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Someone Asked “What Did A Friend Do That Made You End Your Friendship With Them?”, 35 People Delivered
Very few things feel as fulfilling as time spent with a close friend. Partly because friends tend to care about one another - being there for each other through their ups and downs, also allowing some mistakes and weaknesses. However, it is said that a friend in need is a friend indeed - a person one considered their friend ditching them when "the world is at its worst" being just one example of behavior that might lead to reconsidering the friendship. For some, it might be having 120 cats in the house. These people shared experiences of this sort, answering one Redditor’s question: “What’s something a friend did that made you end your friendship with them?”
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#1
After talking to a guy I liked, we found out my 'best friend" was telling both of us that the other person didn't like us/found us annoying. He would ask her to invite me to parties, and she'd tell him I couldn't come, or that I said no and that he annoyed me. She'd tell me that he didn't invite me because he thought I was annoying. All because she liked him but wouldn't admit it to anyone.
When we finally realized, we got together and stopped being friends with her. We've been together for 11 years now!
Sergio Bicerra 2 years ago
I want to believe they got together cause a common enemy, but good on them.
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#2
She decided she no longer wanted to take care of her cat of ~5 years, and casually mentioned she was going to drop him off at the local animal shelter. When I told her it was a "high-kill" shelter (putting animals to sleep if they haven't been claimed or adopted within **three days**)...
...She freaking **SHRUGGED HER SHOULDERS** and went to get the cat carrier. The friendship was over then, but I convinced her to take him to a no-kill shelter (relies a lot on fostering) about 45 minutes away. Oh, but she wasn't feeling well enough to drive--could I? She'd *totally* pay for my gas (uh-huh, sure you will). But, ya know, I still cared about her *cat,* so we did that.
There was an eight-dollar ($**8**!!!) "surrender" charge for people who were giving up their own pets, so that the shelter could get the cat's name and med. history, etc.
Without missing a beat, she said, "Oh, this is just a stray I found in [our town], but since they have a high-kill shelter, I convinced my friend to come along to drop it off."
The woman working there smiled, called her a "kind soul" and gave her a sticker. She broke into a huge, winning smile and said, as if shyly: "Wow, thanks **so much.** You know, you're the fourth person to tell me that this week! Maybe I should try to start believing it, haha."
She didn't even say goodbye to **HER CAT**: just turned around and walked out.
I was so bewildered--not to mention *pissed*--that I simply followed her back to my car, didn't say anything on the way home, and just avoided her from then on. In retrospect, I wish I'd told the shelter people the truth and paid them the 8 bucks, but I was sort of in shock.
How cold can you *be???* Ugh.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ughhh hell no. She didn't show any red flags before this? What a horrid woman. I would have blurted out everything. I am super quiet and withholding in most circumstances, but this would have been one of those times that I started just flipping and blasting this woman. Apparently I can be terrifying and I can't stop it. It's like an angry switch
Jean Thompson 2 years ago
Good for you, Nice Beast. I would do the same. When quiet people see red - just watch out everyone!
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Rae Ramirez 2 years ago
That’s how I got my beautiful rescue Kitty!! he couldn’t afford the $50 pet deposit and was gonna have her put down! She is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. I don’t know what I would do without my beautiful baby.
Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago
My cat didn't sleep with me last night and now I'm wondering if I've upset him. Can't see a version of this story where I didn't verbally slap the b***h into next week.
Oskar Hauser 2 years ago
I'd have outed her in front of the employee, paid the charge myself and drove off without her. Everyone I know would be aware of what she'd done before she got back home.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
This one is hard to read, not so much for the content as the writing style.
Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
Someone should stick her on death row, then shrug and walk away. See how it feels to be carelessly dumped in a high kill place.
#3
I was run over by a drunk driver years back. Died temporarily and had to be revived at the hospital. Both my brothers told my best friend of over 20 years what happened. Not once did he reach out to see how I was or ask if I was ok or wished me well. I was hurt by it, but tried to make some sort of sense of it, like maybe he just didn’t know what to say or he was shocked by the news or he wanted to give me space to recover.
Months later I’m home but still in crutches and can barely move without a great deal of pain. Reached out to my friend on the phone, talked a bit and asked if he felt like coming over to watch a movie, play some games and just hang out. I was lonely and missed him. He seemed enthused but asked if I could WALK to his house in December on icy roads barely able to hobble around on crutches to hang out there instead.
He lived 0.2 miles from me and couldn’t drive or walk the roughly 5 minutes to my house.
I stopped talking to him shortly after.
Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago
Hold on there. Did BP just use the D word and not "unalived"? Hath hell frozen over? Doth mother knoweth you useth her drapes?
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
I had a complicated knee surgery while still in school. People turned up I did not expect. Those I expected all did NOT turn up. Changed a lot regarding the 'friends' I spent my time with. Good choice.
