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There’s no excuse for bullying others. Though the reality is that real life isn’t a fairy tale where good always triumphs over evil. Your bullies don’t always get what they deserve. Some might see the consequences of their actions or find redemption and grow into decent adults, sure. But others might go on to have a splendid life without changing for the better.
In a brutally open and honest thread on AskReddit, former victims revealed what happened to their school bullies after they all graduated. We’ve collected their most powerful stories. Scroll down to read them.
Warning: if you’ve ever been a victim of bullying, some of these stories may be triggering.
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#1
He became a multi-millionaire, went back to our hometown, bought up every rental property he could find, and self-imposed rent caps to ensure that lower income families would have access to affordable housing. Turns out he wasn't really a bad guy. He was just a guy who came from a bad place, and none of us understood that at the time.
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#2
I became a corrections nurse at our county jail shortly after nursing school. Sure enough one day the sheriffs escorted him into my office for screening. This guy was relentless in high school. He sat down and recognized me immediately and the convo went like this:
Him: I bet you’re loving this.
Me: I’m not, but I bet you would in my shoes. And that’s why you’re in that seat, and I’m in this one.
#3
The guy really didn’t mess with me because I avoided him like the plague. He had a kid at 16 and then became a grandfather at 37. Awhile ago he posted on FB complaining about bullies messing with his grandkid and claimed to always fight bullies when he was a kid. Another kid from my class had the balls to call him out on his s**t and several others piled on too. It was kind of awesome to watch that play out.
azubi 2 months ago
I remember how another child ambushed me and a friend after school to beat us up. We thought that was very unfair. Today, I believe it was because we always teased him in class because he was fat. In fact, we were the bullies and he fought back. Could it have been similar here?
Bullying has deeply negative effects on everyone involved. Not just the victims, but the bullies and bystanders, too. Their physical and mental health suffers, alongside their academic performance and emotional well-being. These problems can persist into adulthood.
According to Stop Bullying, children who are bullied are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, sadness, and loneliness. They might lose interest in activities they used to enjoy and experience changes in their sleep and eating patterns.
Bullying also leads to worse academic achievements and a higher likelihood of missing, skipping, or dropping out of school.
#4
He died. Tried to bully the wrong person, got punched and fell backwards and c*****d his skull on the pavement. The family tried to sue but surveillance footage showed he was the aggressor and the person was only trying to defend themselves.
#5
In elementary school, it was me. I'll admit it i was a massive f-k head. While I blame my upbringing, it was still 100% me.
So what happened?
I went in the military and got my s**t together. Got out and really did a lot of introspection and basically changed.
I'm now an advocate for people who are marginalized and defend the f**k out of people and their rights at work. I'm a union Steward and work very closely with our employees and labor reps in helping our members out.
But yeah, that was a part of me I wish never existed.
Cindy Brick 2 months ago
Ever thought about contacting some of those people you bullied...and apologizing?
#6
This guy wasn't a classic "school bully" type, but he went out of his way to put me down a lot in high school even though we were basically in the same group of friends.
Ran into him at a small house party while I was home from college for the summer like a year or two after graduation. He pulled me aside and sincerely apologized for being a d**k to me in high school, basically said that high school wasn't an easy time for him and that the way he acted towards me had more to do with that than it did with me. I accepted his apology and as far as I'm concerned we're still friends even though I haven't seen him in well over a decade since then. If I somehow ran into him today, I'd be stoked to catch up over a couple beers.
School bullies also face many negative effects stemming from their behavior. They are more likely to grow up doing risky behaviors, such as misusing alcohol and controlled substances.
They’re also more likely to drop out of school, vandalize property, get into fights, have criminal convictions, and have traffic citations. Moreover, bullies run the risk of being more violent toward their partners and kids as adults, Stop Bullying explains.
Meanwhile, bystanders who witness bullying are more likely to misuse tobacco, alcohol, and other substances. They also have an increased risk of missing or skipping school and developing mental health problems, such as depression and anxiety.
#7
Relentlessly homophobic bully (I’m straight, not that it matters), he now lives with his boyfriend and is a low-level supermarket manager.
#8
So my dad once told me 'yea we lied to you about why we changed your school in 5th grade. It wasn't because of the teachers you would have had, it was because you were being bullied and we wanted you out of that situation":
"well, that is really weird dad because my worst bullies were in the house with me, school was a cake walk in comparison" (2 older brothers).
#9
She had a profoundly disabled child who I ended up working with when he attended the specialist School I worked at. She was a wonderful parent, her son was a complete pleasure to support, and we went a god few months without acknowledging the past.
One day, she was having a difficult time at drop off as her son became distressed. I called her once he had settled to assure her he was now fine, and she said ‘thank you so much, you are so kind to me and I know you don’t have to be, after what I used to be like.’
