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“Every woman knows what I’m talking about,” wrote the author Rebecca Solnit in her hugely influential portion of the essay “Men Explain Things To Me” which first appeared in the 2008 Los Angeles Times. It’s when the concept of ‘mansplaining’ was born, and it refers to men explaining something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate manner without being asked to do so.
According to Solnit, men explaining things to women is not an innocent act, but rather it trains them into self-limitation and self-doubt, and further fuels men’s unsupported confidence.
Fast forward to today, and women around the world still find themselves being mansplained to like it was no big deal. So when Twitter user Priscilla tweeted a question “What’s the dumbest thing that’s ever been mansplained to you?” it immediately went viral with 340.2K likes.
It turned out she was far from the only one whose “husband let her know their home was 'up ahead on the left'” when she was driving. Many more women joined the thread to share their experiences of men lecturing them, and if it’s not illuminating, I don’t know what is.
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Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
I think I would have had a conversation with the manager at that point.
Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
Right after I ask the Home Depot guy what made him think my brother would be able to use it properly, and since when it's his job to deny service to customers who he "thinks" wouldn't be able to use the product, since when it's his job to determine which customer would be able to use which products and on hand wich criteria he does that, how he knows that I'm buying it for myself to use ... so many questions
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Hiker Chick 4 years ago
I felt this one! I'm a middle-aged lady renovating my kitchen myself and will only have to hire out the lighting and countertop. I've been going to big box hardware and tile stores a couple times a week since before Christmas. The number of times I've been looking for a specific type of item and had the employee cluelessly look at a product and read the label out loud to me has been astonishing. Like, I might not know which hinge type will work with my antique cabinets, but shouldn't the expert working on the kitchen department actually try to help me? And when I met with the tile person and asked about difficulty of installing different styles, they continually told me that the contractor would know how, even after I kept saying I was the one doing the installation. YouTube has been the the best source of information. Much better than the blank stares of incomprehension I get when a tiny female is asking questions about advantages of one type of power tool vs another.
Kelly Tinker 4 years ago
As a woman who does everything around the house from electrical work, plumbing, tiling, framing, etc.....I hate Home Depot male staff. I don't even bother asking for help anymore. I usually just get met with "do you have someone at home that can use those tools/ materials?" Or other comments that assume I don't know the right side of a hammer
Hannah M 4 years ago
Even without the whole sexism thing, what kind of person would just lie and say they don't stock something because they think their customer - a functioning adult - wouldn't be able to handle it properly, because it's 'too complicated'? And when the product isn't, like, a chainsaw or something. That's just dumb
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Becca Gizmo the Squirrel 4 years ago
I thought it was guh-noshe. Like osh-kosh-b'gosh.
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Adam C 4 years ago
Pronunce something can be hard even for professional. For example Worcestershire Sauce, every chef have their own pronunciation.
Jay Tesst 4 years ago
Pronunce...Are you now mansplaining pronunciation and also actually making an error while doing so? Dude!
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Victor Botha 4 years ago
Wooster-cher sauce. Where I come from (SA) it's just called Wooster sauce
cassiushumanmother 4 years ago
monster! i'm joking. The chocolate factory owner probably has no idea too. I'm french and i don't eat strong cheese or sugar. I like fat! That's why i love ganache, cocoa fat with cream fat! Yeah!
Load More Replies... cassiushumanmother 4 years ago
Lol! I don't want to sound "bravache", but i could pronounce "ganache" with "panache" while playing "cache-cache" with a "vache", hiding under a "bache" eating "mâche".
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Thomas Turnbull 4 years ago
I like you. When a date comes with a chocolate store it’s a win win
Perry 4 years ago
I don’t remember who it was but a uk chef called a microwave a (micro-wav-ey)
Vicky Griffiths 4 years ago
Im from the great county of Worcestershire.... defo nees to start with a Wo sound!
#3
Andrew Bridge 4 years ago
Wait, plants need water too? When's this going to be a hashtag?
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Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
What's baffling is that houseplants are typically seen as a very girlie, un-masculine thing...
Rissie 4 years ago
See, that's my problem with this whole mansplaining thing. IKEA is a terrible place to buy plants. I've worked there, I know. Plants get watered very irregularly. We're better with board on frame as to say. Maybe this man saw that and assumed that, as you bought your freaking plant in a freaking IKEA, you have no clue what you bought or that it was dehydrated. Judging by the judgment, dude was right.
Something 4 years ago
Some plant lovers like to rescue plants that have been mistreated.
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Bored Panda reached out to the writer, designer, and content creator Priscilla Kavanaugh, who’s the person behind this viral Twitter thread. Priscilla, who runs the blog “Bonjouritchesblog.com,” believes that the reasons for mansplaining have to do with “boys and young men who are empowered in different ways than girls and young women.”
For example, “Girls are taught to 'be nice,' while boys are taught to be fearless.” “Of course,” she added, “it's not as black and white as that, but I think that's a big chunk. We have a lot of work to do!”
When asked what she thinks is the best reaction you can give if you're mansplained to, Priscilla said that her go-to in a sticky situation is “to make a joke, which surely isn't always the best route.” She also stressed that it’s really difficult to be prepared simply because “you never know when you'll find yourself being mansplained to.”
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troufaki13 4 years ago
My bf once tried to explain to my DENTIST brother the difference between black and white fillings. He insisted that black ones are better because he "read an article online 10 years ago"
Stannous Flouride 4 years ago
I'm sure that ex- is now explaining to epidemiologists why masks are a waste of time.
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago (edited)
Write about it and send him a copy. Ensure to put him in the dedication and write your experience in the forward.
Vlad Kollerov 4 years ago
I don't this this is related to gender at all. This is more like Danning-Kruger effect. I'm a man, Linux engineer. And I has so many time stupid explanations why I'm doing something wrong from the people barely knew how the computer works! :(
Christine Ladyman 4 years ago
My friend's husband always had to correct my medical knowledge. ..he's a postmen, I was a critical care nurse. 😴
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Kill-Bunny 4 years ago
An older male gynecologist tried to explain to me, that all my pains are imaginary (it was a 2 week follow-up appointment after I was delivered to the same hospital unconscious from my period pain with my pants all soaked in blood and pain medication not working) and that I should see I psychiatrist instead or try other methods to seek attention from people, so I would not disturb doctors. "Periods are not that bad" - he said, "Look at men, we don't have to imagine sickness to get attention" - he said. Took some time to get the right diagnosis. It was not in my head.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
As a person who used to have endometriosis, I can relate. I can't tell you the number of doctors, both male and female that told me my periods "weren't that bad". When I finally got a hysterectomy (that I begged for for years) it had to be completely abdominal and they spent hours scraping material off all my organs. Yeah, periods aren't that bad.
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Truth Monster 4 years ago
Technically it IS all in your head...but not the way the phrase typically means.
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
They used the words "mental health problem".
Load More Replies... Rissie 4 years ago
Well, in a sense it is all in your head. Up to that point f**k face had a point. But the problem is actually the other way around. Just as you can't just fix the biology and problems of epilepsy with thinking happy thoughts. Other problems we consider "mental" , but are just as much a sum of our biology with a splatter of shitty outside world, can't be just fixed with some wholesome vitamins and a few good mindfullness sessions. Ass whipe he is, not speak anymore he should. Please excuse the potty mouth. This is triggering.
Stille20 4 years ago
A lot of these are just people being douche bags, though it is apparently a statistical fact that both men and women are likely to down play women's physical pain... and men's emotional pain.
David Retsler 4 years ago
Shhhhh! We don't want facts on here! Swing at the man pinata or go away!
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Demon Child 4 years ago
Ok I know you have a bunch of degrees but if a stranger walks up to you and gives you information they found on Wikipedia OBVIOUSLY they are correct smh. That’s why I don’t need degrees I can look it up🙄they kick me out of hospitals because they are jealous of my vast knowledge
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Aragorn II Elessar 4 years ago
Just because you speak it doesn’t mean you speak English
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Håvard Hovde 4 years ago
Same thing happened to me - BF tried to tell me what the correct pronounciation is. For a language he knows 3 words of.
KatHat 4 years ago
There are extremely limited circumstances where this could be accurate. For example, if the person was translating an idiom, and got the English idiom slightly wrong (if she wrote "It's raining kittens and poodles" for example). He wouldn't have to know the original to know the translation had missed the mark. But Occam's Razor says he was an ass.
Truth Monster 4 years ago
Google Translate speaks thousands of languages...still mistranslates it lol.
Kevin Donegan 4 years ago
I'm surprised this guy is still "your boyfriend." Run as fast as you can in the other direction.
Elaine Evans 4 years ago
If you translate from your native language you may get it wrong, and it may not make perfect sense, unless you are truly bilingual. Some mistranslations of user guides are truly comical.You translate into your native language for a reason.
