Woman Overheard The Craziest Conversation Of A Guy Revealing To His Girlfriend His 12-Year-Old Son
Honesty is the cornerstone of every relationship. And it doesn’t matter if the person in question is your SO or your plumber. Your love life and your bath are better off when you don’t keep secrets about your pipes. This guy, however, thought it would be better to wait before telling his girlfriend about his secret child. Casually slipping it in way later proved to be seriously damaging.
“I was sitting at the counter of a busy restaurant/bar when I heard this conversation, [and it] was not a private one,” author Maria Dahvana Headley told Bored Panda. “It was loud, and a bunch of other people heard it right along with me. There was a lot of head-shaking going on as the restaurant listened to this guy blare his imaginary truth.” It captivated her so much, Maria live-tweeted the entire exchange.
“This conversation took place in June of 2017, before the Weinstein revelations, before #MeToo gained traction – and it was a tremendously clear example of everything we’ve been talking about ever since – gaslighting and what it looks like in real time.” Maria claims that was the reason why she put it up. “Not to make fun of this guy, but to show people what it actually looks like when someone gaslights you. We can all read about what gaslighting is, but when it’s happening to you, often you don’t know what’s going on.”
“This is why I talk about things like this in public – I want victims to realize that they are not the ones at fault in scenarios like this one, and to depart these situations when they see the warning signs – lying, refusal to acknowledge wrongdoing, blaming the person they are lying to for judging them.”
So as far as overheard conversations go, this one certainly is among the most interesting ones. Scroll down to read how everything unfolded!
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Share on FacebookThe hypocrisy on this comments here is hilarious. If this was about a famous person, published by some magazine, the very same people criticizing her would be posting their real opinions, lol. There's no invasion of privacy, the couple cannot be identified. Also, having a conversation at a public place, at a volume other people can hear, it's not a private one. And everyone is missing the bigger picture: He is an a*****e, and made the woman feel bad and guilty thanks to sexism. That's just a story to illustrate something that happens on a daily basis...
I don't care about any celebrity's personal life, not any more than anybody else's.
Load More Replies...He might have been very irresponsible at such a young age, but he has the opportunity to turn it around and be there for his child now. Because every child needs parents to guide them and support them.
I'm not quite sure the conversation between the couple was ment for posting. I sure would be livid if some jerk posted my conversations without my consent...
there's no way to identify this couple. So there's no problem. This was to discuss a very bigger issue. So many men or sexist women butthurt, is baffling.
Load More Replies...So the fact that the guy is basically a a*****e is completely ignored. How a woman s basically walking into a toxic relationship is irrelevant but privacy.. oh my god.. privacy is at stake. No one even knows the name of the guy or girl. World full of stupids.
Thank you! Another fatherless child, hurting and FAR more likely than kids with two involved parents to wind up dropping out of school, going to jail, doing drugs, and yes....shooting up a school....is suffering, likely in poverty, and people are worried about tweets??? Children get hurt by the actions of those who created them......always, it is kids who suffer. Kudos to the unnamed woman for calling out a douchebag .
Load More Replies...To the people saying that she should have minded her own business: I agree that it went on for longer than it was worth, but don't really see the harm in principle. No identifying details about the couple were shared. Their privacy has not been violated. They are completely anonymous.
"He's explaining that his kid doesn't need a dad". It's the most heartless thing you could say...
Yep, younger me dealt with such an a*s. That if I showed any anger or called him out on something would claim I was the one being a bad romantic partner. Younger me didn't end it MANY times when I should have. Older me takes much less s**t.
I get pretty annoyed when women make blanket statements about "all" women being raised as pleasers. I'm a woman and I wasn't raised that way, at all.
I try to be understanding when people say that because I'm sure that was many women's experience. But it is a bit hard for me to relate to as well. I was raised to be polite and considerate, but so were my brothers, to the same degree as me. I don't consider that the same thing.