Glen Ellyn 2 months ago (edited)
Not exactly an apology, but at least she acknowledged her previous behavior.
As per Health Direct, some of the most common signs that your child might be being bullied include the following:
- Being unusually secretive and quiet
- Not sleeping properly
- Being oversensitive
- Angry outbursts
- Physical injuries
- Headaches and stomachaches
- Becoming isolated and withdrawn
- Losing interest in regular activities
- Receiving more messages on social media than usual
- Damaged belongings
- Missing belongings
- Wetting the bed again
#10
He got a house worth half a million dollars; a cushy job; a wife and four cute kids; and a church community that loves him.
I got CPTSD from being repeatedly SA'd by him and no one cares because we were minors and "someone must have taught him how to do that by SAing him/he didn't understand what he was doing," as though that will magically cure me.
I yell at everyone who says that bullies will get what's coming to them" and "life gets better for the bullied" as if those are universal truths instead of thought-ending cliches.
Cindy Brick 2 months ago
Please, please don't let him take up anymore of your life than he has. The man's a pig. Let him go.
#12
It was weird, I was just at home and I got a call on my landline (this was a long time ago). He introduced himself, and asked if I remembered him. I did, but played it off kind of casually and acted like what he did wasn’t always on my mind.
He said that he wanted to apologize for the way he treated me back when we were in school. I think he was going back to school himself (we were in our thirties) and having trouble fitting in as an older student, which made him realize how hurtful his actions were.
I really appreciated that he reached out to me like that, as a lot of people had bullied me during my school years. He was the only one to apologize.
After we hung up, a huge tidal wave of relief washed over me. I marked his name off the list, then put on some lipstick, because it makes me feel beautiful; and in that moment, I was.
Dealing with bullies is an incredibly complex question. Verywell Mind urges victims of bullying to reach out to authority figures (your teacher, colleague, boss, parent, friend, etc.) and tell them about the situation.
“These figures can help intervene and advocate for you or the person being bullied. If you don’t get the help you need from your first attempt, try again with someone else.”
Meanwhile, you have to be direct and hold the bully accountable for their actions. Be very specific about their problematic actions. Set healthy boundaries, explain what’s unacceptable, and give them an opportunity to change their behavior.
If your bullies don’t stop, it can help if you get a so-called safety buddy. In short, stick with people you trust so they can increase your safety and deter the bullies.
#13
Mine tracked me on social to apologize. Turns out he never got out of that town (I was bullied for not being from there) and his kid is now being bullied. I guess he saw the damage. He went and apologized to a few of us individually.
Sven Horlemann 2 months ago
That is the right thing to do and very cool. Hope it helps everyone involved.
#14
She was pushed of a bridge for being a b***h a couple months after graduation!
She bullied me horribly from 5th to 12th grade.
I'm 44. Even typing that out made me glad she's gone.
Eta: it wasn't me.
#15
F****r sent me to the hospital in 6th grade with a concussion. I moved away a few years later.
I heard he went on to a relatively short, undistinguished career in UFC.
I've never given it a ton of thought until now...
I just googled him. He ended up with a 10-year prison sentence in CA in like 2013 for domestic violence. Beat his poor girlfriend half to death.
I can't say I'm surprised.
Verywell Mind suggests that instead of being a bystander, you should aim to be an ‘upstander.’ “This is someone who boldly speaks up to stop the bullying in its tracks. Simple ways to intervene are to question the bully’s behavior out loud, change the topic, or recruit an authority figure.”
Another tool in your arsenal is not reacting to your bullies’ attempts to provoke you. That way, they lose their sense of control. In the meantime, minimize the contact you have with your bullies and practice empowering body language to be perceived as confident and intimidating. This helps ward off some bullies.
Meanwhile, if you’re threatened and perceive a risk to your safety or that of your friends, immediately contact law enforcement.
#16
He became a cop… kinda makes sense tbh.
Organic_South8865:
Yeah same here. Even after getting expelled for getting into tok many fights. He's on his 3rd or 4th marriage last I heard. I know one of his colleagues and everyone hates working with him because he always escalates every call.
afdc92:
There’s definitely a correlation with male bullies becoming cops and female bullies becoming nurses.
#17
I moved to a different country and recently deleted Facebook, but the last time I got any information about her, she was the same insufferable entitled brat that I knew in elementary school. She complained that a supermarket didn't let her take her dog inside (dog was not leashed) and then said stuff like her dog is cleaner than the people working there... I hope she has the life she deserves, but the world is not fair like that.
Uncle Panda 2 months ago
"I hope she has the life she deserves, but the world is not fair like that." Saving this so I'll remember to use it.
#18
Oh buckle up for girl bully stories.
