The gene lottery is a tricky business. You don't have any control over it, yet it determines so many aspects of how other people perceive you.

Interested in what perks come from losing it, Redditor u/trajop asked other people on the platform: "What's easier when [you're] unattractive?"

I guess this discussion would be a real minefield face-to-face, but on Reddit, where users are anonymous and nobody has to worry about hurt feelings, it actually turned out to be quite interesting and provided many surprising insights. Continue scrolling to check out what everyone had to say and upvote your favorite answers.

#1

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Knowing which men are bad people. I have really attractive friends who men will put on a whole show and brand-new angelic personality for, but I see right away how they treat women they don’t want to bang. You’re not a good person if you’re only good to people you want something from. And sooner or later, the truth comes out for everyone to see

TheBaddestPatsy , Ashkan Forouzani Report

Otter
Community Member
2 weeks ago

I hope your attractive friends believe you, when you tell them what they don't see.

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#2

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers People assume your successes are based on your skills.

leSialSAlop , Headway Report

Ozacoter
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Or they treat you as a less valid woman for not being attractive. Many people values women only gor their looks

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#3

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being left alone

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Francis
Community Member
2 weeks ago

yes! as a big girl with bad acne i had so much less trouble with guys catcalling me or hitting on me than other girls while being a teen. now that i lost quite some weight and got rid off my acne the guys became so much more annoying..

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#4

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Getting old. This is the most important example. Beauty is fleeting, and I see a mental health crisis with so many people unable to cope with aging. What's worse is how it is even exploited

TechniCT , Edward Cisneros Report

Pearl
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Apply this cream and all your wrinkles will magically disappear! Yeah, I'm not buying it. Getting old is human. Accept it.

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#5

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being friends with the opposite sex. I love having some guy friends. If you're not attractive, you won't make their girlfriends jealous

budj0r , Jon Tyson Report

Serial pacifist
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Jealousy can make even your partner's lizzard friend look attractive.

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#6

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Finding a partner who actually cares about you, not just your appearance

No-Jellyfish-1208 , Jakob Owens Report

Burs
Community Member
2 weeks ago

I think that it’s also because unattractive people on average tends to value looks less than other traits. I have met some gorgeous people that had such high standards that they never find good partners. A friend of mine is like that, he is charismatic, fit and good looking but he always goes for the guys for their looks not personality and guess what? Most are not suitable for him.

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#7

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being single without being questioned why

aige77777 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Burs
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Yeah. My friends and family were really surprised when I came home with a partner. I guess that they all assumed that nobody would ever date me?

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#8

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Drinking alone in a bar, undisturbed.

Efarm12 , Laura Cleffmann Report

Karl Baxter
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Nothing wrong with drinking alone. Sometimes it’s good to read a book and get nicely smashed in the process.

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#9

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being shy, when you're unattractive people will understand that you not waiting to socialize is just shyness but if you're conventionally attractive they will think you're arrogant for not talk to them

lastidys , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Softsquatch
Community Member
2 weeks ago

it annoys me that people interpret being quiet as either shyness or arrogance. what about those who just don't feel like expressing their every thought or emotion at all times? i think that shows real confidence.

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#10

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Making genuine connections with people. Something about them not finding you threatening

EidolonRook , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Daria B
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Having experienced both sides of the spectrum, I disagree with this one.

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#11

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers As a woman who has aged out of the attractive category, just going through the world day to day has become so much easier and without the constant haze of menace it always did before from leers, comments, honks, grabbing, etc.

zazzlekdazzle , Artem Beliaikin Report

Brian Bennett
Community Member
2 weeks ago

If you are ugly from an early age - ageing is no problem at all!

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#12

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Bettering yourself at the gym. I'm not attractive but in previous years I made a real effort to get in great shape and I did (I've since let myself go, hopefully I'll rectify that but I did enjoy my time having a good physique.)

