Guy “Comes Clean” To GF About How He Used AI To Talk To Her In The Start, Gets Blocked Immediately
We all have different skill sets in life. For example, some people might be good at all the technological stuff and very successful in their work life but lack social communication abilities, creating obstacles when it comes to doing something like finding a partner.
In the past, everybody would have to figure out how to deal with this, but now, with all these AIs only a few clicks away, some people choose the easy way and let the machine talk for them. However, as one Redditor shared, while it might help break the ice, if you choose this path, you have to commit to keeping the secret. Once he admitted to his ex-girlfriend about doing something like this, her reaction was far from favorable. Scroll down to read the full story!
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Artificial intelligence can be a useful tool, but the building ground of a relationship is definitely not a place to use it
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A socially awkward guy decided to try using an AI dating bot and immediately found massive success with a girl he had a great connection with
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After a while, he started feeling ridden with guilt, so he decided to come clean to her about an AI writing his early messages in their relationship
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The girl was shocked and upset, ending the call abruptly and blocking the guy soon after
A 27-year-old who describes himself as a ‘tech nerd’ has always found it difficult to talk to women. One day, he decided to try an AI dating bot to see if it could get any results. He was very surprised with how successful this plan was because soon he was talking to an amazing girl he found a great connection with.
However, a little while later, ridden with guilt, he decided to open up and tell her the truth about using the AI for all the messages he sent to her in the very beginning. This left the girl shocked and upset, leading to an abruptly ended call.
The guy still tried reaching her in any way that he could, but he soon found himself blocked. Feeling desperate, he then came online, sharing his misfortune and looking for advice.
The people in the comment section weren’t very positive toward him either. While some did offer a few supportive words, most were telling him that this was what he should’ve expected, comparing his situation to a South Park episode or a friend writing messages for him.
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Artificial Intelligence has become a bigger and bigger thing in our world and is unavoidably invading our lives, with dating being no exception. The effects will be felt by everyone looking for a partner online. However, while this is still new, the question is, what can we expect?
Igor Khalatian of Forbes advocates for this idea, saying that AI will revolutionize online dating. According to the author, some of the most important qualities are authenticating user-profiles and significantly more accurate and personalized matchmaking algorithms, to the point where swiping would be a thing of the past. The machine would out our perfect matches and leave us to take it from there.
Of course, it doesn’t have to stop there. Some dating apps already use AI to suggest conversation starters, making it easier to get the talk going if you don’t know what to say. And if that’s not enough, there are also some AI-powered dating chatbots that can carry entire conversations, similar to what the OP used.
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On the other hand, Carrie Prince of Medium identified a few issues with this new trend. The author theorized that if we get used to the fake versions of us doing all of the more difficult dating parts, we will eventually lose confidence and develop low self-esteem, not really being able to be ourselves around our partner.
Another thing that is happening right now is people using AI to enhance their pictures, creating a fake sense of perfection and trying to sell themselves for who they’re not. With how fast AI is progressing on this front, it’s getting harder and harder to identify what’s real and what is fake, not knowing what to expect when you actually meet the person.
At the same time, it goes back to the very same confidence issue because if people go through such trouble to hide their insecurities, they will feel even more vulnerable when they have to meet in person and can’t use filters to hide.
Lastly, it’s all about building rapport. No matter how perfectly realistic your AI bot’s chatting ability might be, it’s still not you. Therefore, the other person is only getting to know a version of you, while you don’t get to know them at all. You might read through all the conversations and try to memorize them, but even then, the experience will never be real, and the same goes for the connection.
Ultimately, AI is a great tool that can help in many aspects of our lives, including dating. However, the key word here is “tool” because if we get it to do everything for us, it might as well live our lives for us, too. Except, what will we do then? After all, life is just as much about the journey as it is about the destination, and giving up half of it for comfort can easily leave you hollow and, in the case of dating, single, just like what happened to the OP.
What did you think about this story? Have you ever used AI for dating? Share it all in the comments below!