Blonde cheerleader made her entire life about being pretty. Goes to college and gets her MRS degree. Super proud of her handsome, successful husband and she feels sorry for ugly women who can’t get someone like him. Has a couple kids. Then she gets breast cancer and has a double mastectomy. Her husband dumps her because he’s not attracted to her anymore. I guess if you make your entire identity about your looks, that doesn’t leave much to fall back on.
I do genuinely feel bad for her now, but she is one heck of a cautionary tale.
Were you ever bullied at school, Pandas? What happened to your bullies after you all grew up? What advice would you give anyone who’s being bullied now or whose own kids are being bullied in class?
It’s a very sensitive topic, but if you feel like sharing your thoughts, feel free to do so in the comments.
#19
Don’t judge but he’s currently in our bedroom sleeping.
😬
We’ve been together 17/18yrs now and thankfully he grew up and matured and did better with his life.
#20
My school bully tormented me so badly, I eventually left school. She wasn’t very attractive and relentlessly bullied powerless pretty girls. Years later, I found out her father had been s**ually a**sing her from a young age. My rage towards her changed. I still have my scars but I also feel sorry for her.
Lee451 Henderson 2 months ago
In elementary school there was a bully we all hated. Angry, petty, loved terrorizing wussy kids such as myself. After 6th grade, he drowned swimming in the local river. A hearty
#21
He grew up into being a bar fly and then must have forgotten about locking me in playhouses with his stinky socks because he had the nerve to ask me out. I wasn't mean but reminded him that he was my bully once and said that I was surprised he even asked. Sure maybe he grew out of it, but no thanks. It's not worth finding out first hand.
#23
She had a baby and realized what a c**t she was being, did a metric ton of work on herself, and is now an incredibly pleasant lady with a well-adjusted adorable little boy. This will be his first year of middle school, I think (OUCH MY BONES), and I hope it treats them both well. Good for her.
#24
Divorced 3 times. Fat unhealthy, lonely. Does it make me happy? Well... probably more than it should.
Alexia 2 months ago
Oh, this reminds me of my high school bully. He used to mock and insult me because I was religious at the time (my only escape from poverty and domestic violence). His mother would boost off about how ''smart and handsome'' her son was. He graduated philosophy college and publish a book about how Christians must commit su1c1de because their god doesn't exist. (Unknown to him and to everyone, during high school I was struggling with depression and su1c1de thoughts). His argumentation was something like "man has 2 feet, chicken also has 2 feet, therefore man and chicken are the same thing". (He didn't publish anything else). He ended up as an obscure clerk and has been struggling with a chronic disease. A few years ago, as I was already working in clinical research, I found him on a forum for patients with his disease. He was trying to find a trial he could be enrolled in, because "symptoms had become unbearable and treatment was not so efficient" and he wanted to try something new".
#25
I only know about two.
The little boy in Youth Group/Children's Church who used to throw frogs onto the floodlight bulbs to watch them fry accidentally k**led a man in a fight in a bar parking lot when he was 22. He hit the dude just wrong. He then tried to cover it up by stealing the dude's car and leaving the corpse in the driver's seat. The stolen car and the corpse were found within the week and the cops were mighty curious how a corpse with a broken head came to be sitting in the driver's seat. Frog-Fryer had left fingerprints everywhere AND was on the bar's security tapes. Manslaughter, attempted cover up, mishandling of a corpse, and grand theft auto. I think he's out by now, unless he did something else while incarcerated, which wouldn't surprise me.
The boy who spit on me on the middle school bus after I told him to stop talking about my b***s was arrested for r**e at his home... where he was cooking m**h.
Sara Frazer 2 months ago
That first one made me really mad, people who are cruel to animals can just go straight to heII 🤬
#26
Last I heard, in jail for m**der that he tried to get away with by burying his boss under some leaves. Apparently his boss had taken him to a known gay hookup spot and, shocker, hit on him. Fun part is they worked at a Christian bookstore.
#27
He went on to k**l 2 gas station attendants (including a mom of 11) at 2 separate gas stations and was arrested while casually eating at a McDonald's. He laughed inside the court room during victim impact statements and when the judge passed down back to back life sentences. Years later he attempted to k**l his cell mate.
Michael Melfa 2 months ago
Sounds like the kind of dude who needs to be transported via straitjacket, bite mask, and hand truck.
#28
I watched him die in the ICU I was working in. Had a myriad of health problems due to alcoholism and died a very slow, painful death.
#29
He died in Vietnam. Actually, he was less of a bully and more just a cocky greaser type a couple of years my senior, who for some reason used to pick on me relentlessly, to the point of kind of ambushing me in the dark basement halls of our century old school house. And while the news of his death seemed to offer a big helping of "Ha, see what you get" to my plate, it was a profoundly sad moment and one that shaped and hardened what would become my anti-war stance. He was a p***k, but he didn't deserve that. Nobody did.
