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30 Stories Of The Nastiest Things Exes Have Told Their Partners After They Got Dumped, As Shared By Our Community
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Most everyone has had a "good riddance to bad rubbish" moment when it came to ending a toxic relationship. The feeling of finally cutting ties with someone who has brought nothing but negativity and drama into your life can be incredibly liberating. But more often than not, the "dump-ee" has some final words to say on the matter.
It's a common occurrence for an ex to lash out with hurtful and insulting remarks after being dumped. They may try to hurt you with words in an attempt to make themselves feel better about the situation. It's important to remember that these words are not a reflection of your worth as a person and to not let them affect you.
Have any more "nasty" things that an ex has said to you after you had dumped them? Share your stories in the comments below. Let's hear the worst of the worst and give each other some virtual support during this difficult time.
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One thing I don't understand is, HE wanted out, HE was sleeping with my best friend (and got her pregnant while we were in marriage counseling) so when I said okay, lets end it, he was enraged. He told me the world would be a better place if my mother had scraped me out with a rusty coat hanger than if I had been born. He also said, "You'll never find someone to treat you the way I did." THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT.
You bruised his poor ego by finishing with him. Those are truly vile words. You're well rid then, hon.
In an interview with psychologist and family therapist Shannon Benson, Bored Panda asked her to explain the role of gender roles and cultural backgrounds in how exes communicate after a breakup. "Gender roles can influence the way that men and women express their emotions and communicate with their exes," said Benson.
"For example, traditional gender roles may suggest that men are supposed to be less expressive of their emotions and more likely to suppress them, while women are expected to be more open and expressive. This may result in men being less likely to initiate communication with their exes, or less likely to express vulnerability and sadness, while women may be more likely to reach out and express their feelings."
He asked everyone he knew to call me and say what a loser I am, etc., but I got no calls. Turns out they all sided with me and now a have another huge group of friends.
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My sister dated this guy for like 2 years. Super manipulative and toxic a**hole. He flipped his lid when she finally had enough and broke it off.
Told her she was "f*cking worthless anyways" and "___ was a better f*ck anyhow" then he told her he had been planning to "drop [her] a** anyhow because [she was] starting to really pack on the pounds and it was getting gross."
She had an eating disorder for years. And she was really only starting to get back to a healthy weight, so calling her fat was possibly the cruelest thing he could've done.
Luckily, shed been going to therapy by that point and was really happy with the added weight so the words didn't do what he wanted.
Those type of people really are so weak they feel they have to prey on other's weaknesses and insecurities to make themselves feel better. She is well rid of them.
Benson also highlighted that cultural backgrounds can play a role in how exes communicate after a breakup. "Different cultures may have different expectations or norms around communication, emotional expression, and relationships," she noted.
"For example, some cultures may place more emphasis on preserving relationships and maintaining harmony, while others may be more individualistic and focus on personal growth and self-expression. This may result in exes from different cultural backgrounds communicating differently after a breakup. For example, in some cultures, direct confrontation might be seen as impolite and be avoided, while other cultures may view direct confrontation as an important aspect of communication."
My ex (mother to my son) said I'm a sad a loser and no one else would want me. She abused me for the two years we were together. I've been in a happy relationship for 7 years now and have the best relationship with my son from my ex. I also have a son with my current partner. :)
"You're nothing but a lazy user who nobody wants and nobody loves!!! I also reported your dog stolen and sent both your pictures to every vet in the state so you'll be arrested when you bring him in for his shots!!!"
Not finished with all the legal nonsense, but a no-contact order works wonders.
The family therapist also told us about the distinction between healthy and unhealthy communication from an ex post-breakup. "Healthy communication is characterized by mutual respect, kindness, and a willingness to listen and understand each other's perspective," shared Shannon. "It is focused on resolving conflicts and finding a way to move forward in a positive way. It is respectful and non-threatening. On the other hand, unhealthy communication can be disrespectful and often includes personal attacks, verbal abuse or manipulation, and attempts to control the other person. It can make it hard to find closure and move on, and can escalate conflicts."