That doesn’t change the fact that mansplaining is indeed an inherently wrong practice. “Mansplaining is extremely demeaning. Being mansplained to makes one feel 'less than,' and as if one's knowledge isn't worth respecting. Over time, it creates patterns of silence—women simply stop advocating for themselves or sharing ideas because it's exhausting.”
And when it comes to her Twitter thread, Priscilla said that she truly realized that mansplainers “know no boundaries.” On the other hand, “I also learned that there are men out there that are open to learning and trying to put a stop to their own mansplaining; that was very encouraging.”
Thanks to her thread going viral, Priscilla has also interacted with a lot of women who had tons of interesting perspectives. “I asked many of them if I could share their stories in a book, and the response I got was overwhelmingly positive. I really hope I can get it published someday. I think it could be a fun, useful tool for shifting this behavior.”
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Sasha Kuleshov 4 years ago
Yeah, they also think menstruation is something we can control -____-
CowboyHank 4 years ago
I had to pass 2 kidney stones in one sitting. I've also been in the room for all 4 of my children being born. Having not been in my wife's head during the labor, I gotta say I felt like I got close.
C.S. E. 4 years ago
That's, actually, true. Passing a kidney stone is equally painful for men and women and it is one of the most painful things a human can experience. I've had friends who have both passed kidney stones and given birth and they say it's a tossup. The main difference is the length of time and the damage to one's body. My sister didn't have an epidural with her second; she said it was like passing a football covered in razor blades.
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Veronica Sjöberg 4 years ago
You can compare the pain of childbirth if you actually have done it, otherwise you have no say. Sorry not sorry.
C.S. E. 4 years ago
Noticed that he apparently said it was 'worse than.' Is that worse in physical pain or in personal embarrassment, because he's wrong on both accounts.
Potato 4 years ago
Well, now, I don't know. I wouldn't be personally embarrassed to birth a child.
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Aiyana Menrige 4 years ago
Sarcastic panda, thank you for literally saying for whats on everybody's mind before they even know it. Thumbs up :)
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Stille20 4 years ago
It didn't necessarily take a man to explain it.... however, if she had called she would probably be called a Karen.
Alexei Arntzen 4 years ago
She was already at the store, and already had paid for it. Just show them the receipt and get what you paid for. What is so complicated
Load More Replies... Hiker Chick 4 years ago
I felt this one, too. Paint store staff just cannot seem to understand that I, a small female, have technical questions about their proprietary products. I learned I have better success when I research and order online for pickup than actually talking to the paint store consultants.
Rose the Cook 4 years ago
Send the shop assistant back to school since he obviously doesn't know himself.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
So your husband had to mansplain it to the man who tried to mansplain it to you. That’s f****d up. But glad you got the paint for free, at least.
Frankenfrog 4 years ago
I would've slammed that paint straight to his face and asked him to get me what I freaking asked for
Edgar Rops 4 years ago
You know what is even worse? The way all those hardware/IT/mechanics people start talking to other men, when they realise said men are not exactly experts. Which is saying something as all examples above are beyond rude.
Alisandra 4 years ago
Happened today. Next door neighbour comes to introduce himself and ask what what sort of business I'm running from there. I told him I do artisanal woodworking and home-decor and I let him in my workshop to show some of my work. He comes in, sees the callipers in a tools pile, he pick it up and started to explain to me how to use one. He uses the digital one but he thinks that the manual ones works better. I let him finish, and then I say :" I know, that's why I'm using a manual one"
somnomania 4 years ago
if anything, according to men, i would think a woman would know MORE about quarts versus gallons, because of kitchen measurements
Johanne Trudeau 4 years ago
I would have been right up in his face, and to change the order RIGHT NOW!!!!!
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Out of chocolate 4 years ago
Just because your girlfriend says she can’t feel it when you’re inside of her...
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
I'm sure you could find somewhere to insert it for him. Just so he would know if you feel it or not
Jo Johannsen 4 years ago
I'm guessing he would not bother to gently warm the speculum as any female or considerate male gynecologist would.
El Dee 4 years ago
Cue male doctors saying (at almost any procedure they can't have done themselves) 'You may experience some mild discomfort' when what you actually experience is full on agony..
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 4 years ago
Maybe the reason for that is that people would tense up if you said "Now, this will hurt like a b*tch. Please don't scream too loud"?
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
I would’ve then thanked him for volunteering and proceeded to conduct the demonstration on him instead—-showing the audience of patients just how wide a speculum can be opened. At the maximum width I would’ve asked him to confirm his fact he can’t feel it now that it’s been inserted. That is, IF he hadn’t already fainted away by this point.
CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
Anytime I read one of these types of posts and somebody applauds in the end, it's an automatic BS alarm.
American writer Rebecca Solnit, whose 2008 essay “Men Explain Things to Me” helped to give birth to the term “mansplaining,” helped to define the phenomenon with which too many women could relate. Translated into multiple languages, the text inspired many memes, parodies, and ongoing discussions on whether the term has actually done more harm than good.
When asked about what Solnit thinks of the term today, the writer told The Washington Post recently that “I used to focus on its negatives: It does get used too broadly at times, and it can imply that anything men hold forth on is mansplaining.”
#10
Mohsie Supposie 4 years ago
Act completely dumb. Let him tune it. Play something horrible. Retune it correctly. Then play something nice and see his face change!
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Terrible plan as they'll leach on to you and explain you bought a bad guitar and theirs is different and and and x1024
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chi-wei shen 4 years ago
I recommend to use the heaviest frying pan but she most likely would do this anyway.
Stannous Flouride 4 years ago
Deciding which one is a mix of important considerations: range, weight of pan, thrower's strength, target's mobility/vulnerability, ratio between level of ire:severity of injury desired, etc.
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Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
Exactly. I'd stop cooking and tell him to do it since he knows better and that I wont cook again until he apologizes and backs off. I wonder how long it would last until he gives in. And I would also try to help him find a new hobby
Load More Replies... Rose the Cook 4 years ago
He needs a hobby, a lot of people both male and female, can't handle retirement.
InfectedVoice 4 years ago
Very true, my grandad has his allotment, he would spend hours there just sat down and chatting to the other old boys.
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Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
My partner does that all the time. I am the one cooking and cleaning but if I dot it around him he keeps mansplaining me how to do it.
David Retsler 4 years ago
So, hand the kitchen over to him. Problem solved one way or the other.
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Agatz 4 years ago
Then he should do all the cooking. Perhaps he will get hungry and shut up :p
David Retsler 4 years ago
Exactly Hunger is a great motivator- almost as good as cold.
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C.S. E. 4 years ago
She should have just stopped cooking for him. Obviously, he now has both the time and interest to cook for himself. If he has an opinion, he can do it himself. Of course, you may be sacrificing some of your cookware, but it's worth it. Also, get him his own kitchen knife. I will stab your hand with my custom kitchen knives before letting you use them. I, literally, have guest kitchen knives in case someone wants to make something.
Marilyn Ransberry 4 years ago
Just say “ Oh you know so much more than I do “ and STOP COOKING.
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Louloubelle 4 years ago
As the mother of identical twins, I never dressed them the same, okay there was that one picture as newborns, but after that never. That's the quickest way to let them know they aren't separate people.
Colleen Garland 4 years ago
My twins (boy) weighed 9' 4"oz and my daughter was 6' 8oz. One man couldn't understand how that happened. I wanted to say his penis weighed more but not everyone understands my sense of humor.
Having said that, the author added that women have been pointing out the incredible value in the term, which helped to describe “an experience most women have but didn’t have terminology for, beyond generics like patronizing, presumptuous, and so forth.”
“I often talk about the importance of calling things by their true name, of the value of precise description, so I’m pleased to have inspired a word that is now in many languages, including, recently, Icelandic,” Solnit commented.
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Wendillon 4 years ago
Same. This could easily have been a situation where multiple people complain the pump is broken when really they don't know how to use it so the attendant just assumed it happened again.
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Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
Perhaps it was already a finicky pump and this guy had dealt with it on many occasions where that was the solution, but this was the time it finally gave out? Some of these I don't really think are people being ignorant to women
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Had this happen with a mechanic. My car quietly died at an intersection and I knew right away that the timing belt had slipped it's reel because it had done it before. When I called the mechanic to come get the car and told him what was wrong, he insisted it could be a whole host of things, even after I told him I could see the timing belt hanging down underneath the car. He finally came and got the car. An hour later, he called me. "So what was the problem?" I asked. A meek voice on the other side said "The timing belt...."
Becca Gizmo the Squirrel 4 years ago
Did you tell thus story yesterday? I swear I read this same story yesterday.
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Skadi Lifdis 4 years ago
Look, in all fairness - I had people say this all the time when I worked at the gas stations. And I had to explain how to get them to work. I had one lady hysterically tell me she knew how to pump gas. I proceeded to go out and do exactly what I had told her to do. Truthfully though- my favorite thing was the big "know everything" dudes in big trucks yell at me that the pumps were broken (or we were "out of gas")...to which I would silently go out, start the pump, and silently walk back inside. Nothing makes a dude shut up faster than being shown up by a woman they think is stupid.