#4
Being a single mom, Hadn’t seen my good friend in months. we planned a night out so I hired a babysitter and drove one hour to her home. My friend was a half an hour late and when she arrived, she was with her and married boyfriend, and she said she had to get something for him. She went in the bedroom with him and closed the door. I heard, giggling and laughing. I left. Not like I was paying a babysitter so I could sit alone in her apartment while she has sex with a married guy.
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
I might just be petty to try and make contact with the boyfriend's wife...
#5
Never called back after my son died-I phoned her - she said she would call me next week, - never called me back
Susan Atkinson 2 years ago
I had a friend since the 70's. She was married with a daughter. I had 2 sons. When my son was 18 he became paraplegic from a cold. He was in hospital for 2 months. She never went to see him. She didn't call me. When I called her she asked if I wanted to hang with her a bunch of our girl friends. After we arrived she did nothing but berate me for not being my "normal ' self. 9 years later my 2nd son died. She didn't even come to the funeral.
Nancy Davis 2 years ago
Have has a friend for 50 years who when I told her my long term boyfriend was dying said "so."
Load More Replies... Libstak 2 years ago
I lost a "friend" when my brother died. I was on the phone with her, crying. We are gnostic, there are very specific teachings about the after life and she chose the moment I was weakest to lecture me about these, I said "please, not now, this is not the time", she took offence, suddenly my brothers death became about her being affronted. Her partner came home and called out to her while she was on the phone to me. She said she had to go but would call back. Never heard from her again. Still makes me rage inside to this day how righteous she was and how she would have drama queened for sympathy from her partner while I was distraught.
Paul Pienkowski 2 years ago
Sounds like my girlfriend's sister. She's only with her current man because he has children she can use for social media. She refuses to have children of her own, because it will "ruin her body", but she wants SOMEONE'S kids to put on Instagram. The guy doesn't care, he's getting her pu$$y.
#6
Friends for over a decade. I was her maid of honour. She had 3 children with her husband, whom I was also very good friends with. I was very close with the kids, they called me auntie. I worked for her out of a home office. Watched the marriage deteriorate. She started a relationship with one of her clients after the marriage ended. She then started to treat her children like a burden. The new relationship was (and still is, to the best of my knowledge) more important than her children.
When someone starts to severely neglect their children for a new exciting f**k boy, I have to walk away.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 years ago
The person(s) who suffered the most here isn’t OP, but the children :( They lost the love and attention of their mother AND their “auntie”.
#7
Around COVID he got super into politics and tried to turn any topic of discussion into an argument even when it was clear nobody wanted to talk about it.
deanna woods 2 years ago
Covid should have never ever become a political issue and it's ridiculous that it did.
BenyA. 2 years ago (edited)
I'm not an antivaxxer, i got about every vax that's required throughout my life and conspiracy theorists put me on edge so I tend not to pay attention much. However, I've grown jaded when it comes to govt. Using crisis & war to tighten it's hold against its own people is well documented. And considering power usually attracts a certain type of people, I try not to be judgmental or shame those who have some skepticism (the full blown loonies not included).
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Veronica Jean 2 years ago
COVID was a fantastic Bad Friend Finder. I'll give it that. Not sure it was worth it though...
Julia Mckinney 2 years ago
The previous president AKA head-Covidiot was also a good bad-friend finder. Unfortunately, I stopped talking to a good friend because of his idiocy. I'm still sorry I wasn't really talking to her and then I found out that she, her husband and 2 other members of her family died due to Covid within 2 days of each other in fall of 2021 (thankfully not her daughter or grandson had it at the same time) They believed him and didn't think Covid was as bad as the experts said it was.
MadameMalfoy 2 years ago
friends can have different political views, but don’t try to change your friends views to yours
Tameeza Joyce Lightowler 2 years ago
A now ex friend was an anti-vaxxer. She was posting all of these anti-vaxxer memes and posting about how the vaccines were untested, unsafe... I was in hospital with Covid at the time. I had specialists and doctors who were sharing information with us as the vaccines were being developed. We were all watching the news about it all. I begged her to have the vaccine. It's safe, you'll be advised if it's unsafe for you... I was one of the first 100 people in the UK to have the AstraZeneca vaccine. I volunteered for every trial going, as in spitting into a vial to help find a faster testing method, allowing all my medical records to be available for study, took part in a long term study of Covid-19 and how it affects you... I'd already witnessed someone die from Covid... She died in the opposite hospital bed from me... It's... I never ever want anyone else to go through what I did... Just have the damn vaccines...
#8
Maybe not anything dramatic but my best friend from university came back to visit his parents who live in the same city as me and we wanted to have dinner. I knew he was super flakey in university, so I made sure I kept my week open because I knew he wouldn't know when he was available until the last minute. I was so excited to introduce him to my fiancé and show him our new house. We got everything for a really nice dinner.
The day before we had planned to have dinner, he texted me that he didn't feel like driving over from his parents' house (30 min) the next day because "he might be tired". I was mad that he was flaking on such important plans, but I offered to bring all the stuff for dinner and drive out to him instead. He said, "No thanks."
