman doing better than him. Probably wouldn't be able to handle it if he found out you made more money.
Sounds like you never dumbed yourself down to make some guy feel better about being stupid. I applaud you for it, as I can remember seeing so many brilliant young women do that, just to keep a boyfriend, and it infuriated me. If a man can’t be ecstatically happy, and count himself lucky, that an intelligent and attractive woman has, of her own free will, chosen to be with him, then he can just go f**k himself—-and he might as well get used to doing it too, because with his attitude, no one else will.
I look at this two ways .Yes it is a d**k to dump someone on their birthday, if he did it before the party out of spite then that makes him a an absolute d**k. But if he did it before the party because he knew she would be surrounded by people she loved for support, then that just takes away the absolute and he is just a d**k for dumping her on her birthday.
Actually I was thinking of a third one: if he knew he wanted to dump her, it's better for him not to be at the party and taint her memories of it with his presence. And she can look back at that day as a new beginning (though admittedly it probably didn't feel that way then)
Load More Replies...Had a boyfriend come from out of town for my family reunion. The only reason he came was to break up but he didn't want to do it over the phone. Thought it was more considerate to do it face to face.... at my family reunion.
That just ruins your whole day when it's supposed to be happy. If you gonna break up with someone, don't do it on their birthday.
Maybe he thought she'd only be upset for 20 minutes and then there would be a fantastic distraction from being dumped?
So they were just racists. Today one tweet, would be enough to force the agency out of business. And rightly so.
Wow, what a d**k move. Were they one of those agencies who said you have to pay for your own pictures for your portfolio?
Wow, the same thing happened to me! Modeling agencies can sometimes be a little harsh.
Oh well, good on them for having their token “ethnic” already. F*****g assholes. Got a message for the modeling industry, plus the beauty product, diet, and entertainment, industries: Beauty is beauty is beauty. It is not all the same, it is not an unreachable aesthetic, it is not cookie cutter perfection. There is no such thing as “conventional beauty”, nor should there be. In real life, it is often the imperfections that make someone beautiful—-and interesting. Here’s a prime example: Back in the day, Barbra Streisand was looked upon as a great talent, no question, but was not considered pretty. Look at pictures of her today, both when she was young and now, and she is gorgeous! Interestingly beautiful. Striking. That people “in the industry” didn’t consider her to be beautiful is a sad sad comment on standards of “beauty”. We need to throw out the book on beauty and start a new, expanded, and diverse volume.
Oh hell no! Then again - agencies are like that. Not necessarily racist, per se, but when I submittted to mine, they said, "Oh, you're in luck! We just lost our middle-aged redhead!" Can I get an Amen... lol
Was he moving to Yemen ;) :D that's a joke... please somebody get that joke!
If you want to write to him: 15 Yemenroad, Yemen :D
Load More Replies...Is it just me, but what exactly is "casually dating"? If you date, do it seriously. If you are more of friends with benefits (which is what I think the word casually means when paired with dating) then why are you so surprised? For you to say it was casual, then isn't it normal to be the same for him as well?
They did, however, put "casual" in quotes, which gives me the first impression that it wasn't exactly casual. Unless it means that they had a relationship that could be described with the word "casual", hence the quotes.
Load More Replies...Being rejected by someone you love can really turn even the strongest of us into emotional train wrecks. But in many cases, we tend to idealize both the person and the relationship, as we only remember good times and emotions.
Such behavior is usually unconscious, but it nevertheless doesn’t show the full picture of what you really feel hurt about.
Interestingly, friendship rejections can often be even more painful than romantic ones. Beverly Flaxington, a life and career coach, says to remember that while a friendship’s end can be painful, it’s also normal for friends to come and go.
I feel bad for both of these ladies. This guy sounds disgusting.
Load More Replies...Seeing a guy or girl for 2 years, is not a casual thing. Let me tell you some advice that one of my male teachers gave us, if you are in a relationship/seeing a guy for 2 years, at least, or more, and he does not make any moves to get more serious about life, about the relationship, he is not the one. Move on! I think this can be applied to other types of relationships also, esp employer/employee. If your boss/employer is in the habit of taking you or other employees for granted, you will see it within the first 1-3 years. Make some strategic decisions and move on. BTW, I wish I had taken that advice more seriously in relationships & at work. I stayed to long in both and put up with way too much s**t!
You're having sex with a guy FOR TWO YEARS, and you don't even know if he's in a relationship! He's not committed to you in any way and obviously you don't know the first thing about him. So why are you complaining again?
also, no birth control? BAD IDEA. Condoms fail WAY TOO EASILY.