Being unattractive allows you to train without looking arrogant or like a show off. People are more supportive of your gains when you don't already look like Channing Tatum (I'm older, I had to Google "handsome male celebs" and then scroll through until I found someone who wasn't called The Rock.)

kitjen , Jonathan Borba Report

Stanley Judd
Community Member
2 weeks ago

When alone in a bar, unattractive folks will know that a flirting attractive person only wants something from you, usually involves money

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#13

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers This may be unpopular, but — love. Everyone who has a happy love life I know is unattractive. Beauty attracts people who are only interested in your looks. It's like money. Real love and happiness are not related to money or beauty

whitepeppermint , Oziel Gómez Report

Otter
Community Member
2 weeks ago

The most over-the-top demonstrative in-love couple I know is two people who look like teddy bears.

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#14

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Literally everything. I can go to the store without worrying that I’m going to be hit on or anything like that. I haven’t dated in 17 years, so I don’t have to worry about significant others or dating

eschuylerhamilton , Jason Briscoe Report

Tuna Fish
Community Member
2 weeks ago

I see a lot of down votes for the truth on this one. As a woman who was unattractive (fat) all through high school, I can attest to this. It was not as you think Adam C. It was very easy to get laid because most guys felt like Mile leva and figured I didn't have any other options so I would be easy(wrong. no sex is an option!) But as Brian Bennett said the people who were just as unattractive as I was but came from wealthier families had no trouble finding "love" (usually from more attractive people from poorer families). So don't down vote someone for saying something uncomfortable when it's the truth. The truth might be as ugly as I was in high school but it ain't a lie.

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#15

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Blending in to masses

Mountain_Juggernaut , Jason Wong Report

tuzdayschild
Community Member
2 weeks ago

This is my favorite perk. Being pretty much unseen.

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#16

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being unbothered. If I'm in a baggy hoodie with the hood up and sweatpants, no one bothers me at a bus stop. If I have a dress on, 7 times out of 10 people either get too close or start chatting. My solution is just pretending I don't speak English

leastofall8 , Curtis Potvin Report

Liam Farranree
Community Member
2 weeks ago (edited)

When strangers bother me I just start talking Irish, it's the only practical benefit I've got from having to study the Irish language at school. Ár n-Athair atá ar neamh, Go naofar d'ainim, Go dtagfadh do ríocht,

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#17

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Being funny. Lots of material to work with

iusedtobeyourwife , Olivia Hutcherson Report

Brian Bennett
Community Member
2 weeks ago

You betcha! I always used my non-attributes- to get a laugh and still do!

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#18

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers for women, being seen as who they really are. When you are attractive you get more harrassed, get undesired attention. But when you are unattractive people who want you actually want you for who you are, who you have become.

FadedGirlSarah , Guillaume de Germain Report

Daria B
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Nah, you get bullied.

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#19

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Honestly, not remembering people and getting forgotten. I used to obsess over this when I was younger, but now I just forgot about it honestly. I have met both very attractive people and very unattractive people, and to be honest I go by the old saying from my region (The Balkans): 'We are all bloody under the skin.' What makes me special is that I am not special, and when you accept that truth, life just gets easier because at the end it's your life and you are the one in control.

Edo_M , KaLisa Veer Report

Brian Bennett
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Ugly or attractive life is what you make it - the majority if us attractive and unattractive - are gonna be just as they used to say "common folk" accept it. Ain't none of us gonna get out alive no matter what we look like!

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#20

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Not having fake friends

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Brian Bennett
Community Member
2 weeks ago

got one word for that Bullshit - if you are unattractive you surely can have fake friends by the bus load!

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#21

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers Dealing with people who pretend to be you friend but just want you in their bed or want to improve their "aura" by hanging out with an attractive person.

RealTourelle11 , Kate Kalvach Report

Burs
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Dealing with “nice guys TM” (not actually guys who are nice but those guys that think that pretending to be your friend entitles them to get sex)

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#22

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers People don't bother you while you're out, sales people don't stop you to talk, you don't have to interact with men

termyterner , Arturo Rey Report

Tuna Fish
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Men may not bother you but if you're dressed well you can't get away from the sales people. Now getting a job as a salesperson and not looking like a model or mannequin is a lot harder.

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#23

Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You're Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers If you are a girl and your interviewer is another girl - you will more likely be hired.

zirklutes , Amy Hirschi Report

Ozacoter
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Thats the stupid stereotype that women hate each other and see them as rivals. No.

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