I realized that he really didn't care about anything that was going on in my life and was still as immature as he had been in university. I decided it wasn't a friendship I wanted to maintain anymore.
#9
When I was in high school, I had a new friend who at 18 had just gotten married to a guy I already knew. He apparently met her in California during the summer and brought her home. We got along great she was very outgoing and quickly made friends. She was always going around flashing money, and out of pure curiosity. I asked how she always had money if she did not have a job. She asked me the same, at which I retorted that I did have a job. Apparently her husband’s mother was going through end of life cancer care. There was nothing more they could do for her, other than prescribe her strong painkillers to keep her as comfortable as possible. I later on found out that she was stealing and selling her pain meds.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
That's horrific. There is a special place in hell for people stealing pain medication from people with terminal illness or excruciating pain. I used to be addicted to opiates and NEVER EVER would I be able to do that to someone. I Could never live with myself knowing I was causing someone to suffer a lot worse than me. If I ever got that bad off I hope I would rob a pharmacy first...at least that doesn't hurt any one person. Clean since 2010
Lost Penny 2 years ago
I have an even better one. I knew a kid (he was 15-16 back then) who was stealing & selling pain meds prescribed to his little 9-year-old sister with bone cancer.
Paul Pienkowski 2 years ago
My girlfriend stole medication from her dying father. She didn't sell it, use it, nothing. Just hid it. He'd been abusing her and her sister sexually since they were five. She was very justified in making him suffer.
Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
That is DISGUSTING. What kind of horrid person would take advantage of a dying person's pain like that?
#10
I had one where the guy was a horrendous drunk. Super sensitive to alcohol and would very easily slip into blackout status. When he would get drunk, he just wanted to f**k with people and be a s**t disturber.
One night he was pretty drunk and we didn't feel like f*****g with with so we went out without him. We come home around 11 that night and he had a bunch of sketchy people in our house that we're also obnoxiously drunk. He was almost passed out on the couch after he had burned a huge hole in our carpet after going into my room and getting my hookah setup. I go upstairs and there are just random people I had never met just chilling out in the random bedrooms. Some people smoking [illegal substances] on my bed. Others [taking more illegal substances] off the toilet reservoir cap in my bathroom.
One random drunk guy was screaming at someone on the phone and gave the person on the phone our address and told them to bring everyone over.
We kicked everyone out which of course was a huge scene and conflict.
We booted the guy out the next day. Haven't talked to him since
#11
She was a cat hoarder and when I talked her into giving up 20 she said that would help making space for the fall litters (outdoor feral). I gave up. She had 120 cats inside her house.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
You should have called animal control. No way could those cats live safely or happily and especially not be healthy in that environment and the shelters would have them all spayed/neutered.
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
And vaccinated. My neighbor was feeding any and all cats. When the city finally came out, they removed over 100 cats. 2 were later put up for adoption. The rest all had feline lymphoma -- and so did everyone else's cats, too. Ours was 3 when it killed him.
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LazyKitten 2 years ago
That's terrible. She may have had a kind reason for it and believed that she was saving the cats, and I commend that, but 120 cats in one house, especially mostly feral, is very bad for the cats.
#12
The last straw: showing me no support when my dad passed away.
Lost Penny 2 years ago
After my mom passed away, a few of her friends AND mine got in touch with me asking if I was planning to sell her car & if they would be able to buy it... Cut off several people at once.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
This one could go either way. Different people need/want different levels of support. And, different people have different ideas of what support looks like. Personally, just a check-in 1-2x for the first couple of weeks, but others need to be smothered to be "supported". Radio silence is not being supportive, but there's too many variables here to make a judgment based on this myopic view. Rant over.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 years ago
OP’s dad died. It literally doesn’t matter what YOUR opinion of what “support” might “look like” to different people: OP clearly felt that their friend showed them no support, and OP’s opinion on “levels of support” is the only thing that matters in this instance.
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A friend told me to invest in a startup biotech company so I spent $5k on it. The company was due to release their phase 3 clinical trial result in a few days and during that entire time, he told me to sell because he suspected the result would be bad. I didn't sell it and the result was very good. I turned that $5k which grew to $12k into $60k. He sold his shares and out of jealousy, he reported me to the SEC for insider trading.
juice 2 years ago
i don't think it is, i think the friend was just trying to get OP in trouble
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#14
Best friends for a decade. I got a job on the other side of the world, met someone, and had kids. Decided against moving back. He HATED my significant other because “he stole you from me.”
Cherry on top? He’s a twitch streamer with a decent following and anytime he gets drunk or high he goes on long winded rants about me PUBLICLY. I’m too old to put up with that kind of nonsense.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
That's so weird. One mention of me negatively online in any fashion would be it for me
Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
That's kinda creepy, like this friend was obsessed with OP...
#15
They tried to be my friend only when they needed something. Outside of that, they'd pretty much forget about my existence.