Load More Replies...Could be worse, he could have said "OMG, whatever you do, don't tell my girlfriend"
I would’ve burned the letter afterwards just to avoid any hidden curses.
Seriously, is that a real thing? What the f-word is wrong with people. Hope he steps in dogshit every day for the rest of his life.
Could have said you were relieved, you were trying to think how to tell him that he is a no no with an apparent too low IQ and zero personality, without sounding so rude. And that he is the one paying for the burgers, then order a dessert, then laugh and say you should be the one getting paid for enduring such a boring night.
That would've been the perfect comeback. "You just won Ask Out a Dog? Well what a funny coincidence. It just so happens... "
Load More Replies...My older brother told me that was why he was dating this girl. I never had any respect for him after that.
I probably would have asked him if he planned on splitting the loot. There are people on this list I would not be able to handle, but this one is easy.
There was a movie about something like this disgusting practice. I think it was called “Dogfight” or something. Thankfully, in the movie one of the guys realizes the girl he chose may not have been conventionally beautiful on the outside, but actually had very striking intrinsic beauty that made her very attractive to him once he got to know her, and that what he and the others were doing was intentionally and unnecessarily cruel to people who didn’t deserve such ill treatment.
It's got River Phoenix in it. It's a great, albeit sad movie. (And yes it is called Dogfight. It's really good. I watched it a long time ago but it's always stayed with me)
Load More Replies...Take solace in knowing this kind of behavior eventually catches up to guys like this. It's only a matter of time before they mess with the wrong person. At some point someone likely beat the sh*t out of him
this is probably what would make me snap and go to prison. I would tell his other "fiance" everything. But here's what perplexes me, I am engaged, so we live together, how are you engaged to someone for FIVE years and he is able to be engaged to another person etc? Weird.
Many people who are engaged don't live together, so it's totally possible for them to be maintaining two relationships. Although, when I was engaged my partner and I spent so much time together that if they had been seeing someone else that person would have gotten very little attention!
Load More Replies...Was he a policeman? Had he purchased you a coffee maker? Was his name Jason Collier?
The 5 year engagement was your first clue. If a man is waiting that long to marry you, he is still exploring his options.
Say it with flowers, say it with diamonds, but never say it with ink.
Or maybe have the decency to end a relationship before screwing someone else.
Load More Replies...If he or she has done it once, they will do it again. Once a cheat always a cheat.
I had to read this a couple times to understand it😅 But now I do lol
I am confused. What did the OP have to cool down from? They didn’t know about the letter until Picking up the friend.
I had trouble reading it ahaha- to anyone with the same problem, basically the author was picking up a friend from the airport, and she [the friend] said that the authors husband said he loved her [the friend],, and the husband had been divorced before for cheating.
On the other hand, if you still feel like you're missing that person and that friendship in your life, Lexington suggests “reaching out to see if the person wants to get together.” In fact, timing may be crucial as it gives a whole new perspective of the friendship and the people we surround ourselves with.
After some time has passed and if you find yourself missing that person and that friendship, Flaxington suggests reaching out to see if the person wants to get together. Timing is key here. Time can allow people to approach a friendship with a new perspective, she notes
Sometimes you need people to be tough on you because family and friends might lie to you about how good you are
Or maybe you are really really good, but the others were better. Keep practicing and better luck next time!
Load More Replies...That's not an appropriate rejection lettter coming from an admission board. Maybe they should learn how to write polite official letter first before going harsh on applicants?
"I read many talented writers of rejection letters this application cycle. Unfortunately, you were not one of them. I hope you made other plans."
Load More Replies...Another way of saying “Don’t quit your day job”. Brutal. Bet you ya successful published author now. If so, then rub their faces in it every chance you get.
They can't be serious. No esteemed institution would do that. That's an old joke.
You're the only other person on this thread using your common sense. I suddenly understand how Trump maintains his fanbase -- people will believe any damn thing. It's frightening
Load More Replies...I call BS - Johns Hopkins University would not have written this, multiple words are cut out to make it false
No, this is just a (summary of a) standard, polite rejection letter ---- with the middle paragraph accidentally missing, "We had only X places so could take X candidates". I know somebody that did send out such an email (and only realized when her CCed boss pointed it out, so hastily sent an apology mail after that). It happens when the precise number isn't known (budget dependent) or privileged info. So if on paper, good luck the secretary will never know their error...
Wow. Well f**k Kavanaugh and f**k your ex husband. I hope you've since found someone who appreciates a bad@$$ like you.
