There are times when words hurt more than actions do. Especially so if they come from the mouth of someone you thought you were close with. Bonus points if the addressee doesn't quite * get * why their words were hurtful. Mix these three things—hurtful words coming from your loved one without them being aware of being an a-hole—and you get the perfect combination to mess with someone's self-esteem.

When one young woman asked people on Twitter "what are things a guy has said to you that he has no idea severely hurt your feelings?" dozens of people delivered. While we're not saying that only guys say offensive things, this list is precisely about that—30 people sharing the times that a man has hurt their feelings without being aware of it. So scroll down to see the full list and tell us in the comments below whether * you * have ever been offended by a guy who thought he was just being honest!

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#1

sheyxpeare Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

Wow! Just... Wow!

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#2

Rrrrohini Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

bichy. better to get this feedback from such a person, than have him/her like ("like") you

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#3

Levndrv Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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cooL

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#4

matchu_chutrain Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

Same, bro! Same!

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#5

SoapHeadass Report

Viviane
Community Member
1 year ago

Oh dear, I'll bet he had to do real chores to get past that one. Does backpedaling count?

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#6

pngreddr Report

hobbitly
Community Member
1 year ago

I understand why he is an ex, haha.

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#7

LitLisa_ Report

Prince Maroochy
Community Member
1 year ago

I would've said, "Well, that's because you are."

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#8

loveemegan Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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he said it was crazy. so, yes

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#9

pastryarm Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

I hope you burned the bridge that was between you. Along with the rest of his stuff.

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#10

mutablemama Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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clothes really do look nice on people...

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#11

maybemaeve Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

"Thanks bro" LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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#12

maggieeashIeyy Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

"ED" in this case means Eating Disorder. (Not Erectile Dysfunction)

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#13

AreBurgers Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

poor kid...

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#14

natcmau Report

hobbitly
Community Member
1 year ago

There is no such thing as 'too much garlic' <3 GARLIC

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#15

eleanorgolson Report

elfin
Community Member
1 year ago

Perhaps he'd enjoy a lovely bouquet of poison ivy.

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
1 year ago

Say - shame, it was self-raising and I would have made you a cake.

Nomadus Aureus
Community Member
1 year ago

Oh I had a variant of this :)) Guy literally asked me what I liked, replied, then gave me the above response. :)) I didn't even know how to react.

Martha Meyer
Community Member
1 year ago

Sounds like gaslighting. I'd stay far away from this sort of person.

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Marnie
Community Member
1 year ago

That's just incompatability. I don't want a guy who feels the need to give me flowers. They would not mean anything to me. They might mean something to you, so find a guy who is that sort of a guy.

Blue
Community Member
2 months ago

Once had a guy buy me perfume for my birthday. He looked at me after seeing how happy I was and said" Yea don't expect it again cause I don't have anymore girt certificates left over from Christmas" I was so turned off. Not that he used his Christams gift to buy me a b-day gift but that he took my excitement as some sort of greedy I want more gesture. I ended up giving the perfume to my Mother and never went out with him again.

Isabel Care
Community Member
1 year ago

Gave an ex a rose from my garden..."What the fuck am I supposed to do with this?"

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 year ago

What a dick!

Elijah Snow
Community Member
1 year ago

LMFAO

Tina Harbour
Community Member
1 year ago

My response:"its not like I give a fuck"

Michał Jastrzębski
Community Member
1 year ago

out of context, might mean many things...

Jos Tiguidou
Community Member
1 year ago

Actually I can totally get behind that. Some of us are of a more practical nature and we simply do not see nor understand the purpose of having flowers. They will wilt and die and possibly attract pests. Wouldn't you prefer something that would provide you with a wonderful experience that you can later recollect with fondness instead? Flowers are temporary, experience is forever. Ok he could have been nicer about it and said "flowers can be nice, but how about this instead?"

Edo Alva
Community Member
1 year ago

Probably just a stupid guy acting tough. Eventually he'll get you flowers.

Jeff Christensen
Community Member
1 year ago

Say it with flowers - send him a Triffid.

Octavia Hansen
Community Member
1 year ago

You should have called another man IMMEDIATELY and announced in a voice everyone could hear, that you are suddenly FREE tonight!

Guy MacGregor
Community Member
1 year ago

If it's not his way to express feelings, np. Like... It's not because you tell him your favourite color he's gonna buy you stuff of this color

Salamiponi
Community Member
1 year ago

I don't like flowers and I don't buy them, but if I had a bf/gf who likes flowers I would definitely buy sometimes to surprise him/her, just because I know it would make him/her happy.

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Human #1,232,867
Community Member
1 year ago

Depend what was the flower kind!

Bean59
Community Member
1 year ago

How rude! -stephanie

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#16

miaelkay Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

hard to say no to s butternut squash...

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#17

heyooitschany Report

Isle_of_stressed_pilots
Community Member
1 year ago

You really should have. He's a dickwad

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#18

micaela_saucy Report

Zara VP
Community Member
1 year ago

Ooof. What a d*ck.

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#19

aanyuhh Report

Perpetual Peripheral Persons
Community Member
1 year ago

You're Being Weird

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#20

Suurrahhh Report

Daniel da Silva
Community Member
1 year ago

Point to his penis and say "you're a large? really? are you... sure?"

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#21

itsmaddieeeeee Report

N G
Community Member
1 year ago

I always block cookies

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#22

kristennevanns Report

Daniel da Silva
Community Member
1 year ago

She should have called him out instantly

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#23

franmascookies Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

What's wrong with both? Having a scholar for a girlfriend would be awesome. Sitting by the fire, drinking cognac, discussing why Freud made everything about Penis Envy, and how much acid Piet Mondrian must have dropped when he started with his grid-based paintings.

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#24

dontevenok Report

J Rob
Community Member
1 year ago

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Ha Haw

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#25

Marleeejeann Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

That guy was one of those things that women are getting unsolicited pics of.

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#26

Misbah20911049 Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

thats cute...

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#27

jellyvernon Report

J Rob
Community Member
1 year ago

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At least he is being honest.

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#28

peytonnns Report

Leilani Ortiz
Community Member
1 year ago

oof

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#29

rkellysucks Report

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
1 year ago

"... in a certain light and at a certain angle."

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