Quarkbeast 2 years ago
I had a "friend" like this once. It was all about me listening to her problems and going places she wanted, usually expensive ones. I had very little money as I was in grad school at the time. One time she wanted to go to a nightclub which naturally had a door charge. Had enough money to get in but nothing to buy a drink with so I drank water from the tap in the bathroom cos I was thirsty. After about 30 minutes of being in the place she decided she didn't want to stay there and we left. Another time she asked me to pick her up from the airport on a certain day and time so went there and waited by circling around the airport because I couldn't afford to park. No sign of her. She told me later that she'd changed her plans and hadn't bothered to tell me. The last straw was one time she called me and asked how I was doing. It was probably a casual comment, like a hello, but I took her literally and told her I wasn't doing well. She said she didn't have time to talk and hung up. Done.
Lisa Whipp Myhre 2 years ago
Yep. And those people have the nerve to call themselves empaths. lollollll...
Santrikea 2 years ago
Friends with a girl since high school. Always talked about being brides maids in each other's weddings. 15 yrs later, a girl she was friends with for a month was asked to be her brides maid. Found out after they went dress shopping. I wasn't even invited to the dress shopping. She did the same thing in high school...ditched me the second she found "better friends". I should of learned the first time what a flake she was. I haven't spoke to her since the wedding and could care less.
#16
My best friend of 10 years and her husband had a falling out with my brother because my brother chose to stay out of a situation they were having with someone else, another mutual friend of ours. He didn’t wanna get involved. I agreed he shouldn’t get involved. They got so nasty and bitter about it all over time, and ended up lying to my brothers new wife and told her he cheated on her with one of our other friends. I knew this not to be true at all. They continued to make up stories and lie to her about him and it eventually destroyed their marriage because it created mistrust and conflict. His wife already had a lot of mental health struggles and it made it worse for her. They eventually divorced.
I cut them out of my life. Since then, they have apologized and admitted to making up all the stories out of hurt and bitterness that my brother wouldn’t take their side in the conflict they were having with someone else, but it is all just too late. My brothers marriage was destroyed and so was our friendship. No coming back from that. By the way, my brother didn’t get involved because they were the ones in the wrong and if he told them that, imagine how much worse their revenge would be! They’re unhinged. And their own marriage has since fallen apart. Karma.
Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago
Weird thing is a lot of relationships tend to hinge on friendships with other couples. We've fallen out with couples we were very close to and their relationship has fallen apart twice. It speaks volumes about the relationship, in both situations 6hebmalr was a narcissist and the female trying to cover up for them.
Susie Elle 2 years ago
People expecting other people to take sides in things is a whole nother level of weird to me
#17
About 12 years ago:
I went home on leave for the first time in a year (I was military) and made plans to go out to a bar with one of my best friends. We hung out for like 30 mins and then she got an offer to go [take illegal substances] at someone’s house.
If doing [illegal substances] was more important than seeing someone you claim is one of your best friends that you haven’t seen in a year, it shows me how important our friendship is.
I haven’t seen her since.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Drug addiction is a beast and will eventually come before anything and anyone
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
you going to do this every post with substances? There's a much bigger world out tehre than just those two.
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Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
Drug addictions make good people do terrible things just to get a fix. They take you to a whole new low. I don't know from personal experience, but I've known people who took this path.
#18
Make a drunken racist rant (overnight hours) on my Facebook wall. Before I could delete the post (it was posted overnight), someone screenshotted it.
I was later fired for said post. Former friend had no remorse and said "it was a joke." Using the N word is never a joke.
Ended a 12 year friendship.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
I will never understand why people remain signed in to SM on their devices.
Michelle Carlson 2 years ago
Or why you don't have your phone locked. Good lord
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Lady Lestrange 2 years ago
How can OP be fired for what someone else wrote on SM? Am I missing something?
AsylumWalker 2 years ago
seems pretty obvious that the friend got into their SM, either via OP's devices or just knowing their password
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Kept being toxic to me because I wasn’t financially well off like they were.
I never took or asked for anything.
But they kept being a b***h because I couldn’t go on holidays and trips or do fun outings. I just quit talking to her.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I had a friend who always had money from "daddy" and would always want me to gobout with her to expensive places. I was broke and working 3 jobs to pay my rent. She always insisted I go anyway and said "please??? Please?? I'll pay!! I don't mind!!" So ok- fine. This happened like 12 times. I was not using her or anything most times I just wanted to buy my own alcohol and chill at my apartment. One day she brought her friend over so they could laugh at how poor I was. It was embarrassing. I stopped talking to her and she got really mad and sent me a message that I owe her $250. And she would like a check by the end of the week or we are no longer friends. Ok fine...bye.
Theora Fifty-five Johnson 2 years ago
I have been abandoned by friends who ended up w/ wealth. I choose to live simply and sustainably, but am not broke, pay my way, etc. It winnows out jerks from good people.
