Guy Prepares Dinner For His Girlfriend, Gets Mad When She Decides To Feed Her Dog The Leftovers And Asks Her To Leave
Dating someone sounds exciting as you get to explore different places together for the first time, show them your favorite spots, discuss various things, and find out your similarities and differences. This part where you get to know each other is important in a way that it helps to realize if this person is the one with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life or maybe they are just meant to become someone you used to know. Reddit user @u/throwawayscraps decided to share the situation that happened with her date and ask people online for their point of view. The 24-year-old woman revealed that she has been dating a 28-year-old man named Jay for 4 months now. While she’s been very happy with Jay, the recent situation she experienced while spending time with her boyfriend made her seek advice online.
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Dating someone new is fun as it makes even the most simple things such as going out for dinner more interesting and exciting
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The author of the post shared that one Sunday, she was invited on a date that was planned by her boyfriend. He decided that they should go for a walk together with her dog, and then he would bring her to his house for the first time and make her dinner. What sounded like a perfect day had an unexpected ending.
However, some date nights are meant to flop, as it happened to one Reddit user who decided to share how she got into an argument with her boyfriend over ‘table scraps’
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The woman shared that everything was fine until they sat down for dinner. Her boyfriend made them some roast and vegetables. The girlfriend was the first one to finish her plate, so she went to the kitchen where she decided that she could feed her dog with the leftovers from her plate. The woman shared that there was half of the roast still on her plate, so she cut half of it, took some uncooked vegetables from the fridge, since she feeds her dog Shelby only raw food, and was about to take it outside so that her pet could eat it.
After her boyfriend made her dinner, the woman decided to feed her dog Shelby with what was left from her plate, and adding some vegetables from the fridge
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Once her boyfriend saw her going out with the plate, he asked what she was doing, to which she answered that she was about to feed her dog. This didn’t sit well with Jay as he explained that the food he prepared was for her and him, and not Shelby. The man was upset with the author of the post because she didn’t even bother to ask him if she could give this food to her dog.
However, the boyfriend wasn’t too thrilled with the idea of her dog eating the food that he only prepared for her and himself
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The whole situation escalated to the point where Jay asked her to leave his place. After this, the woman decided to first talk about this with her friend who didn’t support her decision to just feed the dog without asking if she could use the dinner food for this. This is when OP decided to ask people online what their take on this was.
Users of Reddit were quite harsh and honest about the woman’s behavior. A lot of them agreed that woman should’ve asked Jay if she could use the leftovers from his dinner instead of just assuming that this was a normal thing to do. Another thing that a lot of members were concerned about was Shelby’s diet and how appropriate it was for the dog.
The man decided to take the food from his girlfriend and asked her to leave
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According to the author of the story, she feeds her dog only raw food. A raw food diet usually consists of bones, organ meat, raw eggs, vegetables and fruits. It’s believed that a raw food diet is beneficial for dogs as it makes them healthier and more energetic, and they then have cleaner teeth, healthier skin, and shinier coats. However, this raw diet also has some cons. Those who feed their pet raw foods risk catching bacteria found in raw meat, as well as the fact that feeding a dog whole bones might choke an animal or break their teeth. It’s also important to keep the diet balanced and check your pet’s health at a veterinary clinic.
After their argument, the woman talked with her friend about it, but even the friend was on the boyfriend’s side, so OP went online for others unbiased opinions
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People in the comments were quick to notice that the woman was about to feed her dog a roast, which very often contains various seasonings and salt that is bad for dogs and is not considered a raw diet dish. The woman calmed those in the comments, stating that she knew how the roast was made and assured everyone that her dog’s diet is approved by her veterinarian.
Soon after, the woman came back with some clarifications as a lot of people were concerned about her dog’s diet
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To those concerned, the woman explained how she feeds her dog and that everything is checked with her veterinarian
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After the whole discussion online, OP came back with an update: she let others know that their comments made her realize her mistakes and that after all, Jay decided to break things off. It was added that despite the woman apologizing for how things were handled during the dinner, her boyfriend shared that he just didn’t like her habit of not doing things without first asking him. The man revealed that he didn’t actually enjoy her taking his food or drink without his permission. The author of the story promised to now work on herself and make sure to overcome this poor habit.