When I realized he was a narcissist, I decided to end things. My son had passed away the year before from cardiac arrest brought on by energy drinks. When he started gaslighting me (again) and I said I was done, he got nasty and physical.
He told me that if I’d been a better mother, my son would still be alive. I lost it and tried to leave. He dove into the car as I was leaving, causing me to accidentally run over his leg. I called 911, then he pulled a gun on me while I was on the phone.
The dispatcher overheard the whole conversation and sent the police. He tried to say I mowed him down but he was partially in the passenger, hanging out the door so they didn’t believe him. They arrested him based on what the dispatcher had relayed. A week later he was arrested AGAIN for breaking his son’s jaw. No revenge needed.
He doesn’t sound like someone who should be commenting on others’ parenting skills.
He put me in the hospital. Seriously beat me because I had no right, apparently, to make a decision about ‘his life’ without him. This was after a fight where he’d got angry about me using contraception because *he* wanted children.
(25 years ago. I don’t know if he’s even still alive and I’m ok with that.)
Benson emphasized that "everyone heals differently and has different boundaries," and it's important to "listen to oneself and find what works best for you and your individual needs." She also reminded that "no one should tolerate any form of verbal abuse or harassment," and that it's important to "take steps to protect oneself from unhealthy communication."
That without him I'm nothing.
It was just his toxic, narcissistic manipulation to belittle me, as he was doing similar things for 7 years (the time we were together). And this was hilarious, because I was taking care of everything about our relationship - it was me who found and furnished our apartment, I was cooking, cleaning, and paying for most of the stuff as I have a better paid job. I dumped him because he was a narcissist and cared only about himself.
Good for you that you dumped him, those people are such a waist of your time ;)
He told me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious…we had been together for 8 years, lived together for 6 and I had raised his children like my own. He could just never stop cheating.
That he'd slept with his ex the night before and it had shown him how much he "really cared" for me. You know, because there's no better way to say "I love you" than forking someone else.
Maybe they thought they were on a break? I know, I'll show myself out.....
It's maybe not "nasty" but I still can't wrap my head around it. He said, "It would work if you'd change your attitude". Sure... I really just should be okay with being talked down to the whole time, with being ignored, with being gaslighted... sure thing.
I'm glad it didn't work. You definitely shouldn't change to accept c**p like that!
My ex-fiancée, the week that my brother died, sent me an email about how we had to delete our wedding Facebook account and that I was a terrible person. I know that he knew about my brother dying, because we have mutual friends that would have told him. I'm glad that I ended things with someone who waited till it hurt the most to hurt me more.
This was one of the many terrible things he said, but it stands out the most.
My ex told me that I would never ever get someone of his caliber ever, and that I would wind up with some grease-monkey. Well I did marry a man who worked on cars for a living, and he made 3 times what my ex made, and now my college graduate ex is in his 60s and hasn't worked in his field in decades and now works at a sporting goods store barely above minimum wage.
My EX taunted me saying, "you have something like a p*nis... only smaller!" I said, "Oh, you look like my new girlfriend... only fatter and less flexible." She didn't take it all that well!
“What kind of a mother would a girl like YOU be?”
I had become close friends with an Irish co-worker. He was a fairly naïve country boy who loved my tattoos and ever-changing hair color, and was always fascinated with my unusual upbringing and adventures. Until we drunkenly hooked up after our company’s Xmas party, and I became pregnant.
I was almost 30 and wanted to have it and remain friends. He threatened to go back to Ireland to avoid child support if I did not do what HE and his family back home wanted- which was to have the baby and give it up for adoption. At the same time, he wanted to name it after an ex-girlfriend of his. (WT actual F?) I’m on my own in every sense with no family or support system, and I didn’t want my child to grow up in the same miserable poverty that I did. So I had an abortion. As it turned out, I was never able to get pregnant again. So my “family” dies with me.