The commenters weren’t very supportive either and told the guy that he shouldn’t have expected anything else when doing something like this
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He apparently thinks that for "coming clean" he DESERVES her to forgive him. What would have happened if she had used a photo that wasn't her? Would he have understood and 'forgiven her for coming clean'? Gosh, this whole incel scum has to go.
I had an ex like that - whenever he fessed up to a lie, he’d start the sentence with the words: “In the spirit of honesty….”
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As the last person in the original post said. Maybe if he was using it to massage his answers it'd be ok. They're still his thoughts and feelings, just with words "prettied up" by a bot. It'd be no different to asking a friend whether they could double check your text before you sent it. Having a bot create responses out of whole cloth though, that's taking it too far.
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I get that he feels like he can't string together his thoughts into words. Better plan would have been use AI to structure your thoughts, when you like what it says, use it yourself in your text to her but BE PRESENT don't have AI run the actual conversation in your place, you have to do the texts and thinking...AI just makes your own feelings coherent before you text them YOURSELF. That's still not great to be honest but what he did is what scammers do and yeh anyone would ghost that noise in a heartbeat.
What in 1984 has anything to do wuth using AI bots?
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He doesn't seem to realise that he approached this as a scammer. I'm always worried by people who take the easy, avoidant way out. If it hadn't worked, was he going to get the bot to end it too?
Not sure how long you've known each other but should've came clean sooner than later. Also she wasn't your girlfriend to be honest.
I feel sad for the guy, I'm wary of being misunderstood so I try to be very clear with my expressions. I can sound emotionless or curt. If I had confidence in AI (I don't) I might be tempted to use it to ease early social interactions. He probably viewed it as following a script as a introduction, she did not see it that way. I hope he won't make the same mistake in the future because it seems as though she will not give him another chance. He can learn from this and be himself from the beginning.
My curiosity is piqued. Some people have trouble being comfortable meeting new people.
Two bots talk to each other, fall in love, and dump their meatbags to be together. It's beautiful.
He apparently thinks that for "coming clean" he DESERVES her to forgive him. What would have happened if she had used a photo that wasn't her? Would he have understood and 'forgiven her for coming clean'? Gosh, this whole incel scum has to go.
I had an ex like that - whenever he fessed up to a lie, he’d start the sentence with the words: “In the spirit of honesty….”
Load More Replies... As the last person in the original post said. Maybe if he was using it to massage his answers it'd be ok. They're still his thoughts and feelings, just with words "prettied up" by a bot. It'd be no different to asking a friend whether they could double check your text before you sent it. Having a bot create responses out of whole cloth though, that's taking it too far.
Load More Replies... I get that he feels like he can't string together his thoughts into words. Better plan would have been use AI to structure your thoughts, when you like what it says, use it yourself in your text to her but BE PRESENT don't have AI run the actual conversation in your place, you have to do the texts and thinking...AI just makes your own feelings coherent before you text them YOURSELF. That's still not great to be honest but what he did is what scammers do and yeh anyone would ghost that noise in a heartbeat.
What in 1984 has anything to do wuth using AI bots?
Load More Replies... He doesn't seem to realise that he approached this as a scammer. I'm always worried by people who take the easy, avoidant way out. If it hadn't worked, was he going to get the bot to end it too?
Not sure how long you've known each other but should've came clean sooner than later. Also she wasn't your girlfriend to be honest.
I feel sad for the guy, I'm wary of being misunderstood so I try to be very clear with my expressions. I can sound emotionless or curt. If I had confidence in AI (I don't) I might be tempted to use it to ease early social interactions. He probably viewed it as following a script as a introduction, she did not see it that way. I hope he won't make the same mistake in the future because it seems as though she will not give him another chance. He can learn from this and be himself from the beginning.
My curiosity is piqued. Some people have trouble being comfortable meeting new people.
Two bots talk to each other, fall in love, and dump their meatbags to be together. It's beautiful.
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