35 Behaviors That Were Turned Into Red Flags But Actually Don’t Mean Anything, According To Folks In This Online Group

This is a red flag on her part, can't be so paranoid about the littlest things.

I thought that was standard etiquette. If we're at dinner or talking, of course I'm going to turn my screen down.

Here it really doesn't matter how I put my phone on the table.... when I'm at the diningtable it's always facedown, otherwise I can't even find it on our black glass surface ;p For the rest, I never cared, my SO and I have no secrets, so whenever we need a phone quickly, we take the one that is nearby. We've got the same pin so no probs ;)

I put mine face down too... but that's because my ring holder has a cute bunny face on it that can be scratched off. And it has a tempered glass screen protector. Plus, the ring holder sticks up a bit, so the phone would be balancing on it.

Hmmmm... I place my phone, how it gets placed... I never would have thunk this was a thing.

I love that I don’t have other SM 😍 just bored panda and YouTube. People always think it’s so weird but that’s ok . I’m happy 😊

"Huge red flag"? Wtf? How can it be considered a red flag??

Good for you! I think social media can be good for some, but for others this would be the correct decision.

Tried Facebook, friended people etc but found it it's a den of "pretending my life is better than yours" misery, medical misinfornation and people who bullied me and toxic family members being suggested as friends constantly. So I droppen it in the hole.

Yeah I have no social media bc it literally doesn't matter. Pressuring me to use it feels the same as when people pressured me to binge drink in my 20s.

Sometimes, we're not shy and we don't have poor social skills, we just prefer being alone.

I just recently realized I was a loner. Before that, I was sabotaging relationships left and right. As soon as they wanted to start living together, I'd bail. Now that I know that, I'm a much better partner! Separate houses FTW!

Exactly. The pandemic (although not good) gave me the life I always wanted - peace and quiet and alone time. I do like people, but in small doses. Then I have to be alone again for awhile. Cellphone texting is the best invention since sliced bread. I also hate the telephone, so short chats on text gives me the "social" I might need. LOL!

I don't socialize. I don't want to. And yes, I have been called weird because of it. Maybe if most people didn't suck...

Lol this. I like the company of one. Not many. 1:1 is my preferred socializing. But despite this i hate eating alone surrounded by people. For example work cafe. If i am knowing I'll be without my lunch buddies I'd prefer eating alone isolated in my cube or elsewhere. But i always thought conflating people that prefer independence from a group as being some kind of weirdo. When everyone is a weirdo in their own right.

Lol, this is relatable af!

Okay, as a person from the other side. I always respond to texts as soon as I see/hear it because I have anxiety not doing it. And as a child with 4 siblings I was often unintentionally ignored (single parent household) and I was the wallflower of my friends being talked over or "not heard". So I've been training myself to not feel bad when my texts aren't answered immediately or even the same day. I'm not salty but I do tend to overthink and then I get a response and feel dumb for overthinking. I'm trying lol. But it helps to remind you friends that you're not ignoring them, that you're just busy from time to time. Especially if they are also this way.

First thing I did when I installed my messenger was to disable the "recipient read it"-checks. The main advantage of a messenger opposed to a phone call is that I DON'T have to answer at once.

This should be on top of the list.

Literally the world does not revolve around you and not all of us are pavlovian conditioned to f$*%$%g have a panic attack and respond to everything right away. Jfc.

Why would he be? The guy likes cats, that's a big yes for me :)

Cats are independent critters, who need to be treated well in order to give you affection in return. That requires a respect of boundaries, patience and kindness.... all are good qualities in a potential boyfriend. Guys who likes cats are preferable to guys who hate cats. Seems really weird to me that anyone would see that as being a 'red flag'.

Did I miss something here (again)? Who would consider this a red flag?

Single guys with cats are the best. Met one myself and now he's a married guy with a cat. 😉

Some people just like cats. Is that a crime?

Coming from a family with mental, emotional, sexual abuse, I was called the wrong baby from the hospital for most of my life! Whenever anything goes wrong in ‘The Family’ it will always be my fault somehow! Soooo I try not to have anything to do with them, which is hard because they fight to keep the Scapegoat around 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Don’t know why because I’m useless, stupid, lazy, a bad mother, a leach on society....but I clearly fill a need in them 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Family is basically a bunch of people you probably wouldn't normally socialize with if you weren't related to them.

I haven't spoken to my mom in years. Neither have my siblings. We, tried once or twice, hoping she'd changed, but she was still drinking box wine for breakfast and sending her new husband to the hospital. Our dad, on the other hand we're all close to. Basically we grew up with the classic abusive drunken parent, but with a role reversal. I'm not going to chance her being around my kids.

Agreed. If its they're fault then let it be at that and you don't have to be around them. But don't always play the victim.

I haven't seen my father in over a decade, and I don't expect to before he passes away. Our relationship is pretty much nonexistent. He was emotionally manipulative and on occasion physically abusive. I owe him no amount of my precious time.

Yes, being introverted is perfectly fine. Its just been ruined by people saying that they are introverts when they are not.

Or autistic

I found out that kids at my school thought I was a snob for not talking much. But they're idiots because they're the ones who were picking on me from day 1. Why would I want to speak to them?