Load More Replies...Its scary how many people in the world refuse to take responsibility for their actions. But its easy for them when everyone lives with a victim mentality. Lets try to understand the poor guy... um... no. He f****d up and he's a piece of s**t for it. This is why your actions are important. What you do is important. They have consequences. I ALMOST got stuck in a similar situation with a manipulative asswipe of a human being...narcissistic, selfish...someone I knew from childhood that I never dreamed would be that way, but while familiarity may breed trust, actions sever them. I moved across the country to go live with him and found out that he was 3 months behind on rent and I needed to pay or else we'd be in the street... he started using my phone because he didn't want to pay for his own and couldn't be bothered with putting a bed in his place for his child to come visit. I was the overly understanding idiot for about two weeks before my senses forced me to leave.
Foul creature. Freeloader. Relied on male privilege to skate on by a human life that needed him and still needs him. My Dad did the same thing when I was 2. I needed him, in any condition, and still do now I'm 53! It leaves a gaping hole. Also needed some child support $$, HELLO! You are not a man until you can be a man!
Please do not confuse your own personal situation with the generalized concept of male privilege. What does privilege even mean there? In most places the man is legally obligated to pay money so it's clearly in our culture the man should pay if he can't physically be there for the kid. The term "deadbeat dad" is common in the culture so no, there's no male privilege there. Also, if you want to go down that road, it's 100% the woman's choice to keep or abort the child so by pure biological chance SHE has the privilege because if she decides to go one way or the other, there's zero he can do about it.
Load More Replies...I stopped reading after she blamed all men for this one guy's stupid and selfish behavior. MariaDavana is also a jerk for doing that, just in a different way.
Blaming patriarchy is not the same as blaming all men. Patriarchy is the way that society is structured to empower men over women, and it can explain why we let a******s like the guy in this story get away with what they do.
Load More Replies...He needs to grow up and take responsibility. She needs to dump his sorry a**e and realise she is RIGHT to say and react as she did. Stop letting men tell you who you are!!
I have a friend who when through this years back. They were engaged and she found out he had a kid around 10. Causally mentioned it like it was no big deal. He was a scumbag riding her coattails while she finished med school. I saw his mugshot recently....
It amazes me how many people are screaming privacy in a public space. Don't air your dirty laundry in public if you don't want the public hearing your private conversation. I was taught that anything said in public is public. Whenever my father and I started getting too private in public my mother would interject with "Alright, not here." Because it's not anyone else's business what we really think politically, religiously, or about our family members etc. Don't want your business live tweeted, don't speak about it in public.
Man this is one gaslighting, entitled, narcissistic jerk! Good thing the girlfriend not only calls him out bit mocks his stupid a*s comments! Trust me I just came out of a long term "thing" with a narc. They are unbelievably entitled & crazy making. This is a great tweet I luv the tweeter girl! She looks like Angelica Houston with Morticia Adams make up! Lol
She needs to dump that guy and hook up with someone better, like me. Just don't let her know about my wife.
That, people, is what we call a sociopath. Messing with your brain, flipping the whole thing upside down so that you end up believing that you’re the one who’s wrong and he’s the victim. The saddest part is that 9/10 times the sociopaths will get what they want at the end of the conversation and most of the time the real victims are so caught up in the sociopaths’ lies / bullying that they won’t even see they’ve been manipulated or they won’t know how to deal with it and how to defend themselves... Each and everyone of us, but especially women and kids, should be given the tools to defend themselves against physical AND psychological violence.
I used to be this girl as well. There are far too many gaslighting arsehiles out there who specialise in making a woman feel useless, unlovable, who can’t trust their own instincts. I love that this twitter user shared this exchange. And I love that the girlfriend was angry because her useless boyfriend was a liar and a terrible father. I hope she saw the light of day eventually.
And to all the men bitching ... You have no EFFING idea of how much of this S**T you put us through.
Seems like this entire tweet rant was mostly so she could mention "the evil patriarchy"..