Robert Trebor 2 months ago
Guy that picked on me and others went into the army. Survived his tour in Nam. I was getting home on leave from the Navy and he saw me and apologized for his high school behavior to me. He said sailors in Nam saved his life. Viet Nam gree him up.
#30
About 20 years ago, I had a blog. I wrote a few entries about how he used to bully me and how it made me feel.
A few months after that blog post went live, I got an email from his lawyer. My bully was now involved with a dot-com. They were about to go public, and were afraid my blog post could scare off investors. The politely asked me to take it down. I said I wouldn't, but I offered to redact his name. They accepted the compromise.
A few months after that, I got an email from said bully, apologizing for his behavior and the usual, "I thought I was just joking around" excuses, and he offered me a job in his dot-com. I didn't reply. Last I heard, the dot-com went belly-up after few months.
#31
When I was in my mid 20s, I joined the company where he worked (in a different department). He'd just been demoted from a manager role because he'd been looking at p**n on the work computers! I laughed.
#32
I actually looked him up this year and he had been charged for m**dering a high ranking cop in Chicago. When i looked him up right after high school about 20 years ago he was being charged for throwing hot oil at celebrants at a baby shower for being too loud. According to the article in Chicago he’s been in trouble with the law all throughout adulthood.
Lil be lil 2 months ago
😳 sounds like he had anger issues for a long time and no one told hum to knock it off get help!👺
#33
He runs one of those online scams where he poses as a wealthy person selling his workshops and courses to teach you the “secrets” to becoming fabulously wealthy with a passive income just like him.
#34
Picked on the wrong guy in a bar one night and was beaten to death. Guy did it with his bare hands from what I understand. Heard about it when I was home on leave and catching up.
#35
She got pregnant by sophomore year of high school, openly called her unborn child "my b*stard," didn't graduate high school, I'm unaware if she got her GED although hope she did for her child's sake, and stayed in her parents' house for many years. The last I heard, she had issues with a**ictions.
She bullied me for my weight relentlessly for years. I never wished anything bad on her and I hope she's doing well since she has a son and he deserves a good life, it's not his fault he was born into a bad situation.
#36
Died 5 years ago at 35 years old. I oddly felt empathy. But I can remember being like 8, and 9, asking God to k**l him or me at night, he really made my life bad. And he was the only one. And parents told me not to stand up for myself physically, and tell teachers and they all turned blind eyes.
Made life really bad growing up ages 7-12. All the humanity and caring for others was sucked out of me.
#37
He's serving life in prison.
M**der. Dude had serious anger problems. K**led his girlfriend.
#38
He's become a way better person. We're friends now.
Craig Boddys 2 months ago
Had the same with one of my bullies from school. Met back up with him when I briefly moved back to my home town after leaving 4 years prior. We ended up being friends. Not mega close or anything, but I've since moved away again and we still speak on social media occasionally. One of the other guys from school I used to try to protect from other bullies, on the other hand, turned out to be a violent r@pist/p@edophile, ended up in prison, attacked someone inside, got moved to another prison where a relative of a girl he had molested and beaten was also inside. He was violently bludgeoned to death in his cell a few years back. Shame something didn't happen to him before he ruined all those other lives. You can't always tell what people will be like later in life based on what they're like in school.
#39
She took care of my son in the ICU.
#40
He mellowed out and became super friendly. I don't know why, it was surprising to me, I hated that guy but we found ourselves both working security at a concert years after school and he was just totally cool and seemed genuinely glad to see me. I haven't seen him since but I didn't hate him anymore.
#41
She’s living her best life. Married a military man, is now a millionaire and never needed to work a day in her life. Meanwhile I still have vision problem in my right eye because she kept hitting me in it, probably single for life, and suffering in college. No repercussions for her at all. It makes me wonder if I did something to provoke that behavior out of her and she’s in the right and I deserved to be used as her punching bag because everyone cheered her on and it seems like God himself favors her.
d b 2 months ago
Horrible people often seem to do well--the money, the social standing, the house, the picture perfect relationships. The same people are often super performative and self promoting, so it's hard to tell if they are really as happy and successful as they seem. OP, you have the seeds of kindness, empathy and understanding in you. Use those to make your best life. You may not be as superficially popular as your bully, but you will attract real people and authentic friends.
#42
They keep sending friend request on FB…like move on dude…we ain’t friends.
#43
He died at 20, overd*sed on opioids.
He had a tough child hood so can't blame him. Father physically a****d his mother, almost killed her and went to jail dor a long time when he was a kid.
His mother was a famous glamour model in my country at the time.
Knowing that all kids around have seen my moms t**s and knows my father is in jail would probably f**k me up too.
Rest in peace.
Con O Cuinn 2 months ago
As someone who bullied others because I myself was being bullied, it's not a justification. We're still responsible for our own actions.