Attila Ángyán 4 years ago
Well, my car has the fuel line in a really weird angle and 80% of nozzles take about 5-6 or more times to find the correct position and start the flow, otherwise it just clicks off straight away. I never came across on a broken one, so my first thought would be as well to check if its inserted correctly. I cant see mansplaining here, if something doesnt work, you have to double check everything one by one before diagnose and pronounce it broken.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
I had a female employee at Costco -not manplaining then, obviously - tell me I shouldn't pump gas because I was pregnant. i said I was fine, she restated herself. I said "thank you, I am fine" and turned from her. Ugh.
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
Not exactly mansplaining more like lazy. He probably would have said that to anyone who mentioned it just so he didn't have to exert himself.
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Agfox 4 years ago
Well, that's once instance where you'd have to think really hard about whether it would be worth losing a dose or stabbing him with your epipen
Wendillon 4 years ago
What about using it on yourself first and after you get your dose of meds you use the now empty pen as a weapon?
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Sarcastic Panda 4 years ago
while you were in anaphylactic shock? does he have ANY idea how serious it is??
Daria B 4 years ago (edited)
Does he have any human instincts, I'd question... A person is choking right before your eyes, a normal human being wouldn't be there explaining stuff, it would be more natural to call an ambulance, or try something to help them quickly.
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Giles McArdell 4 years ago
For peoples safety, and fully aware that I am mansplaining (sorry) pine nuts can cause anaphylaxis in some people with nut allergies. Clearly not in Chelsea's case and the manager was entirely in the wrong to assume he knew better than the actual sufferer.
K. 4 years ago
Summary of mansplainer energy is”loud, confident, and wrong.” I didn’t think that you were mansplaining. ***so those words didn’t get autocorrected
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Sounds like a lawsuit to me—-you could end up owning a restaurant. You could’ve died.
Catffirmations 4 years ago (edited)
I have an admittedly rare allergy to pepper. I have been served foods with pepper in them HUNDREDS of times over the years and have been told things ranging from, "Oh, well it's not that spicy" to "Here is some sauce to cool it down" to refusing to remake the dish or remove it from the bill. It is not an aversion to spicy things, it is an allergy. I will get blisters on my lips and tongue and my tongue will swell...my throat will begin to close, which can lead to anaphylaxis.
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Cynthia McDonald 4 years ago
I hired a guy on contract to help me out doing a job I've done for 25 years in IT. He had almost no experience but I figured I would train him. He then tried to train me, using my own training material. I fired him.
I want cake 4 years ago (edited)
Yep, same. At my first job I became the longest standing member of staff in my department after about a year or so, which meant that when I was on shift I got to train new staff members including managerial staff who needed to know how to work all the departments. One week into training this new assistant manager who thought he was God's gift to women (ladies, he was an absolute creep) he started telling me how to do my job, so I did pretty much what OP did. I told him he could come back and tell me how to do my job when could remember how to stick the bread bags shut. He got transferred to a different store after 5 months or so.
elfin 4 years ago
We had several technical writing groups in our company. When my group hired a new guy, I took him over to another group to introduce him. They guys in the other group promptly started talking to him and questioning him about various things that were going on. It was his first day. I'd been there for years.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Good for you! Bet he never thought you’d get in his face—-hope there were witnesses so his humiliation was public.
Eglė Bukauskaitė 4 years ago
to be fair he probably wanted to implement some new techniques or effectiveness. Reshuffling employers can e a good thing
Christine Ladyman 4 years ago
I had a brand new registered nurse push me aside at a cardiac arrest, and tell me. ...This is what were going to do. ..I'll never forget the other junior yelling, 'get out of her f,,,,g way!' She was so nervous. Another time, the wardsman/porter arrived and tod me to get the oxygen, whist he took care of the patient. ...Aussie men can be first class mansplainers! Even the patients knew better than we nurses. 😬😤
In 2018, another author and design executive Kim Goodwin went viral with a chart she created to help to show men if they were mansplaining or not. Her “Am I Mansplaining?” chart has amassed 124.5k likes and 58.9k retweets on Twitter.
While drawing the chart, Kim realized “the '-splaining' part comes down to three factors.” First, it’s all about whether “they want the explanation?” She proceeds to explain further: “If someone asks you a question, explain away! Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if you’re someone’s teacher or manager. Explaining after they’ve declined your help is almost always disrespectful.”
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Wendillon 4 years ago
I'd feel obligated to kick my brother in the balls and tell him to manage his mood better since the pain is supposedly comparable? (I've never been kicked in the balls so I can't attest to the validity of that)
Carrie Laughs 4 years ago
Had an internal scan where the technician accidentally rammed an ovary - someone told me that is on par with being kicked in the ovaries. No idea if that is true or not. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Load More Replies... Brandy Grote 4 years ago
The "mood" of labor is... all of them! Pain, joy, anger, exhaustion, fear, giddiness, relief, anxiety...
deanna woods 4 years ago
It's funny how people who don't have to go through this experience always have opinions on how to handle it.
Boopie Dew 4 years ago
Well that goes out the window when she's yelling and squeezing his hand and he gets "hurt". Rude awakening dude coming SOON!
Carrie Laughs 4 years ago
Though lots of women endure it silently or just groan. A midwife friend of mine gets fed up with all the portrayals in film and TV showing women as always screaming.
Load More Replies... Stephanie Did It 4 years ago
Put his bits in a vice and tell him to manage his moods a little better
Brent Kaufman 4 years ago
Why is that? Are you saying that pregnancy can make a person irritable? Yet, you get even more irritable when a guy will imply that the reason for a woman's irritability may be related to her period. Please chicksplain this one to us.
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Chris Jones 4 years ago
Sounds more like toxic masculinity 'don't mollycoddle'. Also, while I respect and agree with parents protecting their children 'ripping them a new one' will probably just mean they'll remember the reaction and not the perfectly good reason - which is a shame because a learning opportunity gets lost.
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Kirsten Kerkhof 4 years ago
The pressure on boys to 'man up' is terrifying. I used to work at a theme park, and the number of fathers who forced their petrified little boys onto a rollercoaster to 'make a man out of them' was horrible. Dude, it's a 60-second ride, not the army. And the kid is 5: give him another year or two and he'll "man up" voluntarily!
Viviane 4 years ago
Hey, fearlessly riding a rollercoaster may be a skill that is highly prized by employers. How that relates to arguing a case in court or teaching French literature or digging wells, I'm not sure. Hmmm... I'd better think about it while screaming my head off at 120 mph (190 km/h).
Load More Replies... Viviane 4 years ago
I once chatted with a girl (maybe 9 years old) who had just been screaming in terror because her father forced her to go into a small cave. Twice. I told her about things that had scared me when I was a kid and she said she wasn't afraid of those things. I told her she was very brave and certainly braver than me. I said I liked caves, then an adult with me said he hated caves. Then we walked away. A few seconds later, she was screaming, but this time at her father. Whatever her phobia about caves, she wasn't afraid to tell him off, heheheh.
Brandi VanSteenwyk 4 years ago
Any Man stupid enough to disrespect The MAMA BEAR deserves to be handed their A** in a tea cup.
Tiny Dancer 4 years ago
Lost a potential friend to this same kind of thinking. My autistic son is 33 years old. The newish friend, a guy my own age, visited us at home for about three hours and met my son for the first time. That night, he called and we got into an ugly fight as he proceeded to insist my son wasn't autistic but a manipulative, selfish, lazy, yadda, yadda. Look, pal, as the saying goes, if you've met one person with autism ... you've met one person with autism. Everyone is vastly different, but I'm pretty sure myself and the plethora of doctors we've seen in 33 years know autism when we see it. Dodged a bullet with that guy, whew.
deanna woods 4 years ago
Parents know their children and what they can handle. If you are not one of the parents, mind your own business.
Colleen Garland 4 years ago
If it opens up their eyes to the real world I hope she got through to them. I've seen this before. Me man-you women. How's that working so far???
Mary Haynes 4 years ago
I've water skiied for 50+ years. I have never ever pressured ANYONE if they didn't want to try skiing. Everything about it can be scary-water, getting dragged under, knowing when to let go if you do get dragged under, being "under a boat", being behind the motor.
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Rissie 4 years ago
If he's your boyfriend, maybe he learned about it and wanted to share his knowledge? There's a difference, you know. Actually looking for validation vs trying to win an argument with knowledge you as a person clearly possess. If not, then please explain how inappropriate it was. He's your boyfriend, you should care about teaching him that meta skill.
Linda van der Pal 4 years ago
What men should learn is that they should start a validation request with 'is it true that...'
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David Harkness 4 years ago
For those who don’t speak German, her handle says ‘PhD in patting unicorns’ lol.
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Not sure why the downvotes. Just because you figured out the german in the twitter handle? Wierd.
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Barbara Vandewalle 4 years ago
You could hit him over the head with each type of glass. See which one hurts more.