Had to Google (not from the US)... President Trump nominated Kavanaugh to the U.S. Supreme Court on July 9, 2018, to fill the position vacated by retiring associate justice Anthony Kennedy. Christine Blasey Ford accused Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her in the early 1980s while the two were in high school.[7][8][9] Three other women also accused Kavanaugh of sexual misconduct, one of whom recanted her accusation. A man also accused Kavanaugh of assault against a woman in 1985, but this accusation was recanted.[10][11][12] Kavanaugh denied all the accusations. The Senate Judiciary Committee held a supplemental hearing over Ford's allegations, after which it voted to advance the confirmation to a full Senate vote. On October 6, the full Senate confirmed Kavanaugh by a vote of 50–48
He was gonna leave her anyway, he just needed an excuse. Not a valid one but at least an excuse.
wow! but good for you for your response. i was married for 32+ yrs to someone who had opposite political views. we handled it well & with humor. every election season he 'gave' me the left side of the lawn- the left side of the bed, etc. now divorced (not due to politics) he ended up w/very right minded almost extremist woman. he bragged about his support for trump on social media. well, i just had to remind him that before we divorced i did know he voted for obama at least once.
So he was open minded enough to vote for who he thought was qualified instead of blindly following whatever idiot had the right letter after their name? You're trying to make it sound like an insult when he really should be praised for his clear thinking. We need more open minded people like that in this country and fewer "The other party sucks!" morons on both sides.
Load More Replies...Wait, did he not know his wife was going to the hearing to protest? I think there were some communication issues here. (not justifying, just observing)
I don't know if this really had so much to do with your opinions about Kavanaugh. He might've already been looking for a reason to break up the relationship, but it might also have something to do with you having to be "carried out of the hearing". That's not exactly something that's easy to explain to friends, family and neighbors.
I followed the Kavanaugh hearings pretty closely and I have no idea who the protestors were. Dude was looking for an excuse, not mature enough just to say he was unhappy.
I'd say: congrats on not getting engaged to this sorry excuse for a human being.
Yea i bet that made their day 🙄 quit being facetious
Load More Replies...I'd tell her. A person who'll do a thing like that isn't going to be a good partner for anyone...and doesn't deserve to marry.
What woman thinks that this guy is worth dating? If he'll do something like this to his wife, he's capable of doing sh*t like that to you.
Exactly! A woman I know met a bloke at a party (very briefly). He was living with his girlfriend. The next week he turns up on her doorstep! They date, move in together, and he starts cheating on her. Must be four times he's done it now. I have no sympathy for her any longer.
Load More Replies...Why would you let your ex and his girlfriend come over in the first place.....?
where are the bodies buried? It's Ok I won't tell. if you need to move them...
I really don't understand people who pay for their not-even-spouse's education, house, cars, etc... Like, are you out of your mind?
I agree 100%. I was seeing a guy for a few months and he asked me for a down payment on a car. When I said no, he broke up with me.
Load More Replies...How is that even a rejection? For someone who is making this TWITTER THREAD into a competition like some loserly dork, hers is the worst example of rejection this far. He broke up with you. Not every relationship works out. That’s not the same as the kind of rejection being told in this thread. It’s a normal breakup. He’s not required to stay with you just because you used your money.
But does he owe you $60,000? Did you lend it to him or did you just pay for it and then your relationship didn't work out? There is a big difference.
But why? Why the hell would you invest that kind of money in someone you're not even married to
not to me but my niece. she had a full ride scholarship for college but, due to being 'in love' w/a guy, decided to quit school to work & support him until he graduated. the plan was for her to do this, then get married, return to school. he graduated, dumped her. everyone could see this was going to happen but knew saying anything wouldn't do any good as she cut ppl out that did. good news: she did return to school, met a great guy, got married & is very happy. but, it was hard to watch it unfold.
Where did this happen? In some countries this situation allows the jilted/used party to sue for support.
Money doesn't make the pain hurt more ..lucky you had 60k to spend on a loser
According to Lori Gottlieb, M.F.T., psychotherapist, "When somebody rejects us, there's a very primal piece to it, which is that it goes against everything we feel like we need for survival."
But beyond the evolutionary standpoint, our responses to rejection vary greatly as they really depend on the models in which we develop our relationships with people. Those with insecure attachment styles in contrast to secure ones are likely to experience much greater pain from rejection.
I would say my boyfriend is gross just to tease him, first thing my boyfriend ever called me was a donkey and I was head over heels (we tease each other a lot and we’re very happy, 2 years in a couple days!)