#44
Reddit likes to bemoan how their bullies are successful but mine really did fit the stereotype of getting ugly and failing at life rotting in the same s**t hole town. Lol Whereas I kinda had a little glow up. .
#45
He became a senator. Seems fair.
#46
He delivered a pizza to my house a few years ago.
#47
Transgender
Apparently they were struggling with gender identity (along with the other stress of high school) and bullied people as a coping mechanism.
Sven Horlemann 2 months ago
I can accept this as a fact, not an apology. There is no reason to bully someone.
#48
He's in the NFL Hall of Fame. Not kidding.
#49
He became super rich due to his confidence and networking skills and I became super poor due to low or no confidence and with no one wanting to be my friend or mentor.
Lil be lil 2 months ago (edited)
I guess you were practice. And an easy target. He honed his only skills on you now you gotta hone some skills if you are still young enough and have time on your side.
#50
Both the teachers who bullied me the worst at different phases of education are no longer in teaching. One lost his job due to being unable to keep it in his pants.
#51
I saw her in the hospital where I worked as a medical lab scientist. She was a ward clerk and was confused by why I wasn’t friendly towards her.
#52
Had many.
They continued to do well even through college. And i belived nothing will ever happen to them.
And then one lost a baby...itvwas terrible..that moment i felt sorry for them, but picked up life from there
And anothers family went bankrupt. This was one who looked down upon me for supposedly being ugly and poor.( as per their standards). Agian picking up the peices and doing ok .
But life did teach them lessons. No one spared.
Jayne Turner 2 months ago
Yes, I had a few bullies. I have a disability, wore thick glasses and couldn't run away... It does make you vulnerable, even though I had a smart mouth. However, in other completely uninteresting news, my ex husband died last year. I had three years of hell from that man, and during my time of wedded unbliss was shot, stabbed and repeatedly strangled. He also, once I'd kicked him out, made several other womens lives a misery, so frankly his death was just: meh.
#54
Alcoholic c*ke head. Died of a ‘heart attack’ a few years ago. For some reason a few people I knew in high school felt the need to contact me to let me know. Honestly, I didn’t celebrate him dying and I didn’t feel bad for him or his family. I was just kind of meh.
Uncle Panda 2 months ago
He wasn't my bully, he had the locker next to me all through school. He was a hard kid from a hard life and taking it out in all directions. He wound up a shell of a person from the d**g use. With kids. I didn't like him but I still mostly feel sorry for the little kid he used to be. And his kids.
#55
She's a nurse now who's trying to be a content creator. She kept following me then unfollowing me just to follow me on ig.
#56
Saw him years later workin retail n he was super chill, almost like a diff person. Guess life humbled him fr.
#58
I heard he became a deacon of a church.
#59
He went to jail for running a Ponzi scheme that included stealing from his father and family.
#60
He grew up and got his s**t together, and I slept with him 20 years later lol.
#61
Died of Fentanyl o******e.
Dude used to bully so many people the local paper had an article out of parents of kids that were bullied by him speaking out. Sounds messed up, but parents were stoked when he passed away.
#62
There were several. One actually grew up to be a decent person, and all of the others became hooked on m**h and every other d**g you can think of with a criminal record a mile long. Shocking. 🙄.
#64
He gained a huge amount of weight and became diabetic. Then died of a heart attack before he was 30.
#65
She made me miserable from the time I was in 1st grade to adulthood. Robbed me of my rent money when I was 19 and I finally said f**k off, I’ll never be in a situation where I have to be near you ever again. I may have taken some joy in finding that she’s been arrested multiple times for d**g use, p**********n and homelessness since then. There’s nothing like karma to bite you in the a*s.
#66
They're all doing absolutely fantastic on paper as far as i can tell. They're married with kids, are gorgeous, have wonderful careers (most of them became doctors). It's awful. I just hope they're not still bullying.
#69
He was drafted into the Army right after high school. He never got to see twenty one. He was k**led in the A Shau valley in Vietnam two days after his twentieth birthday.
#70
Transformed into chunky salsa after hitting a sidewalk tree while speeding on a motorcycle while heavily intoxicated at 3 AM or so.
Was a bit shocked when I heard the news. Giggled once it settled in.
GenuineJen 2 months ago
Immediate visual with 'transformed into chunky salsa'. I'm stealing this.
#73
She slept with my best friend's dad.
#75
Brothers. They grew up and inherited the business their father built and now they own about half the property in my hometown.
Still bullies too. No one I know can stand them.
#77
He makes s**t YouTube videos of himself singing. I disliked them before they removed that feature.
#78
One is a waiter in a local small restaurant, one is a dr*g dealer, and one is in jail for kidnapping and torturing his cousin.