Mark Kelly 4 years ago
pfft I'm not a scientist an know lab glass is lee prone to shatter from temperature changes.
Secondly, you should ask yourself if you “Are you making bad assumptions about competence?” According to Kim, “explaining things to knowledgeable people isn’t just wasting everyone’s time, and you may, regardless of your intent, undermine them by implying you don’t trust their competence or intelligence.” Moreover, “You also run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge.”
And thirdly, Kim asks “How does bias affect your interpretation of the above?” since “both questions are complicated by sexism and other kinds of bias.” According to her, we’re all taught gender bias from an early age, “with boys and girls being criticized and praised for different behaviors in school.”
Even though we like to think that we treat people in a fair manner, it’s not often the case. “Men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence,” Kim concluded.
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Sarcastic Panda 4 years ago
ah, I see. tell me more about the things I've lived with for my whole life.
MRSS 4 years ago
Absolutely amazing clap back. The amount of men that actually believe and argue that Woman Pee out of our VaJaJays is beyond insane. No we actually have a Urethra that we Urinate out of God Damn It!! How unbelievably stupid and naive can men actually be. Take a Sex Ed class or I don't know, try Googling it?? Educate yourself about the Female Body and how wonderfully amazing it is and maybe you'll appreciate it more.
K. 4 years ago
I’ll be wearing reproductive system shirts on the days I feel energetic. When they try to condescendingly explain to me about how it actually works, I’ll hit them with even more facts. Reverse uno card style
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Courtney Christelle 4 years ago
And these are the kinds of people who want to control women's reproductive rights.
Deidre Benton 4 years ago
I got told that my period was "kinda like a heat." You know, like how dogs go into heat. I guess after experiencing these things for over 20 years, I have no idea what I'm talking about when I say it's not.
JustAWeirdoGirlChild 4 years ago
my brother tried telling me that girls bleed out of the butt half a year ago... he didn't listen to me, a girl, when i tried to explain in the most kid friendly way possible (he was 12, he turns 13 next month)
CrEaTiVe_duck 4 years ago
o wish him happy birthday from me next month XD
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Jane Dorothy Warner 4 years ago
My ex told me periods don't hurt, they're just a way of getting time off work. Hence the ex.
M Kate McCulloch 4 years ago
Did you tell him he shits out of his d**k? Because that's correct isn't it?
#20
Rissie 4 years ago
Just say "Thank you deary, now shush shush and move along, tut tut". And make those hand movements kindergarten teachers make when they are interrupted and send kids along.
K. 4 years ago
Yeah, and those people get so mad and call us a “piece of work” for correcting them this way. I mean, I’ve used reputable research papers and bullet points on a whiteboard...and that still doesn’t work. Speaking slowly doesn’t either.
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giovanna 4 years ago
So he positively confirmed he didn't know the difference and position of uterus and vagina. Not the best introduction if he was your date!
Charlotte 4 years ago
My thoughts exactly. I suppose it's one way of knowing who to not let anywhere near your genitalia!
Load More Replies... MRSS 4 years ago
OMFG Why do Men have to actually think that they know everything about this stuff?? And I don't actually mean every Man. But the ones that do think they know it all have the Balls to say we are not correct and then explain it??? My Dude's there is nothing wrong with not knowing everything about everything. I don't know everything and admit that and take it as a opportunity to ask who does know and learn so I actually know what the f**k I am talking about. UGH glad my ex boyfriend was secure enough in himself to admit not knowing something I knew and asked about it. And glad my Girlfriend is the same.
Kimberly Young 4 years ago
I mean, what woman hasn't lost track of what things she has in her vagina/uterus?
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Same for that guy with his r****m, it's where he keeps all his knowledge and pulls it out as needed.
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Micah Pettit 4 years ago
Intrauterine Device, it's a type of birth control.
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Rannveig Ess 4 years ago
In the movie, "The Fifth Element", the character Ruby Rhod got annoyed at his minions and so flapped his hand around in the air and went, "bzzzzz!" as if he was shooing away flies. I adore this and use it weekly.
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Periwinkle 4 years ago
I'm surprised they didn't assume women would know what plates are, seems the type of misogynist to expect women to live in the kitchen, endlessly cooking..
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Marek Yanchurak 4 years ago
You should have explained that, "acshually", they're for breaking over the heads of idiots. And then showed him how that was done.
David Retsler 4 years ago
Because battery charges are always a good idea.
Load More Replies... David Retsler 4 years ago
What kind of plate? Dinner plate? Plate tectonics? Surgical plate to keep bone shards in place?
totinos pizza rolls 4 years ago
how does a man even begin to assume that a woman doesn't know what a PLATE is?
Debrina Blackmoon 4 years ago
And here I thought it was a writing utensil!
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Kirsten Kerkhof 4 years ago
Haha, I had that too! But in my case, it was how to take one off. Dude, you make it look like a gordian knot, while I can undo it with one hand. Step aside and let the pro handle this!
Ragnhild Nilsen 4 years ago
I actually had a female shop attendant in a lingerie shop telling me that I didn't need cups that big (32HH) if I only got the right brand and band size. And then she brought out some flimsy cobweb thingy, ten cm wider in the back and still too small cups.
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lenka 4 years ago
They could start the conversation by asking a question about why she's wearing bees? Maybe asking if she really likes bees or asking why she likes bees? There are lots of ways to start a conversation that dont assume the person you are speaking to is completely ignorant of [insert any] topic.
earringnut 4 years ago
"Wow, you seem to really like bees! What is it about them that you like the most?"
Load More Replies... Wendillon 4 years ago
This one isn't mansplaining though....this is strangers who know nothing about you seeing a picture and using it as a conversation starter and you taking that as an opportunity to show off.
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago (edited)
They see something she's wearing and use it as a conversation starter to tell her about the things she's an expert in, without bothering to ask her what her knowledge base is. Basically the definition of mansplaining.
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Periwinkle 4 years ago
The pure petty pleasure of being able to tell them how wrong they got those things.
Boopie Dew 4 years ago
They're not having a convo, They're explaining what they think is knowledge that she clearly didn't ask for= mansplaining
A Cat Named Dragon 4 years ago
This one is a tough call for people who didn’t actually hear the conversation. I wear a lot of T-shirts with things on them that I am not an expert in. I think if someone came up to me and explained why cats or rainbows are important, I’d be like “yeah, buddy!”
Brandi VanSteenwyk 4 years ago
I would have to wonder if they might be flirting at times. Perhaps using the bee agenda to start a conversation?
Rissie 4 years ago
So. They see a conversation starter (the bees on your mask) and start talking to you about something we all learn about in some sense (the importance of bees). Don't be cocky, just be informative and correct them. Not everything is mansplaining and this might just be a confidence problem on op's behalve.
Jaime Lechuga 4 years ago
This is stupid. Unless she was wearing a beekeeper's hat and veil, there is no way anybody could know she is an expert, also, it's just an ice breaker and to state the importance of bees to a stranger is not explaining about beekeeping.
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Pavlina G 4 years ago
When people can't realize that mansplaining is sexism. Really.
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USMCFelicia 4 years ago
I hate that. I have Marine Corps Veteran plates on my car and men will always be like oh was that your husband or who served its me m**o! I don't understand why in this day in age why its shocking that a female was in the Corps.
Mark Kelly 4 years ago
My dad is a firefighter and I've seen non firefighters wear shirts and hats that say the department and logo on them.
Susan Widomski 4 years ago
Sigh. I guess it could have been your brother or your cousin or your dad or your ???
#25
N G 4 years ago
Don't get me started on the Brexiteer crowd who insist that Britain isn't geographically part of Europe. Not politically - that point has already been addressed. These morons insist that the physical island itself (including NI, which I just overlook because my brain hurts at this point) is not part of the collection of countries, including those outside the EU, known as Europe. So... which of the seven continents does it belong in then?
Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen 4 years ago
To be fair, most of the time, when people think Asia, they think Thailand, Japan, Philippines etc. but India is so distinctive and with such a huge population its often not counted as Asian except in a geographical sense. But I get your frustration, I mean, you ARE right!
B-b-bird 4 years ago (edited)
omg i have had explained to me that MY native country is part of other country.... when i said "hey, listen, you never even been there, you do not even know what you are talking about." He cut me short irritated and exclaimed "oh what's the difference! same s**t!" :D ....time to go back to school for some geography classes and actively listen to your teacher
Flora Endebez 4 years ago
I know! Everyone acts like I'm some alien from another planet when I say I'm from India because it's not in Asia
Nicolas Schirvel 4 years ago
Next step : Some guy will explain to you that you're Hindu, not indian... My SIL is from Mumbay and get that a lot...
Himiko Toga 4 years ago
Then tell them to explain why they say that people from Canada are Canadian, but people from the USA are American?
Richard Henderson 4 years ago
I assume it’s a NZ thing to distinguish between Indians and Asians. I was surprised to see Indians referred to as Asian when in England. To me Asian meant oriental.