BenyA. 2 years ago (edited)
I have a friend who's doing significantly better financially than me. On the plus side I've felt the urge to improve to keep up so I've managed to raise my income substancially over just a couple of years. Still nowhere near his level, he's usually not weird about it except for one instance when we always go out he will never let me pay my tab, except he does it in a demeaning way instead of "we're buddies i got this" and he's developped a snooty attitude when we're in places within my range of spending. He also has this opinion about poverty where it's borderline hating on poor people. It's not overt enough for me to make a big deal out of it but it happens often enough in a subtle way i wonder if it's considered gaslighting. I know I sound envious but i dont think I am
Wicked Moon216 2 years ago
I had my oldest brother do this to me and my husband years ago. They were very clear with us that if we didn't have the income to do the same things they did, they weren't going to bother making any time for us. Now we do have a good amount of disposable income, and I hate him even more for being such an elitist d**k. Having money DOES NOT make you any better of a person!!
#20
I started to realize his talk about punishing people who don’t do things his way was neither humour nor exaggeration.
#21
Best friend of decades was diagnosed with diabetes, but chose not to be compliant with treatment/insulin. They had lots of complications and ended up on dialysis and losing their vision.
Friend didnt drive, so I always picked them up and we'd go about our business. We'd go out and they'd ask if I could help them run an errand to do some shopping - and when they came out ofnthe store, it was with bags of chips and chocolate bars. It made me feel like I was helping them [end] themselves. I would have taken a bullet for this person, but I just couldn't help feeling like I was being complicit in their death. I had to stop seeing them. And it broke me. A few months later, they got an infection and with all the health issues, they didn't survive.
I am still crushed thinking about it.
Five Years 2 years ago
The discipline to follow a diabetes regime (testing, insulin injections, pills), can be as difficult as rejecting refined starches and candy.
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
My sister is slowly killing herself this way. She claims genetic diabetes, I said who did she get it from since she ate and drank sugar (not alcohol) into that condition. Still doing that, doesn't exercise, also refuses to get a proper job (she's MLM) - when my mother dies, the health insurance goes too. So that clock will be on.
Arenite 2 years ago
Wrong. Eating sugar does not cause diabetes. Type 1 is genetic, and you don’t need any immediate relative to have had it. Type 2 comes from age and a, yes, genetic predisposition. I have been Type 1 since childhood, nearly 50 years. You are wrong and apparently nasty with it.
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#22
constantly lied and belittled me and one day she slapped me in the face IN PUBLIC “as a joke” as a replacement for “Hello”. like an actual hard slap that left my face burning. (both women)
Marcellus II 2 years ago
A more forceful 'goodbye' would seem more appropriate.
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He was making fun of my psychosis that I was experiencing after my ex gf died of covid. He also became an anti vaxxer
#24
She’s a hardcore alcoholic and pathological liar. Like, she will lie about random stupid stuff that doesn’t even matter. I’ve let it go for the most part because aside from that, she was a great friend and the lies were never malicious or anything like that, just very annoying. That’s all until one night at 3am, she texted me and told me that she had terminal brain cancer and please not to tell anyone. I knew in the back of my head that she was lying. I tried prying more and asking a bunch of questions the next day but she kinda went MIA for a little bit and when she did respond, she kinda changed the subject. After a few weeks, I texted her boyfriend and said I was worried about her mental state after getting the diagnosis. He was like wtf she doesn’t have cancer. Then she reached out to me in minutes and apologized and said she didn’t remember telling me that. Like, WTF. I told her she was sick and needed to see a professional and get help and broke off the friendship.
Petra 2 years ago
How can someone be a great friend of they constantly lie to you?? Trust is the most basic part of friendship.
Nicola Mawson 2 years ago
Alcoholics lie. They manipulate. It's a disease. Speaking as someone who is almost five years sober
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Why would anyone lie about having terminal cancer. That makes you a horrible person.
Jacky Newman 2 years ago
When I was 14-16 I Had a friend like that. I knew she was lying, but she was my only friend at that time...
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
Had similar with pathological liar alcoholic. He said I needed to see him because he had been admitted for emergency chemo. No such thing. Turns out he admitted himself because everyone was done giving him "food" money - he even turned out pizza orders. Stupidly some "friends" went to see him and took him booze, which led to his being kicked out. There was other stuff for a few months and then he went to Leeds and got murdered by the guy he was staying with.
#25
She was unvaccinated and refused to take a covid test before seeing me. My mother was terminally ill and severely immuno-compromised, so I was absolutely trying to minimise the risk of getting covid so I could still see my Mum.
She refused to take a test, twice, despite kind and calm requests and explanations, on the basis that she "didn't want to get a sinus infection." (This was in the time of nasal swabs, not mouth swabs, for covid tests. You know, those nasal swabs that are sterile and can't cause infection.)
I'm 100% sure that it wasn't about a sinus infection. It was about control. She had been annoyed because I hadn't validated her anti-vax stance in the past.