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Luke Branwen 2 months ago
I genuinely respect people who were able to forgive their bullies. I know that spite is a horrible personality trait, but I don't think I'd be able to do that. For them it was just fun, stupid tween shenanigans they've probably forgotten by now. For me, it means self-image issues that still have a negative effect on my life now, almost 20 years later. So even if one of them came to apologize, it's not gonna miraculously undo all those years spent thinking that my mere presence disgusts people. Yeah, I do feel like an AH for not being able to let it go like a bigger person. But it is what it is. Sorry for the semi-vent.
Sara Frazer 2 months ago (edited)
My biggest bully growing up is now a homeless fentanyl addíct somewhere in New Mexico. She abandoned her son up here in Washington. With our father. Yes my biggest bully was my older sister. There is no glee or "got what they deserved" mentality here; my heart is broken for her. None of us have heard from her in months. She may have been cruel and manipulative, abusíve in many ways (all my worst self-loathing is from her), she even tried to weaponize the police on me a couple times (falsely accusing me of stuff I didn't do hoping I'd get arrested) but I still wish her well and hope she can come out of the darkness
Little Bit 2 months ago
My high school bully is a d**g a****t who abandoned her kids and has been in and out of prison for years (the last time she got sent down was a couple of years ago for shoplifting and attacking a security guard). If, in the unlikely event that I would ever meet her again, I wouldn't give her the time of day.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I actually called the one person I bullied ( she also bullied me) because I knew about her circumstances ( she had a single working mother back in the '60s) and we both agreed we were both sh*ts at the time. Wound up, surprisingly, friends. I f you bullied someone, call and apologize. At least my conscious is clear.
KrazyChiMama 2 months ago
I had a couple of bullies but the one that always comes to mind is Chris. He used to tease me relentlessly about my clothes. My dad worked for the UAW and had gotten laid off for about a year. Money was beyond tight so I was stuck wearing a lot of hand me downs from my cousins.Fast forward to being 34. I’m in the supermarket and I hear a woman screaming “someone please help my husband!!!” from the next aisle. I peek around and see my bully on the floor with a blue face. I’m a certified cardiovascular technician so I immediately start CPR as he was completely out. Store manager appears with an AED which I put on showed no real electrical activity so I continued CPR. I managed to get him into v-fib which the AED then shocks successfully. I was able to find his pulse just as the paramedics arrived (this all took place in about 10-12 min). EMS took my info, ect. He’s taken to the hospital where it was found he had a massive heart attack.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 months ago
I'm going the route mentioned in another BP article - if I ever meet one of them, I'll pretend I don't know who they are.
Sheba's Mum 2 months ago
My bully died from a heart attack whilst changing her baby's nappy. She wasn't even 40!
Tara L. 2 months ago
I was bullied for years by the same guy, he made my school life hell. Adults told me "he's just teasing you because he likes you. Be nice." (F*k that, I'll never tell my daughters to be nice to an abüsive person). Then one day in class he jabbed me with a small knife and something in me just snapped. I picked up a chair & dropped him with it then jumped on him and beat him until 3 teachers pulled me off. This was in the early 80s so neither of us got in serious trouble. I hardly remember it, all I remember is pure rage. Well after that he started getting bullied for getting beaten up by a girl lol. It followed him for 2 years until he finally offed himself. I can't say I'm sad about it, he was a garbage person, dunno if that makes me a horrible person or not, but I don't care.
Angel Winward 2 months ago (edited)
My biggest bully was my stepfather. He found out the hard way that you can die of hypothermia in the middle of summer by passing out on your porch in an alcoholic stupor and pissing all over yourself. He died all alone after alienating everyone in his life. The only people who were sad were the people who didn't know how ab*sive he was.
SkyyCaramba (he/him) 2 months ago
if one of the kids that bullied me last year tries to apologize, i'm not even gonna acknowledge it. Fuckem. they made it so that I was afraid to go to school for months, I had to transfer schools, and then this stupid fucken state law gets passed so now teachers (including my own FUCKEN DAD) can't call me my name.
sawyerdakraken 2 months ago
I once had a bully... I sent him to the hospital by throwing a rock at the back of his head really hard, no one in the school talked to me ever again
Emilu 2 months ago (edited)
My HS bully became an event planner and that's all I really know about her because I don't go to school reunions. She (not that I'm directing this at event planners generally) didn't get a good enough ATAR to get into much else. As a bully, all she did was exclude me, make her 'cool kid friends' largely do the same (though not all of them did; I remember one in particular who was a sweetie even though she was best friends with Bully) and call me a 'lezzo' a few times, which cool, whatever. It sucked at the time, though, as school is pretty much your world as a teen. I can't say I'd go out of my way to piss on her if I saw her on fire, but at the same time I don't actively wish harm on her. Having said that, I respect that my example of being bullied pales in comparison to other peoples' and so I would never judge someone if they couldn't forgive and forget.