What do you think about this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
People online didn’t hold back and explained what did the author of the story did wrong
It was the first time you visited his house and you not only grabbed half a leftover roast from dinner, but also raided his fridge for fresh veggies? YTA 100%.
Commenting here to hide the phishing bot, but you're totally right. She's TA, a quarter roast is a small meal and not a "leftover".
Load More Replies...Whole situation could have been avoided with a simple, "Hey, would mind if ...."
Shrewed perspective... 1. It is rude to leave the table and carrying your plate into the kitchen when others are still eating 2. Having been invited to a meal does not entitle you to use have of the leftovers as you please 3. For the love of God, ASK before taking leftovers.
It's not rude to take your plate into the kitchen if you come back and sit with your dinner date afterwards I thought?
Load More Replies...I thought at first that she used the leftovers from her own plate. I feel that would be acceptable. But what she ended up doing was extremely rude and insulting
There is no way I would ever allow a dog to eat off of someone else's plate. What the actual F**K
Load More Replies...Everyone is missing the point. He planned a special day for her including cooking for her at his home. He put considerable thought and preparation into it. The OP didn't seem to appreciate his efforts. He's lucky to be rid of her. Someone will absolutely adore him for it.
My thoughts exactly. He took the presumedly clean plate back to the kitchen, wrapped what was on it in foil and sent her off with it. It wasn’t so much about having leftovers or the cost, but about the emotional labor he put into doing something romantic and the sentiment of a nice home-cooked dinner to wrap up a date. Everything she did was not ok, just as she has continually done when they eat out. This is about taking a romantic moment and turning it, once again, into an act of entitlement and inconsideration. My guess is this was his last straw and saw no reason to move forward with her. Also, I bet he was hurt with how she treated his efforts.
Load More Replies...Bad manners and overall inconsideration towards her bf aside: she needs to do some SERIOUS, IN-DEPTH research involving lots of q and a with her vet if she wants to continue feeding her dog a raw diet. Her ignorance is astounding, she is potentially poisoning her dog as not all human food is okay for dogs. Grapes, for example, are highly toxic for dogs. The dog could end up with pancreatitis or worse or dead. Girl, WTF?!
The "raw-feeding" community are some of the most argumentative, know-it-all arsėwipes around. They make militant vegans look normal. I have noticed that recently more and more people are coming forward with their bad experiences of raw feeding, where they have unknowingly taken years off their dog's life and are now devastated by this consequence. Raw feeding is *not* easy, it requires just as much effort as eating a truly healthy vegan diet.
Load More Replies...The title of this piece is misleading, "table scraps" should be replaced with "enough good food for another meal"!
Onions are toxic to dogs and are usually the first ingredient next to meat in any roast. But even if no onions were used, YTA, OP. You showed your date that your dog is more important than him. You ignored him when he said his leftovers weren't dog food. Then you had the gall to argue with that man, who planned an awesome day for you all. Yikes. I don't even know if this relationship is salvageable. Also, dogs need proper dog food. Only AHs don't provide this.
YTA Should have at least asked before taking a quarter of the entire roast to feed her dog. She sounds entitled. If she's acting like that the very first time she's at his house, imagine what she'll be like after a year.
Let's not forget, she went into his refrigerator and helped herself to his veggies....without asking. Beyond rude!
Load More Replies...I cook twice a week and fill the fridge and freezer with leftovers. I'd be pissed if someone just assumed they could do anything with my carefully budgeted food without asking.
I’ve got a large rib roast in the freezer that cost $80 on sale for some upcoming “special” occasion. I sure wouldn’t be happy if someone dipped into potential leftovers that would make a whole other meal to give to their dog. I mean, I have a lovely shih tzu who I feed special kibble I get at great cost from the vet, plus I make him a stew concoction he (and my new kittens apparently) love, and he might get pieces of meat from our meals we don’t eat, but I’m not going to give him a hunk of prime rib!