Similarly, I know she wanted more validation for her religious views, which she'd acquired in her 30s and which I didn't share. I'd told her that I was happy her faith made her happy, but I think she wanted me to truly share her beliefs. I'd also said that her sister's bisexuality was "fine with me" when she'd stated that a wedding of 2 women was "not what God wants."
I think all of those different views just threatened the way she saw the world, and how she saw herself.
Her last texts thanked me for "sharing my views" re covid and it's potential to kill my Mum, then became pseudo-concerned when I didn't reply. I read the whole situation as "I want to say whatever I want to you, but I want to still feel like a nice person, so please reply and give me that validation."
I didn't reply to her, but I still ask myself whether the mature thing to do would have been to clearly reply and state that I didn't want to stay in contact. It's taken me until now (over a year later) to see through the pain and formulate what I might have said.
We'd been friends since the first days of high school. 20+ years. In essence we just aquired very different views from each other as adults, but I can't pretend her attitude towards my Mum, and towards the horrible journey my family had to take, wasn't devastating.
Life is a bloody painful journey at times, that's for sure.
silowew628@picvw.com 2 years ago
Funny how everyone who says they know what the invisible sky man wants or thinks know that he agrees with everything they do and hates their enemies the same. Funny how it works out that way.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 2 years ago
I know the OP will probably never read this, but I think they did the right thing by not responding. Very classy to politely decline to engage, and sometimes silence can be the biggest & loudest "FU!" that you'll ever say.
deanna woods 2 years ago
I do not trust Covid deniers. I have too many immunocompromised family members to not take Covid seriously.
Theora Fifty-five Johnson 2 years ago
Friends have tried to be controlling with me because they think it will work. Not interested.
#26
Best friend of 10 years Would steal money from me and try and get with any girl I was with behind my back. It becomes disrespectful to yourself if you let it continue best decision I ever made
#27
Always taking. All human relationships should go work both ways. I don't care if it's friendship or more.
Satan herself 2 years ago
I knew someone like that. Exactly like that. Cutting them out of my life was one of the best decisions I everade
#28
Didn't contact me for over a year even though I was going through a very rough time. I was always the one instigating communication and finally had enough.
Dr Robert Neville 2 years ago
Been there seen it done it. He's tried to get back in contact a few times (took him 18 months to realise I'd given up on him). Sorry mate ring me back after nearly 5 years isn't adequate.
#29
There was some "make america white again" nonsense I figured I could steer him away from.
Turns out the slippery slope is also really steep.
By the time he was yelling about whites becoming a minority and I was asking him if that's bad because minorities in this country are treated poorly I knew we weren't friends anymore.
Libstak 2 years ago (edited)
On the world stage, white is a minority frankly and as a white person I am perfectly fine with that, we are not in any way special because we have less melanin in our skin ffs, it's just one of millions of genetic individualities that appear and does nothing for our brains, which are not unique in any useful way whatsoever...except that melanin maybe helps in sleeping pills but hey, whatever.
#30
Burnt my table. She decided to just light matches and drop them on my table, without putting them out. When a fire started and she was instructed by two people to NOT pour soda on it, since it would bubble and leave a worse mark and that they would go get water sitting two feet away, she poured soda on it. Fun times. She also talked s**t about her close friends behind their backs so needless to say I dropped her.
#31
She was bossy, overbearing, and manipulative, which I tried to look past because I loved her so much. Then she screwed her sick cousin's fiancée and he left the cousin for her. She wanted me to be supportive, and I honestly just couldn't. It was the last straw.
#32
I told a friend something in confidence. It blew up in my face at work. I asked her directly just to hear it from her, if she told anyone. She didn’t answer me. No one else could have done it. I told her she betrayed my trust and I was done with our friendship. Never looked back.
Just to add, she was not a work friend but she knew someone at my work and told them.
Khall Khall 2 years ago
Two people can keep a secret if one of them is...
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Richard Michael 2 years ago
The only time a secret can be kept between two people is when one of them is dead.
#33
Might sound dumb, but I started playing a video game he enjoyed (Apex Legends). But I wasn't as good as him, obv, cuz he had a year of experience over me. So I started grinding really hard to improve my aim, game sense, etc. I put 800h into it during the 2020 year of lockdown periods. When I was finally about his level, and we started teaming up competitively, he still talked to me like I was brand new. I realized that no matter how good I got, he'd blame me for anytime we lost. Sucks, cuz I didn't have to play that game, but I did, and I lost a friend for it.
Crybabyartist 2 years ago
Might have played directly against your friend in a private game and beat them hard enough to shut them up.
Santrikea 2 years ago
Yeah but then they'd "probably have cheated somehow". Insecure manipulators always find a way to mitigate their behavior.
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Exotic Butters 2 years ago
I'm sorry but that seems like a pretty weak reason to end a friendship. Just don't play with him.
Lise Brouillette 2 years ago
No. You lost a friend because of his flippin' insecurity. If it hadn't been that, it would have been something else.