This women is doing a great job of projecting her own insecurities into this other conversation via twitter. First of all, unless he'd previously said he had no kids, he didn't lie. Obviously it's customary to disclose something like that, but not doing so is not at all lying by omission. Second, what the f**k does any of this have to do with a patriarchy? Look at Maria's photo. I'm not surprised to see that word brought out at a random time by someone like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you were scorned back in the day and now you want to blame the patriarchy, the universe, your salad for you being miserable and you want everyone else to feel like you do. Get angry at the guy all you want (no child support etc), but fer chrissakes keep all of your reasoning and arguments to the actual topic at hand, not the friggen patriarchy and lying etc. I'm so glad I don't have anybody like Maria in my life.
So basically Maria doesn't give a f*ck about privacy at all. It´s scary to wonder who is listening and if that person is going to blast you all over internet.
The guy is a douchebag of the highest order and he's just wrong about everything he said about his kid but to try and make some kind of point about the male patriarchy is a major over streach. He clearly in his scumbag head and came up with some kind of jutification for his s****y behavior which he's explained to her and she did not buy, trust me this is not exculsive to males, when I look back over my dating CV there is one woman that stands out as having the exact same mind set. Shity people come in both male and female variations, some times good people date them.
Reading this story is strange for me because my mother told me that my father didn't tell her about his previous marriage and three kids until they were dating for some time. I don't think it was as long as a year and he was not a deadbeat dad. Still, at the time, I was furious. I struggled between telling her she should have broken up with him over that and realizing I wouldn't be here if she had. He was great dad to me. Maybe the other three had problems with him, but that's not my business.
Whatever makes you feel your father wasn't an awshile. And so what if you had never been born. You wouldn't know. Have you made some great contribution to the world that has benefited mankind; such as finding a cure for all cancers? Probably not.
Load More Replies...Thank you Pandas for your Comments mention she should mind her own Business... i thought im the only one thinking that and totally agree with you
In a public restaurant speaking loud enough for others to hear is NOT a private conversation.
Load More Replies...I know similar stories. do you live in a bubble?
Load More Replies...Maybe, just maybe...Its none of your business Maria?! Very rude to listen to a private conversation and live tweet it. If there was a jack a*s here, it was you. And i don't think the subject of the discussion is the important thing here, but your attitude against someone you don't know, and invading their privacy like its something normal.
Who's invading whose privacy? can you identify the couple?
Load More Replies...He's an a*****e and she's nosy. Yes the man very much deserved a good smack upside the head for his behavior, but ultimately it is his girlfriend's decision how she want's to react to this behavior. How belittling to her for this to be posted! Come on learn to mind your own business and quite frankly I'm sure the lady does not need the poster's cheerleader motivations or her opinions. Youthful stupidity is just that, has nothing to do with the patriarchy. Also why do all feminists put up this arguement that all women are taught to feel they are unworthy of love and to accept mistreatment from men? I knew I was always loved growing up (it was a toxic love mind you but that is beyond the case) and my Mother always told me that if anyone mistreated me to stand my ground and kick their a*s. That is what a powerful women is. Hell when my Mom was young, a boyfriend tried hitting her. So she got a bunch of bikers to go beat him up. My Great Grandmother also chased a would be robber down the
*street with a frying pan in her damn nightdress. This is what you do when a man dares to mistreat you
Load More Replies...Was totally agreed with the narrator until she casually blamed the patriarchy for some guy being a d**k. How many men do any of you guys know who would be okay with his behaviour?
Ah yes, the internet version of morality: react with unrelenting judgment to something overheard and share it with social media. Did he behave appropriately? Who knows? Certainly not me, because all I know is this woman’s third-hand account of the goings-on. Do I have more than her filtered opinion of what he said and did? I do not. But if were to suggest it’s a terrible idea to judge a situation based on such a thing I know how she’d react. Because he “gaslighted” her and also patriarchy. His situation cannot, repeat, CANNOT be sympathized with no matter what additional context there might be because... er, because... there’s simply no way it can different than what this women believes it was. But I can tell you this: even if he didn’t i
— darn keyboard. Forget that last fragment, there. This kind of reaction leaves no room for mistakes. Forgiveness is treated like an impossible commodity - he didn’t just make questionable decisions; he’s just a d**k and she’s better than him. The idea that it might be possible to have a greater understanding of the situation isn’t even mooted. I know millennials don’t do context, but this is horrific.