He took all of my biggest insecurities and made fun of them. He told me I should be insecure about them and listed out examples of how true they were.
I bet he missed all of his own flaws.... but the biggest one was quite obvious, his lack for brains and great taste... All those things he listed as your "insecurities" he once loved, so listing them to you now to put you down is all a lie... kick those insecurities out the door and love yourself just the way you are, because that's the perfect you ;) Trust me, even the ones that we think are "perfect" will always find things they think less of. Hugs
One cheated on me & told me I was an alcoholic (after he got a DUI). Another said that I was mentally ill because I was leaving him after he'd cheated on me (then he got into the boxes I'd packed & stole several of my things). Another told me that he hated that I'd cut my hair, that I should skip lunches (apparently I was getting too fat for him), and that it wasn't hard work but simply dumb luck that I'd been able to land a great career (but he had no problem spending the money I made on old cars & other useless c**p, including using MY severance check to buy an old Ford pickup). When I told him I wanted a divorce, he was shocked. Really? He guilt-tripped me into leaving a couch that was purchased with MY bonus check & ended up giving it away after I left.
I have my grandmother's luck when it comes to lousy men!
Unfortunately, as I learned watching many of my and my sisters' relationships, it's usually not luck, but either a warped self-image or naivety when it comes to those runs of "bad luck" with men... If you learn to recognise your own worth, and that it doesn't depend on other people, you'll be in a position to not let abusive, controlling or otherwise "bad boys" into your life. When you're still too naive to recognise early signs, that's another story. But I've never seen someone who's actually been "unlucky" with men, we all chose poorly. There's a big difference, and it's the fact that you can work on choosing better next time, it's in your hands!
I told my ex to choose between his addiction or the kids and myself. He said straight out said his addiction. Good riddance.
My ex-wife told me I’m a fraud, broke every picture of me in the house, and told me “F*** your music” (I have a side gig as a musician). She then spent six months begging me to come back, but when I finally told her I’m never coming back, she told people in texts that went to my ten-year-old kid’s iPad that I’m a “laughable parent” and that she is the victim of my abuse. It’s been a constant, complete lunacy ever since.
Oh, and she also said, “You’ll hit rock bottom without me.” I haven’t, and it’s two years later.
My husband told me he didn't want to pay alimony because we don't have kids. And therefore I was able to build my career within our marriage. Guess what: we had a son (stillborn) in 2019 AND an elaborate fertility program that led to a miscarriage after in 2021. So yeah, his comment really hurt me.
Move on and get him out of your life, that’s the best way to heal. My ex owes me 4 grand but I know Ill never see it and it’s just the price I paid to not have him in my life anymore and it was worth it.
She said, "I only slept with him (my best friend at that time) once!"
That I'm not good enough to be loved but my friend, whom you met through me is good enough. Happened 4 times in a row, by 4 different people that don't know each other. It must be true.
It's not true. You just need to find your perfect person. Don't settle for anything less.
"You're not pretty enough to dump someone like me. In fact, *I* say it's over between us!"
He said he loved me after he slept with my sister and my best friend.
We weren't exclusive or anything but had been close friends for years before we started hooking up. A few months after things fell apart we talked and he told me he had known for about a year that we shouldn't be in touch.
So I asked him why he had spent time with me although him knowing better. The answer was that he had been single for eight years and therefore was desperate and that I had to understand.
He knew it was wrong, he knew there would be fallout. He blew up your friendship over needing to get laid. Then told you you had to understand?? What a piece of sh*t.
After I broke up with my ex (after a year of his condescending behavior and I finally had enough after he berated me for posing with an advertisement/billboard of one of my fav K-pop stars), he told me for my next relationship I get into, I would most likely be physically abused.
I don’t even know what a K-pop star is, and I still say that’s none of his damned business! If you like whatever a K-pop star is (unless it’s illegal or harmful to others which I highly doubt), that’s awesome and not for anybody in the world to judge - nobody asked for HIS opinion about YOUR likes, what the hell? I sure hope he’d be fine with people pìssing all over what he enjoys in life, otherwise he’s both an αsshole AND a hypocrite.