#34
They were using me for free rent and as a scapegoat.
Chewie Baron 2 years ago
Why do you need context? It’s quite obvious otherwise they wouldn’t have posted in the original thread.
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He married a girl who is incredibly hard to get along with and turned into a robot.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Ngl this is actually a decent picture, and I haven’t seen it before. Kudos.
What do you think ?
R Dennis 2 years ago
I am a poc in the U.S. I used to work in a middle class city and have to take two buses home because I lived in the inner city. When I was 16-17, I would leave work at almost midnight to walk a couple miles to get to the bus. There were several times I was followed by people in cars. I was so scared I started carrying a wrench in my coat. When Trayvon Martin was murdered, it hit me hard because I had been in his position and the idea I could be murdered for minding my own business left me shook. My friend posted about him being a thug and basically getting what he deserved. I told him that was hurtful and about my experiences. He never acknowledged what I wrote or stopped.
Hokuloa 2 years ago
All valuable lessons in being able to tell the difference between *acquaintances* and real *friends.*
Wicked Witch 2 years ago (edited)
I had a friend of over 20 years. A friend that I helped through her divorce, and she was also a matron of honor in my wedding. I was always the one to keep in touch; she would never call or make an effort to stay in contact. Even if she knew I was going through a tough time. I finally decided that I would wait for her to call me to see if she would and how long it would take (maybe I was asking for it, IDK). She never did. I then decided after 2 years (yes 2 without contact) that I would text her to see how she was doing. I thought 'well ok, I know that I will be making the effort'. I also thought it was worth it. Anyway, as we were catching up, I explained that my youngest child came out as transgender and suddenly I wasn't getting any response. Nothing. For context I will explain that I always thought that she was very non-judgmental she is bi-sexual herself. She always seemed accepting of others, and I thought that she would support other LGTBQAI+ people. I was just surprised. That was the end.
talliloo 2 years ago
i lost one very good friend because she didn't understand that my son (21) had priority when it came to my time due to his having a crisis. he showed up in the middle of the night w/his 3 mos old son. it was winter & he was dressed in t shirt,shorts and flip flops. why? because his wife had just passed away & he said he didn't know any other place to go except home. naturally, he was devastated but he never skipped a beat when caring for my grandson. my friend? where have you been? do you really need to spend that much time w/him? he's an adult-he'll get over it. but, i need you to be there when i need support. oh, he needs to go to counseling? well, that's for p*ssies. a real man would just get on with life. so, yeah-she was gone. didn't exactly ghost her but we didn't spend much time together afer that and the relationship became strained.
shanila.pheonix_ 2 years ago
yeesh i feel so bad for these people. heres my story. had a friend who i thought was nice but was actually a douchebag. she seemed fun loving and energetic, but was actually annoying. i told her a secret and she told everyone and when i confronted her, she cried alligator tears to get out of being confronted. she also started big drama for no reason. she is also the type of person to find faults in everyone but herself. i hate her guts because she refuses to change.
StrangeOne 2 years ago (edited)
I have very, very few friends. In fact most of the people I know on FB are family. The reason being is because I've met pretty much no one who's a real, be there or be square, friend.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
Grade school "BF" - went to college, which I couldn't afford, and stopped responding to calls & mail. (Pre-internet). High school/young adult - "BF" married & moved out of state. Stopped responding to calls, texts, emails. Third & final "BF", met online roleplaying. Lived out of state, we were so close, she invited me to come live with her & her family because I was being abused by mother's 2nd husband. Were inseperable for 10 years, spent 2 weeks every year with her for vacay talked/texted/messaged every day. 15 years ago, she flat out said she "wasn't interested in being friends anymore", no context given. So I no longer make/have friends because apparently there's something wrong with me.
LazyKitten 2 years ago
I had a friend once who was part of my friend group. I had actually introduced most of my friend group to him in the first place (they were my friends before he was). He was super toxic sometimes, always making fun of me. I overlooked this though, because I was young and stupid and desperate, and he could be a great friend and really funny. We had had some fights before and they were always the same- I said something that offended him, he got mad and stopped talking to me, I apologized, and we were "friends" again the next day. Then we had a really big fight, I said something, he blew up at me, I apologized. This time, it wasn't the same. He said that my apology wasn't "long enough" and sent me a picture of what he wanted my apology to look like. I was so tired of constantly apologizing to him, so I refused. He threatened my friends to stop talking to me, demanded money back from the PRESENT he bought me, and punched me in the face. He forced me out of my own friend group.
LazyKitten 2 years ago
TL;DR- my toxic "friend" ruined my social life after I said something that made him mad
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Lily Braunekatze 2 years ago
I had a close friend that went from a normal logical person to a full on raving Q supporter. All the way in and we don't even live in the States . It's sad to see how easily people can become lost to misinformation.
Ronnie Beaton 2 years ago
A good friend from the days of the Scottish Star Trek local groups and conventions. What with one thing and another, I hadn't seen him in over 10 years. Then I hear from a mutual friend that he's been in prison and is on the sex offenders register. Checked and double checked, all true. I'll be quite happy if I never see him again in my life.