Ok, now I definitely want to know more about that stew concoction you make for your pets. I want to find something I can make for my cats that I know will be good for them. Do you think you could give me your recipe, or tell me more?
Load More Replies...She should have said 'do you mind if i use some of the leftovers to feed the dog and that would have been that
I don't understand why she brought her dog along but didn't come prepared with food for it.
Load More Replies...Unless you paid for it, or at least *asked*, you have NO RIGHT to feed your dog what could be up to a pound of expensive meat! I have no issues with raw feeding, but no one has the right to just toss someone else's meal to your dog! As others have said, you bring your own dog's dinner *with you*. Rude and entitled~~he's lucky to have dodged *you*!
I thought it was the scraps from her plate at first and couldn't understand why he lost it...but 1/4 of a roast?! This girl clearly doesn't understand the concept of left overs! Wt actually f!
I feed my cats a raw food diet. I can honestly say not only is it expensive, it takes a lot of preplanning and variation to make sure they get all their nutritional needs met. For the first 2 years I did it, my vet did tests every 6 months to make sure all their nutritional needs were being met. It's a lot more than just grabbing some raw meat from the fridge and putting it in a bowl. But holy smokes the level of entitlement in the post! I can't imagine doing that! That's crazy! Also...I don't know about OP but how does feeding the dog a raw food diet then giving them half a roast have any relation to each other?
I’m really not sure why your vet needed to do tests other than to get more money from you. I mean, cats are obligate carnivores and you’re feeding them raw meat, so what’s the problem? Barn cats who roam around my house look pretty healthy and strong when they show up for some kitty kibble and a chat. I assume they are feeding themselves alright the rest of the time, just as nature intended. Seriously I’m confused as I’m sure you did your own in-depth research first.
Load More Replies...Tbf if she asked i would have cut a little piece off and add the salad she thinks is fine, but on the first visit to just do it by yourself without asking or even saying anything is quiet rude.
YTA. WTF were you thinking? You didn't even ask! I love animals but I would have been p****d !
That guy dodged a bullet, too bad he had to waste 4 months to find out. I would be upset too if someone fed an entire meal that could feed me to their pampered spoiled dog.
People were saying in another thread that people only post when it's obvious they're nta, but clearly that's not the truth.
He bought the roast so leftovers were not yours to do with as you pleased.
YTA, he made it special for you. I love dogs, but if my mom made me something very special, I wouldn't turn around and take more just to feed my dog.
I like how it one of the commenters on the post brought up seasonings and how it could potentially make her dog sick
Yeah a quarter of a cooked roast is a lot of food, and of seasonings for a dog! What kind of person assumes that uneaten food is scraps and not leftovers for another meal? That's also not raw food and she was making a lot of assumptions about what he'd planned with the food *he* made
I love dogs almost more than people but if I were in this situation, most likely knowing the dinner would run into my dog's dinner time, I'd ask if I could give some to it if not just bring my own food for it. I really wanna side with OP but it seemed fishy the second she said she took food from the leftovers and not actual table scraps.
I get very upset whenever my family wants to feed our dogs meat that has been prepared with spices... A roast doesn't qualify for a so called raw diet, the only way for this to be acceptable at all was for her to ask her bf to save a piece of meat before cooking it to feed her dog afterwards, not raiding his kitchen and taking whatever she wants... she doesn't even mention knowing what spices were used and if they were harmful for the dog...
I would never have given the dog an leftover piece of roast (they could have finished the roast the next day, it was cooked on purpose, it's an expensive piece of meat). However, he who even immediately throws her out of the house for this reason seems to me just as stupid, if not more so.
It seems she has a strong history of helping herself to food off his plate when they eat out. Even after being asked not to, she’d ignore him and just dig in… so maybe this was the straw that broke the camels back. He’d probably just had enough of her s**t.
Load More Replies...i can't agree that she is the a hole. i would have asked if he would mind if it was okay but still not the a hole. i have dogs and they are more loyal than any lover i have ever had. so, accept me and my dogs and how i care for them. if not...get to steppin'. btw, yes, i do give my puppers something every night from my dinner. not more than a bite or two but they do usually get something if only a piece of carrot.