Maybe she was “fronting” or flirting through good natured ribbing.
My cousin had a friend of hers from her childhood visit her and her boyfriends apartment for a week. Turned out, while my cousin was away at work at her boyfriends family owned business, her friend and bf started an affair. She came home early and caught them. She immediately broke up with him, kicked him out, found a new job. Her friend returned to her home town. A few weeks later, her friend was in a car wreck and had to have her jaw wired shut after her face struck the window from not wearing a seatbelt. My cousin's reaction? "Karma's a b*tch!"
You lost a loser who used a woman for sex while in a relationship, and then couldn't even be bothered to drive her home. The trash took itself out. Your ex-best friend had no loyalty, or dignity apparently, so you lost nothing there. Congratulations on getting rid of two losers from your life. Condolences on the loss of your grandmother.
Did they leave you behind? I hope you found some REAL friends if they did.
Pearls of Wisdom from my first high school reunion: The tall skinny ugly ones turn out beautiful. The pretty cheerleader girls end up ugly. And the Cool Guys who used to have hair don't have it anymore.
That is a true fact. Look at all the famous models
Load More Replies...I'm sure they see now how wrong they were. I have three boys and they knew better than to ever hurt anyone's feelings.
Stripping is sex work, and a lot of guys have difficulty separating the fantasy woman from the actual human being. Not excusing this jackass in any way, but as in most any job it’s best to not date the customers/clientele.
After making the movie “Gilda”, Rita Hayworth said something similar to that. To paraphrase, it was something like “They think they’re going to bed with Gilda but then they wake up with Rita”. Basically saying she was much more conventional than the character she played in that movie. But the men she was dating just couldn’t separate the real her from the fictional her. (Though FFS, you’d think waking up next to Rita Hayworth would be enough of a dream come true for a guy.)
Load More Replies...“My problem with men is that they all want to go to bed with Marylin, but they wake up with Norma Jean” - Marilyn Monroe
The problem wasn't that you fell for a customer. No sex before established relationship, and don't be paying his way! Otherwise, it's a perfect recipe for being used. Make him invest in you with time and coin, and he will see you as someone he had to work for, and treat you better. When it's easy, men don't see the value of it.
The guy found you in a strip club where you were a dancer, went out a couple times then he slept with you -- none of that makes him sound like he's "relationship material". And note, I'm not disparaging strippers, I have a good friend that put herself through school as a stripper, then later a high-end escort, she's happily married with kids now (but not to a client). But I know why guys go to strip clubs and it's not to find a serious relationship or a wife.
I used to sing for a band and was asked out by a guy I called Therapy (short story, but still). When I went to his house for our date, wearing what I wear off-stage, he declined without even letting me inside. He liked the stage persona, not the person.
i guess it depends on if they had made any attempt prior to make things official. still a bit cruel way to say it though.
Did you ever discuss whether or not things were official? I feel like a man could be easily called a creep for assuming that some woman he had been dating for a few months was his girlfriend if she hadn't specifically said it.
See my comment above... Maybe in the USA there are rules/customs like the strange 3rd date rule?( i realize that this is (hopefully) just a myth for most)
Load More Replies...Did he say you two were dating? Did you confirm you two were actually dating? Because if not, and this is the end of the story, he’s not your ex. He’s someone you used to like.
Do people really define their relationship by words after seventh grade? Maybe I have been crushing for years and never knew I was single.
Load More Replies...I'm sure this was through text, but the thought of him actually saying "lol" made this one a little more comedic.
And clearly he is far more rude and and vain and downright more disgusting than she could've imagined. Good riddance!
You got exactly what you signed up for. There is nowhere else that you could have gone for a lower quality of people. Like you didn't even say a name. You just said "a hook up app". Definitely suspect.
You met through a "hook up app." What did you expect? At least he didn't wait to tell you after he finished.
So many broken people out there who only became teachers so they could be in power over the vulnerable. S**t like this is how they grab their little slice of power in the world.
Oh my god! I read massage instead of message, and was really horrified for a second! 😂
I believe it's because the ginger flower is red. Not sure though
Load More Replies...This kind of happened to me the other day. A girl was talking about one of her ginger friends and says "I hate gingers" (she was kidding) I was watching this exchange take place and then she saw me and felt really bad, and I told her I get much worse but I adore my hair so I am fine with it
I've never met anyone in the US who was prejudiced against redheads. I think they are beautiful and special.