#26
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
yeah the wetness of the grass has nothing to do with it. Though if you fixed the lawnmower like my dad used to ( with much swearing and occassional flying objects) Mr. mansplain will stay away
C.S. E. 4 years ago
Mr. Mansplain would still likely put in his two cents, but now also comment on 'how unattractive it is for women to swear.' Of course, we all have words for that. . .
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Donna Leske 4 years ago
I'm in the Pacific Northwest (USA). If we don't mow during rainy days the grass will be up to our butts. With no paving in the backyard there is nowhere "dry to start it." It starts just fine if you have the blade set high and haven't let the grass grow higher than your ankles. Oh, shoot, I'm female and I just mansplained, what is that called?
Ren Karlej 4 years ago
Dunno, but in the UK (I can't speak for elsewhere) we would tell people to stop 'teaching your grandmother to suck eggs' when they tried explaining things we already knew - regardless of their gender.
Load More Replies... Random Person 4 years ago
I don't really think that was "mansplaining" in the traditional sense. I think that this was an idiot who was trying to help a neighbor, and this could have been anyone.
Stille20 4 years ago
Most of these are just PEOPLE over explaining... but I hate when men explain cars, tools, lawns etc because I'm a woman. I literally had one try to tell me how to put windshield washer fluid in my car, and he was wrong.
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
A coulple of guys stopped to help me 'change the tire' I was working on the brakes.
Haley Sterne 4 years ago
Guy must have thought the lawn mower was sentient enough to see wet grass in the distance and go “nope.”
AnnieLaurie Burke 4 years ago
Yeah, but the mower could look over and see that wet grass, and it said, "nun-uh!" ;-)
#27
David Retsler 4 years ago
Am I "mansplaining" if I point out its "proceeds" and not "precedes"?
Giulia 4 years ago
no bc you are correcting a mistake. mansplaining is different.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Men just don’t realize their attitude about the whole thing really matters. All he had to say—-in a genuinely curious voice—-was, “Wow, I never heard that one. How’s it spelled?” Then thank you for teaching him something new. Much better way to handle the situation. No manspraining, merely being open to learning, regardless of who’s doing the teaching!
Monica Sargent 4 years ago
Why do we continue to let this knuckle dragging Neanderthals crawl all over us? Just to keep the species alive, I guess.
#28
Charlotte 4 years ago
They're only one letter different and both did art - basically the same person, right?
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Both (even french) men, too, hence interchangeable...
Load More Replies... Micah Pettit 4 years ago
At least he didn't confuse them with the Pep Boys founders/mascots...
Mab Le Philosophfae 3 years ago
The only overlap is that when Monet was first emerging the ritzy art folk couldnt tell the difference between their signatures - and Manet was //extremely perturbed// over the higher than usual compliments over ‘his new painting’ (i think the title is Lady in Green) which everyone Loved so much more than his previous work …
M Kate McCulloch 4 years ago
Other than they are both impressionists... One male, one female... ??
Hugh Cookson 4 years ago (edited)
Ah, yes, like Hitler - despot, mass murderer and general all round nice guy . OR a chap I met once called Hilter, who was a delightful Florist from Coventry ......
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
XXX came home drunk one night, trying to mansplain the difference between pachuco and calypso. Like WtH? -an who asked you? 'cept he was saying 'pachico' and 'caloopso' So we were 'Hey, Pachico' and 'Hey, Caloopso' (ala Cisco Kid, on tv at that time) from then on. ah, good times!
#29
Periwinkle 4 years ago
More irony than a hot iron for getting the creases out your clothes. In the freezer.
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Carol Emory 4 years ago
I got that beat. A girl in an archaeology class was doing a presentation on a research project. She belittled the author saying his information was all wrong and that he didn't know what he was doing. Apparently she was unaware that the author was the professor of her class..who was grading her presentation...about his research.
AlmightyOne 4 years ago
I need to learn how to avoid cultural appropriation. Can anyone teach me?
Viviane 4 years ago
It's a pretty tricky one, so a few ideas - and folks can correct me or add their own ideas: if you are part of a majority group, be careful in using a minority group's culture for yourself (maybe ask first); don't use a disadvantaged minority's culture to make money for yourself - they won't bee keen on outside competition; learn about other cultures and how they use items from their culture. To give you an example from being Jewish: if a non-Jew wears a kippah in a synagogue, that is totally respectful; wearing one as a Halloween costume could be super-annoying.
Load More Replies... Brent Kaufman 4 years ago
And then you explained, in response, that cultural appropriation isn't real outside of college campuses full of angry 20 somethings, right?
#30
Gabi 4 years ago (edited)
Worshipping that lil' bitch which is making my life bloody hell right in this moment? No way.
Linus Nilsson 4 years ago
I like to imagine OP standing in the same place for years, with a shocked expression
Monica Sargent 4 years ago
Winter, snow falling outside, the slow thaw, the new bloom of spring etc. hahaha!
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Carolina Fernández González 4 years ago
Men should worship their balls so when someone kicks them it won't hurt that much.........
Louloubelle 4 years ago
Not sure he was mansplaining so much as just being a hippie. Not that that's okay. But it is rather amusing.
Rannveig Ess 4 years ago
By that line of reasoning, men can greatly help issues like ED if they just "worshiped" their penises. Oh, wait.....
Eredyn IreMist 4 years ago
Now that is a cult I would DEDICATE to if that's what eases the pain
#31
Carol Emory 4 years ago
You wonder sometimes if they Mansplain because they are verbally reminding THEMSELVES on how to do something, but don't want to seem like idiots for talking to no one.
Jo Johannsen 4 years ago (edited)
As has been said (paraphrasing), better to seem an idiot than to remove all doubt.
Load More Replies... Sasha Kuleshov 4 years ago
They did this to me once but with a vacuum sealer, as I was sealing meat -_________-
Brandy Grote 4 years ago
The point is that it shouldn't have to be "taken care of". They didn't notice she had already successfully used it, and didn't ask is she needed help. They just assumed she did, which is sexist if they wouldn't say the same thing to any other person.
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Stille20 4 years ago
So the comment that is causing a ruckus is "he was trying to help". It misses the point. It was a parent, jumping in from the sidelines to comment on something they had never done. Regardless of gender it is not helpful
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Not just never done—-couldn’t do. But still tried to teach the teacher.
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John and Brandy Keippala 4 years ago
Drives me absolutely crazy!!!! I'm a female hockey coach - in Michigan - and I'm from SoCal. I get this a lot. Or get overlooked. Or have parents look for the real coach.
Ren Karlej 4 years ago
Still not staying in their own lane... why would a sports medicine specialist know more?
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Remi Flynne 4 years ago
Most downvoted comments are just someone having an unpopular opinion. This one is not rude or even unkind. We've got to stop being all precious about the comments here - if there is something that is genuinely offensive (rarely) then report them properly to Bored Panda and they will remove it. Click Contact and then Report (app may be different). That is all people need to do.
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K. 4 years ago
You can’t steal time, the most you can do is “buy some time.”
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Damon Hill 4 years ago
The kind of person that'll wait half an hour or more and ask someone else and then say I knew that other person was wrong while swearing he just asked you a minute ago.
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Sarcastic Panda 4 years ago
because they know SOOOOO much more about it. (that was sarcasm by the way.)
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
That was the cue for the woman to say “I’m not asking YOU, so shut up so I can hear HER answer!” Solidarity, sisters, solidarity!
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Joey Marlin 4 years ago
Worse than mansplaining as there was no explanation. This is high level patronisation.
Great Panda Mamu 4 years ago
And potentially dangerous. Those other lights and numbers are there for a reason and any driver should know what they mean.
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Neon Otter 4 years ago
My husband and I were looking at a car and the salesman found it necessary to point out the passenger side vanity mirror to me. My husband said 'she does most of the driving so maybe you should be pointing it out to me instead'
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
Hubs and I have had the vanity mirrors pointed out to us while car shopping. It was done equally at least, not sexist.
Load More Replies... cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
These days my fiancée and I look at our cars dash and as she is the one who drives she says to me "Chekov, plot a course" Then I say "Aye Cap'n" and set the satnav
Rosie Hamilton 4 years ago
Don't know why you were downvoted for sharing something that's just light-hearted fun.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
That’s dangerous. You never tell anyone not to pay attention to dashboard warning lights! FFS!
Colleen Garland 4 years ago
They always talk to the man even thought you are paying every last cent.
I want cake 4 years ago
And because dem boobies must emit some brain-scrambling signal. I mean, they can't think when they see a pair so we must be vegetables walking around with a pair hanging off our chests. I will always remember when I had to repeat my sandwich order no less than four times because the dude was staring at my breasts (and no, there was no cleavage).
Load More Replies... Mark Kelly 4 years ago
That's worse. He didn't even mansplain or even just explain anything which he probably should have.