I don't know if it counts, since I didn't dump them. But the first girl I dated left me for the guy she was cheating on me with, and she told me explicitly. She also told me how much better he was than me.
The second girl I dated admitted to deliberately trying to push me into taking myself out.
Dumped him because he could not stop cheating on me. Told him the day I broke up with him, I couldn’t believe I gave him my virginity and he had the gall to tell me he had been a virgin, too. Pure unadulterated a*****e!
I didn't have a lot of money as I was a single mom and I was doing the best I could. This grown man lived with his mother and had nothing of his own and had the audacity to say to me "At least all my stuff doesn't come from goodwill". Like what stuff do you even have, oh yeah none, it's all your mom's! My stuff might have been second hand but it was MY stuff. I never talked to him again.
Psshh, who doesn't love Goodwill?! I get board games there particularly, you can find some really cool games, and sometimes even new in the package for $2-$5!
My ex falsely accused me of raping him. This was after I spent a year chasing him to terminate the mobile phone contract he'd taken out in my name without my permission, and kept stringing me along saying he'd deal with it.
After I hadn't heard from him for months I contacted some mutual friends to see if they would ask him to contact me. He went off and sent me the most disgusting and abusive email including the false allegations.
I blocked him on all media, and the mobile phone company agreed to terminate the contract immediately for me. He'd been emotionally abusive during the relationship and this gaslighting was another way of trying to retain control.
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with such an abusive, pain-inflicting person 😞 sucks having to have those memories. Glad the phone company understood the situation, and I hope this guy is loooong gone out of your life!
Ahhh, got a little list ;p
- I'l kill you when I see you two walking
- You think anyone would want to have sex with a fat pig like you? (My SO likes my body, which is actually just a bit over the voluptuous side)
-You have to get yourself tested for an STD because you could have given it to me. (I never cheated, she however did and never got tested, I should just shut up.)
- If you don't (too many things to specifie) I'll come over with some friends and we'll beat you up. (Never happened, my SO is an ex police-officer and very not impressed by anybody)
- If I kill myself it's your fault (Yeah, not)
- I'll beat up your son! I'm at your house now and you're not home (Called the cops on her then who were there very quick) and also contacted my neighbours to check my house please.
- I order you to break of all contact with my family (with pleasure)
- You have to let me in when I come over to visit you, but only if you send "him" away while I'm there (Like what? You're not that important to me that I even want you to come visit me.)
- I have those things that I took with me when I moved, I'm in the neighbourhood and can bring them by. My response that I didn't need it anymore was not acceptable, I got an email full of hatred yet again...
I'm so happy she's somebody elses problem now, but the most happy I am for the fact that I had the guts to break up and choose for my own happyness finally ;)
"You'll never be more than a curiosity sh*g." This was 10 years ago.
After I split with my child's mother, on Christmas before are custody arrangements, she said she had left the state and that I would never see my child again. She then said I amount to nothing and I should k*ll myself because it would be better for my child to never know me, and she would make sure to tell my child good things about me so they wouldn't know how pathetic I was.
I was a stay at home dad, so at the time I didn't have any money or a job. The house was under her name. I was living in my car that Christmas, but I had a trunk full of presents to give after selling a few things I had. She sent that message after I sat in a parking lot 3 hours waiting for them to show up.
After some time, I well established myself, have a wonderful relationship with my child.
The words she said on that Christmas broke me as a person, but that allowed me to rebuild myself into much more of a father then I would have become without leaving.
...I have a lot of petty things to say 😅 I won't say them, but man I really wanna 😂
I was honest. "I just don't feel the butterflies for you anymore. I'm sorry."
He responded, "I haven't felt ANYTHING for you but I didn't just end things."
Well, I did and he should have sooner if that was the truth.
