There are times when words hurt more than actions do. Especially so if they come from the mouth of someone you thought you were close with. Bonus points if the addressee doesn't quite * get * why their words were hurtful. Mix these three things—hurtful words coming from your loved one without them being aware of being an a-hole—and you get the perfect combination to mess with someone's self-esteem.
When one young woman asked people on Twitter "what are things a guy has said to you that he has no idea severely hurt your feelings?" dozens of people delivered. While we're not saying that only guys say offensive things, this list is precisely about that—30 people sharing the times that a man has hurt their feelings without being aware of it. So scroll down to see the full list and tell us in the comments below whether * you * have ever been offended by a guy who thought he was just being honest!
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"Baby, talking to you is like taking out the trash. Or cutting the grass. Or cleaning my dirty plates."
I hope you burned the bridge that was between you. Along with the rest of his stuff.
Point to his penis and say "you're a large? really? are you... sure?"
What's wrong with both? Having a scholar for a girlfriend would be awesome. Sitting by the fire, drinking cognac, discussing why Freud made everything about Penis Envy, and how much acid Piet Mondrian must have dropped when he started with his grid-based paintings.
That guy was one of those things that women are getting unsolicited pics of.
This is why it's important to know people's "love languages." He may not be ok with telling you you're pretty but if he's expressing his love for you in other ways (being faithful, telling the truth kindly, buying you treats, doing chores, etc.) then he may still love you very, very much. But people can learn to express themselves in new ways when they need to, or if they want to.
Most of these "accidental" ones are honestly just toxic relationships.
What's the point of this? It's just a collection of guys saying hurtfull or insulting things. I'm sure if I'd asked on Twitter "Guys, what's the meanest thing a woman ever said or done to you? "' I'd get a similar collection of women doing or saying hurtfull or insulting things. This is just another bashing of men because "Men BAD!!!" SMH.
Yeah. I don't understand why it wasn't just asking about anyone accidentally hurting feelings. Why single out guys? I see a few guys responded anyway with their stories, which made me happy.
I can't help but noticing that the number of posts about men being absolute jerks and the number of posts about empowering, strong women shutting guys down are becoming quite the norm. And it's isn't helping the least bit in achieving a society where men and women have equal rights and are treated the same.
I have a feeling it's because women are generally happier to complain to the world about their relationship woes? Although, we are also less willing to tell a man to go fix the car when compared to all the sandwich making advice given out by guys...
Nice how you managed to sneak some more general men bashing into your comment. As a man I never gave my wife any advice on how to make sandwiches, yet she still advices me on how to drive. But I know it's something that my wife does and it's not something "women do". See?
Now do a post for WOMEN ofending MEN.
I know I offend my husband on occasion by accident, but the stuff that comes out of his mouth on a weekly basis by 'accident'? Omg
That would be an awfully short post.
Most of these "accidental" ones are honestly just toxic relationships.
What's the point of this? It's just a collection of guys saying hurtfull or insulting things. I'm sure if I'd asked on Twitter "Guys, what's the meanest thing a woman ever said or done to you? "' I'd get a similar collection of women doing or saying hurtfull or insulting things. This is just another bashing of men because "Men BAD!!!" SMH.
Yeah. I don't understand why it wasn't just asking about anyone accidentally hurting feelings. Why single out guys? I see a few guys responded anyway with their stories, which made me happy.
I can't help but noticing that the number of posts about men being absolute jerks and the number of posts about empowering, strong women shutting guys down are becoming quite the norm. And it's isn't helping the least bit in achieving a society where men and women have equal rights and are treated the same.
I have a feeling it's because women are generally happier to complain to the world about their relationship woes? Although, we are also less willing to tell a man to go fix the car when compared to all the sandwich making advice given out by guys...
Nice how you managed to sneak some more general men bashing into your comment. As a man I never gave my wife any advice on how to make sandwiches, yet she still advices me on how to drive. But I know it's something that my wife does and it's not something "women do". See?
Now do a post for WOMEN ofending MEN.
I know I offend my husband on occasion by accident, but the stuff that comes out of his mouth on a weekly basis by 'accident'? Omg
That would be an awfully short post.