#36
chi-wei shen 4 years ago
Whenever my wife is in a bad mood I explain something about her body. For a short moment she gets angry but then we have a good laugh and the bad mood is gone. Meanwhile she knows what I'm doing but it still works.
K. 4 years ago
Hahaha. I’ve passed out and was hospitalized multiple times from my cramps; I’ve recovered from surgeries without using painkillers (after the first day, my dad was afraid that I’d get addicted to painkillers 😭) and nothing else has brought me to my knees like pms pain.
Salty Old Woman 4 years ago
Yup. I broke one of the metatarsals in my foot, and that wasn't nearly as bad as my period cramps are.
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MandaPanda 4 years ago
I've had a period for 14 and counting years. Is anyone, ESPECIALLY a man, dares try to "educate" me on my period, I'll be giving y'all an update from prison. He best hope I remove myself from the situation before I remove him from life.
Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
The only guy I would let explain that to me would be my gynecologist (if I had a male gynecologist, of course)
Carrie Laughs 4 years ago
I've had a couple of them do a bloody awful job as well.
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Debrina Blackmoon 4 years ago (edited)
Well, I was told I couldn't be starting perimenopause(well progressed now) at 46. Hmm. Must have been/is still all in my head.
Stille20 4 years ago
Yea, anytime a man who is not a medical doctor discusses a woman's reproductive system ... it's just bad. It's like explaining at car without having ever driven one or popped the hood.
C.S. E. 4 years ago
Let's be honest, there are an annoying amount of medical doctors who don't know s**t about that particular area of a woman's body. They know it's there and it's basic purpose, and that's it. That's part of the reason women aren't taken seriously when they say they are in pain. Ask anyone who's been (FINALLY) properly diagnosed with Endometriosis how long it took to be taken seriously.
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Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
This is not mansplaining or toxic masculinity, this is just a husband trying to help when his wife is struggling.
Rosie Hamilton 4 years ago
Yes, but it's the confident presumption that he'll be able to do it when she failed that rankles. If he had said 'shall I have a go?' it implies that he realises that he might not be able to do it either - cats being so gifted in this particular art.
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sturmwesen 4 years ago
Reminds me of an older not-so-lady telling me i should let my dog say hello to hers when we were training to walk on a leash properly. Her dog has absolut no rules or boundaries and weighs 20%of mine. Sure, tell me how to suffer of 40 pounds of muscle on the leash for the next 15 years. He can suffer of 2minutes being cranky if it means i don't slip because his pulling.
Nela Rothenbach 4 years ago (edited)
I know what that's like. My dog looks quite cute but her personality 🙄 it takes time for her to learn another dog is friendly. I never let her say "hello" the first time I meet new dogs. I usually call her to walk closely by my side on the side away from the other dog. People see it and still let their dogs loose....and then wonder my dog will growl and bite if it still comes running. It doesn't even stop when I loudly tell them she's not friendly with new dogs.
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April Pickett 4 years ago
The cat doesn't care if your male or female. It doesn't want to go in the carrier, it won't go in the carrier.
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
I had a similar battle a few months ago. Taking the cats to a sitter while we moved. Husband was smart enough to let me handle it but was too concerned with sweeping up the fur than to open the carrier... I learned that cat fangs go through your finger like a hot knife through butter!
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
This is NOT mansplaining. She admitted to failing, he did it, and she laughed...by why? Nah, that is just being bitchy.
Barbara Vandewalle 4 years ago
I have a cranky stray cat who has adopted us. My husband has had numerous attacks from him. ME no, because I know how to sweat talk him.
Piet Bourke 2 years ago
Cats do like to be clean, but I didn't realise you could actually deter attacks by threatening them with sweat...
Load More Replies... Hugh Cookson 4 years ago
I suspect it ended in tears ( and blood, cat pee / poo, scars and loss of dignity for your husband). I would have been helpless with laughter as long as the kitty was OK .....
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Charlotte 4 years ago
TIL "coozie" is the name for those insulating can holder sleeve things. But I thought the main aim was to stop the can becoming warm and your hand not getting cold was just a side perk?
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
YESSSSS!!! That was my immediate thought this guy is a Moron (not a surprise)
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
Really? I thought it was for drying my nails or helping me with makeup. *Eye roll*
Sarcastic Panda 4 years ago
yes, thank you. Now give me the card scanner before I demonstrate my killer uppercut. *smiles sweetly*
#39
Linus Nilsson 4 years ago
Jenn is actually 130 years old, and this took place in 1910
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Ola Polowczyk 4 years ago
I was once waiting for an elevator to get to my office. Obviously I pushed the button. And the little lamp was on. A guy entered the building, pressed the button again and said "You have to push the button, you know?" I was like: "Yeah, I did. And just because you just pushed it a second time, doesn't mean the elevator will be here any sooner". So yep. That happens.
Piper McLean 4 years ago
Oh but are you supposed push the button or slap it. And should I press which floor I’m going to or which one I’m on.
Colleen Garland 4 years ago
I've been in the ancient elevators with the hand crank thingy. Even a child could use those. Men!
Pete James 4 years ago
You'll find the hand crank behind that panel with the buttony type things on it.
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Nicolas Schirvel 4 years ago (edited)
I have an uncle who explain to my GF why she's not a real veterinarian : because she's specialized in genetics and work in a lab... Real veterinarian have "practice" for him...
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cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
I was guilty of this to a friend. She had just told me she was pregnant, so I went into a spiel about bringing up a daughter. To her credit, she stood and smiled at me for 5 minutes until I realized what I was doing and said "I'm being a d**k aren't I?" and she said something that makes me laugh to this day "It was 'amusing a d**k' that got me into this state in the first place!" Oh, just to make things worse... we were outside a primary school picking up our 5-year-old kids who are in the same class!
N G 4 years ago
And to your credit, you recognised what you were doing and acknowledged it. That's a degree of self-awareness that most of the men in this list are missing by miles.
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WindyDaPoohBear 4 years ago
My father in law did the same. Not only was I working in medicine at the time I have 3 kids of my own.
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Stille20 4 years ago
like what the course might contain? They doesn't seem like a crazy thing to say.
Kayla J 4 years ago
I read it as though perhaps the father was telling her she should take other courses instead?
Load More Replies... Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
To be fair, she had not taken the course and took it to learn. He may have knowledge and passed it on in a fatherly way. But it depends if he over explained. Or if he asked what she thought would be covered.
Chris Jones 4 years ago
We don't know that he's married though - or that he's even into women.
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#43
Arlo Danielson 4 years ago
Oh damn I hate it when people explain the obvious, and also when people assume that a woman did it lol
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Periwinkle 4 years ago
Of course he does, why are you even questioning that? He doesnt need medical education.. The future is now.
Andrew Bridge 4 years ago
Yeah he "did his own research" on somebullshit.com
Load More Replies... CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
I am not defending the dad, but I have a story: I knew a nurse (who was male now that I think about it) and he argued with me for an hour that the little toe was the most important. No, it isn't. It's the big toe. This was before smartphones, or I would have shut him up in five minutes.
Theoretical Empiricist 4 years ago
My dad tried to pull this stunt on me (I'm an RN and a man). I got in his face and demanded he explain to me who, between the two of us, had the most healthcare knowledge and experience. I feel your pain, ladies.
Barbara Taylor-Colbert 4 years ago
My husband does this a lot. He was in the army but also works in a hospital. He is NOT a doctor.
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
My mom (so not a male) always tries to tell me how to do activities with kids as if I don't and don't know how. Countless times I tell her I as a childcare director with 20 years of childcare experience and have 2 littles. I don't tell her how to cook, or give cooking tips as she is the professional cook.
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Dawn Thomas-Cameron 4 years ago
And...that's why we need unions. I have the distinct pleasure of knowing I make the exact same amount of money as every other person in my role.
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Carol Emory 4 years ago (edited)
When Subaru Outback's first came out, I had a salesman try to convince me it was a good car because it was a box engine with a low center of gravity so it would do wonderful on turns. I said "Yep..and the only other car that has a box engine is a Porche..which means if anything happens to said box engine, it's going to be expensive as heck to fix." He got quiet after that.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
It just means the car has no ither safety features, ha. Or he had no idea.
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Linus Nilsson 4 years ago
Of course, he couldn't beat you at your game, you should get down to his level
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
And yet, I am beatng you. Explain THAT if you think you have to explain HOW to play.
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cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
If there was no conversation then its possible he wanted you to talk to him even if it's just a confirmation of what he said. Not mansplaining here, but I do this sort of thing because I can tell by the sound of her voice when she answers a mundane question if she is feeling sad, angry, happy or if she is daydreaming as she enjoys the walk. Chances are it was an indirect attempt to make sure you are ok
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cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
He was probably scared and stressed out and trying to find a way to distract himself. Personally I crack jokes when I get stressed, worried, upset, angry, scared, depressed... I pretty much crack jokes all the time
Lillukka79 4 years ago
Same, as is my mother. The neurologist talking to her when she had a small bleed in the brain, asked if she's always like this or is it a symptom.