"Come catch a bullet." Was together over 20 years, been divorced about 12 years, separated several years before that. This was a text I received last year along with a lot more (I stopped counting after 65) one night while he was obviously drunk and mad at me. Drunker than usual. We hadn't even recently spoken to each other before the barage of texts. And he wonders why his son (30) and ex-wife won't talk to him. He's now blocked.
Technically she dumped me, but what she said still hurt.
We were supposed to go out on Valentine's Day, but she came home and said she had other plans. After arguing a bit, she said she had plans with another guy.
So I asked her if she was breaking up with me on Valentine's Day, and her response was "It's rude to cancel plans with someone once you've made them".
Yeah, that stung.
But it’s fine to cancel plans with someone in order to make new plans with a different person?
This will get buried, but still ... my ex-husband (father of my son) told me I was being too kind and nice. Was freakingly disturbing.
All I can think is I’m guessing they didn’t get a lot of nice comments during the relationship?
I decided to end things with a guy named Al after he showed some extremely scary red flags. I didn’t think there was a need to have a big discussion about the end of the “relationship” because we’d only been dating for about a month and had only seen each other about 6 times during that month. So I sent him a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match and wishing him a great future. (While it’s usually considered bad form to end things over a text, I was afraid of this guy and didn’t want to ever see him again.)
He sent back a text demanding an explanation, so I replied that the last time we were together he had shown himself to be manipulative, condescending, narcissistic, and controlling. I texted that I didn’t see the need for further communication and asked him to please not contact me again.
He left a 2-page, typed, single-space letter on my door step threatening to sue me for slander if I didn’t agree to talk to him about the “real reason” I broke up with him. In the letter, he said I’d made “serous accusations about his character” that could affect his future job possibilities. He said there must be someone in my life who had decided we shouldn’t be together, and that person must have run a background check on him and decided to only share “the worst parts” with me. He said the person who must have run a background check on him (whoever it might have been) didn’t love me. He told me he missed me and still wanted to be with me, but that if I didn’t agree to talk to him he would “let the lawyers handle it.”
He was the scariest, most unhinged person I’ve ever met, let alone dated. Thank god I saw him for what he was after a short amount of time. He’s the reason I have 3 locks on my door and a home security system.
Dodged a freakin bullet for sure!!! The fact that he came to your doorstep is sooo creepy and violating 😬 good call on the security system.
I was with a deadbeat drug addict for way too long in my early 20s. I also have severe lupus and my health had just started going seriously downhill. I had a lung collapse out of nowhere and found out that he was sleeping around while I was in the hospital. I broke up with him over the phone while still in the hospital. He proceeded to call my phone repeatedly. I handed it to my sis and told her to take it home with her. My family could call the hospital to speak to me if they needed and my other sister was sleeping beside my bed because I was scared and didn't know any of this was lupus related at the time. The next day, older sister shows up to visit.
Me: Can I see my phone?
Older sister: Not until I clear *insert jerk's name here* texts. And if I see MF again, I'm catching a felony. (She's a half hippy/half Christian woman that seems to love everyone regardless of anything. So this let me know it was bad. I had never heard her use MF before and I didn't think she knew what catching a felony meant until that day.)
Eventually, I got the phone as a new text came in. Actual wording is below with some censoring.
"Of course I cheated on you you disease ridden c-word. Who would actually want your pig a-word?! I hope you die in that hospital."
That was only one of about thirty texts he had sent. Long story short, they got more threatening. Ended in a permanent restraining order after he kept driving by my dad's house pointing his finger like it was a gun every time he saw someone in my family.
Still ended happily for though. He's now in his mid-40s and living with his mommy and I ended up testifying in another restraining order case brought by another woman who found my order and her lawyer called me. That order was granted too and I'm actually still friends with that woman. I'm eleven years married to a man who treats me so respectfully that the first six months I dated him I thought he had to be playing me somehow. Nope. He's just a decent human being and partner. Apparently I wasn't used to that. Health still isn't great but at least I have someone actually willing to be supportive and take care of me when issues arise.
It’s amazing what can start to seem “normal” - I’m so glad your “normal” has actually become a good “normal”.
