Marrying your partner should feel like joining a family that’s just as kind and supportive as they are. But let’s face it, that’s not always how it goes.
These Redditors opened up about the chaos that came with their mothers-in-law, sharing stories that are so wild they almost sound made up. From jaw-dropping drama to petty revenge, the situations they found themselves in are truly next-level.
Keep reading to see just how messy things can get when a MIL decides to stir the pot.
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My MIL wanted a grandkid so bad from us, she told me I front of FIL and DH (her son) that I should just sleep with FIL because “DH comes from FIL, so they are the same.” I remember telling her that was disgusting and extremely disrespectful to both her husband and mine. I got some peace for the rest of the visit 😌.
If DIL had a child with FIL... Wouldn't that make the child husband's half brother, thus making the kid MIL's unrelated child and not the grandkid she had hoped?
In the Old Testament this was a brother's duty but only after the other brother was deạd. I'm not sure but I don't think FILs were allowed to do this even in the OT.
It’s supposed to be a fantastical scenario, not a suggestion
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When my DH and I first got married, we lived several states away from our families. My JNMIL had not seen us in months, and was there to visit. She looked at my husband and screeched “All your hair is gone!” And then she looked at me and screeched “What did you do to him?!” My gorgeous DH has been losing his hair since he was in his early 20’s, so I’m not sure what the hell she was talking about. We were both so shocked we didn’t know what to say. I couldn’t believe she thought his hair loss was my fault! I have always wished I’d had the nerve to tell her that I’d f****d him so hard, his hair fell out!!!!
"JNMIL" stands for "Just No Mother-in-Law". It's a term used on the Reddit forum r/JUSTNOMIL to describe a mother-in-law who is consistently difficult, toxic, or a*****e. The "Just No" part signifies that the mother-in-law is perpetually problematic, beyond the typical "difficult in-law" scenario. -- Google A.I.
Thanks! That was the only thing I actually wondered about after reading this. Can’t say I like all those acronyms
Load More Replies...So many acronyms not used outside of the US! MIL and FIL are standard but all the others 🤦🏼♀️
I'm from the US, and I'm on Reddit, but I had to Google JNMIL.
Load More Replies..."Wel, dear mother-in-law, male pattern baldness comes mostly from the mother's genetic contribution, doesn't it?"
OMG. ROFLMAO. I'm trying to imagine what the look on her face would have been. You probably would have needed to call 911 for a stroke or heart attack.
I'm done trying to work out initials that I have no idea what they stand for. I move on to the next meme in the line and miss those altogether. I can't understand why people can't take the time to write the full words rather than let people who aren't ofay with the jargon scratch their heads in confusion. It's not that hard to write out the full words.
This doesn't make sense. Most men don't loose that much hair in just a few months. JNMIL must've been aware of his "transitional" hairline.
She told me she was going to call the Elder Abuse hotline on me because when she popped by unannounced I apparently ‘withheld her grandchildren from her’.
Both of them were at school.
As a New Englander who doesn't take kindly to people "just popping by", I wouldn't bother answering the door. Assuming you didn't give her a key. Then, I'd change the locks.
I’m in uk lol out in the sticks , n I like you popping by NOPE !! it’s invasive totally ,
Load More Replies...If anyone rings our doorbell, I just assume it's a package delivery and yell out, "Thank you". Confused the hell out of my neighbor.
I was getting my hair done a few weeks ago and the only other patron was talking about her MIL to our hairdresser. I could see she was starting to get really upset and was getting close to tears.
I started talking about my MIL, letting her know she was not alone and we somehow ended up in this bizarre yet absolutely hilarious game of naming all the crazy shizzle our MILs have done in the past. By the end we were crying out laughing, it was so liberating!!
We closed with: I see your ’she thoughtfully gifted me postmenopausal face cream even though I am only 40’, and raise you a ’she got sued by the city for cutting off the tops (and only the very very tops) of all the pine trees in her garden - she then demanded I testify that it was my fault because DH spends all his time with me instead of him helping her clean up the needles’.
When you are to be in tears, Better it be from laughing right?
Okay, I’m going to open a beauty salon where the tvs all show true crime documentaries, there is a fully staffed nursery next door, and there is a 10% discount t of the best craziest MIL story that hour. Oh, and bottomless frozen margaritas.
The nursery is for husbands and significant others as well as children.
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My story is dark- she told me that her husband molesting his step daughter was an accident and no different than a child being a bed wetter. It’s blameless - he went to jail, is on the registry but she opened a daycare so he could still have access to children (daycare is finally closed after making international news).
You don't. What you do is gaslight your wife so badly that she starts to genuinely believe your ridiculous stories of how the child initiated it and the husband just found himself unable to resist.
Load More Replies...She knowingly fed the monster. She is complicit af, and I hope they're both in jail.
I think this might be the case, but after a brief Google search I'm sad to say it's not the only possibility: https://archive.triblive.com/local/westmoreland/latrobe-day-care-operator-pleads-guilty-to-allowing-s*x-offender-husband-near-children/
Link doesn’t work on my iPad: it opens the homepage of the news site.
Load More Replies...I can’t comment on this as I am too shocked to even think of something. But I do want to punch the MIL in the face. Violently.
You should have "accidentally" kicked both of the parents' faces.
Mine contacted my husband's command when he was deployed to Afghanistan because he wasn’t calling or emailing her but he called and emailed me. Then she told them I hacked his email and deleted all her emails. She then demanded that she be added to the family readiness group emails so she could find out what was going on and they refused because my husband didn’t list her as a contact. When he finally emailed her to tell her to stop this craziness, she contacted the command again and told them I hacked into my husband’s email and sent that email to her. Haven’t had contact with her since and that was August 2011.
My mother drove me out of the country when I was in my 20s. Spent a few years traveling through Africa, before bouncing around Asia and Latin America. Most peaceful years in my life. And I was sometimes in literal war zones. I was also single, which had a lot to do with my sense of peace too.