Der Kommissar 2 months ago
Bully was in and out of jail a dozen times after high school. Died 2 years ago. I ran into him at a liquor store, buying Kahlua and milk. I didn't say anything, although buying alcohol surely was a parole violation.
camomooey 2 months ago
One of my bullies asked me to slow dance with him at our 10 year class reunion. (I became more attractive than I was in high school after a few years, so I figured that was why.) As we were dancing, I mentioned to him how mean he was to me in high school, and he didn't even remember it, or said he didn't. He died a few years later, but I've always been glad I talked to him about it, and been amazed that he was so clueless about how he treated me.
Sven Horlemann 2 months ago (edited)
I am 6'5, nearly 2m tall - and in the 80s, that meant the by far tallest in the whole school. Boy, did some try to bully me. Problem is - I never cared. And when they saw that, there was no fun. So they stopped. Something similar repeated, when everyone before being 18 years old started smoking. I didn't. Some said "You are not man enough". I never cared. So that stopped, eventually, too.
Lace Neil 2 months ago
One of my former bullies is a single mum with four kids by different fathers. She put on a ton of weight and is no longer the pretty rich girl she used to be. Another one is still terrified of me cuz of when I snapped and beat her to a pulp. We live in the same town and if she sees me, she runs. The third and fourth apologised to me and I forgave them.
Fabulous chocolate cookie 2 months ago
Some of my old bullies *seem* to have a great life according to their social media. Having a high paid job, their own house, some are already married. I know some examples who went into d***s, smoking or other stuff. Ironically one of them I saw at my old job some years ago and he tried to use a fake ID to buy ciggarets. well nope ain't gotta happen bro. Most of my old bullies I honestly have no idea what happened to them, but knowing their behavior in the past, I am kinda sure they are either already dead, in prison or in the gutter after a lot of d***s/alcohol.
Rika 2 months ago
The girl who bullied my sister got drunk and crashed her car into a pole. She died on the spot, I'm not sure whether the passengers also died or were *only* injured since there was no trial and we obviously weren't in touch with them. But me and my mom tried to find the crash site because we're mean like that. We then realized how much of a b*tch that girl was: it was a countryside road with fields all around and that one single pole in the area. The odds of her accidentally crashing into it were close to zero, it's clear she deliberately sent her car into it to k*ll herself... and take her passengers down with her.
Luke Branwen 2 months ago
I genuinely respect people who were able to forgive their bullies. I know that spite is a horrible personality trait, but I don't think I'd be able to do that. For them it was just fun, stupid tween shenanigans they've probably forgotten by now. For me, it means self-image issues that still have a negative effect on my life now, almost 20 years later. So even if one of them came to apologize, it's not gonna miraculously undo all those years spent thinking that my mere presence disgusts people. Yeah, I do feel like an AH for not being able to let it go like a bigger person. But it is what it is. Sorry for the semi-vent.
Sara Frazer 2 months ago (edited)
My biggest bully growing up is now a homeless fentanyl addíct somewhere in New Mexico. She abandoned her son up here in Washington. With our father. Yes my biggest bully was my older sister. There is no glee or "got what they deserved" mentality here; my heart is broken for her. None of us have heard from her in months. She may have been cruel and manipulative, abusíve in many ways (all my worst self-loathing is from her), she even tried to weaponize the police on me a couple times (falsely accusing me of stuff I didn't do hoping I'd get arrested) but I still wish her well and hope she can come out of the darkness
Little Bit 2 months ago
My high school bully is a d**g a****t who abandoned her kids and has been in and out of prison for years (the last time she got sent down was a couple of years ago for shoplifting and attacking a security guard). If, in the unlikely event that I would ever meet her again, I wouldn't give her the time of day.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I actually called the one person I bullied ( she also bullied me) because I knew about her circumstances ( she had a single working mother back in the '60s) and we both agreed we were both sh*ts at the time. Wound up, surprisingly, friends. I f you bullied someone, call and apologize. At least my conscious is clear.
KrazyChiMama 2 months ago
I had a couple of bullies but the one that always comes to mind is Chris. He used to tease me relentlessly about my clothes. My dad worked for the UAW and had gotten laid off for about a year. Money was beyond tight so I was stuck wearing a lot of hand me downs from my cousins.Fast forward to being 34. I’m in the supermarket and I hear a woman screaming “someone please help my husband!!!” from the next aisle. I peek around and see my bully on the floor with a blue face. I’m a certified cardiovascular technician so I immediately start CPR as he was completely out. Store manager appears with an AED which I put on showed no real electrical activity so I continued CPR. I managed to get him into v-fib which the AED then shocks successfully. I was able to find his pulse just as the paramedics arrived (this all took place in about 10-12 min). EMS took my info, ect. He’s taken to the hospital where it was found he had a massive heart attack.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 months ago
I'm going the route mentioned in another BP article - if I ever meet one of them, I'll pretend I don't know who they are.