He told me I'm nothing without him, he said he was going to commit suicide to try and get me back.
My ex-wife about a few years after I divorced her and went through an very contentious divorce process stated she was so disappointed/angry that she could have had me arrested. She stated she knew purposely that she was blocking my exit from even leaving the toilet room in our bathroom, or forcing me to use the back door to get to my car, or even taking the remote for the garage door when i would leave for work. She told me she wanted me to just touch her so she could have me arrested, and take everything from me, especially all three of our kids. I never touched her when she would start arguments and did what my lawyer told me to do, just leave the house and stay at my parents' near by second home. My ex even stated this in front of our eldest child's therapist in a parent/counselor check in meeting.
Plus she was so narcistic that she tried to make me pay more then the state would allow by knowingly filing a false lease from a friend she rented from (through never paid rent it was later found out) with over stated rent values. Well five years later, our eldest finally grew up and unfortunately sees their mother for the type of person their mother is, and just moved in to my house full time. The other two younger kiddos are also asking to move into my house full time (technically is 50/50) since they are not comfortable with mom. I just made sure the last five years i was the rock the kids needed and always there as a parent should be.
I'm so very glad that you were what your children needed and focused on them. Don't forget to take care of yourself too so you can continue to be what they need. It's very sad that she's pushing her children away. Sending thoughts of strength and courage to you.
He tried to spread lies that I was a p*dophile and posted revenge porn of me with a summary of how I liked young boys.
This, this from the 30 year old that went on and on abput how he wanted to "deflower" a virgin, forced me to dress up as a schoolgirl as much as possible, previously had *been* with a younger girl and stole underwear from lost and founds so he could do nasty things with them (trust me... nasty).
I was young myself (21), had moved out to be with him, had a mental illness and couldn't support myself. Luckily I got away after several years and what I know now was at least one rape, but it took 3 or 4 years.
“You’re not my girlfriend anymore so I can finally beat the s**t out of you.” I was young and dumb, he was an emotional and sexual abuser. That was the last straw and I finally left him for good after that.
When I was 17, I dumped my physically / emotionally abusive BF of 2 years (+ added a restraining order)... and he wouldn't quit calling... around 50 times a day... for about 4 or 5 months (obviously, I never picked up).
Eventually, it would only happen when he seemed to be really drunk and - of course - there would be some nasty voice message when I didn't answer... many of which were some version of "I'll f*****g kill you b***h."
On one such night, I received another one of these voice messages when my new boyfriend happened to be around to hear it. Shortly afterward, my boyfriend and I were on our way to somewhere and had to drive past my ex's house to get there (as he was only 2 miles or so away). My ex happened to be out in his driveway drinking when - unexpectedly - my new boyfriend slammed on the brakes, jumped out of the car, and ran toward my ex shouting "Are you the b***h-a*s m**********r who keeps threatening my girlfriend?" My new boyfriend was much larger and much more confident (he had grown up a bit rough and was a fairly seasoned fighter)... and - as a result - my ex merely ran into his house when confronted. (Funny how abusive men always always seem to shy away from physical altercations with people who aren't smaller than them, isn't it?).
Anyhow, we haven't heard from him since.
The "new boyfriend" is now my husband and best friend. We have been together for almost 19 years.
Awww love the happy ending! So glad you ended up with the partner you deserve 😊
man I'd regret recalling this, but here we go:
fyi i have a speech problem, mainly stuttering (improving tho) but it was rlly rlly bad last yr especially after lockdown. Sooo when things kinda broke of he said bullshits like 'your novel is a waste of time' 'we can date again once you learn how to speak English *wink emoji' this s**t lowkey hurt bc its not that i cant speak english properly i just have a speech problem that happens regardless of what language I speak. He harassed me way too f*****g much afterward, using his friend's accounts to send hateful messages and even to the extend of personal and school emails. He was a pathological liar and left me scarred for a long time. I'm all g now tho.
"Were we even dating?"