But you or I would give our dog a little something from our plates and we would take the dog's food with us. We wouldn't go into his kitchen and rifle through half a roast without even asking, which is what this person did.
Load More Replies...I would have kicked her out. I’m amazed she can think she might be right, wtf?!?
So I'm the odd one out cause I would think if YOU INVITE MY DOG with me, why would I not assume the dog could participate? A lot of people who do not have kids, thiers pets are their kids. I treat these people as I would would have wanted to be treated when my kids were younger. He knew how she fed her dog, invited her dog to go with them knowing the end result was dinner. Around my parts, you do the inviting, you pay. That includes inviting kids/pets. I cannot invite anyone out but if I say they can come over and bring kids or pet to my house then they eat too or I do not invite you over because I cannot afford it.
I can see that perspective. I mean if he invited the dog he should of had dinner plan to feed the dog. They just had a long hike, and the dog probably was hungry. I think she should have asked, do you have anything for Shelby to eat? It is possible that at her age she didn't realize just how expensive a roast is. Communication in any relationship is very important and I think they both communitied poorly. She assumed she could feed the dog the roast and did not respond to his statement that it was not dog food. He did not use any further words, but picked up the plate, wrapped it in foil and asked her to leave. Both approaches avoided a conversation. I think the conversation would be more helpful for both of them.
Load More Replies...Err...why do people don't communicate? Is it seriously too much to ask if you can feed your dog some really nice leftovers that would make a good meal, the next day? And while the poster was a bit of an a**hole, imo, is it really necessary to make her leave because she was a bit thoughtless?
Because people these days just take liberties.
Load More Replies...Should have asked, but I share my food with my dog (when safe) and if someone is offended, I understand, but we're definitely not compatible. Love me, love my dog, sorry. I wouldn't feed my dog outside, she eats right next to me.
You are actually too stupid to own a pet, let alone have a boyfriend.
I'm giving up votes for you both. It's your opinion and valid. If you aren't concerned about etiquette, I do worry about some of the spices for the roast that can be harmful to the dog.
Load More Replies...It was the first time you visited his house and you not only grabbed half a leftover roast from dinner, but also raided his fridge for fresh veggies? YTA 100%.
Commenting here to hide the phishing bot, but you're totally right. She's TA, a quarter roast is a small meal and not a "leftover".
Load More Replies...Whole situation could have been avoided with a simple, "Hey, would mind if ...."
Shrewed perspective... 1. It is rude to leave the table and carrying your plate into the kitchen when others are still eating 2. Having been invited to a meal does not entitle you to use have of the leftovers as you please 3. For the love of God, ASK before taking leftovers.
It's not rude to take your plate into the kitchen if you come back and sit with your dinner date afterwards I thought?
Load More Replies...I thought at first that she used the leftovers from her own plate. I feel that would be acceptable. But what she ended up doing was extremely rude and insulting
There is no way I would ever allow a dog to eat off of someone else's plate. What the actual F**K
Load More Replies...Everyone is missing the point. He planned a special day for her including cooking for her at his home. He put considerable thought and preparation into it. The OP didn't seem to appreciate his efforts. He's lucky to be rid of her. Someone will absolutely adore him for it.
My thoughts exactly. He took the presumedly clean plate back to the kitchen, wrapped what was on it in foil and sent her off with it. It wasn’t so much about having leftovers or the cost, but about the emotional labor he put into doing something romantic and the sentiment of a nice home-cooked dinner to wrap up a date. Everything she did was not ok, just as she has continually done when they eat out. This is about taking a romantic moment and turning it, once again, into an act of entitlement and inconsideration. My guess is this was his last straw and saw no reason to move forward with her. Also, I bet he was hurt with how she treated his efforts.
Load More Replies...Bad manners and overall inconsideration towards her bf aside: she needs to do some SERIOUS, IN-DEPTH research involving lots of q and a with her vet if she wants to continue feeding her dog a raw diet. Her ignorance is astounding, she is potentially poisoning her dog as not all human food is okay for dogs. Grapes, for example, are highly toxic for dogs. The dog could end up with pancreatitis or worse or dead. Girl, WTF?!