Load More Replies...When my spouse was in the service he was happy to have a break from his family. However, he was called into a meeting with his superiors where they told him that the Red Cross had contacted them after hearing from his mother because he never wrote to her. They wouldn't let him leave the room until he wrote a letter to his mother that they then all read and approved.
That happened to my dad when he enlisted back in the 60s! He was ordered to write his mom every week! He was told that it could be the same thing every time, but he had to do it!
Load More Replies...Wow , another asylum escapee ffs messing with the military wtf ,I hope they charged her , n well done both of you for cutting ties with her x
Nice to know that whilst deployed in a foreign land he gets to enjoy all of the craziness of being at home. Poor guy!
She gifted me with the nightie she wore on her own honeymoon at my bridal shower. In front of all my family and friends, she gave me her 35 year old, used negligee to wear on my honeymoon with her son!!! Grossest and most inappropriate thing I had ever heard of, all wrapped up in white wrapping paper. Her son and I burned it outside later that night all the while shaking our heads at the craziness of it.
Not to one-up but at my bridal shower my future mother in law gifted me a used lime green dress, 4 sizes smaller than me,, lined in satin, complete with huge pit stains. I swear I had an out of body experience when I opened it. She admitted she had bought it at the Salvation Army as a joke and said that it was tradition to give a tacky gift to the bride to be. Funny thing is she didn’t do it to either of her 2 daughters. And no one I know has ever heard of this tradition
Maybe that was a tradition she wanted to start with you and maybe she also wanted this tradition to end with you as well. It was a bonding thing
Load More Replies..."And this was the nightie I wore when I lost my virginity - you can do the same too!"
I got pregnant with your husband in this!
Load More Replies...Sorry to be pedantic, but : gift is a noun and give is the verb. So there is no such word as " gifted " even though it's commonly used. Should be : " she gave me ".
My ex MIL told me within a few weeks of our wedding that it was customary to be trained by one’s mother-in-law in order to learn how to be the perfect wife. She knows him best of course, so if I had any hope of being a good wife I should start listening to her wise words. I declined the training. Turned out he was a huge mama’s boy who didn’t even flush the toilet for himself and had to be told to brush his teeth, shower etc. He couldn’t even make toast. She wanted to train me how to be his literal servant. No thanks. 😒.
If you married a man who couldn't flush the toilet (and how would you not know this?), I have zero empathy for you.
Different cultures produce differently trained sons. But still, there should've been a couple red flags flapping during the dating period.
Load More Replies...This is where Mrs Merton comes in. “So Debbie McGee, what first attracted you to millionaire magician Paul Daniel’s?”
Load More Replies...Why would you get engaged if you don't even know those things about him yet? Then you're not in a serious enough relationship yet and therefor don't know each other well enough yet.
Maybe an arranged marriage like in some cultures where the couple doesn't live together until after the marriage. And some people hide their incompetencies well till it's too late.
Load More Replies...You dodged a huge bullit. How did you not know any of this before you married him?
Oh hard pass , you didn’t marry him to be a mother to him , ffs women do better with your sons , my lad was taught early on to cook clean up diy decorating as he got older obvs now 21 he can even repair cars , do his own washing ,so can my 24 yr old daughter except the car bit lol no interest in it , all taught to them by me the mum ! literally , this mil is seething her brat up to be a gaslighting entitled loser !
She tried to pull an emergency baptism when I left my twins with her to pick up SO from his Gpa's funeral.
SO's Jewish and I was raised Catholic but both of us are non-observant. We decided to expose the twins to both religions but to let them decide if they wanted any religion to be part of their lives. She decided to contact a priest from her congregation to force a baptism. It did not happen either due to said priest needing parental approval and/or unavailable.
If MIL truly was a Christian she'd know Genesis 2:24 - "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and the two will become one flesh." Seems way too many Christian in-laws skipped right over this bit in their book.
I'm guessing the first one. Something along these lines was in one of the Slate advice columns once, and the columnist was pretty sure it was more of a DIY 'sprinkle some water and read a Bible verse in the basement' thing, because apparently most Catholic priests won't even consider doing a baptism without speaking to parents unless there are very serious extenuating circumstances along the lines of 'parents are both dead or in prison.'
SO is Jewish but MIL isn't? MIL is not SOs mother? This post makes no sense to me.
as far as i know, jewish faith doesn't baptize. so, was it her om who tried to baptize?
Eugh religious lunatics 101 that ! I guess she’s never being left alone with the kids EVER !
My mum tried something similar with my girls. She used to take them to a camping site for a week or two every year that was linked to her church. One time, I got a phone call whilst they were there from the pastor asking me if it was okay to go ahead with the baptism that my mum had requested for my daughters. I politely declined and said that their dad would be along to pick both girls up as soon as he could drive the 200 miles to fetch them.
When it was time for my (Protestant) baptism, the priest demanded a signature from the father. My parents were already going through the divorce procedures. He was a deadbeat, accessible, but refusing to take any interest in us children. My Mum said "Okay, then she won't be baptised" and got up to leave. Suddenly it was very much possible to baptise me.....
My latest is that I overheard her telling my husband to figure out what meds I need and sneak them in my food.
In case you’re wondering - she believes I need medication because HE always seems depressed when he’s talking to her.
He's depressed every time he speaks with her bc he doesn't have the spine to tell her to go pound sand.
D.I.V.O.R.C.E ASAP ,police report and a restraining order LIKE YESTERDAY
This is actually unlawful and could end up with jail time for physical abuse. I would give her a warning and say that if I ever discovered an attempt, I would be filing a police report, and then serving divorce papers.
Told the husband to figure out what medication is needed ? Is he a doctor ? Even if he was, it would be grossly unethical conduct.
Thought she was getting the master bedroom suite when we bought our house. Uh no. Busted my a*s to buy a house. Why the f**k would we be giving you the biggest room?
Plenty of families have to share a home with multiple generations. Sometimes because it's in their culture, sometimes out of financial necessity, sometimes because one of them needs care (like grandma coming to live with her adult child's family).
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Oh Lord, I hope she isn't living with you. Did she think she was just magically moving in with you?