What's the thing some people have about redheads? I love that hair color.
I have a husband who was a redhead (no hair now, poor man), and also have identical twins with the most glorious red hair. My husband never heard the term ginger, but my kids did. I know this is more of a UK thing, but it's now popular in the US. Maybe it has been used in other parts of the US, but not the midwest where I'm from.
Ugh Twilight romanticised truly unhealthy relationships. So dangerous to feed the minds of young adults!
I did this to a guy in 6th grade. But I was scared of ALL guys at the time so id say eww and run away. :( Sorry to the few who tried
wow, kids and teens are so cruel. Perhaps the ones that never grow out of that became serial killers.
Those are both $hitty, but I had to say how much I love your twitter handle. lolz.
please stop downvoting Linus , Doggo and Arctic! there is ABSOLOUTLY NOTHING wrong with biblical figures! besides people, correct me if i'm wrong, but i THINK Linus was making A JOKE. thx
Load More Replies...Pfft...don't need anyone that's more interested in the contents of your bank account than your character.
One girl told me ones that she only want to be with a guy who will bye her a Porsche Cayenne after a month of dating. That was 15 years ago. She is still single.
Gut punch? She is a shallow person, and she didn't actually insult you as a person, she just openly told you she wants someone rich.
Now, I ain't sayin she a gold digger but she ain't messin with no broke n...
I think it's better luck if the bird doesn't poop on you.
Load More Replies...I got a similar after two years and cross continental relocation. Better to have that then rather then later.
Was he her love interest? I mean, if not, how else should you introduce a friend? What am I missing?
I sent notes to a boy in the 6th grade only to have one of his friends to tell me he didn't like me. We had the same gym and health class together. He literally sat one seat away from me.
This is why I never gave notes to boys. I didn't want to be mocked and humiliated.
I lost mine to a guy I had a crush on (we weren't dating, it just sort of happened) immediately afterwards he started talking about one of my friends and I quote "who is really hot."
I read this as she murdered someone and was confused. I think I need more sleep
I had to read it about 4 times and all the comments to read get it correct. Although it is almost midnight. Hubby is snoring and I am anxious about our dog. He had major knee surgery today.
Load More Replies...And...you couldn't find the allan wrench? You lost the instructions? I'm still waiting for the "bad date" part.
It's a bad idea to approach someone right after break up. You can end up as rebound and they are still not over ex.
In my opinion, the Silmarillion is really boring. If he was into that, he would be boring also.
I disagree with you, but must say, the book is much more like a summary of legends than an actual story. Since J.R.R. Tolkien wanted to build a folklore of the creating fo the earth I think it was also intended to be like that.
Load More Replies...The Sil has all the storytelling charm of the “begat” section of the Bible, and I say that as LOTR fan of 4 decades.
So you'd prefer a breakup via text message? Poor guy couldn't do it right.
wow, just wow. I hope that you have found loving people in your life now that honor you as you should be honored.
Its not about how fat you are, everybody is beautiful no matter their shape or size or if they are blue or a unicorn.
I don't think that you can really blame a five-year-old for being inconsiderate.
I had a crush in school once it was in the 2nd grade I was WAY to scared to tell anybody I had a crush on him except for my friend and a really toxic friend who told everybody long story short he said I was to short. I WAS LITERALLY THE SECOND TALLEST PERSON THERE! TO HIM!
The feline pussy is adorable, feared, and revered. The pussy muscle is strong, feared, and revered. She was very kind and gentle with her rejection.
Load More Replies...She probably wanted your boyfriend to break up with you for her. Either way, she is a bad friend.
Or was jealous that your friendship with her was coming in second to your romance.
Load More Replies...Um, Shirley Temple was an adorable tap dancing angel! I would be honored if someone compared me to Shirley Temple, especially if it was about my tap dancing! :)
Exactly! Frick that guy. I hope he finds moldy animal crackers in his soup.
Load More Replies...Oooo, this reminds me of something I did. The Sadie Hawkins Dance was coming up (where the girls ask the boys). My buddy's sister asked me to be her date. I didn't see her that way and delayed answering. My buddy asked, "What's your answer? Don't leave her hanging." I replied, "I don't know, I want to see if someone better asks me." Yeah, I was an ass. What I didn't know was all the girls had already figured it out with each other who was going to ask who, so no one else was ever going to ask me.
Yeh why does she HAVE to keep having sx if she's not feeling it?