Load More Replies...Without going into the fact that it's a sad existence sitting at a bar (alone I'm guessing) while eavesdropping and tweeting about it, how you managed to pull the mysoginy and ridiculous patriarchy card on this baffles me. And annoys me so much. The guy is a twat, I give you that, but please p**s off with your snowflake third wave faminism victim complex.
She posted it because she wants attention, like most third-wavers.
Load More Replies...blah blah blah f*****g blah - how does boring c**p like this get published?
Blah blah blah- how do people like you get born?
Load More Replies...The moral of this hsit is, don't eavesdrop on other people's lives and get yourself a life. None of your business and these are two adults who can decide for themselves. If the woman stucks with him, it's her decision and you have NO F*****G RIGHT to judge her for that. Not your circus, not your monkey.
OP is no better than the guy she overheard if she's posting pictures of a note that she 'didn't give to her'. All she had to do was tap the girl on the shoulder and discreetly pass her the note, but instead she was too spineless to help her out and opted instead to just rant on social media. I hope that this couple managed to talk through this, for better or worse, and I very much hope that the dad starts taking some level of care for his kid.
I can't decide,is it the attention she needs or is she just really,really bored?
We need to get back to basics. I would never put this out there. Not in my nature . seems everyone is judging everyone else. what it comes down to is people only have their best interest in themselves.
Butt out lady. You are what's wrong with this world. Your own ideals of PC.
This behaviour IS deplorable but so is listening to other people's conversations and then posting them on social media for all the world to see. You have no right to do this. How would you like to be out with someone and be having a private conversation with them and suddenly the next day find your private conversation not so private anymore because some nosey busybody posted it across the internet.? Just because you're in a public place doesn't mean you're conversation is for public knowledge. This poor woman was obviously hurt and angered by this d******d's revelation and the last thing she needs is a nosey cow like you using her pain and upset just to be able to get something to write about online. Do us all a favour. Get a hobby and write about that instead and leave eavesdropping to the other lowlife people in the world.
Feminists: Continue to blame the deadbeat scummy dad when the dumb chick gets lied to, hears the truth, gets angry, but then decides to be an idiot and keep going out with the guy. Feminists--that's not patriarchy--that's a woman being a numbskull. Despite what you believe, women can be as scummy and stupid as men. That's equality. Suck it up, buttercups--they're both losers.
This is stupid. Get a life of your own and let others live theirs...mistakes and all.
Very unnecessary.... We never know what people go through... that guy was 17 for all you know he was raped by an older woman, and the result of that situation was a child... when you are simply over hearing situation you can miss out on the bigger story. That girl must have had a good reason for forgiving, and as in your story he mentions he is trying to work through it... Men get raped too, it's not one of those it only happens to women situations. Sometimes people have to learn to not judge.
The hypocrisy on this comments here is hilarious. If this was about a famous person, published by some magazine, the very same people criticizing her would be posting their real opinions, lol. There's no invasion of privacy, the couple cannot be identified. Also, having a conversation at a public place, at a volume other people can hear, it's not a private one. And everyone is missing the bigger picture: He is an a*****e, and made the woman feel bad and guilty thanks to sexism. That's just a story to illustrate something that happens on a daily basis...
I don't care about any celebrity's personal life, not any more than anybody else's.
Load More Replies...He might have been very irresponsible at such a young age, but he has the opportunity to turn it around and be there for his child now. Because every child needs parents to guide them and support them.
I'm not quite sure the conversation between the couple was ment for posting. I sure would be livid if some jerk posted my conversations without my consent...
there's no way to identify this couple. So there's no problem. This was to discuss a very bigger issue. So many men or sexist women butthurt, is baffling.
Load More Replies...So the fact that the guy is basically a a*****e is completely ignored. How a woman s basically walking into a toxic relationship is irrelevant but privacy.. oh my god.. privacy is at stake. No one even knows the name of the guy or girl. World full of stupids.