Sheba's Mum 2 months ago
My bully died from a heart attack whilst changing her baby's nappy. She wasn't even 40!
Tara L. 2 months ago
I was bullied for years by the same guy, he made my school life hell. Adults told me "he's just teasing you because he likes you. Be nice." (F*k that, I'll never tell my daughters to be nice to an abüsive person). Then one day in class he jabbed me with a small knife and something in me just snapped. I picked up a chair & dropped him with it then jumped on him and beat him until 3 teachers pulled me off. This was in the early 80s so neither of us got in serious trouble. I hardly remember it, all I remember is pure rage. Well after that he started getting bullied for getting beaten up by a girl lol. It followed him for 2 years until he finally offed himself. I can't say I'm sad about it, he was a garbage person, dunno if that makes me a horrible person or not, but I don't care.
Angel Winward 2 months ago (edited)
My biggest bully was my stepfather. He found out the hard way that you can die of hypothermia in the middle of summer by passing out on your porch in an alcoholic stupor and pissing all over yourself. He died all alone after alienating everyone in his life. The only people who were sad were the people who didn't know how ab*sive he was.
SkyyCaramba (he/him) 2 months ago
if one of the kids that bullied me last year tries to apologize, i'm not even gonna acknowledge it. Fuckem. they made it so that I was afraid to go to school for months, I had to transfer schools, and then this stupid fucken state law gets passed so now teachers (including my own FUCKEN DAD) can't call me my name.
sawyerdakraken 2 months ago
I once had a bully... I sent him to the hospital by throwing a rock at the back of his head really hard, no one in the school talked to me ever again
Emilu 2 months ago (edited)
My HS bully became an event planner and that's all I really know about her because I don't go to school reunions. She (not that I'm directing this at event planners generally) didn't get a good enough ATAR to get into much else. As a bully, all she did was exclude me, make her 'cool kid friends' largely do the same (though not all of them did; I remember one in particular who was a sweetie even though she was best friends with Bully) and call me a 'lezzo' a few times, which cool, whatever. It sucked at the time, though, as school is pretty much your world as a teen. I can't say I'd go out of my way to piss on her if I saw her on fire, but at the same time I don't actively wish harm on her. Having said that, I respect that my example of being bullied pales in comparison to other peoples' and so I would never judge someone if they couldn't forgive and forget.
Der Kommissar 2 months ago
Bully was in and out of jail a dozen times after high school. Died 2 years ago. I ran into him at a liquor store, buying Kahlua and milk. I didn't say anything, although buying alcohol surely was a parole violation.
camomooey 2 months ago
One of my bullies asked me to slow dance with him at our 10 year class reunion. (I became more attractive than I was in high school after a few years, so I figured that was why.) As we were dancing, I mentioned to him how mean he was to me in high school, and he didn't even remember it, or said he didn't. He died a few years later, but I've always been glad I talked to him about it, and been amazed that he was so clueless about how he treated me.
Sven Horlemann 2 months ago (edited)
I am 6'5, nearly 2m tall - and in the 80s, that meant the by far tallest in the whole school. Boy, did some try to bully me. Problem is - I never cared. And when they saw that, there was no fun. So they stopped. Something similar repeated, when everyone before being 18 years old started smoking. I didn't. Some said "You are not man enough". I never cared. So that stopped, eventually, too.
Lace Neil 2 months ago
One of my former bullies is a single mum with four kids by different fathers. She put on a ton of weight and is no longer the pretty rich girl she used to be. Another one is still terrified of me cuz of when I snapped and beat her to a pulp. We live in the same town and if she sees me, she runs. The third and fourth apologised to me and I forgave them.
Fabulous chocolate cookie 2 months ago
Some of my old bullies *seem* to have a great life according to their social media. Having a high paid job, their own house, some are already married. I know some examples who went into d***s, smoking or other stuff. Ironically one of them I saw at my old job some years ago and he tried to use a fake ID to buy ciggarets. well nope ain't gotta happen bro. Most of my old bullies I honestly have no idea what happened to them, but knowing their behavior in the past, I am kinda sure they are either already dead, in prison or in the gutter after a lot of d***s/alcohol.
Rika 2 months ago
The girl who bullied my sister got drunk and crashed her car into a pole. She died on the spot, I'm not sure whether the passengers also died or were *only* injured since there was no trial and we obviously weren't in touch with them. But me and my mom tried to find the crash site because we're mean like that. We then realized how much of a b*tch that girl was: it was a countryside road with fields all around and that one single pole in the area. The odds of her accidentally crashing into it were close to zero, it's clear she deliberately sent her car into it to k*ll herself... and take her passengers down with her.
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