Load More Replies...The post is about rejection, not wrongful rejections. It is still a oof for him even if there was nothing wrong with her attitude
Load More Replies...Ghosting has always been a thing. It was just used differently in sentences. Example: after me and Jake had sex last night he got ghost. In other words, after sex Jake just left.
Oh, ghosting has indeed always been a thing, not only under a different syntax, but under different names ever since humans emerged from apes. Maybe even before. Old behavior. New name. Made more visible, if I may 😄, by the social media. Kind of ironic, but not less bitter.
Load More Replies...I have been ghosted more times than I can count. Actually it is 5.
Did we date the same person? Dude ghosted me over Christmas and called me at work to say we should just be friends. Puke... I knew he had hooked up with the ex that he constantly mentioned. They ended up getting married and divorced the same year. I ended up meeting someone else weeks later and have been with him happily for 15 years.
Some people just don't understand how much pain words cause.. What an idiot He is.
I disagree. Many kids and adults know just how deeply their words cut. And take pleasure in it.
Load More Replies...To anyone who reads this:YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU AND YOU CAN'T LET THEIR STUPIDITY STOP BEING THE AWESOME PERSON YOU ARE.
Perhaps he phrased it that way *because* he had brain damage and couldn't articulate what he meant properly. Nah, you weren't rejected :-)
Similar thing happend to me as well, applied for the job, got rejected (s**t happens, you can't get ever job you apply for so that's not the issue). Instead of the usual "Thank you for applying but we've decided to proceed with others blablabla" they said "No, your IQ-level dosen't match our expectations". Maybe it's just me being grumpy, but find that kind of funny since I have a MA-degree (applyed for the job because I wanted to get a foot in at that company and climb the latter) and the job was at customer care dept, with that said, absolutley nothing wrong working such a job!!
Maybe their expectations were for a lower IQ than yours
Load More Replies...I don't mind this one. If they just say "no", I'm left wondering if I botched the interview, if one of my references wasn't as good as I thought, if my zipper was down... This way you know it's not about you, it's that someone with more experience or education applied. I can live with that.
Not seeing this as harsh or cruel. It is a business relationship, they probably felt obligated to say reason of rejection.
If that is the harshest rejection you have been given then you are lucky. Most people want a reason as to why they got the job so sometimes the employers tell you straight away. They aren’t criticising you, they are business people and choose who they think is best for their company and someone with more experience is plus.
She was looking for a man who internally identifies as a woman who wants to date other women? Or looking for a woman who externally identifies as a man that likes to date women? Not judging, just looking for clarification.
If she likes to date pre-transition trans women, then she's looking for a man-shaped lesbian with a penis. Oddly specific, but love is love.
Load More Replies...Is this the equivalent of the gross “gay best friend” as an accessory? To clarify, I am queer myself. I am disgusted by people purposely looking for a queer/bi/gay male friend to fulfill who knows what.
Idk, i looked only for straight cismales before, and have friends (homossexual) that only look for other cisgender homossexual. Nothing against someone preferring transgender either hetero/homo. Idk what this has to do with your mention about gay friend, one is about dating, the other is friendship. Also, if a gay guy wants to be some woman's best friend, who are you to tell them that it's gross? If they want to ve friends leave them be.
Load More Replies...Huh? Not rejection at all, and not harsch either. He was asking a female friend for advice.
I was lucky enough not to know the names they called me, though I am curious.
They called me Four Eyes, Metal Mouth, Bookworm, Punch Thrower (some ahole spilled punch on my dress on purpose, he laughed and i punched him where it hurt him) Conga Line, Floof, Headpat, Mouse, and Hoodie. No need to know why. My personal faves are Floof, Punch Thrower, and something my friends called me, Avi.
Load More Replies...This isnt a rejection. Learn some short phrases in sign language and ask again.
There could still be hope. Just make sure that she can very clearly see your mouth moving. Maybe she will like you after all.
I am a little confused - why would you keep sending job application to a place you already know does not want you?
Some day they might put the right combo that makes it finally goes past the stupid HR and bots and have their resume sent to the actual manager that needs the new emoloyee. Seen that happening bfore (not with me, I gave up and said screw it and tried elsewhere)
Load More Replies...Are you sure you’re not still a real loser? There are less demeaning ways to refer to women. For instance calling them women.
It might have been better to go home after the first five minutes of crying.
It’s not her fault if you have feelings and she doesn’t. You’re making it really weird & awkward by crying in HER ROOM. You need help.
I was going to say the same thing. I think "LDR" is Long distance relationship, no clue what SF-Mnl is. Unless it's San Francisco-Minneapolis?