Thank you! Another fatherless child, hurting and FAR more likely than kids with two involved parents to wind up dropping out of school, going to jail, doing drugs, and yes....shooting up a school....is suffering, likely in poverty, and people are worried about tweets??? Children get hurt by the actions of those who created them......always, it is kids who suffer. Kudos to the unnamed woman for calling out a douchebag .
Load More Replies...To the people saying that she should have minded her own business: I agree that it went on for longer than it was worth, but don't really see the harm in principle. No identifying details about the couple were shared. Their privacy has not been violated. They are completely anonymous.
"He's explaining that his kid doesn't need a dad". It's the most heartless thing you could say...
Yep, younger me dealt with such an a*s. That if I showed any anger or called him out on something would claim I was the one being a bad romantic partner. Younger me didn't end it MANY times when I should have. Older me takes much less s**t.
I get pretty annoyed when women make blanket statements about "all" women being raised as pleasers. I'm a woman and I wasn't raised that way, at all.
I try to be understanding when people say that because I'm sure that was many women's experience. But it is a bit hard for me to relate to as well. I was raised to be polite and considerate, but so were my brothers, to the same degree as me. I don't consider that the same thing.
Load More Replies...Its scary how many people in the world refuse to take responsibility for their actions. But its easy for them when everyone lives with a victim mentality. Lets try to understand the poor guy... um... no. He f****d up and he's a piece of s**t for it. This is why your actions are important. What you do is important. They have consequences. I ALMOST got stuck in a similar situation with a manipulative asswipe of a human being...narcissistic, selfish...someone I knew from childhood that I never dreamed would be that way, but while familiarity may breed trust, actions sever them. I moved across the country to go live with him and found out that he was 3 months behind on rent and I needed to pay or else we'd be in the street... he started using my phone because he didn't want to pay for his own and couldn't be bothered with putting a bed in his place for his child to come visit. I was the overly understanding idiot for about two weeks before my senses forced me to leave.
Foul creature. Freeloader. Relied on male privilege to skate on by a human life that needed him and still needs him. My Dad did the same thing when I was 2. I needed him, in any condition, and still do now I'm 53! It leaves a gaping hole. Also needed some child support $$, HELLO! You are not a man until you can be a man!
Please do not confuse your own personal situation with the generalized concept of male privilege. What does privilege even mean there? In most places the man is legally obligated to pay money so it's clearly in our culture the man should pay if he can't physically be there for the kid. The term "deadbeat dad" is common in the culture so no, there's no male privilege there. Also, if you want to go down that road, it's 100% the woman's choice to keep or abort the child so by pure biological chance SHE has the privilege because if she decides to go one way or the other, there's zero he can do about it.
Load More Replies...I stopped reading after she blamed all men for this one guy's stupid and selfish behavior. MariaDavana is also a jerk for doing that, just in a different way.
Blaming patriarchy is not the same as blaming all men. Patriarchy is the way that society is structured to empower men over women, and it can explain why we let a******s like the guy in this story get away with what they do.
Load More Replies...He needs to grow up and take responsibility. She needs to dump his sorry a**e and realise she is RIGHT to say and react as she did. Stop letting men tell you who you are!!
I have a friend who when through this years back. They were engaged and she found out he had a kid around 10. Causally mentioned it like it was no big deal. He was a scumbag riding her coattails while she finished med school. I saw his mugshot recently....
It amazes me how many people are screaming privacy in a public space. Don't air your dirty laundry in public if you don't want the public hearing your private conversation. I was taught that anything said in public is public. Whenever my father and I started getting too private in public my mother would interject with "Alright, not here." Because it's not anyone else's business what we really think politically, religiously, or about our family members etc. Don't want your business live tweeted, don't speak about it in public.
Man this is one gaslighting, entitled, narcissistic jerk! Good thing the girlfriend not only calls him out bit mocks his stupid a*s comments! Trust me I just came out of a long term "thing" with a narc. They are unbelievably entitled & crazy making. This is a great tweet I luv the tweeter girl! She looks like Angelica Houston with Morticia Adams make up! Lol
She needs to dump that guy and hook up with someone better, like me. Just don't let her know about my wife.