The "raw-feeding" community are some of the most argumentative, know-it-all arsėwipes around. They make militant vegans look normal. I have noticed that recently more and more people are coming forward with their bad experiences of raw feeding, where they have unknowingly taken years off their dog's life and are now devastated by this consequence. Raw feeding is *not* easy, it requires just as much effort as eating a truly healthy vegan diet.
Load More Replies...The title of this piece is misleading, "table scraps" should be replaced with "enough good food for another meal"!
Onions are toxic to dogs and are usually the first ingredient next to meat in any roast. But even if no onions were used, YTA, OP. You showed your date that your dog is more important than him. You ignored him when he said his leftovers weren't dog food. Then you had the gall to argue with that man, who planned an awesome day for you all. Yikes. I don't even know if this relationship is salvageable. Also, dogs need proper dog food. Only AHs don't provide this.
YTA Should have at least asked before taking a quarter of the entire roast to feed her dog. She sounds entitled. If she's acting like that the very first time she's at his house, imagine what she'll be like after a year.
Let's not forget, she went into his refrigerator and helped herself to his veggies....without asking. Beyond rude!
Load More Replies...I cook twice a week and fill the fridge and freezer with leftovers. I'd be pissed if someone just assumed they could do anything with my carefully budgeted food without asking.
I’ve got a large rib roast in the freezer that cost $80 on sale for some upcoming “special” occasion. I sure wouldn’t be happy if someone dipped into potential leftovers that would make a whole other meal to give to their dog. I mean, I have a lovely shih tzu who I feed special kibble I get at great cost from the vet, plus I make him a stew concoction he (and my new kittens apparently) love, and he might get pieces of meat from our meals we don’t eat, but I’m not going to give him a hunk of prime rib!
Ok, now I definitely want to know more about that stew concoction you make for your pets. I want to find something I can make for my cats that I know will be good for them. Do you think you could give me your recipe, or tell me more?
Load More Replies...She should have said 'do you mind if i use some of the leftovers to feed the dog and that would have been that
I don't understand why she brought her dog along but didn't come prepared with food for it.
Load More Replies...Unless you paid for it, or at least *asked*, you have NO RIGHT to feed your dog what could be up to a pound of expensive meat! I have no issues with raw feeding, but no one has the right to just toss someone else's meal to your dog! As others have said, you bring your own dog's dinner *with you*. Rude and entitled~~he's lucky to have dodged *you*!
I thought it was the scraps from her plate at first and couldn't understand why he lost it...but 1/4 of a roast?! This girl clearly doesn't understand the concept of left overs! Wt actually f!
I feed my cats a raw food diet. I can honestly say not only is it expensive, it takes a lot of preplanning and variation to make sure they get all their nutritional needs met. For the first 2 years I did it, my vet did tests every 6 months to make sure all their nutritional needs were being met. It's a lot more than just grabbing some raw meat from the fridge and putting it in a bowl. But holy smokes the level of entitlement in the post! I can't imagine doing that! That's crazy! Also...I don't know about OP but how does feeding the dog a raw food diet then giving them half a roast have any relation to each other?
I’m really not sure why your vet needed to do tests other than to get more money from you. I mean, cats are obligate carnivores and you’re feeding them raw meat, so what’s the problem? Barn cats who roam around my house look pretty healthy and strong when they show up for some kitty kibble and a chat. I assume they are feeding themselves alright the rest of the time, just as nature intended. Seriously I’m confused as I’m sure you did your own in-depth research first.
Load More Replies...Tbf if she asked i would have cut a little piece off and add the salad she thinks is fine, but on the first visit to just do it by yourself without asking or even saying anything is quiet rude.
YTA. WTF were you thinking? You didn't even ask! I love animals but I would have been p****d !
That guy dodged a bullet, too bad he had to waste 4 months to find out. I would be upset too if someone fed an entire meal that could feed me to their pampered spoiled dog.