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ALEXANDRIA HOEKMAN 4 years ago
It is and isn't mansplaining because I think he was trying to stay calm as others have said but it's also saying what he knows but you already knew.
Wendillon 4 years ago
That's just inaccurate. You can't be an EMT if you aren't an expert on the tech you use.
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Aiyana Menrige 4 years ago
Same with me but trying to read Harry Potter. -.-
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white_shadow 4 years ago
For anyone who doesn't understand; The binary system is the language of the computer, and it's used in software programming. Electrical Engineering is a totally different thing. like the north and south pole
YouDontLikeMe? 4 years ago
I have met many engineers who refuse to listen to any input from others...
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Linus Nilsson 4 years ago
I've washed my clothes since I was a child as well, and even worked at a laundry for years, being responsible for the washing machines. I took several courses on different machines, but I would not claim to know everything about washing clothes. This needs context.
Joey Marlin 4 years ago
If it was a machine I'd not used before then a quick 'how to' isn't awful - unless they are both new to it. It does need context.
Load More Replies... Tiari 4 years ago
They marry young in the US, compared to (Western) Europe.
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Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
Ask him "Do you know what your [insert weird uncommon male part here] is?"
CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
Goodness. I've had many a male Gyno and they've never been like that.
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Rissie 4 years ago
That sounds like it needs context. If you are together for such a long time I doubt a partner would actually explain that at that point. I doubt anybody would explain it as in really explaining how it works. And if they would, how are they your life partner? So. Yeah. No.
Blizt 4 years ago
I think it might've been as a sort of joke? I imagine I've done this many times in situations like this because it helps me get a clear plan of action by saying out loud. Sometimes it's to the people with me to clarify where we're going, or because I don't want to seem weird for talking out loud and answering myself. Never to put anyone down by explaining the obvious, although of course it can definitely come off that way sometimes.
Load More Replies... Mohsie Supposie 4 years ago
Wow! Really? I thought we are supposed to get out WHILE the train is still moving!
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
I don't climb to the roof and stay there for another stop and then jump?
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Damon Hill 4 years ago
Reminds me of a salesman telling me joist hangers (holding 32 in my hand) are so helpful, better than toenailing. Since they've been code longer than he's been alive I'm wondering where he ever encountered toenailed joists?
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
This is a comment cover-up, but you shouldn't be able to see this unless you tried to look at the comments >:T
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
What's an ignition? What is a key? What is a car? How do I get in the car?
Dawn Thomas-Cameron 4 years ago
Except for the new cars with no keys. Just a fob that has to be near the ignition.
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Stephen Hutchison 4 years ago
Wikipedia isn't helpful about this one. It's either the movie, or a massive database (which isn't listed as The_Blob_(whatever)
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Bored Turtleduck 4 years ago
Exactly what I was thinking when I saw this post
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Sarah Tate 4 years ago
It's actually a play not a musical. But yeah, I'd have punched my friend.
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Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago
At the end of April every year, my dad hands me an envelope and says "Happy birthday. Sorry it's a little late." He knows my birthday is in April, but not which day.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago (edited)
Unless he has dementia, that is just dumb. Typical dad not knowing dates.
Ann Abdelzaher 4 years ago
I am convinced the only reason my dad remembers my birthday is because it is New Years eve. I don't think he remembers my sisters or brothers any more than what month.
Richard Henderson 4 years ago
I don’t get the relevance of the second paragraph. Of course he’ll call if she lives 6 states away.
Doogie Howzer 4 years ago
Its coz you were adopted....but he doesnt have the heart to tell you
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Doris Cleeman 4 years ago
Edward, stop commenting. Everything you post makes you look like a fool.
K. 4 years ago (edited)
I have enjoyed reading witty remarks/comebacks used to put trolls in their place. I’m just afraid that certain language/ideology fuels more nonsense, but it cracks me up...until I remember that people really believe these things.
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Henry Cheves 4 years ago
Here's his comment: She probably should have just explained that then
Load More Replies... Henry Cheves 4 years ago
Edward, the problem is that he assumed she was completely ignorant in this subject.
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somnomania 4 years ago
it's the ones like this that make me think we should all be carrying around a sheet of gold star stickers so when this happens you can just give the dude a gold star for being a mansplaining moron
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Wendillon 4 years ago
This is one I want context on. Did they know your major? Why were you talking about fish? I'd kind of expect someone to tell me the difference if I were on a fishing trip or something.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
But without asking and assuming you don't know is mansplaining.
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brukernavn340 4 years ago (edited)
Why though? Are people nowadays to fragile to read something they don't like?
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Boopie Dew 4 years ago
It just snowed 2 days ago on the Superstition mtns
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
I can't decipher her mispelled sentence so I can't fault the guy. If she meant "The day a 28 year old made pasta for the first time, explaining to me how to do it, despite doing it for X years" or similar, then I would agree with mansplaining.
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
I think what she meant to say was, "One time someone tried to explain how to cook pasta the one day he decided to boil spaghetti in his entire life." or something like that.
Load More Replies... Dorothy Parker 4 years ago (edited)
It sounds more like he was excited to share something he'd just learned rather than being condescending.
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Anne 4 years ago
Ehm.., isn't that a standard joke though.. We say some soccer teams always win third half.. which is drinking after the game..
Beto River 4 years ago
Thanks Anne, I was going to write the exact same thing but feared it was going to be label as mansplaining...
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CowboyHank 4 years ago
Just so you know, you can also spell it "spell check" or "spell-check." You can check that by using your operating systems spell check function. It's an icon that has "ABC" at the top and a check mark directly below it. When you press it, it will automatically scan all of the words in the document and highlight the ones that could be misspelled.
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Jayne Kyra 4 years ago (edited)
Considering that many "basic" names now have odd spellings, I can see why someone would spell theirs out.
Jonathan 4 years ago
Yesterday I had to spell out my name to someone at my work, she'd been sending my mail to me with no consistent spelling of my name for 5 years.
Seth Linn 4 years ago
I’d explain why people do this but I have a feeling she would just accuse me of mansplaining.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
I don't think so in this case. She has displayed she did not get why they did that..for me, I spell it sometimes because people mishear it and think I say a similar name. Especially over the phone. I actually started responding to similar names, but correcting.
Load More Replies... CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
I spell my name out for anyone who is writing it down and it is a very basic English name.
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Janned 4 years ago
Ok, but people can have all kinds of reasons for not wanting to be touched by a person of a certain sex. Might have had nothing to do with your skill and experience in the matter.
Meike H 4 years ago
I was thinking that too, maybe some sort of social anxiety or a religious reason or something.
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Phoenix 4 years ago
This seems reasonable, there are all kinds of reason to not want to be fitted by the other sex. Could be religious reasons, social anxiety reasons, other reasons that have nothing to do with thinking the original person has less skill. I try to avoid getting fitted altogether because I find it very very uncomfortable.
Aldhissla VargTimmen 4 years ago
just like women are not always comfortable in the presence of a man, men can be uncomfortable in the presence of a woman. Certainly for something like fitting clothes. I can totally understand his wish for a male coworker!
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
This is not mansplaining..it can be sexist or just physical comfort. I want a female doctor for some things. Maybe the guy had a sex problem and would be turned on so he has to avoid the situation.
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago
That's not mansplaining. That's not wanting to tell a woman they go left or right, schvance-wise.
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YouDontLikeMe? 4 years ago
Is 30+ hours a lot? I'm not familiar with the field, but it doesn't seem like enough to be an expert.
David Butler 4 years ago
I think she means she has spent a total of 30+ hours on individual scenic projects.
Load More Replies... Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 4 years ago
I had a college student explain to my boss and I how to handle a child we knew for years. We said "great, you have textbook experience. We have real job experience and know this kid." A short while later she once asked me my opinion on hiring this guy. I wanted a male in the childcare field BUT we decided that his psychology major was going to hinder us. We did not need another student explaining to us how to do our jobs when we both had psychology courses under our belts ourselves and were well-experienced in the field.
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Kirsten Kerkhof 4 years ago (edited)
I've been a Scottish Highland Dancer for 30+ years. The number of guys (always guys) who come up to me to explain that I've got my kilt on the wrong way round is quite astonishing. Dude, it's a kilt, not a schoolgirl outfit. I know my stuff. And no, you cannot touch my sword. :P PS: FYI, it's pleats in the back.
Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
That sounds super cool! I really hate mansplaining, its so humiliating to be treated as if you are stupid just for having boobs. I am a biologist and the person who does the gardening at home. My partner knows nothing about plants to the point that some years ago I needed to explain him that its not a coincidence that our tomatoes are always in the same branch as the flowers were. He didnt know that fertilized flowers turn into fruit. But he keeps mansplaining me how to do the gardening. Sometimes I want to strangle him.