This one really depends. I too have a had conversations where I was just being polite and three weeks later found out they’d been seriously misinterpreted.
My ex stole my dog, then he would call me and tell me, "you're a f##king selfish b##ch and I'm going to beat her and then send her to the pound and they'll put her down". Then he would get her to bark and say, "how does it feel to know you're never going to hear that again?"
Her last text message: "You're a joke. I'm going to destroy you...ruin your life like you did mine. Be afraid. VERY AFRAID. Your life won't end well for you. Goodbye. lol!"
I didn't know it at the time we were dating, but she became an addict, which only made her mental health conditions worse. The night I received this, she told her family she was coming to my place to kill herself in front of me. Woke up at 3am with 4 cops banging on my door trying to find her. They stopped her before she showed up carrying a large chef's knife.
Wow, that sounds really scary. I'm glad they stopped her before she got to your house, that could have turned out very badly. I hope she got the help she needed and that you have support as well. That's a lot to go through. Gentle hugs.
Not exactly something she said to me, so if it doesn't qualify, feel free to delete or downvote.
I had a relationship with a girl in the USA, but we were both Italian. She returned to italy at some point and I made it clear that our relationship was over.
It was never that much "on" for me. In fact, we wouldn’t have had a relationship at all if I had more of a spine at the time, but I was young and foolish and more concerned about her feelings than mine.
She was also a bit stalky and she was always popping up at the same places I was.
At the time I didn't think it weird as all the Italians congregated at a few specific places, but she always managed to find me regardless of where I was staying at any given time or where I went.
Once she was back in Italy, I get a call from my mother, upset that I got engaged and I never told them.
She actually went to my parent's house, a good 300Km from her home, barged in and told them she was my fiancée and we had decided to get married as soon as she graduated college.
At that time international phone calls were expensive and I didn't have a phone they could call me at because I was moving around quite a bit, so she was able to stay at my parent's house for quite a few days before I could clarify the situation.
It was a nightmare. My parents didn't know what to make of it. She was in their house telling them fantastical stories of our romance and our future plans, while all I could contribute to the discussion were intermittent, staticky denials at $5 a minute (I don't remember the actual cost, but it was expensive).
She had pretty much our entire lives planned, with a job in her father's company, a house on her parents property and the two of us married with kids.
I hate to think what she told her own parents and I probably didn't have a good reputation with them after I finally managed to convince her to go back home and stop harassing my parents.
For a while I was afraid to go back to Italy, lest I'd find her at the airport waiting for me.
He said a *lot* of things to me after I ended it, even that he wish I died, but the one that hurt the most was after our last big argument when I said I was breaking things off
"Finally"
As if he was just waiting for me to hate him enough to turn away
Wow, I'm glad it broke off before he could continue to hurt you, and I hope it's getting easier and easier to detach from the hurt of those words 🙏🏻
After I broke up with him he tried to kill himself and blamed it on me. Said I was a terrible person that doesn't have emotions(I do, just sometimes I don't show them) and then somehow got his little friend group and some of the mutual friend group we shared to believe that I sexually assaulted him when he tried to do that to me. He also said that I'm worthless and that he's right in trying to get with another girl almost as soon as I broke up with him. I really hate him, and I'm so glad I moved away. Sorry that it's a bit long and not as good (bad?) as the others.
Ex-broke up with me for a fraternity brother of mine Senior year in college. Probably cheated on me with him but I’ll never know nor do I care. I started dating someone else, who she knew. Ex started asking my fraternity brothers about the new girl. That’s when I lost it. At an internal but formal seniors graduating event, I handed down to my fraternity brother the chair on which me and the ex last had sex on in the locker-room style shower of the fraternity house…which was already a notable event because it took place the day after finals the semester before when we had mistakenly thought the house was empty and we were both quite loud. 2 hours after the fraternity event, I get a call from the fraternity brother which I didn’t answer. 30 minutes later was the ex, which I did. She was barking up a storm about how that I was ruining her image, that I was destroying her good memories…blah blah blah. I didn’t say a word but laughed so hard and hung up the phone. Last I ever heard from her…I married the woman I had started dating and she gets a kick out of the story every time.