I am Asian American, my husband is white. My MiL, who insists she has not one drop of racism in her body, once told me very proudly about the time she got cutoff by an Asian man in traffic and almost called him a "g**k", but refrained because she has an Asian daughter in law and mixed grandkids, and called him an "alien" instead.
She was really, really proud of herself.
guess what, grandma, you're not ever babysitting!
What racists simply can't comprehend is that denigrating an entire race/ethnicity for one jerk is reprehensible bc a-holes come in all flavors. And when you study history, you'll notice that the biggest a-holes were white people.
It‘s not even that. If anyone does something to you and your first thought is a racial slur, then you are racist. You wouldn‘t be one, if you just called everyone an idiot or something similar.
Load More Replies...Is it a good thing that I can't figure out the word? All I can think of is "geek" but what's racist about that?
G00k is a racist word out of the Asian Pacific theatre of war, maybe earlier. The open racism whites seemed to feel was normalized always astonished me.
Load More Replies..."G00k" was the result of a dehumanization campaign used against North Koreans and Vietnamese during their respective wars. It's easier to klll a subhuman, but the generational costs are massive.
Going on a family vacation and she texted me asking if I was bringing apple juice for my kids (18m and 3y at the time). I said no. And shes like “why, they don’t like it??” And I said no, they don’t drink it, we don’t offer them juice. Why?
And she replies “oh well we start our family vacations with shots of fireball. I was going to RINSE OUT mini fireball bottles and fill them with juice so they could feel included.”
Now look, my husband and I drink - we are not prudes. We have no problem having a beer or whatever in front of our kids. But my MIL wanted to basically teach my toddlers how to do shots and then got offended when I told her that’s not necessary 🙃.
Is this really that different from parents like mine who would give us "kid's champaigne" (bubbly apple juice) so that we could join in the toast, at things like New Year's?
I’d say sipping fake champaigne is kind of cute and classy. Slamming a shot of fake fireball strikes me as alcoholic grooming.
Load More Replies...Ah, too bad they don't make those candy cigarettes anymore to go with the juice shots.
They still make them but they don't say cigarette anywhere on the packaging (which still 100% look like cigarette packaging)
Load More Replies...I was given alcohol as an infant, too many times to count. I was a functional alcoholic before my 10th birthday, and struggled with my disease for the rest of my life. Now, at 66, I have 10 years of sobriety. Forgiving my mom has been hard.
Congrats on your sobriety! That Is a huge accomplishment!
Load More Replies...My former MIL told me how they would put beer in my ex-husband's baby bottle and laugh at him when he fell down. Guess who's been a raging alcoholic his whole life?
Oh that's terrible! There should be a rigorous test to become a parent but anyone can have a kid and abuse them sadly
Load More Replies...I kinda get both sides here. MIL being from a different generation, not seeing the problem and just meaning well vs the DIL who doesn't want to normalize drinking (especially at that age). Also, if you don't drink, you're not a prude, that's just a healthy lifestyle
I don't drink. I'm not a prude. I have nothing against adults drinking in moderation (as long as they don't drive). It's just not something I chose to do.
Load More Replies...My mum used to think it was funny to get us kids drunk when we were little. I have a very clear memory of her giving me apricot brandy and cherry brandy when I was about 6 years old. She was having one of her weekly parties, and I was home for the weekend from the kids' home.
we were always alowed a sip from time to time. I dont think ever anything else than beer or champaign. Didnt turn out alcoholic.
Well that family vacation would be cancelled and we would start our own family vacations.
I question drinking hard liquor around children. Beer is fine, but Fireball?
I'd say if they do it responsible then they show the kids how to behave around alcohol. But if they do it bad it's not good at all.
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My ex mother in law once told me that even at $7 an hour I could feed myself and 3 children and she wasn’t helping us anymore, when her son was in the throes of a*******n, stealing every penny that I earned he could get his hands on and we were about to have no water or electricity. I couldn’t keep up the payments and still feed everyone… a lot more complicated than that, but I’d have to say it was that.
Or when my ex husbands sister came out as a lesbian she said: “She wants to be a teacher. How in the world is she gonna do that if she’s gay?”
I said: “It’s not 1948? She’ll be fine.”
Re: the sister - from my experience working alongside teachers who are lesbian, I'd say pretty d**n well!
It's almost as if one's sexual orientation has absolutely nothing to do with one's qualifications to be a teacher. Wait, no...it's exactly that.
Load More Replies...I think it's ridiculous that so many words are censored. It only took a minute to determine that a*******n is a d d i c t i o n by the context but that's annoying. Why do they do this? Do they think 8 year old children are reading these? even if they are, the story itself is adult in nature.
I hired a number of math teachers over the years. I never knew who they liked to make kissy-face with.
I‘m lesbians and a teacher. How I got there? Pretty easy: Went to university, got my decree and work at a school. So the fücking same as everyone else because nobody cares about sexuality, just do a good job.
I've taught with teachers who were trans or non-binary. Good people and good teachers.
She wore a see though cream colored dress to my BILs small wedding...
I was like you better not pull that s**t at my wedding..
In 2025 you can't not know that you don't wear white at a wedding (not in all cultures obviously)
A mother-in-law wearing white at a wedding is a declaration of war.
Load More Replies...If it's your day, then you call the shots. When she shows up dressed like she's looking for a bit of night work, you point her right out the door. Enlist your bride's maids as the fashion police. To CYA, explain to her in advance what appropriate wedding attire is acceptable as the mother of the groom.
Red wine on hand ,at the church door so she can’t even wear it in church or where ever u get married ,either way glass of red will sort it out if she tries it at yours
One year I got a one of those bags they sell at supermarkets and it costs $2. That was it all I got for xmas from them. everyone else got beautiful gifts I was furious.
she drives around the town She lives in but she has no license.
Told me after I had my daughter that I was a disappointment because she wanted a grandson.
got angry when my baby started crying at church for xmas mass so I took her outside to the car , she started yelling at me in the car that I had disrupted her church service and that I was incredibly rude for staying in the car and not going back in to the service when she settled down. Im an atheist and hated going to these services, but went anyway because it’s what she wanted. Well that year was the last time I went to church. I always said no we aren’t coming in regards to me and my daughter. She hates it and complains every year.