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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Ultimate mansplain: A male telling me what my monthly cramps feel like, after I described them. I used words like "agony, nausea" and was told "pain and discomfort" was what I felt. And that was an OB/GYN. No. Pain and discomfort is "i twisted my ankle". My cramps are *I throw up can't eat nausea-inducing doubled-over agony*. (FYI: No, I can't get a hysterectomy. First, the HMO won't cover, and then I was too closet o menopause age. So i suffer for... years. Yay.)
K. 4 years ago
I was lucky to have physicians’ notes/ hospital documents and male health care providers who did not dismiss my pain. The people who accused me of faking it...let’s just say I vomit right near them while shaking in pain and feverish.
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Karie Nicholas 4 years ago
Ug... as female epidemiologist in the middle of a pandemic every day is a mansplaining day.
Jayne Kyra 4 years ago
Though I would not call it mansplaining, I hate it when I´m talking about video games I enjoy playing and someone decides to explain them to me. Happened with Final Fantasy, Dishonored, Skyrim, and of course, Bioshock. When I asked about the connection to Ayn Rand they had no idea what I meant. Never mind being told by men (and yes, only men), that tattoos hurt and women can´t handle the pain. So women only get small and cute stuff. Just... no.
Boopie Dew 4 years ago
I know some women who have huge badass tattoos. Dude be wrong
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Rick Seiden 4 years ago
Sometimes I have to explain something over email, and it would be a shorter explanation if the reader knew some piece of background information, but I don't know if they know that tidbit. To avoid an email back and forth, I want to explain that tidbit just in case they don't know it. So, I'll say something like, "I don't know if you know xyz. If you do, I'm sorry. Xyz is...." Or maybe I'll say, "You probably know this, and if you do, I'm sorry for writing this out. Xyz is...." In person, I just ask, "Do you know about xyz?" or "You know about xyz, right?" I'm not sure if that counts as mansplaning if the person I'm addressing is a woman.
N G 4 years ago
No it doesn't count. You're establishing baseline knowledge, which is a respectful thing to do - especially acknowledging that they may already know it, but clarifying in case they don't. It's not automatically mansplaining just because you are a man addressing a woman. ...And I feel like I've just womansplained mansplaining! Can't we make just a little progress in inherent sexism, please?
Load More Replies... Ola Polowczyk 4 years ago
I once had a slightly different experience in my previous job. But it fits here. We had a large project involving me as an end user, our IT department, IT department on client's side, and their production team. One guy from IT treated me as silly little woman who doesn't need to know how anything works. Once at a meeting I asked a question, to which he replied, in a mocking tone: "Why would you even need to know that?" to which I replied: "Dunno, maybe to take your position?". He got all red and didn't say a word. And never disrespected me again.
Joanne Liegner 4 years ago
Sometimes, I just want to let drool trickle down my chin!
Load More Replies... El Dee 4 years ago
Yep, these are, many of them, the worst examples. But lesser examples happen on a daily basis - if not moreso. Women are raised in a society that wants women to be quiet, not to confront and not to appear 'too smart' The only qualities women are rewarded for are caring skills and looking good. Set that against how men are raised ie stand up for yourself, learn new things, be confident (even when you have nothing to be confident about and are, frankly, scared) society has a lot to answer for and we are society, it's our job to make sure the next generation learns to do better. Of course there's STILL no excuse for being an asshole and the above examples are all assholes. Many mansplainers genuinely think they're being helpful and aren't deliberately being assholes - I can deal with that, just not the toxic type as shown above..
Sakuhana 4 years ago
What's the word for woman's mansplaning? Because a woman explained to me (also a woman) how to use lipstics and mascara. Because me not wanted to wear some is obviously because I don't know how to 🙄
Tapio Magnussen 4 years ago
There's no such gender fight when we talk about the know-it-all... Fortunately, I can chat about this for long.
Load More Replies... lenka 4 years ago
Im a lawyer and was consultanting for a small start up who engaged me to help draft some contracts for him. At one point client tells me is planning on doing this elaborate 'strawman' scheme to avoid debts and liabilities. I tell him its fraud. He spends the next hour telling me I dont understand the concept of a legal entity.
Kirsten Kerkhof 4 years ago (edited)
I've been a Scottish Highland Dancer for 30+ years. The number of guys (always guys) who come up to me to explain that I've got my kilt on the wrong way round is quite astonishing. Dude, it's a kilt, not a schoolgirl outfit. I know my stuff. And no, you cannot touch my sword. :P PS: FYI, it's pleats in the back.
Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
That sounds super cool! I really hate mansplaining, its so humiliating to be treated as if you are stupid just for having boobs. I am a biologist and the person who does the gardening at home. My partner knows nothing about plants to the point that some years ago I needed to explain him that its not a coincidence that our tomatoes are always in the same branch as the flowers were. He didnt know that fertilized flowers turn into fruit. But he keeps mansplaining me how to do the gardening. Sometimes I want to strangle him.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Ultimate mansplain: A male telling me what my monthly cramps feel like, after I described them. I used words like "agony, nausea" and was told "pain and discomfort" was what I felt. And that was an OB/GYN. No. Pain and discomfort is "i twisted my ankle". My cramps are *I throw up can't eat nausea-inducing doubled-over agony*. (FYI: No, I can't get a hysterectomy. First, the HMO won't cover, and then I was too closet o menopause age. So i suffer for... years. Yay.)
K. 4 years ago
I was lucky to have physicians’ notes/ hospital documents and male health care providers who did not dismiss my pain. The people who accused me of faking it...let’s just say I vomit right near them while shaking in pain and feverish.
Load More Replies... Karie Nicholas 4 years ago
Ug... as female epidemiologist in the middle of a pandemic every day is a mansplaining day.
Jayne Kyra 4 years ago
Though I would not call it mansplaining, I hate it when I´m talking about video games I enjoy playing and someone decides to explain them to me. Happened with Final Fantasy, Dishonored, Skyrim, and of course, Bioshock. When I asked about the connection to Ayn Rand they had no idea what I meant. Never mind being told by men (and yes, only men), that tattoos hurt and women can´t handle the pain. So women only get small and cute stuff. Just... no.
Boopie Dew 4 years ago
I know some women who have huge badass tattoos. Dude be wrong
Load More Replies... Rick Seiden 4 years ago
Sometimes I have to explain something over email, and it would be a shorter explanation if the reader knew some piece of background information, but I don't know if they know that tidbit. To avoid an email back and forth, I want to explain that tidbit just in case they don't know it. So, I'll say something like, "I don't know if you know xyz. If you do, I'm sorry. Xyz is...." Or maybe I'll say, "You probably know this, and if you do, I'm sorry for writing this out. Xyz is...." In person, I just ask, "Do you know about xyz?" or "You know about xyz, right?" I'm not sure if that counts as mansplaning if the person I'm addressing is a woman.
N G 4 years ago
No it doesn't count. You're establishing baseline knowledge, which is a respectful thing to do - especially acknowledging that they may already know it, but clarifying in case they don't. It's not automatically mansplaining just because you are a man addressing a woman. ...And I feel like I've just womansplained mansplaining! Can't we make just a little progress in inherent sexism, please?
Load More Replies... Ola Polowczyk 4 years ago
I once had a slightly different experience in my previous job. But it fits here. We had a large project involving me as an end user, our IT department, IT department on client's side, and their production team. One guy from IT treated me as silly little woman who doesn't need to know how anything works. Once at a meeting I asked a question, to which he replied, in a mocking tone: "Why would you even need to know that?" to which I replied: "Dunno, maybe to take your position?". He got all red and didn't say a word. And never disrespected me again.
Joanne Liegner 4 years ago
Sometimes, I just want to let drool trickle down my chin!
Load More Replies... El Dee 4 years ago
Yep, these are, many of them, the worst examples. But lesser examples happen on a daily basis - if not moreso. Women are raised in a society that wants women to be quiet, not to confront and not to appear 'too smart' The only qualities women are rewarded for are caring skills and looking good. Set that against how men are raised ie stand up for yourself, learn new things, be confident (even when you have nothing to be confident about and are, frankly, scared) society has a lot to answer for and we are society, it's our job to make sure the next generation learns to do better. Of course there's STILL no excuse for being an asshole and the above examples are all assholes. Many mansplainers genuinely think they're being helpful and aren't deliberately being assholes - I can deal with that, just not the toxic type as shown above..
Sakuhana 4 years ago
What's the word for woman's mansplaning? Because a woman explained to me (also a woman) how to use lipstics and mascara. Because me not wanted to wear some is obviously because I don't know how to 🙄
Tapio Magnussen 4 years ago
There's no such gender fight when we talk about the know-it-all... Fortunately, I can chat about this for long.
Load More Replies... lenka 4 years ago
Im a lawyer and was consultanting for a small start up who engaged me to help draft some contracts for him. At one point client tells me is planning on doing this elaborate 'strawman' scheme to avoid debts and liabilities. I tell him its fraud. He spends the next hour telling me I dont understand the concept of a legal entity.
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