People were saying in another thread that people only post when it's obvious they're nta, but clearly that's not the truth.
He bought the roast so leftovers were not yours to do with as you pleased.
YTA, he made it special for you. I love dogs, but if my mom made me something very special, I wouldn't turn around and take more just to feed my dog.
I like how it one of the commenters on the post brought up seasonings and how it could potentially make her dog sick
Yeah a quarter of a cooked roast is a lot of food, and of seasonings for a dog! What kind of person assumes that uneaten food is scraps and not leftovers for another meal? That's also not raw food and she was making a lot of assumptions about what he'd planned with the food *he* made
I love dogs almost more than people but if I were in this situation, most likely knowing the dinner would run into my dog's dinner time, I'd ask if I could give some to it if not just bring my own food for it. I really wanna side with OP but it seemed fishy the second she said she took food from the leftovers and not actual table scraps.
I get very upset whenever my family wants to feed our dogs meat that has been prepared with spices... A roast doesn't qualify for a so called raw diet, the only way for this to be acceptable at all was for her to ask her bf to save a piece of meat before cooking it to feed her dog afterwards, not raiding his kitchen and taking whatever she wants... she doesn't even mention knowing what spices were used and if they were harmful for the dog...
I would never have given the dog an leftover piece of roast (they could have finished the roast the next day, it was cooked on purpose, it's an expensive piece of meat). However, he who even immediately throws her out of the house for this reason seems to me just as stupid, if not more so.
It seems she has a strong history of helping herself to food off his plate when they eat out. Even after being asked not to, she’d ignore him and just dig in… so maybe this was the straw that broke the camels back. He’d probably just had enough of her s**t.
Load More Replies...i can't agree that she is the a hole. i would have asked if he would mind if it was okay but still not the a hole. i have dogs and they are more loyal than any lover i have ever had. so, accept me and my dogs and how i care for them. if not...get to steppin'. btw, yes, i do give my puppers something every night from my dinner. not more than a bite or two but they do usually get something if only a piece of carrot.
But you or I would give our dog a little something from our plates and we would take the dog's food with us. We wouldn't go into his kitchen and rifle through half a roast without even asking, which is what this person did.
Load More Replies...I would have kicked her out. I’m amazed she can think she might be right, wtf?!?
So I'm the odd one out cause I would think if YOU INVITE MY DOG with me, why would I not assume the dog could participate? A lot of people who do not have kids, thiers pets are their kids. I treat these people as I would would have wanted to be treated when my kids were younger. He knew how she fed her dog, invited her dog to go with them knowing the end result was dinner. Around my parts, you do the inviting, you pay. That includes inviting kids/pets. I cannot invite anyone out but if I say they can come over and bring kids or pet to my house then they eat too or I do not invite you over because I cannot afford it.
I can see that perspective. I mean if he invited the dog he should of had dinner plan to feed the dog. They just had a long hike, and the dog probably was hungry. I think she should have asked, do you have anything for Shelby to eat? It is possible that at her age she didn't realize just how expensive a roast is. Communication in any relationship is very important and I think they both communitied poorly. She assumed she could feed the dog the roast and did not respond to his statement that it was not dog food. He did not use any further words, but picked up the plate, wrapped it in foil and asked her to leave. Both approaches avoided a conversation. I think the conversation would be more helpful for both of them.
Load More Replies...Err...why do people don't communicate? Is it seriously too much to ask if you can feed your dog some really nice leftovers that would make a good meal, the next day? And while the poster was a bit of an a**hole, imo, is it really necessary to make her leave because she was a bit thoughtless?
Because people these days just take liberties.
Load More Replies...Should have asked, but I share my food with my dog (when safe) and if someone is offended, I understand, but we're definitely not compatible. Love me, love my dog, sorry. I wouldn't feed my dog outside, she eats right next to me.
You are actually too stupid to own a pet, let alone have a boyfriend.
I'm giving up votes for you both. It's your opinion and valid. If you aren't concerned about etiquette, I do worry about some of the spices for the roast that can be harmful to the dog.
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