I could write a effing novel with all the c**p my MIL has pulled.
My FIL pulls this church c**p every Christmas eve. He insists "everyone who can" needs to go to church that night. We have a family member with special needs and my in-laws church isn't wheelchair accessible so someone has to stay home with them while everyone else goes to church. One guess who that person is every year. I'm an atheist so I don't mind missing church but it pisses me off to no end that the two of us are left behind every Christmas eve while the rest of the family is gone for hours. I've talked to my partner about this repeatedly and every year they promise not to leave us alone and every year their father bitches so much about how he's ruining Christmas that he ends up going. At this point I've refused to spend Christmas eve at the in-laws house. If we're going to end up alone I'd rather be at home.
I hope your spouse is worth the c**p your FIL pulls.
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Years ago we took in my younger SIL while my MIL was going through a divorce. She showed her true colors when she realized we were actually taking care of SIL emotionally and physically, got her grades up in school and you know, CARED, because that made her look like a bad parent (I mean... Yeah she is, I'm really skimping on the worst but she's unmedicated bipolar and a narcissist, draw the lines yourself) and was clearly a slight against her.
During all this she got a dog, and in the months after my SIL moved back in with her to a new apartment it became clear to her that she treated the dog with more respect than my SIL. Took the dog out all the time, forced my SIL to stay home from plans because she "didn't like leaving the dog in a crate" ever, but it was fine to force social isolation on her kid.
Eventually the entire family called her out on it and she stopped some of the favoritism.
In the middle of that we found a great school opportunity for my SIL that would require her to relocate to our town again, asked SIL if she would actually put in the effort and wanted it and she broke down crying that she wanted to move back in with us. So my husband approached MIL about it and at first she was down but then the next day she left my SIL on the side of the road screaming that she was a b***h for wanting us over her and then texting my husband that since she's the parent HER NEEDS come first. It's been a few years since then, some things have improved, some haven't, SIL turned out okay.
On to this week.
Her dog escaped and was missing for two days. Over those two days she put up post after post online about how the dog was her world and she loved it over anything else in her life and I mean REALLY laying it on thick. More than her kids, more than life itself
It's so validating and frustrating when she says the quiet parts out loud about how little she actually cares about her kids. The dog came back home and she's been spoiling it rotten but not before my SIL read all those posts and now feels like s**t.
God.
Crazy, but not funny. Showed up late for our wedding (actually during the recessional), got into a fistfight with her sister in the church (my mother separated them), then at the reception went around and told everyone we hadn't invited her. It went downhill from there.
Should have kicked her out immediately after she started the fight and banned her from the reception.
Exactly. Sounds like there was enough of a history that they should have thought of hiring security.
Load More Replies...1. Shows up late. 2. Fistfight in church. 3. Spreads false rumors. 4. Gathering goes downhill. After steps 1-3, I really need to hear more about Step 4...
Me to lol can’t tell us half the story n leave it at that pfft 😂
Load More Replies...I grew up in a small town, so I know all about white trash and their unique ability to ruin any special occasion. Especially when alcohol's involved.
Why only "white" trash? There is no trash of other colors? Bearing in mind the alcohol intolerance of some colors...
Load More Replies...My mother did that: she showed up late for my wedding so she could make a grand entrance. I guess - I never knew why my mother did 1/2 the stuff she pulled. The wedding was more elaborate than it needed to be because I was the 3rd (and last) child. My sister eloped. My brother got married out in Wichita (we lived in Brooklyn, NY), so this was our mother's last chance. Her grand entrance was spoiled because she had divorced my dad, and our cousin, who was standing in for the best man who had been 'called up', wasn't available to walk her down the aisle. He was already 'in place'. That's how late she was. It was a nice wedding anyway.
She would be bounced out of there so fast and hard that she would have road rash on her a*s!
When I had my second baby my inlaws came to the hospital about 3 hours after he was born. Didnt bring any gifts but MIL handed me a handwritten recipe for a dish that I could cook for my husband when I get back home. Wtf? Thanks, I guess... (Btw he wouldn't have even liked that dish).
DIL should get the name of a psychiatrist and pass it on to MIL, cuz she crazy.
On a hand written note.. 👍 "got something for you, for the nice person you are!"
Load More Replies...I think she meant to give it to her son to cook for the wife who JUST GAVE BIRTH, RIGHT?? you freakin idiota!
Then she should have given it to her son, who was surely there three hours after the birth.
Load More Replies...In some cultures it's a custom to bring presents, in others not. You deserve the downvoting for your snooty comment.
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My mil wanted to take a "family trip' with just her kids. We were all married for years at this time with toddlers, babies, houses and you know 'jobs". Yeah, no.
She always says I don't tell her anything about my kid's life or schedule, even though I text her with info and pics quite a lot. Every time we see her it turns into an argument, where I produce my phone and show everyone I texted her stuff and she responded, and her insisting I'm some kind of technological wizard who can make texts that never happened appear on my phone.
Finally on Father's Day after a very theatrical performance from her about how I gatekeep info and me showing proof she's full of it, she admitted she deletes my texts immediately after reading because seeing my name in her phone fills her with rage (?!). She said this in front of everyone... shocked silence, eyes the size of saucers everywhere you looked. I would hope she will stop with her BS about my "information gate keeping" but nah. She loves being the center of attention. And I'm going to keep the receipts so I can discredit her every time.
I hate it when people engage with people like this MIL instead of shutting it down and/or cutting them off.
Perhaps give the responsibility to the husband? Then when the old crone begins to howl, point to the husband. 🤷
Yeah good luck with that one. If it wasn't for me my ex never would have known when any of our nieces or nephews birthday parties were, the parents birthday or anniversary would be celebrated etc. Fast forward to his 2nd wife's daughters wedding. My son and DIL stopped here on their way to the beach. My son was told the wrong time, um no it's at this time and everybody is supposed to be there early in the morning to set up the tables and chairs. They didn't get an actual invitation in the mail, just told the date and wrong time. He called his Daddy and asked him about it... your wife told me this time... You call me to get the date and time of any family events When my son hung up I laughed so hard. My son knew it was a load of c**p. I knew when they were supposed to be there because of my other son, he had left that morning.
