28 Things That People Should Keep Within Their Own Generation And Not Pass Down, As Shared In This Online Group

Exactly what I've done with my kids. I was raised Catholic and had enough of THAT. My children are the first in my entire family tree not to be baptized.

There is one race, the human race. There is very little difference between us all, why hate on one small difference?

Translation: "Excuse for shitty parenting."

If your suffering was that bad you should be doing your best to stop that from ever happening again.

I have several people in my life who are my chosen family :)

And immediately put the kibosh on any relative who decides to force the issue and just grab them for a hug anyway. No f*****g way. We don’t do that s**t anymore. The word No means exactly what it says in the dictionary—-a negative response, answer, or decision—-in other words, a goddamned NO!, and not a yes in disguise. So respect their decision and back the f**k off. If the kid wants to hug you, they’ll let you know by asking you first.

Good point; I've never thought of this but one time my youngest son refused to hug someone and I didn't push. He didn't know that person so why hug?

I open my arms in invitation - the decision to hug or not to hug is then with the child. If they don't want to hug, that's fine - maybe next time. It's really not that hard.

My mom DID NOT MAKE us hug/kiss/or say I love you to Family Members/Family Friends at any time in our childhood/teenage years. ----She told them this: "If my kids do not want to hug, kiss, say I love, and do not want to spend the night/go to an outing with you. That is THEIR CHOICE. You do not have to like it. You know where the door is."

Omg, my grandmother on my mum's side will guilt the hell out of me because I don't want to hug or kiss her. And then eventually she grabs me and kisses her lipstick all over my face and hair and hugs me for a minimum of twenty seconds. Then says something like 'see, that wasn't so bad!'. I hate it, I hate unwanted physical contact and she forces it on me everytime we meet, which happens a lot more because she recently retired.

This is fine but don't take it to the extreme. Hugs and kisses are important otherwise the child might become a person that gets anxious by any form of physical interaction with another person (no i am not talking about intercourse) and that is not good or healthy.

I've never liked that. If you creep my kid out, then I'm going to listen to their instincts. It could be the kid is just an introvert or that they don't like touching. Pay attention!

We do this with my niece and nephews, ask for the hugs and kisses and when they say no or they have had enough they are allowed to go and no one is bothered by it because when they do want to hug/kiss it’s even more special as it’s a true show of love and affection

I ask for a hug from my nieces and nephews but if they don't give it I don't push it. Also I hate being touched so when they turn about 5 or so I just stop asking entirely! XD

Bullllll waste. I respect the ones that respect me, i don't care your age, your Race, your gender, your religion, your sexual pregerences i don't give a flying f**k about any of those things, you respect me, i respect you

I love it. I want it.

The idea that it's acceptable to physically harm the smallest and most vulnerable (both physically and mentally) when you think about it, is a bit out there and we need to evolve past that

As a child I had the brilliant thought that the least experienced, the least knowledgeable person should be made leader, I thought this was a hilarious idea. I have learnt better, see the picture above and realise why this is a bad idea.

Blanket statements never paint an accurate picture. Every generation has its good and its s**t, whether people, issues, trends, or zeitgeist. It’s just that we tend to put the c**p out of our minds and prefer to remember only the good. You know, rose-colored glasses and all that. We really shouldn’t do that, because the good old days really weren’t good for everyone—-in fact, they were only good for a tiny and very specific group of people. The rest of us got the s**t instead. If we put that kind of context on the past, and remembered it as it actually was, warts and all, instead of as some kind of enchanted—-and superior—-time, we wouldn’t have such animosity between generations.

Ahhhh, this is when being the black sheep of the family comes in handy lol, my sister has a PHD, her husband is getting a Masters degree, my brother hás a Masters degree, my sister in law is a doctor, i'm a highschool drop out só my dear family ecpects nothing of me.

Yep :( So sad this still happens - some parents are awful

The more you bottle up the greater and more destructive the inevitable explosion and break down will be.

Also the notion that you can't be successful without a degree. I've done really well for myself without one by learning a trade, and my husband doesn't even use his degree for his career.

Never understood parents who want to mutilate their kids genitals for aesthetic reasons. It seems to be very popular in the US but in most other countries it's rare unless it's for medical reasons (or religious)

Vote for policies not politicians.

Peace, or enjoying what you like to do, is a great thing.

This is why I never had children. I have bipolar 1 disorder, just like my mom, my grandmother, my great-grandmother, my great-great grandmother... and at least 2 generations before that. Enough is enough.

Simple solution: start using them

I got read the riot act by my mom the times I called a boy on the phone. "Girls don't do those things, let him come to you". Yeah, well, if I waited for a guy to get up the nerve to ask me out it would never happen.

(ONCE AGAIN: if you have a GOOD and DECENT family, this is not for you) This Family Narrative that you HAVE to be around these Distant Relatives. No, you do not. You have Free Will of who you want in your life. No one has a right to make you do anything.

Screw debt. It is an ever increasing hole that banks help to make worse for those least able to escape.

A woman my wife worked with said, "who is going to take care of you when you get old?" That was her response to my wife saying she didn't want children. I guess that was only slightly better than, "don't you just want to try one?" Children don't owe parents anything. You did not choose to be born. Children are not free labor, servants, child care, or nursing home.

Still surviving a few...

Try tracing your family tree when everyone had a dozen or more kids and each family named one, sometimes two or more if they died young, after gt,gt, gt, gt grandpa!

And enough with the Old Wives Tales about pregnancy. I had severe heartburn and people kept saying the baby would be born with a full head of hair. Bald as an egg. Or that I was carrying low...having a boy. Carried 1 high, 1 low...both girls.

Listen, the first man I ever fell head over heels in love with was balding, a bit older than I was, and had the classic dad bod. But he was kind, gentle, intelligent, witty, and an all around class act—-AND he never felt the need to broadcast any of it for any kind of recognition (he didn’t have to). I was only 22, but to me he was the sexiest man alive, and I was crazy about him. He got a job thousands of miles away, I had my own life and career going, and we lost touch. But to this day, he is the model of a truly wonderful man I compared other men I considered dating to. If they didn’t measure up (and really, it ain’t that damned difficult to be a really good guy, but some never even try), I would break things off. The man I did eventually marry is also balding and has a dad bod, and is another wonderful man like my first love. I wouldn’t have married him if he wasn’t. So don’t obsess about thinning hair and concentrate on your intrinsic qualities instead. They are what will make you attractive, not your hairline.