R Dennis 2 years ago
I am a poc in the U.S. I used to work in a middle class city and have to take two buses home because I lived in the inner city. When I was 16-17, I would leave work at almost midnight to walk a couple miles to get to the bus. There were several times I was followed by people in cars. I was so scared I started carrying a wrench in my coat. When Trayvon Martin was murdered, it hit me hard because I had been in his position and the idea I could be murdered for minding my own business left me shook. My friend posted about him being a thug and basically getting what he deserved. I told him that was hurtful and about my experiences. He never acknowledged what I wrote or stopped.
Hokuloa 2 years ago
All valuable lessons in being able to tell the difference between *acquaintances* and real *friends.*
Wicked Witch 2 years ago (edited)
I had a friend of over 20 years. A friend that I helped through her divorce, and she was also a matron of honor in my wedding. I was always the one to keep in touch; she would never call or make an effort to stay in contact. Even if she knew I was going through a tough time. I finally decided that I would wait for her to call me to see if she would and how long it would take (maybe I was asking for it, IDK). She never did. I then decided after 2 years (yes 2 without contact) that I would text her to see how she was doing. I thought 'well ok, I know that I will be making the effort'. I also thought it was worth it. Anyway, as we were catching up, I explained that my youngest child came out as transgender and suddenly I wasn't getting any response. Nothing. For context I will explain that I always thought that she was very non-judgmental she is bi-sexual herself. She always seemed accepting of others, and I thought that she would support other LGTBQAI+ people. I was just surprised. That was the end.
talliloo 2 years ago
i lost one very good friend because she didn't understand that my son (21) had priority when it came to my time due to his having a crisis. he showed up in the middle of the night w/his 3 mos old son. it was winter & he was dressed in t shirt,shorts and flip flops. why? because his wife had just passed away & he said he didn't know any other place to go except home. naturally, he was devastated but he never skipped a beat when caring for my grandson. my friend? where have you been? do you really need to spend that much time w/him? he's an adult-he'll get over it. but, i need you to be there when i need support. oh, he needs to go to counseling? well, that's for p*ssies. a real man would just get on with life. so, yeah-she was gone. didn't exactly ghost her but we didn't spend much time together afer that and the relationship became strained.
shanila.pheonix_ 2 years ago
yeesh i feel so bad for these people. heres my story. had a friend who i thought was nice but was actually a douchebag. she seemed fun loving and energetic, but was actually annoying. i told her a secret and she told everyone and when i confronted her, she cried alligator tears to get out of being confronted. she also started big drama for no reason. she is also the type of person to find faults in everyone but herself. i hate her guts because she refuses to change.
StrangeOne 2 years ago (edited)
I have very, very few friends. In fact most of the people I know on FB are family. The reason being is because I've met pretty much no one who's a real, be there or be square, friend.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
Grade school "BF" - went to college, which I couldn't afford, and stopped responding to calls & mail. (Pre-internet). High school/young adult - "BF" married & moved out of state. Stopped responding to calls, texts, emails. Third & final "BF", met online roleplaying. Lived out of state, we were so close, she invited me to come live with her & her family because I was being abused by mother's 2nd husband. Were inseperable for 10 years, spent 2 weeks every year with her for vacay talked/texted/messaged every day. 15 years ago, she flat out said she "wasn't interested in being friends anymore", no context given. So I no longer make/have friends because apparently there's something wrong with me.
LazyKitten 2 years ago
I had a friend once who was part of my friend group. I had actually introduced most of my friend group to him in the first place (they were my friends before he was). He was super toxic sometimes, always making fun of me. I overlooked this though, because I was young and stupid and desperate, and he could be a great friend and really funny. We had had some fights before and they were always the same- I said something that offended him, he got mad and stopped talking to me, I apologized, and we were "friends" again the next day. Then we had a really big fight, I said something, he blew up at me, I apologized. This time, it wasn't the same. He said that my apology wasn't "long enough" and sent me a picture of what he wanted my apology to look like. I was so tired of constantly apologizing to him, so I refused. He threatened my friends to stop talking to me, demanded money back from the PRESENT he bought me, and punched me in the face. He forced me out of my own friend group.
LazyKitten 2 years ago
TL;DR- my toxic "friend" ruined my social life after I said something that made him mad
Load More Replies... Lily Braunekatze 2 years ago
I had a close friend that went from a normal logical person to a full on raving Q supporter. All the way in and we don't even live in the States . It's sad to see how easily people can become lost to misinformation.
Ronnie Beaton 2 years ago
A good friend from the days of the Scottish Star Trek local groups and conventions. What with one thing and another, I hadn't seen him in over 10 years. Then I hear from a mutual friend that he's been in prison and is on the sex offenders register. Checked and double checked, all true. I'll be quite happy if I never see him again in my life.
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