Load More Replies...Sounds kind of like my mom who always complains that she doesn't get to have a relationship with my kids (we live in a different country) even though we call her once a week, see her at least once a year for a couple weeks at a time, and also pay to send my kids to stay with them on their request for a couple of weeks each summer. I don't think anything would truly satisfy her unless we lived in the exact same town (which she's hinted at in the past but absolutely is not a possibility or desire)
Why you call her once a week and not every day through Viber or equivalent? Why do you give her grounds for complaining?
Load More Replies...Ok, lady, if I’m the devil, then I won’t send you anything ever again…
Not mine now but my ex mil lost her leg because she shot up wrong (got Gangrene) and had her leg removed and had to detox off subs and xanx while at the hospital, lost her mind when she left the hospital, stole an elderly woman's car after making her drive her everywhere all day and then got arrested. We call her the one legged bandit now even though she shot up in the other leg wrong and lost that one as well 🤣
Another good one I wrote years ago about my labor with her on this subreddit and how she made it difficult, broke into the room, and even started pressing on my belly to try and force the baby out faster, trying to smoke in the room while I was in the middle of delivery and even recorded my oldest birth and posted it on youtube, I had to take her to court to get the video removed and the photos she had of me labor deleted, she tried to argue with the judge but I had proof that she was showing strangers and putting me in dangerous situations.
Why the fk didn't you tell the nurses to get rid of her and get security to make her leave the hospital?
Way to be supportive, tell the woman who was wronged it's her fault.
Load More Replies...In don't think abducting an elderly person and making them drive you around and then steal their car is funny.
A j****e mother-in-law? Sounds like a B-Hole Surfers song to me.
I don't mind the sun sometimes, the images it shows.....
Load More Replies...She’ll casually mention here and there that she has no retirement plan or savings. (She also doesn’t have a steady job, she re sells on eBay). She thinks it’s not big deal though because “I’ve got three wonderful kiddos who will take care of me!!!” Sorry, but no!
No doubt that's why she had kids to begin with, which is hella selfish. I hope they don't let her take advantage of them.
I'd say it's not selfish but outdated mindset for a first world country. 100 years ago this was the norm.
Load More Replies...Yea monster in law ,we do not have kids to look after us in our old age !! That’s NOT how it works !
I have a distant cousin whose Mother said the only reason to have kids is to have somebody to take care of you when you get old. I heard her say that myself. Margaret took care of both of her parents until they died and never spent a day in a nursing home.
Mines notorious for making things up to fit her narrative, regardless of how nonsensical she’s being.
Somehow we got in the topic of young grandmas (my mom and one of MILs sisters were teen moms and so became grandmas at a young age, late 30s/early 40s).
MIL apparently decided she liked the young grandma vibe and so announces that she also was a young grandma, she was only 42 when my oldest was born. I stared at her….. no… you were 52. NO. She was FOURTY TWO. She was VERY YOUNG. (Said in her typical, this is the story I’ve decided upon , I am the main character so stop ruining it, supporting character! tone of voice) I walked her through her birth year vs his, her current age vs his current age, the age DH was at his birth vs the age she was when DH was born (like, you weren’t 19 when DH was born and he wasn’t 15 when OS was born so…), DH and I didn’t even know each other when you were 42 and I was in middle school at that point, and she just would not let up. *MAYBE* she was 45, but absolutely she was NOT 52.
I just sat there laughing hysterically doing the math 16 different ways as steam poured out her ears and she just kept repeating “I don’t know what to tell you, I WAS a *VERY YOUNG* grandma!!” (ETA: no dementia just a complete lack of sense).
"I reject your reality and substitute my own." Adam Savage on Mythbusters.
*FORTY TWO. It's the answer to life, the universe - and everything.
My MIL told a family member that we financially take advantage of her and mentally a**se her. The family member confronted me, so I set the record straight with them. Thankfully they know MIL is crazy and believed me. My husband confronted his mom. She blew up, cried, threatened to unalive herself because no one loves her, then she blew up at the family member for telling us, and cut off contact with them. Made herself the victim in the story, never apologized or showed any remorse. I was never close to her, but I limited my contact with her more since then. I’m civil with her if I have to see her at family events but will not give her any information about our personal lives. I won’t keep my husband from having a relationship with her, but I stopped encouraging/reminding him to call her or keep her updated on things. I don’t think he ever remembers to on his own so she never hears from us.
She said she wanted to get a drink with me for happy hour. Proceeded to take me to a really weird place and refused to sit on the patio even though it was perfect weather. We went in and she was actually crashing a retirement party for a former coworker that she hadn’t been invited to.
Well, at least you learned it's not JUST you she's nasty and mean to. Bet all her acquaintances hate her too.
Going out on a limb here, but I bet there's a lot of reasons she wasn't invited.
My MIL told me that both my therapist and OBGYN were obviously not helping me and that she was going to take me to a psych ward when I was struggling with depression during my pregnancy… went low contact after that one 🤦🏽♀️ also, after I told her not to kiss the baby on the face, hands, feet or anywhere, she proceeded to kiss the baby 😒.
Herpes simplex virus, that can k**l a baby and can infect even before the sores arrive. Also RS virus.
Load More Replies...My husband tried family therapy with MIL and FIL at his therapist's office. After two sessions he decided it was a waste of time and went NC again. MIL lost her mind and left a voicemail for my husband's therapist trying to get information about him. She also lowkey suggested that his therapist help her get SO to talk to her. Then she ended her call with asking his therapist to please not tell SO she called and to keep it a secret.