Load More Replies......my dad met my mom when his girlfriend introduced them, and they love eathother sooo
You should’ve gone to his home and forced him to watch you cry for 7 hours. SEVEN HOURS.
This always happens to me. I beat myself up only to get rejected.
My parents had a no dating before a certain age policy, and I turned down dates for the same reason.
Load More Replies...I think they were dating and the guy decided to believe his friend over them. So they dumped him
Load More Replies...How is this harsh? Sorry, but find this kind of like a normal response from someone who's about to get married (or just already having a partner)...
I agree. That's just kind of a funny way of saying "I have nothing against you, but I'm with somebody". I don't think it's rude.
When I got home from a date with my boyfriend I found a message on my answering machine. The jerk didn't want to break up with me in person, so he left it on my answering machine
I don't know why you've been downvoted for this. I'll give you an upvote! :-)
Load More Replies...When I was in year 7, I was asked out by this boy in my class whom I REALLY liked, to go on a date with his best friend and his girlfriend and we decided to meet up at the cinema. I was waiting for ages and as we eventually missed the start of the film, I made the decision to go home. Their plan all along was to not show up. Also, two boys in my class were basically a double act and would ask me out all the time as a joke. I would always say no but didn't realise it was a joke. The whole year knew about it and would point and laugh to my face but they'd never say why . I was the only brown girl at my school so felt left out enough as it was.
What is year 7? I hope you are not at that school anymore and are around people that appreciate how great you really are.
Load More Replies...In highschool, I was the stage manager for most shows that went on our stage. A true backstage builder. In my senior year, I was running auditions for the Spring show and I was reading the material and thought "Hell I could probably sing this..." and I auditioned for fun. I figured maaaaybe I'd get a callback but wouldn't get the part so who cares. I did end up getting a call back, and it was down to this one gal Christine and myself. I got the part - I sang better than she did. All of the other seniors in the show threatened to quit if she wasn't given the part. And when they wouldn't change it, they all quit. Usually the Spring show was like 90% seniors, it was like their big farewell and they all quit because of me. They ended up switching the show, and I kept a lead, and was one of maybe 3 seniors in the final production. I remember telling my parents about it and the horrified look on my dad's face that people could be so mean. High-schoolers really are assholes.
Told a woman i had just started seeing that i wanted to really get to know her before having sex. She said "are you sure you aren't gay?" Well, i am bi, but that has nothing to do with not wanting to hook up with a stranger.
Oh, I have a story! So there is this guy at my school who I had a huge crush on and we went to Youth Group together, so we would talk to each other and stuff. I finally gathered all my courage to write him a letter to tell him how I feel, and he has since ignored me, and this was like last year. It is just a really weird situation because I never got closure and I am not sure how I feel about him because he could have just said he didn't like me but it's fine.
He's a coward. Dana, you can do so much better. I'll tell you what I wish someone told me long ago. Focus on yourself and learning to appreciate who you are. Make yourself a priority. If someone comes along worth your time. Then go for it!
Load More Replies..."No one deserves to be rejected" isn't quite how I would phrase it, more like no one deserves to be rejected rudely- with the obvious exception of jerks and rapey people. But it's within everyone's rights to say they're not interested.
Mine happened a few years ago. I had a group of people we were hanging out at work and there was this guy I had a huge crush on. He would totally ignore me but I was totally in love. Anyway, fast forward one year later, (I don't know how or why and never asked tbh) he started flirting with me. I was sooo excited!! We started very slowly, he slept a couple of times at my place, we went out a couple of times but we never mentioned this to the rest of the group. This was going on for about two months. Keep in mind that it was summer time and we both had our vacations planned before we were together. He went first and everything was great. When it was my turn, I had booked a 3 week vacation to the US (I'm from Greece). He never called during my time there, not even to ask if my 18hr trip was ok. When I got back he avoided me for a while, then he finally agreed to meet up where he proceeded to tell me that he had met someone else. Made me cry through my whole trip :(
Was engaged for nearly 2 years when an accident left me in a wheelchair. Got out of hospital after 3 months when he gave me my engagement ring. Next week during school he waited until everyone was switching classes that he couldn't marry me because he got another girl pregnant. He's been married multiple times since & I have been with my husband for 24 years.
When I was in high school, I had a crush on this guy. He took me to the homecoming dance and I thought we had a great time. The next week at school, he sent someone to me with a note that he was "sorry for leading me on".