IDK, this comes across to me as petty and unnecessary. Your ex broke up with you and started dating someone else, so you intentionally humiliated them both in public in front of their peers and then laughed at your ex? Maybe I am missing something, but especially if the cheating is only suspected and not cared about then this is definitely cruel and uncalled for
Years after my divorce, my ex-wife told me I was never a bad husband and was a very caring and attentive father.
I'm so sorry...my ex wife did the same (telling a mutual friend). She cheated on me with my best friend and said I didn't deserve the pain she put me through because I was a good man. I think that hurt me just as much.
He said that his "professional help" said that it wasn't healthy for me to go no contact, and that is a flaw of mine. I reminded him that #1 I made it clear that I had no desire to get back together, and #2 his IMAGINARY therapist told him the exact opposite of what a therapist would say.
My ex's therapist actually told her that I was no good for her and she should end our relationship. Looking back I wish she had ended it then because I wouldn't have had to deal with her drunken antics nor would I have got into so much debt, because of her drinking. The final straw was being cheated on. I still wonder what she said to that therapist, call it morbid curiosity.
Well, there was the time that I got home after him trying to force himself on me for a “one last time” to have my five year old announce that according to Daddy my name is actually “F**king, lying b***h”.
They didn't say it to me, but they tried to convince the entire school that I was racist...
I can one up this, my ex husband who is French and Polish called me the N-word because I wouldn't take him back. The outcome? Kicked him so hard that I broke three of his ribs. Neeeever spoke to me again happened 20yrs ago.
They broke up with me, but they wouldn’t stop misgendering me and they called my brother a p*do. My brother just dated someone two years younger than them, that was the whole excuse. I was trying to stay friends with them but my brother comes before anyone else. Now I have a wonderful partner. :3
He called me an ungrateful slvtty b!tch. I haven’t even looked in his direction since
"dumb, slvtty c**t" He was a raging alcoholic, living in a bedbug-filled basement, with a job from me because of previous felonies. (No offense against felons... sometimes things happen.) Said this in front of my mom. to be fair, he reached out years later to apologize, but I very politely declined.
FU, F your Mom and BS cancer. I hope she dies.
So, she cheated on me, not only hit on my best friend five minutes later, but also said “You’re a fat f@ggot and I hope you die” She was…not the best.
WOAH what a foul thing for her to say!! "Not the best" - far from it, sounds like
And this, my friends, is why I am happily single and intend to stay that way. That one son of a b***h who stole his ex's dog has it coming for him in the next life 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
actually, my ex has never said anything to my face that was nasty but who know what he could have said. i do know that he changed the story as to why i left several times to different people which annoyed me because the truth would have put him in a bad light. if anything, i am the one that said something nasty to him. prior to my leaving i had been supporting the house and because he wasn't working regularly i also paid his utilities and food after i was gone. we ran into each other at a restaurant at the register. i was with my dad; he was with the girlfriend that he moved in a day after i left. he tossed his bill by mine as i was paying as a joke and my acid tongue let go. i just handed it back with 'sorry-i paid for you long enough. it's her turn."
And this, my friends, is why I am happily single and intend to stay that way. That one son of a b***h who stole his ex's dog has it coming for him in the next life 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
actually, my ex has never said anything to my face that was nasty but who know what he could have said. i do know that he changed the story as to why i left several times to different people which annoyed me because the truth would have put him in a bad light. if anything, i am the one that said something nasty to him. prior to my leaving i had been supporting the house and because he wasn't working regularly i also paid his utilities and food after i was gone. we ran into each other at a restaurant at the register. i was with my dad; he was with the girlfriend that he moved in a day after i left. he tossed his bill by mine as i was paying as a joke and my acid tongue let go. i just handed it back with 'sorry-i paid for you long enough. it's her turn."