MIL was watching my daughter (age 5 or so) and decided to get her a haircut! We were trying to grow out her bangs, the rest of her hair was shoulder-length, and I guess MIL didn't like how it looked (who does? -- that in-between stage isn't easy), and proceded to give my daughter a pixie with even heavier, shorter bangs. I could. not. believe. it. When I went to pick my daughter up, my SIL was looking at me sideways, like is AndiAzalea going to blow up now? I was screaming inside, let me tell you. But my MIL wasn't someone you could tell off. Isn't that the first rule of things grandmothers aren't supposed to do to their granddaughters?! Besides getting their ears pierced... That's another story...
But my MIL wasn't someone you could tell off. Seriously? Who is she? The Doña of a criminal gang? She violated your daughter! Have some self-respect, and more importantly, some respect for your daughter.
Shortly after DH and I moved into our first place (in the same general area as most of my family), my JNM announced that she was getting tired of doing Thanksgiving. DH's favorite holiday is Thanksgiving, and - silly us - we immediately volunteered Our New Place.
No one attempted to discourage us. This is important.
We started making plans, even before Christmas - throughout the summer, we were trying recipes, making sure we'd have enough places for people to sit, inviting his family and some of our friends. We got a specialty honey to glaze the turkey with, found out about everyone's food allergies, and started collaborating with some friends of ours who also enjoy cooking.
October comes, and my mother's father has been moved into her house - still moderately active, but couldn't be left completely on his own. There's a family get-together for his 97th birthday, and DH is talking about some of the dishes we have planned and how his mother, grandmother and sister are all excited.
No one makes the slightest protest. My sisters are talking about bringing leftover containers.
I go into work the following Monday, and open my email.
I kid you not, there is a message asking me what I plan on bringing to the potluck Thanksgiving at Mom's place.
Y'all.
We have people making the trip from Boston to DC to have Thanksgiving with us. We are not rug-pulling them and porting them to someone else's place. Never mind the awkwardness of telling our friends not to come over.
From what I was told, our spread was better anyways. (Those leftover containers still made an appearance.).
Googled it and found Journal of Nuclear Medicine. Probably not quite right in this context.
Load More Replies...FMIL suggested he wait to marry me because I might be a man.
It really is. Only thing I can think of is that he's one of those super-transphobic crazy people who think they can identify a 'secretly' trans person by, like, the shape of their collarbones.
Load More Replies...My ex (we were engaged, broke up before marriage, thankfully) was told by his mother not to marry me because I earned more than him, and that would make me dominant, and I would become masculine and not get pregnant easily. My ex told me that I could work, but as soon as I got pregnant, I had to leave work and be a stay at home mom, and his mother would move in to make sure the baby was brought up properly. This was over 30 years ago now-he never did get married, so I don't think he found a woman who could cope with his mother.
And the waiting was to see … whether a peen suddenly sprang from her loins? WTF?
I had so many WTF moments with mine. But one of the most WTFest of WTFs was when JNMIL told us to put our then young daughter (under 10 years old) on birth control so she didn’t get pregnant. At the time DH would try and excuse how she acted but even he couldn’t with this one. In fact he said “WTF Mother?!” JNFIL tried to have her back and doubled down. We left soon after.
Oh the way I would have pressed her for answers on that! "Pregnant from who, MIL?" "Why are you so eager, FIL?" Some people really don't think when talking s**t, but I draw the line at a 10 year old getting sexualised.
"JNMIL" stands for "Just No Mother-in-Law". It's a term used on the Reddit forum r/JUSTNOMIL to describe a mother-in-law who is consistently difficult, toxic, or a*****e. The "Just No" part signifies that the mother-in-law is perpetually problematic, beyond the typical "difficult in-law" scenario. -- Google A.I.
Could have the explanation of JNMIL way further up the post. Somebody ask what this stands for. I was wondering myself.
Load More Replies...i was put on birth control at a young age (~11) but it was due to heavy periods and extreme cramps
My exes mother came to my apartment once at 8 in the morning with an outfit that was approximately 3 times too big for me (at the height of my ED, that she was aware of) and told me that I would be wearing this to her parent's anniversary party the following week. As this was insane and I had just woken up, I excused myself to go to the bathroom and wash my face. I came out and she'd laid the outfit on my bed and tidied up. I don't miss this.
Hope you told her to fk off out of the house and didn't wimp out and wear it!
What's ED? I looked it up, and it said Erectile Dysfunction - and I don't think it's that? Using abbreviations can be hella confusing, when you've never come across it before.
My MIL took it upon herself to wash my SO’s and my clothes while we were visiting. When I came downstairs, she was folding my THONG underwear in front of her husband and saying, “omg look at this little strings! How do you even wear that?” I was embarrassed but also WTF?! Don’t touch my underwear, make comments on it in front of your husband!!!! I will never forget that day.
Or “I barely wear them as your son likes to rip them off me with his teeth! Then he wears them.”
Load More Replies...Answer: "Oh there not mine their your son's, still he does look cute in them!"
I hate to grammar police but THEY'RE!!! It was the twice that got me. Apologies. Still upvoted!
Load More Replies...‘I love it when she wears that, it makes me hard’ would have been the correct response from your husband to shut her right up…
"oh i only wear them for the foreplay before your son rips them off"
Yeah I don't understand how anybody can wear buttfloss. Tried it and SOOOO uncomfortable
We've only been married for two years but the current thing that takes the cake, is when MIL (who is inappropriately obsessed with her son) thought it would be cute to flaunt photos of my husband while he was a model for a destination wedding company - a full wedding photoshoot with a different, gorgeous model bride - at our actual wedding. 🙃
And... your new husband just sat there blushing saying "gosh, Mom, stop embarrassing me"? Did you marry a grown adult or a momma's boy, bc if it's the latter, your marriage is going to suck.
The rest of that Reddit thread says 'Luckily he shut that s**t down fast'
Load More Replies...My Ex GMIL gifted me pajamas for Christmas in a size large. I was a size US 4. I discreetly asked my ex Aunt in law in regards to a receipt or where purchased so I could just exchange - the look on my face when I discovered they were a regift. Needless to say just the tip of the iceberg.
I don't believe in re-gifting, personally, I give away unwanted gifts. However, many people do re-gift and I don't really think it's some appalling thing to do that makes the MIL a monster. Not great, but not awful. My FIL got me a makeup set last Xmas and I've never worn a hint of makeup since he's met me... I appreciate that he thought of me.