That, people, is what we call a sociopath. Messing with your brain, flipping the whole thing upside down so that you end up believing that you’re the one who’s wrong and he’s the victim. The saddest part is that 9/10 times the sociopaths will get what they want at the end of the conversation and most of the time the real victims are so caught up in the sociopaths’ lies / bullying that they won’t even see they’ve been manipulated or they won’t know how to deal with it and how to defend themselves... Each and everyone of us, but especially women and kids, should be given the tools to defend themselves against physical AND psychological violence.
I used to be this girl as well. There are far too many gaslighting arsehiles out there who specialise in making a woman feel useless, unlovable, who can’t trust their own instincts. I love that this twitter user shared this exchange. And I love that the girlfriend was angry because her useless boyfriend was a liar and a terrible father. I hope she saw the light of day eventually.
And to all the men bitching ... You have no EFFING idea of how much of this S**T you put us through.
Seems like this entire tweet rant was mostly so she could mention "the evil patriarchy"..
This women is doing a great job of projecting her own insecurities into this other conversation via twitter. First of all, unless he'd previously said he had no kids, he didn't lie. Obviously it's customary to disclose something like that, but not doing so is not at all lying by omission. Second, what the f**k does any of this have to do with a patriarchy? Look at Maria's photo. I'm not surprised to see that word brought out at a random time by someone like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you were scorned back in the day and now you want to blame the patriarchy, the universe, your salad for you being miserable and you want everyone else to feel like you do. Get angry at the guy all you want (no child support etc), but fer chrissakes keep all of your reasoning and arguments to the actual topic at hand, not the friggen patriarchy and lying etc. I'm so glad I don't have anybody like Maria in my life.
So basically Maria doesn't give a f*ck about privacy at all. It´s scary to wonder who is listening and if that person is going to blast you all over internet.
The guy is a douchebag of the highest order and he's just wrong about everything he said about his kid but to try and make some kind of point about the male patriarchy is a major over streach. He clearly in his scumbag head and came up with some kind of jutification for his s****y behavior which he's explained to her and she did not buy, trust me this is not exculsive to males, when I look back over my dating CV there is one woman that stands out as having the exact same mind set. Shity people come in both male and female variations, some times good people date them.
Reading this story is strange for me because my mother told me that my father didn't tell her about his previous marriage and three kids until they were dating for some time. I don't think it was as long as a year and he was not a deadbeat dad. Still, at the time, I was furious. I struggled between telling her she should have broken up with him over that and realizing I wouldn't be here if she had. He was great dad to me. Maybe the other three had problems with him, but that's not my business.
Whatever makes you feel your father wasn't an awshile. And so what if you had never been born. You wouldn't know. Have you made some great contribution to the world that has benefited mankind; such as finding a cure for all cancers? Probably not.
Load More Replies...Thank you Pandas for your Comments mention she should mind her own Business... i thought im the only one thinking that and totally agree with you
In a public restaurant speaking loud enough for others to hear is NOT a private conversation.
Load More Replies...I know similar stories. do you live in a bubble?
Load More Replies...Maybe, just maybe...Its none of your business Maria?! Very rude to listen to a private conversation and live tweet it. If there was a jack a*s here, it was you. And i don't think the subject of the discussion is the important thing here, but your attitude against someone you don't know, and invading their privacy like its something normal.
Who's invading whose privacy? can you identify the couple?
Load More Replies...He's an a*****e and she's nosy. Yes the man very much deserved a good smack upside the head for his behavior, but ultimately it is his girlfriend's decision how she want's to react to this behavior. How belittling to her for this to be posted! Come on learn to mind your own business and quite frankly I'm sure the lady does not need the poster's cheerleader motivations or her opinions. Youthful stupidity is just that, has nothing to do with the patriarchy. Also why do all feminists put up this arguement that all women are taught to feel they are unworthy of love and to accept mistreatment from men? I knew I was always loved growing up (it was a toxic love mind you but that is beyond the case) and my Mother always told me that if anyone mistreated me to stand my ground and kick their a*s. That is what a powerful women is. Hell when my Mom was young, a boyfriend tried hitting her. So she got a bunch of bikers to go beat him up. My Great Grandmother also chased a would be robber down the
*street with a frying pan in her damn nightdress. This is what you do when a man dares to mistreat you
Load More Replies...Was totally agreed with the narrator until she casually blamed the patriarchy for some guy being a d**k. How many men do any of you guys know who would be okay with his behaviour?