I have another...was a guy in high school I crushed on an would hang out with him an his buddy all the time. We were just all friends. One day I was at his house an we were goofing around in his room an wound up play wrestling an he wound up sitting on my lap with me pinned to the ground. I thought he was gonna kiss me but he just got a glazed look in his eyes an got up. Nothing ever happened between us ever. Years years years later found out he married a foreign girl an would beat her an degrade her. Guess I got off that bus before crazy town was reached.
When I got home from a date with my boyfriend I found a message on my answering machine. The jerk didn't want to break up with me in person, so he left it on my answering machine
I don't know why you've been downvoted for this. I'll give you an upvote! :-)
Load More Replies...When I was in year 7, I was asked out by this boy in my class whom I REALLY liked, to go on a date with his best friend and his girlfriend and we decided to meet up at the cinema. I was waiting for ages and as we eventually missed the start of the film, I made the decision to go home. Their plan all along was to not show up. Also, two boys in my class were basically a double act and would ask me out all the time as a joke. I would always say no but didn't realise it was a joke. The whole year knew about it and would point and laugh to my face but they'd never say why . I was the only brown girl at my school so felt left out enough as it was.
What is year 7? I hope you are not at that school anymore and are around people that appreciate how great you really are.
Load More Replies...In highschool, I was the stage manager for most shows that went on our stage. A true backstage builder. In my senior year, I was running auditions for the Spring show and I was reading the material and thought "Hell I could probably sing this..." and I auditioned for fun. I figured maaaaybe I'd get a callback but wouldn't get the part so who cares. I did end up getting a call back, and it was down to this one gal Christine and myself. I got the part - I sang better than she did. All of the other seniors in the show threatened to quit if she wasn't given the part. And when they wouldn't change it, they all quit. Usually the Spring show was like 90% seniors, it was like their big farewell and they all quit because of me. They ended up switching the show, and I kept a lead, and was one of maybe 3 seniors in the final production. I remember telling my parents about it and the horrified look on my dad's face that people could be so mean. High-schoolers really are assholes.
Told a woman i had just started seeing that i wanted to really get to know her before having sex. She said "are you sure you aren't gay?" Well, i am bi, but that has nothing to do with not wanting to hook up with a stranger.
Oh, I have a story! So there is this guy at my school who I had a huge crush on and we went to Youth Group together, so we would talk to each other and stuff. I finally gathered all my courage to write him a letter to tell him how I feel, and he has since ignored me, and this was like last year. It is just a really weird situation because I never got closure and I am not sure how I feel about him because he could have just said he didn't like me but it's fine.
He's a coward. Dana, you can do so much better. I'll tell you what I wish someone told me long ago. Focus on yourself and learning to appreciate who you are. Make yourself a priority. If someone comes along worth your time. Then go for it!
Load More Replies..."No one deserves to be rejected" isn't quite how I would phrase it, more like no one deserves to be rejected rudely- with the obvious exception of jerks and rapey people. But it's within everyone's rights to say they're not interested.
Mine happened a few years ago. I had a group of people we were hanging out at work and there was this guy I had a huge crush on. He would totally ignore me but I was totally in love. Anyway, fast forward one year later, (I don't know how or why and never asked tbh) he started flirting with me. I was sooo excited!! We started very slowly, he slept a couple of times at my place, we went out a couple of times but we never mentioned this to the rest of the group. This was going on for about two months. Keep in mind that it was summer time and we both had our vacations planned before we were together. He went first and everything was great. When it was my turn, I had booked a 3 week vacation to the US (I'm from Greece). He never called during my time there, not even to ask if my 18hr trip was ok. When I got back he avoided me for a while, then he finally agreed to meet up where he proceeded to tell me that he had met someone else. Made me cry through my whole trip :(
Was engaged for nearly 2 years when an accident left me in a wheelchair. Got out of hospital after 3 months when he gave me my engagement ring. Next week during school he waited until everyone was switching classes that he couldn't marry me because he got another girl pregnant. He's been married multiple times since & I have been with my husband for 24 years.
When I was in high school, I had a crush on this guy. He took me to the homecoming dance and I thought we had a great time. The next week at school, he sent someone to me with a note that he was "sorry for leading me on".
I have another...was a guy in high school I crushed on an would hang out with him an his buddy all the time. We were just all friends. One day I was at his house an we were goofing around in his room an wound up play wrestling an he wound up sitting on my lap with me pinned to the ground. I thought he was gonna kiss me but he just got a glazed look in his eyes an got up. Nothing ever happened between us ever. Years years years later found out he married a foreign girl an would beat her an degrade her. Guess I got off that bus before crazy town was reached.