She had my sons tonsils out. Long story..I worked out of town and she took him to routine appointments and convinced the Dr it needed to be done. After the procedure the Dr told me it was at her insistence and wasn't necessary. Aarrgghhh. Dead and gone and water under the bridge.
In what country will a doctor perform medically UN-necessary surgery on a child without parental consent?
Doesn't say when this happened either. Many areas had looser medical laws a few decades ago
Load More Replies...How in the world did she get a Dr to do surgery on your kid? I would be filling a lawsuit against that Dr and the facility where it was done at so fast. I would also be looking into charges against her.
This could have gone horribly wrong. Obviously, Monster-in-Law didn't care.
I have many things. The latest is LO has allergies, now confirmed by hospital. When meeting inlaw family my partner informed about the allergies and for everyone to wash hands and be bit mindful if the wanted to interact with LO.
MIL response: well, how is that going to work when LO starts kindergarten/daycare?
As if our kid is the first the world history to have food allergies and our daycare will be the first to take care a child with such allergies.
She also got offended when she of course touched LO right after eating food he is ALLERGIC to. Stated she has washed her hands, but that was before eating... I pointed that out, she said I was right. And instead of apologizing and getting up to wash her hands, she just ignored LO and glared at me for the rest of the gathering.
SMH at the idiots that allergies can be deadly or think that Corona is fake.
What‽ You’ve never heard of anaphylaxis? You’ve never had your airway shut down or your eyes swollen shut?
Load More Replies...My otherwise lovely MIL would gift my LO boxes of really nice clothes that she had shoplifted. We lived hundreds of miles away so it wasn’t possible to return them even if we had known which stores they came from. We got quite good at removing ink and EAS tags.
And you never confronted her or tried to get some justice for the stores? Sounds like you're an accessory after the fact. (not trying to be funny)
I assume that's the large tags that are designed to set off an alarm if someone tries to leave the store without paying for the item (they are removed by the cashier when the item is purchased).
Load More Replies... My husband's step mother (SMIL has been part of the family for 35+ years) however.
SMIL once was given a set of bubble bath and scented talcum powder for Mother’s Day. (Me and hubby have it to her as part of a “self care” basket she had asked for). She had specifically asked for that scent and brand to be included. She split the bubble bath and talcum powder up and gave me the talcum powder and my SIL the bubble bath for Christmas. SIL doesn’t have a bath and I’m allergic to the scent of the talcum powder.
Some people say it's the thought that counts, but I don't like her thoughtless thinking.
Not me but my mom: my grandma (my mom’s MIL) gave her a toilet seat for Christmas when she was engaged to my dad. My mom still lived with her parents. She had no toilet of her own to put a seat on.
This is far from thoughtless. You don't accidentally gift someone a toilet seat, so I'd think this was very well thought over.
Load More Replies...The one that still befuddles me most is when DH mentioned working extra OT shifts and her immediate response was "yay! I'll get to watch the LOs!" as if I don't exist.
I got a jar of opened and partially used body butter that I suspect she bought at a yard sale.
My mil used to give me candles every Xmas, knowing I have asthma & hate candles. My husband told her to stop, she ignored him. So the last time she gave me one I got up & threw it in the trash while making eye contact, didn't say anything. Now she gifts me a hand towel from the .99 cent store 🤣., just one, every year.
My MIL once gifted me three macrame plant hangars she found at a yard sale. But! I was thrilled! I had asked everybody to watch for them. I have a LOT of plants and always needed another plant hangar. :D
I'm glad you were thrilled. The effort involved shows she listens to what you say. Finally someone got a MIL that's a keeper.
Load More Replies...My mother in law banned me from her house and then planned for a friend of mine to kidnap me for a wedding shower at her house. She was verrrry disappointed I ended up not showing up! We hadn't even been in communication since she had left me homeless so I don't know how she thought an event like that would even work well.
Sounds like she was living there until MIL banned her.
Load More Replies...No further info on the homeless but this was another comment posted the same day - We spent the first 10 years fighting his mother's never ending stream of BS. Finally free of her and when we focused on us I realized that we both needed to work on ourselves. I did the work to be a better partner. He decided to respond in arrogance (like his mom would) and decided after some crappy therapists, a lack of accountability or growth that he was all done and I'd never leave him. He only put in real work with an amazing therapist in the last 2 years but it was too little too late. Every new thing he learned was something I had said 2, 5, 10 years before. All I had was resentment. All the support and love I had for him is gone. We barely speak and he is still very much of the mind that I'm just emotional and "he just doesn't get my problem." We will hit 13 years married next week and it will be our last anniversary.
So I'm guessing you were living in her house until she got tired of your freeloading & kicked you out & now you're b.u.t.t.h.u.r t about it?
Mine contacted my husband’s command when he was deployed and managed to invite herself to his reenlistment ceremony without his knowledge. Imagine his surprise when he shows up and his overbearing mother is the person swearing him out and back in. This was before we met.
I went to his last reenlistment ceremony and she was not there this time. He doesn’t like her involvement in his career milestones because she quite literally centers herself.
I sent my in laws a video of the ceremony while we were on the FaceTime. She was furious and started yelling “WHY WASN’T I THERE? WAS (OP) THERE? I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DIDN’T INVITE ME!”
On her wedding day, she called me to leave a voice message for her son on my phone, telling him she knows he misses her although we are NC, and that he wants to spend time with them.
Half a year prior, I went to the police to file her for stalking (charges dropped sadly). She's blocked on my phone, but my provider still allows voice mail. DH doesn't have her blocked.
There is no reason to call me. There is absolutely no way he doesn't want NC, otherwise he would be in contact. She's delulu so hard, she's almost on the other side of sanity again!
Anyhow, he didn't answer her, and I filed her message on my stalker app.
Btw we're NC because she crashed our wedding, and never felt wrong for it. Weddings are apparently sacred, you know?
For Christmas one year, she gave me a size 5X full length flannel nightgown. At the time, I was a U.S. size 12.