Ah yes, the internet version of morality: react with unrelenting judgment to something overheard and share it with social media. Did he behave appropriately? Who knows? Certainly not me, because all I know is this woman’s third-hand account of the goings-on. Do I have more than her filtered opinion of what he said and did? I do not. But if were to suggest it’s a terrible idea to judge a situation based on such a thing I know how she’d react. Because he “gaslighted” her and also patriarchy. His situation cannot, repeat, CANNOT be sympathized with no matter what additional context there might be because... er, because... there’s simply no way it can different than what this women believes it was. But I can tell you this: even if he didn’t i
— darn keyboard. Forget that last fragment, there. This kind of reaction leaves no room for mistakes. Forgiveness is treated like an impossible commodity - he didn’t just make questionable decisions; he’s just a d**k and she’s better than him. The idea that it might be possible to have a greater understanding of the situation isn’t even mooted. I know millennials don’t do context, but this is horrific.
Load More Replies...Without going into the fact that it's a sad existence sitting at a bar (alone I'm guessing) while eavesdropping and tweeting about it, how you managed to pull the mysoginy and ridiculous patriarchy card on this baffles me. And annoys me so much. The guy is a twat, I give you that, but please p**s off with your snowflake third wave faminism victim complex.
She posted it because she wants attention, like most third-wavers.
Load More Replies...blah blah blah f*****g blah - how does boring c**p like this get published?
Blah blah blah- how do people like you get born?
Load More Replies...The moral of this hsit is, don't eavesdrop on other people's lives and get yourself a life. None of your business and these are two adults who can decide for themselves. If the woman stucks with him, it's her decision and you have NO F*****G RIGHT to judge her for that. Not your circus, not your monkey.
OP is no better than the guy she overheard if she's posting pictures of a note that she 'didn't give to her'. All she had to do was tap the girl on the shoulder and discreetly pass her the note, but instead she was too spineless to help her out and opted instead to just rant on social media. I hope that this couple managed to talk through this, for better or worse, and I very much hope that the dad starts taking some level of care for his kid.
I can't decide,is it the attention she needs or is she just really,really bored?
We need to get back to basics. I would never put this out there. Not in my nature . seems everyone is judging everyone else. what it comes down to is people only have their best interest in themselves.
Butt out lady. You are what's wrong with this world. Your own ideals of PC.
This behaviour IS deplorable but so is listening to other people's conversations and then posting them on social media for all the world to see. You have no right to do this. How would you like to be out with someone and be having a private conversation with them and suddenly the next day find your private conversation not so private anymore because some nosey busybody posted it across the internet.? Just because you're in a public place doesn't mean you're conversation is for public knowledge. This poor woman was obviously hurt and angered by this d******d's revelation and the last thing she needs is a nosey cow like you using her pain and upset just to be able to get something to write about online. Do us all a favour. Get a hobby and write about that instead and leave eavesdropping to the other lowlife people in the world.
Feminists: Continue to blame the deadbeat scummy dad when the dumb chick gets lied to, hears the truth, gets angry, but then decides to be an idiot and keep going out with the guy. Feminists--that's not patriarchy--that's a woman being a numbskull. Despite what you believe, women can be as scummy and stupid as men. That's equality. Suck it up, buttercups--they're both losers.
This is stupid. Get a life of your own and let others live theirs...mistakes and all.
Very unnecessary.... We never know what people go through... that guy was 17 for all you know he was raped by an older woman, and the result of that situation was a child... when you are simply over hearing situation you can miss out on the bigger story. That girl must have had a good reason for forgiving, and as in your story he mentions he is trying to work through it... Men get raped too, it's not one of those it only happens to women situations. Sometimes people have to learn to not judge.
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