She encourages her son’s to cheat on their SO, she’d occasionally get cheated on by her boyfriend and she’d punish him.. such a double standard, she should just let him cheat.. I laughed when I found out it happened. lol she should have held boundaries like I did. lol so glad to be away from their s**t.
My MIL yelled at us because SOMEONE ELSE offered to let me and my husband sit next to each other. She told him I wasn’t divorced yet when we were moving in together (covid court delays). She would yell at my husband and repeatedly tell him he can’t tell me just to test that he would or wouldn’t. She told the family I stole him and was a**sing him, and she turned the last conversation about the time line of our adoption into a race between who could give them grandchildren first between us and BIL- who was jealous and bitter about us getting married before him. Oh also since my husband is now converting to Judaism, she has to repeatedly remind everyone he’s really an atheist so we got some light antisemitism to top it all off.
Bonus points: I got annoyed that I got sunburned once so FIL told me “I guess you’re just white anyway” I’m mixed race Jewish and Puerto Rican. He then said something about sunburns for the next year and a half every time he saw me.
“She would yell at my husband and repeatedly tell him he can’t tell me just to test that he would or wouldn’t” what??
Hard to understand. I believe MIL would yell at hubby, then tell hubby to not inform OP that MIL yelled at hubby , just to test if hubby would obey MIL or if hubby would inform OP what MIL did.
Load More Replies... When my LO was about 10 months old, MIL called DH several times to let him know she bought toys for LO to play with at her house. He thanked her every phone call. When we visited, she went on and on about buying toys for her house. All she had was a dollar store ball, and LO wasn’t interested in balls. Throughout the whole visit, MIL kept trying to get LO to play with the ball and telling her how lucky she was that MIL bought it for her and how MIL almost didn’t find that ball after looking all over the store for the perfect gift, and DH thanked her every time. When we left, she insisted that we take the ball home.
When LO was about 1 year, MIL bought her a puzzle more appropriate for a 2 or 3 year old (asymmetrical flowers with each petal carved out). LO wasn’t even doing simple shape puzzles yet. She kept trying to instruct LO across the room to put the pieces in the right place (which she had never yet done for even a simple shape) and then tried to put it in for her. MIL couldn’t even get the puzzle piece in the spot and she put the puzzle away unfinished in embarrassment.
Sounds like insecurity and lack of money to me. Like, she'd like to have toys at her home but can't afford them.
"Why, this is so simple a five-year-old child could do it. Somebody fetch me a five-year-old child!"
My mother-in-law was an absolute darling, best rest for you, lady. She had encountered 4 wives before my husband met me, yes his 5th wife, we have been together for nearly 24 years and I was the "daughter she never had". Rest in peace, Doreen.
My fil tried to hit our son over the face. My son is non verbal autistic and he was having a bad day and bit him.
Hope he got an ice cream? 🙃 edit: autocorrect spelling error.
Load More Replies...My MIL always called my name "Birgit" as "Igitt" which means "Yuck" in german. 😭
Let's see... My father's mother disowned my mother and baby-me because we were "stealing her bonnie little boy" by moving from Scotland down to the South of England which was where they were able to find nursing jobs with accommodation together. My mother's mother disowned her (I wasn't born yet) because mom went to Woodstock and protested 'Nam and grandmom voted Nixon and was very staunchly Republican. So all these years later my family tree goes to knowing about an uncle and his wife/son in New York (state, not city) and diddly-squat on my father's side. On the up side, at least I don't have to deal with family reunions or random relations turning up unannounced.
Between the poorly edited writing, the convoluted stories and the abbreviations using initials these were hard to read.
My ex-MIL borrowed my ex's car and went to a bar. She came home in the middle of the night (of course) and somehow triggered the 4-way flashers and couldn't figure out how to turn them off. Cue 2+ hours of calls to the answering machine shrieking about how is a fvcking answering machine going to help her, in the middle of the night, when normal people are sleeping.
BP, another option for your mini quiz above is “moving 50 million miles away from deranged woman”.
I guess I just want to brag a little! I was blessed with the most wonderful mother-in-law anyone could ask for! Too bad her son was no where close to as wonderful. Even after I divorced him, she and I remained great friends. When she died, I was heart broken. I had the worst mother in the world so maybe God saw fit to give me the best mother-in-law!
My mother-in-law was an absolute darling, best rest for you, lady. She had encountered 4 wives before my husband met me, yes his 5th wife, we have been together for nearly 24 years and I was the "daughter she never had". Rest in peace, Doreen.
My fil tried to hit our son over the face. My son is non verbal autistic and he was having a bad day and bit him.
Hope he got an ice cream? 🙃 edit: autocorrect spelling error.
Load More Replies...My MIL always called my name "Birgit" as "Igitt" which means "Yuck" in german. 😭
Let's see... My father's mother disowned my mother and baby-me because we were "stealing her bonnie little boy" by moving from Scotland down to the South of England which was where they were able to find nursing jobs with accommodation together. My mother's mother disowned her (I wasn't born yet) because mom went to Woodstock and protested 'Nam and grandmom voted Nixon and was very staunchly Republican. So all these years later my family tree goes to knowing about an uncle and his wife/son in New York (state, not city) and diddly-squat on my father's side. On the up side, at least I don't have to deal with family reunions or random relations turning up unannounced.
Between the poorly edited writing, the convoluted stories and the abbreviations using initials these were hard to read.
My ex-MIL borrowed my ex's car and went to a bar. She came home in the middle of the night (of course) and somehow triggered the 4-way flashers and couldn't figure out how to turn them off. Cue 2+ hours of calls to the answering machine shrieking about how is a fvcking answering machine going to help her, in the middle of the night, when normal people are sleeping.
BP, another option for your mini quiz above is “moving 50 million miles away from deranged woman”.
I guess I just want to brag a little! I was blessed with the most wonderful mother-in-law anyone could ask for! Too bad her son was no where close to as wonderful. Even after I divorced him, she and I remained great friends. When she died, I was heart broken. I had the worst mother in the world so maybe God saw fit to give me the best mother-in-law!
